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That proposal is ruined for those people, that's very sad. Congratulations to them regardless, hope they have a wonderful, private, uninterrupted wedding.
@Kindred_37 It was supposed to be a private moment that was for their happiness and their joy only, and some stranger had to video their private moment for strangers to pick apart and have an opinion on. It wasn't their right to do that, thus that's how it got ruined.
It would have been nice if she just took the video and asked them if they wanted it for themselves and not to post it herself. That would have been lovely and they would have been happy. This was more about her getting a viral moment
This couple chose to record their engagement with a photo booth, but it doesn’t mean they wanted a video and it certainly doesn’t mean they wanted it blasted all over the internet. They’d already chosen what they wanted!!! Most proposals are thoughtfully planned out by someone who actually knows their partner’s preferences or planned by both people involved. If you can’t see why someone interfering with that just because they’d want their proposal done differently is a problem you should learn about boundaries. A total stranger doesn’t know better than the couple in question.
"Dehumanizing" is the perfect word to describe being used for content. They are basically using these people as props to make money. This was never "a good deed" it's a hustle. I've had enough of it.
@@Missmagazinebura Because majority of our government is so old they don't care about technology or even attempt to make laws that could help society.
Everything we do is through a lens. Emotion. These kids use emotion like directors. It's not real, it's trying to evoke something. They're tools to be used. They're gonna be so unhinged.
It’s not just older people either. When i was 16 i liked to sit alone by myself outside during lunch. I am introverted so my social battery gets very drained throughout the day since classes at my old high school were back to back. I’m simply sitting alone eating food and watching a video yet people some who i know some who I don’t walk by asking if I’m ok. Saying “you alone you don’t have any friends??” Like bro let me eat in peace. I’m using this time to get away from people not socialize or explain to others that I like time alone. People are so afraid to simply be alone that they don’t know how to enjoy their own presence. Alone time is so necessary yet it’s something most people are skilled at, especially in public places. Therefore it seems abnormal for anyone to choose to be alone so they think they must be sad.
People used to dogpile me and call me a boomer (in my early 20s) and told me I 'must be fun at parties,' because I said this. That it's weird and creepy to film strangers, unless it's to gather evidence to protect themselves/others. I FEEL SO VALIDATED RIGHT NOW!!!
Give them a taste of their own medicine. Be like, “oh okay.” Whip out your phone and start recording them. They’ll laugh and think you’re joking but you’re not. You keep recording them with a deadpan expression on your face. They get uncomfortable and try to get away from you but you follow them. But it’s okay, right?! Why are you running? Are you… UNCOMFORTABLE? And don’t stop recording. At the end of the night say, “okay, thanks for joining my live. Don’t forget to like and subscribe!” 😮
I've been the same, but my mates and I have always been kinda in agreement. It was never gonna end up a good thing. It's nice people are getting over it and calling it out. I've seen some good ones at my gym.
When social media first started to become a thing, I signed up for a FB account just to see what it was about. I used all fake information, asked friends to not post pictures of me, etc They made fun of me and called me paranoid... I am still waiting for an apology. People are insecure when you don't follow the status quo. The ones who are closest to you can be the worst saboteurs. Ask anyone how their relatives behave after they went on a diet and started losing weight. Never apologize or feel less than for not being a sheep. This is what being punk or independent actually is. I mean, your friends your complaining that you weren't ok violating other people's space and boundaries. You held the moral position, making them realize their behavior wasn't ok, so they put it on you instead. Because people feel judged though you aren't judging them.
One time I said people shouldn’t text while driving and had a bunch of idiots telling me “I must be fun at parties” I’m not a weirdo, I just don’t like putting me and others in danger lmfao
Legit “I’m the main character” syndrome. Seeing someone else going about their day and just having to insert themselves in their lives. That’s the only reason to record other people like this: you just wanna go viral and have the story be about you.
Legit “I’m the main character” syndrome. Seeing someone else going about their day and just having to insert themselves in their lives. That’s the only reason to record other people like this: you just wanna go viral and have the story be about you.
Fortunately, in Germany it is forbidden to simply film strangers without their permission. Although we also have people (On RU-vid) who like to interview people while drunk on the Reeperbahn in Hamburg. I think to myself that they would never have given their consent if they had been sober. For us it violates the art copyright law. Yes, we have a law for that sort of thing. Sometimes it's annoying when it's used for every little thing but sometimes I'm happy when I see what's going on in America
i'm also so grateful to be in germany, instead of the us. still, because of my anxiety i am growing more and more terrified of people filming me in public, just minding my own business. i can't even begin to imagine how horrible it must be, to suffer from anxiety and live in america, where stuff like this is rampant
Yeah but you can’t film anything or even take pictures in Germany without people getting upset or confronting you. People immediately give you dirty looks. It’s the total opposite extreme. There should be a middle ground.
