How to Fix Rory Gilmore - This one character trait would change everything 

Yeah not a fan of that at all! Agreed!

I agree with that 100%. But also, it's not the same thing at all. Rory needed to understand the difference. Not that Lorelai was justified in treating Christopher that way, but Rory and Dean dated for three months when she was sixteen, they broke up, then got back together and had a very tumultuous relationship for about a year before they finally broke up again. Lorelai and Christopher were best friends since childhood who went through having a child together and stayed close even after Lorelai moved to Stars Hollow and Christopher went off to California or whatever, so it's a lot more understandable that Lorelai would feel entitled to Christopher.

@@bad_animait’s been too long, but didn’t Chris ask Lorelei to marry him. L turned him down. L wanted to be a single mom, right?

@@jsbrads1 Yes. She was late for chemistry class lol. She didn't turn him down because she didn't love him, though. She just wanted them both to have a chance to achieve their dreams.

@@bad_anima I understand that. She wanted to succeed as a modern woman. She didn’t want the help of a man. Men want to help. She rejected him.

Why so?

Agreed! Thats super annoying! And if they apologize, by the next episode they’ve already forgotten what they were supposed to learn from that apology!

@@AVintageJoy yeah, the only one I see growing and learning is mrs. Kim!

@@chiaradisano7327 So true!! I really am honestly bummed about the Lane storyline. I think she and her mom are amazing and i wish we had gotten to see the Dave story play out! Team Lane and Mr.s Kim lol

Let's not forget Logan, who basically changed from a playboy to a devoted man so they can be together! After the two fights they don't really fight anymore, and everything is pretty much great UNTIL she just declines his marriage proposal for no good reason at all

@@AVintageJoy I have no idea why the writing team had to punish lane by giving her such a useless husband honestly

I do hate that part too! I forgot about it while filming this, but totally agree! She should have told dean and had to deal with those consequences! Thanks for your thoughts!

same here i noticed this when i rewatched the show

Yeah that’s a good thought, could have totally been at Yale! Season 1 personality Rory and Marty would have been interesting! I wish Rory and Marty would have figured out their friendship! I think they could have been great friends! Also thanks! I appreciate that! There’s lots of things we were all made fun of as kids that now makes us each unique. One thing for me that works into that is my eyebrows lol. I like them now, in middle school, not so much lol.

@@AVintageJoy I'm still not over how Marty acted like he didn't know her when he dates Lucy... that was so dumb omg

@@Esh486 100% that was so immature of him. I wish he had just said we use to be friends. It was an odd fact to hide.

@@AVintageJoy Men... by the time they grow up emotionally and mentally, they're about 60 biologically🤣

Marty!!! The actor wanted off the show : ( he could have been the one. She could have gone down the Logan path but kinda moonwalk away from his bad lifestyle and then dates Marty. Thats why most people like Jess...he was like THE ONLY OPTION!!!

Offff so true! Like everyone in this show had that issue it felt like! That's one aspect of tv writing that really bugs me, there are parts that, yeah people communicate wrong, but also like why do they write that in for every character! My biggest communication frustration in the whole show, from my memory right now, was the Luke and Lorelai not talking about April and then Lorelai giving Luke 0 moments to process anything before running to Christopher! That could be where Rory gets that! Totally agree though!

@@AVintageJoy yes! That was so frustrating! I love April and it should've brought Luke and Lorelei closer.

@@AVintageJoy Yes! I'm a massive Luke and Lorelai fan and Team Luke all the way but it's the one thing that seems so out of character. And when any of the characters do communicate, they take it away instantly (granted I'm also of the believer the show focuses on generational trauma so I get why it doesn't happen) but it rips my psychology major heart out every time they have like once or twice a season a really good moment for change

@@devinwoods8798 So true! they open the door for "maybe this is the moment that they will learn how to better communicate, or better themselves" and like 70% of the time they don't learn that lesson, it breaks my heart too! Love that you're doing psychology, what a great way to learn and help people!

