me, it brings back all the memories of people I thought were my friends telling me kys and not as a joke they said the world would be better if I was gone. And then when anyone says anything suicidal they say don’t and supports them. It also reminds me of my emotionally abusive and alcoholic father, everyone thinks my life is perfect just because I hide behind a smile everyday and they don’t know fucking anything about me. Then when I say I need to talk as cause I’ve tried to commit suicide hey tell me people have bigger issues than wha I’m going through. It hurts. Just because someone is smiling does not mean they are mentally ok. I’m sorry if I’ve wasted ur time but it feels like no one understands.
Same man, I wish people could have a little more confidence in themselves and stopped comparing themselves to others, everyone is so beautiful but nowadays, some people just seem so fixed on being the replica of another person, why does society have such standards? :(
I don't even have friends, being a top student they just approach me for their benefits and I notice it immediately. Everyone just knows me as an introvert who is an exceptional student,no one wants to get to know me
Faye Javi Well i like to think it’s about Conan and another boy but he hasn’t confirmed his sexuality so it’s unsure. that’s alright tho bc i don’t think any of his real fans would want him to feel pressured into coming out (if he is Bi)
Dont even get me started on, "looks don't matter". No, Jennifer with blonde hair, blue eyes. Perfect curves, hairless, mentally stable with a rich\healthy family. They do. They absolutely do.
@@WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA It is though, my teacher even said people make too many stereotypes cause she’s a blue eyed blondie and yet she would rather want a basketball then a doll on Christmas when she was younger.
Wow, it had more likes than expected, I take advantage of the moment to say that I upload videos every saturday, i'd really appreciate if you subscribed❤ I'm just starting, but I promise that I will keep being constant.
to everyone who's still listening to this, i promise things will get better. i remember listening to this in 2020, my heart as heavy as the waters and head muffled with thoughts of sadness. but, now looking back, i have come so far. not only have i fought over depression, but i believe that you guys can do it too. realise the power within yourself, you are loved, you are perfect, you are amazing.
I too watched this exact video back in 2020, feeling like how you describe. Feels so bittersweet to come back to it🥹 Life does get better too! And you learn and evolve soo much, those feelings wont last forever!❤️
i guess it just seems like she’s got everything she wants. she’s got a beautiful face. perfect hair. perfect eyes. model like nose. perfect lips, eyes. everything. everyone knows her. she’s nice and kind and the ones that are friends with her always talk about how amazing she is. her outfits are amazing. she has a big friend group. she’s got perfect grades. she’s in advanced classes. she does sports. she’s got a little sibling. she’s got a dad. a dad that doesn’t belittle her every two seconds. then there’s me. my hair doesn’t work. it’s a frizzy mess even if i straighten it. i know every person, but no one knows me. i have one friend. one true friend. but she’s also got someone else. im quiet and shy. ive got the worst anxiety about thr stupidest stuff. cant even get my nails done without having a full blown panic attack. i sit back and just watch, watch how awesome and amazing everyone else is. and then there’s me. how their friends didn’t leave them after the summer. how they never had to sit alone at lunch time. how they don’t care about the food they bring, they don’t stare at it in disgust. they just eat it like any normal person would. but if i were any of them, or her. i wouldn’t have a problem with that stuff either.
i hope everything is ok for you now...i understand how u feel and I 100% relate to you. No one understands I feel and the people I love doesn't seem like they do to me anymore and it's kinda sad.but there are people worse than my condition. No one should feel like me so pls take care and know I will always be there for you
Don't be insecure. It doesn't matter if u think they are prettier or better. You're definitely pretty. Cus the universe is beauty, the things alive and not alive everything is beauty. She is pretty so is u. Set a goal, work hard for it, Don't care what others would think..... Love uuh🫂🤍
My crush replaced me with my best friend...my crush and i were like sweethearts we were being shipped by everyone before but now hes cold to me like it seems like i am no one
I feel bad because I am the heather to my friend. She said she didn’t like the boy anymore and I stared liking him and then we dated after that. A couple months later she told me how much it hurt to see us together. I had no clue since she said she didn’t like him anymore and started liking another guy (or so that’s just what she said) and I still feel guilty. She was so supportive and wanted us together so bad and I guess she was lying a bit which makes me a bit upset. but man, I’m totally in love with him
I don’t know who you are and you do t have to reply but I think that you are beautiful inside and out and I’ve never even seen you. If you wanna make a friend my insta is berk_phoque ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
She’s beautiful She’s extroverted She’s talented She’s smart She’s happy She’s loved She’s kind She’s popular She’s fair skinned She’s a people person She’s not hated by anyone Shes perfect And. She’s everything I’m not but want to be. But what hurts really deep Is that I‘m her heather.