@@Liv-eb9yv i'm sorry that you experienced that. even though i have never had this problem when taking pictures outside, that sounds upsetting. in my opinion, there definitely should be a middle ground. still, i prefer the situation in germany, though of course, being confronted for wanting to take a picture is really uncomfortable as well
That sad. I wouldn’t want to live there. 😂 I like having rights! Don’t go in public or wear a mask if you don’t like it. People don’t complain about the 1000s of cameras they pass. It’s very hypocritical actually.
How is this legal? Because it feels like the mobile version of basically being a peeping Tom sitting there at someone's window filming them without them knowing to get some kind of sick kick out of it.. super weird and creepy and violating.
There’s no expectation of privacy in public, so photography is protected by law, but it’s certainly rude. However- taking whatever photos you want is NOT absolute. If a creep is following a woman or even worse a child, those pictures become evidence against them for stalking. The good thing about the pictures or videos is we can now prosecute dangerous stalkers, where in the past they routinely got away with it. Now the police can get a warrant for the criminals phone, recover any deleted files and get them convicted. It works both ways I guess.
People basically defend it by saying "you have no expectation of privacy while in public". If you can film police officers committing abuse of power, and the traffic cameras can film you running a red light, it needs to be able to go both ways. Same with recording your front porch for deliveries or making sure thieves or porch pirates aren't sneaking anything away. THAT SAID , I agree that culturally, we should NEED to have a law that forbids filming people in public without their knowledge. It should just be accepted that it's RUDE. Generally, I have made short videos of going to things like anime conventions and have taken crows footage, but those clips are usually zoomed out and short. I think There's a fine line between using groups of people enjoying themselves out in the open for benign content versus zeroing in in individuals or small groups just to mock them. It's called being tasteful, and if you want to take pictures of cosplayers from the front you should always ask so they can consent or pose, and you'll get a better photo than doing a creep shot from the side or behind anyway.
Ive been into gothic culture/fashion since i was actually a child, im 23 now. Ive never been filmed or recorded in my life by strangers up until the past like two three years and its always men and teenagers. Its appalling tbh cause its like what are you actually planning to do with the pictures or videos if not post them online. I honestly feel really embarrassed for the people that do this.
I feel bad about the people who have been in abusive relationships with kids who are getting filmed in public (especially in schools). Make it more easier for their crazy exs to find them
Yes, this is my biggest problem with this sh*t. I was stalked by an ex for almost a year and thank God it happened before social media! This isn't just ppl being annoying, you could be putting someone's life at risk.
@@annjepsen1621 Same thing but with my dad. Thank goodness I haven’t see him since I was 5 (now I’m teenager) but a week ago. I was curious so I searched up his name and I was scared sh*tless seeing photos of me and a random woman’s teen daughter in photo frames on his wall.
@@Play_z209 Oh I know how triggering that is. I learned awhile ago that those wounds can be torn open in an instant, so I do my best to never go looking on socials. He reached out to me years later to "apologize" via email and it upset me so much. I was paranoid and jumpy for a week after. Sometimes it's better not to look back. ❤️❤️❤️
Once my husband and I were secretly recorded in public without our knowledge. When my husband pointed this out to the person filming us, they accused him of being a creep and recorded us because they thought I was underage. I had to prove my age and that I was telling the truth by showing them my ID and explained that we were married. They deleted the recording but they had not even given a proper apology or explanation, just left without saying anything. I already had anxiety about going out in public, but that situation only made it worse.
I wouldn't have just shown a stranger my ID! Tell them your real age and then that if they really don't believe it, they can call the cops. See if they have the balls to actually do it!
@@anasofiatorres4357but nobody has an issue when people call the cops thinking somebody kidnapped a child when it's actually their kid or get mad at people standing around when there's a pedo talking to teens
i have a disorder that makes me incredibly paranoid all the time. i get scared to leave the house for many reasons. this phenomenon has made it even worse, i always fear i’m being recorded and i can’t even stand it sometimes. i live in a big city and i have actually been recording without my consent (at work) and it left me terrified. i don’t understand how that’s okay when YOU DONT KNOW WHAT THAT PERSON IS GOING THROUGH AT ALL. it makes me sick
I've never been to a neurologist or psychiatrist for this, but I have that too!! First got that recording/camera fear thought at 13 randomly, and it's progressed to fear of leaving my house at all. And then getting a stalker caused me to go off all socials for many years and made me feel like I was right to feel that way. *hugs* to you 💜
I have several men and some women that I’m fucking terrified of being seen by. I work at a very popular very large grocery chain and I’m so scared of someone filming me or playing a prank on me and putting on the internet and then them finding me.
