My Husband Needs To Make More Money 

WHY DID THEY HAVE FOUR KIDS, BACK TO BACK IF THEY HAVE NO MONEY????????

Can you imagine this guy coming home from a 12 hour shift dog tired and his wife saying: “Hey I know we need more money so this is what Dave wants you to do.” I’d be freaking LIVID. Get a job woman.

“It would require you to give up any time you have for yourself” well yeah, what do you think the husband is doing

"Only women, children and babies are loved unconditionally...a man is only loved if he is providing something."

They're having financial troubles but they keep breeding. Some people never cease to amaze me with their stupidity. And then has the audacity to call in and talk about that the man needs to step up and work even harder.

This is awful, laying it all down on the guy's shoulders and talking like is only his responsibility is setting this up for divorce or the guy breaking down and being miserable.

Amazes me that almost no one asks themselves how many kids they can AFFORD before they have them.

My ex always complained about me not having more but she did not work for a very long time. At times I wouldn't feel well about myself. I'm glad she's my ex and I didn't settle down with her. That was a blessing.

Get a job and stop making your husband feel like a loser when he’s the only one working

Dave, why are you not telling her to deliver pizza after bubba gets home from work?

I love how everyone is ready to volunteer the husband for more work and more hours but when the wife asks if she should work then they are worried about her having "time to herself"

This my friends, is why you should never be shortsighted when it comes to having children. Only fools rush into a family.

What happened to the “WE” and “US” in their marriage….

Give your husband some grace, remind him daily how much you appreciate him and what he does for you and your family. Find the good in him. Be happy when he comes home, his home is his sanctuary so make it pleasant for him. Please don’t put him down

Literally went through the same thing recently. I was a SAHM for a short while with two kids under two. My husband is working a full time job and it wasn’t enough. So guess what we did? I accepted a part time job that is opposite of his shift. So we rotate between watching the kids and going to work. He works morning and early afternoons and I work til the evening after he comes home. I know it’s not an option for some people, but I have to say I’m thankful its an option for us.

They need to live like poor people, because they are.

I worked 60 hrs a week, my wife worked two jobs and went to school. All with a child. It's possible, they just dont want to put in the effort.

Lady if you have financial trouble then Don't have more kids !!!!!! How can people not know this basic common sense .

She needs to start babysitting to bring in more income. If your husband is working so many jobs/hours and overworking himself, that will affect your marriage and will end in divorce.

When he gets home, she goes works night job. When kids are all school age, both parents work full time

Don't have children you can't afford to have. Dave acts like giving 10% to a church and having kids doesn't play into the math when you're in debt. Giving to others and kids are a blessing when you can afford do so and a strain and easy way to end up unhappy and divorced when you take on more than you can handle

Not once did he suggest she gets a job! You want to work the man into the ground?

I’m confused, is her getting a job not an option? I understand that childcare is expensive, but she can work opposite of his shift.

“they” told us not to sell within a year of buying…? sounds like she just doesnt want to downsize so she’s making up excuses

She thinks she can’t sell her house. How are people so naive :(

SHE needs to get a job in the evening while he watches the kids. Seems like she's not willing to do that though.

Some women are allergic to work even if it means sinking the household.

How disappointing!!! What a shame to put EVERYTHING on the mans shoulders. What does he need to do to get us ahead.... No it should be what do WE need to do for OUR FAMILY. This poor guy has gotten with a woman who wants a free ride and give me everything. Get a job and help out!!! It is that simple. Life is hard and it is only harder when families do not work together..

investing requires good experience and knowledge to carry out a good and successful trade, I have lost a lot trying to trade all by myself May I ask which investments are good??>>>>>>,.,.,

I'm 27 approaching 28 and the financial differences in having kids or not is starting to be apparent in my friend group

Has Dave or his co hosts ever said: Do not have any more kids, please!

She said after paying all their bills, they have a couple of hundred for savings/emergency. Definitely tight, but not like some callers and not "sell the house" yet. Daycare is the only solution for her, even one more kid will open things up easily. She has those skills. (This guy deserves to see his kids at the end of the day, not go to a second job. They would both burn out under that plan.)

