@@Chironex_Fleckeri Is it a correct comparison though? I barely know any girls who are as socially challenged as guys, they may be lacking confidence before exams, or presentations or interviews or whatever, but my personal experience is that girls are more at place in social interactions than guys.
@@elumiomerk4013 maybe you are right, but the point is even though if a girl likes a guy, she won't make the first move, she just gives the signal to a man that she likes him and expect him to make a first move and ask them out, A man has to make the first move if he likes a girl or a girl likes him both ways, Isn't that unfair, And I think that most of guys aren't asking girls out because they are afraid of rejection, In my opinion if a man likes a girl, and he wants to ask girl for a date he should ask her out, And if a girl likes a boy she should ask him out, and don't waste time on giving him signals that she likes him and wait for him to ask her out
"has a man ever texted you to ask you out" -"yeah and it is awful" gillette: shows man approaching woman on street, women say "yeah thats not cool, thats harassment" ... ... what are we supposed to do then?
We don’t have this problem in my country.. If I like a girl I will ask for her hand from her father to set up a first date this means I am serious about my intentions then if she likes me back we get engaged and that’s it
yessir, and Ive been with enough at 35. Women have drastically changed into some weird internet hybrid. Around 2016 and 2017 it was no longer a good idea. Strange and unfortunate with whats being pushed in a supposed modern society. Social engineering to destroy a empire. It's happened to all of them throughout history starngely enough.
The girl who replied, "lazy" is right... but I think she's right for a different reason than she thinks. It just doesn't require as much effort to do anything anymore, that includes dating interactions. I also don't have to grab my bow and arrows and trek miles out into the wilderness to hunt or trap my dinner each day. Does that mean I'm lazy if I order a pizza delivery online instead OR is it convenient? Social media and other technology has made it a simpler task and there are also cultural considerations, you used to have to know a girl's family to ask her out a few generations ago. So the guy in the video who says he asks girls out by text message and that's he's received many positive responses...there's your answer. Less effort, but same desired result...
Best comment ITT. If you see a guy you like but he won't come to you? Why don't you come to him? If women are allowed to break traditional female role in this day and age, why can't men break traditional male role by letting girls come to him occasionally.
@@XlAnonymousUserlX we shouldn't want anyone breaking traditional gender roles. If they want to be asked out, they just need to keep looking as pretty as possible and not be argumentative.
@@RealityCheck6T9 bruuh if they like the person so much why don't they do it because it's traditional that's like saying why don't black people work for white people it was traditional back in the day we don't want to break that traditional role
If the girl likes the guy who is asking her out, it's romantic. If the girl doesn't like the guy who is asking her out, it's harassment. Since we don't know which guy we are until we ask you out we instead ask you to hang out until we can figure out if you want us to ask you out. If you don't like that than you can do one of two things. Stop treating any guy you don't like who asks you out like a sexual harassing predator, or ask the men out yourself. You've turned yourselves into land mines with hair triggers, of course we are terrified to approach you.
How about *you* ask a guy out if you want him. Don't wait for life to happen for you, seize it and take control of it. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
@@modest8930 Do you have any idea how many millions of men would die for the experience of being asked out? And how literally zero of them would take it as harassment? And if the answer's no, 99% of guys know how to politely decline.
@@jukes4499 Idk I'm a traditionalist. I believe it should be men that courts women. I know we live in a matriarchal society and the roles have been reversed. However it's natural for men to pursue women, not the other way around. Women are the selectors, not the pursuers. Throughout history it has been this way and for good reason.
my experience is that i cannot merely ask a girl out. She has to be impressed, whether it be through flirting, being funny, or doing something out of the ordinary. I see alot of girls who seem uncomfortable about the idea of dating me most likely it has to do with my first impression (something i'm not very good at). If i ask them to "hang out" they seem alot less fearful (just friends?) and generally say yes to that idea, Giving me a better shot at leaving a better impression.
They want you to ask them in public so that they feel much better rejecting you in front of people. If Brad Pitt asked them on Facebook inbox they wouldn't consider it lame.
Traditionally that has been the case. Girl are shy to be the first one to ask, no matter how advanced society has become but still one cannot change the inbuilt psychology.
My husband and I met online (him Washington and me California) so we sorta text each other if we wanted to go out (come for a visit)One thing that got me was when he asked me to marry him lolWe were dating for a year and a half, but he was still really nervous. I told him he already knew I’d say yes so why was he so scared. He told me “I don’t know... I guess it’s guy thing” lol
that's nature not equality bro. the key is moving to the lock, not the lock to the key ( if you got imagination you can guess what i am talking about )
It's always been the guy's thing to ask the woman out. When I was still dating (a while back) I did have a few women ask me out, but that was still rare. If men want to date women, then ask them out. If you're a woman and you want to date a guy, then you might have to show a little interest to prod him.
