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I Don't Do This Anymore | Lessons I learned The Hard Way | Life Over 60 | Sandra Hart

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Please I don't do this anymore. I had to learn the hard way by making these mistakes in my life. Happiness leads to making right decisions for ourselves and these things are the most important for you not to do.
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@lynnepierson2549 2 года назад

I love this advice!!! No more people pleasing, no listening to others about what to do, stop living in the past, learn from mistakes, learn to let go, stop worrying, think twice, appreciate your life!!!

@jan-christinejohnson5256 2 года назад

Lynne, thanks for taking notes :-) Have a Good Week.

@deborahpellerito6117 2 года назад

Thank you Lynne❤

@kcloveonaleash 2 года назад

Thank you for this! Timing couldn't be more perfect. 69 and suddenly almost retired ( clients pass away or move) Your Vlogs will be my blueprint for my next chapter--- so glad I found your channel 2 weeks ago🙄. I am a worrier!

@rosiej1942 2 года назад

@@kcloveonaleash Hi I am a worrier also. It's hard to stop being a worrier because we all worry about different things. None of us have the same worries.

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks so much Lynne

@parkerrose3590 2 года назад

I just found your channel and I love it. I'm 71 years old and tired of people telling me how to live my life. New to widowhood now, and I feel I have my independence for the first time in 50 years. Doing things I love to do alone. My friends want me to join clubs, etc. I don't want tp. I'm happy to entertain myself with my reading and writing and with my pets.

@katyaangellove 5 месяцев назад

Yes! Our intuition is everything. Every time I ignored my intuition because of people pleasing, fear, and just being told what to do, it ALWAYS blew up and made me go into a depression because i wasnt being my true, beautiful self. Last year, I decided to always be authentically myself again, stop people pleasing, and only do things that feel right to me in every area of my life. Being back to my true self completely changed my life and I ended the year off married to someone who makes my life feel like heaven on earth ❤ I feel like I did as a kid when I was always happy and doing things that made me happy aka playing! My life is a playground, it's a fairy tale. Life is so beautiful when you're being YOU ❤

@antoinette8519 2 года назад

My clinically diagnosed narcissistic adult son is an emotional abuser like his father was (my ex-husband). My adult son had appointed himself "my boss" after my divorce from his father and he like his father made my life an emotional misery until I decided to put a stop to his abuse. I am done with people pleasing and allowing others to run my life. Thank you for your wonderful video Sandra!

@gabrielelivingston2442 2 года назад

Sometimes we as parents want to be our children’s friends , and we try so hard to entertain them and make them happy. Your son was so used to it that he knew exactly what to say or do to put you on a guilt trip. Tell him you wish him well and let him live his own life, you have done your job. Keep your door open if he truly needs you but let him know that you are your own boss

@yungplex9503 Год назад

Narcissistic personality disorder, NPD, has been excluded as a diagnostic category and independent personality disorder type in the Personality and Personality Disorder Work Group's recent proposal for DSM-5 Personality and Personality Disorders.

@manuelawiederkehr9167 5 месяцев назад

❤ so true.

@monicamiller9345 2 года назад

I’m a 33 year old single mom. My husband left us in January. I’m so thankful I can learn from you early on before my life passes me by even more! I still feel quite rejected by my husband, but I’m trying to move forward and not stay in the past, just as you mentioned. Thank you!

@jan-christinejohnson5256 2 года назад

Monica, there are plenty of good people in this world. I have been left too more times than I care to remember. But we cannot hate the person. Gravitate to good people and have a quick assessment on whether they have good character or "a bad apple".

@juliehoot3916 2 года назад

Don't feel rejected! What happened to you has happened to lots of us! The FLAW is in HIM not you! Love EVERY precious moment with your children and don't waste ONE MORE MINUTE on emotions concerning him! IMO!

@louiseparisotto3630 2 года назад

Wishing you all the best as your days, weeks, months and years progress on your own terms! I'm sorry, I don't like it when others tell you not to feel rejected because if that is your feeling, it's your feeling/emotion. I do think you've found a friend in Sandra though for her wisdom is amazing and you will gain a lot of knowledge from her. Many of us are rooting for you and others in like-minded situations.

@martna1 2 года назад

@@juliehoot3916 I've had to fight not to feel this way too. I'm 70 now and mine left me 4 years ago, after 28 years of marriage.

