Oppositional Defiant Disorder: Raising a Child with ODD and ADHD 

💕💕GOD bless you … we need more understanding teachers like you 💕

Thank you Alfredo! We are so proud of the work teachers and school staff do for their community and strive to support you all.

If you add in narcissism and high functioning autism you have a recipe for disaster! And it only gets worse as they get older you’re lucky you’re a schoolteacher that can go home. Imagine if you came home to that toxic narcissistic child that cannot take care of themselves and are also abusive Mentally and physically . It’s especially hard and takes a long-term toll my child is now 25 they do not get better with age they get worse. I feel trapped between doing the right thing because I know he can’t survive making mental decisions like a 12 year old. Where is the line between being a compassionate parent and allowing your child to completely destroy your life with their toxicity and vile hatred.

@@shannonfishkill8957 - I feel you :-(

My sons kindergarten teacher is struggling with this. I completely get it, he’s a handful…. But, I can only imagine how he feels all day.

Hi there - thank you so much for getting in touch - I hope the video made you feel a little more supported. Please feel free to find out more here on our website: Resources that can help: Family Lives Website: www.familylives.org.uk Helpline: 0808 800 2222 Clinical Partners Website: www.clinical-partners.co.uk nipinthebud.org/films-parents-category/conduct-disorders-odd/ And perhaps these books may be helpful: www.alibris.com/search/books/subject/Oppositional-defiant-disorder-in-children Please stay in touch with us and we send you all our support - the team here at Nip in the Bud

Same.

Smh I hear you i am absolutely exhausted

I have two children with it and I'm so burned out, all I hear is how I'm not doing enough because the behavior hasn't stopped but I'm doing everything I can. My place is ruined, I dread each day, I miss how sweet my babies used to be.

ODD is a grouping of personality traits. ADHD or special needs can make it more difficult, but it's the way you interact with your child that ultimately cause ODD. When you don't hold your child accountable or provide emotional regulation you create a monster. Becoming a better parent and disciplinarian helps undo it but one has to be willing to change and implement new skills appropriately. Most ppl aren't willing and choose to blame the child for the way they are.

I’ve ordered this today, thanks for sharing. Two I can also highly recommend are Nowhere to Hide - why some kids hate school and what we can do about it, and also Brain Gym and Me - describes how a series of exercises can open up the learning pathways in the body (what we should have learned naturally as babies but many didn’t because of the lack of understanding that we should be encouraging this from the day they’re born, even reading to newborns!) I do the exercises with my 10 year old grandson as I am trying to recover my cognitive function that was impaired during chemo for recent cancer) So it’s a win win for us!

Thanks for the Tip! Perhaps we should have a stream just for helpful books on here? Love this.

@@nipinthebud3744 great idea! I’m happy to share and love to hear of other recommendations. The one I’ve just finished reading is really excellent, based on tons of research and really helpful. It’s called ‘Transforming ADHD’ …. Lots of useful advice, which I’m starting with myself (stress & anxiety)and my grandson (ADHD). Will let you know how the next month goes 👍🏼

Thanks for sharing your thoughts, hope all is well - from the Nip in the Bud team

Thank you for sharing, we always love to hear about other peoples experiences.

Yes 💕

Hi, mental health services in the UK aren’t responsible for neurological disorders or developmental disorders. They are not caused by poor mental health. We need much more funding in neurodevelopmental services. Sadly, mental health services often face the wrath of parents when it isn’t their remit at all.

Do you find resources for yourself are more difficult to access than for your son?

I can’t agree more!!!

Hey Limetown, Thank you so much for getting in touch and sharing your experience - please get in touch as your experience is so compelling. You can email us or find us on Insta or Facebook. Equally no pressure - it's just lovely to hear from you too - from us here at Nip in the Bud

What advice would you give to another parent struggling? X

Thanks for your input, we hope this film has been helpful - for more information on where to find further support also head to our website's "Where to get help" Section.

Have you had a chance to look at our "Where to go for help" section on our website? Also try Family Action or Parents Online for more support. Take care.

Thank you for your comments - we hope you've found this helpful. It sounds like you have such a great approach to your daughter's care and her experience.

Sorry you're going through this, I've been dealing with my son's episodes for a very long time myself. As hard as it may be sometimes even when things seem or get chaotic try and imagine one day soon he will be an all around respectful, mannerable , self control individual. Things will get better keep loving him where he's at. You are doing a great job

@@oneofakind3465 thank u! I appreciate the validation 🙂

@@michellericketts8538 you're welcome !!😊😊

You are definitely not alone, my son is 14 and very spiteful, hurtful and knows just how to manipulate. He makes me cry so often, but I love him to bits. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to deal with :(

Michelle, thanks for your words, we're glad that this film was helpful. Feel free to get in touch with us - details in the about section.

@tiffanyjonesart thank you very much. I hope u are doing well.

@tiffanyjonesart lol I’m glad ur doing well

Thanks so much for your thoughts and comments - have you found any of our other films helpful? We'd love to hear what other topics in your experience would be helpful - feel free to get in touch with us (our social channels and email is in our "About" section) We also update our wonderful community with regular (but not too regular) newsletters if you would find them helpful - if you're interested you can sign up here: www.nipinthebud.org/sign-up-for-our-newsletter/ in the meantime thanks again and take care - from all of us at Nip in the Bud

It's good to hear about your experience too. Thanks for joining our brilliant community here on RU-vid - We'd love to hear what other topics in your experience would be helpful - feel free to get in touch with us (our social channels and email is in our "About" section) We also update our wonderful community with regular (but not too regular) newsletters if you would find them helpful - if you're interested you can sign up here: www.nipinthebud.org/sign-up-for-our-newsletter/ in the meantime thanks again & take care - from all of us at Nip in the Bud

@@nipinthebud3744 thanks. I’ll check it out.

