@@crystalbluepartain3434 Exactly. You forfeit being a parent when you don't: clothe them, feed them, bathe them, take them to school, play with them, comfort them when they have nightmares, etc. Feeding them fast food occasionally and nothing else is NOT parenting.
@@JupitersTears Not anymore actually I’m 47 now and back in the 80’s and 90’s that was definitely the case. But over the last 10-15 years especially the Family Court system absolutely places them with what’s “best for the children” and it’s almost 50% both ways😊 and that’s a GREAT change!
I don't even want kids, but I took all the proper measures to prevent that. She birthed 2 kids and then decided she doesn't want them??? P.O.S. in my book. Thank goodness their dad loves them!
Do people ever ask you why you don’t have kids? It’s such a personal question and really is nobody’s business, but I usually shut them up when I answer, “because I use birth control.” And the question generally comes from single woman with kids. One of them actually said, “I guess I should keep my mouth shut” yeah, I think maybe you should.
@@deborahjeanne2141 I hate that. Sue me for realizing that I don’t have what it takes to be a mother! I know how expensive they are. Also, the ex husband was a total piece of shit; his cigarettes trumping things like food, bills and the mortgage. He was also very abusive toward me. I ended up in a Stockholm Syndrome situation for 12 years before I broke free with the help of loved ones!
I'm 44 and have never even been pregnant. Cuz I knew from the age of 5 that i didn't want children! My mom would always laugh when I was a kid and said that and would say "oh you'll change your mind someday!" 🤣🤣🤣 Yup, she has come to terms with the fact that my brother is the only one making her a grandma. EVERYONE asks me why I don't have kids. It's infuriating. I always say"oh! I see! I should just pop out babies just cuz I have the parts and then resent them and be a shit mom like other people do! OK I'll go have kids RIGHT NOW!"
Not really. There is nothing wrong with knowing what you want, sounds like kids was the last thing on her mind. If you don't want kids then don't have them.
There is no way this can be real. She comes on televised court and admit that she does not want her kids, only cares about partying and hardly denied her drug use. I wouldn't even want to pretend to be that person. What the hell.
It’s not, lol. Some stories are loosely based on true cases, but a lot are from the creator’s imagination & used in a fictitious manner (that info. is from a google search.) I used to watch these, but one day there was one where you could just tell they were a tors (VERY BAD A TORS LMAO) so I looked it up!! I wasn’t shocked to find out it was basically fake!! ☺️
@@Xgerl still, it proves that there is such thing as deadbeat moms too. That's the point. Men always get shit, but plenty of moms ain't worth a shit either you just don't hear about it because society always acts like moms are perfect.
It's actually the same old meaning. She is incapable of caring about anyone other than herself. She's generally not capable of certain human emotions. Notice how she has no feelings or concern about her children, but perks up when her party money is involved. Narcs simply aren't capable of caring about other people or doing the right thing. Everyone should have learned this from the Narc who pretended to be president for four years. No capacity.
Imagine impregnating that woman. Did she just do a 180, did she lie, if he stupid, desperate, simp? So many questions. I wanna know how he forced her ? He’s part of the blame some how.
Wow... she's a nurse? I'd be scared to be around her. I've had to deal with nurses over the past 10 years and I'm sooo glad I was able to be around good ones.
@@bobbymartinez1200 true that, but it seems that she would rather hook up with a reckless person, rather than a responsible person, so as far as I'm concerned, she can have it her way, but when things go awry, then don't go crying back to him, or to any other man like him.
She doesn't love anyone but herself. She did tell him no kids. But she should have gotten a contract. I have you take care of them. But she is a narcissistic B. No feelings at all.
@@morgan254 if you look at the disclaimer at the beginning and end of her videos this is all staged but base off real case laws. She’s an attorney not a judge she plays a judge for her educational show. If you don’t know you shouldn’t assume haven’t you heard the old saying don’t assume it makes an ass out of you and me.
How could she not put her kids on her health care plan?!?! That is insane. My parents made me stay on theirs until I was 21. I always brushed it off thinking any parent with that opportunity would do the same. This is mind blowing. What a selfish person. That just really is so crazy to me. It would cost her like $40 a month and if she’s working that much that shouldn’t be a thing. Wow.
