If you weren't like this a few years ago Helena Correia, figure out why now, then work on the problem. We want you to be happy and positive, no matter if you have a child or not.
@@SC-oi9wp It's a mixture of both. The world may have dealt you a bad hand, given you problems or unfair situations. But ultimately it's up to you to see how you handle those awful things. You could give into blaming others, feeling sorry for yourself, or thinking "Why me?" And there isn't anything wrong with that. You deserve to feel that way initially, because the world hasn't been kind to you. But are you going to let those thoughts dictate whether or not you have a happy, fulfilled life? Personally, I'm choosing not to. Even stuff that isn't really "my fault", I'm trying to take extreme ownership of, and take ownership of solving those problems. It can be a tiresome and hard path, but it's worth it.
Grace Lahr, sounds like you are the only one who can change that, if you want to do so. Next time you feel you are getting annoyed, change the story in your head.
This has put it in complete perspective for me! I have always wondered why I get so irritated. I hate myself when I am like that, and it impacts my family. Time out time for me. Thank you so much 😊
If you have this issue and your watching this video it shows a lot about you that you are trying to work on something that you might not like about yourself good job! Don’t be too hard on yourself we are not perfect and remember to always enjoy this journey we call life!
At first this made me even more irritated but towards the end it made sense but I still can't pull myself out of it even with the timeout trying to get my thoughts straight
@@bp5522 Thank you for watching Live On Purpose TV! Here are some of my video recommendations: "5 Quick Ways To Stop Being Irritated So Easily" - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-kODrutZpsHo.html "The Power Of Being Present" - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-JOMkRJa5N24.html "How To Stop Overthinking Everything And Find Peace Of Mind" - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-Lgy0ErJQnYY.html
I am so glad to see this video. I was feeling resentful after a disagreement with a good friend. I went outside to cool off. When I came back, I watched the video. I laughed when you said the acronym. Im going to practice using it when I get mad so I can laugh instead! Im watching your videos to learn to communicate less aggressively. I want to change my confrontational communication behavior. It's pushed a lot of friends away. I want to have better relationships.
I hate how i get so irritated over the smallest things, Just in the span of 3 days I've already gotten in 2 fights with people i love over inoffensive things, this video has been helping me quite alot
Wow this was so insightful, I’ve made some changes and my life as well as changes outside of my control have come to me, including reaching my 30s, and I have felt like it takes very little to get me feeling frustrated, impatient, fed up… I know it’s not right or necessary, or healthy, or graceful… it lacks class and I’d even say maturity. Which is why we’re all watching this video, looking for teachings about this irritability. Thank you!
This is the best video on this problem I've seen. I have someone who knows how to push my buttons it seems, but after watching this video, I see that I need to take steps not to let this happen, to avoid some situations and to let what may happen unexpectedly to roll of until I can get away and think through the situation. What I may need is less time with this person until I can ignore the triggers. Thanks so much!
Since college i get more and more irritable towards my parents (never to my friends tho) over the smallest things It reminds me of my behaviour when i was 14
Flavor Town, the first step is in recognizing the feelings and then when you begin to feel them, stop for a minute and figure out why you are feeling that way and how you can change your perspective. You can do it.
I just want to be ok, not getting so mad or angry so quickly over little things. I tent to think things should be perfect, and when they are not perfect, all I take away is that I have failed. Like a 100 question test. If I get 1 wrong, I fail. It sucks, it is miserable. I have a beautiful wife and 3 loving children. I love my family more than anything. I am here trying to find ways to be the man they deserve. Thank you for this little tip video, I hope I am strong enough to do this and not just take the easy path of living how I have been. Thank you.
JAMISON, sounds like you need a membership to go.liveonpurposecentral.com to power up your positivity and create a mindshift that will serve you better.
@@LiveOnPurposeTV with vocal disorder or without it, I enjoyed the content and it's nice when you speak, By the way ,I'm learning english and you're one of my favourite speakers that I like to practice with, wish me luck:)
2:38 I totally agree. It works. 2:54 It's beautiful. It's all about perspective. Irritability has been my largest downfall these days. I have a lot of stressors in my life that I inherently want to see changed or controled, but they themselves are things that can't even control themselves (housing market while selling) or people who refuse to change (alcoholic family). I try to remind myself of who they are to me, or that it's an uncontrollable situation, and how I just want the best for everyone involved. Overall, humor is a good immediate time-out cure for this particular situation and in this particular context because _at the very least_ I was able to focus on the fact that my goal is to remember and adjust to the aforementioned things (who people are, uncontrollable situation, wanting the best).
