If you’re below average or unattractive you’re going to have a heck of a time dating online, which sucks because that’s how most people are meeting nowadays! Contact info: I'm on Instagram as the_crooked_lady. invitescon...
she said she is a lesbian in one of her videos, woman are much harder on looks than men are even if they prefer other women. If she was straight, she would have an insane amount of matches on dating apps because men have different standards based on evolutionary biology.
@@Yoshsterpalooza that is such a lie. women care about looks way less. have you ever seen a very attractive man dating an unattractive woman? I'm assuming not. But I see attractive women dating average/unattractive men all the time.
@@yugeno I actually see more attractive men dating less attractive women yes. They may not be so far away from looks, but it’s not uncommon for me to see a 7/10 man date a 5/10 woman in my day to day life. What you’re talking about is a 3-5/10 man dating and 8-9/10 woman. The answer to this is usually money, status, and power that those men have to compensate their lack of looks. Those things can completely make a woman overlook a man’s physical appearance. Also we know how men and women rate the opposite sex on a 1-10 scale, they’ve done studies on this already and women’s “average” is a few standard deviations higher than the males average which come back as a perfect bell curve. Men also find most women they encounter sexually attractive while women find around 20% of men sexually attractive.
Girl idk if you have some toxic friends or even family feeding u lies but you are NOT ugly in the slightest. I’m not saying this out of pity you are genuinely really pretty
I feel the same. It's always someone who is decently pretty that make these videos about being ugly. And I was searching for people that were actually ugly like myself so that I could hear from someone like me but nope. It's always someone attractive who thinks they're ugly who make videos on RU-vid
@@jackfox5738 Ditto. Online dating was terrible. I haven't been asked out in person in almost a decade and I wasn't meeting a guy interested in being more than friends despite being social, active in my parish, and living in Hell's Kitchen in Midtown Manhattan with other blue collar and middle class people like me. So I tried online dating. It was worse than being without anyone. The nastygrams are at least honest, but having to accept the slim pickings out there and put up with rude people often, being robbed twice, and being stood up are things that are going to happen. The emotional things like having to pay for his night out after he says it'll be his treat (and not even going Dutch) or being belittled in public just so you can say you had a date: those are so much worse. I'm 39 now and I know I'm an old maid and a charitable 3/10. I know where I belong and where I don't. I live down the Shore now and care for my grandparents. I'm an old maid and as much as it hurts, it's better to know the truth about oneself. This girl is still young and she's got lots of potential. I'm love to see her reaction to her own video years from now. I'm sure she'll have a husband (or a girlfriend if she's still avoiding men and has SSA as a response, which seems to be what she's saying) a great makeup routine, and a healthy social life, even if she doesn't meet him online.
I'm a woman that would be described as a tom boy. I dont like makeup or dressing up. I'm also not natrually pretty. Men really don't understand that ugly women get treated just like them. If not worse. I've never been kissed, touch or had any male intrest. I had a guy look at me and then turn away when he say me. I just wanted to ask a question. It's so lonely being a ugly female. We dont even have the option of making more money to be attractive.
Women NEVER have it worse than guys! Dont lie to yourself that way! No guy will ever call the cops on you because you are creepy. No cop would dare arrest you even if you WERE creepy! Comparing apples to oranges with that comment.
@@LonerDestroyedWoman Losers? I'm college educated, hard working guy who has traveled the world. I prefer masculine aggressive women. I don't consider myself a loser.
Back when I used Tinder, I had all genders. I rarely matched with women. Women are more picky and women who date women are an even smaller community. It's hard.
as women No. im not picky And when i love someone I don’t give fuck what they look. Some people not gonna see me beautiful but im loved anyway. Some people also might treat me in bad or good way based in my look. But I will never NEVER accept someone to control how i feel about my self. And even though. If i was beauty queen or the ugliest person alive I don’t want someone near or away from me because of my look. I find this video is dumb and superficial💀. Grow up and stop living in bubble
@@lian2454 The data shows that women are far pickier than men. Because they can be. And social media and everyone living online has enhanced shallowness exponentially.
Millions like her. They see their natural and unique features as deformations. It's the reason why many black girls wear those wigs. It's the reason why many white girls use botox. But here's the thing - nature always wins.
@@Weird-City Yup. I hated the ethnic bump on the top of my nose so much, got bullied for it and my mom felt so bad for me that she allowed me to get a nose job for my birthday. I wouldn't go back, but a lot of times I cry knowing I don't have my moms nose anymore.
@@JayCaresPLEASE wtf I’m going thru the same thing. I just had a nose job and I’ve been crying non stop for a whole month.. cuz I don’t even recognize myself in the mirror anymore. Also my front profile seems worse than before. In the past it was fine but now I made it worse. I’ve always been bullied for the same reason I had ethnic bump tbh my parents suggested to me to get a surgery years ago which it made me so insecure about it. But now I regret it. I can’t even move on in life. :( I’ve never been this sad before. I’ve ruined everything man. I’m insecure from my front and side profile rn. Cuz my side profile looks so pointy. I’ve never hated myself more. I feel really disgusted of myself for having the surgery.. I used to look prettier. Now I just wanna wake up from this shitty dream I feel like i fked up everything.