Same

That hit me too. I miss my daughter before she got ODD. It's really hard to accept...she's only 5...

Thank you all for your thoughts and sharing your experiences here - it means so much to our community and letting people know they're not alone - Thank you all

Ditto. I miss my little baby. I can’t even remember feeling happy about being a mom, which I desperately wanted to be and jumped through IVF hoops to achieve. 😓

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

Thank you for getting in touch - we really are glad that this film has helped - do fee free to get in touch with us via our social media channels as it's always great to hear about people's experience, from the team here at Nip in the Bud

You are definitely not alone my friend.

Wow I can’t believe I’m not the only one feeling this way

he's only 6 there's literally no fucking way to tell that yet

Wow that’s a lot of labels to burden a 6 year old with! All children learn in their own unique way - that’s right, we’re not all robots - it’s up to the adults to find the best way to teach each of them. I researched these so-called disorders across the globe and am now much better informed … I took the best from all that I read, viewed or listened to and applied the best methods to my 10 year old grandson and the change so far is remarkable, not only in his school work but also in his behaviour. He has still a long way to go but the most important thing we did as a family is to have patience with him …. It’s amazing the difference that change has made, even before applying some of the methods recommended. Get a variety of books on the subject and extract the best from each to make your own unique program for your child … it’s not all about reading, writing and arithmetic…. my grandson is using much more skills to make his own comics - he’s even thinking about setting up a business! He still can’t master his multiplication tables but he knows how to count money! Every adult in his life needs to believe in him, that’s the real secret.

Thank you for your thoughts, it's so crucial to let the families affected talk about their experiences.

Hi - thanks so much for sharing your thoughts - we appreciate it - from the team at Nip in the Bud

I hear you. Yes it’s a good way to describe it although it’s hard for most to swallow because everyone’s sensitive to description.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts here - we hope our films have been helpful? What else would you like to see here from us?

Melanie - Thanks so much for getting in touch - sadly we know there is a real lack of support so we hear you & this is precisely why we made this film with Celina and the team - to highlight why children and families need more support. Do you have any community groups that can help support you? We have these resources that may be helpful? Family Lives Website: www.familylives.org.uk Helpline: 0808 800 2222 or Clinical Partners Website: www.clinical-partners.co.uk Other parents-focussed groups that might also be helpful are: facebook.com/groups/131750573612699/ or facebook.com/OppositionalDefiantDisorderSupport/ We have a newsletter that goes out with news and tips for parents if that feels helpful? (www.nipinthebud.org/sign-up-for-our-newsletter/ ) Also keep an eye on our new films coming out as there is a really helpful series coming out that is to support parents on this often stressful journey. Equally if you'd like to tell your story please get in touch with us & in the meantime please take care of yourself & we hope you get the support you need - from the Nip in the Bud team

She won't take her meds, I just don't that. So she can choose?

​@Richard Armour you can only hold down and force meds/tooth brushing/ etc for so long.

@@sukru6797 That is what is misunderstood. I tried everything. I failed.

​@laurak5133 yes very true nothing is getting worked out with my son all mentioned above from melanin I'm facing exactly..it's an hell

I understand completely. My 14 year old grandson who we are raising is going through this as are we. The new school system has determined he is a threat and we are terrified because he isn’t but to the administration he’s difficult and it’s easier for them to build a case to get rid of him that it is to work with him. I constantly feel that I’ve done everything wrong because I’ve been parenting as I was and it’s not applicable anymore

@@odie00zero we do our best ...it's very unsettling for all. We are human also and we need to be supported,not have our hearts ripped away from us. How lovely that grandparents are present. I wish you all,all the best.

Please don't blame yourself - lots of these experiences weren't seen, known or talked about previously - luckily we have the internet which allows people to get more information and bridge the gap to more understanding - so actually good for you for finding out more here on RU-vid for your children & yourself! Thanks so much for getting in touch - Lots of parents feel the same - do you have any community groups that can help support you? Secondly - We have these resources - perhaps these groups can help you? Family Lives Website: www.familylives.org.uk Helpline: 0808 800 2222 of Clinical Partners Website: www.clinical-partners.co.uk Other parents-focussed groups that might also be helpful are: facebook.com/groups/131750573612699/ or facebook.com/OppositionalDefiantDisorderSupport/ We have a newsletter that goes out with news and tips for parents if that feels helpful? (www.nipinthebud.org/sign-up-for-our-newsletter/ ) Equally if you'd like to tell your story please get in touch with us & in the meantime please take care of yourself & we hope you get the support you need - from the Nip in the Bud team

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

Dottie - Thanks so much for getting in touch - do you have any community groups that can help support you? We have these resources - perhaps these groups can help support you? Family Lives Website: www.familylives.org.uk Helpline: 0808 800 2222 or Clinical Partners Website: www.clinical-partners.co.uk Other parents-focussed groups that might also be helpful are: facebook.com/groups/131750573612699/ or facebook.com/OppositionalDefiantDisorderSupport/ We have a newsletter that goes out with news and tips for parents if that feels helpful? (www.nipinthebud.org/sign-up-for-our-newsletter/ ) Also keep an eye on our new films coming out as there is a really helpful series coming out that is to support parents on this often stressful journey. Equally if you'd like to tell your story please get in touch with us & in the meantime please take care of yourself & we hope you get the support you need - from the Nip in the Bud team

Belt treatment would've helped.

