Proof a Narcissist Doesn't Have Any Friends at all 

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They attach with anyone only when it benefits them

A narcissist uses everyone in his or her life

Basically, the narcissist has no friends also because everyone is sick and tired of his/her CRAP!!!!

Narcissists will throw ANYONE under the bus.

Basically a person is a friend to a narcissist only till he remains a 'yes person 'to him

My narcissist had a lot of “friends.” But they were all fake friends and he usually tried to buy their time.

They will never understand that arrogant is the exact opposite of interesting. Nobody wants to be around them, which is why they always need a captive victim.

They use everything and everyone to please themselves, that's why they are empty. Friendship requires honesty and closeness... sacrifice, they don't know these terms.

One thing I noticed about narcs. They have no use for anybody that doesn't kiss their butts, spoil them or make their lives as comfortable as possible. Kids are useful tools to prop themselves up. When they lose someone they consider close, they are not really grieving the person, they are grieving the loss of supply.

no matter how many fake friends they have. In the end they will die lonely and alone

About the competition part. It really sucked to realize that my own covert narc husband was truly in competition with me. There is no love there. What man is in competition with his own wife? You are not a wife in the eyes of a man such as this. Doormat and slave is more like it because he used and abused me.

My narc husband has no friends and has made sure I don't have any either. He's worked with the same group of guys since the late 1970s. All of them are retired and go out to lunch once a month to keep in touch. They asked him once and have never asked him again. This was 3 yrs ago. They don't call or text. The only "friend" he has that he talks to on occasion is not right in the head. Texting him the same thing over and over just hours apart and only talks to him when he needs a ride. I've asked him time and time again if he's heard from them and he says no. It finally dawned on me why. They don't want to deal with someone who constantly argues, and thinks he's always right about everything!!

Extreme selfishness is the point.

Everyone is an object to them. I find it funny that they surround themselves around people that hate them just because they cant be alone.

They don’t trust because they’re not honest with themselves or anyone else. Trust is the foundation of any relationship, but in my opinion there’s levels to trust.

You are absolutely correct! The narcs I know have NO friends.

That's my ex. He was a hermit before I was with him. He was always only looking out for himself while we were married. I was wondering why he wasn't put out - or to say, 'offed' by anyone to be able to get his way to me. He's very selfish and he was so into manipulation, gas lighting, blame shifting, silent treatments days upon end, tantrums, condescing towards me and he couldn't face discussions about our relationships lack of growth and my concerns or feelings were never a priority and nothing was ever resolved. He is a total coward. What a loser he is. All about himself so I told him he can go back to his hermit way of life because he just used me and abused me without any remorse for his actions he deliberately did against me. He can have him all to himself.

My narc has acquaintances but no real friends. When they get older it gets worse. People realize what they are and run.

As a victim of a narcissistic family and then husband I also have no friends because I realize I only knew how to be in toxic relationships.

You are absolutely right my narcissist doesn’t have any true friends just one creepy one same as him and he is his bedroom partner too

My narcissist has basically burned 95% of all her friendships. Unfortunately she has no self awareness on why this keeps happening 🤦🏻‍♀️

Oh no, I agree, Narc has told me herself that she doesn't see her friends as friends, she said that those are people that "amuse her". Thankfuly narc is not one of my parents but she is a close relative. Growing up hearing her say 'I love you' to so many people then turn around and brutally critizise them while talking to others, that really messed up my perception of friendship.

No friends of any depth, that’s for sure; only superficial relationships.

You are so right about the fact they are not trustworthy themselves, however I have noticed how good they are at getting others to do " their dirty work" for them. They never get their hands dirty. It can be so tragic when they actually destroy lives for their own selfish gains. No one can call them out because they will plot to play the victim and get others to feel sorry for them. They prey on your kindness and good nature but are quick to point out if you are strict or firm with them. They are like spoiled rotten evil children . . 😢😢😢 Stay strong everyone, and be AWARE. Thank you again, Danish for your brilliant insights. ❤

brother man, i gotta tell you. you doing God’s work out here. God bless you my man

This is a perfect example of "Divide and Conquer" strategy, where the narcissist makes their "friends" all believe that they're the only one who has a problem with the narcissist, so that they must be in the wrong.

