Erica and her wife are both crazy. The fact that the wife works in mental health is what is even crazier. Bring Mama Lynn back! These other side characters are way too insane lol
I’m so sick of her using the BPD excuse, I have loved ones with BPD that are using money they don’t have for therapy because they want to take ACCOUNTABILITY for their behavior. Amberlynn has all the resources in the world to get help.
Yes and that’s great for them but fact is many people with BPD are seriously mentally ill. BPD is maybe not an excuse but it sure is a big part of why she is acting like she is. She hasn’t done therapy and this is how it shows.
@@HashtagAPI8my big issue, and I have BPD too. Is her making it others responsibilities when she’s triggered. Like Erica’s uncle died and she’s like “it’s triggering that you’re not here” when a family member died. Now I 100% get where Amber is coming from but she HAS to learn to cope and it is now up to her. I have felt that where I feel abandoned even though the person who is getting space has a good reason and all you can do is just get your own life and cope and get help and she won’t.
@@HashtagAPI8I have BPD and agree. But ppl have been telling her for ages to get help. She knows she needs help. She has the resources to get help. She just doesn’t and continues getting into these relationships. It continues to be frustrating to watch
@@llllll4061 Not to offend anyone with BPD but as I understand one of the main things is that many don’t realize they have a problem and I’m pretty sure ALR doesn’t really see how toxic she is
Erica could easily not do the 360 and block amber if she didn't want it. She loved the possessives and was possessive herself. don't forget first msg Erica sent Amber was "Masc and possesive?" implying that she is both of those things. She was smitten by our gorl and now she is saving face.
Exactly. And idk why theyre 'flexing' these possessive behaviours like are you not embarrassed???? You don't even live in the same house this isn't an abusive relationship calm the fuck down. Such try hards that are now embarrassed that this went public.
The thing is... I have BPD and around 6 to 7 years ago, before intensive therapy, I was just as manipulative as ALR. I didnt even acknowledge it even tho everyone told me I am. I thought being manipulative means plotting and scheming. But it's not. We (BPD people) can have a very warped view on reality. Often we dont even know how heavily we influence others. It's crazy to me to see it all now. The way ALR talks about it and on the phone with Brittany... I dont think she's even 20% aware of it. It's just weird to hear her talk about her perspective bc it REALLY IS REAL TO HER even tho we all can see the truth
Right?? Erica and brittany made the first step....like, Amber is a lot of things but probably not a homewrecker.... Anyways everybody got what they deserved in the end 😌😅
I was thinking that Beck must be sitting back, having a good laugh at all this nonsense. Beck is living her best life, in a happy, committed relationship with a woman she loves….while AL is getting passed around by polys, a couple in an open marriage& a FDer 😂😂😂 Beck definitely won that breakup!
Erica and her wife made Amber look good in all this. Which is nuts. There is no one who looks good in this but they just look worse. Lets focus on Tommy. This is all a distraction.
LMAO Amber is trying to act like Erica and "take responsibility" but then she blames it on her mental illnesses and/or Erica. That's not taking responsibility, that's trying to shove the blame elsewhere. She also doesn't seem upset. Remember how "anxious" and on the verge of tears she was when revealing Erica's name? Now she's perfectly fine. Regardless, *everyone* was in the wrong in this situation. Everyone.
Britney is making me sick the way she's like I never asked to be dragged into this..like..yeah you did batch. You messaged ALR 'as a troll' and then after that ended you went public with it, doing interviews with reaction channels, TAGGING reaction channels, making videos you know ppl will click on. How can they say they don't want this? They love this and they are eating this attention all up
you know what I think? tommy moved in with her under the condition she would tell youtube they broke up and pretend they weren't living together. i'm not sure if tommy's aware she's giving us all these hints that they're living together - if she follows her channel, probably so. can you imagine if she wants a wiper so bad but still wants to let us know she's got one so bad that she loses the woman again? crazy
My theory (take it with a grain of salt) is that Valentine probably didn't start the relationship to troll but probably to see if they could ride the gravy train. That's why the wife was in on it. That's why valentine stayed so anonomys. When it came time to move in, they realized the jig is up and bounced. Everything would have just ended there, no real loss. Untill Tommy came into the picture and blew everything up. To protect Tommy, Amber blew the whistle and caused the situation we have now. They are both spouting half truths to cover their asses. I don't think valentine ever really fell in love, and i think Amber just wanted someone to brag about online. Both were probably equally crazy during the "relationship"
20:30 i mean she’s kinda right about erica & britney, that’s kinda shitty to do as a therapist, but amber still acted like a crazy stalker… forcing ur online gf to be on life360 is way too damn much 💀
No one forced her to add her though. I feel like they don’t take responsibility for the fact that they could have said no. Amber didn’t have a gun to anyone’s head.
