I’ve never been happier to see someone posted a video. I love watching your videos, it makes me feel like I’m not the only one going thru this. Your voice is also so comforting and soothing, I enjoy listening to you talk. Typically, I’m not the type of person to listen to whole videos of people just talking, but you’ve changed that. Thank you for sharing your experience with us, despite it being very personal to you. All I see is a beautiful young woman, with a beautiful warm heart, and I’d love to be your friend. I’m sorry the world does not appreciate you the way it should, you have one of the sweetest souls, and deserve much more than what you receive. Please continue to make more videos when you can, and keep moving forward ❤️
I like your cheekbones, hair, face shape, smooth skin, voice, etc 🥰 you’ve come a long way and your journey’s just getting started. I believe in you angel-face.
The worst thing is, ''attractive" people know this, they know how they're treating you, they know how they make you feel and they ignore it, they'll act oblivious and act like its all a joke not knowing how deeply this scars people. I haven't personally had an exact experience as sick as this but that's because my struggle is different, however I HAVE been witness to this multiple of times and every time I see it you bet Im gonna call people out even at my expense. I didn't even mean to rant the lack of selfishness in people has just irked me from young so when I see someone who looks like you suffering like this because the behaviour of scum I couldnt help type something out.. To everyone, pls be strong you're the main fucking character in the story that is your life, so please be strong. -Love from London, Tomas
I’ve seen it so many times. Both men and women disrespecting authority because of the way they look and making snide comments. Very immature behavior from adults.
I like what you've told us of yourself so far. You seem like a good person. ----- I researched it and a degree in an IT field generates the best return of any 2-year degree. The positive side of that is that many IT jobs can be done remotely if social anxiety is a concern. ----- Being an ugly man, I just dealt with my life and career and became the most knowledgeable, subject-matter expert that I could be in my field and pursued additional learning opportunities (mostly online) that put me ahead of others. Ended up being the go-to guy at my company for 12-years before the layoffs caught me and the Pandemic shutdowns put me down. ----- I agree, attractive people don't get it. They were never picked last. They were never denied the good stuff. They get advanced at work quicker and more frequently. They don't get rejected for dates, the prom, and relationships anywhere near as often. They don't get convicted or penalized as often legally. They seldom have to work as hard to achieve anything as those of use who fall far to the left on the bell curve of physical attractiveness.
I would recommend a book that is unfortunately centred around the male experience but is nonetheless refreshingly honest about the lived experiences of those men with genetically predetermined physically undesirable traits. Its called: "The Blackpill theory, why incels are right and you are wrong" It is written by a doctor in social sciences, who displays qualitative and quantitative data and comments on that data to address a theory of social interaction branded "the blackpill" (which i am sure you are familiar with). The fact that is an empirically informed approach and faces up to the stigma around the theory (presumably by people who do not have lived experiences of being a physically undesirable person) makes it refreshing
11:20 oh it's because people don't want to admit their privilege because it forces them to take responsibility for other people's struggle. So to make it okay in their heads they just dismiss your suffering.
Hi, I think you have a good point young lady. Anyway, I had a similar experience being judge because of my looks and ethnicity. Some people can be mean and judgemental and I get it but I learn in a hard way.Anyway, I think you are introvert and articulate. Correct me if you are you an empath? Most Emphath are targeted with narcissist people. Yes, I agree with you, that most attractive people can get what they want specially female.Anyway, there is magnetism in beauty but physical beauty it will fade away as we age. I prefer more to have inner beauty than physical beauty because we are more than looks. We all have anxiety of some issue and how people percieve us but I learn something I can change it and I ask myself and how I percieve myself? I also struggle with anxiety and bullies but I learn something about it.Anyway, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and experience and I really appreciate.