I can tell you that many women wish that they were as good looking as you are. Your appearance is truly amazing! Get help with your depression and life will be a lot better for you. Many of us deal with depression. You are not alone in your struggles. Blessed be.
Yep. I found this video by searching, "how to find love when you're ugly." It's hard for me because when I was your age, I wasn't really ugly, I was somewhat attractive, but still nowhere near the top 10%. I married a miserable guy who I stayed with for 25 years. Now we're getting divorced and I'm no longer attractive, and that's obvious by the fact that no one but catfishers will talk to me on dating apps or online, period. It sucks so bad to know I wasted my youth and what little beauty I had in my youth with a miserable man. And now it's too late for me, no one wants me now. Sigh. Life is cruel.
Thanks for sharing your story. Do you have any advice for someone who is almost 30 that is ugly? As a woman, I doubt I’ll ever find real love because of the fact I’m not attractive plus there’s a racial factor so it’s a double whammy.
@@chantalsongbird3007 I can't really give you any advice except where you lack in physical beauty, make sure you make up in inner beauty. Be confident of your inner beauty and let that light shine forth. Don't behave like you think you're unattractive, behave with confidence as though you were Tyra Banks. From what I've been told, that kind of confidence will attract people, no matter what you look like. But that's just a theory at this point. It has yet to play itself out in my life. LOL
@@jenniferwarhawk7301 Lol’ thank you! Same here, I find that to solely be a theory meant to pacify those deeply affected by this reality but it helps to know that at least there are more of us and we are hoping the best.
@A Great Man Named Lieu You go live with an abuser for 25 years and then come back and say such ignorant things about something that you obviously have no mental acumen at this point to discern. Maybe you should keep your mouth shut and go back to your little hole of ignorant and arrogant self-righteousness where only your favorite person exists...yourself.
It's true. The lips, the cheek bones, the eye brows. What she means is, 'i am too ugly to land what I really want, which is a perfect ten that checks every box' That would be much more honest and also relatable
I watched the whole thing while doing my homework, Your gentle voice and you sharing your experiences was a cool 17 min. Man ! I should get to know people more.
This hit the nail on the head on so many things. I feel like we don’t talk enough about how getting asked out or complemented as a joke in middle school and high school really crushes your soul. Kids used to do that all the time, they would push their friends towards me, saying like “Hey he likes you” and then they would run off laughing with each other, and it just absolutely destroyed me. Now I feel like anyone who does compliment me or does want to try to date me is not genuine. I feel like if anyone ever does ask me out they’re scraping the bottom of the barrel. It was rough in high school when I had a pretty decent group of friends and I remember the guy among them that I liked, moved between all of the “more attractive” girls, trying to get them to date him, and when he finally realized that none of them would that’s when he came and asked me out. I hate feeling like a last resort or a second option or a rebound. I have more self-respect than that despite the extreme lack of self-confidence that I have so that’s probably part of why I’ve been single since I was 18. I’m 24 now and the only people who have told me that they liked me are guys twice my age or people that are not even in the same state. I don’t think I have had a single person walk up to me in public and compliment me or ask for my phone number since I was in high school. And it’s certainly not for lack of trying. Especially this past year I have made an effort every time I go out in public to dress nicely do my hair do my make up be really friendly and approachable be very open to the possibility of any sort of relationship and I’ve got zero prospects. Of course having your friends and family constantly hounding you for why you’re still single and have no kids does not help either. I feel like I’m ready to give up at this point, all of my siblings and cousins, who are all younger than me, and are much more attractive, have boyfriends and girlfriends, while I am seven years ahead of the rest of them and have zero game. I feel like at this point in my life if it was meant to be, it would have happened by now, and I’m ready to give up and just resign myself to the single life. Everyone says that I still have my whole life ahead of me and there’s no rush, but what if I wanted to share the best years of my youth with someone? What if I wanted to have someone to walk with on the beach or to cuddle with on a cold winter night or just have someone to talk to or someone that I could take care of someone who I could hold, and someone who feels comfortable sharing their thoughts and insecurities with me? I have a stable career, my own place and a nice car, I feel like the only thing missing is someone to share that life with, but it just feels like it was not meant for me which sucks because it’s the one thing I crave more than anything.
this happened to me all the time in high school and its like i am told get over it. like it feels like its a very nice concicendce right now that as a 35 year old guy i am also seeing that realtionships right now are just not worth it and understanding that i am not on the same page as most women right now. so it helps me deal with the fact that i am pretty ugly myself.
You literally look like you’re from the music industry. You’re hot. Don’t believe you’re ugly. All of us can take bad pictures. I’m picky and I think you’re a work of art🌹
I have given up with dating but I was on dating sites and in Newspapers from around 24 to 52 and have never had any interest so you have done much better than me.
Girl, you are NOT below average attractiveness. All you have to do is start believing and acting like you're above average attractiveness and everyone else around you will start believing in it, too!
