@Sam Du kommst aus Deutschland? Ich hatte vor drei Monaten meine Mastek und brauche meine Binder nicht mehr. (langer GC2B Größe XL; langer Underworks Größe L) Bei Interesse kannst du mir auf Wattpad eine Direktnachricht schreiben; Username ist Princeofpunk.
it'sMe TheHerpes hey weren’t you in the hate comments in the last video? Interesting that you still watch these videos just to comment on them when you seem to hate trans people so much-
In Dutch public transport they say "dear travelers" now instead of "ladies and gentlemen". Also, stations are now "peopled" instead of "manned". And they took the gender markers off of the travel cards.
Gender neutrality's a bloody nightmare to do in Spanish. >.< The closest you can get without literally rewriting the grammar of the language is phrases like "Esteemed clients" (Estimados clientes) and similar, but even that is technically gendered masculine.
@@TwoWholeWorms and even "estimados" has a masculine ending!! I study Spanish and used to study French and always wondered how languages with gender built into the grammar would deal with gender neutrality. I was in Spain 3 months and it was never mentioned and I was too chicken to bring it up myself 😅
Benjamin Nolan I know right? It’s the same in French and unironically a reason I want to move to an English speaking country, it’s so hard speaking French/Italian/Spanish etc. when you want to be general/neutral/inclusive
You certainly had me in the beginning with that one.. From the preamble and the way he was reading it I was so worried that things were about to turn violent and then suddenly onions, onions everywhere Truly an adorable outcome
I’m so, so happy that your dad was so accepting and you actually got a positive reaction, after your mum and sister. Here’s to your dad and his pork pie and candle. What an amazing dad you have there. X
I FEEL THAT SO MUCH. I'm semi-post-t (as in, I go on and off) but like, I've been pre-t and I know the feel SO MUCH You are a brave cookie and DON'T LET ANYONE TELL YOU OTHERWISE
My favorite neutral alternative to sir or madam is "Mademonsieur". My friend found that somewhere on the internet and takes great pride in using that and thude as often as possible.
hey guys. i got my first binder today and i wanted to share it. i feel the best i ever had in 6+ years and i guess this is a message to say thank you to jamie, for playing a part in the discovery of who i am, and for showing me what i can achieve. and also a message for others to say that you have to keep going, you will one day be able to be almost entirely free from dysphoria, and every day its just about taking little steps. love you all
Went to an IHOP with my grandparents and as we were being led to our table, the waitress looked at me and asked "Kids menu?" I laughed and said no. Then she says "Ah, you look right on the edge (of 12)" I looked at her and said "That's weird since I'm 19." She made someone else take our table, she was so beet red with embarrassment.
Last summer went to a mini golf place with my family, including my younger brother. At this place kids could play for free. The woman made direct eye contact with me and said “are you under 12?” I’m 21. She didn’t ask my younger brother, just me. She tried to defend herself when I told her my age. It was really awkward.
One time I was with my mom at an open house and the realtor asked what grade I was in and I was like “I’m in college” and he was like “you look like you’re 12, bless you”
Not inclusive to non-binary umbrella folks (including but not limited to non-binary, genderqueer, genderfluid) who go by Mx or They. Btw 'Mx' could be one 🤔 ✌🏻😁
Had a few conversations about gender-neutral honourifics (instead of sir/madam) on Twitter recently, and the general consensus (we're so British, lol) is to fall back on politeness. Instead of saying "thank you, sir" just say "thank you". It's not any LESS polite to not use an honourific when talking to someone... I'm cis and I'm not offended if someone doesn't call me "ma'am" or "miss".
This would be so awesome. But where I live (Deep American south) it is SO ingrained in everybody's head that leaving the sir or madam off is super rude. I'm a substitute teacher, and idk if the kids mean it rude, or it slips, or if they get vibes from me, but sometimes I get called sir (afab and not currently actively trying to pass) and they're like "oh I'm so sorry" {the kind of polite ones, anyway, sometimes I can catch them before they say sorry} and I'll be like "Hey, don't worry about it. I'll answer to either one" bc it HAS to be said, otherwise other teachers/parents/et cetera will say "Yes what ?" And the kid will say "yes ma'am" of "yes sir"
@@ambycat1105 I hadn't considered how different cultures have different expectations of honourifics.... I've got friends who live in Georgia who I've visited a few times so I probably should have thought about it more! You're right though, and sorry for not being more open-minded.