Vanii enjoy it:/ Ik you hear that a lot and that’s what everyone says. But as you get older it feels you don’t get the same love and comfort from people:/
@@simper4565 At the risk of sounding like a creep, you've got love from us. We may never meet, but I'll still think of you. ^^ And.... hang in there, okay? Do your best to enjoy your life right now, despite the circumstances. You'll find yourself wanting to return to this time when you're older.
@@simper4565 and the hardest part of being a kid (9-12) in 2020 everybody thinks that theyre all just on their phone and smoking, drinking energy etc its really sad
Loved him for four years, confessed and he rejected me, yet somehow still friends. I still have feelings, and we're pretty close, but I don't wanna confess anymore, I'll probably just get hurt
The song took the words outta mouth “you like her better” and “why would you ever kiss me. He’ll never kiss me. I’ll always be a shadow, a leaf in the wind, even a pebble in a pond. He’ll always want her.
and whats the worst in the world is when you’re finally, finally happy, and you still have these thoughts in the back of your head keeping you from letting yourself enjoy the relationship. “what would happen if she wanted him. would he leave me?” and i hate not knowing so i convince myself its true LOL
He’s my best friend. No words could explain how much he means to me. But he only sees me as a friend. Our other friend, she’s just perfect. Pretty. Funny. Everything I’m not. I’m just the supportive best friend to him.
I've been broken hearted 3 times: rejected break up and ghosted.. I feel like I hated myself for being so stupid, ugh it's too sad. This song too sad 😢
“why would you ever kiss me, i’m not even half as pretty” hits different when his ex is beautiful and he didn’t lose feelings for her like he lost feelings for you
i’m sorry love... this sadly hit way too close to home for me as well and i definitely went through the same thing :( i hope you’re having an amazing and blessed day and continuing on having those ❤️
This comment hits hard when you slowly became heather and lost your self and now you'r stuck being the perfect heather for every one and not knowing your real self becouse you lost it in the long run
hoor alsalehi that was me but kinda the opposite of a heather, i was rude and obnoxious and then when my friend group told me to stop talking to them, i snapped back to reality and a few days ago i managed to get the two that were my closest friends back! thank you god and you graciousness!
*"She's got you mesmerized while I die"* This. This line over there. When your crush is having a crush on a person who's just so great and talented at everything while you feel like there's nothing you have to impress your crush... And seeing scenarios like this in real life is just so soul-crushing, this song feels like a pat on your head honestly
I had everything to impress her. We were as close as everyone thought we were actually dating. She was the only person I've ever opened up to (with my mom and dad). I confessed my feelings and it was one of the hardest things to do. She said no and acted like nothing happened. Why ? What did I do wrong ? Am I the problem ?I invited her to prom and I confessed my feelings one more time and same thing happened. I always try to forget her but everytime I hear songs like this all the memories come back in a flash, and it hurts like hell.
No. The problem is I am the heather friend. And all of my “friends” hate me because of it. I’m sorry. I’m so sorry. I don’t ask for the people they like to like me?! They don’t know how bad it hurts. I lose so many friendships because I have to tell people I don’t like them. Or I lose friendships because my friends find out the person they like likes me. It’s so hard. I would trade everything for friends who don’t hate me. For only the one person I like to like me.
I’m sorry you feel like this. I’m so sorry you have to go through this. I would never know how it feels, and I don’t want to compare our experiences. But I do know I experience something that hurts almost just as much, if not more.
It’s not fun having everyone “love” you. Because in reality they don’t. And it hurts and I’m so sorry. I would never choose to be this person. I would give it all up. I’m so so sorry. My heart breaks every time I lose a friend. And it happens so often. I don’t TRY to make people like me. I’m so lonely even if “everyone loves me”. But really people just tell me I belong to the streets. Or that I’m a bitch or a home wrecker. It’s terrible. People you thought you trusted talk bad about you and I’d give it all up in a second if I could.