It's really tragic how some innocent people get trapped as cult members of the narcissist. Actually these cult members are also thoroughly used and abused by the narcissist. Feel very sorry for the enablers. Narcissists also know how to charm and hypnotize their cult members.

I’ve literally never been able to keep my friends because of my narc family, after every hang out or anything that had to do with my new friend they would pick them apart and (before I knew that they were narcs and they were still able to confuse me) they would say the worst things about them completely gaslighting the positive interaction I literally just had with them..and now in my healing journey I have no friends and I’m staring over 🤷🏽‍♀️

💯 - all they do is burn bridges

MY toxic sister has loads of friends. They think she's terrific. But shes not on speaking terms with most relatives and has nothing good to say about them.

I had close friends until I was about 26, then I decided to cut them off. It's hard to have friends when we don't feel on the same level and we don't want to drag them down. I had to focus on my own growth and self-respect. I haven't had friends for almost a decade. It is what it is. We can't hurt others and we can't let others hurt us.

They stroke each other's ego.

I had friends when I met my narcissistic spouse, but I lost them all. He made such a scene every time I tried to spend time with them, I just stopped seeing them. 😢

The narcissist destroys your friendship with others... My narc sister befriended my friends and turned them against me. Praise God something she said was enlightenment for my friends and they ran as fast as they could. Celebrated 50 years of our friendship this year 🎉🎊🥳

Perfect I have zero friends and I am still healing from extreme narc abuse from spouse and his family and friends you heard even their enablers abused me emotionally They r constantly surrounded by people who enabled them and treated me like movable non living thing .. just a year back I broke their abuse and went to no contact with all of them and finding peace atlast

My ex best friend is a narcissist and she made it seem like she had so many friends and would go to many parties. She also has over 4000 people on her facebook. I noticed that when she would have birthday parties for her kid, none of those "friends" would show up. The people that would show up were her family and her kid's friends. I wondered where all her so called "admirers" were.

Thanks to narcissist awareness, I have cut off everyone that’s associated with the narc because they can’t or won’t see pass their relationship with him. I found out as a child the narcissist was known for offering up his toys to attract friends. The facade of always being available and giving his last anything for them but mia for wife and kids. He is the life of the party to the point of his friends rallying around him. He’s always the loudest and the “funniest” too but couldn’t take a joke from me except for in the love bombing stage🙄. Now that I’m not emotionally or physically attached to him, I can see just how fake he really is. Disgusting🤦🏾‍♀️

Narcissists hang out together but they can only be together high or drunk.

Thank you. Great video. Yes, my ex-husband had a few long term “friends”. I now see that those were “friends” were likely narcissistic like him and enablers. They have similar ways of thinking. They seem to support each other’s toxic ways. It makes sense that he spent time with them, because I’m sure they validated him.

I just dont get along with people period, i just stay away period, i but i can smell a narcisist a mile away, they start talking about themselves and how they are better than you, i just say ok and move on.

It reminds me of a narc girl (she can't be called a woman, from the top of her 35 years old) I unfortunately knew. Everytime she showed up, she became "the spotlight girl" (it was easy because she was quite attractive). That's when "the party was on": she started drinking, drinking, drinking... And her "friends" not only did nothing to stop her but also was filling up her cup with "only heaven knows what". It always ended the same way: she couldn't even walk a straight line, ended up knocked out on the sidewalk, her face and clothes were a mess, and there it goes... Where were her "friends" at that time? Nowhere to be found! Edit: OK, I hadn't made myself so clear, let me add one point or two. She barely spent her own money, most of the time she was almost begging for someone to pay her a drink, so she could "do her performance".