"it's just too much work to take care of a kid with autism" As a disabled person my heart breaks for that child. That kid deserves all the love and attention as any other child.
I am 31 and halfsided paralyzed after 3 strokes. My parents make my bed for me, they clean for me, they cook for me and they drive me everywhere I need to be. Truly heartbreaking to see these mothers being rotten to the core.
Right, and she said hype dad is better suited for that but she’s a nurse so she should know so much more on how to care for her child…. Ugh that lady is infuriating
Reminds me of my mother , when my dad got fed up he left her and had to take on another job to support us when he finally took her to court and the judge dismissed child support cause she made just as much she kicked me out and rented my room out to her friends ( I was 15) haven't spoken to my mother since and I'm 23 . Every kid deserve a parent, not every parent deserves a kid . It also hurt me when she said " I don't want to deal with a kid with autism" like honestly I'm not a saint whatsoever but how can you be that much of a heartless individual..
I was in health care for over 20 years and I spent time with my children made dinner every night, made sure the home work was done, made sure they bathed and told them everyday that I love them!
"I feel like I could be doing more" I'm telling you, he's a great parent! if you're giving your all for your kids and still think you could be better. then you're a good person and good parent. they are capable of self reflection, self criticism, and generally trying to do and be better, for themselves and others. a bad parent would assume they are doing more than enough.
I'm a nurse and can honestly say, if I were laying in the street having a medical emergency I'd rather her just step over me and keep walking! A good nurse has to have compassion and care of others which starts at home, so if she doesn't care about her own kids especially one with autism, I doubt very seriously that she gives a damn about her patients! If he's right and she's stealing drugs from the hospital that belong to patients, she should be terminated immediately and have her license/registration revoked by the board of nurses!
I want to possibly become a nurse. Anyone remember all those nurses on TikTok who joked about doing bad things to their patients? Along with this girl, they’re all making nurses seem like crap.
@Kokuhaku Qiun you’re 100% correct! I’ve been a trauma nurse for 30 years and nurses like those you’ve described give nurses a bad name! To be a nurse, you have to be someone who has compassion; sympathy; empathy and a care and desire to help others! That means working very long and stressful hours, sometimes with little gratitude, but you have to keep in mind when dealing with patients who aren’t feeling well aren’t at their best and not to take that personally. But when you have a patient that comes in with an emergency and you played a part in saving that persons life, it gives you a high that no drug can give! You can also take comfort when you’re dealing with terminally ill patient and you’re there for them especially, if they’re alone, to sit with them and hold their hand and comfort them as they take their last breath or being able to lend care and comfort to a family who’s losing or lost a loved one. Nursing is a very tough but very rewarding profession and for someone to make and post a video making fun of their patients or this person who had children, one of which was autistic, and could sit in a court and say she never wanted these kids, to me is personally and professionally offensive! I wish you the best in your choice of career!
She is an airhead. The husband/ father needs to accept that both he and the children would be so much better off without her. She does not care and never will.
Yeah but she still has to pay 😂 she needs to accept the consequences of her actions in some kinda way. Go ahead and leave. We'll garnish your wages lol
For those saying this isn't real..My ex wife was just like her.. when I married her she had a week old baby I raised as my own..we had another boy together and a girl.. when they were 6,7,9 years old,she decided to abandon us..she didn't want to see them or talk to them..she never called them or paid child support..she would see us at Walmarts and walk the other way with her different boyfriends..I adopted my stepson and they are now 19,20 and 22 and till this day she's never talked to them.shes $23,458 in arrears.they moved on and want nothing to do with her...they were raised with respect and manners
No one is disputing there's despicable people that think and act like that... However those people are highly manipulative and would not outwardly admit in court that they are a horrible piece of trash so please judge smoke my boots please. You would probably admit your ex would go into court and manipulative and try to blame things on you right? That's why this is bs and scripted and just more Xenoshot making really easy takes to show how virtuous he is.