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

What did you determine would be the best school for your child. I am in a similar situation and I am looking for schools that can teach having a child with ODD

@@cynthiamccoy2699 he does 3 days a week in a specialist school now. It's for children with behaviour problems.

Thanks for joining in the conversation - we'd love to hear more about what else would be helpful in your opinion - from us here at Nip in the Bud

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

Sorry to hear. ADHD alone is difficult. Comorbid with ODD, it's extremely exhausting. ADD is an inacurrate diagnosis: it's an old term that's not used anymore. There's only ADHD. It doesn't require the classical hyperactivity symptom. Sometimes, that hyperactivity presents itself in other ways, such as hyper focus.

Adreix, Thank you for getting in touch and telling us about your experience - perhaps you and your mum could watch tis together - you may find this film helpful: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-pePFZ2Tw5aY.html - it is all about Autism and ADHD. Professor Emily Simonoff is the Professor of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry at King’s College London, and the team are finding out more ways to help support children with these co-existing conditions. I hope in the meantime you are able to find ways to manage all or any anxiety & that you have people who understand how you work and respond with compassion and care. Please stay in touch, from the team here at Nip in the Bud

@@nipinthebud3744 thank you I will hopefully look into this soon

We hope by sharing parents' experiences that other people know that they're not on their own.

Thank you Beverly!

Thank you for your kind words.

Thanks for watching!

Thanks so much for getting in touch - Lots of parents feel the same - do you have any community groups that can help support you? We have these resources - perhaps these groups can help support you? Family Lives Website: www.familylives.org.uk Helpline: 0808 800 2222 of Clinical Partners Website: www.clinical-partners.co.uk Other parents-focussed groups that might also be helpful are: facebook.com/groups/131750573612699/ or facebook.com/OppositionalDefiantDisorderSupport/ We have a newsletter that goes out with news and tips for parents if that feels helpful? (www.nipinthebud.org/sign-up-for-our-newsletter/ ) Also keep an eye on our new films coming out as there is a really helpful series coming out that is to support parents on this often stressful journey. Equally if you'd like to tell your story please get in touch with us & in the meantime please take care of yourself & we hope you get the support you need - from the Nip in the Bud team

Yikes. That sounds like the beginnings of a serial killer. I sure hope you get him some serious therapy.

My son cried...extreme crying/screaming, from when he was born until exactly 8.5 months old. No doctor could figure it out. He literally had a 6-pack from screaming so hard. He would nurse and come up to scream them resume nursing until he was finished. He didn't sleep, he just passed out. He was wired for sound. I dreaded going to the store because of the rude comments, "If she won't shut that kid up I will". "Give him gin", "feed him onion soup", "Let him cry it out"....everybody had unsolicited advice. The doctor said he tested normal for everything. I would stand by his crib so I could look at him sleep in peace before he opened his eyes, took a deep breath and started screaming. His face would turn deep red. He was breast fed but my mother visited and was sure he was skinny from hunger. I explained thst hunger wasnt his problem but she snuck him formula with baby cereal. He got extremely constipated and cried harder. He was skinny from extreme crying and screaming. I finally called my friend who was the director of early childhood intervention and asked him for advice. After interviewing me about his behavior, which was always worse in the grocery store, he determined he had, "fussy baby syndrome". He said he experienced every sensory stimulation as extreme. Lights were too bright, noises too loud, etc..He told me to only give him one stimulus as a time. I could hold/touch him but not look in his eyes or talk. He was to be in dim light. I could look at him but not talk or sing at the same time. I wore him in a sling next to me. Two weeks of this protocol he woke one day and instead of opening m his eyes and screaming, he opened his eyes and gave me a huge smile. It was as if he realized there was something different he could do. I got so excited that I ran to have portraits made. I couldn't do it before since he wouldn't stop crying. It was as if a switch was flipped. He was 8.5 months old. 😢 After that day he was like normal and quickly gained but didn't lose his muscles, so he was strong and could rip his diaper off the instant he soiled it. He obviously had sensory issues and hated a dirty diaper. He would throw it at the wall, from his crib, if I missed the event. He soon was able to climb out of his crib easily. He was hyperactive and precocious. I was with him 24/7 until kindergarten. He loved to do school work and was way ahead of other kids, mastering phonics, writing and math early. He was in the GT program starting in 2nd grade. Around 5th grade he started to struggle and disrupt class. He couldn't organize his work and didn't finish projects. His grades were still good because he had a near photographic memory so he tested very well. By 6th grade he couldn't get assignments done if they involved several steps. By age 13, he was stealing credit card numbers and doing online shopping. I pressed charges because it was over $5000. He got a felony and had probation for years. He refused community service, destroyed our home, stole grandmas car several times and totalled it going over 100mph. Every day was a new "bomb" to deal with. He started shoplifting. I turned him in but he was so cute and looked innocent so he was never held accountable. He told huge stories to the police and they believed everything. I was the bad guy and he was a victim. He would laugh about it when we would get out of court. He mocked the courts/probation because they ate his stories up and they all blamed me. Surely I was doing something wrong since he was as sweet as pie with them as he threw me under the bus. It was 3 years of that stuff before the probation officer apologized to me and told me she finally saw the truth. A judge announced that after several appearances, "I felt sorry for you but now I see and I feel sorry for your mom". He literally turned him loose and warned him that WHEN he appears before him again, he will be an adult and judge would throw him in jail for the maximum time the first time. He also said he will take pleasure in doing that after all the county resources he had spent. The summer before 10th grade, he was 15 and begged me to take him to the mental hospital. I was shocked since nobody knew about mental hospitals. He said he thought he was psychotic since he thought of killing us and stealing grandma's car. He figured he would not be caught for a month. He said the thoughts were getting stronger but he didn't want to do that since he loves me and it makes no sense. His 72 hour observation turned into 3 weeks. The staff was stumped by him because, "He has the most insight into his issues than any 15 year old boy they have treated". They diagnosed him as Bipolar 2, anxiety and ODD. He was already diagnosed with ADHD. He came home. A few weeks later he begged to go back. This happened 8 times in 6 months. He went to all but one adolescent hospital in Dallas. Each time he got a different diagnoses, (Bipolar 1, not bipolar) and gobs of meds that turned him flat, lethargic and unable to focus. Every time he initiated the hospital visit. One counselor told me to put him in MMA. I told him he will be thrilled and had been begging for martial arts but I had refused since he got so wound up and was as strong as a man. The counselor was ex military with a degree in criminal justice besides his psych degree. He believed every kid needed MMA for discipline. My son loved it. In a couple weeks he attacked my husband and beat him up for asking him to do a chore. We called the police but they talked me into dropping charges since, "It will ruin his life". He made credit cards in his dad's name and had packages arriving several times a day from Amazon, walmart and ebay. His dad was furious. He stole my mother's debit card and took thousands of dollars in days. With his photographic memory he memorized cards and pins and used them online. He even knew his great grandmother's pin that he saw her input years before, one time. We couldn't keep track of the disasters. I was advised to get him a psych evaluation from the local university. After 3 full days of testing and a wait for the report, I was given a 2 hour explanation of his "interesting" report. The head of the neuropsych department headed the meeting himself. They found he was not Bipolar, not a sociopath and wasn't on the autism spectrum. I was told he had a great chance to be a sociopath without intense therapy since he could not process emotions but he did have normal empathy. He was diagnosed with ADHD, ODD, PTSD and Intermittant explosive disorder. The doctor said that if he had a brain MRI, he was sure he would find physical evidence of brain disorder and it explained why my son knew something was wrong but could not control his impulses. By the time he was 17, he refused all medication, joined football and powerlifting and was popular in school. It only lasted a few months and then he was worse. He finally quit school 2 months before graduation and went on illegal drugs. 😳 He gave up on therapy, medication and his family. He moved into a friend's family house and cut most contact with me. A few months later he was thrown out of that house, lost his gf and was arrested for assault. That was 3 years ago. I haven't seen him since March 2021