@lorettas4443 2 года назад

All the best, Monica, onward and upward!

@maryannscott5567 2 года назад

I am starting over alone at 66 with an income of $1000/mo since my partner of 6 years has decided to end our relationship. I'll be turning to your channel frequently for strength and wisdom. You're my big spiritual sister. 😀

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Mary Ann, Best of strength and happiness to you. You can move forward and have a great chapter ahead.

@EC-yd9yv 2 года назад

💙🙏

@sandrawright8109 2 года назад

It's better to have peace of mind and freedom to be you rather than money from someone in a broken relationship. Well done you for taking action...even though they ended it I'm sure you were living on egg shells for a while

@juliafisher5844 2 года назад

@@sandrawright8109 I don't think she needed anyone for money she says she has $1k pm income of her own

@juliafisher5844 2 года назад

I'm a similar age and just ended 5 Yr relationship so now single ! Although this was my decision any relationship needs both people 100% in or it's no good. This chanel is Amazing ! Good luck xx

@cherylelliott2711 Год назад

I am 66 years old. I do know what to do! I have a disabled daughter living with me, & I know life goes on. Thank you so much for your words, such truth 🍁🍂🍁

@barbarapipes7420 2 года назад

Thank You Sandra. Today is my 78th birthday. I especially needed to be reminded not to live in the past! Staying in the moment and learning from my mistakes.

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Happy Birthday!

@beatrizrosado898 2 года назад

As an only child I grew up pleasing everybody. I was looking for approval. I was supposed to be the perfect student, the perfet daughter, the perfect wife, the most lovable friend. I did it all. Now I now better. Nobody is perfect. Thank you for your advice!

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks for watching and letting me know

@peggybaggenstoss3817 2 года назад

Great information. I’m 69, when I was about 35 I stopped people pleasing. I felt guilty for a while until I read “ I feel guilty when I say NO”. A great book to help overcome people pleasing, enabling and co- dependent behavior.

@lissa2046 5 месяцев назад

I just turned 35 and I'm going through this now. I definitely need to read that book

@carolroberts8296 5 месяцев назад

I am 58, and I am now starting to learn all the points you have mentioned. I can not stress to those who are young, please please....do not let people tell you what to do with your life, listen to your gut instinct and think twice before making decisions (especially life changing ones) and live your own life, without envying someone else's. I am now having to learn painfully the hard way. I would also like to add is to set boundaries on what or what you will tolerate from others to never mistreat you. Things I wish I knew when I was younger.

@marys33794 5 месяцев назад

Great advice and wisdom, Sandra. To listen to our instinct and intuition. To be our own best friend. ❤ Our life is ours. To be lived by us, not from other people's directions. To live in the Now and to learn from our mistakes and not to be hard on ourselves. Go forward by learning. Importance of letting go of negatives not good for our health. Focus on the Now in our life. 👌

@littlelilone9693 2 года назад

This channel is such a warm and cozy space. Thank you for the sunlight and poetry. I felt anxious before watching, not now, not at all. Watching felt like slow deep breaths of fresh air. Much love.

@mhopi9744 2 года назад

So sweet ❤️

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks for being here

@wildflowerwind6941 2 года назад

That is a great way to explain it.

@DashniMorad 2 года назад

Exactly warm and cozy

@DiamondGirl333 2 года назад

Ending the practice of people-pleasing is the number one best thing I ever did for myself. It is a thankless activity. Now I have to work on stopping worrying. It is as if I am afraid the second I stop everything will fall apart. It drives my son crazy. Thank you for the awesome advice!

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Worrying is my nemesis, too. I have to keep reming myself it is useless and out of my control!

@donnapierangeli6216 2 года назад

Jesus himself tells us not to worry in the bible. He says look at the birds in the air the father takes care of them . How much better do you think he will take care of you. He says he knows how many hairs are on your head and if you worry you will not add a single hair to your head. I'm in my late sixties and I finally learned to let go be happy and give everything to God. Why didn't I do this sooner? When the student is ready the teacher appears. Life is a learning curve we are here to learn and grow and develop and experience life and to trust God with everything. Thank you Sandra for this lovely and wise video. It was all based on scripture.

@DiamondGirl333 2 года назад

@@donnapierangeli6216 Amen Sister.