My wife presented the same question to me. My argument was: I always help with the kids and cleaning around the house. It's now your turn with helping me with earning income.

She needs to get a job!

I’ll admit whenever I hear stuff about families, and things like this when I hear their incomes I always feel a little bit torn. I’m a single guy no wife no kids and no girlfriend. And I always constantly feel like I need to make more money in order to support a family but I see families like this living off of either roughly what I make or even less incomes. And I always tell myself why can’t I have a family too I might just not making enough money, But at the same time I’m always glad I’m not in the situation where your family is dependent on your salary and you have a lot of responsibility.

Kiss you husband at the door as he's coming home from work and you are leaving to work. Money problems solved.

Everybody in the comments is agreeing that the wife is sounding entitled in this entire conversation. What's worse, she's been trying to play victim in this that she can't do anything as the stay at home mom of four kids. First (and as a new home owner from the beginning of this year), the mortgage paperwork states there how much you end up paying monthly. Why were both of them not paying attention to that figure into their budget? Second, if they've been watching/listening to the Ramsey show, they would have known about the 25% rule and not end up with their dream home just to be house poor. I feel like there's just misdirected problem here and it's not really the income problem that they both have but lack of planning (kids, house, finances), but also the lack of communication between the two, and the lack of consideration between the two of them. Hopefully, their marriage doesn't fall apart at this crossroad.

This just one of the reasons marriage rate is in the sewers. What happened to "stunning and brave, strong and independent that don't need no man" attitude here? She can do something small from home to help a little or downsize. Ultimately it ends up being "HIS fault" only in her eyes. I'm smelling future single mother with this one.

She needs to get a job or sell the house. They sound like they want a lifestyle they can’t afford and will end up divorced in a few years going down this path

Every woman wants her husband to make more money.

Never will forget when I was riding my bike to college and saw a toddler WEEPING to not have their mother drop them off at day care. It’s unnatural but the incompetent men of today would rather dump their kids on someone else and dump their responsibility to provide for the family onto the wife at the expense of everyone else in the family. They would do well to forgo a family altogether and just have male roommates. Not everyone deserves a family.

I feel so bad for this guy!!!

Or make less kids…

My wife said I didn’t make enough money and that I was a financial loser. I ended up getting a 2nd job at the Home Depot. She still left me.

This is what happens when you have a generation that thinks men should be the bread winner and a generations that thinks everyone should be equal. No one is happy.

Am I the only person that kept thinking May be wife needs a part time job

Hey lady, how about YOU get a job, while your husband gets some time at home with the kids?!

Wow. This dude is making the median wage $50K is a good income. 1/2 of all workers make less than that. He is an average dude making a decent wage. And they want him to jump from top 50% of all earners to top 15%. They are putting this all on him. She needs to go to work. She could easily go out and find a job making $30K to $35K right now to cover the gap.

My wife needs to do more dishes and clean more. See how stupid it sounds?

Ain't no way I'd let my wife sit me down and say "We need to talk about your future career and possibly a second income." Especially if she isn't working.

She needs to sell the kids then get a job.

One income families always have these problems she needs to find a job

Sometimes I think school needs to teach more about finances, especially if people become a parent!

FYI my HOA charges people $20k if you sell or rent out your place within a year of buying. They have hardship waivers but the idea is it prevents investors and flippers from out bidding families trying to buy a house.

Why do people have all these kids they can't afford? News flash: kids are expensive!

Lady you need a job, YOUUUUU DO NOT NEED ANYMORE CHILDREN. 🤷🏾‍♀️

She needs to get a job. Become a babysitter or something

If I was him I'd sleep on the couch the rest of the marriage ,guess they never heard of contraception

This isn’t the 1950’s anymore, it’s rare for a single income family with kids to live comfortably…

Add her in with the kids cuz she is just another child he has to take care of...

Hello it's 2021 She needs to become an asset to this family.Stop having kids that you can't afford dumbbell.

Imagine making 50K a year total and being able to own a home in a new development. This entire concept is foreign to me as a Californian. Unbelievable.

