thats not the worst part ... the worst part is when you are in your 20's and mention to them about the beatings they forget that happened and said I never beat you in my life
I felt this at a spiritual level. They acknowledge sometimes but suddenly turn dramatic if I mention it more times. So I have to just stop to not hurt them. This frustrates me sometimes but I do some stupid shit too. So I understand they may feel likewise. Love them for not disowning me & raising me patiently with love. Finally a happy, lovely & dramatic family with a lot of quarrels😂🤣
This happened to my mom actually, she had to raise her 7 siblings at 9 and got beat by her parents, the worst part is when she brought it up our grandparents literally said we never did that to you in front of her and her surviving siblings
as an Asian myself, "dinner is downstairs" is sooo accurate. after the scolding and beating, they'll act as if nothing happened and let you eat. if you don't eat, there will be more scolding and beating. so, you have no choice, but to eat while crying. HAHAHAHAHA. also, Asian moms are generally not vocal. their way of showing love is letting you eat. A LOT.
I think that "dinner's downstairs" is their way to say "after all of this beating I'm still loving you." 😂 All those praises they gave us during childhood and now they're too reluctant to say it clearly. Bunch of tsunderes they are.
Thats most relatable thing me and my brother agree to 💀👍🏻 my mother beats us with whatever in her hand and if it's knife she'll turn it up side down and beat us with its wooden 😭🤚🏻lol
"Dinner is downstairs" So relatable. You literally have to go but you also don't want to go. Most awkward dinners where your alert the whole time and scared to your bone.
This is so accurate even for African households. I always tell people that it wasn't in any way abuse. That's how my parents taught me accountability for the things I did and it worked.
Even as an Asian, I didn't get spanked by my mother. I was scolded for not being on top of my class or not winning in competitions but I wasn't spanked. She grew up in an abusive household that she didn't really like the idea of physically hurting her children. Her love language wasn't "come eat dinner" but "here's some money, go buy whatever you want".
@@rosea1021 I wasn't a perfectly well-behaved trophy child. I burned rice, I didn't wash the dishes, I punched some boys, I left my Tupperware, I lost many umbrellas, I talked back, I accidentally killed our pet eagle, I lost so many of her things, but she never spanked me. My brother was worse but she never spanked him. She even fought for my 4th grade classmate who came to school all bruised because her aunt spanked her severely. She just didn't believe that spanking will do kids good and I agree. The cycle of aggression should really stop. We don't spank misbehaving adults, why do we spank not fully-developed humans?
@@rosea1021 not really, (not asian but arab), i did my absolute best to be well behaved growing up to the point teachers took me as a good example and no matter what i did, it was always yelling , screaming , demotivation and toxicity, last straw that broke the camel’s back was almost a year ago i just cut ties off.
That back-turned swatting is toooooo hysterical!! This is my much-needed laugh for today. I am African American, and my mom was Zorro with a switch - able to carve her initials into an arm, leg or butt in 1.3 seconds.
@@prismaticscamatics2470 yea my Asian dad won't let me be a child and is stressing me about my future when I'm 13. He's been doing this since I was like 11
@@pickle-STDS same, my parents when I was age 10: You’re an adult now so act like it! Stop being so immature, don’t you know that kids your age act so much better than you…
Damn this is funny but also really sad. As a South Asian I thankfully have never been hit, not even once and I never caused any problems either. I wonder why parents feel the need to physically discipline children. For me my moms disappointment or sadness and her being quiet was like a death sentence. Everything she went through for my and my siblings sake I could never ever do anything to hurt her or make her sad.
Oh she did punish you too... emotional blackmail.. ahahahah! Once my grades are not so good. My mom would not hit me, but be sad and disappointed, and not talk to me. It felt like, I am the worst human being in the world... yep! I understand you.