I hate that I get so irritated at work and so easily annoyed. I hate myself when I’m that way because it’s not fun which just fuels my depression more. I’m going to try and use this method.
I recently stopped smoking tobacco and marijuana after 10 years of use and suffer from irritability everywhere i turn then get anxiety or sometimes a panic attack.. taking the time out definitely helps me get focused and back on track
That is awesome, Zack Robb - I know those addictions are difficult to kick, but you made a healthy choice. I'd like to offer some more videos we have on the channel to help you in your recovery journey. You can watch all, some, or none of them, just know that we are here for you: Dealing with addiction playlist: ru-vid.com/group/PLq2mRDkHEBPAEZ4e_EhjAGjlInndmhzGf Positive Personal Development playlist: ru-vid.com/group/PLq2mRDkHEBPCYtqYUCuzsyYpAlzKZDVVV (there are a couple videos about anxiety here, but we have more that didn't make it to the playlist. Just search Live On Purpose anxiety). Let us know if there is a specific topic you would like us to cover and I'll consider it. Thank you for being at Live On Purpose TV.
I often think my internal anger is my fault. From overcoming an addiction to pain meds to refusing to return to antidepressants. I feel I have permanently messed something up with my brain chemistry and I can't find my way back to feeling "normal"
Delete The Media, what is your purpose? Sounds like you haven't found it yet, just stopped doing some things. Once you find the purpose, the passion follows.
I do appreciate this video. I find myself lashing out more and more all the time and you summed up well exactly the feelings I've been going through. Really does help put things into perspective that I need to take the control I give away freely back and start considering things from a different point of view.
it's so hard to keep my cool especially while im studying, since we're all quarantined and i badly need to study for college applications and they're just so annoying and loud. I dont want to sound like a douche just by telling them to keep it low every damn time
Thank you for watching, hsshahh baanabehaja. I hear what you're saying. This is important and impacts your future in a major way - if you haven't already, respectfully ask your family to allow you an hour or 2 of quiet study time during the day. You may also need to get creative - like finding peace and quiet in your front or back yard, or perhaps a park or other spacial outdoor area.
I think sometimes I get very irritable, so this video is perfect for me. And the closing tag 'stop farting around' is just so... realistic! Whenever I get irritated -I can see now- I am "farting around"! What a nasty behavior. Thank you Doctor!
I get angry very easily when somebody smacks their lips but at the same time I watch asmr but I get vvv angry when my sisters/mom do it and i start to cry from the anger please help
Melly MSP, thank you for watching. It's a positive thing that you recognize the problem and are seeking a solution. I don't know how old you are, so I don't know if pursuing the assistance of a professional is available to you. We have some more videos on this subject; maybe they can help you on your journey to become more positive: "How To Stop Being Angry All The Time" - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-4ef8LRHB5AI.html "How Do I Know If I Have Anger Management Problems?" - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-_cngkJgSvBo.html "How To Stay Positive No Matter What - Happiness Is A Choice" - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-nu680PRnZys.html There are others that you may find useful on the Positive Personal Development playlist - ru-vid.com/group/PLq2mRDkHEBPCYtqYUCuzsyYpAlzKZDVVV
LOL I have this problem too 😅 never would have thought anyone else would have such a random specific problem, but I also get angry almost to a rage with asmr, I don't understand how people can listen to that mess
I stop blaming other people, I blame myself - I'm the only one frustrated, I'm the only one angry, I'm the only one with resentment - Everybody around me, perfectly fine! I want a time out from life!!!!!
Since you are the only one that can control you, this is a positive spin to put on the situation. Change your perspective to get rid of the resentment as that is all you can control.
It doesnt help that a lot of my irritability stems from the fact I have mild autism. I have the trouble learning, and irritability towards specific things type of autism. My thing is I am great at handling some stressful situations. Situations that would anger people. But I pop my lid at things most people dont think twice about. Such as the mouth noises people make when eating or something. I think I struggle with narcissistic tendencies as well. But I need to learn to control my temper and fight like hell to overcome my weaknesses. Because man its really burdening myself along with the people I love most in my life.
This put things in a nice clear way to me. After my father's death in December, I have been very irritable about so many things, even breathing sounds.. Time to try to apply the time-out in real life
(Cue close up) "Do you see the trap?" 😂 4:05 His expressions and the video editing make these videos so much fun to watch besides all the great advice.
How do you get a grown son to see he needs to work on himself. It's not mine or anyone else's fault that he is always irritable or frustrated. I can't send him this video. He wouldn't even give it a chance. He would just be offended. I get to the point I don't want to be around him. His mad moods, rude and snide remarks puts me and those around him in a bad mood. I would tell him I don't want to see or hear from him until he could treat me more respectfully no matter what his mood is but then he wouldn't let me see my grandkids.