You are absolutely right my narcissist mother had no real friends. She found enablers. Nurses doctors and empathetic people. When she wore through their patience she went on to someone else. My narcissist ex-husband did not have a single friend. I encouraged him to get some acquaintances and discovered no one wanted to listen to him talk and talk and talk about himself. He is in his 70s now back in his country and is hanging out with his family that's it.. even when I would ask for conversation it would be all about him not what we could do for the summer or the weekend with the kids .

People can smell the narcissist’s stink

My mom now has so-called friends that occasionally call to see how she is doing. These people came around more frequently when my father was alive. But not real interaction like others have. People respected my dad & he was a kind, likable man. My mom was the reason he couldn't have close bonds with others. She demanded all his attention. Just a couple of people enquire about her rarely. I think this out of respect for my dad. When people were starting friendly relationships with my parents, they eventually dwindled off if they started seeing red flags from my mom. The ones that stuck it out were the ones who felt sorry for my good-natured dad.

It's exhausting wearing a mask of a normal human being for long periods of time.

Thanks for what you do. I Really am FREE AT LAST!!!

Exactly like in your case , Danish ❤, my ex covert narc hubbie ‘ treated his friends so nice and me so bad ! Thanks again , bless you ! ❤

It's codependency. Mine claims he is an actor/ model so perfect for his warped psyche. Be careful bc you can become ill from sheer exhaustion from trying to figure out what went wrong. They are the problem! I told this narc he has no friends and people talk and laugh at him behind his back, he will leave a job when they stop worshipping him. I should have known what he was when he would send me a selfie every day in the beginning. I thought it was strange but overlooked it. That was the biggest RED FLAG! Be well!❤✨

I’m certain the handful of “friends” my ex had, remained in his good graces because he had dirt on them. They knew the wrath he inflected on others so they made the decision to tolerate him. I always sensed a guarded demeanor when they interacted with him.

this is true, my ex narc has a lot of so call friends and family who worship her and she always making new friends and she would come to me and talk so negative about them behind there back. i had to constantly here about it

This is a cool story about my narcissistic ex. When we were married, he had a group of high school friends who would want to spend time with him on occasion. He would call them lame behind their backs and come up with excuses to avoid them. Once we divorced, guess who he ran to? Straight to them to get them on his side. He hung out with them until he got a new girlfriend, then immediately discarded them again.

@Danish, you are so right. My Ex Narc partner did not have any REAL friends. Yes he had acquintances who were mostly people he could benefit from. They were usually more successful and he was always secretly jealous of them. Even the ones he said were like his brothers, he did not reveal his true self to them.

This is so untrue. They come in and divide and conquer your family and friends. They have many partners/lovers. However, these people will be friends to the narcissist, the narcissist just isn't a friend to them. Despite what we say their followers are real and will do anything to remain in their cult.

I definitely believe you -- the narcissist I know told me he has no friends, then he said "you are my [only] friend." I knew, as did he, that we were not friends at all. We didn't "hang out," have casual conversations or any interaction outside of work. He treated me as a lower class form of life, and his family did likewise. They lived in their own tiny little world, as if it were a kingdom. You have also perfectly described the sycophant hive of supporters who swarm around the narcissist. None of his swarm of supporters "hangs out" with him either. To the narcissist, these people are also lower forms of life. And, yes, every one of the people who hang around him are on his payroll -- he is giving them money to be around him. You are right, the narcissist has ZERO friends. It is not even the slightest exaggeration.

Yep. Couldn't handle the interaction between me and my friends. Thanks man, I owe you a favor. Ah dude, don't worry about it. The whole family was transactional, evidenced by how long it took them to move out when I'd finally had enough and said I wasn't helping.

A Narcissist who I knew well, abused his parental family and had no real friends either. That is such a high level, of insanity, when you think about survival. His Mother passed away, so the fight was on, about inheritance. That must have been a 'bloody' knock-down fight. For sure, there is no return for him, to see Siblings, but his Mother appointed her super wealthy best friend, to take care of her Son, after her passing. He is in many ways helpless, but is so aggravating, that he is intolerable. He also, can be manipulated., if you know him. That's pitiful.