Sometimes we can't fix the problems even with the help of doctors, school, community, family and daily searches for answers. My heart is permanently broken but I don't blame my son. Some day experts will know what to do with a kid like him. Although he has all these problems he has amazing talents with animals, which he loves, especially cats. He could work on my truck using youtube tutorials from a young age. He is smart, strong, witty and very funny. Of course he is handsome and hard-working. 🥰 As long as he is alive there is hope that he will find peace. I know he has suffered even more than I have. I feel helpless. 😪 I hope this huge post helps somebody to not feel alone.

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

Thanks for your thoughts - we really appreciate it. We'd love your thoughts on out Tips for teachers series!

I must say this, it's my experience with it and I don't know if this is the rule, I'm still learning a lot about all the different aspects of my neurodivergence, but take care of using the 'you have so much potential' phrase with them, because when you grow up into your 30's not knowing that you have this condition, and you have no defined career, no satisfying income or independence and you remember about such 'potential' and wonders where is this potential now, it just makes you feel worse as if I'm smart, and if I have potential, whatever went wrong in life then is completelly my fault, my attitude towards life or something like that.. It messed me up a lot until I got evaluated in last november, and I'm still trying to put the pieces together to have a grasp of my own brain and mind.

Our contributors experiences are vital to our understanding of different childrens needs - for more info please feel free to explore our evidence-based films made in collaboration with experts in the field of paediatric psychology & Psychiatry - to find out more about our work visit our website nipinthebud.org

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer your questions.

Thanks you for getting in touch and sharing your thoughts on the film. I hope you have had a chance to talk to a doctor - if you need further help these charities can help: Family Lives Website: www.familylives.org.uk Helpline: 0808 800 2222 or also Clinical Partners Website: www.clinical-partners.co.uk

Is not a question of society sake is a question to know that if something bad happens to me my child is able to self regulate the behaviour. Can't let a child/teen in his own destiny with a mental health issue, like can't let them even when they do well. It would be much easier to let the child be but deep in your heart this doesn't seem right because is like let them alone playing with a weapon.

@@jorida.ramadani youre missing the key point in OP comment.... Get to know them and interact instead of just giving them adderal bc the dr said so.....its a fine line of how far do we give in to things until its actually bad for them. I'm currently walking this line and having to learn where to draw it. Never heard of Odd and only 10 months ago did I get custody of my daughter whom I havent seen in 3 years so not only is our bond not as strong as it used to be she also is dealing with the stress of everything that happened at her mothers on top of the odd ADHD stuff. I totally agree with what the person was trying to say bc thats how ive been parenting but I also agree with what youre saying because how far do we go without saying ok ive gitta try something different....its a balancing act sometimes

I think the concept that a child is setting their own boundaries is the issue here and the crux of ODD. Unfortunately, we live in a society with rules and laws so allowing a child or any person to behaviour however they wish at any point just isn’t acceptable - hence the need for rules, medication and consequences for actions.