@susanalsembach6026 2 месяца назад

Sandra, your channel is a breath of fresh air! I’m 50 with two almost adult kids, and I find that in the last few years, I’ve able to find myself again and loving every moment of it!!! Especially as I love spending time with them and my husband :)

@lnix2433 2 года назад

My dear Ms. Sandra, I cannot tell you how I needed to hear this today. Thank you so much for being a channel of joy and inspiration to us all; while at the same time keeping it real. Blessings to you!

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

You are so kind. Thank you

@irisrose4732 2 года назад

I'm 47 and working on myself. You're advice is priceless and boy, am I guilty of doing what you spoke of. My beloved mother sounds like yours. When she was alive, she worried ceaselessly. It took me a while to realize that I had adopted the same negative and fear based viewpoint on life. It's been a hard climb up, but each day I am making steps towards a new me. Life is too short for all the extra drama; I've come to realize that. Thank you beautiful lady for your golden advice !

@cathyandresiak1975 2 года назад

Great wisdom, life is too short to obsess over everything. I love listening to older people and what they have learned over the years . Thank You so much, I needed this today!

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks Cathy

@deborahmartin1432 2 года назад

These are all so true. I stopped pleasing everyone. Yes learned from mistakes and let it go.

@dyoung2739 2 года назад

Thanks for your wisdom, Sandra. I made the difficult decision to cut ties with my toxic in-laws years ago. Best decision I ever made. I never thought that I’d be 59 and moving on alone. It’s scary but my peace of mind is priceless.

@INSIDEBEAUTYwiththeoldgirl 2 года назад

Hi Sandra, you are spot on with every point. Why does it take us so many years to learn these things? I know I was close to 60 or may be a little beyond when I finally saw this in my own life.I guess the closer we get to those golden years we realize what really matters in life and what doesn’t and we don’t wanna waste any precious time. Thank you for a wonderful video! Love and blessings, Sheila

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Shelia, It’s so true, isn’t it?! Life has to happen before we get smart!!😊

@sandrawright8109 2 года назад

This is so true I'm 60now and I am changing daily ...I'm always trying to make other peoples lives better but you can't so I'm concentrating on me for a change.its liberating to say no when I always said yes but meant no.....my partner looks shocked that I don't go along with everything he says anymore....I love the new me...also a Sandra!

@mbtvalli 2 года назад

Same here. I’m 65 and life experience has put many things in their proper perspective. Thanks for the wonderful video, Sandra. Great hearing you tell it like it is!👏🌺😉

@joannakorenik369 2 года назад

Hello Sandra, thank you for all the life wisdom you are sharing with us. I am 39 old year single woman, starting to really accept my life and myself. Its so good to have you and your support on thé way to better life. Love from Poland

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Love right back to you.

@nan-ban3891 2 года назад

Oh my God, Sandra, you have only the obligation to please yourself. My granddaughter is not even smart enough to tell me what to do, hell, she hasn't even lived long enough, I mean she's been an adult for only about 6 years. But, she thinks she knows it all. Thank you for this video.

@dianelopresti9352 2 года назад

Oh Sandra, I wish I could reach out and hug you. Just needed the reinforcement. My hubby is now under hospice care at home and I continue to be his full time caregiver. People, especially family, are telling me from a distance what I should be doing to care for Tony (Dad). BUT, no one actually comes to physically help me. A realization of who's there for you in difficult times. Follow your own life. AMEN. Blessings, Diane

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

I’m there with you. I’m also the caretaker for my husband now. Not an easy job! Blessings your way!

@ParisianThinker 5 месяцев назад

I was a full time caregiver of my husband too. Zero help from anyone, but I managed very well. My husband almost made 100. I am proud of how well I cared for him. I will always love him deeply.

@mulaloratshidaho4073 2 года назад

Thank you Sandra, im a new subscriber from South Africa, it's really refreshing to have the older generation on youtube sharing their own life experiences for us to learn. Keep it up.

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Welcome! So great to have you here. I have been to your beautiful South Africa and hope I can visit again someday!

@charmainephasoana6850 2 года назад

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@lindaring7939 2 года назад

Thank you, Sandra! My mother and I were cutting fabric yesterday, and she said, "Measure twice, cut once." That goes for thinking, too, I guess. Think twice, decide once? I just discovered your videos recently, and I was looking forward to seeing you today. My favorite part today was the advice to live your own life, not to chase someone else's life b/c that one is already taken! What you share is valuable to me. See you next week!