This is a tough one, Kala. I would ignore as much as I can. If you feel you must, let him know you have some ideas and when he is ready to listen, you will be happy to talk to him, then keep quiet.
This video was super duper shmuper helpful. I can't describe my gratefulness for this video. Thank you SO much for making this.. It literally changed my perspective on life. Keep doing what your doing, your changing lives. God bless you 🙏
I love this so much because you explain it so calmly, clearly, and with a wonderful example. But why did it have to end so soon? I wish you explained more about the steps we should take after breathing deeply. Like perhaps what could heal us of that "victim mentality" and "blaming others" syndrome. Anyway, it was good regardless and thank you for helping me to see that I need to take control of MY reaction rather than expecting someone else to change, apologize, or be sorry for what they did. Because that's not going to happen any time soon. Thank you soooo much! God bless you soooo much!
i’m usually not an irritable person, but guys, my blended family really irritates me sometimes and i wish that wasn’t the case. i’m still suffering from the effects of my parents’ divorce and i just want to be free of it.
I’m so glad I found your channel. Now anytime I feel myself getting frustrated, I’m going to think of this and it will make me giggle. Who can be frustrated while they are laughing. Not me. Thank you
This video has helped me to understand how I get in one of those moods. I asked my wife to make a call for me on her phone, because my phone was having problems. I thought she would, but she only asked me to put in the number in her phone. Then, didn’t do it and then said for me to call after I waited for her. This irritated me even more. I should taken a time out, and relaxed. But, I was crabby at her. I hated that I did that. Now I know a better way to handle this after seeing your video.
I just came across this channel!!! Amazing content!! Down to earth, practical and ZERO condescending or “big words”!! Your positivism is actually really inspiring to make the changes we need to make so we can be the change!!! And stop farting around! Lol Thank you and looking forward more content! God Bless!!
I literally am so irritable so quickly and easily angry and then you wrote FART on a white board which managed to get me to laugh. All I can say is thanks for getting me to laugh a little bit
We need to change not people around us, we need to see what WE ourselves are doing, not other people, they have their own life, I have my own life, they are not going to do what I want, they don't have control over me and my feelings, why do I allow them to control me like that? why?
So true, Andro Leguina - we can't change others, just ourselves. If you are in the habit of allowing others to affect or influence you, then it's hard to break out of that habit. Practice a different response when you start feeling irritated by others - you'll get better at it. Keep this in mind - do you want others to control you, or do you want the freedom of being in control yourself? Here is a more recent video I did on the subject: "5 Quick Ways To Stop Being Irritated So Easily" - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-kODrutZpsHo.html Thank you for being at Live On Purpose TV.
I get so irritable around my mom and I can’t stand it. I miss her often (we don’t live close to each other) and I worry about her frequently (because I am a chronic worrier). But much of the reason why I’m afraid of bad things happening to her, I think, comes from how bad of a kid I am to her. Who would feel good spending time around someone who gets impatient and annoyed with them all the time??? I love her a lot, but I can’t express it properly. We haven’t had problems since I was like 13. I’m 25 now and still can’t get out of that mindset around her.
Sybil Nix, you might consider working with a coach to change some of these mindsets. You can find out what we offer at www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall. We would love to help you out.
I wish I had a tiny you to carry around with me when I feel the urge to FART… 😂💕 I’m a mom with high functioning anxiety & depression so.. the struggle is real. Thank you for the smiles !
Always good hearing psycs Dr's talking about it is a joke an nothing works for someone who's so irritated behind return my whole life is pathetic and everything in is depressing frustrating irritating making me extremely angry I've tried walking away counting to 10 bla bla bla I came to a cross rd with life and my life partner my child with autism I just don't think I can last much longer without just snapping and I have a ton of rage that I don't know where to direct this in the end
Good perspective that are irritations are coming from outside factors. But I still don't understand what to do at this point of realization. The outside factors are still there and they still irritate me. What do I do in the timeout that helps me be different toward those people and situations? 🤷♀
It is your perspective. I go over this in a couple of other videos and in my program, Positivity Power-Up. You can choose to be amused among other things.
I get angry or frustrated just by my husband, otherwise ima very nice person. I don’t want him to think himself more powerful (in any way) than me so i yell loud to the point he shuts his mouth, its sick, i am sick. I can’t take it anymore, i wanna work on it. He’s such a good man but m just a toxic woman. I hate it.
I think I need a F.A.R.T. tattoo!🤣 My misophonia complicates my life so much but I know the world is not going to adjust to me so... As my school teachers used to say, has potential, must try harder!
