How to Dress Femininely Casual 

Every time I wore a dress or a skirt my family would say "Where are you going?" It made me feel really self conscious but I just kept doing it until they stopped lol they still do it sometimes but you just got to keep pushing through!

You're right about feminine clothing now being considered "formal." The attitude has become "Why should I wear a dress/skirt/ect.? I'm not going anywhere special..."

"There is no reason why we need to be ashamed for looking like women" Thanks. Just... thanks

I love Korean fashion. They know how to embrace their feminity.

I stopped wearing t-shirts altogether and I always wear a blouse. I try to wear skirts as often as I can, but when I don't, I always wear dark, high waisted jeans. I always use a handbag unless I go to the gym or hiking. I also always have a bracelet on. ☺️

I love how you showed us pictures of girls in a hijab , thank you for including us

I love that you use all different bodies, races and cultures to demonstrate what you’re talking about. It makes my heart so happy to know that I’m not the only traditionalist who isn’t elitist or biased towards slim white women. You are beautiful 💕

I love that in Japan teenage girls look and act girly while adult women look and act more feminine and give you that mother vibe ♡

I love how you gave so many examples of women of different shapes, sizes, ages and shades! I'm a new subscriber and am loving all your content. I always come away feeling so empowered as a women!

Thank you for this topic! A lot of feminine gurus recommend us to dress more feminine but never touch on casual wear.

i remember as a child i would flat out reject dresses and pink (i'd literally run away from my mom whenever she would try to put me in a dress) because i thought being 'girly' was frowned upon. I wanted to be the 'cool' girl instead. Now i'm finally embracing my femininity inside and outside (:

I’ve always been a tomboy so I’ve always been a jeans and t shirt girl and to be honest I feel good and comfortable in it. But I loved the fact that you mentioned that simply by changing the colors up a bit, t shirt and jeans can become feminine. So thanks! I’m gonna try to add a balanced touch more

Dropping some truth bombs down the line Mrs, that competition part is so true. When women upgrade their appearance - when men upgrade their goals and climb = snide comments and envy Never be discouraged and keep on marching your path.

Could you please do a video showing us different feminine hairstyles? You seem to master it perfectly!

I love how she points out that as a girl anytime you wear a dress you always get asked “why are you so dressed up?” I’ll wear a very casual dress and literally EVERYONE asks if I’m going somewhere or why I’m so dressed up.

Exactly what i was looking for. As a Christian teen in todays day it's pretty hard to find feminine casual modest outfits on the high street. maybe I'll try thrifting more!

Omg I resonate with “feeling attacked” & “jealous” of feminine women.. that is so funny!!! Why is that?!! I am looking forward to embracing my transformation into femininity! 💖

You know you’ve finally found your true friends when you start to put more effort into your outfits and they compliment you and say you look nice!!!

I overheard a conversation recently where a daughter told her mother and maybe her aunt she was planning on wearing her denim skirt to Christmas dinner. Her mother and aunt asked why she was dressing up. She said it’s just a jean skirt and they said exactly a skirt. I felt so bad for her and also how is a denim skirt dressing up too much. ?!?

I love how u included hijabi women too. we feel very included, thank you.

Honestly this video is so helpful, being a college girl and just always being on the go it’s hard to dress feminine but this video really helps

In college, male friends often commented that I always "look nice" or "put together". I wore almost exclusively sundresses and skater skirts. Even in the winter I often wore skirts with sweaters and black tights. To me, my outfits were so easy because dresses are just one piece and I didn't have to think about it. I just feel better and more put together when wearing what a previous job I had called "snappy casual" 😊

I started wearing dresses and skirts six months ago and boy did I get noticed and questioned why I was doing this and where was I going that day that was so special. I did not let it tampered with my new goal which would be continual feminine wardrobe. Now it is six months later and I still feel really good when I go to pick up my clothes at night and go to wear them in the morning. As far as jeans and skirts I’ve never looked back. Dresses and skirts are something I’ve always enjoyed and my husband really enjoys to see me in as well. There is nothing more attractive to a man then a feminine woman. Just watch the show Calamity Jane. When you look different from this larger modern crowd beware of a lot more attention from classier men and stares from modern society. They will look at you because you look different Let’s face it it’s not common to see a woman in a dress but it will always will be in a good way. And who knows maybe you’ve influenced them to look a little more feminine in their every day life. It’s hard to walk away from the larger crowd and start doing things that are different. I stopped following them and now I look different because have embraced my femininely. If you look good you will feel good. For these people that want to wear yoga pants I agree it is a totally comfy feel but it is not feminine. It’s easier to feel comfy. And that makes it easier for them make money off of you. Thank you for making this video. A lot of women need to hear it so they can make the first step.

