You Won't Believe What This Woman Admits! 

For anyone who wants to know what she says without watching a 30 minute video: Most women don’t feel safe with men anymore. We lie to ourselves and pretend we don’t want a dominant guy, because that makes us weak as women. The truth is- women deep down do want to surrender. There’s nothing more liberating than to experience a healthy man who you can trust enough, to completely let go with. So why does it seldom happen? Because men like this don’t exist anymore. We’ve been brainwashed to believe “traditional” gender roles are somehow wrong. There’s truth in that, yes, women haven’t always had it easy. There’s truth in that, women haven’t always been respected. Or equal. Or taken seriously. Or given the same opportunities as men. But, there’s also truth in that… we never needed to do everything that men can do in order to be happy, whole, and fulfilled. We just needed their support. Today’s age of men think that “support” is being passive, agreeable, and feminine, so women can instead take charge. A lot of men simply standby and don’t speak their truth, get assertive, or step into their power because they don’t want to be seen as “that guy” with toxic masculinity who doesn’t respect women. They’re wounded, and therefor can’t handle rejection. They desperately want to fit in. So much so, they’ll sacrifice their own sacred masculine energy, a gift from God, to fit in with the PC climate. Most men, today… are beta. & most women, today… have been conditioned to think that that’s safer. Oh, but how we have been fooled. “Why do so many women date a**holes?” Because at least narcissistic men are assertive. Controlling? Manipulative? Soul shattering? Also yes. But just a taste of that dominating force from a man is something women crave so much today, they’ll find themselves in toxic trauma bonds w/ guys who don’t actually love them. So, you tell me… why do you think women don’t feel safe? Because they’re either with beta dudes, who can’t protect them and they know it. Or narcissists, who feed off their feminine energy for their own selfish gain. Relationship after relationship, disappointment after disappointment, heartbreak after heartbreak… why should we trust men? In today’s age, it’s safer to simply become men ourselves. But then again, that’s why so many women aren’t happy. We’re constantly trying to be masculine, because there’s so few men left to allow us the safety to surrender and be who we really are inside: Feminine. A healthy man will use his assertion for good, not evil. A healthy man will know when it’s time to take charge, and know when it’s time to sit back. A healthy man will be present, protective, and listen to his woman. A healthy man won’t use his power to manipulate you. He’ll use it to empower you. Unthreatened by your strength, unwavered by your divine, radiant, and powerful feminine energy. Masculine energy isn’t about manipulating women, it’s about providing them with a safe container to be feminine again. Know the difference.

I was with a girl who completely manipulated me into believing all my masculine qualities were toxic, and that messed me up for years. Men are coming back to life in 2022.

When women have dating standards its lauded as "Preferences" but if Men have dating standards its looked down upon as "Discrimination".

Going back 23 years.. When i found a girl that literally worshipped me I treated her like a queen. Of course she didn't exactly 'WORSHIP' me... I reciprocated her devotion, it was my first love and maybe I lived a dream, or lied to myself if that makes sense... anyhow I was careful not to show too much of myself at first. When I finally let my entire guard down and showed her my weaknesses, she tore my heart out. I turned into a nihilistic drug addict.... I didn't recover for so long because of my youth, my naivety, my innocence, my idealism, my blindness, he just said it....

"A healthy man will know when it's time to take charge, and when it's time to sit back." Thank you, female, for expecting me to read your mind, tell you who you are, and giving me all the responsibility while still expecting me to let you run the show whenever you want.

Women's empowerment and liberation came at a cost. It made women mostly with. non marriageable traits and habits while it liberated men from marriages.

I was one of those "sensitive" men. Present mom, absent dad(he was here. Just didn't care to teach me). As I spent 80% of the time with mother, she taught me by example to be selfless and always think about others first, but she didn't teach me that women don't really stay with men like that(they become combative and challenging, and ultimately they may nag you until you cut her off your life, happened more than once with me years ago). When I started caring about myself first(not only me, but me first), things got SO much better.

A woman in India slapped a cab driver about 15 times on the road, and the video footage proves the entire fault to be of the woman, who tried to cross the road on oncoming traffic. Toxic feminism at its peak.