Very good point. But Rory can't communicate because she didn't learn communication skills from her mother. The way Lorelei communicated with Chris was not healthy, or with her parents (mind you, they were toxic but she didn't set strong boundaries with them, either).

Offfff I wish I had put that point in this video. Besides the cheating with Logan, that was one of the most annoying parts of AYITL for me. Totally agree, she was very mean to him and all he was was nice to her. You're totally right! I hated that part of the reboot. Also, why have Lorelai and Luke forget about him too, like are they all so self centered now that they just forget about people, hated that part!

@@AVintageJoy I don't know if it was meant to be this funny bit how everyone kept forgetting Paul, but it really left a bad taste in my mouth. That and the body shaming in the pool. Come on people.🤦‍♀ And I'm with you on the Logan situation. How is she okay with being the other woman? I had hoped she learned her lesson after Dean. I hope she's not justifying it to herself by saying "he was my Logan first". Also, I'm sure I've said it before but I'll say it again, I know some people really didn't like how Rory wasn't this successful journalist in the reboot, but I found it more realistic. Also I'm kinda tired of her being that perfect character who's good at everything and always gets what she wants. I also can't imagine her broadcasting live from war zones. But on the other hand, it is strange she wasn't more successful in a way because Obama did end up becoming president as you said. So, not sure what the writers were trying to do there...

And it was completely pointless! No relevance to the plot at all-it was like it was just there specifically to make us dislike Rory more.

@@ahobbit1273 I honestly also don't understand what was the point of it. Were they trying to make her like Emily who can't bother to remember the maids' names because they were "beneath" her, but with her bf? were they trying to be funny and failed? I mean, it wasn't only Rory who couldn't remember his name, so I really don't get it... it was just so mean

was Paul maybe supposed to be Marty in the original s7?

Offff that was a bad part too! Agreed!

Yeah that was horrible and justified her own bad behavior! she had no remorse.

Agreed, one of the shows called normal people which I didn't really like also had the same problem, but a reviewer pointed out notably, that we should forgive who don't change. I think this is also what this show is trying to say that people more or less remain the same

such a good point!

People don't mind the flaws just the lack of consequences. Interesting point tho. Stil it's the fact that no one says anything and it's because it's unrealistic. How does one get to this stage without anything happening to them. A show isn't real life. To most that can only ever be reminded when the characters don't change, grow or face consequences. Because in life most people don't change. That isn't how characters are supposed to be. Plus, ya as much as I admire Season 1 Rory I would really enjoy her in -universe downfall. She isn't that person anymore and that's fine but the new her sucks.

The flaws are bad habits and red flags that can't be ignored. For everyone to dismiss them collectively makes no sense. It's would seem more like self-insert fanfiction. Making a better character through keeping her flaws and having them learn from her is "fixing" her. Since she can't really be salvaged we may as well rewrite the plot. She isn't relatable or entertaining with her flaws. And watching her is no fun. It's like looking at 2 different people. But trust me, we get upset that she was the one who used to admire. We try to fix her because we want the better version of her character. The one before the character assassination. We can't leave her as a boring, whiny character who doesn't learn. Don't get me wrong GG is a fantastic cautionary tale that you can take as a warning. However, Rory wasn't that character (one who quits or whines) so why is she now?? There are characters who can be used as examples on what NOT to do. But no one can even tell if that's what Rory was supposed to be y'know??? So why not try when we can do better??

Fully absolutely agreed, I’m only watching it now and feel like her downward spiral is quite realistic

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AGREEED

Also I have to add she treated her mother, the way her mother treated her own mother. I feel like in season 5,6&7 Lorelai was scared of Rory 🤣 and had to watch what she said or refrain from expressing her true opinion to avoid backlash. I used to think I liked Lorelai more than Rory, but seeing how Lorelai treated the men in her life has also put me off Lorelai as a character. It’s hard because the show veers from comedy to drama, so certain things are understandably done for comedic purposes but after a while it loses it’s charm, like Lorelai did for me as a character. Gilmore Girls is really one of those shoes where I love the supporting characters more than the leads 🤣🤣 Stars Hollow has a special place in my heart, and I love all the quirks and Kirk’s bits 🤣🤣😕