And someone sees ypu as their heather friend and thinks you are so lucky :) Just wait the right person for you isnt looking for your heather friend the right person sees you as heather and will make you feel so happy :) Just wait and with time you will find the Person for you!
That lucky friend of yours is probably hiding feelings. Shes probably having it very tough but shes not showing how shes struggling. Ppl see me as the ”heather” and i wish they knew but i cant tell them. Theyll think im annoying, asking for attention and drama. So i basically sucking it up and moving on but i keep on coming back to this place where this wave of negattive thoughts crush me. have a nice day, xx~🥰
My best friend is a "Heather" but her life at home is just horrible, she lives with sexist and abusive ppl, but at school she's the pretty, nice and intelligent girl(and some other people) are jealous of her, she could've been popular but she prefers to be with me, im not jealous or her at all I just want her to be okay :(
" she's got you as mesmerized while I cry. " " How can I hate her she's such an angel " " Wish I were heather. " " I'm not even half as pretty. " Those lyrics hit hard
I'm lying on my bed, staring at the ceiling. The thought of my crush floods into my head. I can feel my heart beating faster and louder as I envision us spending time together. Watching movies together, cycling together, living together, laughing together. The thought of doing everything with her is just so exciting!! I can't wait anymore, I'm going to tell her how I feel. Wish me LUCKK!!!! This song is my motivation!!!
Are you okay? I’m here if you ever need to talk. I know life is hard, and everyone may tell you this, but it will get better, I hate when people say “same” they don’t really know what your going through. I’m here for you. I care about you. You belong here.
I’m always here for you, you can dm me on insta if you ever need to talk or anything (@maddy_stc) :) i and a ton of other people love you so much and you’re so strong for going through all of that. I don’t want to offend you if you’re not religious/of a different religion but God has a plan for you and He’s going to get you through this and He loves you more than words can describe too.
Song hits different when everyone is asleep and you're just trying to cry quietly cause you hate being seen while crying and nonstop asked "Are you okay" because you're embarrassed.
Everytime I hear this song I remember when my crush/boy bsf (we knew each other since the day I entered kindergarten) gave me the wrong signals and I thought he liked me, but was too scared to tell him my feelings so I waited for him to make the move. One day he asked me to help him to get to know this one girl, it was none other then my girl bsf And they both have feelings for each other. They are married now:)
And then they ask if your okay and faking a smile you say of course not, but they laugh thinking your were joking. But in reality the moment you are behind closed doors you break down and your smile goes away. It leaves you with only tears and sadness while you are crumpled up on the floor trying to think of how you got there.
@@kalynnewillis yeah but not just that- heather is someone who's so nice you can't bring yourself to hate them because they're just that sweet. it's not just the popular person, or the person your crush chooses over you.
THANK you so much for saying this. i knew a girl who this song reminds me exactly of. a kind, humble, beautiful girl, her name was emily doucette. i never knew her too well personally, but you could just t e l l when such a good person like that exists
me too! you’re not alone. i got my heart broken and now i feel like i’m not good enough for anyone to even want to date me and if they did that it could never last.. but we can get through it!
I have commitment issues due to trauma :’) fun times. Luckily my now boyfriend is helping me through it and Im definitely not feeling the anxiety of staying with him that I do with other people. He’s just right. 💕
She knew I liked him but still dated him when she didn’t even like him. They have been dating for 6 months. She was my best friend for 8 years but now we don’t talk
This is the nicest version of any song I've heard in a long time. I can literally feel all my stress from the past week fading away and becoming a blur.
This hit different at night when you’re crying and having a break down while doing you’re homework so you’re mother dosent call you useless and puts you down
Slime Reflection im sorry this happens to u, it happens to me too always and i hate it cause she makes me feel bad abt not caring abt school and literally anything at this point but like its not really my fault that i have no motivation for anything and i feel like shit constantly. i hope youre doing well, you are truly amazing pls dont let anyone tell u otherwise. u r smart and very pretty and u can do this, whatever u r going thru (if u are) u can overcome it. its not easy and it wont be ever but its worth it. i love you.