My body dysmorphia already tells me that everyone around me thinks I'm fat and that's amplified if i visit restaurants, if someone were to film me eating and making fun of me with the whole world, I'd never want to eat again 😱
Yep! I was this way as a teenager and finally overcame it in my 20s. I'm glad I mostly stay away from TikTok or I might to back to the time when I'm constantly worried about everyone looking at me and thinking about how fat and gross I am!
don’t worry if they ever post the video everyone would probably be telling the person their a terrible human and getting bullied so yeah people can hurt you but you need to look at the situation critically people do awful things to people because they care about meniscal things like how someone eats judgments are made everyday about you and me but everyone is being judged all the time no matter what happens to you, you matter no one can tell you otherwise just feel embarrassed for the people who are mean in this world they’re not growing as a person and they’ll realize it sooner or later that the most damage they’ve done was to themselves
Ever since moving up to adult sized portions of meals at the pub, I’ve had troubles eating in public for fear of being judged for a normal adult-sized portion just because I’m on the shorter side. I can eat a full pizza at home in the privacy of my room, but in front of people when dining out, I barely manage half a bowl of fries before anxiety convinces me not to eat anything more, either making me think I’m full or making it harder to swallow anything solid. It makes me worried that one day, someone would film me, upload it and strangers would judge me.
This trend is not going to end well. One of these days, one of those strangers are going to read mean comments about themselves, become depressed, and unalive themselves. Then, their relatives are going to lobby for new laws to stop it from happening to others. Cut it out, jerks! Strangers are not your entertainment. Stop before you hurt someone.
Oh, that's surely already happened. It's just not a big story because people are so self centered now days, they only care about things that involve or benefit them.
It is not a trend babes, it's actually a normal thing on tiktok.. Its crazy. I use tiktok almost everyday and i come across these kind of videos a lot.
I'm just waiting for someone to film someone on witness protection doing something simple like getting the mail or fast food and them being discovered and killed or a "cheating" wife or husband in an abusive relationship who is trying to get out because they are stuck somehow (yes it happens to men too) and the abusive partner finding the video and hurting them. Or not even one that is trying to cheat, just finding a video of them with a friend or coworker and super jealous partner finds someone accusing them of cheating and losing it.
It sucks. I have my own host of reasons why I don't really want to deal with people, but you know, bills to pay. So you manage. I've found you just have to be firm, emotionless, and ruthless. "You will not film in my store, this is private property. You will require legal permission. Leave immediately. You have no permission to publish my likeness, and if you do, I will seek legal action". It sounds lame. It sounds mean. But establishing for example, in the gym, we just don't do that here, ( or at least at thr gym, here are our strict guidelines as to filming your form) early and impersonally does help
I have an older brother, and because we are very close, we're very often going for walks together. Every time someone accidentally assumes we're a couple I feel so much discomfort and correct them immediately, I can't even imagine the disgust we both would experience if some bozo filmed us on the street, confidently claiming we're a couple. EWWW
Honestly, same! I was helping my brother to buy a suit a few days ago and he said he couldn't move properly in the pants he was trying at the time and to show his point, he tried to kneel, I joked around asking who he was going to propose to, and the salesperson automatically said he could propose to me. Now, I know it is a misunderstanding and I understand the person didn't mean any harm, BUT IT'S ALWAYS SO UNCOMFORTABLE. Imagine if some creepy decides to film me and my brother joking around and post us online as some cute couple. People can be weird
A big problem I think is that people need legitimate hobbies that don’t include their phone/social media. Like, pick up crochet, paint, watch anime, find a new show to watch. Something???
What makes these entitled weirdos think it’s okay to record random people in public? Have they ever heard of privacy? It’s creepy and the very thought of being recorded by a stranger without any knowledge is scary.
I worry about safety. As someone who left my home state bc i had an abusive & obsessive ex, I'm terrified someone will stick a phone in my face or I'll be in the background of a viral video and he will easily find me. I also worry about other people in hiding from actual criminals. We need laws for this.
Agreed. There are people living under protection, (or at least think they are) and it could all go away in a matter of seconds. Volunteering at my kids school, we were never allowed to photograph the kids without consent. The easiest way to help for yearbook photos etc, was for the teachers to go through and double check each of the photos of children in their classes. Parents have the right to specify privacy for their kids. It’s actually a law. Same went for the school website with photos. The principal and photog went through each and every shot. A lot of photos were the backs of kids heads, or repeat photos of kids allowed for several years worth before updating, just because it was such a big deal, and so time consuming to check every angle on every shot.
That's one big reason that filming strangers should be illegal. My husband and I don't post our children and I've told all the family that they weren't allowed to post them on the internet....one of my family members decided to do so anyway and left it up even after I told them to take the pics down.. I avoid her at all costs now..she's no longer allowed to be a part of my kids life. She knows that we made that rule because of sickos out there. They look for children on the internet including fb, twitter..etc... I remember hearing of a mom who found that her 6 month old baby girls pic ended up a ped0 fb page... Parents need to be extremely careful posting their kids...do not post where you work, live, don't post where they go to school, don't post pics of mascots or school colors or church or anything that can give their location. Don't even post about where your going because ped0s and traffickers will try to track ppl down... It's just best not to post their child, but if they do they should do so with caution.