What amber described she did was using narcissistic tactics of manipulation. She was using triangulation with other women to try and make erica jealous. And then crying to try and push her to do what she wanted. And then she just blames it all on BPD. No that's definitely narcissistic.
Yes but also she did this as an extreme way to not be abandoned which is what people with BPD do. They will do extreme things to not be abandoned it’s part of the criteria
You know, I actually dislike Erica and her wife more than amber. There I said it. The one I hate the most is the wife. Brittany, or whatever her name is. She’s a therapist? Gross.
I'm honestly inclined to believe a lot of what she says. The way Erica and Brittney talked about the whole situation was sus. It was pretty clear to me that it started off as a troll and then Erica grew feelings for her(spent all that money on her, etc) which is why she kept that info hidden from Brittney. Brittney wasn't happy with it which is why she threatened to expose ALR. I also think they are mostly to blame for what has transpired here. Yes, ALR is stupid and shouldn't be talking to married women, but I still think it is mainly their fault.
I truly don't know how it is THAT bad 😩. English is my second language, but I picked up most of my vocabulary through reading- which in turn translates to me mispronouncing a bunch of words, since I've never heard them. But miss lynn looooooves to read, so idk how it is this bad!
I really don't anderstand how is Amberlynn fault on this one. A girl contacted her to troll, said she was single or so and then Amber revealed her name to prove Valentine was real in respons to M. snowflake who said "if she Can prove it she will otherwise she lied". Did I missed something ? English is not my first language so maybe... I really don't get the Backlash
I think in the beginning of their relationship that you’re correct; Amber got trolled and didn’t know better. Were people start to blame her is when she realized that Erica’s marriage was real/things were getting fishy and she still stayed despite the red flags. Plus the whole aspect that Amber was completely cool with starting a whole ass relationship with someone she’d never met IRL. In my opinion no one in this group is a victim but yeah Amber definitely got played in the beginning.
@@becks9922 ok but, at the begining she didn't know so she developed feelings for the girl and then well i Can anderstand she was involved and in love. she was single the other girl not so I definitly blame the one who cheat. Not the one who is played even if, she ends up knowing. For the red flags yes so i see her as a victim. I can't blame someone for not seeing an abuse
I think the truth is in the middle. They were both playing bpd games with each other and downplaying their side of the crazy. Slightly more sympathetic to amber tho bc she at least went into it with good intentions.
I have BPD, have been in therapy forever. She does not have BPD. BPD knows BPD. She sometimes recites things she remembers from "12 things people with BPD do" Buzzfeed articles.
I have BPD too (almost in remission, yay!) - I was diagnosed over a decade ago, and at no point - even when I wasn't in therapy - did I ever say "I have bpd" in response to any and all criticism. It's a condition that can be treated, not an excuse for every little thing. If people with DID have to take responsibility for things their alters do, then we also have to take responsibility for the things we have to do/say when we're upset, angry, etc. I have no opinion on whether she does or doesn't have it, given her childhood I wouldn't be surprised. What bothers me is that "guys I have BPD" has become a mantra for her for everything. It's frustrating because it makes us all look bad and adds to the already existing stigma BPD has (I see it's becoming a new, trendy insult online, the same way NPD was last year, and AsPD prior to that). Stigma results in newly diagnosed people going into denial, because they have heard and believe terrible things about BPD. People going into denial results in people not getting help. Not getting help can have extremely severe consequences. The only solution for BPD is getting help. You can't sit around like Amber and say "I have BPD" any time you receive critique, whilst also refusing to get help for that illness when you have the means to do so. At that point you are literally just saying "I know why I behave this way, and I am making the choice to continue to live in chaos and harm's way." That's so unhelpful for literally everyone. Even those who don't have access to therapy have access to the internet where they can engage in educating themselves on DBT techniques, and they have access to their own behaviour and minds - there's no excuse to sit around and shrug and say "well, I have BPD so it's fine for me to behave this way." That's a choice to be miserable, sorry. It's insanely difficult, but lack of action just keeps it difficult. We all owe it to ourselves to help ourselves, she's no different.