Whew a lot to unpack here. I have ADHD and Schizoaffective so trust me I understand people making you feel like a freak. That’s not what’s happening here. My disruptive 11 year old is not going to run our household. 11 year olds do not get to set the rules. Not studying, finishing homework, helping around the house, refusing to follow the rules set on screen time, refusing to help with the dog he begged for ect is not acceptable. Structure is important for kids, responsibilities are important for kids. Your going to have to do things you don’t want to do your whole life. It’s also safe to say your experience and expectation isn’t the same as all kids. Being coddled is exactly what my son wants. He gets angry and resentful if anyone else other than him gets attention, our daughters birthday is even an issue because he can’t stand that it isn’t all about him even on other’s birthdays. The problem with not addressing ODD is that it can evolve into conduct disorder which is much more severe and and can be a precursor to antisocial behavior disorder. That’s what we are dealing with now. Now if everything isn’t his way he is dangerous and extremely destructive. He manipulates every one in the house, and intentionally try’s to cause chaos. If we don’t help him and get him on the right track he will destroy his life with the destructiveness.

As an adhd mom to 2 (possibly 3) adhd children with one also having an ODD dx, I can say definitively, from experience, that children are children and adults are adults. Both have and are governed by boundaries. Respecting a person is different from conforming to their unhealthy-I-want-to-only-eat-garbage-food-all-the-time demands. A lot of my “struggles”, I recently learned, came from my own inability to regulate and unresolved and unknown traumas. Now that I have some tools to work with, my once very oppositional 13yo is becoming more stable because of my confidence and calmness. I am now teaching him how to self-regulate by co-regulating with him and practicing empathy WHILE keeping boundaries. We have a long way to go yet but I feel confident that when he is able to regulate more and more on his own, others will benefit from his tenacity and ingenuity. So, I say all that to say that that is what respect is for my adhd/odd child. I now firmly believe and hold that the majority of intensity could be reduced or eliminated when we allow space for parents to get the help they need to learn how to parent some extra exceptional children that don’t fit into the world’s cookie cutters. Help the parent heal and the child will follow. Anything less than that, *I* would consider coddling or complacency. Removing the responsibility form the parent to improve by bending the knee to child is foolishness. And likewise, removing the responsibility from the child to be held accountable for the choices they make or don’t make is also foolishness.....and culpable. They won’t remain children for long and they every individual must learn how to get along with and interact with others as politely, as dignified, and as respectful as they hope to be treated. Every child - and parent - wants to do well. Most of us just don’t know how.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts - Also, feel free to share what you would like to see more of - our audience's views and insights are vital to us, from the team at Nip in the Bud.

Thanks for the insight

Hi there - firstly thanks for bringing your individual perspective to the film - it's always helpful for us to see the questions our films bring up from our wonderful audience. I'm not sure we can answer your question re integrity but am very grateful for sharing your experience and it's something for us to contemplate.

Could you please list all the necessary types of therapy and support that your child has done? Thanks.

Thanks for sharing - it's parents like you (and like Kitty our co-founder) whose experience has been the driving force behind Nip in the Bud & pushing for Early Intervention (her story here: bit.ly/2Qw3kHv ) so understanding parent's experiences is vital as part of an evidence-based approach - we'd love to hear what you would find helpful from our films and other free resources given your experience. Thank you for your words and joining the conversation - we really appreciate it - from the Nip in the Bud team

Thanks for your words - let us know what else you would like to see from us here at NIp in the Bud

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts - it's vital that people are supported as much as possible so your experience and that of your kids and your partner is so vital. Thank You.

Hi Jasmine, I hope this helped. The fact is that there has historically been very little information out there for parents and carers which is exactly why Nip in the Bud was set up. And ODD is often missed and passed off as just bad behaviour. It may also be helpful to watch the film with Sian Williams Tips for teachers. Often parents also find these helpful. & If you need anymore info follow the link in our playlist and it'll take you to our factsheets and also more resources for support.

@@svetavinogradova4243 this has got to be one of the most ridiculous comments I have ever read. You clearly know very little (if anything at all) about brain development and mental health disorders. The prefrontal cortex responsible for executive functioning is the area of the brain affected for those with ADHD and the often associated ODD. This part of the brain controls BEHAVIOUR, emotional regulation, reasoning, foresight and hindsight (to help a person learn from past mistakes and make better choices in the future) and there is a three year delay in brain development in this area. Your comments are harmful and completely ignorant. It doesn’t really matter how you wish to label the symptoms; ODD or ‘outrageous behaviour’ the fact is, it’s a symptom of Atypical brain development. Some children with Autism often have aggressive, sometimes violent meltdowns where they hurt themselves and others which is the result of neurological differences. These children are fully supported and cared for and they are not seen as ‘bad’ children. Children with ADHD and ODD are suffering and deserve the same kind of respect and understanding. They are simply struggling to function.

Thank you Emmie - I hope this film has gone some way to help. Perhaps you could let us know what you would find helpful everyday as a mum? What conversations would you like to see that could support you today? We have more info on our site and we'd love to hear from you - there is also more support from these teams if you need to reach out: Family Lives Website: www.familylives.org.uk Helpline: 0808 800 2222 or also Clinical Partners Website: www.clinical-partners.co.uk And please take care of yourself too.

I feel this way too. Forget teaching life skills, your entire life is about managing emotions and behaviors. She'll have to learn things from somewhere else, because she doesn't listen to me.

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

Mmbali, thank you so much for getting in touch and we hope this film helped. You must be going through a massive range of emotions. Please do feel free to get in touch - we'd love to stay in touch - we have a website and are also on Instagram. I hope you know that you're not alone. You now have a diagnosis and know what your son is living with and so we hope you can get all the support you need. Please also find more support through these wonderful teams: Family Lives Website: www.familylives.org.uk Helpline: 0808 800 2222 or also Clinical Partners Website: www.clinical-partners.co.uk

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts, from the team at Nip in the Bud.

Doesn't sound socially connected at school, why are you worried to lose something he doesn't have?