Freddy God bless you, you were a mom and dad which is a very hard job but because of your love for them you stood in their lives and did a great job, they will NEVER forget what she did to them and will never forget what you did for them
@@matthewhall9692 Newsflash, almost all "reality shows" are scripted in some way and have been for many years. During the Writers Guild Strike of 2007 and 2008, this was made painfully obvious. One of the many issues on the table, dealt with the fact that reality shows had drastically changed since the late 70s to early 90s, when "reality shows" were in fact, almost entirely unscripted. Back then, editors would go through hours of video footage to select the most interesting footage. This was never considered to be "writing" by anyone. Therefore, nobody was paid for extra for their creative work on the shows. But, over time, reality show editors and other personnel became much more involved in shaping narratives from the video footage. It got to a point where the "actors" on the show were being given suggestions for the story arcs of their characters. For example: actors on The Real World might be told to act out more, clash with their housemates and play up their role as the drinker, partier, rebel, who argues with everyone in the house. Cut to modern day reality shows where the "actors" are told directly, that if they don't follow the story arcs which they are given and improvise accordingly, then they will be given actual scripts to read and they will be forced by their contracts to read directly from the scripts. This is why the Writers Guild argued that "reality shows" were being scripted and the people who did the scripting should be in the writers union and get paid scale and receive writing credits. Unfortunately, this demand was never met and was taken off the table by the TV Producers. Obviously, if they accepted this demand, not only would it cost them a lot of extra cash, but it would look very bad for them if their "reality shows" rolled several screen credits for writers at the end of their shows. For me, the writers strike was my "Aha! I knew it!" moment. Ever since then, I have refused to watch "reality shows" with untrained, sub par actors, pretending to be 100% authentic in their "performances".
The fact is the kids are here now and not wanting them doesn't take away responsibility. Respect to the dad . You know that the kids are going 2 do well in anything with a father like that guiding them. 👍
The father should try to take full custody and have the mother sign away her rights. It'll damage the kids having a mother around who doesn't want/love them.
But she's in the home taking responsibility. She works, helps pays for the things they need and feeds the kids when she's there to do so. She's majorly depressed because she in a position that makes her depressed. He's making her life hell by demanding she give more of herself. She needs time away from him.
@@Jolene8 lol what?!? He just said she's always out and she admitted to it. She even said that the time they have on the tablet is enough that she doesn't need to invest time in them
I just found your videos about a week ago and really like them. Your commenting on these idiots is extra-special. I hope you are doing well and I will be looking forward for future ones.
$1,500??? Dayuuuum!!!! Go guy! I feel for this dude. My kids mom dumped them on me when they were 2 and 3 and left for a decade. Staying away was worth more than any dollar amount a judge could've given me.
Same 🤟🏼. My dad raised us. We came out so cool 😝… but seriously if she had stuck around we would of been all effed up. I didn’t realized all that goes with a single dad until having my own kids! Kudos. 🙏your kids will treasure you always.
@@raqlew7021 I lived the dream. I got to raise two kids, my way without interference or fighting over how to discipline the kids and stuff like that. I got married this year but I had them so long by myself that they are definitely products of me lol
She really shouldn’t have had those kids, or been more careful with contraceptives if she knew she didn’t want kids. Now they have to grow up knowing this is their mom.
UNBELIEVEABLE !!! I have a nephew like this. Will not add HIS kids to his insurance plan. Acts like they aren't even his kids. I would hate to have this nurse caring for me or anyone I love. Her poor kids must feel how unloved and resentful their mother feels towards them.
But she didn't want them meaning she never wanted to be a mom. Just because you or other enjoy parenthood doesn't mean everyone else has to. She told this man she didn't want them period. At least she's honest. Some people just don't like kids...I'm one of them.
In PA, if the non custodial parent has access to insurance at his job, the kids are taken off medicaid. I was always sent forms when I got a new job asking if I had insurance through my job, and I also received forms when my ex (non custodial parent) would get a new job, asking if there was insurance through that job. Obviously the state wants kids off of their insurance and on to a working parents job supplied health insurance. So more than likely if he gets support, the state will make her put the kids in her jobs insurance...as they already should be!
I'm going to play devil's advocate for just a moment. I love this woman's honesty. She did NOT want the children, she would rather have the husband take care of the autistic child and she wants to use her money to party. I get it. Now back to reality. Since she feels this way, I think she should relinquish her parental rights immediately and go about her life without the children and the husband. Some women are just not mother material and she is one of them. She's honest. She told it like it was. She had these children to please him. She does the bare minimum as a parent. Let them go. Do your own thing. One of these days, maybe she will grow up and realize what she has done. Then it will be too late. I really feel sorry for the children when they see this video. And they WILL see it. Guaranteed.