@@mortal-enemy In general, claiming that one has some sort of a psychiatric disorder, has been BIG online. It's one way for people to be louder than the internet noise that's louder by the day. Everyone we don't like these days is a narcissist, everyone who is sad or anxious has depression and anxiety, everyone who has a hard time focusing has ADHD... the list goes on and on. I so wish I didn't have BPD. I am nowhere near remission, and don't believe I will ever be, despite therapy and medication. (Obviously, BPD is not my only diagnosis.) I just wish people stopped pretending that they had disorders that can be debilitating for those who do. Not for gatekeeping reasons, but because it completely masks real issues. I do say "I have BPD" because it's a part of me - like I said, I don't think it will ever not be. I don't know a life without BPD. If I ever not had it, I don't remember, like I don't remember about 95% of my life. I carry BPD with me everywhere I go. I don't blame it for anything more than I blame myself. I don't blame people who don't get it, for I understand that it is like a foreign language for them, just like not having BPD is a foreign language to me. Whenever I hear about a serial killer's absolutely horrific childhood, I always think, "I understand that his soul just couldn't escape that unscaved. But, those people he killed had nothing to do with his childhood. It is still his responsibility to not kill people." Similarly, I don't use BPD as an excuse. I understand where my emotions come from, but they don't justify me hurting others - I am the only one responsible for what I DO, even if I am unable to control how I FEEL. Congratulations on your "almost remission"! 💙
Lets not sit here and act like this is all ambers fault guys I never defended her but some of you in the comments are being unreasonable everyone is at fault here all around horrible
Hey I know you don’t mean to be malicious in this sense, but women who are musclular are stereotyped as using sterioids. I don’t know if the rumors are confirmed, but even if she was on steroids, it’s not “obvious” Building muscle as a woman is difficult as ef and idk it’s a shame people just see that hard work as someone using /addicted to drugs
True, but he can still add them later! Keep in mind SO MUCH came out at once and he had like 12 hours to out this video and the one after this together!
Amber Lynn probably doesn’t even qualify for SSDI. She might qualify for SSI but the max payout for that is like 943 per month and you aren’t allowed to earn any money in order to receive that amount.
You have them backwards. She may qualify for SSDI but that is based on what you have paid into the system. I know a few people on it who get like $1,400 a month.
I understand it’s hard to be exposed like this on the internet, but this situation would be bad for her mental health with or without RU-vid. I’m not sure why so much of this is RU-vid’s fault…
@@PettyDavisEyes if I’m honest once her bull 💩 gets to a certain point I can’t even keep watching. No matter how much I enjoy Alex or Jordy or Karina or Ankle.. I just can’t do it. I didn’t even finish it, I keep seeing my favs have made reactions and I just can’t bring myself to watch.
I get furious at her claims of having worked two jobs. She spent two weeks training for a data processing job and then quit. She claimed her chair made her back hurt. She volunteered where Destiny worked and then got a part time job with them where she spent time talking to the residents and filming herself in the bathroom. She needs a reality check at how hard most people work and what it takes from them. It's a heck of a lot more than filming and talking about yourself for 20 minutes every other day and then spending hours on the phone with potential love interests and watching You Tube.
After listening to the Jordy stream and this video I feel there is a 50/50 on the truths. At this point it's she said vs she said. But what I can't wrap my head around is that Brittany is an Addiction Counselor (thanks for that detail btw) and she thought it would be a great idea to troll someone who has mental health problems because they don't like her. That is so so twisted and sick. That is high school level of bullying and they are all in their 30s. WTF. At this point the couple could've just kept their mouths shut and not say a damn thing and let ALR sit in her hole. Now that their Instagram is all in the open, I wouldn't be surprised if they were after some form of clout saying "look at me. I lift weights" or "look at us. We stuck it to Amber". It's so immature.
I love how Amber's excuse for not breaking up with Erica after learning about her marriage being real and not "technical" is that her brain wouldn't allow it. Gorl, you ARE your brain
I think what she meant was her mental illness..and we aren't our mental illnesses even though they are apart of that. But what she means is since she isn't in therapy that she is well aware of needing, she rolled with her BPD and emotions rather than making a wise decision, which she is incapable of and will remain incapable of if she never gets long term therapy. She knows she uses her BPD as an excuse.
exactly what you said..its not bad..it makes people want to watch..just like Amber knows damn well if she did a live..she would make a shit load of money off superchats
Tommy is still in the picture. she gives zero fucks about valentine, she's using her as a distraction from tommy and also reverting back to the "all attention is good attention" amber. come off it girl. also not justifying what the couple did but: kaaarrrmmmaaaa.