Love this! As a female engineer in college I have to say it is not the norm to dress and act feminine but it’s something I’m trying to embrace more recently and I really feel like I feel more confident and welcoming.

I came from a strict Christian high school where girls needed to wear dresses or skirts. I never felt bad about it and loved the diversity of my outfits, but when I started university people would literally tell me I wasn't as developed as them because I was "opressed"?? So I love your channel and the messages that you send to young girls, we should never feel like we don't matter or less intelligent just because we like to dress feminine!

You're such an inspiration and what many young women need to hear these days. We really need to hear that it's okay to be feminine in today's society. Thank you :)

I wore a simple black dress to visit my friend at her retail job the other day and she made such a big deal about it. She was complimenting me but it was just uncomfortable having so much attention drawn to me simply for wanting to present a bit more feminine.

The inclusivity in the pictures/examples is so lovely. Thank you for not just saying you welcome everyone but really showing how much we're all welcome and how we can all be feminine and beautiful regardless of religion, race, size, etc.

As a college student, this video is so helpful. I've been watching "how to be elegant" videos and sometimes i feel sad cuz they don't really recommend casual wear, but i still loveeee those gurus. Thank you so much for this

I hate how wearing a dress equates to overdressing, that you must spend tons on clothes, must be trying to be sexy, that you don't care about comfort, or you spend a lot of time getting ready. Um no, at least not necessarily. The vast majority of dresses are not ball gowns! Many dresses cost much less than jeans/pants, and then there's having to get a top to go with them. You also don't need to be in perfect shape to wear a dress. In fact, they are much more flattering on many bodies. I like jeans and they can look stylish too, but I find dresses more comfortable, affordable, flattering, and easy. I wish the dress shaming would stop! To me, saying "where you are going?" to someone in a dress is rude. I wouldn't ask someone why they spent a hundred bucks on skinny jeans they can hardly breathe in and highlight every flaw.

Having a hater like Jaclyn Glenn just shows you’re doing something right. Be wary when all men speak well of you. Offending no one is not the answer.. Wow there is a lot of jealousy out there! Love to you & the fem fam💕

I have been raised to literally only take care of myself and that men and women are suppose to be equals. Then I found your channel and you have revolutionized my perception. I started dating this very traditional man. Hes a marine and from southern missouri and we hit it off from the start. He was raised by pastors and I was raised without religion. So learning from you has helped me very much. I want to provide comfort for him and make a home for him. Dinner on the table when he gets home, a clean house, support him, take care of his needs and include God more in our relationships and lives and I feel like your channel is a great learning tool and place for me to come too. Thanks so much sugar.

I love how you include pictures of women in headscarves in your examples!

I love that you show pictures of woman all over the world with different religions and ethnicities !😍

I’d LOVE to see a dedicated video on dressing femininely in the winter! I always find it difficult to dress femininely when it gets cold.

I love how these women who say we should support each other love tearing down other women for not being like them. I love that you talk about how to dress feminine and don’t act as though there’s something wrong with dressing androgynously. You’re doing great!

Something that I put a ton of effort into this summer was looking for feminine styles, colors, and silhouettes in T-shirts. Though it was actually a lot of work (probably because I was combing the t-shirt section of a thrift store!), the result was awesome! I always had super comfy go-to shirts, but they looked really feminine when I put them on. I think that a key here is to do the hard work on the front end (i.e. shopping for however long it takes, to bring the items into your wardrobe), so that in the moment of truth (when you're getting dressed and don't feel like putting a ton of energy into your outfit), the pieces comes together effortlessly and femininely!