Another good way to handle this is by realising that life is actually pretty crappy most of the time so your expectations are low so when bad stuff happens you were expecting it and when good stuff happens it really feels great because you were expecting the worst. Orrrrr is that anxiety?
Sliviz, I don't think it is anxiety unless we are focusing on that and it is affecting our behavior. It is more your viewpoint. Do what serves you well.
Im always irritable at work everytime i have not only triple but more problems at a time. More often i'm angry because i can't find solution as early as needed. Please help me to overcome the irritable attitude. I dont want to get older than man age.🙏🙏🙏
Dionelyn Martinez, thank you for watching Live On Purpose TV, I hope you found the video useful. I have a few more videos that may be relevant to your situation: "5 Quick Ways To Stop Being Irritated So Easily" - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-kODrutZpsHo.html "How To Handle Stress At Work" - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-ZvsHI_OoCG0.html "How To Stay Positive At Work" - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-X9jb5bOyilk.html "How To Improve Problem Solving Skills" - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-lBktigRwGjA.html I hope these help. I want to let you know that we are also offering a free 25 minute call with one of our Live On Purpose coaches; perhaps they can give you some more insight to your work issue. If you want to schedule a call, please go here: DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall
I cannot express how greatly I enjoyed that!! 🤩😇 Sending this to my father (chem dependency counselor)...☺️😎 Marvelous moments..thank you! You guys are spectacular 💖😇
Im a very irritable person and i dont know what causes it but things can be going perfectly and out of no where i get all pist off and actually at times i enjoy being angry and pissed off, i have no problem making an ass out of myself in public when i get like this, also driving really sets me off. Also i have 5 kids 3 that live with me under 7 years old and i don't want this to wear off on them.
My anger toward something is complex. Has anyone ever gotten so _tired_ of someone they see constantly? I feel we see my mom's sister more than my two other aunts (her sister in laws), and I think I'm annoyed because...they're my favorites over the maternal aunt. I get to see the aunt I'm most annoyed with (secretly) than the aunts I enjoy, and I guess I feel that's not fair. It's her, her, her, her, her. Sisters can be SO annoying, even as moms (with the sisterly comparisons, you know). Besides, I think I resent their relationship a bit because I'm a brother with only sisters, and I feel brothers are less important to sisters? You know, brothers are for brothers and sisters are for sisters? Like I said, it's complex. Is it possible how I'm feeling is actually normal, so I'm not being a bigot toward my one and only blood aunt (without her knowledge)?
I think im depressed but I know im not depressed so I typed in youtube why am I so irritated and angry and watched your video and have to say your 100% correct im going to watch again then going out and breaking my awful routine things are about to get a whole lot better for me 🙂🙂
Dr Paul, please give me some advice. Recently I feel frustrated and irritable all day every day. It is my normal state. I think the frustration and irritability are from overworking. I don't blame others, I just get frustrated at the rate of progress. I work very hard, and the rate of progress is very very slow, and the slow progress bothers me greatly! What should I do?? I don't want to slow down, but I think I am at physical limits :-/ I get 6.5 - 7 hours sleep usually, more on weekends, if that matters.
Fahraynk, the amount of sleep you get definitely matters. There is a video on the playlist about sleep deprivation and how it can affect you. I would try to get a little more sleep during the week. Figure out what you have control over and let everything else go. You may need a rest to recharge your battery.
I just feel like a fcked up person, bitterness, resentment, hateful, anger, sadness, feeling sorry for myself, at this point I don’t think my life is fixable. I feel like I just need to die B/C there’s no fixing me and I’m just 22 My life is a mess, I’m broke, I live with super toxic people, even when I’m doing better, they just bring me right back to being sad and then angry and make me even more toxic. I can’t leave them, or I’ll be homeless, my job pays shit and I No longer have the same dreams and aspirations anymore. I’m just shit. And I really don’t want to be this angry toxic person, I don’t want to be negative and bring my partner down, he deserves better. I wish I wasn’t sick like this. My mom caused me to have issues from a very young age. But now that I’m older they’re really kicking in. She herself deals with the same issues. And I just don’t want that for my life. If I ever had kids I wouldn’t want this for them either. I just feel so hopeless. I never thought that this would be me, I use to just look at my mom and say I’ll never be like that 😞 I’m more and more like her. I feel like I just want to die
II I, you really need to talk to someone and I hope you take a look at some of the other videos we have here to help change your perspective. You are a valuable person who has a long life to live and some big choices to make. You can change so much and become self-sufficient with more training or choosing another line of work. Consider listening to my podcast, Live On Purpose Radio.