Your point about women playing a “man’s game” is so true. As a business dev director selling very expensive and technical services, i met with clients all the time (pre-Covid of course). When i walked into a conference room and there was only one or 2 women there representing the client, my heart sank. I kept eyes front. Hands on the table. Made sure not to make any jokes of any kind that could be taken the wrong way. No compliments whatsoever. Basically, feminism created an environment where I was scared for my job and future. But I felt really bad for these women as well. Imagine being them and every time you’re in a meeting, it’s sterile and 100% business. But then you walk past that same conference room when there’s a couple of men in there and you hear laughing and real binding going on. If I’m in a meeting with just guys, I can tell them that I like their tie. I can joke about whatever (obviously keeping it professional even with them). It’s not my fault that I have to act completely different when I’m alone with a female colleague or client.

I call bullshit...Women broke the contract..Men on the whole decided it was safer not to play....You just dont hear from the women who know they have a good man and submitted.

You're absolutely right. They want to be equal, given to be in charge, treated like another man, but then treated like a woman when she thinks it suits her best. Women like that are unbearable.

I remember reading her quote, and I can tell you, being that “guy” will cost you almost everything. I think pretty much where I work, a lot of women treat me like I’m toxic. If you put your foot down, speak the truth, not support their conniving and manipulating ways, you are now toxic. I have seen a woman fight within herself. Part of her despised me, another part of her wants to surrender and let me be. I could tell out of all the strong feelings I gave her, I really gave her a cup load of confusions. She took the road of least resistance. The trick is simple, but hard to master. Just be true to the bone as possible. Be a man. Stand your ground, have principles, discern what is good snd right, stand up for yourself, be authentic, have integrity, be a man of your word. Go and conquer the world. That moves women. Especially good feminine women. Whatever Ayn Rand is talking about, the women who are feminine, they know it. The same way I can feel the energy of a feminine woman. It’s distinct, pure, graceful, there is just something about it you can’t put words into it. The same is with us. A woman who is not feminine will be repulsed with you. But a woman who is feminine, man, the interaction is smooth as butter.

So glad I found your channel. I was a wallflower beta in high school, and then changed schools when I was 17. Totally reinvented myself and then took that new “toxic bad boy” personality with me to college. Early on I knew it was an act that I was employing to get female attention…but after a few years it had become who I actually was. I noticed it when friends and girls in my group of friends always made off the cuff comments about me being able to get any girl I wanted etc and I had this realization that who I was to other people had changed so drastically that the sweet dorky redhead kid that just wanted to feel wanted was long gone. Took a LOT more time to get to a place of nuanced understanding coming back from that hellscape, so I commend you for trying to give young men the tools to achieve this without becoming the monster that scares them back into a middle ground.

The perfect example of a truly masculine man is Aragorn. Watch how he handles himself. He’s a leader, always encourages others and brings them up, he’s strong, protecting, can be relied on. He’s merciful yet firm and not pushed around and manipulated. He rises to the occasion that’s called on him and knows the meaning of sacrifice.

My mother divorced my father because she meant that he didn't do enough with their children. She's a feminist, we had a really heated discussion about that once.

I have wasted many decades of my life trying to give women what they say they want. Now that I am getting old and wearing down some, I finally realize that I should have paid better attention. Yes as in actions speak louder than words. I am even convinced that this can work both ways, that men may also not say what they really want either, although as a trend men are better at saying what they really want. One of the main frames of mind I take now is, I am a man and I don't have to explain or justify what I do or say to anyone. Face it, building confidence is a lot of work. But the payoff is immense.

The difficulty is that this gross imbalance is now buttressed by the law, so it is not just a question of men manning up. They risk losing their jobs or being arrested, even if they are not violent.

The things that really annoys me is that its always a man has to do that or be like that... What about them?