Oh my god you have spoken to my soul ! This is exactly what I have been telling ppl that dressing feminine and embracing that energy will bring out every woman s true nature aka setting yourself free . I dont live in the west Im in the middle east we emebrace femininity though there is a huge western influence now because of the media and women are starting to be more androgynous thinking thats the modern way to go . I motivated 1 of my friends that wanted to change her style she said she has never been more happier cuz it released her true self . I love your channel and will support you ❤️❤️

I love how you incorporated women with scarf on their heads, showing how tolerante you are in terms of cultures and religions, I respect that and thanks for the amazing advices 🙏

Me and my friend are on a femininity journey and I'm constantly sending her your videos. Thanks for all the great info xo

Yes yes and yes. You hit the exact emotion that i have been feeling lately. I have been trying to look for more feminine clothing but have no idea how to!!

I am a 16 year old girl who loves dresses and skirts but my school doesnt allow them! I cant wait to get out of high school so i can wear beautiful feminine clothes everywhere❤

I’m having a hard time embracing my feminine figure when I’m so small and ‘skinny’. It’s hard to feel confident when there’s not much there, and it’s hard for me to gain weight so I do weight lifting to build muscle which builds curves but it takes time and I always wish I had a naturally curvy body

Yay another video! Every time I see you in your thumbnail I can’t stop thinking about how beautiful you are! I’m a taller blonde girl just like you and your videos have helped me so so so much for embracing my inner femininity. I used to feel ashamed of wearing dresses and skirts because people always said I was too dressed up. But now I wear whatever I want as long as I feel good regardless of if it seems fancy to others! Thank you so much Caitlyn! Hope I spelled that right😳😂 let’s support each other ladies. Build each other up not tear each other down. Go girls!❤️❤️❤️

OMG your video is just perfectly what I was looking for! Every time I’m going shopping it stresses me because I go around looking for something that looks feminine yet not too girly and I’m usually lost, I end up picking up things that either make me look stiff or manly. And that as a result of looking through the internet trying to see how could I dress up according to trends. Thing is, I am that kind of woman who doesn’t like to dress super pink or whatever things like that IDK how to even describe it. Anyhow, thanks to your video I know now what I can go for to get a perfect casual feminine dressing ❤️ ty ty ty!!

A beautiful, 3/4 length, wrap cardigan worn over exercise clothes when you leave the gym = 👍. I LOVED this video so much, Caitlyn. I was actually going to request you do a video on this very topic for the working-out-of-the-home women. Different ways they can add femininity to their "professional" clothing (which is often masculine or unisex. ie: police uniform, medical lab whites, suits etc) without breaking company or safety/hygiene rules. Also, would LOVE a video on how to bring femininity into your off-work hrs for women who feel they can't overdo it in the workplace. Have a lovely day, ladies! Stay feminine.❤

Great!!! Mrs. Midwest. Keep it up! You don’t even imagine all the women you’re reaching and teaching without you even knowing. You are a BIG glass of water in this big dessert of femininity now a days. God bless you and your marriage 🌷

Not on topic but your eyebrows really flatter you here 💕 they look a bit different

When I dress up someone will say "Wow, are you going to a party?" - What I feel I want to reply to this is "I'm a woman!" or tell them it feels wonderful to dress feminine because I am a woman. I like to wear a pretty, colorful hairscrunchie on my wrist, almost like a bracelet, it feels feminine and it's useful too. If puts me in feminine mood, somehow, when it comes to clothes. And I tied a beautiful classy looking scarf on the back of my purse, it always feel stylish and it's a feminine statement of mine...Even when you see me from the back. I have learned so much from your videos. Suddenly I couldn't wear the yoga/workout pants as casual clothing, I suddenly see how it looks... I even care about dressing feminine/classy at home now, comfortable fabric that feels soft upon my skin and colors which I love and floral print, my absolute favorite. It's the best I know in my closet. Skirts and floral and I rock it with some feminine looking sneakers. I love heels but when casual I take the sneakers, to my skirts.

I would love to see a feminine casual fall/winter wear edition in specific

Literally the video I needed 🙌🙌🙌 I work in a VERY business casual environment. Like, they said it was business casual when I was hired, and most people wear jeans, sneakers, and sweatshirts. We can literally wear whatever we want to on saturdays. However, I choose to only wear skirts. Every saturday people literally show up in their pajamas, and I'm the odd one out in a casual outfit. I basically dress the same tuesday-saturday, other than wednesday when I want to look a bit nicer when I go straight to mid-week church.