Yeah if it’s real I blame him almost more because she never wanted kids and he pressured her into knowing she didn’t want them and now is playing the woe is me poor dad card
She smiles and laughs through the entire thing. Throughout stating she never wanted the kids. Absolutely NO give a $#@! On her face..... judge asigns her child support payment "what am I gonna party with ?" And that is what makes her tear up and almost cry. Sooooo messed up.
That's that Catholic "know thyself thing" the problem is they get to know their boyfriend's 'thing' before they develop the brains to know they aren't maternalistic people and to avoid parenthood. There is nothing wrong with that just for God's sake sort it out before you go and screw up multiple lives and not even give a shit. I'd love to meet the people that raised 'that'?!?! Oy! She's a poster child for enforced sterilization of the socially incontinent and/or feeble minded, which is the category she shares with her husband who was equally dumb for making a human life with a cur such as that!!! 🐕🦺🐷🐖🐗🧛♀🦹♀
And she will be the type of person that when she gets sick or she needs a bone marrow transplant from her kids , she will be the type that will call up and say why don't you help your mom out I'm dying and I need your help and when they nope because you wasn't there she will be the loudest to cry the blues .smh
With amount of disdain she has for her children, it's probably not even safe for them to be around her. She clearly doesn't give a F. She should get neutered. Thank God for Dad!
Or would it be called Spayed? I agree, spay her, fire her, and help the poor guy move away from her. This lady has 2 kids and is blaming everything on him because she wants to party on his dime. She's despicable. So sad. The Judge handled it with grace. Absolutely a job well done.
Wow, a nurse on drugs? Inhumane! Painkillers and injections. Make her pay child support for both big time. Hurt her pocket the way she hurts her kids! Saying her kids could be lying, smiling the whole time is totally telling. She should have divorced him prior to having kids. A nurse who cannot deal with a child with autism. Wanting to still party, whatever hospital or medical facility she works for sees her and fires her behind.
My mother was like that... in addition to cheating on my dad and abusing my older sister-- now deceased-- in every way imaginable by her hands and by the hands of others she literally pimped us out to. She invited the man who beat us and molested us to my sister's wake even. Caused a huge uproar. I would have crumbled completely had I not been so concerned with being strong for my nephews who had lost their dad nearly ten years before as well. My dad has always been my hero, my champion. I have no words for the love and respect that fills me so completely that the admiration seems nearly bursting from my chest when I speak of him. And these kids-- their dad IS enough. He's loving and doing his best by them. Should he remarry, allow this monster to terminate her parental rights if the new wife should seek to adopt them. Because I guarantee you this: decades from now when that beast has nothing and wants the children she gave birth to IN her life (not to love but to support her), she'll find nothing. Karma. I wish the dad and his kids the very best, and I commend the judge for not showing the egg donor ANY leniency.
@Nicholas Outland- I grew up listening to my mother tell me that she wished I’d never been born. I heard it so often it didn’t bother me - until I was an adult. When she died I never shed a tear. There was no funeral because of Covid - if there had been, I would have gone just to spit on her grave. Do you realize animals take better care of their young that humans do? And some ignorant people still call them dumb animals. There are women alive who never should have - or never should have had - children. They just aren’t cut out of mother material.
@@deborahjeanne2141 Same thing with my mother. I went no contact with my immediate family for nine years. She lavished love and praise on my younger sister and gossiped about how terrible I was as a kid (and how horrible her pregnancy was with me). No tears when she croaked and my sister is a raging alcoholic; regularly busted for drinking and driving. Pissed off when my dad won’t halo with legal bills He stressed to us that wherever, whatever and no matter the time, call him and he will get us or pay for a taxi. So no excuses!
This is exactly what happened with my son's "father" ...never had a penny from him and now that my son is grown up and has a good job, he has contacted my son on FB wanting to have a relationship with him. My son told him, respectfully, that he has managed without a father for 26 years and doesn't need one now.