@@aminaaasnur Man, I adore Kirk! I'd definitely try to befriend him in real life if he was living in my town. So quirky 😄

I also think it's season 1 episode 1, but I think the problem is that that is the point in her life where she suddenly gains access to wealth and connections on a level she never had before. If Richard and Emily had refused to pay for Chilton, she wouldn't have been able to go, and Lorelai would have felt bad about it, but Rory would have just gone right on being a big fish in a small pond, and then she probably would have gone to a nice school regardless by way of an academic scholarship, but she would have had to work for it and take out loans like most people. In short, she would have had to struggle more and really work for what she got in life. As it is, she just kind of kept getting opportunities handed to her. She didn't have to earn them, so she became kind of spoiled and self-entitled, thinking everything would keep being easy all the time. It's good to struggle a little in your youth, because you learn resilience and responsibility. If everything is handed to you, you end up like Rory, where eventually you face struggle and don't know how to handle it.

Yeah I totally agree that they really aren't women to emulate when it comes to relationships! I always just thought that you have to have some cut off with casting and only have so many characters in a show. I think they tried to give Rory more friends in college, but it felt forced and not natural in my opinion. Also, could totally be the case that when she got older she just got louder, some things kids do if they did them as an adult would be super off putting so you could totally be right about that! Thanks for your thoughts!

Yeah like she has other friends from Chilton, they're just not her close friends. Maybe that's just because it's more convenient for the show?

I get the Doylist explanation that the limits of casting and storytelling would make it difficult to have Rory have a ton of friends show up regularly, but it could still have been handled differently. Within the story, it doesn't make her look great. It's not JUST that by the time she graduated, the only friends she had in that school where 3 girls who were more like frenemies. It's the way she talks about the other kids at Chilton during her time there. Aside from they guy Lane liked for a little bit, she was really judgey about her classmates, if she spoke about them at all. I guess a lot of that can be blamed on the early 2000s trend of the heroine being "not like other girls", but it came off as Rory holding herself above them. She was NEVER excited to do stuff at that school or to get to know anyone. I know she was an introvert, but even introverts like to hang out SOMETIMES (not for long stretches, but still). By the time she got Yale and started writing body shaming critiques, and snide takedowns of the rich nepo-babies (while conveniently forgetting she was one of them), and laying claim to a married man because "he was hers first", I was nodding along thinking "Yeah, that tracks". It seemed to me that she'd thought she was better than the people around her since season 1. It's just that she got more confident in herself in the later seasons and was more out loud about it. Again, this isn't necessarily a problem. Part of what makes the show so entertaining for me, personally, is that Rory and her mom were low-key menaces.

@@greendiamondglow Tbh. You're not wrong.

@@R_S747 I AM right!!!! And, narratively, it makes sense, too. Rory is a menace who was raised by a menace who herself was also raised by a menace. THAT is the TRUE Gilmore Girl legacy, and we should all be thankful it exists! (Well...maybe not the revival so much).

First, I love your name! Hobbits really are the best. 2nd, totally agree! That should have been such a "return to s1" moment and it really almost did nothing, besides get her back to Yale. At the end of the show we could imagine it did something, but as you said, AYITL really just did it in for her. Also yes 100% S1 Rory would have had coded notes! Totally agree. Thanks for your thoughts!

Exactly!! who changes to that degree, and why?

Furthermore - I think you are right that this does come from a place of entitlement. Lorelai doesn't have this problem because she has always taken pride in working for what she has and does not respect the elitist lifestyle of her parents and her parents' circles, even when she gives in and accepts financial help for the sake of giving her daughter her best chance. She is a great neighbor among her fellow townies and never acts better than everyone else. Unfortunately somehow Rory turns out the opposite. I think her tendency to not learn from her mistakes starts with everyone in town treating her like an angel who can do no wrong. She doesn't correct anyone when they hate on Dean after their first breakup. She becomes okay with this feeling and it becomes solidified when she gets a taste of the Gilmore lifestyle, where your mistakes never really impact you too much, and decides that's what she wants too. (Hot take: Logan doesn't help either. But that's beside the point)

Thank you so much! I'm glad you liked it! I appreciate your thoughts!