@peroanderson5429 2 года назад

Hello Linda How you doing today?

@stargold3632 5 месяцев назад

Love You Sandra Hart You Are Such An Inspiration For All Ages. You Are So Beautiful Inside Out An Amazing Person. Love Whatever You Say As It Applies To All. Learnt So Much Of Wisdom From You. You Are A Pure Soul And We In Our Family Love You. You Are A Guiding Light A Beacon Of Light Whatever You Say Are Golden Words. Please Take Care Of Yourself Beautiful Sandra Hart God Bless You And Your Family Amen 🙏🏻.

@karenrouth2056 2 года назад

Oh my goodness dearest Sandra! For 19 months life has been not great!! You are an Angel sent to me at this time! Your wisdom, gentleness and compassion is extraordinary… I Bless you and also I send my love to both you and Arthur - with gratitude 🙏❤️🙏

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Hang in there Karen! You can do it!

@charlimejia6368 2 года назад

Learning from your mistakes help us to grow.

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

It does doesn’t it!

@arlenehutchinson9259 5 месяцев назад

🙌🏾❤ Do not fly by the seat of your pants Love this Yes I've been burnt out, burnt up and burned to a crisp 😅 because of this. THANK YOU

@Soulflowz 2 года назад

Much Love & Positivity Sandra … Always pray for Peace 🙏🏾

@fiat3879 2 года назад

Yes, Live in the Present Moment! I have learned all of these life lesson’s, too (the hard way!) & I can attest to Sandra’s advice. Sandra is the friend we ALL want & need, but never had, until now💗 💐

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks for sharing your thoughts

@katherinejohnson8705 2 года назад

Your positivity comes through all the items on your “don’t-list”. Thank you for these life skills reminders! 😊💕

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks Katherine

@peroanderson5429 2 года назад

Hello Katherine How you doing today?

@margarethayes9888 2 года назад

You just a lovely human being. Thank you for your thoughtful videos.

@juliefizpatrick513 2 года назад

Love the tropical vibes in ur introduction! The flowers, birds, bees and the ocean-so beautiful! That parrot was so precious!🌹🌸💐🌺🌷🌻🦜🕊🌊🏝🐚

@heathershinnie-gonzales3933 2 года назад

Good morning from St. Catharines Ontario Canada Sandra, wow it was like you were reading my mind I woke this morning feeling this way, I really needed you to address this, I am retired and looking for a new purpose , my parents are gone and I have a grown son so ………now I find myself helping people just to be kind and I’m burning out , this living in the NOW is work for me so I hear you and will work on it, you would think by the time I got to this age I would have it worked out, but life is always changing, I just find I’m always running to catch up, even if I’m out gardening a neighbor will go by and ask for help or drive them somewhere , I drop my my gardening and help them, I just feel obligated, I think I’m like your Mother, we always want to be kind and needed and loved, so this chat with you came up at a perfect time, I think I’m OCD ???? Sandra thank you, going to listen and try to apply your tips, this is the best advice video , God bless, I will listen to it over and over!, I really appreciate you taking the time for each and everyone of us❤️🇨🇦🇺🇸💐💐💐

@texasstardust6010 2 года назад

..... I am also older, and I understand what you meant.... we desire to be kind, helpful. However, I've drawn the line at " dropping everything " just to accommodate people. I'm not talking about life's little " Emergencies " or someone's car breaks down, etc. I'm speaking of the way that people think that " because I no longer go to work , I have all the time in the world "...with no thought to what I may be doing ,or how I'm occupying my time . So, yes, I will help others, when truly needed. But I am not dropping everything, as I once did. Others may see it as " selfish " ..but really.... if we are close to 70 years of age, who gets to decide...??? Who decides on how we use our time , if we are still kind and caring but don't want to feel imposed upon ,on a whim. We can say " No " in a kind way , and offer alternatives that work for our own Life. I like to putter.... I do. So if I want to spend my day " puttering " ..I will. Lol. Some days are " productive puttering " ....other times might not be. Lol. It's ok to give to yourself.... so we CAN give to others ,and not feel that all we do is " play catch up ".