Had it from both my mother and father, though it sounds like your experience got even more severe than my sh"t show. Sending you much respect for still being here. If you ever need a mate please msg me. Not everyone understands the continued crap we have to deal with
I can't believe she is a nurse. I sure as heck would not want myself or family under her care!!! She is horrible. The dad is an angel for looking after and loving his children. And it takes two people to get pregnant.
I can't believe how she doesn't care about her own children! She's more worried about her partying and when Judge Vonda said, $1,500.00 in child support, the first thing out of this chick's mouth was, "Seriously?!? What am I going to be left to party with??" Oh, my blood is boiling, i can't believe when I hear how mothers could care less about their children or use them as pawns, it's infuriating!! This mother needs a wake up call!
I’m a retired ICU nurse… how the hell did she get Medicaid for her children? She’s a nightmare and was surely fired after this. If you’re hospitalized, definitely make sure you have an advocate… a close friend or family to pay attention and speak up if you’re not able.❤️
You are right about needing an advocate when you're hospitalized. I have seen it with my mother (cancer) and husband (quadraplegic). But we shouldn't need someone to make sure the doctors/nurses do their jobs. I have no family. I just hope I die suddenly of a stroke or heart attack at home rather than suffer days, weeks or years in our health care facilities.
If you have a parent on disability, the child automatically gets Medicaid, regardless of what the other parent makes. Dad could be disabled? My children got Medicaid and Social Security after my husband died, because he was on disability for a few months before he died. They didn't even take my income into consideration. Thank God for that though, even though I had private insurance, I needed the Medicaid for my son's dental issues, because private insurance wouldn't cover it.
@@NoOne-bp2jw No we shouldn’t, I’m retired and a professional patient now.. I’ve caught med errors so many times while admitted… I was on a ventilator last time so god knows what went on
I have a "mother" like this. Cluster-B nightmare. An insufferable cow. She'd as soon eat her own children if it meant she was satiated and comfortable. I thank God for this father. ❤
I went through menopause at 26. I wasn’t planning on having kids but when I found out, I was sad I didn’t have the choice. To see this woman so heartless to kids she birthed is deplorable.
@@gogetter5182 Actually mothers, do more work than anyone else to raise the future generations, there is absolutely no doubt in my mind. I am just commenting on the situation shown on this video. God bless all the mothers in the wold.
I cannot believe she is a registered nurse, more like a CNA, nursing assistant or something along those lines. A nurse could work a double shift twice a week and pay the measly $1500. She is one piece of work. At least she is honest about not wanting to be bothered with her own flesh and blood. The tables will turn one day..
Nurses Assistants are a caring bunch. They provide, hands on, patient care, and interact with patients more . Nurses assistants frequently work double and triple shifts as well.
@@daizy4086 , I don't think that was her point. Just that she doesn't seem like the type who could go through the demands of nursing school, like a full RN.
Ive had alot of major surgeries on my spine, 12 and when you're in hospital and in alot of pain and need help to go to the bathroom and youre very sensitive emotionally. A crappy nurse can really effect you and i know exactly how she treats her patients and i feel so bad for her patients.
I hope she gets fired. She is stealing patients much needed pain meds and switching them up w/ Tylenol or some other drug. Then has the nerve to talk like she “saves lives “. Smh
I feel so bad for those kids. I have a son who is on the Autism Spectrum and it takes a lot of money to keep him in therapy. She should just sign over her rights and move on.
It's true I can't tell you how many times that a nurse didn't do their job or they hate coming in to help a patient, like I got pissed at the ICU nurses because there were a couple who had nasty attitudes about taking care of their patients.
When my ex husband’s dad was dying in the hospital (very rural place with 20 beds) he was in agony. We we’re visiting and he asked me if I could find a nurse for a pain injection. The bitch actually said “it’s 5 minutes past the hour. He can’t have some in 55 minutes”. Needless to say I was pissed 😤. I went to find the doctor and she was furious. Nurses got a huge dressing down that night. His dad died a few hours later…….
For this reason, if you and your partner aren't absolutely on the same page about having kids, don't have them. And if you know you'd rather not have them, get a form of birth control that works. How has this nurse never heard of an IUD?
