How to Know If Your Wife Is Committed to the Marriage 

Yeah dude. I had to let this girl go cuz all she said was "I'm sorry". No real action to show that she meant it.

I don't think "perfunctory" means what you think it means.

@@theclockworkcadaver7025 "Perfunctory"... Webster says... characterized by routine or superficiality. I think he knows exactly what that word means.

She's not sorry if what she did yesterday to prompt the "sorry" is repeated tomorrow.

​@@Savage_Thinkerhelp she even choked me told me wish I die I called her mom told her I will bring her things over sent her a voice record while her daughter was screaming to back up my claims didn't side with me and now gf refuses to leave my house...

@@jaywagner2321 Sounds like "recycled heartbreak" tied into narcissistic survivors guilt. Be the best you and demand nothing less than what you offer. Just remember you get what you give; so don't dish out punishing scenarios but don't accept them either. Nothing gets under the skin of a sinner more than happiness of a Saint. Even a Saint knows when someone is content to drown in a pity party... Truth be told: If you can save yourself; only they can do the same... Sometimes it's the comfort of knowing (victimhood) something familiar... Keeping them stuck. Rather than finding happiness (thrivivorship) in the unknown self. It's the fear of that change and self-rediscovery that keeps people in the 40 miles of bad road...

Or:”Your apology means nothing to me.”

she says it, just before she cracks you over the head with a hammer, just like before, or similar.

Holding grudges over perceived offenses is the woman's ultimate weapon and whenever she feels she is losing an argument she will bring back things from the past and use them to turn the tables on you. Every. Single. Time.

Restitutions that last for years/decades.

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or "we'll agree to disagree" when it is obvious she screwed up!

See.. this is where I would do something fucked up and say the same back. Sorry you feel that way.. with a, how’s that make you feel? Unloved, right? Something her father never did to correct her as a child. I have no patience for that manipulative crap.

Same here

Wow...if just a fraction of married women had that same reaction....think of how many marriages would be saved and children would have a father in their life. Well said and well reflected.

@@NicoleK8 When you own yourself and master "YOU" can you share that happiness with those around you. It's truly that transformation that scares the heck out of people...

Very well said. I am learning that too as a future wife.

🤔 the thing is... Typically, when the wife does something wrong? Its ACTUALLY wrong... Not just cuz your hubbys "feelings were hurt". Why? Cuz typically, his qualms are based in PRINCIPLE. Whereas you wifeys get upset because he didnt let the toilet seat down... Now hes "wrong"? GTFOH 😅 For example; Not letting the toilet seat down ⚖️ vs you dressing like a shlut and going out for "girls night" are two TOTALLY different things. But i digress. Its our job to ALWAYS be the bigger person right? 😂

People are supposed to figure out the basics of accountability and apologies as a children. Men got the lesson but women didn't. I'm not sure if this is a parenring problem with regards to daughters, or if accountability/responsibility is innately repulsive to most women.

"I'm sorry," when used in that context is not typically meant to be an apology. Being "sorry" can mean a few different things, and in addition to referring to an acknowledgement of one's mistakes/failures, it can also simply mean feeling badly for someone else's situation. You can feel sorry for a dog that got its tail stepped on even if you didn't hurt it, and you can feel sorry for your spouse feeling badly, even if you did not do something that hurt them. I use "I'm sorry you feel that way," often with my wife. It acknowledges that I see she is upset, and do not feel good about her being upset, but also that the reason she is upset is not because of something I did wrong. Of course, one CAN use it insincerely also. It really depends on the person and the situation.

@@mylesleggette7520 The video is people lacking remorse for their actions. I commented in that context.

You're not crazy. Hang in there. Pray for your wife. And, best of all; ask her to consider these videos.

Yup. I’d rather get in the ring with Conor McGregor than get verbally assaulted by my wife. With the former no one would mind me defending myself

That’s because she didn’t love herself.

There's a reason why your experience is familiar to many husbands you talk to. It is very common.

You gotta be married to a narcissist

You aren't crazy. It is a woman thing - a lot more common on one gender than another

they want it both ways always. I'm going thru a divorce with children and dealing with someone just like that. You can imagine the hassle, and of course the lawyers are having a field day due to her nonsense and greed.

You deserve what you tolerate.