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

So happy this helped and was on your mind today. Thanks for sharing

@heathershinnie-gonzales3933 2 года назад

@@lifewithsandrahart Sandra, I hope you know and realize how much you help other people , even if you touch one person like me, I personally thank you, you seem to know right when to hit on an issue dear to my heart, so sending love always from my heart❤️💐🇨🇦🇺🇸❤️

@laurawalker546 2 года назад

I live in a retirement community of 55 plus and I have helped older people here too. I have found that if I'm not careful I will make myself sick worrying about them and not building a new life for myself. I have to pick and choose the situation. lines have to be drawn for our own health and sanity. I love my community and I feel very safe and warm here with all the nice people around but if people know you will help them they can ask you to do more and more and it is up to us to know where our limits are and also to make sure we are living our best life now. I also have had great neighbors who have helped me. I had a fall recently where I broke my shoulder out in the garden. and luckily I had my cell phone on me and was able to call my neighbor and ask them to help get me up and drive me to the hospital. luckily they were around and had no problem doing this for me. there are some circumstances where it is great to be needed and to be there to help. but we have to know what help is really needed and what other help is not so important and let it go and live our lives how we want to

@mypinklife3415 2 года назад

Great advice Sandra.I appreciate your videos. A special lady who is a mentor in my life once told me "Say less than you know and show less than you own." I pondered those words and started applying them and have found that advice to be very helpful.

@ayanismail624 2 года назад

I am in my late 40s, I came cross and pay attention of your channel for the first time, you are an amazing being, I loved it . Thank you.

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Welcome. I hope you will come back often!

@eyerusm721 2 года назад

Well noted, Just Wow all ur advice are really important u raising good ideas.... God bless 🙌more!

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks so much

@iooo6549 2 года назад

thank you so much! After two months I'm gonna be 14 years old I am so excited for this I want to try new things and to achieve my goals You give me a lot of the positive energy Thank you again for your advice

@DashniMorad 2 года назад

I listen to you every night before bed while I take off my makeup. Thank you for your advice, warmth, friendship and love

@MaryEllenAfter60 2 года назад

You know I agree with everything you said, my friend. Enjoyed watching you yesterday morning as I sipped my delicious cup of coffee!! Sure hope you are taking care of yourself, my friend. Blessings, prayers, and love..MaryEllen

@michellediekman4873 2 года назад

As always, Fantastic advice. You are a Gem, God Bless you and those you Love. 🤗😙❤🐕🐕🐈🐈😊

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks Michelle

@catherinenarvaez8420 2 года назад

Good morning Sandra, excellent message this Tuesday morning.

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks so much Catherine

@perezlourdes8223 2 года назад

Sandra, what great advice! I protect my peace.. everything you said is so true! At 65, I appreciate ALL in my life. You add warmth and a cozy home for my soul l Love you

@helgashubat8238 2 года назад

You are one special, beautiful woman! I am not kidding. Love your videos and style. I am learning so much.

@justmaria5806 2 года назад

Good morning to you Sandra! I finally taught myself a new mental exercise. I developed this exercise for use every time I look back and start the what ifs or maybe I should haves. I envision a pair of strong but gentle hands that take my head and return it ever so gently to a forward position. I even hear this voice that says "STOP; you can't move forward and make the choices you need to do when you are looking at the past." In the meantime, thank you ever so much for the topics you share. Look how much they mean to so many people.

@sherylsmith2812 2 года назад

thank-you for your lessons. I always have regrets, I worry alot, I wish I could turn back time. I lost my husband 1 1/2 years ago and its been so hard.

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

I know. Loss of a loved one is very hard.

@lindabullock6159 2 года назад

Pure wisdom. Thank you. I just found your channel right after my 70th birthday. I am so enjoying it and taking your wisdom into my heart. 💕

@MarthaMartinez-mh8mx 2 года назад

My dear I have been a people’s pleaser all my long life . I’ll be 86 years young in August . Thanks for your words.

@gloriamariadealmeidasoares8830 2 года назад

Love to listen to you, Sandra. Lots of love from Brazil🥰🌻

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Love back to you

@mahine1877 2 года назад

Thank you Sandra, totally I agree with you , I have been there, done that. Great advices.