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I've heard there's diet for gut health that is supposed to cure this problem. But don't know if it works.

Thanks for joining the conversation - we appreciate it.

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

Thanks for sharing your experiences with us.

Hi I have the same thing. As a adult I have learned to keep it polite with people that I am not friends with. And have anger management and stress management by taking deep breaths and think its not a big deal. It's best not to take it personally what people say or do. If people are disrespectful they are not thinking about people's feelings. If people show disrespect they lack respect. It's best to be the better person and have a rule to just have polite communication with people.

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I'm an RBT. I worked with a client that shows symptoms of ADHD and ODD, but is diagnosed with autism. Myself and others, including 2 BCBAs at my clinic, don't believe he has autism. He had delayed speech. He has no signs of stimming, intense interest in a specific item/ activity or repetitive movements. He has no sensory issues or food intolerances. He can express and tact his emotions and the emotions of others very well. He was my client for a year and a half. We routinely change clients approximately every 6 months, but they did not want to take me off him because of how severe his behaviors were and how well I knew how to respond to them. I swear it was mental gymnastics, I knew exactly what to do or what not to do for ANYTHING I knew to be a precursor behavior. And I knew him so well that I recognized his precursor behaviors, even when they were not perceptible to others. I potty trained him and I am so proud of his vocabulary. He was able to say a few words when he arrived. I started off with a two word manding program to say "want" in front of what he was manding for. "Want chips" It blows my mind how well he can speak now. He still calls me "essica" instead of Jessica because I never corrected him, it was too cute. He is so sweet one minute and the next he just HAS to do what he isn't supposed to. A brand new RBT was covering a session and he was standing in the doorway of his room, facing the hallway and looking back at the new RBT. She said, "We can stay in our room" and I thought "Nooo...🤦‍♀️" He eloped right out of that room and ran throughout the clinic. There are times when he actively does this for attention and out of boredom (he is too smart for DTT) and there are times when he absolutely cannot and will not listen to someone he feels is being authoritative in any way. I am really worried about what could happen in the future. Impulse control, no tolerance of authority, lives in a city that is actually quite infamous, recognized for gangs and poverty, and was once considered the "Murder Capital of the US". It breaks my heart to think of seeing him on the news in 10 years. As bad as this is, I almost wish he had autism, and would need to be cared for, without a chance to be in the world unattended.

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Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

Thanks for your message and good luck, we hope the films have helped. Our mission is very much to be able to raise awareness and understanding around the conditions. Perhaps more teachers at the school would be interested in the films? We have lots of resources for both families and teachers on our site: nipinthebud.org/information-for-teachers/

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It's quite hellish. My daughter is 17 and she isn't willing to cooperate or get help.

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Jess, I'm sorry to hear you're both going through a tough time - I hope this has helped and do feel free to get in touch with us as it's so important for us to hear from people who have been impacted by any of the topics in our films. From the team here at Nip in the Bud

@@nipinthebud3744 thank you. I think I need to find a lawyer and just emancipate her. She smashed everything in my house because I’m not giving her rides to work or school anymore. I had to call the cops but they just made her give me back my money. I have bruises from her grabbing me and it’s insane. I don’t feel safe and my clients won’t even come over any more. It’s demonic. She has to go. She’s walking all over me.

My 7 year old is saying she hates me, hates parents, that we aren't her boss she is her own boss. She is literally seeing 2 therapist and I'm seeing a behavioral therapist for parents and of course I see a therapist myself. It's tough and I pray she will change before she is a teenager cause ik it'll be worst. Her grandpa aka my dad told me if she doesn't change she'll end up in a kids home where trouble kids go. Which I will never let it happen cause it makes her even more angry. It's hard on everyone.

@@unfilterme7200 I’m so sorry. My advice is just keep talking calmly to her and don’t let it bother you. My daughter doesn’t remember what she did. Only how “abusive” I was. So much projection. I pray God helps us.

@@jesskennedy5232 we all make mistakes as parents. No perfect parents sadly every parent in the world do something abusive. It's about admitting we have to change our parenting also. Not a lot of parents admit they need to change as well. We also have to stop putting the blame on us. Your child see you trying to change which is good just as they get older they will realize you did your best and trying to change your parenting. I'm learning in the behavioral therapy session that it's all in the brain and wiring.

Thanks so much for sharing your experience and feel free to check out more of our resources and films on our website = we hope they support you. nipinthebud.org/films-parents-category/conduct-disorders-odd/ Take care and look after yourselves too from all of us at Nip in the Bud.

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer your questions.

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Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

Nicole, Thank you for getting in touch, I appreciate things feel tough so hope the video has helped even a little to make you feel less on your own. We also have other resources that may help: (not sure of your location) Family Lives Website: www.familylives.org.uk Helpline: 0808 800 2222 Clinical Partners Website: www.clinical-partners.co.uk nipinthebud.org/films-parents-category/conduct-disorders-odd/ And perhaps these books may be helpful: www.alibris.com/search/books/subject/Oppositional-defiant-disorder-in-children Please stay in touch with us and we send you all our support - the team here at Nip in the Bud

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

Thanks Danielle for sharing your experience. We hope this film has helped some and if you need any further resources please feel free to check out our page:nipinthebud.org/child-mental-health-conditions/recognising-conduct-disorders/

Look into autism specialists because these disorders are part of autism spectrum disorder

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

Thanks for the feedback - thats god to hear

Thank you for your message, lockdown has been terribly tough for everyone. Have you had a chance to watch the films about wellness for children: nipinthebud.org/information-for-parents-and-children/ Alis has some great tips. Take care of yourselves.