"Men like these don't exist anymore" + "to look up does not mean dependence, obedience..." coming from a high earning woman = just another woman who can't find a traditional man who earns more than her and will put up with her not being traditional. [Edit: typo]

My relationship with my wife is a traditional role where I am being myself and so is she, no pretending. I am an extremely dominant man and my wife is extremely passive. I am an extrovert, my wife is an introvert. I am independent, she is dependent on me. I have always made big income, she became a stay at home mum but now works part-time. We are polar opposites of each other. I am absolutely masculine and she is absolutely feminine. She is not my doormat and I am not her slave. Traditional roles are truly what both males and females so desperately seek in a relationship. So why is there so much pretending going on. She has never been with another man, I am her first. I have had only one other before her. We have also been married for 38 years. Thank you feminism for confusing most women and some men.

was a child in the 1970s... the WWII generation was mostly in their 50s when I was a kid, so I remember them well. A lot has changed for the better for boys -- back then it was socially acceptable for older people to yell at, and sometimes 'become physical' or aggressive toward boys. Meanwhile, everyone was syrupy sweet to little girls -- they could do no wrong, and boys could do nothing right. Also, bullying of boys by older boys was the standard for behavior. We've definitely overcorrected, but the dehumanizing treatment of young boys by older boys & men had to stop.

Promiscuity has ruined them. Very few are wife material today.

I would rather be a "Toxic Male" than a feminist Kitty. I am man not a boy. I provide. I fix. I defend. I do what needs to be done regardless of how uncomfortable it makes me or how scared I am. If that makes me "Toxic" than I am fooking Chernobyl.

8:16 is one of my pet peeves. Countless times I've had women tell me it's "not fair" to treat her just like everybody else. She then rationalizes why she thinks she deserves an exception, which often involves "I'm a single mother." Seriously, I've gotten that speech from women trying to use promotional coupons that expired _years ago_ on a current purchase. It's become an all-purpose excuse to act entitled.

Women wanted to become strong and independent. Now that they have succeeded and are alone they complain. Best thing is to simply ignore them.

You are the most balanced understanding man who cares about people living in their roles that will benefit them. You are not producing players or encouraging women to sleep around. You speak the truth based on science and I appreciate you. I learn form you. I recently was eating alone at an outdoor pizza shop. A woman sitting with a man was checking me out. I think it was her boyfriend. 6 footer but he looked soft to me. Our eyes met and we smiled at each other, but I left her alone. If she does that to him, she is constantly looking for the next best option. LOL Failed the quality test.

I would say as a late 30's who grew up in Australia that both my mother and my education did everything they could to suppress my natural instincts. It was shamed out of me and I acted in a way that was not true to myself. it wasn't until my mid 30's where I embraced my true nature that things drastically changed for me in a positive way. That included workplace relationships, friend relationships etc and I have gained respect from other men and women. Also, my wife gave up her overly masculine energy (not all as some is essential) and we have since had a better relationship.

As a woman, I thoroughly enjoyed and resonated with this video! I think all of your points are absolutely spot on! Thank you ☺️

When my gf comes under my protection it doesnt mean i control her every move. No. She runs her own business, she makes her own decisions and takes my counsel on decisions affecting us both. She respects me as a man and i respect her as a woman. She takes care of the cooking and indoor cleaning, while i do all outdoor chores. We work as a team. She doesn't need to be liberated because she is already liberated under my protection and care.

She has said some great things BUT she refuses the following 1. To take responsibility for endorsing femanism (Femanism didn't get established because women said no to it) 2. She places all action to change on men (effectively keeping what they have and demanding others change) 3. Does not tell women to walk back anything nor demand they actively do anything other than wait for men to change She effectively preachers a one way function, the old, "You change first then I'll change (or maybe won't!) attitude I realize you are interested in her positive truth statements but why remain silent on where women need to step up and denounce having been used as femanist mules and how the so called sisterhood need to walk back many of the toxic misdirections of womenhood they have allowed? It takes two to tango. Men have already embarked on the least violent act possible in a last ditch effort to correct society, that being, walking away after trying everything else. I've said this before, the ball is now in the women's court to show good faith and to demand the religuishing of special privileges they have afforded themselves in society as a power grab (I don't buy her excuse it's just because men have lost masculinity, it's all about power) It's all very easy to get excited when the opposite sex says something encouraging and points towards truth but how much are they walking that truth and how much responsibility for change are they actually doing themselves. Being an actual agent for change is more than just saying what's wrong and calling out men to change, where is she demanding the sisterhood change?

The issue is that as soon as a man's lead inconveniences them, at best they abandon you, at worst they destroy your credibility

To be worshipped as a hero though requires one to first be heroic. And that is a quality that most Western men have little opportunity to exercise. And also why professions like soldiery, police work, firefighing, medicine etc adds a certain sex appeal for women.

