LET'S TALK ABOUT COLORISM | dating preferences, skin bleaching, light skin privilege 

I used to hate my skin color but now I’ve embraced being darker and I thank God that I didn’t let society make me go to the point of bleaching my skin. It’s really sad man…

colorism is also a big issue among south asian communities

I hate how Hollywood has this obsession with light skin or mixed actors and as a lighter complexioned mixed person myself, their NEEDS to be darker skin representation and a wider range of shades for black actors, especially women

Colourism is real man I’m a deep brown skinned female, and my God I experience it all x

It happens in latinoamerica too, not to the point to get bleached ( is not common) but we have micro discrimination in our society. They thinking having lighter skin is more “ beautiful”. They even use “ poor color” o “door color” as an insult.

The part of the video where she talks about casting lighter skinned Black women for dark skinned fictional characters is 100% true and REALLY annoys me!!! There are plenty of dark-skinned women out there more than perfectly capable and playing Storm from the X-Men, WHY NOT USE THEM???? f**kin give them a job! hire them!!!!! I want to scream this so bad. But instead they want to cast f**kin Zoe Kravitz or Card B (basically any light-skinned Black woman) for the part. It makes my blood boil!

Sadly, I lot of us have absorbed the white standards of beauty causing self-hate as well as trying to erase our blackness. There are too many dark skinned men who go for light skinned black women, biracial or white women cause of it. Personally, I never used skinned to for my preference. I was attracted to black women of all skinned tones and eventually married a brown skinned black woman.

This happened on the Tyler perry TV show "Meet the Browns" when they replaced the dark skin Brianna with a lighter skinned one

I don't know about anybody else but I love my skin tone it's beautiful

Nice video format. I love the voiceover talent. A lot of people don't understand narration is pretty hard to master. You did a Great job

I grew up with Dad who hated bleached women. And am glad I new a'm beautiful in my dark skin.

Dark skin men know they’re choosing lighter women.

I see it all over TikTok it’s so sad it affects so many minorities. If you have Eurocentric features you’re automatically deemed as more attractive that’s why I have a problem with ppl who say ‘dating preferences’ because it’s typically goes back to colourism but a lot of ppl will not admit to this it’s very sad. It’s not just on TikTok it’s on everything dating shows especially it’s sad. This why I stay off socials it’s mostly all rooted in colourism. I’d like to think we’re making a change for the better but let’s be real here companies are only making a change because if they don’t they’ll be cancelled they aren’t doing it cos they want to they’re doing it so they’ll profit from it. I also find Gen z and other generations like to think that we’re being inclusive but are we tho? Cos if someone doesn’t mean their standard of beauty which is normally a Eurocentric beauty of standard they’ll be so mean to that person and clown them when that person hasn’t done anything wrong. So it’s very hypocritical that’s my problem especially with gen z. I am wise enough to know not to do that I don’t clown ppl for their looks because honestly what’s the point? Does it get you anywhere? All you’re gonna do is cause that person to be insecure wat do u get out of that it’s weird to me if u don’t like something why not shut up and not say anything. There’s a place and a time use ur brain that’s why you have one unless u don’t oh I forgot most ppl don’t. Btw I am part of Gen z so it’s not like I have some kind of vendetta against them I am literally one of them but I’ve just noticed these things and yeah Ofc I will cuss and call all of those colourist ppl out cos it ain’t right at all. I’ve seen colourism in real life and how it affects ppl in real life and it’s sad y’all it will really affect that person for so long in their life and they really feel like they aren’t beautiful because they don’t meet this toxic standard of beauty which is heavily rooted in colourism and Eurocentric standard of beauty I’ll never suport that how about we learn to appreciate all types of beauty not just one specific look. It’s not right. One thing I will say is if you have a child please give them words of affirmation telling them they are beautiful, go to a diverse school, teach them about their culture this is soooo important! Watch movies, if you can afford it go back to where your ancestors are from, eat your food! Look at examples of ppl who actually look like you who have your features, getting them dolls that look like them, teaching them to love their skin colour etc you get it. Because If you don’t do this and the kids grows up in a less diverse area they will go through a identity crises. This is why it’s so important. Especially if you’re kid is mixed teach them to love both parts of them speaking from personal experience it will help them so much especially in the future on how to deal with ppl, situations, people fetishisating their skin colour cos that happens a lot! But any person of colour please learn to appreciate your unique differences it’s what makes you you! No one should take that away from you! Stand in your truth and be you.

This is so sad😔. Sad that some people bleach because they don't feel good enough! They are enough! Our melanin is beautiful 💕💯.Colonialism ruined the world.

Thank you so much for this video. I was shocked that skin bleaching was so heavily utilized and the products such as dark spot correctors were actually whitening creams. Thank you for educating people like me who are not exposed to things such as this, truly appreciate it.

I wish you showed Black women as examples and not mixed women

About 3 years ago there was a black pastor that got a diverse group of average citizens together and partnered with a large PD to go through use of force training. They then put them into simulated shoot / don't shoot training scenarios and the end result is that everyone shot the black subjects more often, with the black folks actually shooting the black subjects more often than the white folk. The scenarios basically involved going into an environment with limited knowledge about armed subjects in the area, and then people appear from behind objects and they're either armed or holding something random. It's designed to get officers used to suddenly seeing an individual kinda in a startling manner while having to quickly ascertain if they're a threat or not. Reactions are so quick they're almost subconscious which is why the training is important. May be something deeper in our brains that's the result of long ago threats we've yet to evolve out of. Humans are the result of 10s of millions of years of evolution and that type of stuff doesn't just go away from the subconscious in 100 years.