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks so much

@vivstyle87 Год назад

Thank you so much for the wonderful advice. Decades ago, I used to be a people pleaser and wants everybody to be happy. Even on time when I don’t have something to give, I’ll make a way just to help them, sometimes I barrow money just to give it to them when they ask me and they need it and I don’t know why I can’t say no. Until one day I woke up where in my problems were bigger than I am, maybe that is what I attracted in my life for being a people pleaser in more than decade. Now I realized I need to think and love myself first, because no matter how good you think you are to other people, it will never be enough for them.

@nancybrone7985 2 года назад

This is so wise and I continue to struggle with changing these habits. Thank you for words of encouragement.......

@aparajitasingh400 2 года назад

Hi Sandra, enjoyed listening to you today.It was really a thought -provoking, insightful talk.Each point you picked up was worth pondering and implementing.Much love from India.

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks so much for your kindness

@eileen945 2 года назад

Oh Sandra… How I love these chats. They sooo resonate with me at 68. This is …. AGAIN, very timely, as I have had to reset and rethink things myself with acceptance, not people pleasing and mostly “ the lessons to LEARN”. I actually love this part. The worrying, is an interesting subject for me. It has been the thorn in my side fir as long as I can also remember. And do you know Sandra….(?) That just a few days ago I said the most simple sentence to my brain. It was if I’ve NEVER heard these words before; Eileen… I’m not going to worry about that. What a new concept for me🤗. So.. indeed, letting things go is a process that I am falling in love with. One very great thing that has happened recently , ( a wish come true for me) is my ex sister-in-law ( my non family sister❤️) is moving here to Az. 10 minutes away from me. She has been a mentor and a loving human to me these last years of difficulty for me. I’ve been praying for some like minded women friends and now she will be here end of June. My heart is HAPPY and who knows what it will all bring. I still keep an eye out for opportunities in housing for me…. But I am not feeling stressed or urgent. Every thing you shared here today is on my own list and promises to myself. Thank you my dear friend for your continued channel. I love you too Sandra. You also look very darling today as usual . Much respect to you and your life ❤️❤️❤️🌈🌈🌈

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

I’m so happy you got something from this today. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts with me

@geoffreybowe167 2 года назад

Hi Sandra. I am 64 and recently developed heart disease so was browsing you tube trying to get some dietry advice. I came across you and was completely impressed. Not only with your diet and how amazingly healthy you look but the way you talk so much sense. I immediately became a Sandra fan. Anyway you look so good and talk so much sense that I've decided I don't need any trendy diets or so called experts I'm just listening to you. So keep up the good work

@dellnichols4625 2 года назад

So much wisdom here. Don’t be a people pleaser. Don’t be a worrier. Appreciate your own life. Those were my favorites. And these things should be learned early on, but it’s never too late!

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks

@betho.3542 2 года назад

Sandra, thank you again and again for starting another day with positive thoughts, beautiful pictures and your relaxed way!

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thank you

@LindyWYID 2 года назад

Thank you dear Sandra for sharing your wisdom and love with us. I enjoy you so much and you bring comfort to me.❤️

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks so much for letting me know. Thanks so much

@LindyWYID 2 года назад

@@lifewithsandrahart ❤️

@patticarpenter4382 2 года назад

I have been watching your channel for a few years. I will turn 60 this year. I have been evaluating how I want to use my time and energy. I think I deserve to focus on myself after raising four children and working to support their interests. Thank you for the perspective. Take care.

@margueritehardin3763 9 месяцев назад

Sandra, as always, I love the thoughts you share. So many people fail to realize that people-pleasing is an impossible task. Happiness and the state of being pleased are choices each of us make for ourselves. Therefore, it is not possible to please anyone else solely through our own efforts, however well-meaning we may be.

@ingapinga8079 2 года назад

I really love to hear your kind voice in the morning. It's relaxing and yet I learn something ❤️ Many thanks for being you ❤️

@jan-christinejohnson5256 2 года назад

Inga, Yes, Sandra does have a very kind voice that we need first thing in the morning.

@borleyboo5613 2 года назад

Who else is she going to be but herself. 🙄

@ingapinga8079 2 года назад

@@jan-christinejohnson5256 That's so very true ❤️

@ingapinga8079 2 года назад

@@borleyboo5613 Meaning: that the lovely Sandra is resting in her own skin, mind and overall well-being and I appreciate her embracing herself. She's a dear and I love to hear everything she has to say ❤️

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Inga, you are so kind. Thank you

@robbins2973 2 года назад

I have learnt these the hard way as well, at 27. But sometimes we just need someone to remind us of the things we know, right? 🥰 Thank you so much Sandra, your vitality and mindset are so inspiring. I wish you the best!