@@cynthiaponce2133 I mean yeah you still have to discipline the children somehow 😭 And okay we maybe biased but like doesnt emotional black mail hurt a lot too? (I want to say its more agonizing than a beating but its not fair for me to say qwq) Id rather have her yell at me n tell me to get off my damn phone than be quite n not talk The worst was when she wouldnt talk to me except for "food is on the table, go eat." 😭😭😭
Phisically discipline is considered abusive, especially in western, i think... But you know, i kinda see the point parents give their children the beating to discipline them in this case, the child while being uderage is doing some illegal act, if that's how the act when they're child, then what's will they gonna do when they're reaching adulthood? They need to learn the weight of their ignorant behavior, and the consequences and effect of their act to themselves, their family and other, their moral, future, and their overall environments. Sometimes you need to implant the lesson into their body, especially if they're so stubborn that the discussion won't do it and they won't reflect on their self. At least in this, the child learn the fear of messing up their already wrong doing and what the consequences it's bring afterwards, doing illegal act is just uncool nor quirky lol
@@inglesporu-lisboa1715 Ikr. Labeling "disciplining" as abuse is such a joke when they both are worlds apart when we go for the literal meanings. Though, of course, abusive parents exist, but genuinely in most cases they would be dealt with by people around, We don't live in a barbaric society anymore after all. Like, Most people in the comments want their parents to be the 'perfect' no, robotic if any, and seem to wish their parents should let it slide no matter what they do, and this is why we kids who can't differentiate a wrong from a right.
@@inglesporu-lisboa1715 Thing is, it doesn't work. And it's not in Western specifically. Spanking is legal in the USA, it's not legal in some European countries. There are also plenty of non-western countries that came to the same conclusion. Scientifically speaking it lowers IQ and increases aggression. And more to the point, it also just doesn't work. The kid doesn't learn or understand what they did wrong, they only know that it made the parent/caretaker made enough to want to inflict harm. Most people don't think what they did was wrong or they wouldn't of done it. A child should want to not make their parents sad or scared for them. If that's not motivation enough, then the relationship is already kind of rocky. Kids who are beaten learn that their parents will physically harm them if they are displeased and in response they either, become more aggressive, learn to hide it better or even sometimes lash out or, they shut down, become obedient and later in life struggle to say no. Respect brought about by fear isn't respect, it's just fear. Humans also don't work with punishment. We work with redirection and positive reinforcement. When someone does something shitty, generally they don't think that what they are doing is shitty or at the very least, they believe it's justified. This is part of what perpetuates abuse. We all think we're doing the right thing ultimately. When I stole when I was younger, I grew up poor and felt frustrated because I didn't choose to be poor. I had a talk with my parent. Beyond regular punishment, scare tactics of saying others get their hands cut off for that etc, there was also an ask of if I felt bad. My answer was no, because I only stole from stores, big ones, where I had the knowledge that they were definitely covered financially and no one really lost out. I stopped stealing because of risk of getting caught. It wasn't until I was an adult that my own partner actually explained to me why stealing isn't a good idea. Not because of some intrinsic moral fiber, but because of social code. Because if I think this way, others think this way and that it pushes the envelope in an non-useful way. Society is built on a lot of moral codes like that, unspoken agreements that keep it functioning. I'd stopped for fear of getting caught, but now I actually understand why it's not helpful to steal.
The small sob at the end is so relatable. Then they be like, “Are you crying? You’re crying?! Stop crying before I give you something to cry about!” And then you end up making a disgruntled and inhuman sob which results in you getting beaten into a pulp.
OMLLL BUT YHIS IS SO TRU If I start crying then my mum is like ‘Stop crying, why u crying.. I won’t feel sorry even if u cry…. STOP CRYING’ And then ye lol
yep, my mom goes like " you cry more , i beat you more " then on hearing that i used to cry more and then she used to beat me more and thus i would cry even more and the cycle would continue .
true my bro and my dad fighted then he litterly hit my bro with a bat he said come eat dinner OMG I can't forget he got beaten up by a bat I'm the loved child so they cool 😎 with me and my bro moved out everything cool cool now 😌
My family is Albanian and this Asian mom was just like ours - except she beat us with the long wooden stick that’s used to roll out phyllo dough for burek! I’m 54 now and still wouldn’t dare disrespect her. She raised us while working 3 jobs, hardly sleeping, making us hot dinners, fresh baked bread, singing songs, dancing with us, and never complaining. Te dua Nene ime!♥️
As a black person, this is super relatable, LOL. Black mom would have said "I brought you into this world and I'll take your @$$ out!" And when he said "I won't do it again!", Mom would have said "Oh I KNOW you won't. You gone learn today!" LOL
I'm asian, and when I was a kid and whenever my mom would give me an ass whooping, she literally cycles through her entire arsenal like she's playing GTA or something. Her weapon for intimidation is a broom stick or a belt. For high speed chases, her favorite weapon are flipflops, it's so fucking versatile that you can use it as a melee weapon or be a fucking homing missile when chasing someone. And lastly, for guaranteed critical hit and 200% critical damage, she either uses clothe hangers or a rubber cooking utensil (mostly ladle and spatula). That shit stings so hard that you can hear your nerves submitting their retirement papers.