I find the idea of taking a video or picture of strangers disturbing/disgusting. But I never thought of it from that point of view. And now it's horrifying
These influencers who pity film old people having a good time on their own are also the same who will glamorize their own solo travel "first international solo travel" "pov:you go to the movies alone".🤡 When they do it themselves its all about "romanticize the lil things in your life" but when others do the same it's "awwww look at this poor looser with no friends" 😭
just last night i saw a youtube short of a youtuber/tiktoker who have 4 million followers making fun of a girl saying she's a karen bcs she doesn't consent to be filmed in public and the comment section make me sick
I've seen something similar. The girl was with her bf, and she stopped and told the yt to not film her without her consent, and of course he uploaded it, and the comments were calling HER crazy.
The vitriol I have gotten for years from friends and strangers about this is ridiculous. I have never understood the concept of filming strangers. At no point in time was it ever discussed as a society, it just changed and people had to be ready for it. So I get to know that possibly in my worst moments a stranger can without context expose me to hate. Sometimes on a scale the human brain cannot comprehend.
I have Rhinotileximania and someone was filming me picking my nose. I told them it's an OCD thing due to autism and hyperfixation and they laughed at me and kept filming. I'm sure I'm on a website somewhere, and I know it's gross, but I cannot help it.
Hmmm I own the DSM-5 and have never heard of or seen that. Seek therapy. You’ll never be able to stop people being freaked out by someone picking their nose in public, especially post-COVID, because it is indeed horribly disgusting, unless you always immediately use hand sanitizer and wash your hands. Of course, the filmer is a narcissistic bully freak loser for doing that, but just real talk, there are lots of narcissistic bully freak losers in the world. Picking your nose in public unsurprisingly is low-hanging fruit to make fun of for narcissistic bully freak losers. I know for a fact that OCD, autism, and tic-based disorders are readily amenable to psychological (and often psychiatric) interventions from qualified professionals, so really, I suggest professional therapy with someone familiar with obsessive-compulsive disorders.
We should heavily shame companies that make glasses or other items with hidden cameras. Or boycott the heck out of them. If it’s gotten to the point where influencers are shamed into putting their cameras away, then we shouldn’t give them a way to work around it.
It's illegal in a lot of places, to be filmed without knowledge. There may be exceptions, but there's a reason they put signage up to say "we use cctv".
This kinda feels like the paparazzi but for regular ass people. Its creepy when they do it, its even creepier when regular ass people do it to regular people.
Sometimes im glad im a recluse, i don't have to deal with this shit. Its weird how the people who do this are mostly extroverted and attention seeking yet they're the ones who completely lack any social skills.
I honestly don’t know what’s wrong with them!! I’m extroverted and sometimes I like attention but this isn’t the same and it makes me want to hide too. When there isn’t some creepy stranger taking control of how a situation is framed it’s actually possible to interact on equal footing. And privacy is about dignity, which everyone deserves!
I’m 1000% over people and their pictures in public because they have become so entitled. If they’re blocking the ONLY pathway taking 30 minutes to get their photo I give them 3 seconds to get their photo before I walk through it if they’re in the way.
A few Years ago at Disneyland, I had a breakdown. My mom said something unforgivable to me, and followed me around to keep saying things. I finally broke down crying and screaming at her and I still remember the way a bunch of other mothers went up to her to say what an amazing mom she was for putting up with me, people who had no idea what had even happened or had been said. I’m thankful nobody filmed me - but it felt much the same. People assigning their own value and expectations to a situation they knew nothing about. I had my first attempt at suicide that night. If someone HAD filmed me, I wouldn’t be alive today. I have never acted like that before, and never have again - mostly because I cut off my mother - but to be so judged based off one moment is terrifying.
That's terrible. That's also a form of reactive abuse that strangers were gleefully helping your mother commit against you. Sorry that happened, it makes me angry to think about someone harassing a vulnerable child.
Yeah people are freaks. I can’t imagine acting that way, just assuming I know everything there is to know about strangers and their private situation, but I’m not a narcissistic freak. Increasingly, it seems non-narcissistic freaks are the minority
Exact thing happened to me People like to assume whats easiest for them to assume, if they admitted to themselves that maybe the mother is abusive theyd have to confront her and not a child Not to mention some abusers mask, gaslight and role reverse in public very well.