@TheBrightenDay 2 года назад

Your existence makes me happy. Thank you so much for making your videos for us. Happy you’re just making them because you want not to please us. 💜

@heremieiging8415 Год назад

Good morning. I like your lovely fantastic sharing. Take care all ❤️

@lynnepierson2549 2 года назад

Hello -I am so happy to see that you have shared another video!❤

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks so much

@lizstyles4611 2 года назад

Hi Sandra! Thank you so much for your excellent advice! At 53, I sure wish I would have listened sooner.

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks a lot

@marshamengel1769 5 месяцев назад

Words of wisdom! Thank you Sandra! ❤

@hispanicservices9225 2 года назад

Thank you dear for your advice and your time 💓

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

You are most welcome

@winnersneeddiscipline4926 2 года назад

This is incredible Sandra. I can't stop learning from you . I choose to learn everyday and appreciate everything that happens in my life. Nowadays I'm not bitter anymore I feel blessed to have daily bread and good people around me ♥

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks for what you are grateful for

@maritzatorres4428 2 года назад

Good morning, So much good advice and positive content. No more people pleasing and let go of the past hit home for me today. Thank you for the reminder. Love you ❤

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks

@stephanygoodpasture5541 Год назад

Your a daily breathe of fresh air! I love your intro the birds. Flowers 💐 🌹. So grateful for you Sandra!

@jodysierra4641 2 года назад

Absolutely fantastic, thank you Sandra I feel so much better listening to you, you're so wise and fabulous and gorgeous ...👍💕💕💕💕😘

@j.h.431 2 года назад

Found your channel today and I love it. Thank you for all your wisdom! I loved the video about healthy food as I'm trying to change my diet atm

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Welcome! So great to have you

@FaithyandOtis..Massachusetts 2 года назад

Hello Sandra I hope all is well I never clicked so fast❤️❤️ sending you prayers and well wishes to you and yours🙏have a blessed day❌⭕️❌⭕️me and Otis🐶`Massachusetts..p.s. I do not sweat the small stuff anymore; my mind‘s not occupied what everyone else has or whatever else else is doing or thinking what is best for me; I just want to live a simple life with me and my dog and my family of course. My faith in my God has taught me to do this and turn everything over to Him, He is the only one that can take my fears away and knows everything. The long-standing joke is “Do you want to make God laugh”? make a plan😂😂 yesterday is gone tomorrow hasn’t come yet, today is the Present, which is a “Gift”..

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks. Great thoughts!

@2EternityButterflies 2 года назад

Thank you from my heart. You are such a wonderful inspiration. Hugs from one of your DoBees.

@nataliasidorenko5992 2 года назад

I am so happy that I found you channel! You are awesome! Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us ❤️Hello from Germany 🇩🇪

@filmfan-lf3gr 2 года назад

Recently discovered your videos: Sandra, you are the very image of aging gracefully. We need to hear this advice---stay present, learn to let go of the past, stop worrying---at any age, and we need to appreciate all that life gives us, the challenges and the joy. Namaste, all . . .

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thank you for letting me know

@victoriabourgeois3273 2 года назад

Great lessons, but hard to learn. Love your videos Miss Sandra. Tfs cheers

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

It’s so true!

@valerieheath4560 2 года назад

i am a male, 58 years old, single by choice and loving it and i want you to know how much i love your videos and admire you. for years my mistake was trying to get people to be happy, see the bright side of life, and i could never find them. i only found worry warts or people that were content on being miserable. you are the opposite and i love it. thank you for being you and teaching me things to improve myself and my life. forever grateful.

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

I really appreciate your kindness and support. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me today and best of luck to you!

@kevindecoteau3186 5 месяцев назад

Bless you Sandra.

@jaylaw.7660 2 года назад

I’m 22 and this is the best advice. ❤️ Thank you, beautiful Sandra! Grateful you mentioned Anaïs Nin in the beginning- she’s another great woman. Love y’all

@heatherwhittaker6169 2 года назад

Thank you Sandra.Your messages seem to appear just when I need them most Bless you xx

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks Heather.