Growing up in this way I can relate, however this didn't stop Seung-Hui Cho who came to study in the U.S. from South Korea - he ended up murdering 32 people and wounding 17 others in what was known as the Virginia Tech shooting.
As an Indian lord the way i relate to this, likeee I cannot even. I still remember the first time i saw some white drama and saw children calling their parents by their name i was so shocked cause i know i could neverrrr like never address to my parents with their name. Its the most disrespectful thing to do in a Hindu/Brown household 💀
Yaa. Not Hindu, regardless of religion in any Indian or Brown family its relatable, you can't call your parents even your elder siblings you can't call by name (nowadays some call their elder siblings by name but it's not acceptable in all families)
In Asian household, calling the older family members by their name is considered very disrespectful. One time I called my elder sister by her name... it didn't end well. I never did that again after that. I was shook to the core when I found out that some Americans actually call their mom by their name, if i did that I would've been whooped by my entire family 💀
Omfg same! Growing up I ALWAYS had to use honorifics when addressing older family members, if I dared call my PARENTS by their first names I would not be here to type this comment.
Why is it bad to call your older sister by her name? (Maybe I don’t understand don’t come for me I’m not Asian) But in America you can still be beat or you’ll get in trouble if you call your mom by her name Okay thanks for giving me insight on that. Thank you now I understand
@@LovelyCuteBunnies123 bcuz u r supposed to call her 'big sister', not her name. But some asians call their older siblings by name(or nickname) too, especially if the age gap is small. I will never do it tho. It feels a bit rude. We only call ppl same age or younger by their names.
@@LovelyCuteBunnies123 In my culture respect is a big deal, I was taught from a young age to use honorific when speaking to older family members and to always be respectful. But now that we are older me and my sister are really close, so we only Do all the respectful stuff when we're around our parents😂
What I learned growing up in an Asian household: You ain’t shit neither can you give a point until you’ve financially proven your worth, they don’t care what career path you choose as long as you can rack in money legally, they’re gonna back off...
@@gaminf6713 yep which is why they prefer you take engineering or medical courses as it guarantees you to get a job that racks in big money, but overall they really don’t give a fuck what course it is, they’re just concerned about other courses if it really brings in big money like as promised
TRUTH, one of the reason why i want to take science but my parents doesn't alow it because they know im too stupid for that lmao and they always recommend being a teacher because its the easiest job and easiest way to get money (and the most respectful job ever lol)
I was laughing so hard until my stomach hurt and at the same time I felt a mix of sadness because your acting of the asian mum was terrifyingly accurate to the way my mum acts.
I was gonna say, I distinctly remember that because I was like fuck dude do I even want to go to University now? Even at that point mass shootings were relatively common
And it doesn't stop there... I'm not Asian but I feel like Balkan parents be relaed to Asian parents because after they beat you (emotionally abuse me in my case) you just eat like nothing happened and are forced to be nice to each other in 5 minutes like nothing ever happened
As a Filipino, after a good, long and reasonable spanking and belting, my mom would then say "kaon na didto", means "dinner/lunch is ready". Truly an unforgettable hidden memory that's been etched onto my soul. Glady she is the most responsible mother by far I've ever known.
Can relate. Me after get beaten with rattan wood and sandals, my mother would invite me to the dinner while I am still crying. Come to the table with tears. She will yelled "stop crying! Are you gonna use your tears as salt instead?"
Ahh, I've had the same exact experience before. With my mother having that sharp look at me while I'm sobbing with tears running down my face as I slowly eat the food prepared flavored with some salty tears. If you have siblings, it kinda becomes a funny memory as you see them laughing at you at the dinner table.
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Mexican parent: this is MY house and everything in it is MINE. When you get a job, pay your own mortgage and bills on your own, you can tell whoever you want to get out. Love the similarities.😂
I'm not even asian, I'm romanian (I'm so into Chinese culture though, I almost feel as if I had a past life there or something)... but I always hear this even if the only thing I say is "my room"
Mother: Okay how about I kick you put of the house?! You can go live outside and pick up trash and eat it for the rest of your life as a living! And sell It for money. Or better yet I'll adopt a poor child and make him my son while you go outside being filthy and picking up trash! While he would be great full for having a house and food on the table.
