Kari the Mortician answers the popular questions...Is it legal to scatter cremated remains?! The answer may surprise you! www.karinorthey.com kari@Karinorthey.com
My son and I worked a long time on a tourist railroad on weekends. My son loved working on the steam engine. When he died from a hit and run accident, I took his ashes to the railroad. I was in the locomotive cab and threw his ashes in the firebox while running. The throttle was opened wide and away he went with whistle blowing.. One of the engine crew was in tears. What a send off!
Thank you Kari. People needed the clarity of "NO"! In California the cremation/transportation permit requires a named destinstion for the cremains. People need to be warned in any case about the identity disk in the cremains. Illicit scattering parties could be found out.
I didn't see any identity disc in the remains I saw one in the box they dropped off at my house. I used online cremation service guy dropped it off at my door like amazon.
My Dad wanted to be cremated and his ashes scattered in Long Island sound. Well, MOST of Dad’s ashes were scattered in New Haven Harbor (he said they’d get to LI Sound eventually). I put some in the sand trap of the 6th hole of the back none at Goodwin Park golf course (he was a grounds keeper and played every day) and buried a vial of his ashes where my Mom is buried. I will be cremated, my ashes mixed with my cat’s ashes and scattered at Bolton Lake. Permission? Nah!
My dad said when he died, he wanted to be cremated and his ashes be scattered from the top of Tower City, he said he wanted to be on peoples Heads and in their food 😆 but now that I KNOW, Ill make sure to get permission from the owner and maybe the city
I suppose someone could take a page out of the Shawshank Redemption and take spread the cremains one handful at a time like Andy did his wall in the exercise yard.
That actually taught me something on some level or another. I didn't think there was actual bone left over after the cremation process. I had figured the finished product or matter was fine dust. You know like from dust we came to dust we go. If it were entirely ashes that were left over I can't even imagine who would know and therefore care for that matter. It's nature at it's finest, simply put dust poured out on dust.
So it's more out of respect ....my mother was cremated and I always thought it wasn't legal to just spread her ashes just anywhere as per her dying wishes. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. 🥰🥰
My Grandfather ,My Cousin Ray and My Uncle Dick were cremated and their ashes are in the Gulf Of Mexico here in Fla ..My Stepson Jimmies ashes are spread in a cave in Mid Fla .a place he loved when he was alive ...My Daughter in law still has My Sons Justin Cremains ..My Stepson Dan .some of his ashes are spread on our property along with my Stepfather ..My Dads Cremains are in a Veterans Cemetery in Pinellas county fl....Man we lost alot of people along the way
You really shouldn't scatter the ashes. Instead, divide up the ashes, so each friend and relative can get their cut of ashes. Then mail their portion to them. I can just hear it now, " Honey, what would you like me to do with Uncle Donald's ashes?" " Just put them in the fireplace, with everyone elses!"
Thank you Kari for making that clear. Most folks don't know the laws about that. Well done! But looking at the surroundings that looks suspiciously like the Lansing area LOL.....(yeah...Michigander here)
People may say 30 is far to young to start thinking about a funeral but I want to make sure everything goes to plan on my day I'm no longer here.I want my funeral to be the most unusual one.with a Very unusual grave.
Good to know, my mother in law wants to be scattered along a famous road here in Philadelphia....... now we know, we'll ask permission when it happens! I want my ashes scattered in the ocean in Scotland!
Thanks for sharing your knowledge I didn't know it wasn't legal cause I know someone that wants their remains spread around their school thanks again for sharing
@@mula2626 But it may hurt you ! With various laws and people reporting things out of the ordinary. You could get a felony if they find out ? With cameras everywhere It's a lot harder to get away with things nowadays. I do get what you are saying. But you risk having a damaging record and financial heartache. Kari is so right to point this out. Ask permission !
It is here in Australia. My sister and I scattered our mother’s ashes on a lake in 2010 and will be doing again with my father who recently passed away. It’s a beautiful and peaceful place
My mother died last month. Her request was I scatter her ashes in her little pet cemetery where all her beloved pets are. It’s December and I went to the house. It’s a very rural place. Several acres. I’ve decided I will do it in the spring. I’m going to plant beautiful perennials and rake her ashes into the soil I use to fill the square. She has small dog and cat figurines out there but no markers to show exactly where they are buried. I plan to buy some appropriate pet related decor to adorn it with. And of course just a small something as a tribute to her. Ugh. Here come the tears again.
I have a small portion of my fathers remains and was going to scatter them on my mom's and sister's grave, the person from Dignity, who owns the cemetery, told me not in this cemetery...asked if i could bury them..nope, they would have to did the hole provide a vault to the cost of $2,000...I looked at him dead in the eye and told him to go have sex with himself! Mom and dad bought 4 plots back in the 70's currently only 2 have been used, mom and my sister, dad remarried and decided to be cremated and have his, his wife and 2 dogs ashes put in the lake..
I seen ashes spread on the great Lakes, out of small planes, off the Mackinac Bridge! But not on a public walk way? My mother's was spread on our property and Worked in the ground per her wishes... No problem.