There’s certain states in the US where you can get in MAJOR trouble for that. My partner got a disposable camera taken away from him in New Hampshire when people still used those. Was taking pictures at a festival and security tapped him on the shoulder informed him of the law and told him they’d need the camera because people might be in the photos without their consent. If he refused it was a fine and jail time
That is not how it works unless there is no photos posted. There is no law not to take someone picture. The issue come is if you try to make money from the picture the law is blurry. But some event they have no pictures. But a festival the story make no sense. So something is missing from the story or the guard was full of BS.
I can’t fathom wanting to film people without their consent and/or knowledge. Makes me cringe. I have severe anxiety, and the thought of someone filming me in public during a panic attack, or even during a happy silly moments horrifies me. “Capturing the moment” whether sincere or done to mock somebody isn’t your place unless you’ve been directly asked and hired.
I’m 32 and it took me until last year to be comfortable enough to go out and do things alone. I stopped caring what people thought and decided that I wanted to have experiences whether or not other people are free to join me. I moved closer to the downtown area of my town (Salem MA) and started going to events and it’s honestly been one of the best years of my recent life. I met the cast of Hocus Pocus, went to a locals-only Halloween costume party at a bar, tasted cider flights, walked around to see the beautiful architecture, went on countless coffee runs to cute little shops, toured a replica pirate ship, and saw ice sculptures and fire dancers and that was all only since July! That woman is living her best life eating her breakfast alone in peace, more people should be comfortable going out in public alone. It should be normalized!
I really needed to hear this, thank you, I already go to the movie alone, and last weekend went out to a restaurant by myself for the first time. I felt very self-conscious because in my head it's still weird, which it really shouldn't be, I enjoyed it and want to do it more often and hearing you had such a good year makes me want to try to do things alone even more. There is so much I want to try and everyone is always busy. So why not go alone.
im 25, 26 in a few months. as someone who've never had irl friends ive gone out alone since i was 14. nothing sad about it. u go get urself coffee and some cake and u go home. whys that bad
So I don’t have ANY of the normal social media accounts because I have an ex who tortured me and threatened me with death for about half a year before going to prison for killing someone else. I don’t want his psycho family ever finding me because one day he will be out of prison too. If my face and location began circulating online without my consent it could literally get me murdered. So this can be far more serious than people who’ve never lived under the threat of murder could possibly know.
You know it's kind of creepy and uncomfortable to record random people because it's not people business to record other people it's just uncomfortable and not right
I agree with this so much. It's really disrespectful to film people in public places without their permission. I really hope this trend stops soon because it's so disturbing to me that people want to do this.
What I’ve noticed is that a lot, not all, of this younger generation lacking emotional intelligence and self awareness. And when that happens this is what you get.
I dont think it was even jealously i think she was annoyed about waiting and decided to embarass people and mask it with "sweet wholesomeness" Very modern way of being aggressive
tbh I’ve literally been filmed before in the mall while I was eating, (me & my friends was having fun, acting dumb & taking photos) even tho the person who filmed me denied when I asked her if she was recording, (and told her to stop) but me & my friends literally saw her pointing her phone at us for at least 30 sec 😭
I've been harassed by a creep at a store while shopping following me around the store. Filming me it was horrific and scary. While his intentions where creepy it still is apart of the same beast. I can only hope it wasn't uploaded online. He was so creepy. And when I did the self check out he was pretending to check out. Thanks goodness the checker noticed to because she asked him if he needed help because he was being weird. Then I told her he'd been following me and she called security. And I was escorted out to my car. I only wish I had said something sooner. But typical lady thoughts I didn't want to over react. And was nervous it was a coincidence he was everywhere I was.. and when she saw it I knew I wasn't being crazy. Again I really hope it wasn't put online.
Some people are weird. Before TikTok was even a thing there was some weirdo that would record me at my old job, I once got into an argument over it with him and his GIRLFRIEND about him recording me. She was totally okay with what he was doing. She claimed he wasn’t recording me, yet every single time I serviced them his phone would come out and follow me wherever I was walking.
It's actually illegal to record in most restaurants and if they see you they can evict you had this happen once a group of drunk girls tried to sneak a picture of our table and I quote "ew get a picture of the group of fat weird girls and that guy" cops had a field day throwing them out it's actually illegal in alot of places throwing hands is free too you know
This is one of the reasons why my agoraphobia has gotten WORSE. I don't even wanna go outside knowing that there will be people filming me without my consent. I've already had it happen to me years ago when I went to Walmart and saw someone took a pic of me wearing a shirt I had customized, and they were sending it to people they know on Snapchat. I swear PeopleOfWalmart is to blame for this. PeopleOfWalmart and sites like that are gross and should be illegal. It sucks I can't go anywhere anymore since I'm paranoid of people potentially making fun of me without me knowing! I hate this! I HATE THIS!!! I already got paranoid schizophrenia from growing up in a house where privacy was a sin pretty much, and this THIS , this shit makes it WORSE!!!!! Like why am I always living in a constant 1984 surveillance state jfc.