Us south asians can relate to this. I got into this massive stupid ass fight with another dude. Got home, dad beat me as well. Never I got into any fights again.
Lol it’s like how my dad was when he went to school he’d get into fights either for himself or his younger siblings and beat the shit out of them then the kids would tell my dads parents and my dad got beat then my dad beat those kids again for snitching and it was just a cycle lol
My Mom beats me with a Belt,Broomstick,slippers,or hanger,she doesn't stop beating me when the hanger is not broken yet And then there's always the "THIS IS MY HOUSEHOLD HOW DARE YOU SAY THAT TO ME,YOU DON'T DO ANYTHING ALL DAY. YOU SHOULD BE GREATFUL THAT I'M FEEDING YOU AND PUTTING A ROOF OVER YOUR HEAD WHILE OTHER KIDS OUT THERE HAVE NOTHING TO EAT,LOOK AT YOUR COUSIN SHE'S NOT A FAILURE LIKE YOU SHE SO SMART AND PRETTY WHY CAN'T YOU BE LIKE HER"
HAYAA :seconds later: every asian mom in the world: yes ma'am what do you need MY SON GOT B+ ON MATH IN HARVARD WITHOUT ME LETTING HIM TO ANY KIND OF HOME SCHOOL OR SCHOOL HYAAAA THE WAR HAS BEGUN :THAT ONE ASIAN MOM: DOES EVERYONE KNOW WHAT B STANDS FOR :EVERY OTHER MOM:B STANDS FOR BROOM STICK :THAT ONE ASIAN MOM: HAYAAA LET THE BROOM STICK KIIIIIILL HIM THATS WHY WE NEED DA ABORTION
Istg this is so true espeacially the asian version, and after that argument with your mom or dad and you go back to your room and bang the door while closing it, you know the devil's waiting for you outside
I still can remember when I did this. My mother stormed in right into my room and gave me the death glare and prepared herself to beat me up (I was 8 )😂😂
@@homeiraazweem9295 though my parents never used to beat me and my siblings, glares and words were more than enough for us. Those glaresand silence still frighten me. And I'm 25😂
I'm Korean and I grew up getting my ass beat by my dad. I had suicidal thoughts but never homicidal ones. Then when I became an adult and lived on my own, I got bullied at work so I started having homicidal thoughts. My jobs were hostile manual labor type shit and they worked us like crazy for shit pay. Add drinking and isolation to all that, and I was ready to die and take as many people with me as I could. Luckily, I didn't have any guns at the time. I went to therapy, quit drinking and now my mental health is a lot better. It's still hard sometimes without a supportive family or financial security, but I've been lucky to find my people and learn a lot to help me control my anger. I was lucky I didn't get into fights and go to jail/prison like many of the people around me, but at the same time I took revenge on people by getting them fired and making them suffer in other ways. It was toxic and made me want to kill myself even more. I think the thing is a lot of it comes down to the individualism of White US Americans and the collectivism of East-Asian people. Living in the US makes a lot of us individualistic but a lot of immigrants come from collectivistic cultures so instead of blaming society we're more likely to blame ourselves first. Of course, without political knowledge, people will lash out at their communities instead of trying to change society in more productive ways. The US indoctrinates kids into believing that all of our successes and failures are directly caused by ourselves. The reality is that we do not live in a meritocracy, so most people will fail constantly without realizing the system is broken.
I hope you do get better soon yk what Ik as a young person with a sht family is that there are better world and people out of our perspective and we just have to try our best to look into those and ignore these bad things even if we cant completely ignore
I’m glad you were able to improve your situation and focus on your mental health. I completely agree with the difference in cultures between the West and the East, and how as a result it’s the next generation of Asian Americans (us) who have to deal with the struggles of having space to form our own identities vs fulfilling parental expectations out of the guilt and gratitude we’re obligated to feel for all the “sacrifices” they made for us. The difference in perspectives and expectations on personal freedom and lifestyle make communication with our parents difficult, especially if they refuse to see from your perspective, hence why I stopped bothering long ago to talk openly about my feelings with my parents. It also makes it hard to connect to my American peers as they don’t face the same problems, and this inability to talk about it becomes very personally isolating as well.