A man who always does as he's told is a tool. Just that, a soulless, lifeless tool. No one wants that, except exploitative people.

After 22 years of marriage,, no truer words were ever spoken.

This is the best video that I've seen that explains the male and female roles in a relationship. It's opened my eyes so much. It removes a lot of confusion!

She’s making excuses rather than taking personal responsibility. The notion that a woman can only be feminine with a certain kind of guy is stupid. That’s like a guy saying that he can only be masculine with a certain kind of girl. Notice how there aren’t a lot of channels about women talking about how to be better quality women and more feminine? Whereas there are tons of channels dedicated to men, helping them become better men. Jesus Christ was the PERFECT example of masculinity. I guarantee you that most women today would not view him as desirable. Needing a certain type of guy in order to be feminine is way too dependent and unhealthy. Women need to take accountability for their own attitudes and actions. Women should be focused on how to be better women.

Thank you Alex for your balanced approach to male-female dynamics. These days, it seems more in fashion to demonize one sex or the other, and admittedly, I've slipped into that temptation numerous times (especially when you're dealing with past grievances). Thanks for being a voice that brings things back into harmony when people are bombarded with reasons to hate each other. I greatly appreciate it, and keep up the great work 👍

we are starting to receive increasingly valuable insights from you, alexander. thank you for having the courage to explain the truth.

She gets away with saying it because she's keeping ALL accountability on men. Everything is our fault. Right. Stay away from a woman like this, fellas.

Becoming a hero is far away, allow a man to become man, not a gentleman, not a real man, not a healthy man, not an alpha, just a man ! ... Do we allow them to be a man as a society? Every masculine trait comes with a cost and consequence that society (together with laws) can punish. No guidance and just expecting man to do his part while you demonize the whole masculinity, calling them toxic is such a shameful act of society but no one wants to takes the blame. Of course why take the blame when blame comes with a punishment. One important thing every article like this ignores is "what's in the best interest of men?" or "what men want/need?" They all preach men about what men are missing but no one tells soceity to take a step back and give men some space. They will continue to ruin every man's platform where men can teach men about masculinity but simultaneously preaching men on what society (women) wants from them. Good luck my brothers.

I doubt this will come handy to me, but still watching this video

Alexander, your right. It is STRENGTH to admit whats going on inside. It is humility and you have to surrender pride to get there.

May you have 30 million subscribers in the next 3 months. The world needs your heart your knowledge and your perspective that you bring. A great teacher and a great reminder to humanity about the most basic and truthful facts of the necessity of man and woman.

I'm the captain that docked his ship in a island and dedicated the rest of his life to the contemplation of nature, instead of giving free rides to women while they party with the crew.

That part where you explained the feeling of what I'm becoming what I hate really hit me up! Thank you man, you have my respect for that!

She's looking at a tiny sliver of the problem. The incentives of society are just not there to produce what she wants. Economically, culturally, politically, and tbh with women as they are now. So it's all well and good to kvetch about men, and frankly - who would even argue the point? But what's the idea? That guys just 'man up' and everything else stays the same? Because to that the answer's gonna be a crisp 'nay'.

Thank you Alexander for being here for us. I am so glad I found your channel and soon thereafter few more channels such as yours and I kid you not, my internal believe changes within the course of one weekend! For two decades I was taught to believe from society and all the girlfriends I had that masculinity is toxic and that we as men should be more in touch with our inner feminine. I swallowed that like a hungry gator for sooo long. No wonder none of my relationships worked out. I brought too much femininity into my relationships as I was told but it turned out none of the women wanted that at the end. I have been single for nearly 5 years now and believed that my situations will not change much this lifetime, until, I accidentally landed on your channel. For two straight days about 12+ hours per day I watched and listened you on your channel and few others like it and on Monday morning when I woke up I felt so different, as if I have been in a coma, a vegetative state for two whole decades and suddenly woke up with permissions to be. This is now 7 days since i have received this new information which is not new but it was to me and I am a totally different person the way I interacted this whole week with people outside, on the bus, in the supermarket, at work and etc. I let myself go into my inner masculine and I even noticed my voice became deeper and more assertive, IN ONE WEEK! Thank you to heavens and back for sharing all this on your channel Alexander the Great, you have given me hope and a new reason to live!