I’ve actually been told multiple times by white people that majority of black women are mixed and/or light skinned and that darker skinned black people were a minority! And they continued to argue with me. They weren’t even saying there are less dark skin actors and actresses but black people as a whole!

Skin bleaching is a horrible practice. I can't believe its still in use

Thank you for this 💕

I definitely agree on what your saying. Especially when it comes to tv shows/movies. It’s sad 😞 on how it’s still colorrisim to this day

Glad to be brown/dark

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Hey,I just saw your knuckles and I got encouraged cuz people I know and friends always ask me why my knuckles are dark and because of those questions,I decided to bleach it but it got worse... seeing your own has encouraged me to leave it that way, that it's natural.

The Spanish Casta was rooted in colorism in Colonial Spain. It still exists to some extent in countries like Mexico and the Dominican Republic. I know this because I am Apache.

I love this video

Amazing video!

This didn't start in europe. It's much older than that of bleaching skin. People used to have slaves that locked like them. And were the like same race as them. So they used to bleach their skin. Even in the greek era.

One girl got mad at me cus i said she was black. Shii i was offended she was offended like wtf wrong with black

I was already born light skin man 🙄

This is sad😭I even edited my picture to make me seem lighter 😢

Over 40 years ago in Toronto I dated a lovely immigrant lady from Guyana and was horrified that she used creams to lighten her skin.

Latina and Hispanic and Arab and Middle Eastern and Asian are olive skin

Very interesting video

Colorism causes people to pull out their " crazy card " 😂

I do have issue with how Karen Beecher bumblebee looks in DC superhero girls

To me, ara looks black and not biracial compared to the mixed ones in this video.

I’m light skinned and I wish I was darker

Saying that something didn’t exists because you have yet to experience it or see it occurring with your own eyes is very problematic

7:51 Not you repeatedly saying “skinned-ed” 🥴

Love to be a lightskin men

Yeah I have a reason for my light skin preference but it's not for the same reason you have in this video. You can't tell me what I am or am not attracted too.

o such thing as a light skin black

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Umm there are plenty of dark skinned successful actresses in Hollywood. Why do people pretend that doesn’t exist.

People think I’m crazy when I say, I firmly believe ethnic groups should live seperately. Blacks with Blacks, Whites with Whites, and so on. It benefits everyone it is not racist to see that people will never get along. I’m pretty sure when you are watching Tv it sucks not to see someone who represents you; I mean for example if you are black and watching superhero movies with a majority white cast. When you are Asian and see whites do yellow face and representing your heritage. Doesn’t that not suck; I love western society and it’s ideals, so why can we not implement them to the rest of the world but in form of our Own cultures and Heritages. Somewhat how the Japanese embraced western culture. Listen this isn’t racist just a suggestion I don’t hate anyone; but I really believe life would be better for folks if they were seperated. Around folks like themselves; they’d feel more at home.

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Black people come in all colors. they originally had dark people in fresh prince and my wife and kids and thenext ones happened to be light. Looks like they either left or where let go for other reasons not removed for a light person. They had a light and a dark. What did you want them to use only dark people? I don't think these are good examples and you're going to far with these.

Such biased commentary. There are plenty of darkskin women in roles. They are just not the representation that darkskin women want. You mentioned the loud sapphire or mammy which is correct. There are waaayyy more darkskin guys represented in media than lightskin. You “coincidentally” left out darkskin guys in media. As far as relationships, don’t include lightskin men in your rants. I am glad you corrected yourself by specifying that your dark skin guys are what this is really about. Darkskin women are very colorist towards light skin guys but cry when they get rejected by darkskin guys. The harsh reality is that the bleaching, rejection and everything else won’t change until darkskin guys , darkskin girls and lightskin girls have a paradigm shift.

I can't blame this on slavery when I never lived in it or been around it. In my opinion a lot of mixed people and racially ambiguous have even features high cheekbones things like that has nothing to do with me wanting to be white or whatever like that I think people like what they like and people are mad.

Lets be honest. Colorism is in the head of black women more than anyone else...They always try to turn their negative self esteem issues on someone else, ex: in this video they mention how black men want children with white women so the children wont go through this colorism stuff. Again colorism is more in the head of black women, So is this the reason she wants kids with a white man ? But we don't talk about that do we. See what I mean by how they try and flip the script.

i think likely lighter skin, generally, is more attractive to men. just like wide shoulders in men is more attractive. height in men is more attractive. less hair on women is more attractive. lean is more attractive. A good jaw line is more attractive. colorism is not a "huge problem," any more than lacking those other features are "huge problems." Like a shorter man, or a pear shaped person -- we have no choice but to basically accept the basic realities of our genetic heritage. This video stokes fears, instead of simple acceptance, or some remedies if your color really bugs you.

First of all, I love your content. That being said, I need you to practice pronouncing "light skinned" correctly though. I heard you say "light SKIN-DED" multiple times (7:28, 7:45), which makes my ears bleed and frankly does not fit the highly intellectual tone and intent of this video. I'll even accept just "light skin" with no "ned" as it sounds better than "skin-ded".

COLORISM goes both ways