Ohhhhh this gave me traumatic memories when I once prepared the rice and everything but forgot to set the rice cooker to cook. Found out just as we were about to have dinner...
It’s so accurate when you’re crying at the end. Then your mother says: “What are you crying about? You have nothing to cry about you should be feeling guilty” or something else
White person raised by a psycho mom, here! Felt that one on a spiritual level. She used to get angrier when I cried and tell me to go to my room because she didn't want to look at it, then bang on my door and demand to know why I was still crying later.
@@cz2854 same. If i dont cry, she yells stuff like "YOU DONT EVEN CARE! YOURE NOT EVEN ASHAMED A LITTLE A BIT!" but if i DO cry, she yells stuff like "DONT YOU CRY! SHUT UP! STOP CRYING!" and she gets angrier if i cant stop crying. I dont fucking understand her
@@thegrandnil764 ey sh*t, at least I didn't end up as an evil preson like my Pa. ₹_₹ One thing for sure is that I would have whooped my younger self too as I so had serious issues when I was a kid and a teen. Glad I was able to change after some disciplining.
Take care. When it feels tough, try to find reasons to smile. Doesn't need to be grand. A cup of coffee in the morning,, sun shining,, wind blowing.. reading a book looking at the sky and smiling.. waiting for the moon to visit and Smile at us.. The universe is always Smiling and gives good vibes and takes care of everyone in it.. if we look closely we can feel it.. smile without any reason too just because you are existing. In this beautiful world as a beautiful person. Isn't it amazing! Try to find your healing!
can we also talk about the situation when mom says "if you don't stop crying, i will beat you more" then we have to pretend that we are not crying with teary eyes😂😂🙂
I’m Arab North African and I remember once my mom picking me up after school and I was crying and annoying her so much by whatever nonsense I was saying and she deadass pulled over, got out, opened the backseat door and I got my ass beat as cars are speeding by😭💀
I'm white. Can't tell you how many time I heard my mother say, "I brought you into this world, and I can take you out of it." Yeah, that brought back some memories roflmao.
I lived in America as well and what I find shocking is how sensitive your neighborhood is. Especially the sound, etc. They'll easily complain. Some even calls the cops for simple reasons. In our country, you'll hear noisy kids everywhere, old men drinking sake around the street, some women playing cards in a small stool, etc. It's so lively here Even when during the pandemic, The geezers here uses an empty can and a string to communicate to each neighborhood as if technology doesn't exist 😂 And if there ever is a conflict, there's no such thing as "call the cops" people living in the neighborhood will do the work to calm both parties till everything's back to normal. And what I'm shocked the most is how beautiful the house/how big the lot is in America despite being the cheapest. In our country, it'll be so small and looks ugly as hell. And in America, it's normal for them to throw leftover foods and many are picky eaters. In our place, of you do that you'll get beaten half death by your mom's broom Pretty much almost everything are beautiful In America except racism, lack of communication in the neighborhood, and the student loans. In America, houses are fences apart. Here, houses are literally walls apart 😂
We modern Americans are pretty spoiled. Just the other day I was talking to my Dad about my upcoming trip to Poland and I had to explain to him why it isn’t a third-world country. Additionally, I had to clarify that while the populations of many Arab nations live very traditional lives they aren’t “…fourth or fifth world…”
Yes american neighborhoods complain about the slightest things ever!! 😭 There's an app here called the neighborhood app, where you can communicate with your neighbors online. I always see people complaining about the littlest things ever, "did anyone hear that music at night??" "Did anyone see that guy walking down the street? He looked suspicious" " Did anyone else hear that?" Its so annoying 🙃
@@xflaminx4633 nope. Not an apartment. Once you visit Philippines and many other south east asian countries, you'll know what I mean. People literally build houses close to each other especially in the capital city of Manila, Philippines. 70% of the houses around the poor/squatters area doesn't even have a paint. It's raw cement most of the time. And pretty much 80% of the whole city is underdeveloped.
@@vubzs lmao I also find it weird how people always has their camera on literally everywhere and Even films you in subway for no apparent reason. Record here, record there, record everywhere. Almost as if they can predict any scenarios that's going to happen then post it in social media.