My ex (gf) of over 2 years wanted me to build her a house on her dad's property, with my money, without my name on the deed! When I declined and said we needed our own space, I "wasn't trying".... Sometimes as men we turn our logical brains off because we "love her", but it almost always ends badly.

@@andyjones3304 you are absolutely right. We and you thought with you loving, husband, team for the combined future mind set. The goals for the marriage and family versus selfish and individual. We loved and lost ourselves. Thank you.

Narcissistic abuse man. It’s not your fault that she abused you.

Just read your message. Who is Sheila/Gregory? Anyway, whatever, she decided to flip the switch against you. You are both not perfect, nobody is. There is not a lot you can do really but to accept it's over. Only thing you can do is prepare yourself.

Oh boy. Sheila Wray Gregoire fancies herself a Christian, but I've never come across more unbiblical teaching. She's a piece of work.

I don't know that, but yes evil women deceive women and it's evil, they are even better at deceiving men because why would a man want to be around hell on legs and for any price? It's one reason women hate the men they can control. You'll be alright, middle aged men have a chance to start again, middle aged women do not.

The problem is a woman can be a good wife for many years. She will be a good wife as long as you are her best option. Then one day the right guy comes along and she thinks he’s better than you and she cheats and leaves.

She’d be in good company with Lori. 🙂

@@jaywagner2321 maybe they need to get together do some videos some collaborations to stir the satanic spirits

She should collaborate with Pearl too

If it is only once a week, it is not an addiction. And it does have a useful place in a man’s life from time to time. It is not 100% evil.

@@davidgold5961 unfortunately I can’t change my wife’s feelings. She is willing to throw 18 years of marriage with three kids away over that “boundary”. Everyone else I talk to says she’ll regret it but I’m done trying to get her to let her walls down. Starting to look forward to separating.

If you are married, why do you need porn? Just have sex. Or just use your imagination when masturbating

Are you denying her intimacy because of your usage? Otherwise she's just looking for an excuse to leave you. I'd say let her go.

@@quartermainegames no issues with intimacy, in fact I ask frequently and get rejected every time until she is ready. My usage has had no impact on our physical relationship.

The notion that being a Christian somehow makes someone a better person is laughable. The more pious a person is, the less I trust them.

@@themancuniancandidate2744 So you honestly can't see that she's preaching biblical principles on the roles of husband and wife?! Thats cute. All ethics and morals are founded in God's word and law - anyone saying different hasn't yet found their authentic self.

@@b.d.hooten1785 really? Ok. Sell me your children then. God expressly condones slavery in the Bible (Lev 25:44-46). Tell me more about those good biblical morals.

​​​@@b.d.hooten1785 no. Ethics and morals are rooted in evolutionary biology and culture. Reciprocity is an obvious algorithm for any social species. Attributing all this to alleged communications by "God" in written form, at this point in history, several centuries into the scientific Enlightenment era, is willfully ignorant. As any scholar of biblical texts who isn't a radical fundamentalist cult victim will tell you, "the Bible" is a collection of texts written by human beings, the purposes of which were about gaining power for a priesthood. They aren't "words of God." And if you insist they are, then read Matthew 15 and ask yourself if you're an Israelite. Christianity was plucked from obscurity by the megalomaniacal Emperor Constantine and his henchman Eusebius and imposed on the Greco-Roman Empire in 325 CE even though the religion was made up by Jews, for Jews. It was never meant for non-Jews, and that's plainly stated in multiple texts of "the Bible," including everywhere in the ethnosupremacist Old Testament as well as in Matthew 15 in the NT. Read Russell Gmirkin's books, Richard Carrier's books, and RG Price's book "Deciphering the Gospels" to learn more. The fact is that "Jesus" is an imaginary archangel promoted by the Apostle Paul, who was the real founder of Christianity. It will take you some time and reading to understand the scholarship behind that assessment. There's also an excellent scholarly website called vridar.org you should check out, and if you're able to put up with an unpleasantly caustic tone, Jesusneverexisted.com is very good on summarizing the scholarly evidence. Free your mind. Let go of illusions. The world isn't controlled or directed by an angry, genocidal Jewish man behind the sky (the OT "God"), nor by a milquetoast wandering preacher from two thousand years ago. The Gospels are works of allegorical fiction (and that is well understood by scholars, and indeed by many of today's priests and pastors). The priests who told that tale were power-hungry con men, nothing more.