not me starting to scroll on fb right when he said he was probably starting to lose the 7s because we have heard all we want to hear, this man is CALLING ME OUT! hahahaha
Learning skills quickly, without great dedication, does not give me a low sense of self worth. How cool is it that I don’t have to dedicate that much of my life to achieve things 😃
Hahaha I am a 7w8, currently 6 weeks into my time here in Brazil!! Legit I told my husband just yesterday that if spirit countries were a thing, Brazil is mine! Crazy then I come across this video. Love the growth advice, I defs need to practice stillness & patience this year esp after 6 months of South America (it's going to be hard but I have got some fun things lined up lol). Thanks for this!
Aw, you're so kind to the 7w6! Yes, even as a kid I remember having this terrible pull between wanting to go do something new and travel the world but also wanting to stay with my friends and family.
That sounds like the 7s movement of disintegration to type 1 - which is their typical unhealthy coping reaction. 1s are controlling and constantly fixate on improving their surroundings. The healthiest reaction for 7s is gratitude and stillness. 7s are incredibly perceptive and creative - so if they can sit still long enough to see a deeper reality, they may realize even the most seemingly mundane situations can still be “Disney world.” It’s definitely a life long challenge though!
7 sounds like the middle child lol Btw i'm infp type 7. I was skeptical about the infp but then i learned about infp type 7, i swear i laugh how it basically describes my whole being! The cheery on top is when the speaker said that maybe the mother didn't breastfeed them long enough... My mother always told me that i grew up drinking goat milk😂 You learn new things everyday haha
I loved the advice. Tough to swallow like a dose of arsenic, but hey, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger! Little by little, you become immune to arsenic... Likewise to impatience and frustration tolerance, right?
Glad it was helpful! But I’m pretty sure arsenic is lethal? Haha. Hopefully the hard truths have a way of making us both stronger & softer at the same time as we become so accepting of our true self that we can endure all the critiques of our false self (ego). If that’s how arsenic works - then yes! ;)
I’m a 1, but learning about the 7 has been super cool. I definitely think that I was a 7 growing up…I miss those days. No one knows how to have fun like a 7!
I find you have an amazingly good grasp. I have grown children type 2, 8 and 7. I am a 5. Daughter in law that is a 9. Siblings fill in the 3, 4 and 6. For us to get along requires this knowledge. Thanks very much.
You got me when you said, “they heard all they wanted to hear” which were the words running through my mind, so my curiosity was piqued and I continued listening haha. Good job ❤😃
One thing i appreciate about this system is its lack of adherence to typical introvert/extrovert tendencies. In the past i would have labeled myself as a 7 just due to the natural extroverted vibes i give off, but learning about this more now i am very clearly a 9w1
Love it! I too am a fan of this aspect of the enneagram. If you want to keep going on that train, check out my videos on the Hornevian Triad which is the enneagrams system of social behaviors. ru-vid.comNVPmxtyh5v8
i typed as 9w1 because of how introverted i am, but the farther i went on with studying enneagram, i realized i'm a social 7w6 its really funny how those two types can get mixed up to me! seeing how opposite they seem at first
So good and SO SPOT ON! I study the enneagram a ton and this was so helpful! I laughed out loud when I shouted out “Brasil” before you said my spirit country. I’ve never been there but I always say I think I was born there in another life. THANK you for your videos-I always learn something.
I literally stopped watching the video as he said this is where I’ll lose most type sevens because they’ve heard all they need to hear. I came back to write this, because it was so perfect.
thanks so much for these videos! i always thought as a 7w6 I wasn't a true enthusiastic 7 compared to my 7w8 friends, and my tendency to feel like a 5. so glad for these insights I've learnt so much
This channel is very underrated for how informative it is. I tested 7 and I am most likely a 7w6. I haven't been too sure due to mental health problems but regardless without the stress, I relate to 7w6 the most! Really well done!
Love it! Thanks for the insight, it resonates so much. I’m 7w6, wondering if throughout a persons life, their wing may change to the other (where the other wing becomes stronger?)
My results go back and forth between a 7 and a 3. Am I both?! What does this mean?! Also, wow. This video just described my entire life (and my struggles...). THANK YOU. This was DEEPLY informative and insightful. I have some direction now on what I need to do to take on my personal challenges..