What’s keeping the wife from working?

It’s not good to put it all in the husband. If she watched just one or two kids, she could bring in a significant amount of money. I really prefer seeing Rachel with Dave on these types of calls.

All the men in the comments talking about how they expect a female partner to work as much as they do, I hope are stepping up and taking care of half of the responsibilities of running a home - example: cooking, cleaning, organizing, laundry, childcare if applicable. I've often seen the bulk of this left to the women in relationships with men, despite the woman working outside the home as well.

These are the things you think about before you have four kids…….maybe after the first one

She could do door dash around dinner time for an hour or two each day after he’s home from work and they’d be in a comfortable savings range of over $1K per month.

Wonder how old they are. Hopefully she gets a little gig from home and he finds his purpose in life and earns more as well.

She needs to get a job, there’s plenty of stuff she can do from home

seems more like they are living above their means

Why do people decide to have so many children without being able to afford them? Poor kids. It’s not fair to your children if later on you cannot afford to provide for them properly. I hope the parents can correct this. Also, today one has to consider that we already have significant over population on this earth, global warming etc. Imagine what would happen if everybody decided to have this many kids??

this is why you don't have more kids than you can afford to take care of

Welp...sounds like it's time for them to sell a kid or two 😂🤣

Why isn't she going to work? $50k is average salary

Honey, you can't stay at home and eat Bon Bons forever. Get a part time job.

Why the focus on this lady’s husband? What are her career aspirations?? Super annoying.

Honestly, they may have decided on her being a sahm already, it sounds like they have. Childcare is ridiculously expensive so while providing in home care for others is an option, her affording childcare at this point is not feasible! their ultimate advice of hooking them up with services to explore, and learning about options for part time work is honesty not a bad idea to plan around, downsizing the home is probably their best bet for immediate relief.

How old are the kids? What's stopping her from going to work?

She can get a part time job herself while he's off work or they can sell the home. Those are the real choices.

S H E needs to get a job and work either the weekends or in the evening when the dad is at home. That’s an easy 25k a year added to their 50k. If her kids are going to school there is no excuse, get to working ma’am. Both my parents worked and my dad would just watch us after school, mom worked the evening shift. She brought in another 40k, that was just a factory job too. Stop being lazy we ain’t in the 1920s anymore.

Seems like a simple case of lack of understanding of personal financial

First step is don't buy a house you can't afford and live within your means and plan children much later

Marry a proverbs 31 woman. This woman is ridiculous. There are plenty of ways to make money from home. Don't marry someone who wants to spend more than they want to earn.

Both guy and girl in my life are breadwinners. Situations change often

They are able to save $200 per month... things could be ALOT worse.

And stop having kids until you get a solid foundation. This is a sensitive subject, but very wise.

She can work from home, weekends, nights, opposite shifts. I know a lady that did insurance billing from home and loved it. She could be home and bring in some money.

Four kids under 5! The daycare costs would be more than her job. Where will they find a place to live for less than $1K for 6 ppl?!?

c'mon people, you need to make family choices which match your income.

I can understand why her husband wants to get a second job. He wants to get away from her.

Sounds like a couple who have an issue with making bad decisions...4 kids on a single 50k salary...new unaffordable home

I work 7-3:30 and my wife works from 4-8, if I can't make it home in time our daughter stays with grandma or sister in law for half an hour. We also only had one child because that's what we can afford

so many entitled women who sit at home and feel that their husband should work a second job or even more. why can't she get to work and do something on the side? what's wrong with her

She should probably look for a job and bring the kids to the grandparents house when work schedules overlap. Being a housewife isn't a realistic thing these days

How about the wife get a job?

She doesn’t want to downsize! They bought a brand new house....

If this woman wants to get a little, she has to give a little. She should be looking for a part time job while her husband looks for a career path towards a higher income.

Hope her husband has good life insurance.

Good grief. My ex-wife used tell me I needed to make more money. All the while she brought in no income. 😞

Dave and Christy talking over each other is annoying. Christy, stop talking. Everyone wants to hear what uncle Dave has to say first.