This is why people are TERRIFIED to do stuff solo. Because society makes it seem like you’re a sad or pathetic freak for being outside alone. I can’t go out to lunch on my work break and sit alone???? I can’t want to see a movie and do it alone??? Doing stuff with people is wicked annoying. Let me live in peace.
The only time I think it's ok to film someone without their consent in public is if they are doing something that warrants it like something illegal or just being a jerk to others.
Even then i think people shouldn't A few family members of mine are schizophrenic, my grandmother started on people a few times believing they were after her or going to hurt her Ive seen a lot of videos go viral where someone is clearly in psychosis and acting aggressive, psychosis being an incredibly vulnerable and delusional thing, to be mocked by millions Sometimes people are jerks or buttholes but most people cant really tell whats psychosis or even know about it. I am so glad my grandmother passed before the day of the camcorder but sadly ive seen people close to me ostracised due to it and peoples lack of understanding od their very serious and tragic psychiatric disorder.
Only if you don’t plan on posting it online as a viral video and instead actually use it as proper evidence, giving it straight to the authorities so they can deal with it.
@@tranatkikomi6873 There may be situations that necessitate posting it online (like when the situation involves said authorities themselves), but I mostly agree.
It’s because becoming old and spending time alone is these kids with 12 step anti-aging routines biggest fear they can’t imagine someone is ok on there own
The same scenario happened to me 2 years ago when i was working in a restaurant and some random kid recorded me because he thought i was good looking and musclar.. and he showed it to me after like nothing happened. i was pissed and disgusted. this is not okay..
The Fortnite hat kid saddens me to see. Like he’s just minding his business wearing something he enjoys. It may be cringe but you can just ignore it. Also ain’t no way people are acting that way towards elderly people. Like they’re people too, not animals.😭
bruh i love seeing kids wearing among us and fortnite shirts and like maybe i’ll tell my partner because it’s funny and cute but im not going to RECORD A KID like holy shit that’s wrong on even more levels
That girl in the train video did not write that and it wasn't even her account. Someone else reposted it with that caption. In the original, the model is getting frustrated, but she's laughing (at herself mostly) and not at all expecting anyone to stop. She's actually a victim of made up narratives by lame users just like the other people. She's been threatened and harassed ever since for something she didn't say and a way she didn't actually act or feel.
I get that in a public space like a park, restaurant, sidewalk, etc There is no reasonable expectation of privacy, that only extends to being in the background for a few brief moments or being approached by someone who is obviously recording. Secretly recording people is just creepy and weird.
I honestly think that complimenting someone in person is way better than filming them (coming from a person with social anxiety) talking to random people and stepping out of my comfort zone helps me a lot. Like, a couple of years ago, there was a really pretty waitress and I was really nervous to tell her that I thought she was pretty so I waited until a couple of minutes before I left the restaurant to tell her. I told her and she gave me the biggest smile I've ever seen, little did she know, she unlocked a core memory for me. In conclusion, if you ever wanna compliment someone, don't be a creep and record them, just genuinely tell them, even if it means going out of your comfort zone :)
This "must record strangers" craze is the reason why I, as someone with autism and panic disorder, am terrified of going out in public (especially on my own) anymore. For the most part, I seem normal at first glance...but if I get overwhelmed by sensory stuff then I play with a fidget toy; or, drop what I'm doing and run out of the store if I get a panic attack (which 100% would wind up online somewhere as "this crazy person is running away from thin air lol" or something).
So basically TikTok has destroyed the world and rotted the minds of young people sounds like a great app lol Really though I know there’s some cute stuff on there some good creators doing their best but honestly overall the whole site seems like a toxic cesspool of mental degeneration. Kids turning into immoral misbehaved little monsters and obsessing over their appearance invading peoples privacy toxic gossip and drama backstabbing and fights over the smallest nonsense.. I mean for real is there anything genuinely redeeming about TikTok or is it truly as horrible as it seems? To me I think it’s a lost cause I think it’s just a mind numbing youth destroying black hole that continually does exponential harm to so many people. For every cute story or heart warming interaction there’s a million trashy awful trends and horror stories
Exactly. Why did Vine never became a toxic app unlike TikTok? There is a giant difference in content while having almost the same interface. It's not the creators, it's not about the app itself, it's about the people who run Tiktok and where they draw the line at.
@@PosaPuntooh 💯 this generation all they care about is being popular it’s like a drug. TikTok is like the dealer on the corner handing out more and more. Instead of helping videos trend that are about service or acts of kindness or someone doing a good deed all you see is drama and tea spilling and rumors and lies and disasters left and right. TikTok is telling kids hey you wanna be popular be a horrible awful human being and you’ll get your 15 minutes of fame. I’m not a cancel culture person at all I think people should be allowed to consume whatever content they like but with TikTok idk guys I wouldn’t mind if it went away and never came back. It’s just a never ending conveyor belt of destruction and controversy at every turn. Besides a few select videos that are cute or fun the whole app seems just way beyond saving
In all honesty, I have become accustomed to short form content that I feel like I can’t retain info to memory. I don’t like that all. That and I can’t tell what’s fake and what’s real at times. Hayley does frequently laugh at me for being to old to notice though.