@@sushitrash8008 i feel you. i dont feel motivated to do anything at all and especially when im at school, i cant absorb anything im taught. i really try to but i just cant. idk, the motivation to study just isnt there. and my mother is constantly comparing me, putting me down, blaming me for things. and i really feel shitty, i dont feel like theres hope for me in the future anymore. with how im coping with school/study/exams and my family, i dont think im gonna do well in the future. it terrifies me sooooooo much
POV: you're in love with you're best friend but he's dating someone and all you want is for him to be happy even though it hurts you. Also you accidentally got him and his girlfriend together and now you wish there was something that you could've done to make that not happen but you know that he's in love with someone else and now you're trying to get over him
both comments actually happened to me today, but the worst part is that she might know that I like her but can't do much bcs it's not mutual, after everyone saying that they looked like a couple she came towards me after and hugged me, I told her that I didn't said anything, she said that she knew like she deep inside knew what I felt.
Everyone is here talking about their crushed hearts, but I’m crying because I’m scared of love, it’s broken me too much already, and now I’m even more afraid
For any of y'all that are feeling down about your love life, just know that I used to feel like you do now. I felt ugly and undeserving, I had my heart broken multiple times and were scared to go out into the dating life again. Then I met this boy. He found me, he reached out to me and made me feel better. We're now married with a gorgeous little son. He turned my depressed life around in a way I never knew was possible. But it is possible. There is someone out there for you, someone that is just waiting to love you and make you feel your best. Just hang in there, know that you are enough. Life can change so quickly, you just have to get through those tough times. Try to be that person that someone needs and always be yourself. I love you all, I'm certain that you will find the one for you ❤️
This really made me realize that “my Heather” is my best friend. She’s beautiful, kind, funny, and overall just the best kind of person. Everyone loves her so much, my friends and everyone I know will always choose her over me. I can’t even hate her because I would too, she’s just that perfect.
U just said what I was about to say she is my best friend for 10 years I can't hate her at all I would give her my world but shit she is my Heather 😭😭😭
Heather shes kind shes nice she doesnt judge she never gets judged she has friends shes funny shes beautiful shes happy everyone likes her shes smart Shes confident she gets good grades she dresses nice everyone has a crush on her shes a golden child She gets treated well no-one bullies her she smells nice Her parents let her do whatever she wants the teachers like her she has amazing hair young girls look up to her she has clear skin she has good make-up shes pretty her parents are nice she gets what she wants she has long eye-lashes she has deep blue eyes shes a people-person Everyone is her friend shes rich Nobody hates her she has no enemys everyone listens to her shes perfect 𝗶𝗺 𝗻𝗼𝘁
That’s kind of scary like I wouldn’t date a girl with clear skin like I don’t want to see your veins, muscles, organs and your nerves like have some skin
@@tsyukie they literally were talking about something sad and all you had to say is “Hello army?” It doesn’t seem like the right time to be saying that
@@lennysummers20 Look, you might have problems with that, I said what I had to, and you don't know what I'm going through right now, right? and 'Freedom Of Speech' is still a thing
Afia Shaikh As someone who can relate to this song somewhat....I can tell you that we are not alone...... I have already moved on from that situation....and I can tell that I feel stupid for all the things I did in the past....but then I realized my mistakes.....I’m happy to know that you feel nice knowing that you are not alone💜
the worst pain is telling someone all about you, your strengths and your weaknesses, because you thought they’d always be there for you. but in reality- now they just know all the ways to hurt you
yes. the girl heather was known as the ‘angel’ and was just so perfect Inside and out you literally couldn’t come to hate her because she was so perfect, but she didn’t realise that. Everyone is perfect even when you think your not, your worth more than gold. never doubt yourself.
SugaAnd Spice girl the ‘heather’ in the song was a girl that was so perfect inside and out, she was like an angel. He says he wishes she was dead because she was so mesmerising and perfect
@@wtfexza well it makes sense. You can literally create the perfect person (for you). You dont have to fall in "love with them" their just crushes. But if its cringe to you then that's fine.
@@wtfexzait's not cringe. let people be themselves, they're hurting no one. get a job rather than judging random people on the internet and irl as well
Sucks when ur best friend is heather and she’s slowly slipping away from you, getting boyfriends and more friends and falling in love when you can’t seem to do any of that. She’s getting bored of me. Edit: great to see everybody reaching out and sharing their stories and offering support in the replies. You guys are great, really. Thank you.