Hey 💌 What is your MBTI personality test? Take it please and learn more about your specific type. Please care to share? Let’s get One thing straight - YOURE NOT UGLY!! I’m not crying anymore!! The one video I commented on I was bitterly crying my head hurts. Had to find an aspirin at 01:50 am, I’m in South Africa, it’s a school night for my kids and I have work 😅. Ok listen.. You could be trying to fit in? Let me rephrase baby.. you’re trying to fit in. You’re amongst a few personality types that generally find interacting with people daunting and feel pressured to impress when it’s not in your nature? You’re super intelligent which most people finds uncomfortable because your mind is intricate, works totally different, you’re a deep thinker? You end up trying to find random mundane stuff to discuss which you clearly have no interest in that it’s hard to hide that it bores the life out of you, and when you over compensate in attempt to be engaging, people are not all entirely stupid (you know they are though.. 🤫 they just lack rationality, will choose to soothe emotions over facts and truth) they can pick up on these cues? You’re pessimistic and wish to act as if life is perfect and wish to have more difficult topics explored like .. why are we here? What is life for? Are we meant to accomplish something? How do dogs think differently to us? people label you as an oddball. You’re. And it’s a beautiful thing because there are people as frustrated as you’re in hopes to find someone as intense as you’re. You love and value truth? You seek truth? Alone time recharges you somehow? You’re thwart this because society thinks it’s strange and seem depressing? Is it? If overdone it can be. You’ve only had a few friends at a time? You don’t do very well in crowds, or large supposedly friendly group when society says you should and be a life of a party? Your mind is a maze, that need simplifying, good luck trying to unjungle that with ever forming questions and still keeping up with a screening outside world that says nothing at the same time? Do you wear neons over cool earthly tones? Really? Internal monologues? Healthy and funny monologues. The bouts of knowing moments? Answers that torrents out of nowhere. You wake up and you just know, your brain can absorb and understand stuff people don’t even think about? Death stare? The ‘’you should smile more” or “why are you always so quiet?” crap. You answer “how is it so hard to ever shut up bit$$?” (God why is everyone so plain and empty?) Rank pullers disgusts you, authority don’t impress you unless they can independently think, are fundamentalists, question and reason? Otherwise they don’t have your respect and you can hands down do a better job than they can or currently doing? So you’re interpreting this whole saga as you’re being rejected, unlikable. I have to smile belief that’s just wierd because I do that when it’s warranted. People pick up on your failing efforts and avoid you completely, you interpret it as being UGLY, UNATTRACTIVE. You’re an alien here. I am too. And for years I thought ugly because of the shunning I received, I’ve always been awkward, you want to change it, you want carefreeness. Try it, force it, forget it. You’re miserable, this could be your whole life, pity and walking around with a lump on your throat, when you can just let it out and screem instead of trying to fake a smile. Study you, invest in you, know you. I could say and I’ve said study God, hunger to know Him but see He is Holy something you can never be with the 7 billion might of human life put together. Take a one read to understand you, take a glance at God. THE DIFFERENCE!! And you want to be like and look like everyone else? Who do you think is the prettiest female actor? It’s Anne Hathaway for me, she my girl crush. Her facial features are strikingly different, bold and not that of a typical white girl. She is stunning yet unique in my opinion. Despite me regarding her as beautiful, she still put on more effort in taking extra care of herself, what do you know? She wears makeup 🥵. She takes that time to make sure she looks pretty because she may not perceive herself pretty the way I do. Women wear makeup!!! They’ve worn it for centuries now and they will continue to until the end of time. Which singer has stepped out to perform without it? The Jenner and the Hadid’s sisters. Why are that always so breathtaking? I’m guessing it’s the effort they put in their everyday expensive grooming. I love makeup! Show me a woman that doesn’t. I’m no pep talker, I don’t know you, you don’t know me. You’re in the US I’m in the jungle in Africa about to go feed my lions and elephants, I’m not expecting anything from you. Wouldn’t gain anything from you, why should I lie and say you’re pretty when you’re not or anyone for that matter. But my child you’re. Let God strike me dead if there’s a part of me that wants appease your ego right now. I do not take my faith lightly. God found me and saved me when I was sinking in the deepest pits. And for that I’m eternally grateful. I learnt of Him first before I found myself. Will copy and paste this to most of you videos. Excuse any typos, haven’t slept a wink. Reach out at philakalo@gmail.com
You are beautiful I don't understand how people could put you in plain catagory. You are intelligent also. You have a lot going for you if you only knew. If you had been in my class at school I'd have put you in the pretty group. The people calling you unatttracive are jealous.