The text-to-speech voice is horrible. Just read it yourself.

The whole male female dynamics is pretty much summed up In relatively short amount of time in this single video. Great content. Every man and woman should watch this.

What's messed up is, we used to know this. People, men and women used to not understand this. And it wasn't that long ago.

Alexander - I’m a new subscriber, but I’ve learned more in this one video than a host of others! You have a permanent fan here, and I thank you. Hats off my friend.

The broken way men and women interact today is most likely a feedback response in a genetically encoded control loop to deal with the current situation. We just don't know what the loop is trying to achieve and it's most likely not the first time we've gone through this.

I'm all for men to recover their masculinity... but there are 2 sides to that story. Women ALSO need to recover their femininity. It's easy to point fingers at men for their mistakes, their loss, but from the perspective of men, why would they even want to attract women who bring so little to the table? Both work, both have to then share the housework, there's little time to spend together or indulge in hobbies. Meanwhile, the house isn't as clean as it should be, the meals are just feeding you instead of being a joy to partake in as a daily bonding event with the whole family, etc etc... Both genders need to get their act together, not just men. If women don't enable men (which is their crucial role), masculine men will shun marriage.

Thanks for doing what you do. I am a woman, but I do appreciate your content so much. It is really refreshing to actually hear from a male/masculine perspective! Thank you!

I've watched dozens of your videos, mostly non-sequentially. This is one of your best. Thank you.

Alex - the sales numbers from "50 shades of grey" say everything

I don't think that this somewhat common saying works: "why should one of us be in power in our relationship. We are a team." There is no such a thing as "we are a team, & we are equal." Because teams have captains which are figureheads. But, more importantly, teams have coaches. & most imporatantly, teams have owners. Coaches define the way a team plays. & owners define the existence of a team financially. & both are not equal to anybody else in the team. In relationships, most men think they are the captain whereas, in reality, their women, wives are the coaches who define how their relationships play out. In plays, trainings, if any of the team's players, or even the team's captain, act or behave out of line, defined by the coach, they'd face repercussion, e.g. booted and have to sit on the chair. & that's like when, as a punishment, a wife doesn't sleep with her husband & makes him go sleep on the couch. In most cases, It doesn't matter how much the team has paid for the problematic player either. If the player in question is defying the authority of the coach, he's going to face repercussions for it in one way or another. So, the point is that in every establishment & institution, there's a power structure with someone sitting at the top of it. & power means control. By saying, "we are a team," or, "we have to be a team," you're not saying that there is no power structure, you're just using euphemism to hide the power structure of your relationship because you don't want to be honest about it. In any system there's an owner, a boss, a chief, a chieftain, a lord, a king, a queen, a prince, a princess, a leader, a supreme leader, a chairman, a chairwoman, a ceo, an executive, a khan, a caliph, a captain, a coach, etc. You see, there's no sugarcoating it. In any system, any decision made is approved by someone of higher position of power within that system. By saying, "we are a team," you're only hiding who the coach of that relationship is. That's all. I'm not much fan of euphemism. My life is my last line of defence in keeping & exercising my power & control over my life. I'm not going to concede that power to anyone or anything else. It is not in my nature to do so. Depending on the cultural & political values of one's era & society, one would have to pay for the defiance of one's nature. Surrendering my power - thus, my control - over my life is especifically not a part of my individulastic nature. No amount of "love" or societal or ideological power is going to change that. The most common repercussion of my nature is my dying alone. But, what's the difference really? I've always been alone. I don't see why, at the later stages of one's life, one will need or have to implement a change that's contrary to what one has always been. You see, even the threat of my going out alone is not going to coerce me into changing ways. Because my ways are my natural ways. One's nature overrides & supersedes everything else. I am controlling over my own life. & that, as explained, is by nature. If another person happens to have any desire to be part of my life, they'll have to acknowledge & accept my controlling nature & its authoritative role in our would-be relationship. If they don't, they can't be part of my life. You see, it's really as simple as that. I'm not going to hide the reality of my nature by sugarcoating who I am. There's no point in euphemism. But, I'm not counting on anybody's acceptance of my nature either. In fact, I'm counting on my going out alone. It's more realistic given the common state of the collective female nature which I've observed in my lifetime. I've noticed my nature & their collective nature often collides. & clashes of natures do not produce peace. A state of peacefulness in my life is what my controlling nature desires the most. Hence, my going out alone is, at least, peaceful.