"Your majesty!" The only way I will allow common binaries to address me. *honestly I wish there were a way to adress me formally (in german there isnt)
ich glaube man könnte "sier" als genderneutrales pronomen benutzen, aber idk, nurn bruchteil der bevölkerung kennt das wort und idk wie man "seine/ihre" mit sier benutzen würde :/
@@crssnvrs Genau das is das ding. xier war ja auch so schwer mit der grammatik. Ich selber will mir die neuen pronomen so ungern anlernen auch wenns eigentlich gut wär für mich und wenn ich schon zu faul bin dafür will ich das echt nicht von anderen verlangen XD. Ich find das voll cool , dass ich unter einem von jamies videos mit leuten auf deutsch schreib. Das gibt mir voll das gefühl, dass wir mehr sind als erwartet - weil ichs nicht erwartet hab :>
@@danieln.schabauer1963 ich habs auch nicht erwartet lmao, aber ich finds cool! keinen plan welche pronomen man sonst benutzen könnte, ich hab nen genderfluid kumpel und er benutzt einfach männliche pronomen (is weiblich geboren, fühlt sich meines wissens etwas öfter weiblich als männlich), idk ob du dich mit sowas wohl fühlen würdest :/
When I came out as NB to my parents, they told me "The only thing that matters to us is that you are safe, happy, and healthy." I kind of should have expected that cuz they would take me and my sisters to pride when we were little. It did take them a little bit hard for them to remember to use my new name and pronouns but they really did try.
This was the same for me. I’m gender-fluid so I guess kind of a different situation, but using they is the easiest since we don’t know what gender I’ll be at certain points and it’s difficult to just switch. So they use they, and my name was changed too so that took some getting used to, but it’s pretty solid now!
Let me tell you how my partner found out about her latex allergy. She had a severe reaction at the dentists so the dentist changed everything they used (gloves, pastes, etc) just in case. That didn’t tell her exactly what she was allergic to but she never had another reaction at dentist. Following this, her next reaction was at a doctors. Unfortunately for her it was the Gynecologist. The reaction was severe and localized if you get my drift. She reported back to the dentist that it was definitely the latex gloves and had the allergy entered into her medical charts immediately. A few years later she had her hair done and hadn’t even considered the gloves worn by the colorist would be latex. Welp, a few hours later she had a beautiful head of hair and fish lips.
I found out I have fake-Latex sensitivity (which isn’t quite as weird as it sounds and it isn’t really a common material because this is a common issue from what I’ve heard) when I was in middle school and my Orthodontist had swapped over to the fake-Latex gloves and I basically broke out in hives on the inside of my mouth, but with braces they were scratched open all day and by the time I got home (since my appt was during lunch) I was bleeding from my mouth. Dad worries, but realizes what is causing the blood and gives me a Zyrtec and then calls my Ortho and just rails into the guy. Now I have to know which brands of “Not Latex” gloves can and can’t be used with me. I don’t see them very often- bc apparently this was kinda common- but they do show up every once and awhile.