When I first got TikTok, that’s exactly how I felt. But quickly the app learned the things I like, and hate, and it became a great way to learn. There are some really great news sources, gardening accounts, dog training etc, but there are also some absolutely bottom of the barrel TRASH. TikTok does NOT prevent some people who act inappropriately towards minors for example until they are forced to act by authorities. It shouldn’t take that much to clean up their mess!
I come up with scenarios for strangers in my head on a regular basis. I will sometimes be INSANE and feel extreme empathy toward someone because I've chalked something up in my own head about them. But the audacity people have to make it a public online spectacle is beyond me lol
As a 6th grader who was different from everyone else, of course I got bullied. And one of my bullies did it so hardcore. She had bullied me since 4th grade. One day at a club, I was just enjoying a cookie bar when I see in the corner of my eye that she was filming me! I could not explain how scared and uncomfortable I was. Aftre she came and said,"Hey, you're tik tok famous!" I was so angry that I slaped her with the edge of a chrombook and got slime in her hair. I walked out of the club and never came back until I was told she couldn't come because she broke the school rule that phones can only be out outside of school. My face is still on tik tok, and it has a huge impact on face. She isn't the only one she has filmed me though. I know I'm not innocent for using violence, but I'm still upset to this day.
You're allowed to stand up for yourself. I'm sorry you're going through all of this muck on top of the rollercoaster that is growing up in a degenerate generation. Keep your head up, and remember, fuck people. Keep your circle small.
Seeing that kid getting bullied on tiktok broke my heart cause i got bullied at school and if i found out people had been filming me and making fun of me j would've been so upset
Watching soap operas on TV used to be a way to experience the full range of emotions without interfering with anyone else, but it seems that some people now view their surroundings as their own personal film set and don't see the difference💁♀️ They act entitled to insert themselves into someone else's business whenever they feel like it and to share the 'experience' online. There's no actual emotional processing or learning involved. It's nothing more than narcissistic virtue signalling.
I WAS FILMED ON THE BUS!! i was a minor it was like two years ago! I was just drawing on my phone, waiting for my stop and this old man came up to me to show me a recording he took of me!! I was so scared but i couldn't do anything. When i got to my stop i left so quickly and i immediately called my mum then we tried going to the police! I don't know if that man still has that video on his phone!!!
its almost 2 AM in my time zone but your content gave me this boost of energy! i love your vibes and thank you for always "yapping!" ❤and as someone with anxiety and a mild fear of being caught on camera without my consent, it irks me that people have the audacity to film random people
My introverted ahh can’t even think about posting an ANIMATION that has nothing to do with anyone yet people manage to feel comfortable recording others for the sake of content 😃
Being neurodivergent and having an eclectic as well as heavily modded I have been recorded, photgtaphed and stared at for so.much ofnmy life. Ive literally veen pulled over and asked to have a picture taken with by a state trooper. Im already am htperaware of myself so this kind of thing makes me highly uncomfortable.
As someone who loves to go out by myself and travel by myself on solo trips despite being married and having a child, I would be mortified if people secretly filmed me and concocted wild stories about me all because I just want to spend time by myself because I like my own company.
i feel bad for all those strangers like imagine having a special moment with ur partner and then the next day u see yourself and ur partner all over the internet. people are so weird to film people for views and likes and i minute” fame “ u can’t even have a simple conversation without people assuming stuff and recording u..😭💀🤦🏾♀️💁🏾♀️
Love the video but I wanted to point out that the Twitter acc of the girl at the end isn't hers. It's someone who took her video off TikTok and pretended to be her. Just another example of people on social media being A-holes.
In switzerland this is actually illegal. There is something called "the right to ones own image". Basically means that if you are in public or generally recorded or photographed without your consent, and you are clearly recognisable in that image (yes even if you are clearly recognisable in a crowd), and the other person doesn't delete that picture when you ask them or even publishes it without your consent, you can sue them. I think this is important to say, because I have literally been photographed by chinese tourists while I was minding my own business and eating lunch in a restaurant with my friends. I've also been photographed by tourists when I was selling cookies on the streets with my scout troop as a child. I think this goes for tourism in general, don't take pictures of random people without asking them. It's not okay when you do it in europe, in asia or africa or literally anywhere else.
I'm speaking in Context as an American. If push comes to shove some states might have to adopt the 2 party consent law like California if this persists.