Alex, I like the way you articulate each topic, easy to follow and apply to real world situations. Respect the passion, keep it up!

Yay, Alexander. So I'm 72, when I got together with my wife 35 years ago (now divorced) showing feminine qualities and being highly sensitive were things that my wife adored about me. They were a big plus. I had a few high quality girlfriends before I met my wife. I was also the alpha of my man group. All was great for like, 20 years. I had regular sex, my friends were struggling. Then it all hit the wall as I had slowly given up my agency over the years. After the divorce, I have been learning and realigning with my masculinity, getting into and staying in my own frame. Challenging to completely shift my mindset, but oh so worth it! I've had a few girlfriends who were super strong, in their masculinity, chopped their own firewood types. I'm leaving them behind. My learning curve has been steep. Not done yet. Love your channel.

In the end she is part of the problem. One more woman who sets some standard what a real man is supposed to be like to fit her need.

A very strong “in her feminine” female friend of mine basically explained to a bunch of people the short version of this video. She is crystal clear that she is female and that she cherishes her feminine and that when a man abandons his masculinity it pushes her into her masculinity and she was crystal clear that she despises being pushed into her masculinity and resents him for failing in his masculinity and energetically pushing her there. I have course immediately sent her this video. Thank you Alexander, again.

Thank you for doing what you do Alexander Grace.

ABSOLUTELY. Nothing feels better as a feminine woman than to relax when your man (that you trust) takes charge. It's such an incredibly hard experience to get these days though, with all the masculinity (and femininity too tbh) shaming out there. But damn we need it. About the masculinity worship part, I went "exactly!" out loud several times, cause it's exactly how it feels: I admire masculinity a lot, and it's all about that really when I feel attracted. That's why as a straight woman I'm not attracted to beautiful traits in women, and not to men who aren't masculine, it's the masculinity that is attractive.

Thank you for all your work. You have helped me keep my sanity and to realize areas where I can improve myself.

Already one dislike? Get outta here. One like from me

It's not worth being together with a woman. You can't share your emotions, you have to put yourself in the best light, because you have to be admiring for her. There are no benefits of being together with one except body contact... Men have to be perfect...😐

Everything you say here, demonstrates that your a genuine high value man - you demonstrate a balanced insight and genuine compassion for the viewers ❤

The people who get upset about things you say aren't actually mad at you, and the labels they try to put on you are actually meant for someone else. The reason some people have such reactions to your content is because they're struggling with the realization that you're right about all of it, and almost everything they've been led to believe about women, relationships, and how to navigate through life to find their "soulmate", wife, or girlfriend has been a bold face lie! The emotions going haywire deep inside them cause them to lash out because they know it's true and their brains are fighting their emotions to hold onto their original beliefs. It's a form of cognitive dissonance really.

Great video Alex, on the other hand, i don't remember being this early before.

This is absolutely the best video I have seen online concerning the current, modern relationship between the sexes. I am 68 years old. I was raised in a single parent household; mother as head of house. I lived the advent of modern Feminism. Feminism ver. 1.0 was about equality in the workplace, i.e. equal pay and advancement. It was about reproductive freedom. It was about the recognition of traditional roles of women as homemakers, but also empowering women in other occupations. Yes, it was about an evolution of social roles, it was about woman’s rights and equality, but it was NOT about bashing men; rather it was about enlightening them. Feminism did not attack, let alone abandon traditional masculinity and femininity out of hand. Today’s Feminism 3.0 is all about bashing men and masculinity, demanding “equality” while embracing double standards, promoting promiscuity over family values, etc. Today’s Feminism has lost touch with traditional male/female interaction and the celebration of the genders. Feminism has lost; communication, understanding and respect; it is divisive. The essentials in a good, sound, healthy romantic relationship (MF, FF, MM) are among other things: Caring, Communication, Honesty, Respect, Trust, Empathy, Cooperation, Commitment, Support, Patience, Forgiveness and Intimacy. If a relationship lacks any of these aspects it’s like a car with a flat tire, chances are that it’s not going anywhere until you fix it. Feminism is toxic when it ignores, denies, disparages, or interferes with any of these aspects. If it does, then Feminism is harmful to long term relationships and it hurts women as well as men. Where in today’s Feminism is Compassion, Genuineness/Authenticity, Patience, Kindness, Maturity, Hope, Mutual respect? Any movement is toxic when espouses its rhetoric (usually at high volume) and stops listening. Today’s Feminism has lost its objectivity.