I loved this Video. I am big on personal dev. High energy fun and Hard time Settling down and getting still but I definitely have worked on it I was laughing this is me to a tee. Can't wait to listen to more I love learning and I'm always curious. I'm finally off work for a week And really practicing gratitude and getting still
I am so glad I watched this. I learned more from this video than I have from all the books I’ve read. I listen to the numbers of my husband and my sister to learn more about them as well. Instant follow.
This was SO helpful and amazing. I ended up taking notes. As a 7, I've been in a long term relationship but struggled with his pace (he's a 9). This info helped bring clarity to achieve my best self! Thank you, thank you, thank you!
I loved hearing your assessment of the 7. I will say there is some discrepancies between the type 7 female and the type 7 male. I'd love to hear you explore that more in another video. As a type 7 identifying female, I would find that really fascinating. Great work!
I love this...Definitely a 7 wing 6 here! I definitely see how I vacillate between Instincts. Mainly a Social 7, but I have Self-Preservation 7 tendencies. OMG - You read me to a tee. The other 7s are cracking me up...yes, we're all in denial!
I know this is not how its supposed to work but I just relate so much with both wings that I have decided I am both. Was about to disagree re: the healthy traits of 5 but if I am being super for real right now I probably have never been a healthy 7. Super relate to the negative traits of a 1 though, that sort of freaked me out a bit.
I don't think everyone has a super strong wing, and I see it more like a sliding scale where some people can be sort of "ambidextrous" especially if they're younger. Usually time and age seem to bring about a stronger wing. Best wishes on the journey of personal health! At least you're openminded & willing to be self-critical. That's a big check in the "healthy" column.
New to enneagram, im definitely a 7, imo 7s are the most versatile type as because only have they found pleasure in a variety of experience, upon stress they have the ability to revert to a state with a convenient defense mechanism e.g. using their accomplishments as a representation of themselves (3) to distract them from the lack of fulfillment in entrepreneurial success or maybe a willingness to invest themselves into an idealistic society, neglecting rationale to fuel a misplaced sense of entitlement and deservingness repressing the sense of uncertainty in life by mutual agreement (possible but unlikely) (9). point is as much as i think the enneagram might be a great tool to understand oneself (again, i dont know much about it other than your video on lord of the rings ennegram and this one) it seems inaccurate to model people by primary fear, motives, desires and infer the rest as many of those might be contradictory, maybe the other motives say arent as prominent but they might turn out affect the person, i mean thats kinda seems to me very similar to complexes (is that even a word?). slippery slope argument or special pleading if you will, but given the complexity and quantity of such alternatives, doesnt seem unlikely... also kinda odd that i thougth the ennegram was a very Christian thing, now that i understand it, i dont get how some of the more ridgid practitioners can believe in it as doesnt knowing oneself and our desires allow people to be more selfish? it can go both ways obviously, but once theres a disconnect from the through line of mutual motives that connects society or at least incentivizes the rules in place for it people would naturally deviate from it? thats always a problem of rationalizing emotions, not a Christian though, athiest agnostic ig (although atheism is more of a default state, other words lack of belief isnt a belief unless ofcourse the way we make sense of reality is presumed to be un'real' but thatd go against the premise of it. otherwise i relate to everything you said in this video, im very 7, almost so in an unhealthy way, or ig more like an unhealthy 7 melting into the worst of 1s.
This is very informative, detailed, sequential, love your voice too! after listening the complete guide for 7 and 6 since I'm the most confused between both of them, pretty certain that I'm a 6 with a strong 7 wing😆maybe often mistaken as 7 cause I'm a sanguine, outgoing person who loves having fun and trying out new things. But I do that after I get all the job and obligations done so I don't need to think of work at that moment 😂
Nice interpretation, and a true 7 is pretty shallow and insecure, but boy do we cover it well! Plus if a positive spin can be put on a situation, we're your peeps! Now if you want to have a long drawn out conversation about feelings, emotions, motivations....yeah I'm already bored and have gone dancing!💃
Lol makes sense, and covers some of what I describe in the 7s relationship video as well! ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-1XRsV9Oq5JE.html
I had the most amazing relationship with the most amazing guy ever. I kinda lost sight of myself and ended up disconnecting with my emotions and lost us. He never said it was the end but he encouraged that I do all the things i want and grow as an individual. Now that im putting more effort into researching our typology stuff i realized we were both just not out of our shell. I was typed as 3w2 for my ambition and desire to change the world for better aka helping. I was convinced it was what i was but now that im switched to 7w6 i really see all of your points, so so clearly. I feel like 3w2 was just me being unhealthy but now Ive come to be more patient with people and ACTUALLY give and appreciate all the wonders in life as it is, not just dream about having things i dont have yet. Amazing video thank you
@@YouveGotaType my bad, didn't see this! You deserve way more visits and subscribers. Whenever your videos get spanish subtitles I'll be there to share them in between my spanish friends hahah Have a good day!