That last minute of your video says it all. My narc judges me by how HE thinks about things and reasons that I think the same way. He has no real friends. We have been married half a century and we are not friends at all. Danish, I'm within months of leaving if all goes well. Oh, I cannot wait to feel some peace even though after all this time he has spent everything and on my own I will have not much of anything to show for that many years. I do have my children and they are the only good thing that has come from my time with him.

I also wanted to share that I learned an invaluable lesson with the malignant narcissist whom I finally found the strength to leave. When I met him he told me he had a thousand friends in the small community in which we live. It seemed to be true because everywhere we went people would come up and say, "We love this guy!" "J is amazing." "He is such a great guy." His ex even described him as "a sweet guy." In time I started to realize that they were all sycophants.........and so was he.......kind of an unspoken agreement to the effect that "I'll make you look good if you made me look good." I also later discovered that this guy was of the petty criminal persuasion and I expect that many of them were also playing a crooked game, and terrified of going against him. Nothing authentiic about any of these people nor any of their relationships, that's for sure.

That explains why we didn't have mutual friends and why there were so many flying monkeys /enablers. Yeah they are always transactional with everyone.

What about families of narcissists. How to escape that? They stick together but there’s no love.

They are fake friends

HA! My ex Narc got out of town when all her friends shunned her. Good move!

Wow everything you say is so on point. It's what I wanted to hear all long. Brilliant information .Thank you so much.

I still remember , my ex narc friend always said that she has soo many friends. Always lull that to me, like desperately asking for Validation. I got that now. You have so many friends that only for party and happy happy. But the TRUE FRIEND, you have zero.

i've seen my narc demon father literally creep away random ppl. the way he approaches ppl and talks them dead, literally dead, irritates other ppl just like it irritated me. just that he cudnt beat up other ppl and scare them to make them sit and listen to him endlessly. being immigrants my mother and "father" do have their friends circle that sticks together like all immigrants do. but it works only as long my mother is there. she does have real friendships in that circle but my "father" is laughed at and ridiculed. i've also seen him frantically and forcefully try to befriend other ppl, just to show that he has friends. also, i have, and so many times, seen him make phone calls in front of me, and tried to be buddy like with random ppl. as if i didnt have the ordeal to know him from childhood and exactly know that nobody talks to him because he cant talk. he really cant have any real conversation with anyone. its always a staging. and its really pure violence. i cant remember him ever asking anything. he can only dish out. asking questions and taking in information from other ppl is something he just doesnt know how to do. and its pure energy drain if a person just wants something and never gives. the demon never asks anybody how they are and what they are up to. the demon literally prepares topics to force on other ppls face. if narcissists arent violent and openly devilish, they play a role. and if they have really low IQ like my demon father does, its just more painful to watch.

Narcissists don’t let anyone become too close to them because they know they’ll be found out for the dull, nasty, boring creatures that they really are.

They burn many bridges in life from a young age

You are so very insightful. Thank you for this video. I have not a narcissistic parent, but a partner. I need to listen again. You are the best Danish.

I completely agree with this. It should have been a red flag that I should have seen. I know better now

Such a fantastic perspective Danish. My first husband put no effort into keeping relationships from the past alive, or investing in new relationships. And, I could never get anywhere near him emotionally. Ironically, he shared a story with me early on in our relationship that I look back on now and recognize as a RED FLAG. He told me that he once rescued a man who was in an avalanche. He expressed anger that he was never given a reward. At our wedding, his best man told his story about how great my husband-to-be was, using this one story as an example of his heroism........the fact that he carried that anger for not being compensated with him took all that heroism away.

I am divorcing the narc in my life after 20 years. He discarded all of his friends and completely changed his behavior after finding another woman DURING OUR DIVORCE. He is completely focused on her and getting her hooked in.

Another good episode. Thank you Darnish

Thank you Danish,I needed to hear this today. 🙏

Thank you so much for your videos, Danish.