I don't get what's the problem with just simply hanging out. I mean i'll hang out with girls that i have a good impression of and she might be like someone i could date. But first i got to know the girl more or less. I mean become sort of friends, but also interested. And then i ask her out if i like her. It's just the thing i don't ask every girl out on a date, when i don't know her.
Good bit of the old lifestyle guru routine going here without any overtouchy russell brand style yoga mats needed, nice one, should've asked the women how many of the guys creepily texting them were teachers/staff at the university?
The reason why the guys are not asking women out on dates is because they don't want the cops showing up at their door the morning after because the girl accused him of rape.
"Do nothing," I beg to differ. If you saw how big an effort most girls make to look and be good so they can be the type of girl guys would want to date you'd be shocked. Often when a girl is making this effort to be noticed or wanted/to "get a date," and they aren't getting asked they may wonder "Well what's wrong with me?" & this isn't at all the guys fault or anything it's just how many girls feel. So whether it's right or wrong that's probably 1 reason why the girls in the video are upset.
And peoples are surprised why the confident chad or the bad boys get the pretty girls.. they come to girls with an approach that is rare to find, this de facto impresses them. That doesn't make them good partners tho, they're skilled in the first step and some even put all their charisma points into initiation.
...I thought its always hang out first, get a coffee and getting know each other. If its going well, then should be a date??! Or just ask for the date when u only know her name?
I totally always ask the guy out, haha they're definitely nervous about "ruining the friendship" /"making it weird". if I like a guy or even a girl I let them know even if the feelings aren't mutual. At least its off your shoulders and the air is cleared. If they say yes awesome, if they say no, oh well dont pout about it move on. I will agree timing is everything and actually going out as opposed to "hanging out" works best. Lunch is safest, both breakfast and dinner are a little too personal (and usually more expensive for a first date), split the check or better yet, surprise him and YOU pay. YOU invited them out, YOU pay. Or if they invite you, YOU BE ACCOUNTABLE FOR YOUR OWN EXPENSES. Men aren't your personal wallet. Have fun, laugh, just enjoy each other's company and if it leads to romance and both of you are comfortable, go for it (safely). I hope that helped anyone, best wishes and be safe!
I think that asking girls out over a text just spares yourself the humiliation in front of others. Well at least for me I would rather keep it between both of us
This is fascinating, you guys do good work. I feel like with the rise of feminine equality guy-girl relations are in a weird flux because guys (evolutionary used to having social superiority) are intimidated by girls because society is doing away with sexism and we don't feel that confident surge that comes with being "a man". Meanwhile, girls are still bound to be attracted to the confident "alpha" male. That's what this guy thinks anyway.
jack favvv02 absolutely yes. The reason that women like for men to be the ones to 'make the move' is because it leaves them with the power in that particular moment. Once you declare your interest in someone by asking them out you are just left hanging on their response. It's a frightening feeling which every guy in this video acknowledged, you have to be willing to face rejection. Women don't want to ask so they don't get rejected. They feel as if they bide their time, they'll eventually get asked out. Considering every girl in the video, save one, was asked out within the last year...it's seems women can wait for the right moment instead of making it happen. Ask yourself this, how many guys, even really popular attractive successful guys do you know that women have asked out? It doesn't happen. Women will flirt and they have other ways to get a guy's attention, but they don't just ask.
So women want men to, 'make the move' because it leaves them with power. But if you think it about carefully, that's more like the absence of power because it pretty much indicates that they "won't" be able to do it due to there gender. And where as men, can. Women can wait, but there's no guarantee that it will happen. With technology on the rise(mainly dolls and "special" robots), men will find less and less reasons to ask a woman out. I wonder if by then women will change their way of thinking.
jack favvv02 I wouldn't underestimate women if I were you. They know how to get a guy's attention without just asking, they're certainly not powerless. In fact, my point is that they have final say 'yes/no' when a guy does ask. And I personally don't think robots or anything like that is even a threat at all to women, for me there is no comparison to the real thing.
Like the women said in video, men are asking more and more vie text. Not sure how effectively they'll be able to do that like they can in person(getting a guys attention). Remember, social interaction has severely declined due to social media. So I wouldn't underestimate our technology that's inversely proportional to us being more and more lazy if I were you. I'd give it twenty more years.
jack favvv02 I'd rather be the one underestimating some kind of technological sex robot revolution than the one underestimating 300,000 years of evolution and interpersonal romantic relationships...but that's just me.
Yeah of fucking course the people who have like zero fucking risk of getting their heart ripped out and smashed in front of their face think that it's "wussy".