I love love loveeddd, that you put different women in your video. And the hijabi girls made me soo happy, i never see them featured in video’s. And im sad that not many people make modest fashion videos. So thank you!

I love you! You’re the first influencers I’ve seen feature a sari in this kind of video! From an Indian, thank you!

Thank you so much for this video! I have been trying to dress more feminine (even including dresses and skirts). So many family members ask ' Why are you so dressed up?' Even when it's a basic jersey/cotton maxi dress.

i need a video on how to look feminine when wearing winter clothes because so many of these coats make me look like a big marshmallow sleeping bag and i’m just trying to be warm lol. also how to look feminine in a field type job? since those are usually filled with cargo pants and tshirts

thanks for this, I’m a sophomore in highschool, and I want to dress femininely but can’t wear a dress to school, you know? all the love 💕

I wear dresses and skirts everyday, I have one pair of jeans, dresses are so comfortable! For everyday, casual look I choose cotton, jerseys and viscose. Most of my office dresses are navy, dark blue or dark green. In the summer I wear light fabrics and more playful patterns and colours. I work in totally masculine industry and work mainly with men, so wearing dress gives me some kind of signature look and feeling of feminity. Since I swiched to dresses as office clothes I never had trouble matching pieces together, it's just one piece and some minimal accesories (small silver earings, delicate silver braclet, scarf, small bag). It gives me less stressful mornings, less decisions to make ;) Casual dress became my uniform and I totally encourage you to try!

“Find colours you can find in nature”🙌

I’m so happy I found this video, I started working in a maintenance position and was struggling to not look frumpy. Thank you! 🙏

You were right on about other people making comments about feminine clothing. It's sad to see other women getting catty, jelous or rude because someone decides to reject the culture norms of dressing androgynously, but it happens all the time.

The way you approach this subject, your boldness, and diversity of representations, your videos have aided in my healing so so much. Thank you for all you do, and please keep going!

You’re the only trad-woman on here that I actually like. I want to remain celibate and start dressing more feminine and modest and your videos are very useful :) thank you!!

I love the message behind your blog. Yes! We can be feminine AND tough and cool at the same time

Thank you so much for your videos. You've really helped me be able to embrace my femininity. I remember when I was little I always loved dressing up and being girly but when I got to kindergarten every girl seemed to hate dresses and thought they were uncool. I wanted to fit in so I stopped wearing them unless I was forced to wear something nicer for an occasion. Until recently. Now I'm 16 and it's taken me 10 years to get back to my true self!

Thank you THANK YOU THANK YOU!! This is just what I needed. I’m in need of being more casual but I didn’t know how to stay cute without my blouses and skirts. Please make more videos about this 🥹❤

Love when you also put hijabi girl as an examples 💗💋

Omg this is one of my faves! Thanks for this! I would definitely be interested in you creating a video on how to address jealous or envious people in a Lady like way because I DEFINITELY struggle in that area.

Yay! I love that you are covering this topic! I have always disliked wearing pants, but it makes it hard when I need to go somewhere where a dress will not be appropriate for the activity!

Excellent video! I've been struggling to feel feminine and womanly in casual clothes so this video is perfect. Thank you!

I’m from California. Just moved to the Midwest here in Missouri. I’ve been watching and subscribed you since I lived in California. Love you. Loved the beginning of the video! A lot of woman feel threatened. Thank you for being you. ❤️❤️❤️

This is something I need to start working on, lack of body confidence can make potentially drawing attention to yourself a difficult thing to get your head around but you are so right, why not celebrate the woman we are if we feel that will bring us joy ... I need to just be brave and stop worrying about judgement that is actually 100% irrelevant. Thank you 🌼🌸🌼

Thank you ,You are such a blessing, beautiful lady. Im an mature woman, but you have opened my eyes to so much needed inspiration. God Bless

I dont know why, but your videos make me feel at peace.

Spotted : Asian queen Irene, hijabi french singer Mennel both are known for their feminine style ☺

I saw one Filipina in the picture am proud of her....

So happy to see your subscribers climbing! Loved this video.

You captured the dilemma of casual clothing vs femininity SO well, and you shared a lot of excellent pointers as well! (And bonus for the diversity in your photo examples!)