Hey! Thanks for your thoughts. I can see where you’re coming from in certain aspects, but to play devils advocate…how would you suggest her mother and grandfather support her differently?

Ok… I think parents / grandparents have a role to validate their kids/ grandkids-obviously-but it is a balancing act. I think her grandparents tipped the scales to actually spoiling their granddaughter and saw Rory as a foil to lorelai -she was the daughter they could ‘ start again’ with. (Rory could do no wrong). They over idealised and adored her, is what I’m saying. They could have been a bit more down to earth with her and a bit more realistic in their messaging- eg sometimes you ff up and have to be held accountable (that’s life- would have helped her out with her many men problems) and also given her a tougher skin when things did not go her way in life. She handles negative feedback so defensively and poorly i think due to receiving nothing but glowing praise and grandad often stepping in whenever anything went wrong. Come to think of it, Richard often stepped in if there was a whiff of criticism or failure so she can’t handle it as an adult 🤔 . I think children should be exposed to handling these things themselves as part of developmental into a functioning and emotionally literate human being. So in short- I think her caregivers should have exposed her to handle and own her failures or trip ups as a teenager more. Stop rushing to her defense so much, ya know.

I agree! The balancing act of both sides of that is super important. I agree she should have learned how to better handle criticism! I wish we had seen at least a few times of her learning on screen how to handle criticism. That would have been a better balance.

​@@jjenner9575Agree agree agree! Like in season 3: her grandfather wants her to go to Yale, he thinks she DESERVES to go because she is special, ecc. But so many people want to go to Yale, many of them with recommendation! Oh my god, we should protect rory's right to be in Yale! So he talks with people he knows and practically buys her in, but in the end they are all so proud of their girl (I know she gets accepted in other ivy league colleges, but frankly all the story of her applying to just 3 colleges and the meeting the Harvard alumnus for a good word is ridiculous and I will ignore it)

I completely agree about the revival. It really felt like all of the actors had forgotten how to act and had completely lost touch with their characters, which makes sense it was 9 years prior, but still it felt like they weren't even trying. Also what was with the awful dark grey lighting i really hated that, gilmore girls is supposed to be warm and light

Yeah that's a big red flag too! Someone else commented that she really doesn't have much remorse, and I think that's super valid too in connection with what you're saying!

Aw thank you! That means a lot!

Totally agree! "The Queen of Stars Hollow" act I will totally pass on! It's sweet that the town supported her, but also in a real life scenario I think in a town like that, if you cheat with a married man, the town would have been so mad at her! We never really see how they felt about it. Also, agreed, at some point you have to look at yourself and your part in it and grow from the mistakes, and move on to better things! Love the comment! Thanks for commenting

Oh thr nerve of her being a teenager.

@@lauriecarson6483 It's nothing to do with her being a teenager. Teenagers are allowed to behave foolishly and impulsive, otherwise they'll never grow as a person or learn from their potential fuck-ups. And this is precisely where Rory disappoints as a character. She apparently just keeps her teenage mindset well into her twenties (and beyond, if you count AYITL).

I wish the final season had given us a little more insight into Midge's relationships with her family following her success. We get glimpses, but not the full picture. Like obviously her relationship with her kids is wrecked, but we don't really get to see how she feels about that. We never even see her interact with adult Esther at all. We get that she finally made it but that it meant sacrificing much of her personal life. But it's hard to say if she *learned* anything from that. Does she have any regrets? I honestly can't really tell.

Agreed! I hope she learned from her mistakes in the long run! I hope she was able to make better decisions about her future! And I hope "Gilmore Girls" was a successful book for her! I know I would read it!

@@AVintageJoy thanks for replying! I felt like a troll saying that in the comments initially lol

@@MsReegee No you're good! I wish we had seen the learning, but I hope there was learning and growth after we left her too!

