How Do I Stop Lending Money To My Family? 

Pay her back

pay her back !

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Wow you’re really inspiring to admit that and my situation was similar but it wasn’t money. it was that I could always live with them lol but once I had to move out and get my own place my life became so much better! ❤

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Ditto, I went to lunch one day with a "friend", and when the bill came he said "you're rich you should pay it all". I said yeah, I am not rich, and I work for every penny, 60 hours a week, and my hard work isn't paying for you to eat out. I was working 60 hours plus, a week to cashflow my bachelor degree! meanwhile his work ethic was live with his mommy at the age of 46 and work a low paying job 32 hours a week, if that, with no desire to work more than that! Needless to say we are not fiends anymore since I got sick of his entitlement syndrome! People with poor work ethic, and those who are just allergic to hard work seem to think money just grows on trees in the backyard for those of us working overtime etc so we can go out to eat on occasion and/or to an event.

That’s actually super helpful, thanks! 🙏🏻

You have a smart uncle

What is that phrase?

@@janelleg597 its "to one who lacks shame, you respond without shame"

How do you say that, in Spanish?

Si no te da pena pedir, a mi no me da pena decir que no. If you don’t have shame asking, I don’t have shame saying no.

My brother makes ~$50K/mo. If I asked for $2K, ...

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@@aolvaar8792you should ask him how and to train you ! 🙌🏾

@@aolvaar8792so its not your money to ask for no matter how much they make a month

Right. I personally just tell them a half truth, which in reality isn't a lie at all. I simply say my liquid funds that AREN'T part of my emergency fund is tied up in high yield money market accounts (not necessarily mentioning the accounts) which in reality, minus mentioning the actual amount in my "emergency fund," is true. It's the easiest way. If they persist and ask for even a "smallish" amount, I simply say I can't. One person a while back - who I really don't know that well at all, and only know him from the neighborhood pub I've gone to the past few years, asked me for a thousand dollars until "next" week. I know the guy works a lot - like seven days a week as a painter - and he's a good guy who was in a jam with his son's mother and court costs and such so I'm sure it was an honest and legitimate request, but I had no problem looking him in the eye and telling him, again, truthfully, I've had some really bad experiences loaning people money and I don't do it anymore. He understood.

When you are as wealthy as Dave which is highly unlikely then you can make this ignorant statement.

Everyone who is human (and that's almost all of us lol) will still make mistakes all our lives off and on. No one can live a perfect life 100% of the time, (except Jesus of course).

I agree. In fact, I hated loaning money to a couple of friends years ago, but I did, and neither time did it end well. I by NO MEANS do it to make myself feel good or better than them at all. It was something that took me by such surprise before I knew it I was agreeing. If I'd had an inkling that either were going to ask I'd have thought of some way to say no ahead of time. Was I cowardly to not say no anyhow? Probably. That was years ago and now I have no problem saying no.

Its truly hard to say no especially when someone ask and you say you dont have it and they ask is there any amount you can loan? Also, when people manipulate you by saying you’re the only person they have. Ive falling for this so many times because it feels good to be there for a person but sucks ass when they dont pay you back

Just die with the student loan lol

That's how some people are. Once they find no use of you, they will cut your off. They are the heavy users who are not good at all. Don't ever feel bad for not lending. Don't let them manipulating you.

Looking to do this tomorrow if I dont get my money

Continue. Good Lad

Did you tell her about ONLY FANS? 🎥

I agree. Forgive and move on. Kidney failure is extremely difficult. Diabetes can be managed.

I'd say holding a debt over a permanently disabled sibling is definitely breaking his promise to his parents.

That sounds like a bunch of BS. As someone with Kidney Failure it is NOT even close to any kind of permanent disability. If your mom wasn't working for 20 years she didn't want to.

@@ClaxtonBay123 what are you talking about? YES it is she was discharge from her teaching loans because they knew she would not be able to work again. Remind you she was stage four and plus you would need to keep going to dialysis

Nah, with the homeless, it's completely different.

​@@catlady2795no, they are all drug addicts and alcoholics. If you give them money it goes straight to the dealer or liquor store.

Without asking for it or did you confront her?

Never saw any of the money I lent or the money they charged behind my back I forgave them but I stopped

At least you got it back 😂

She got a 9 year $5000 0% interest loan?

I had a colleague with kidney disease, got dialysis 2x/week, and still worked. Guess the impact it has on each patient varies from case to case.

They should be eligible for disability, but there are people who can work on the days they don’t have dialysis. It depends on the severity.

They can look for an online job

I am a Bangladeshi citizen, I live in UAE, my family lives in Bangladesh, I have no parents, we have 8 people in our family, 3 are sick, our condition is very bad, I am also sick, so I want help.

I'm pretty sure that supporting a permanently disabled member of the family is exactly what his promise meant to his parents.

professionalism

Pretty sure the building still has Ramsey Solutions on it

But there is a difference between helping someone get back on their feet and people who do absolutely nothing to change their life. Just because they are family doesn’t mean you enable a bad lifestyle. Listen to what Dave said!

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There’s a huge difference between helping and enabling. If the problem endlessly repeats, you’re an enabler.

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don't miss the lesson. he didn't say not to help. He actually said to help. Help comes in many forms and most times we don't like how it comes. it doesn't always involve dishing out cash.

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