@@ElMenaXY you can actually turn on Spanish auto-generated subtitles as well! Ironically, I minored in Spanish and studied abroad in Spain but am SO rusty that I doubt I could translate these videos myself. Maybe some day I’ll be able to afford a translator 🙌
@@YouveGotaType my man, if you have the script of the videos, using DeepL to translate the text is the best, is the only translator I use myself, and if you want me to have a look on the spanish text after, I'll gladly check it out! (PS: thanks for the tip! I've learned more with you about auto-generated subtitles on yt than about enneagrams, if possible hahaha)
Thought I was a 4 and friends told me that’s surprising because I’m so “sunshiny”… Now realizing how much more I identify with 7. The sexual 7w6 was pretty spot on.
@@YouveGotaType I mistook my love for intensity as fear of the ordinary! Plus enjoying intense emotions for being ok with delving deep. I didn’t realize it was always on my own terms! Super interesting stuff and your videos are AWESOME for delving into this
There's something to 7 and 4 mistypes! I swore I was a 4 until I realized after years and years of enneagram study, life, self work, denial, suffering, etc that Im a type 7 like my friends were trying to explain to me. I think it's hard for a type 7 to tolerate the false notions that we don't experience pain, care about feelings, and have depth because we do all of those things! Even other type 7s I know are some of the deepest, most caring and considerate people I know. Even if they don't want to flaunt their pain. I think there's also a misconception that only 4s feel deep pain 😅 Thoughts?
It's pretty incredible 🤣🤣🤣 I don't agree with everything on 7s, or, rather, I don't see all of myself in what was said, but maaaaaaan, this is 90%+ me and it's awesome! 🤣🤣🤣
Everything you said wasn't wrong about me, but I feel like I am not as outgoing as other 7s. I'm definitely out going when I am around a large group of people, but I also tend to keep a distance in my relationships with people. I think I'm a sxsosp7. The childhood thing was spot on. I was the background child and didn't really get my needs met. I do believe I am a 7, but I'm a little unsure with the explanation in this video. I thought I was a 9 a while ago, but that wasn't 100% accurate for me.
I find this so odd bc I took it twice, I scored 7 and then a 5… but both are opposite, yet both are the highest bars in my chart? Almost the same length. I relate to being hungry for knowledge, always positive, very extroverted, I love to be out with friends but HATE being the main focus and like to just flow in and out of conversations, but I often forget about my own needs/health to focus on helping others or my work. I love being out and about, but in balance with being at home and studying/learning being alone. I never feel lonely and love my space, but I also enjoy being around people. I don’t really care about material things and don’t over eat or over use any substances, but I love new experiences and I’ll have a drink every so often. I’m always trying to view new perspectives, taking into account all the reasons someone feels as they do and why, trying to always see why someone feels as they do. I find the mind and how we deal with things extremely interesting, I have always had a love for studies on behavior/mental health. I let a lot go bc it isn’t worth using energy on things that benefit no one. I’m very good at grounding and taking times to be present and love to work with tinkering/building/doing art.. how am I both? Has anyone else landed a 7 and 5 or have them very close, even perhaps feel the same as I do?
Btw you just described many of the Type 6 characteristics :) Which would make sense why you'd resonate with their wings, feel paradoxically social + introspective, and why you wouldn't actually test as a 6 because they have the hardest time with taking personality assessments accurately because they have so many contradictory traits.
How would a sexual 7w8 look? The subtype is a dreamer, the wing type is the realist. Do they cancel each other out, like a realistic dreamer, or a dreaming realist?
I'm not sure where you're getting the "dreamer" label from. But a sexual instinct in a 7w8 would actually reinforce the existing traits, not counteract them. An 8 wing adds more energy, emphasis on autonomy, sensuality, and drive to the 7. A sexual instinct merely focuses that intense energy into one-on-one connections and relational intrigue over relational commitment.
I ended up doing a short work out whilst listening, so I didn’t have to sit still for 24 minutes. I’m now listening to someone who knows me better than I know myself.