Oof, I'm lucky in that I only get like irritated skin/itchy with no like bumps, and general discomfort. (I have a few mild skin allergies though tbf. Nickel earrings make my ears swell (common) and my skin green if via rings, and suuper itchy, and I can't put like face paints on unless they're specifically hypoallergenic. Not to mention those annoying bandaid shapes. Bandaids are so itchy, after like a good few minutes istg, I'm pretty sure that's not an allergy, but just grr. My cuticles basically peel and stuff all the time, and I'm generally prone to hand wounds (light ones, but worthy of bandaids.) along with acne issues. So I have to have bandaids almost constantly on hand just in case or I have a chance of bleeding everywhere lol. (More so from the acne, it bleeds heavier than I'd wish but for a short time, while other wounds usually just make it impossible to do anything without being in pain as I use my hands a lot, instruments, painting, drawing, etc.) Aka, my skin is picky and bratty. (Seriously though, I have dry skin issues where, when I was my hands, if I touch anything dry, it'll make me want to cry. I can't fold dry laundry, even if I haven't washed my hands or anything, without actually crying, because it hurts. It's not like sharp pain, it's almost like a mix of tickling soft discomfort or the sensation when you tense up your muscles and they tremble? It's achy soft sandpapery pain and I can't even touch myself or my clothes or anything at all, even lotion upon contact, without having that sensation. Lotion helps, but I have sensory issues and it's slimy and gross. Only few have been tolerable.) Also, bananas contain the same allergens as latex, from what I read, so that's why it's more likely that you'll be allergic to the other if you are allergic to one. Same with (using list I'm reading from) kiwi, avocado, chestnut, and passion fruit. (Not that you'll HAVE to have them, but you're at a higher risk of it.)
I got one 😂 My grandma and grandpa and I went to I hop at like 9 pm for dinner. I had to pee and I was wearing a button up shirt and bow tie (I’m ftm) there was nobody in the restaurant at the time so I went into the men’s (first time doing that). My grandma followed me in there and I had to tell her to get out. That’s nit even the worse part. Like 2 minutes after I came out and sat back down, an entire basketball team came into the restaurant (like 20 guys) and almost all of them went into the bathroom RIGHT after I left 😂 Edit: that same night the waitress called me sir and I smiled cause she called me sir and she “corrected” herself cause I smile/laughed 😂 but my grandpa jumped in a said no you were right the first time.
Just don’t say anything like ‘sir or madam’. Simply say ‘have a nice day now’. Any time I get folx stumbling over that with me, I tell them to cut it out of their vernacular. It’s easier for everyone. My friend now says ‘good evening. Please take your seats as tonight’s performance will commence’ at the theatre she works in after asking my advice.
This. I live in a country where we hardly ever use honorifics or anything like that (hell, we don't even have gendered pronouns) and I always wonder whether I come across as rude to foreigners when I just address everyone like "yo, wassup" even if they were the damn President. But I don't care because honestly the world would be better if everyone did that everywhere.
Okay but I've been going by Rayne for like 5-6 years now and I still deadname myseld It doesn't help that... I'm not out or asked my family to call me that instead but still, you'd think my internal monologue can get my name right but fjsjf
I feel that! I dead name myself like when I answer the phone and such I've been in the closet for so long I forget other people know now and I can just use my new name instead
In case anyone's wondering why autistic people look younger, it's likely because we have weird collagen. There's an incredibly high prevalence of Ehlers-Danlos (a connective tissue disorder) and milder connective tissue abnormalities in autism.
@@SpecialBlanket I didn't know that about E.D. huh. Would hypermobility fall under the weird collagen thing do you think? (I'll do my own research ofc but it seems like you know a bit about it is all :)
I'm also allergic to latex and I found out from stickers and Band-Aids. Most adhesive is latex based. It's not only gloves and condoms that are made with latex XD
I found this out after being out for a year but finding a short hairstyle that fits your head shape can really help you pass. I really hope i could help you in some way :)
I kinda like the pale green color. I'd like to know if that green is his natural color eyes or contact lenses. He's got a pair of red contact lenses. Now THAT is terrifying.
I lost it at the "shit in the urinal" comments because I actually did that my first time in a boy's bathroom at...uh...seven or eight cause I had NO idea. I didn't tell ANYONE and was always afraid to go back in one (even while questioning my gender identity) once I realized you weren't supposed to do that, hence part of why I didn't come out as trans til I was 18. I was mortified when I found out what I'd done wasn't the right way to go about it. I found out cause one of the teachers came into our classroom and asked "who took a poo in the urinal?" It was attached to our classroom and one other. No one spoke up, obviously. I'm just so glad I wasn't seen doing it! D:
This just reminded me of something that just happened recently. I work at an amazon warehouse and to get in and out of the doors, you get this work badge with a barcode for scanning. If you forget your badge though, you can get a temporary one using your actual state id. Now I don’t look that much different from my id photo, like I’ve dyed my hair and got a piercing and started growing facial hair (I’m bout 9 months on t), but I still have the same face, so I didn’t think much of anything as I gave the security card my id, until he went to hand it back. When he gave me my temp badge, he looked kinda confused and a little hesitant to give it to me. I was annoyed at first and then it hit me *My fucking ID still says f on it* somebody bury me
I always feel a bit weird being such a fan because I’m a straight cis female and your fan base seems to be mostly LGBTQ+ but I legit just love your personality and content and I’ve learned a lot from watching you💕
I'm to teach my friends to say "thank you, Soldier.' or 'Have a nice day, Traveller' I'm dutch so we don't really use pronouns after a greeting or something, but instead of ladies and gentlemen, madam, sir, I think using gender-neutral titles are mysterious and cool to use. Especially if they are visibly not carrying that title.