As a fellow human being, who's also had a constant barrage of shit raining down on them lately, I'm so sorry for you and I genuinely hope that things get much, much better very soon. It's good to see you back. Hang in there, my friend. ❤️
All episodes include actors. Vonda Bailey is not a real Judge. She is a licensed attorney in the state of Texas who primarily handles cases involving child support and spousal support. The cases are based on real life scenarios of events that occur in child support courts. The actors in this video did a very good job!
Having been in foster care my entire childhood, both parents abandoning and intentionally dropping the ball in harmful and profound ways-I can confidently say the children are better off without any person who doesn’t see the value in them. I hope these kids are marinated and surrounded with love, guidance, and opportunities. What a shame, all around. She’s being brutally honest, and that’s worth something. I’ve seen so many parents who are tapped out emotionally but physically around. It takes so much more than being near. If someone can’t care for a disabled child, please please don’t force them. The children will ALWAYS pay the highest price!
Xeno, I feel your pain, I’m going through some shit myself. I wondered why you hadn’t been around. Hope everything straightens itself out for you soon, but don’t worry about us - we’ll still be here whenever you’re ready to pick up again. 🇨🇦❤️🇺🇸
It’s nice to know that we aren’t alone with 💩shows! We are also not alone when life is good. Sometimes it helps a person who’s going through one to talk to someone who is going through the other.
What a horrible human being. But, I'm sorry, she hasn't been like that for 5 minutes, the father should have thought before raising children with a monster like that.
I have never come across such an entitled human being. She doesn't even want her own children. She said that he made her have the children. If she didn't want them, then why didn't she use birth control?
While I don’t think this lady deserves any sympathy or anything but some religions will not allow people to use birth control I’m not sure if she is a part of those religions or not. She should just sign her right away she is absolutely awful.
Source: the show itself - “All episodes include actors. Vonda Bailey is not a real Judge. She is a licensed attorney in the state of Texas who primarily handles cases involving child support and spousal support. The cases are based on real life scenarios of events that occur in child support courts.”
@@HelloItsYou not real. "Based on real events" but obviously highly dramaticized. There's no way the woman actually said what they played here, just a similar situation where the mother was in the wrong, and they put a bunch more drama in so people would actually watch it.
@@dunhamdunhamdunham5838 I feel like people would probably still watch the real thing. Just a few less most likely. It's reassuring to know that they're actors and she's not a real nurse. Hopefully not who she's portraying herself to be as well.
Was one of the scariest things in my life almost loosing my son to the court system which has changed favoring both parents. He is 14 now and I still have PTSD especially now that I work out of state. You don't need a lawyer nowdays etc and now there is absolutely no excuse not to have your kids as a dad.
Abortion was super difficult to get, and now it's banned in a lot of States, so if contraception fails for people like that, the government would force her to birth them so they can be put in foster care and have a life of misery.
The fact that she is a nurse AND a terrible mom, that is doubly scary. I already get anxiety going to the doctors and now that anxiety just shot through the roof lol
I might have to say this could be one of the reasons why some children grow up depressed. Because they have to deal with 1 OR 2 bad parents, especially this entitled mom. She doesn't think about taking care of her children who loved her so much, but yet she thought one other thing is more important than family. If she didn't even want to have kids in the first place, she could've said something to him before she even got married. I hope those children of an awesome dad are able to have a happy, healthy, and safe life without her.
Sorry for the stuff your going through man, keep your head high brother. As for the mother in this video, it's really annoying to me that if it was a man acting like this and not paying he'd probably be in jail.
@@downhomesunset although true not soon enough.. nothing has happened to my kids "father" and he has paid 52 dollars for 3 kids in 2 years and not seen them in about 2 years.
This woman is one of the best arguments I've ever heard for involuntarily sterilization. She also may be the single most selfish person I've ever listened to. I can only imagine what kind of household produced this specimen of self-absorption.
this young father is going to need a lot more support than this so called mother will ever give. hope he finds it before he gets too overwhelmed. good dad.
We live in a time and place where we know how women become pregnant, and how to prevent unwanted pregnancies. She, as a nurse, should especially know this. Now that she has children, they come with responsibility. If she only has it within herself to provide financial responsibility, then she must, at the very least, do that!