Rights without responsibilities, & 'My rights at the expense of others' An across-the-board problem in modern society.

Shes hit the wall, hasn't she?.....

What alexander said is kinda true tho, many women say 1 thing but want another. I've even heard women on media say 'men should listen to women because we're women and we know better about women' meanwhile they say be femeni nice guy, we only care about personallity not looks or money. actions speak louder than words , but they dont want to admit this

It is extremely rare to see a woman admitting all this without any filter. And by the way hats off, Alexander, you really know your stuff!

Thank you for those kind words Alexaner. Thanks for introducing Shay and her content. its nice to see things like this once in a while. Be safe. Mehran from San Diego

While I agree with almost everything said here, and I truly appreciate what you are doing. I still think, regardless of how masculine a man is or isn't, it's a huge risk for men to marry these days. Because all it takes is for a woman to have a bad day and/or her feelings change and she can literally ruin his life. Take kids from them, take half of everything they worked their whole lives for, and then most times it's all blamed on the man. Also most of the women these days have a body count higher than any many could dream of, and no man wants to marry that, nor raise another mans kids. I am by no means blaming women for this culture, because it's what has been pushed on all of us for decades. I have been married twice and now I realize that I wanted a family so badly both times I was willing to do ANYTHING to have that, which was my mistake, again though it was something that had been ingrained in me my whole life, I was by no means "beta" but I sure was not masculine enough either, and the more I tried to make them happy the further it pushed us apart. So I guess my point being, is that on order for men and women to feel safe a lot of things need to change and its gonna take decades to get there, because it took decades to arrive where we are now. Again I truly appreciate that you are actually trying to help and not just push an agenda of all women are wrong, or all men are wrong, but that both sides are wrong. God Bless all.

Dude you are doing the Lord's work..... I was in a shitty place a few years ago and your videos really helped me see things differently. I cant thank you enough.

Ya freedom! It also means free to make decisions that others would deem as "poor choices."

This is solid gold. Thank you, Alexander!

Conversation is vital. While being given the room to make mistakes while trying to express our feelings and thoughts with the correct words. We can only put our feelings/thoughts across with 100% clarity after getting it wrong a thousand times. Great video and a great day to us all.

We need a set standard of this classification of masculinity. As is everything. Their is a fine line between good & bad. Like the women says. A masculine man will know when it’s time to take charge, and know when to set back…. WTF does that even mean? Hello Mcfly. You cannot have a broad definition for something that is so easily fluid or moldable. Especially when that energy is tied to the energy of another living being that is well known for rationalizing opinions & manipulating definitions to constantly validate its own personal emotions. This is we’re men fail. We cannot fell confident in our masculinity if the standards are constantly shifting without pushback. Example: marriage. A man cannot be assertive in a marriage today. He can be. But his assertiveness will only anger his wife. Who knows she has all the legal power. She’ll just take everything including the children. All because you asserted your authority. Either people get it together and define the what is & what isn’t. It will only become worse. How are you supposed to beat the other team if they control the field of play & the rules. You don’t. You just get beat. My 2 cents. Love the channel Alexander. Good work. Edit: Also. No it’s not just high quality individuals that are able to discern between when & how. That’s a cop-out. The truth really is, except it. All of known western society is now structured for women. Period When we say high quality, what we’re really saying is Men with FU money that live outside the system. Guess. That time is at an end as well. Look at Bezos, Bill Gates, Angelia Jolie, same in less known such as Surgeons & high value lawyers. Their wives are also filing for divorce at alarming rates as well. It is not that men are more feminine. We can see that but how they still live with their natural role & continue protecting & providing. Men are still traditional, women. Not so much. So who you think is the issues that needs the addressing. They have created a very strong and reflecting argument that always lands back at the man feet not the women’s. My masculinity will automatically reset a woman’s femininity cause I’m assertive. No. Yes. Good luck with. That. Keep pushing this argument & it’ll never get better. Not until women relinquish the power we have them & accept accountability then become feminine again. I don’t see this occurring. Good day.