@@namelesswolf2625 I use it for literally all situations, makes me sound like I know something they don't. For added mystery, use 'wanderer' or 'comrad' or 'my lord' or some other weird career position. XP
Jamie, you have been a major role model for me throughout the last couple years as I discovered myself, and now I've been fully out as trans since October of 2018, and I'm starting on testosterone on Friday! Thank you for helping me find the confidence to be myself!
Ok I have been watching your videos for so long and you helped inspire me to come out as FTM, I’ve been on T for about 7 months now and just got top surgery 2 days ago. Now I’m the happiest I’ve been my entire life. I just wanna say to you and all the other trans youtubers that you’ve been so helpful in my journey, thank you.
Lol my friend sent over my story. Made me laugh and I loved your reaction. Mine was the first story, which is when the packer fell out into the ocean and the dog bit it. Still laughing on about it. Hillarious.
My eyes like how roly looks. I think it's the fact that his eyes are my favorite color and it's not every day I see that on a human. Just stunning! Love it.
They're definitely contacts, so I'm praising his style choice, not his uncontrollable appearance. :) I really enjoyed his personality as well. Gotta go sub to his channel now.
You two are so fun together! :) And yeah, being in my 30s and sounding like an adult but not knowing how old I look and whether I pass or not... It's certainly interesting. Always looked way younger than I am and never liked it. I was always condescendingly told "one day you'll learn to appreciate it lol". Just as I was starting to look my age... I started my FTM transition x'D
I needed this light-hearted video. 💕 Since this is RU-vid, based on the title I expected it to be gatekeeping a la Blaire White. Like deciding person xyz isn't trans cause they don't pass as well as you. I was pleasantly surprised and so relieved by the actual content. You two are gorgeous and very funny. Thank you!
Jamieeeeeeee please make a video with stories where trans people were seen as their own sibling. a lot of people I knew when I lived as a girl ask me if she (me) is my sister now.
Oh gosh, I love these stories, it’s good to know almost everyone else is also as awkward as you sometimes lol The name-birthday pork thing was so wholesome thooo
The story about the pork pie made me tear up; it was just so sweet. I love both of your channels, and the crossover videos are such a joy, as are Roly's happy socks. 💕🌈💕
I’ve got a couple that happened in the same week. For reference, I’m a really short AFAB and even when I’m assumed female I look younger than I am. I was buying milk at a gas station and the person working at the counter asked me how old I was and sounded really concerned, even though I was literally just buying milk. So you could say I got carded while buying milk. Three days later, I again get asked how old I am at a movie theatre because kids tickets. Kids tickets are 12 and under. I’m 17. Apparently I just looked particularly young that week.
RandomArt Lizard you know that when you say “I hate something, but...” that you’re lying to yourself? You obviously do like correcting people, it gives you some kind of a buzz. This is a global network, and a lot of people are commenting who have English as a second language. In Germanic and Scandinavian countries a K is always used, they don’t have a hard C. It really doesn’t matter to understanding them at all. I’m a counsellor, and I enjoy correcting people who are not emotionally intelligent, and who don’t understand themselves or realise that their fake motives are clear as glass! Spreading better emotional intelligence and compassion for differences is what I do in life. Why do you think that spreading correct spellings is so important? I don’t see the value myself, but you might have been brought up to see it as a worthwhile judgement.