Yeah true! That part is hard, but I still love it! You got this!! Focus on the clothes or something lol

I’m on my first watch of GG and this is how I felt about Rory in the first 2 seasons! I found her very annoying and childish… I’m on season 5 now, she still annoys me but not as much 😅 let’s see if that changes

Yeah true, we're all flawed, I just wish we had seen her grow more. Especially between the original series and AYITL. That was the worst part for me. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

That's a really good point! I forgot that part when planning this video!

Rory's mistake there was asking Lorelai for advice. Lorelai is literally the LAST person Rory should go to regarding relationships. Lorelai is such a disaster at all of her's.

I also think that's where her character started to change. Everyone used to say how she was this honest child yet suddenly she's lying and cheating. Lorelais advice was bad but yet again I understand Rory being scared to tell dean about what happened, since dean would get angry at anything

I totally agree with this one. I think watching how Lorelai was with guys is why Rory is the way she is with guys. She does something bad, they still fawn over her and think she's amazing. So she just repeats that cycle. Max for instance - Lorelai just ghosted him pretty much and ran away from marrying him. Imagine being a teenage girl and seeing your Mum do that. Then later on Max still has feelings for her and they kiss. I imagine Lorelai going to Rory and sharing that info so Rory would instantly be like "if I screw up, they will still forgive me and want me". She never has to learn from it because she gets her own way in the end. In regards to her downfall with her schooling - it started the second she got the D in Max's class and she hid it from Lorelai. She should of told Lorelai straight away, studied like crazy and set her alarm so she didn't sleep through the exam. That to me was her downfall. It started as something small but just spiralled over the years.

I saw that video! Agree completely

Agreed! At least one question

Yeah, I wish I could say he wasn't, but including AYITL, i would say he was too :/

Ohh interesting, like ASP or other writers? That would make a lot of sense why they gave her so many flaws then!

exactly, the interview she fails at reads a very normal learning experience for a new journalist, it is just excessive that she is still like that 10 years later. That being said, I do feel as a millennial, bc a lot of life graduations seem beyond us, I do notice we drifted a lot and it took a lot longer to reach certain milestones, if ever. There is a joke about millennials in AYITL as well, it was very pointedly belittling them. The whole point of the ASP ending was that kind of Greek tragedy of Oedipus or something like that, that her whole life Lorelai has tried to stop Rory becoming her, and making the same mistakes, but it actually leads Rory to end up in a very similar position really.

Totally agree! And the parts that were specifically "for us" felt forced. I wish we had just seen her progress and learn and grow normally not what felt almost like a very odd ending!

Totally agree! Yeah it is very much so a Greek tragedy. I always think of the conversation between Lorelai and Mrs. Kim about how neither of them want their daughters to end up like Lorelai and I remember at the time thinking "That's a very interesting and mature conversation to have" and then it just all is for not. Sad

@AVintageJoy and in many ways Lorelai has a great life. She runs her own business, she eventually finds her partner, she is a respected member of the community, she got her daughter into Chilton and Yale. Not perfect, but she isn't stealing yachts either. Rory learns the wrong lessons from Lorelai coming back to her parents, that Lorelai was a failure somehow.

@@kahkah1986 Totally agreed! 100%

Agreed. Idky that plot point was basically her only point, besides cheating with Logan that we see. We see her only failing and flopping everywhere. It would have been so nice to see that comback like you were talking about. Seeing her grow and learn! Totally agree!

@@AVintageJoy I think the Paul thing would've made more sense too. Busy newspaper woman, traveling all over for work, and forgetting to communicate/see him. It's a funny gag but again, got stretched out too much.

I do agree she could have been so consumed with work that she forgets Paul once, but having them all forget poor Paul over and over bugs me. Poor Paul lol

💯❤💫 hit the nail on the head, absolutely correct and perfect. and what a realistic and beautiful life story that is. perfect, just like our real lives are, "in spite of it being very different than she and her mother initially envisioned" love that. so accurate

agreed!