Wow, very interesting & insightful into 'their mind & thought life'' ... well explained I did not know they were that paranoid ! ... I truly Appreciated your Video, Thank-you for sharing !! : )

Oh i rly needed this 😊 ty AGAIN, Danish 💙❣️

was with my narc off, and on for 8yrs. she never once mentioned childhood friends. reason being, she didnt have any.

Hey Danish, I just started the video seconds ago and want to say: I AGREE with you, can't wait to watch the rest..

I agree. He doesn't have friends. There's a reason why they don't have too many friends. It's because of their rotten attitude. They're afraid someone will find out their ugliness within.

1000 %true.i completely agree . Narcissistic has no real friend .All are enabler and use the narcissist for feeding ego and take advantage of him by validating his wrong deeds which narcissist not able to see .my narcissistic partner has one true childhood friend but due extreme ego my partner cutoff all the relationship with him as he is the only one who speaks truth on face and has guts to slap him on his face .All others whom he drink,do party and spend time all are just enabler not at all trustable.

Thank you it helped me.I was like why cudn't he fake upfront with me? COULD YOU MAKE A VIDEO ON MALIGNANT NARCISSIST,IF YOU GET TIME OR FEEL INTEReSTED?

Thank you so much that all makes so much sense kindly appreciated appreciated

Amazing amazing content 🔥 hit it on the nail with this one !

The smallest package in the world, is a person all wrapped up inside themselves.

When I met my narc he didn’t have any friends. HUGE red flag that I should have seen. Then, 7 years later he had a work friend but all he does is play games like “I called him last, it’s his turn to call”. It’s weird. No wonder people don’t call, they learned what he is.

This reminds me of the girl who bullied me as a kid, and who is still obsessed with me now. She thought she was popular, as all the kids in her neighbourhood would always be in the same classroom as her, and they would harass me at her behest. I never understood what they saw in her. I got tired of her when she was harassing me on her own, they weren’t around, and I told her she had no friends. They were just pretending. I recall how that made her mad, and how two years later, that declaration came true as her pretend friends all went to different junior high. She is still obsessed with me as an adult, and still acts like a mean ten year old girl. I’m not mad, I just feel pity for this woman as I’ve heard of mean girls peaking in high school, but she peaked in elementary.

Great video. Thank you

Wonderful video and on point from my experience with exNARC-GF. Truth To Power! 🙏🏻

Danish you are so on point here👍. my Narcissist elder sister doesnt have any genuine friendship with anybody, she doesnt visit or be visited by anyone.

We were very involved in our big church. Church was a major source of supply for him. He taught classes, he played the guitar, he was witty and charming. All of our relationships were surfacy. They admired my husband because he was so "spiritual". If we ever had anyone over for dinner, it was to network within the church. NO ONE knew the real us. NO ONE knew what was going on in our home. We didn't hang out with anyone "just for fun". The best man and ushers at our wedding were people he chose to "get points" with. He had no "buddies" to pick from.

Its true, they don't have any friends at all.

Brilliant analysis thank you for being the Carl Jung for narcissist survivors

Their friends show a lot of their traits... they all talk behind each others yet party together. Whaaaaaat ? And of course they will tell you that you are the ''fake'' one by not wanting anything to do with all of them.

😂😂😂my ex (the narc) WAS actually a member of a cult. Lol lol lol! I couldn't have made a better choice😂😂😂

I am in a somewhat interesting situation. My narc mother was nasty to me and ruined most of my adult friendships. So I fled the country and settled abroad. Then my narc husband started the same. Abusive relationship and drove away all our friends with his atrocious behaviour. He thinks he has friends, one or two cunning foxes who are after him for money or to use our house as a hotel! In the end, I was totally isolated. Just when the enablers and flying monkeys thought they had won, guess what I did? Fled back to India for long holidays leaving the narcs to choke on their own hatred and eaten up with envy as they think I am having a better time than them! 😅

Very insightful.. Thanks🙏🙏🙏 and blessing from India🇮🇳

I have learned that all people tend to see people as a mirror of themselves until shown otherwise. The narcissist won't care.

They don't have friends they have cult members.

First to comment! Thank you for your content Danish! 🙏🏼