But realistically, even if she manages to find a job she can do that will hire her with no experience....she's going to have a hard time adjusting to the pay for those kind of jobs. Yeah, it might pay the rent, but most people with "normal" jobs can't afford Uber Eats multiple times a day.
Was Erica working during the past 10 months or not? Amber says at one point Erica was upset about her relationship and had to "leave work" early, but Alexis said Erica isn't working. I don't understand how you can be working (especially as prison guard in a maximum security prison) and on the phone with Amber for five hours a day. (But then Alexis was "at work" while on the phone for Amber's live for hours.) Amber would have liked Erica to not have a job and move in with her so she could control Erica the way she did Beck.
Maybe Erica felt she needed more attention. Her wife was working, had to travel some distance to get to and from work, couldn't sit and spend much time with her on the phone during her workday and probably came home tired and cranky. Maybe Erica enjoyed the "sexy" photos and videos (ugh) and the Tik Toks directed secretly to her. Maybe she was proud that Amber was so needy and desperate for her attention, at least at first. All these things were a heady brew that seemed like love but it was a mixture of boredom, frustration and unmet longings in her main relationship. doesn't excuse the cheating, but may help to explain it.
Can we get an interview with Brittany, Erica, and Amber, please? I don't trust anything this girl is saying. She just doesn't sound genuine to me. She seems like she is being deceitful.
Amber is incapable of making genuine connections outside of social media/youtube 😮💨😮💨 Of course alexis is now your bestie. ya’ll met through insta….and you believe she has no ulterior motives LMAOO she is front row to your chaotic life and has your trust and “friendship,” along with wanting to be involved in who you reply to and what you say. What “friend” wants that control??
Imagine, spending all day just chatting to people online. Can’t put that in a resume Amber!!! What a waste of life, your face stuck to the screen instead of going out there and experiencing life!!
She was played, but continued to play the game when she found out bestie was married. While ALR didn't step out of her marriage, she wanted Erica to leave her wife for her and kept contacting even when the wife called her out. Ambie isn't innocent either
@@jess8838although I’ve never done it millions of women get involved with married people after being lied to. Amber didn’t do anything worse than millions of women before her. I would bet people commenting on how awful Amber is has done exactly what Amber did. People are clutching their pearls only because it’s Amber.
Nah I can’t with this! Erika and Brittany are way worse than amber 110%. I do believe amber was manipulated in this situation and I don’t believe a word that comes out of this couples mouths. It’s so annoying that no one is going in on Erica for spending so much money on amber
This entire thing just reinforced the opinion that Amber only sees people as they benefit her and reinforce her self delusions of grandeur. Erica said she was a hater and then started wondering who was the real Amberlynn. Amber said she got to know the real Amber. Truth is she go to know the real Amber and ran. Just like Krystal, Destiny, Becky and Faline. Eventually, Amber and Alexis will decide they other is no longer a benefit to them and go all scorched earth on each other. And I will be here with everyone else asking someone to pass the popcorn.
ambers fake tears drive me crazy. breaking news - if youre crying, actual liquid will fall out of your eyes. repeatedly wiping your cheeks when there's nothing there will probably give you a rash or something
If anyone knows what state she practices in please comment to you know keep me from having too find out if you know she’s sick and deserves to have her license pulled I want to help accomplish that thanks
LMFAO she knows they are bad people if they bring others into it...aka how many people did Amber talk shit about to Erica?? lol she is totallt gaslighting right now..she is so evil. lol
Halfway thru--the threats to leave yt may be tommy in her ear saying they can b together off yt so nobody can see Im a psych major. This is a huge red flag. Ppl plz pay attention to this cause im going on vacay😂
A small thing but i dont beleive erica made a routine to call her....its like how with Destiny, Destiny always had to phone her on her lunch break. ALR would be the one twlling HER sont talk to person A/B/C. I think theres probably truth mixed all up in both of their stories. But idk i dont think Erica was in love with her, i think it was maybe hard to leave bc of ALRs emotional manipulation, that i think a lot of people would fall for. But everyone here is looking pretty bad hahahah
Erica could easily not do it and block amber if she didn't want it. She loved the possessives and was possessive herself. don't forget first msg Erica sent Amber was "Masc and possesive?" implying that she is both of those things.