Literally took the words right out of my mouth .. this stuff breaks my heart .. I just want my daughter to feel loved.

hey sue,im a grownup who had this.i teach kids circus now,itll get better

@@kivalily I literally just left the house to pick up a coffee to escape a 19 yr Olds temper tantrum. 🤗

My 90 year old grandmother can tell you the treatment for this lmao.

Thanks for getting in touch - have you any community that can help support you? We have these resources and perhaps these groups can help: Family Lives Website: www.familylives.org.uk Helpline: 0808 800 2222 Clinical Partners Website: www.clinical-partners.co.uk Other groups that might be helpful are: facebook.com/groups/131750573612699/ or facebook.com/OppositionalDefiantDisorderSupport/ Equally if you'd like to tell your story please get in. touch with us here & in the meantime take care of yourself - from the Nip in the Bud team

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

Hi there, thanks for your comments and we hope the film felt informative? Allowing parents to talk about their experiences is so crucial.

I dont know what to say other than THANK YOU !!!!!!!!!!!!! The .."low dopamine" part. BRILLIANT !!!! I think it is going to be a game changer in our lives. Thank you. I have done some research on this since reading about it in your comment. uuuhhhh.... YES -> THIS! We are taking steps to naturally increase and level off these levels and IT IS HELPING !!! .. thank you. seriously.

Thank you for joining the conversation - what else would you like to see from us here at Nip in the Bud?

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and we hope this film was helpful - what else would you like to see from us? - from the Nip in the Bud team

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

Thanks Tee for your thoughts, we hear this often so really appreciate you sharing your experience.

Katy - feel free to get in touch via our social media channels - details are in our "About us" or at the end of our films summaries. I hope you're getting the support you both need? from the team here at Nip in the Bud

Same! Mine is about to turn 9, and I’m concerned that it’s this. :/

@@nipinthebud3744 thank you.

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

Mums and dads all over working so hard to care for their kids with additional needs - we celebrate some of those amazing dads here: bit.ly/458bGqR

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and supporting the work and communities we serve - If you need more information do explore our website or let us know what other information you'd like to see from us here at Nip in the Bud. Take care.

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

Hi Lindsay, Thanks so much for getting in touch - Lots of parents feel the same - do you have any community groups that can help support you? We have these resources - perhaps these groups can help support you? Family Lives Website: www.familylives.org.uk Helpline: 0808 800 2222 of Clinical Partners Website: www.clinical-partners.co.uk Other parents-focussed groups that might also be helpful are: facebook.com/groups/131750573612699/ or facebook.com/OppositionalDefiantDisorderSupport/ We have a newsletter that goes out with news and tips for parents if that feels helpful? (www.nipinthebud.org/sign-up-for-our-newsletter/ ) Also keep an eye on our new films coming out as there is a really helpful series coming out that is to support parents on this often stressful journey. Equally if you'd like to tell your story please get in touch with us & in the meantime please take care of yourself & we hope you get the support you need - from the Nip in the Bud team

Hi there, please follow this link and you'll find lots of ways to get extra support. Thank you for reaching out to us: nipinthebud.org/where-to-go-for-help/#adhd

Always let them know you're there for them. Compliment them as they are so used to negative comments from everyone around them. They feel like they're broken and everyone thinks that too. Your brother is the same age as my son and he's dealing with all of those as well and its incredibly hard. If your brother isn't apart of any support groups, you should help him find one and even get involved in it as well. There's a lot of support groups online, Sending good vibes your way

One thing I would say is , my mom and teachers wished I wasn't there, they said life would be peaceful. I even to this day left behind, alone, feeling that no one's there for me. But we remember , a lot. Your brother like me will be most likely be HSP or will grow to be HSP. One think I would say is be with him, make him feel he matters. He will remember it life time.

Hi there - we have some resources but they are UK-based but still could be helpful? Sorry we cant get more specific re Florida - we hope you find the support you and your son need. Take care. Family Lives Website: www.familylives.org.uk Helpline: 0808 800 2222 . Clinical Partners Website: www.clinical-partners.co.uk . Centre for ADHD and Autism Website: www.adhdandautism.org . ADHD Foundation Website: www.adhdfoundation.org.uk . Young Minds Website: www.youngminds.org.uk

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

Thanks for getting in touch - we're based in the UK (we have lots of resources in our Where to go for help section on our website: nipinthebud.org/autism-in-children/ and there are more films here too. In the States how about Autism Society of America or perhaps Autism Speaks? Let us know how you get on and we wish you the best.

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

Amy, Firstly thanks so much for getting in touch - Lots of parents feel the same - do you have any community groups that can help support you? Secondly - We have these resources - perhaps these groups can help you? Family Lives Website: www.familylives.org.uk Helpline: 0808 800 2222 of Clinical Partners Website: www.clinical-partners.co.uk Other parents-focussed groups that might also be helpful are: facebook.com/groups/131750573612699/ or facebook.com/OppositionalDefiantDisorderSupport/ We have a newsletter that goes out with news and tips for parents if that feels helpful? (www.nipinthebud.org/sign-up-for-our-newsletter/ ) Equally if you'd like to tell your story please get in touch with us & in the meantime please take care of yourself & we hope you get the support you need - from the Nip in the Bud team

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer your questions.

Lynx, thank you so much for getting in touch - we hope to do more on this topic - watch our for our series on early intervention. In the meantime these charities work with families whose children have O.D.D Family Lives Website: www.familylives.org.uk Helpline: 0808 800 2222 Clinical Partners Website: www.clinical-partners.co.uk And here are some teams who work with children living with ADHD: Centre for ADHD and Autism Website: www.adhdandautism.org ADHD Foundation Website: www.adhdfoundation.org.uk Young Minds Website: www.youngminds.org.uk We hope these help.