7w8 act a lot like type 3... What are their differences? And what are the differences between a 7w6 and a social 7w8? I am trying to learn more about sevens 😁
Every type has influence from both wings, and it's like a spectrum that people slide left or right on. Some folks are pretty split right down the middle, while others have a HEAVY influence from one dominant wing. Hope that helps!
Hi! I love your videos. Very I insightful and well researched. I typed myself as a 7 because I identified with their cores but I am also quite introverted, in that too much social interaction drains me completely. Also, I am very interested in figuring myself out, if that can be called introspective. Can a type 7 be like that? I have tried on all the ennea types but none of their cores suit me like a 7.
Always interesting to hear about introverted folks resonating with type 7. Can I ask what specifically resonates with you about the 7 as opposed to the 9 or the 6? Introverted 9s and 6w7 mistype as 7s the most because they're fun loving, light-hearted, adventurous, etc. Glad you're enjoying the videos!
@@YouveGotaType Thank you so much for your kind reply and showing interest in my question. The reason I identified with type 7 was because I hate actual or notional confinement. I have left jobs and relationships when they became too restrictive for me. I have taken risks and my life is fringe rather than mainstream, but at least I own my time. Also, I hate to live an ordinary life (sorry if it sounds narcissistic), not because I am entitled to it but because life is precious and our time is finite and when it is up I don't want to realise that I spent it without doing anything meaningful or outrageous. Does it point to any type? 4 resonated a little but they sounded more sorrowful than I feel. I feel alright most of the time 😅
@@Dancindevotion Thanks for the reply! I considered 9 for a long time but decided I am angrier than a 9 if that makes sense? Like I have no problem going into conflict with people if I feel they are being disrespectful or crossing my boundaries. Should I look at 8?
Hmmm Italy has been noted as a Type 2 country with all the loving hospitality of the many matriarchal families (think strong "hosting" vibes). But love the conversation!
@@YouveGotaType I can totally see the 2 with Italy as well. I just took a trip there this summer, and they definitely have a very pleasure seeking, embrace of pleasure type culture as well. I met a few men there and their motto was “you must be happy” 😂 And it’s like A CRIME if you aren’t eating your food lol
I find that people who only comment on the fictional characters I mention at the very end are people only interested in stereotypical personality labels they can debate in chat rooms, rather than the real work of personal growth.
@@YouveGotaTypeIt’s super interesting to get such a critical answer to such a trivial comment. You are quite wrong, though, as I have a PHD in Philosophy, a master in Psychology and English and a bachelor in German from the University of Heidelberg and I have studied the Enneagram in depth for several years now. This comment was no more than a quick, fun association, as I am a seven.. I also wanted to support your channel by commenting something. I absolutely detest online debate (for obvious reasons), so don’t be surprised to have your answer ignored. As of now, you were the one that jumped to quick conclusions, btw., but if that is your association and your experience, then that’s your reality and who am I to tell you otherwise?
@@YouveGotaType (I commented because I noticed how you were able to synthesize and combine the information from several theories, books and authors in a concise and helpful way. I liked that. Don't be offended by trivial comments, as they help your channel anyway and people like me don't usually take the time to say anything at all. Don't jump to conclusions but rather trust that whoever is here watching your content is actually interested and appreciates the work you do.)
@@philosocat8295 It's fascinating that someone with so many degrees left a comment so similar to the 14-18 year old boys that find my videos. To help clarify, when someone like me crafts content so carefully and exhaustingly, you hope for serious comments about the real theories & lifestyle applications of the content. So when someone's comment is "After watching 20 minutes of this systematic enneagram breakdown, I disagree with that avengers part" you can guess how that comes across (trivial, as you said yourself). Think of it like a performer stepping off stage after 3 hour play and they ask you how you felt about the experience, and you go "Man the concession stand here sucks." I'm well aware of the positive impact comments can have on a channel - which is why I respond to almost all of them (take a scan through my comment sections). I'm also not seething with anger about this - I just gave you a cutting response to a silly comment. Could I have just left it alone? Absolutely! Hopefully we both learned something from this interaction, as I will now assume stand alone comments about the Avenger's enneagram type are either from teenage boys or PhDs! Lol what a world.
@YouveGotaType lol , I completely understand.. I just thought I liked your content and decided to feed the algorithm without giving it much further thought. I did not expect you to read the comment nor was it supposed to reflect the quality of your content. Cudos to your bravery of confronting me, though, a reformer you are indeed..