Thanks for this video Hayley. I think this is such an important topic that should be talked about more. Really great points made by you, as well as in the comments. You never know what someone is going thru, struggling with, or the true story, and this can have a terrible effect on people's lives. It could ruin their relationships, career, self-esteem, and as someone pointed out in comments, how long until someone unalives themselves from being targeted this way?! I live in the US, where it is legal to film anywhere/anyone in public. If it's a private business (restaurant, gym, etc.) then they can set a rule for no filming, but many do not. Maybe they're catering to all the influencers that have to film /stream every moment. It's sad that we have to just assume we're always being filmed, which we already had to with all the security cameras everywhere. These clout chasers love to skate the thin line of legal vs harassment, shaming and bullying people for views. I thought the younger generations had a better understanding and acceptance of people's differences, but with so many of these recordings, and them getting such high views, it appears not. Like what was the point of filming the boy eating lunch alone at school, and the caption being "look who I found" sounds like it's an ongoing case of bullying! Maybe he just likes eating in that spot, maybe his friend was absent, or perhaps he's on the spectrum and finds comfort in doing so. I've seen too many videos shaming someone who was clearly special needs, suffering from a disorder, or an emotional crisis, this topic needs more awareness, and humanity needs more compassion.
Im terrified my mom will be recorded having a mental breakdown one day and get harassed and/or shamed and made fun of for it. She has a mental illness that makes it hard for her to control her emotions and she can act out a lot. Id be mortified if someone took a video of her and plastered it all over the Internet. People are horrible.
So I was in a situation like this before. I was in a ferry and the way the couple was with the sunset was BEAUTIFUL. But instead of just filming, I walked up to them and said ‘excuse me, im a photographer and the way you two are together with this sunset is so beautiful and romantic. I was wonder if I could snap a pic for you guys?’ Some people say yes, some say no. But they ALWAYS appreciate me asking consent
Yeah I cannot stand the "omg, this old person in public alone! they must be so sad and loney!" thing. Even if that's true in someone's life, which you don't know it is just because they're older, but even if it is, no one wants to be the object of pity! And that "look how pretty this girl is" filming from afar one definitely gave Joe Goldberg vibes!
I am not old, old but I truly enjoy being by myself. Don't feel bad for me. I prefer solitude to being around people that get depressed and their souls get crushed by seeing people be by themselves.
My dad is 75 and i explained to him not to fall for peoples crap and explained that theyre probably filming him. I dont get how people can film strangers in public thats so weird
I was sitting in my car eating maccas fries, looked to my left and two cars down, I saw a phone pressed upto the window....so I flipped a double bird. Heard a female voice say "shes pulling the finger!!!!" Then saw the face of the chick holding the phone do a sneaky look towards me before jerking the phone away!!! I went off they freaked out and i drove off, pissed off that I might see myself in a nasty tik tok or youtube video making fun of me.... for having chips in my own vehicle. Like, what the actual f#$k, This shits wild!!!!
I’ve had a problem with things like this since its conception. Been yelling for people to stop since 2019. I first really saw it on twitter because I didn’t have a tiktok yet. I’m in fan spaces and I always saw viral tweets of people being recorded at concerts having fun, bopping along. But the comments were heinous, making fun of these people AT A CONCERT for having fun. It blew my mind. And it was strangers filming them at this same concert. Like it was mean girl energy. And I hate that. Everyone deserves privacy even in public spaces. ESPECIALLY in public spaces. Not everyone signs up to be famous, even accidentally. And there are some people out there who are like in witness protection or have stalkers or have a myriad of problems that would arise if they went viral on video. These people don’t think. The most recent one I saw was from a fairly big “creator”. They do those run up to people in the park and “interview” people thing. But they go to film this dude and he full on screams and runs away, clearly signifying he doesn’t want to be on camera. But it was still posted online. Like could it have been a set up? Sure, but why take that chance? Why make that look ok when it’s not????
Thank you for this video. Years ago a girl started recording me and my ex boyfriend on the bus probably because it was full and i decided to sit on my ex's lap. I hope the video is not finished on tiktok because it's so creepy and disgusting already without begin shared on the internet
I saw this short some days ago where this youtuber was filming a couple from far, the girl notices and tells him to not film them, because she didnt consent to it. And of course, since im watching this, the youtuber posted it, and the commnet was calling HER crazy. Saying shit like, 'Her bf seemed embarrassed for her' 'Her bf deals with this kinda shit every day'. Wtf is wrong with people
dude this is genuinely so fucked up- something sort of similar happened during school the other day, random ass kid was taking photos and videos with NOBODY knowing they were being recorded and photographed then he airdropped the photos to a bunch of other kids so they could laugh and make fun of the people they took photos of. abt 3 kids were doing it and i think they got one photo of me. genuinely made me feel so uncomfortable and insecure the rest of the day. its so fucked up to take photos of people without them knowing.