I had a freind like that, he was super extroverted and outgoing unlike me. But soon he became even more distant, not replying to dms and stuff, rarely hanging out, validating me at one moment and treating me like shit the next. I saw his stories hanging out with cool guys and girls. And i realised that i wasnt worth his time and attention, so i did the same to him, i didnt reply to his dms and didnt accept his once in a blue moon hangout invite and eventually cut him out completely. I got to make better and new freinds worked on my skills as a person. And lifes been way better. Dont limit urself with an productive relationship with another person. Trust me she/he is not worth it.
he is gay the song is about him liking a guy who has kinda shown he likes him but the guy he likes is with heather. Sorry if I came off as rude I don't mean too
I am crying while listening to this song, not by relating myself with Conan but with the other guy. I knew my best friend liked me, but I had no feelings for her. We were always close friends, but I never felt anything more than that with her. She always used to feel uncomfortable when I was with my other female friend, I did notice it, but I never thought of what she must have felt when she saw the one she loved with some other 'heather'. Listening to this song makes me think that she must have cried watching me with someone else. Which makes me cry listening to this song. The first thing I'm going to do after this is text her "sorry" for not understanding her feelings.
So true ..I always think that why the people in the internet are so nice than the people I meet in real life but then I think they are also the same with the people in their life ...im just guessing
pov: your sitting on your bed late at night listening to this song. your windows are open. you don’t even realize but tears are streaming down your face because you can relate to every line. as your engulfed by your tears, a cool nighttime breeze comes through and you get chills.. at this moment you wish you that sweater instead of her/him (this is me atm lmao)
i just want back my old self with no worries not all. I want to face the reality, instead of daydreaming my crush. I liked her damn much. It’s been a year. I didn’t cry, but as i keep listening to this song, the more harder i feel.
we were close, he asked me to go to his basketball game so i came. it was half time break and he went to the bleachers walked past by me like i wasn’t there. that was the first time and the last time i’ll go watch any game but damn man
Heather isn’t just a pretty face Heather is the girl whos perfect, who everyone loves, and you should love her too. But you can’t. She broke you without meaning to you have no reason to be mad at her but you still are. all because the person you like, likes her better.
god this song takes me back. it’s only been a year or two, but it feels so different but in the some way the same. it’s crazy to think though, how chapped my lips were then, how little i showered, how much i starved or binged. how little or how heavily i rested. my life was just empty and i saw nothing. i felt horrible and disgusted with everything about me. unworthy of any love. now it’s a little different, but in some way i always revert back to the same thoughts no matter what i do. just different habits. i still see nothing, just feel less empty. it’s crazy how long pain can last. it makes me worry that it’ll never go, i’ll never have that peace. so, i just live everyday of my life one after another. if anyone’s reading though thanks for reading my thoughts, it may seem empty but it’ll fill up eventually, whatever void it may feel like. there’s an ending to this and we’ll find it together. you got this, strangers across the internet but that doesn’t make you any less important. you got this, best wishes.
my ex would come to me for girl advice and he would tell me he had a girlfriend and i would give him the right and good advice because i'm a nice person but the whole time i did, i was crying so yea.
@@miovids hey hey hey u know what? Idk what you've been trough but I'm just 1 year older than you and.. Well to be honest I am scared aswell, but let me tell you living worth it, even if it sounds cliché or just and excuse to not think that way, living worth every second and in my opinion if u wanna rest in peace you should first enjoy all the things you still haven't seen, fall and stand, you know, all that shit. But yeah, you worth it and sorry for the long message, I just don't want you to think that nobody will miss u just because you are another person in this world full of humans. So yeah, I never take the time to do this but you should take a time to think about how good would it be to do all the things you dreamed about, hope u change your mind ❤️
im so scared that no one will ever fall in love with me. i’m scared that maybe someone will but they’ll see my friend... she’s so much better than me in every aspect.
i’m sure someone out there will want you and ONLY you. it’s not a great time right now but knowing that someone exists put there who will be thinking about you should motivate you to keep being yourself. you are loved :)
Heather isn’t just a pretty face and a perfect body She’s the girl who is living the life you’ve always wanted she’s the girl who everyone likes better But she’s also the most insecure girl and to her WE ARE all the heathers not her
Yup.. except what’s worse is that she has good mental health (my heather).. she doesn’t have any heathers. I want to be like her- it hurts being her best friend bc I can’t stop comparing myself and idk what to do