I have always struggled with finding a way to style outfits so that I could feel confident in myself as a woman. I love how you are encouraging women to embrace our femininity. These tips were super helpful and interesting. Thanks for the video!

Your videos along Alexandrasgirlytalk's are so informative and well made I can't stop watching. Make me feel so happy about learning more about dressing better ♥️✨

Love your beginning comments! This is very helpful, I like to see feminine causal looks like cotton dresses and pretty colors as it is very lovely and ladylike 💕

I love how you gesticulate with your hands when you speak. You're so expressive and passionate with what you're saying. :)

Girl are you reading my mind? I ve been struggling to find something classy yet casual every day clothing

Thank you! I also kind of wish society would wear more formal clothing more frequently. I've had enough of seeing sweats everywhere haha But you're right! Even pairing a skirt with a chunky sweater, people wondered why I was "dressing up".

Thank you so much for this. I adore the images you chose. They really helped me to visualize what you were explaining, and to imagine how I can add a feminine look to items I already own.

yor videos inspire me so much! so happy to watch this one

Yay! Notification squad 😎

From 0:00-0:20 I related so much!!!! Or when out of jealousy they will avoid talking to you or looking at you.

New subscriber here! I’m a total beginner at looking feminine. To be honest, it’s only recently that I learned how to apply makeup properly, and become more selective in choosing my clothes. As a plus-sized girl, I am finding it difficult to look for clothes that would make me look feminine, and less frumpy looking, haha. This is not to say that I have given up on trying to look fit-I am doing my best, but hormone problems get in the way. I’m working on it, though. Sometimes, using something like hair ribbons or scarves to your hair make a difference in helping one look polished. I have always loved putting on hair ribbons to my ponytail-a bow sometimes gives it a nice touch. :)

I watched a lot of you're videos and I love them :* what I notice the most is that you are clever which I think is the most important thing we should think and try that's how we learn the best way to behave

I love this channel so much!!! I’m learning things I never even knew I wanted. Things I didn’t even know existed! You are doing such a good job and I just wanted to comment and say THANK YOU. All this positive, accepting, warm energy is so contagious I love it ❤️❤️

I did not expect the diverse photos. I love them, thank you.

Thank you for reminding women about the power of femininity! I love the intelligent, multi-cultural images you use to accompany your talks. You really encourage me to watch my womanly shape in casual clothes, I hadn't thought of that before! :) Blessings from Texas!

It's like you read my mind! I was just today wondering how to be casual and feminine, since a lot of girls dress casually in a masculine or lazy way. I was wearing a pink t shirt and wondered if the shade of pink was too much a little girly color for me to wear, but this video has convinced me it's not. It's feminine!

was a little skeptical on pressing this video but i'm so glad i did. btw, drop that skincare/makeup routine! you're glowing :)

I never been envied by other women before. But now that I decided that I want to start to be more feminine and decided to better myself and not look like a mess or a slob I’ve notice that I do get more negative attention from other women. And i would wonder why. I really don’t go over board with my looks. I wear simple but decent clothing that expresses my femininity and I wear light make up that doesn’t cover up how I really look...idk it’s unsettling. All my life I was always trying to hide or burry deep my feminine side for whatever reason. And I would act more masculine then I really felt or wanted to be. But I’m tired of it. I just want to embrace that side of me that I’ve ignored. Since this is so knew to me that’s why I find your vids and other like you so helpful. So thank you for this vid. I truly appreciate you and others like you who try to better themselves and others. Thank you & God bless you.😊💜

I think it’s super cool of you to put people of all religions and cultures on here!!!!

Love your inclusion of some older ladies in your examples! I am so inspired by middle aged and senior women who've aged with feminine grace and have continued evolving their style along with their age

I've read and watched so much videos and artircles about dressing like a casual in lady like, but no one's tell that we can wear pants and printed shirts. This video is really helpful, thank you

I have been so stuck after having a child - and feeling like I’m so not feminine anymore. And I cut my hair and now it just feeling off. Do you have a feminine mother video? Like the idea of being able to find looks that suit a lifestyle of stay at home parent / Occassion work / not a lot of formal as we live at the beach. I love this video too! Very helpful to look into my existing pieces and see how un-feminine the sillohette have been.

I've been wanting to dress more femininely but didn't now how to do it in a casual way, thank you so much!