Thank you I wasn’t aware I still have my mom’s ashes and was planning on going to the last place we went together to the beach. Now I’ll have to look into it.
@@rickyn1135 do you know how hot it has to be to burn a body. Besides what’s left if you do burn the body there are some bones left. It takes a pulverizer to ground those bones down as that’s what the ashes are. There aren’t any actual ashes. It’s bone that was ground into a gritty course sandy material.
Kari does the crematory charge extra to just dispose of the remains themselves???? My dad took my mom’s ashes home to their house where they have remained for years! It freaks my kids out-they don’t even like going over there! After I saw their reaction, I told my husband not to bring my remains home if I pass before him. So can the crematory just dispose of the remains? Tia
There are all kinds of things you can do with ashes now and iam sure your kids will be grown and you will live long and they won't be creeped out. But u can have them out in a painting or made into a diamond the possibilities are endless .
I would have thought that getting permission to scatter ashes would have been common sense, but apparently not. I have friends and family who worked at Disneyland, and they were always shutting rides down or closing off areas because someone was caught sprinkling ashes all over So-N-So's favorite ride or favorite spot in the park.
We have a family grave plot it holds the bodies of my Grandfather's brother (died 1945) my Grandfather (died 1956) my Mother (died 1975) and my Grandmothers cremated remains who died in 1980. Yes there was a charge for burying her ashes. It makes sense that you'd need permission to scatter cremated remains on land you don't own.
I dont think it would be a good idea to scatter creamains wherever you want to because it would feel like you are always walking or swimming or whatever on or in someone else's remains. It almost feels like it would be a disgrace to the person whos creamains they are? I do get it that some people want to be scattered near a place that they loved or a memorable place. I guess I'm on the fence with this one?🤷
A caveat you might not want to scatter them in your backyard especially if you live in an HOA they might blow into your neighbor's property. I remember years ago reading about a company that scattered ashes from an airplane in the Outer Banks and people in those fancy homes complained that they would get pieces of ashes in their barbecued food when they were out grilling!
in Colorado the forest service does allow cremated remains in some area's but you must do an Application for permission 2 weeks prior and consult them where you can go from reading it seems to be Public area's i.e. path's etc. is a No No. and there supposedly Free of a fee .But who knows give it time I'm sure Government will try get a few more dollars out of you.
@@KaritheMortician Thank you for answering a question I've had for years!! My dad wanted his ashes spread over his garden - mom didn't do it, but nice to know she could've....
Also, don't even consider scattering the cremated remains of your loved ones at Disneyland or Walt Disney World. I get it. Your loved ones enjoyed going to those places, but they don't allow anyone to scatter the cremated remains of your loved ones. They will sweep up the cremated remains and put them in the trash, and those who did that will be kicked out of those places and banned from the parks for life.
Kari is it usually the same price to open a grave for cremated remains if I want to burrie someone with my parents that are already buried, I guess opening and closing cost is what im asking
It's legal to spread ashes on BLM land I checked not national forest land which lot of people are mistaken think they can. I live in Arizona we have 1000's of acres of BLM Desert land. Were fortunate to have so much public land.
If you know what your looking for then I suppose you’d know. We live near a beach and dunes, and the amount of people who take a stroll to scatter loved ones ashes is at least 4/6 times a year. I didn’t think that “bigger” bone/teeth pieces would be handed over? Surely they grind you finer?🤔 Love your vlogs btw! Always wanted to be a funeral director! But I’m almost 50! Too late for that know. Xx
@@KaritheMortician how do I get into it? I’d love to help out at a funeral home. I know someone who owns their own, and have offered my time to them, so hopefully one day they may ask. I feel I have a longing to help the desceased. I was poorly 8 years ago with breast cancer, and for me I hit some dark times, and then my strength was born. Xx
Yeah I sprinkled my sister in the park and the creek area behind my house and my dad put some over moms grave. I just figured who would know or care if it's out side . I didn't put them on the sidewalk or anything .😁
My late husband's dad wants some of his ashes . On top of my late husband. I am the owner of the plot I told him it was okay it does not bother me but what I have to talk to the cemetery to dig like a foot down to put some ashes in there? I'm in ohio up by Toledo
Thank you kari but I have a question is it the same price to put cremated remains with your parents or is discounted to open a grave that someone on topic someone who is already buried id like to put my brother with my mom and dad
late to the answers, but I had to get permission from the country of Tortola, on a cruise. I had to provide the actual cremation cert, with my moms name and # I had to purchase a water soluble container ( easy to get on Amazon), and proof it was water dissolvable) and we had to be well over 3 nautical miles from shore. The cruise line was amazing in getting the permission from Tortola. The container was beautiful, paper with a rose and we could ( but didn't) throw live flowers ( no plastic etc. It was actually quite involved but went smoothly. She is part of the ocean that she loved as a child.. in warm waters.
I want my skull turned into an urn for my cremated remains... I've done a lot of research, but it seems impossible to do legally in the United States. Any ideas on how I could accomplish this?