The belt treatment worked on me. I had a bad case of it. Got the treatment once a week

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Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

I've met children with ODD that have strict fathers. It makes it worse. People with ODD don't want to be like that. It's part of a processing disorder where they struggle to understand things and the ODD makes them really frustrated when they don't understand. Punishment isnt the best treatment. While punishment can still be used when appropriate but you have to go through things differently with children with ODD so its easier to understand

Thank you for sharing.

I hope this film was helpful?

@@nipinthebud3744 it was thank you

right lol. I have both

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Something learned can be unlearned

ODD and ADHD are part of autism spectrum disorder. While there is no cure there are methods to help a child with these disorders

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I feel you. I have a 16 yr old son who has ODD and is on the Autism Spectrum. I also have a 13 yr old daughter who is suspected to be ADHD and has ODD along with MDD (major depression disorder.) I would first suggest schedule an appointment to see your pediatrician. Have them check her vitamin d levels. This is not normally tested for-you got to ask for it specifically. My daughter is vitamin d deficient, along with low iron. The finger prick in the pediatrician's office showed her iron levels to be close to normal. We were actually testing her thyroid when we found out about the vitamin d deficiency. Almost all kids who have ADHD and Autism are vitamin d deficient. This can greatly affect mood disorders. I would ask pediatrician for referral to a psychologist. I would schedule that appointment as well. Tell them your concerns. It will take a few weeks to get answers. I would get a binder, if you don't have one already and start working on a paper trail. Any documentation that you have should be filed in there. Report cards, disciplinary actions from school, testing results, etc. Pick your team carefully! We have 2 pediatricians in our office-one who doesn't necessarily believe in ODD, Autism, ADHD and one who does. You are your child's biggest advocate! I'm fighting my local school system too. You are NOT ALONE! We can do this. I'd also look into DBT therapy. I'm starting my daughter on it next month. Her therapist is leaving and I had to start looking for a new one. Don't forget you in all this chaos. Your name certainly belongs on the list of people you are taking care of.

Huni you need to develop nerves of steel and remain as cool as a cucumber, dont sweat the small stuff, dont fight all the battles. Dont lock horns on all occasions with a ODD child. Pick your battles. Ignore what ever you can. Remember above everything else your child as a mental health problem. 29 years experience here with my own son. xx

@@jaynewoffenden4833 Thankyou so much for this. It means a lot. Since you writing this previous comment,Iv done a parenting course for children with mental health and they basically said everything you have. I’m more relaxed about things and just don’t sweat about the small stuff , I was stressing so much about it in my own head what to do. I appreciate you taking the time to comment. 💖

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It seems bad to say that about a kid but I get what you mean by wondering if there is even anything good in them because the behavior is so repetitive. He’s still young so try and give it time and that he could maybe grow out of it a little. Some people don’t. My ex husband is on the spectrum and he’s a wack job & gets fired from every job and kicked out of every place etc. He just can’t help it cuz there is something ’wrong’ with his brain. Some people’s disabilities aren’t really disabilities to them but to ppl like my ex, it ruins them. He’s always been a self destructive ignorant person from when he was young by the sounds of it from his family. Now he’s 28 & Ik you can’t fix autism and some people it just completely controls their mind and makes them a victim to it & then they make those around them victims to it also. I wish you the best during the duration of your relationship because it will be tough.

Kendra A thanks for your words of encouragement!

I understand every word you just wrote down It's a living hell How old is he ,

Little Soul He’s 11 now

@@dr32803 God bless you and your girl friend

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Thanks for your thoughts - we also have our film with the lovely Dr Bettina Hohnen that you might be interested in: bit.ly/ADHD_ODD you can always get in touch if you have any questions for her and she may be able to answer questions you may have.

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Thanks for getting in touch - whilst we know its a challenging watch it's been made very much to support other families who may be going through similar journeys to Celina and her daughter, but thanks for your empathy.

Hi, sorry if this is too personal, but where did you get the Asperger’s diagnosis? This doesn’t exist anymore so I would be curious to know where/who is still diagnosing it.

@@jezeldjones yea, it's complicated, I did the autism protocol to figure it out but it was mentioned just to differentiate from other kinds of autisms, because mild autism still doesn't describe it as well as expected. I'm not sure about the reason it was reclassified. Just to remember that autism was described as a psychosis until 1993, so these namings are very subjective, specially to things that cannot be physically analyzed.

@@jezeldjones and I tried to use the word autism to describe it and people kind of think I'm lying, so I just tell Asperger's, cuz it's easier

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Thanks so much for getting in touch - Lots of parents feel the same - do you have any community groups that can help support you? We have these resources - perhaps these groups can help support you? Family Lives Website: www.familylives.org.uk Helpline: 0808 800 2222 of Clinical Partners Website: www.clinical-partners.co.uk Other parents-focussed groups that might also be helpful are: facebook.com/groups/131750573612699/ or facebook.com/OppositionalDefiantDisorderSupport/ We have a newsletter that goes out with news and tips for parents if that feels helpful? (www.nipinthebud.org/sign-up-for-our-newsletter/ ) Also keep an eye on our new films coming out as there is a really helpful series coming out that is to support parents on this often stressful journey. Equally if you'd like to tell your story please get in touch with us & in the meantime please take care of yourself & we hope you get the support you need - from the Nip in the Bud team

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The best parents in the world ain’t got shit on a kid w/ ODD. The kid is obviously this way regardless of parenting.

@@josephmontague1953 nope. Every single child that I've seen with ODD has parents that are codependents and can't set boundaries. It's a learned behavior.

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