YES!!!!!

I feel the same, it seems like it has become fashionable to hate on her but I can't help feeling that a lot of the hate is projection, people are afraid of being cheated on so they hate the character who cheats, people are afraid there is nothing special about them so they hate a character who is treated as special by others and then revel in her downfall, of course admitting that you hate someone because of envy is awkward so people come up with high minded excuses for their hate - she's privileged, she's entitled, etc - it's all become a very familiar tune at this point and just tiring to see

Rory would have been relatable if the gifted kid burnout angle was done right, but there is nothing human about her. Think about how lorelai felt when rory decided to publish her life's story and knowingly risk ruining her relationship with emily all over again.

She has the flaws of being very privileged. When she makes mistakes or faces a challenge, someone comes along and smooths it over for her. They do it because they want her to have the best life possible, but the result is that she doesn't learn how deal with challenges on her own. She is left spoiled and immature, feeling stuck and confused when things fail to keep working out effortlessly for her. Most of the audience does not have the same access to wealth and connections Rory does, so it's hard for us to fully relate to that problem of getting to your 30s and not having figured out that sometimes you have to really work for your opportunities, and sometimes they STILL won't work out even if you do and you have to settle for "good enough for now."

Love the idea of them doing that between Highschool and college like a weekend pro con list and then seeing if that really fits! And then also in college because 17/18 is as early ago to ask someone to know what their career path is going to be, at least at the beginning of their career! Good idea!

Offf i forgot she walked out on Doyle talking, yeah honestly, no respect for his hard work he's put in to get to where he is. No respect for any level of authority he has. High school rory would have never walked out on Paris talking!

Yeah that's very true! Not a good mom look from Lorelai and Rory definitely knew better. She should have told him for sure!

Thank you for your time and thoughts! I think you made some really good points! I think it's very hard to manage expectations at all points in life, that would have been a good thing to add to the video. It is hard if you're been told one thing, but you start experiencing something else or something that feels like it should be easier, or that you're somehow failing if it feels hard. I personally don't think you've failed in finding that the "real world" can feel different than you may have thought! I think, even though it sounds corny, that it's how we get back up that makes us who we are not if we fall. Because everyone will fall at some point! I truly appreciate your thoughts! Thanks for sharing them!

​@@AVintageJoy Thank you for your words! Maybe I didn't fail, but if my life would have been made into a TV series, some people would assume that. Because I had the expensive education and all, but now I'm working as a teacher. My grandpa certainly was disappointed, but the career path I had imagined for myself never really suited my character. I worked hard in law school because I've always been told that I could be what I wantd to be as long as I work hard ... well ... I'm a way too sensitive person ;-) being a lawyer was nothing like Legally Blonde I'm afraid. It was rather being in an office full of Paris-like people 24/7 😀 I could write an essay about Rorys character development, just because I walked some miles in her shoes ... I can imagine that Rory had the same experience as I had just in the journalism-setting. And Rory being her, she didn't give up but kept on trying. Her snobby attitude maybe just covered up how lost she was? Rory was never good in giving anything up (even ex-boyfriends...). She always worked through it. Maybe that was the side of the character that was shown here? Her trying to be a journalist nomatter how hard she fails. And her being full of herself because she's been told 30 years how great she is by everyone around her. Not being a journalist just wasn't a choice for her, because it would mean failure to her (we saw that when headmaster Carlson told her she would be a great teacher, which I'm sure she would be). Maybe if she had decided after some years of failing, that she could have been anything else (a teacher? a book author?) she wouldn't be so lost. And her turning back to Logan (I totally get why she wouldn't want to marry or even be engaged at 21, but I'm European so that may be the reason) was because she felt lost. She turned to Dean when college was hard for her and she turned to Logan when life was hard - just maybe because she feels secure with her guys? Maybe she needs the approval from them, because she's so used to getting the approval? The whole Paul-storyline was just so stupid, I pretend it doesn't exist (lol). To me, she turned to Dean because he represented a time in her life when she was thriving (and not struggling in college), he represented Stars Hollow. And after college, she turns to Logan, because except for that escapade with the boat, Rory was successful in Yale after all. Logan represented her dreams of being a successful journalist, he represented the Yale daily news. Rory couldn't settle with a guy from her adult life because she used the affair with Logan to escape from it. That's how I see it. My mom did the very same thing with one of her ex's. She always turned to him when life was hard (she would say he was her Christopher...), although she knew that he was bad for her. But in those times, she would call him "the love of her life" - to later call him "the worst thing in her life" when things turned out well again. So stupid ... but that's why I see Rory's behaviour the way I do.