@kd.9631 2 года назад

Golden words,so lucky to have watched this,so kind of you to share,Love you lots ,God bless.

@pam3952 2 года назад

I too married into a toxic family and was never defended by my husband, he even joined in with the mockery. I felt i could breathe when i got divorced and decided to cut ties with his family as well. I also have a twin we were very close once that turned on me listening to his narc wife too much. They are regretfully kept at arms length now you have to protect yourself from toxic behaviour. I had to tell a friend that betrayed me that the friendship was over. I have forgiven them all and wish them well. You don’t need to tolerate that and never think its you like i did - its not.

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks for sharing

@sparkleinco2035 2 года назад

So good. I will have to listen to this again

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks so much

@IsabellaBlue 2 года назад

Thank you for such a wonderful message today! I tend to worry constantly too, just like my mother did! You are absolutely right, it's useless! We do what we can for everyone else and having faith that everything will be alright is exactly what Jonathan does, maybe that can rub off on me too!😊 You are truly an inspiration to me and I appreciate you so very much! Have a wonderful week my friend ❤️

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks for sharing

@1212salsera 2 года назад

Thank you, my dear. I really appreciate your reflections on life. You are a true gift. xx.

@Muthoni568 5 месяцев назад

Thank you Sandra. You look beautiful ❤

@JenniferLovesCouture 2 года назад

Sandra wow love these lessons you shared today. Once again your words touched me and my life. Hugs and hope you have a wonderful week. Xx Jennifer 🥰❤️

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Jennifer, I really appreciate your being here today. Thanks for your support and kindness.

@cherylmcmillan984 2 года назад

This was your best message yet! Thanks so much Sandra!

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks Cheryl

@qiuwbr091 Год назад

“Don’t chase after someone else’s life.” That is a very good way to express an anti-jealousy message. Jealous people really want to live your life even if you can’t understand why.

@kimkelly9046 2 года назад

You are a very wise woman. I absolutely needed to hear this at this point in my life. I so wish I could spend an afternoon with you. God bless you!

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

How kind of you to say that. Thanks so very much

@charlenewilliford6957 2 года назад

I m in the NOW and totally enjoying your video this Tuesday morning. Spot on with your message. Love to you, doggies and Arthur

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

Thanks Charlene

@claudiascott6484 2 года назад

Hi Sandra. I love your hair and blouse. Thank you for the great advice. It is so self defeating to envy another person's lifestyle. I think we all can admit to being tempted to do this. Thank you for the lovely chat my Sister. 🥰

@georgemaxwell4984 2 года назад

Such wisdom Sandra. ❤ - Frances

@mariaguadagno9483 2 года назад

Thank you Sandra,I agree,you are right Sending both my children this video!!! I listened to you on Romper Room,now my young adult "kids" listen to you on you tube! You have a special calling!! Take good care,and thank you again for your advice!

@bluejay5531 2 года назад

dear Sandra, thank you, how I wish I had a wise feminine figure (come to think of it even a masculine one would have been helpful) growing up...I am in a really rough place and have been for years, feeling like quicksand, each move I make to try and change things only seems to make me go down further...it feels healing to listen to this simple and straightforward advice, although often the most simple and wise things are the hardest to do..I feel I have taken all the wrong turns, wasted my life and feel to exhausted and disoriented to know how to switch things around...but I am a seeker deep at heart and soul, and will not give up...much Light and Love to you and all

@lifewithsandrahart 2 года назад

I am so glad that this came at a good time for you. Tomorrow is another chance to change the direction of your life. Never give up. I once thought everything in my life had gone wrong, but I survived and moved in. You can, too! I’ll be thinking of you!!

@bluejay5531 2 года назад

@@lifewithsandrahart oh Sandra that is so sweet, thank you...I just feel so drained, exhausted that I wish I had the energy to be able to change things, I feel I lack the energy....I watched your video on the law of attraction and I do write my gratitudes every day, and I am aware i have too much negativity in fear and lack of hope...I am working consciously on trying to change that but it's not easy....not easy to surrender and trust the process...take care, be well 🌷

@vccsrelax 2 года назад

Really valuable information for every person of any age. You filled our heart with infectious positive vibes and thoughts. It’s really wonderful to watch you. Continue helping us with your positive energy. 💛💙🙏🏻