Yes, my friend, you let us know we aRe on the right track. Much appreciated

Thank you so much Alexander 🤝

Where are these real men, which are they: not beta, not narcissist?

I know you aren't Christian but this video made me think about the teachings in the bible (this particular one from Paul): "Wives, submit to your husbands and God. As the church submits to Christ, so also wives are to submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wife.... To sum up, each one of you is to love his wife as himself, and the wife is to respect her husband." -- Ephesians 5 Great video as usual, I really do think the world needs more voices of positive masculinity

Best message, EVER! Practical, nuanced, raw and real. Thank you.

Women's abuse of men is tantamount to kicking a sleeping dog. No empathy is no surprise.

I was taught how to be a man by my mother. She taught me to be strong, kind and know what you want in life. She made me a fearless lion and taught me I needed a woman who could be a lioness. Strong but lead by me. Not abusive. She said never treat a woman too good. Older boys taught me to be myself and not care what anyone thinks. I am 5'3' and muscular. Men say they are intimidated by me and young men look up to me for advice in life. I often can get very beautiful women 20 years or more younger than me. I ignore them most of the time because I consider them garbage. I only interact with them if they show they have quality.

I'm glad Alexander attempted to set expectations of being able to achieve this level of romantic accomplishment so low because it really will be one in a thousand people who get to experience what he has in his imagination. Not impossible, just so highly improbable that you honestly will have to count yourself blessed if it happens to you. As for the content, do you not see how you have to be perfect, and a mind reader, and straight up guided by the Spirit, in order to navigate this woman's list of demands? And that's not even considering that she only wants this particular expression of masculinity PART OF THE TIME. Tomorrow there will be a completely different list of what you must do - and be - in order to make her feel "safe" and "empowered" and (although it never does seem to come up in these videos) validated. In my life, I need to be involved in pursuing things that are possible, not spinning my wheels chasing things that only last a few moments, if they materialize at all. I know Alexander meant this video to be hopeful, but all it does is reinforce the inevitability of failure. Women do not "bond". Whatever you "build" with them today will erode tomorrow and be gone by next week. Never think she's yours because she never will be. It may be your turn right now, but your turn will end. Those are the hard realities of romantic relationships. Plan accordingly.

I can’t explain it, but at about 18 minutes in I felt this calm sense come over me. Like a reassuring sense that it’s okay for me to be a man, even if I mess up, even if I fail.. what I’ve been told growing up and the man I’ve tried to become to pleas women is just, very eye opening. I wish you well and please don’t stop making videos on topics like this!

Hi Alex, just want to say (as a struggling 45yo who's never had 'that' relationship), I am moved by your genuine desire to help. I know what its like to genuinely want to end suffering, it's always been my core value too, and such a mammoth task these days. I'm glad you have this platform and it is fullfilling.❤

By 'Men' she means 'Chad' of course

I’m sure she’s been on the CC - now wants a “real man” to clear up her mental mess. For me, no thanks, that’s a you problem. Totally unrelated… which motorbike to take out this afternoon….

Wow, I appreciate all you do sir. Keep the videos coming 💪🏾

That was one of the best articulated videos with meaningful content. I’ve watched in a long time. I never subscribe to people but I actually hit the subscribe button. I’m interested in what else you have covered. Great job man keep up the great work.

Alexander grace, NEEDS!!! to be interviewed on the podcast "fresh& fit" I hope he welcome challenges.

damn, that section about “today’s age of men” really hit home

G'day Alexander, I love this channel mate. I'm 45 and have been together with my wife for 22 years - and I can still learn stuff. Have to stay on the edge.

Never ever listen to what a woman want! They don't have a clue!

While I appreciate her honesty and her attempt to diagnose the issue I can't help but notice the blaming language. ,"How dare you not notice that we operate in an incredibly counter intuitive manner and that you didn't notice" you selected for this. You selected for a society where the best you can hope for is a soul destroying narcissist. You can blame betas and abusers all you want. Either return to tradition or make your demands clear and reciprocal.