Hello. Thank you for your content. I can relate in some ways to you. I had been having panick attacks for years and could barely leave home. I am introverted, and I feel always judged and disliked. I was severely bullied a few years ago and now, I am terrified to socialize. I also have gender dysmorphia and everything and everyone that treats me stereotypical as a woman, it reminds me of how much I dislike living in this sexist society as one. I really hope you can be strong trough all this. I do not want to give unsolicited advice, but I want to share what helped me. I got a security job, work only late afternoon and nights to a science labs building and I don’t deal with almost anyone. Is the only job where is peaceful, am alone, and feel less anxious. Nobody interacts with me, and getting this type of job helped me have an income without getting petrified to go work. I wish you the best.
I think the best job for lonely individual that is shy to interactive with people is to get a delivery job like truck-driving could make couple thousand a week. I'm going to make a video and share how much money people can make per week based on my experience
Sign holder and flyer distribution too. I work as a sign holder making $16 an hour I just wave the sign and wave my hand at honking cars and pedestrians looking at me and saying hello to pedestrians looking at me. I’m introverted and lonely in my free time I don’t go out and meet new people to make friends.
If problem you have is number of problems, I have an idea, can you make a video that shows how you act when you feel comfortable + video how you act when you feel not comfortable ? Number each "not comfortable" moment, and think what you can do to solve single one step by step. It looks like little bit easier to work one by one with problems.
I have a question. I'm an artist as well so this sort of applies. If you aren't an attractive person but are talented in some way does that make people resentful towards you? Like you shouldn't have that sort of talent being someone who isn't considered attractive? I get that all the time. I have a decent fan base for my art but never post my picture. Anytime someone has met me or seen my photo they almost seem to get angry and cold towards me for no reason. Like they are pissed that someone who looks like me can have talent. Maybe its in my head but I cant seem to explain the reason for that behavior....because its so bizarre to me and happens often. I wouldn't say I'm completely ugly but probably just painfully average. Still...its almost a reaction to me not living up to what is in their head or something? Its so strange.
I'm sorry to learn you struggle, I personally think you are naturally pretty, you look FAR better than girls with botoxed faces, lips, tons of makeup. For your age you are a refreshing change, trust me! Because overdone girls are all over Instagram etc, as well as real life, you are maybe comparing to something that you feel is expected. Wonder do you also struggle because you dont see many whom are not like that, so you feel you can't relate. I want you to feel better, cus I look worse than you! And you seem to remind me a little of Jennifer Garner 👍. Remember, personality rules over all. ❤️
Hang in there buddy, keep your head high and live to your fullest. Right girl(I remember you saying you are a lesbian) will come along, even if that doesn't happen you have your cats. There are lots of things to love and enjoy in life and even if you feel unattractive ness is a barried which isnt going away, in some instances that barrier will be small enough for you to hop over,search for those and have fun .
Not to be mean not to start anything because I feel you no matter what everyone thinks about me but how do you think about this now with all this Ukrainian stuff going on? Because I can tell you that none of this really matters in the end and you're falling for the system and you're too intelligent for that.
Whay is this woman insisting on being unattractive when she is opposite of unattractive? 100% honest opinion: you look really good and I'm not saying this to make you feel better. I wish I could talk some sense into you... but it is highly likely that you wont listen to anybody... not to mention some random guy on the internet.
If you really find yourself unattractive (which is my case too) I completely understand that no matter how much ppl could genuinely compliment you on your face or physic, you'll still don't believe them But tbh I don't find you ugly, you're like a 6/10 (I hate giving rating like that but you know it's easier to give you an idea bout what I think). Sorry my English is terrible 😆, wish u a wonderful day my friend
What makes someone attractive isn’t always their look by the way you are attractive the only thing that makes someone ugly is their vibe or negative self image look at obese people they sure are ugly too most people but the reason they have a spouse relationship friends etc is there attitude I am also introverted prefer solitude you are not crazy I actually admire you for bringing a voice to the subject
Honestly the people around you just sound terrible 😂 Coming from a guy in college and around plenty of other girls I think you’re super cute and I’m not saying that just to be nice. You’re someone I’d genuinely date and you have a lot to like about yourself