Yeah agreed! For many of the characters I totally pretend it doesn’t exist!!! 100% same!!

muchas gracias. Me alegra que hayas disfrutado el video.

Oh my gosh! That’s so sweet! I’m so glad that you’re here, thank you for your kind words!

Totally agree! I dislike when we see a character entirely change personality and settle, like you said! It’s such a different world in media since the internet, and I also wish we had seen Rory keep up with that and pivot. If she didn’t want to work for an online magazine, then I also think writing a book or working somewhere in her field and doing her passion project on the side, we would have been totally happy with. Thank you for your thoughts!!

Aw thanks! That’s so sweet! Love her!

Offf yeah I hated that they did that! Good point!

Yeah I think that wasn't a good example either! Idk the best way Lorelai could have handled it, but fully cutting her off, didn't really get her what she wanted either so i don't think that worked! Thanks for your thoughts!

I am very certain that I and many vierwers were on Rory's side when MItchum critized "everybody's darling" Rory. Because she's a star of the show and therefor she's right. I don't think there are many other shows like Gilmore Girls that I and some other people (thanks to the internet) see now with totally different eyes. When I watched it for the first time like 20 years ago I think (was late to the party), I didn't analyze it much. I was on Lorelai's and Rory's side or I was just watching the show and enjoying it without really thinking about who is right and who is wrong. It's important to think about what Lorelai is saying and doing and what a role model she is and also the same goes for Rory and for the grandparents. It's easy to worship the girls and hate on the snobbish grandparents.

I don't hate that in general he criticized, because if there's something to fix or if it was to help make her better than by all means, help someone grow. His felt more like a "don't marry my son" type of criticism though. I do think she needed to have some thicker skin and get out of her stars hollow bubble!

Lol same! I might do a “how to fix AYITL” but that would be a hefty video! Lots to fix lol

Better yet: rory's book fails completely and she's left working a dead end minimum wage job for good

I get that! I like Logan's character arc, but that totally feels like that's one of the main parts for Rory when she goes downhill!

totally agree! I don't need her to have a fairy tale, but also let her be a good role model to the kids watching that you can grow up and learn from mistakes and try. I also unfortunately agree about the lazy writing, it felt like drama for drama's sake and not necessarily something the character would do. Also, for the good or the bad of it, i think Rory would have said yes to Logan's proposal and that would have potentially changed the entire AYITL. It felt more like a "we don't want to end with a wedding" than a follow what the character would do type of ending. Totally agree! Thanks for your thoughts!

I’ve felt like this before too! I say do one thing today that moves the needle 1% towards your future 80 year old self goals! Doesn’t sound like much, but by a years time you could have 365% more towards that version of yourself. Yes, the math of percents is weird in that, but you get it!! You can do it!!!!!

@@AVintageJoy haha I love that. Thanks 💕

Yeah agreed! Not a good character development moment at all!

Very true! I wish they had said something about that, because in my brain right now i cant remember if AYITL is supposed to be set in 2008, or set when it aired in 2016 and that was confusing to me. Like is it 08/09 times then I can sympathize more with her difficulties finding a job. Although, like you said, if she had better multimedia skills that could have helped her too. Also agree, I feel like I'm still making alterations to my career and I'm a full on adult. A 4 year old has no idea, heck most 18 year olds don't know that either, and that's ok!

@@AVintageJoy It’s supposed to be set in 2016. However, a rough start to a career can derail you forever.

Very true!