Nobody will ever find me even a little bit attractive. I dream of having a chance with someone as beautiful as yourself, but thats never gonna happen. If you saw yourself through my eyes you would realise how attractive you truly are!
@@caseyjones5470 she's still young. She's gonna be stunning when she grows into her features. She has a nice jawline, a cute nose, nice lip structure too and wide eyes. She just needs a better hair care and skin care routine.
10/10, lovely smile, eyes, eyebrows, lips, head shape Some people have different taste, im not all that attractive but id still never settle for someone that i didnt think looked good Youre perfect
I don’t really believe dudes are rejecting her based on her looks. She is actually very pretty. Dudes put up with shit unlimited from women who don’t look anywhere near as nice as her. Even with no make up (like in this video) she would kill it if she was after men. Her problem is she is looking for a girl, and girls have BS expectations.
Yep I did the plenty of fish for about a year and never ever got a comment or anything. It sucks. Makes one feel very ugly. But then you realize they’re just shallow. And yes it is exhausting. I can totally relate to every word you speak. You’re the type of woman that I wish that I could’ve always met.
While I agree about online dating being for good looking folks, I just can't see this woman '"ugly". My guess is she's still in her early twenties. With time, she'll mature more, give less fu*cks about society's standards, and find more people are into her than she might realize.
Because she is only chasing the top 20% of the guys in terms of look, just like every women on online dating, it’s 80/20 rule. She is getting rejected by 8/10 and 9/10 on tinder and that’s why she feel ugly, and rest of the men are absolutely invisible to her. Some Women don’t know their places in the society
Honestly she could get a top tier man because she’s young. She just couldn’t get a top tier man that is fit, handsome, and successful. She’d have to give up some things honestly. I bagged a top tier guy, but he wasn’t six feet tall, nor did he have perfect teeth or whatever
Very beautiful young lady who i hope finds happiness in life. Online dating is the worst, iv tried a few tiems for some years and never had anyone message let alone even attracted to me,being bitter about it is worse and honestly it doesnt matter, just be a good person to all and never worry about others thoughts, look after yourself most of all.
Online dating sucks for everyone unless you are America’s next top model and it even sucks for them. If you are an average person online dating is a nightmare.
This girl would still get a shit ton of matches. Maybe not up to her “standards” but definitely matches. I’m not saying she’s not ugly, I’m just saying that stating online dating is not for ugly people is false. Maybe for ugly men, yes definitely, but ugly women no way. If you think I’m wrong look up the dating profile experiments by the channel Playing with Fire. Online dating sucks for everyone though.
I am gay, southeast asian and considered unattractive from where I live. My Grindr exp was soul crushing. I realized that I don’t have the face, body and status that a decent guy would want to date. I put in work, strict diet and consistent workout. Seen results after several months but still considered unattractive. Now I am numb.
Hey so ik that looks isn’t the only thing that matters BUT if that’s you on that profile picture than trust me… you are NOT ugly! And I’m not saying that to be polite or whatever, I truly mean it. At least, in my country you wouldn’t be considered ugly at all. This shows that ugliness/ attractiveness is subjective! There is always going to be some people that will find u unattractive but that’s why life is so awesome, you have to find people that see how good looking you are inside and outside. This realisation kinda helped me personally, even tho I sometimes feel ugly, I think about this and it boosts my mood
I feel the same way. I feel so fucking ugly, I literally look at myself in the mirror and get angry at how stupid I look. I honestly feel like don’t deserve to call myself a man cause I literally look trans. I feel like I don’t deserve love just because of my stupid looking face alone 💀
@@debanikgoswami4834 Bingo! i bet she has a minimum of 10 guys in her friend zone, they she considers ugly or beneath her! Women ONLY want the top 10%! the rest are invisible, or useful idiots.
I think the vacation was a positive. You have a different energy today. Keep doing videos on the moment. I mean whatever you feel at the time. These videos are about you.
It's literally impossible that you'd make a dating app and get zero matches, unless you only left your profile up for a few minutes. Even if you were ugly compared to the norm, ugly women who aren't literally 100% deformed or severely obese still get swarmed with matches. You probably just aren't getting the matches you WANT to get
Not just dating but in real life too. I remember in high school I was sooo ugly I was asked on a date by the football popular guy. Good thing I didn't fell for it i know what those evil classmates were planning. But anyways even online keep an eye out for same type of football popular guys because the only they want is your money because they take advantage of vulnerable women or men
as a man im disabled, i have bad teeth, i dont have a lot of money im way overwait, i have had one real relationship and she was abusive, and i ended the relationship, it was a mistake i know now i will never have another relationship ive tried online dating and its just useless no women would ever want me
Does anyone know the actual definition of ugly? Somebody can be very physically attractive but as soon as they open their mouth and say three words can be extremely ugly after.
U have more guts than me girl I don't like going out in public or online dating it is very embarrassing for me I know I'm not a sexy person so I'm not to out going either
I hate my forehead & styled hair with nice bangs It helps me SO MUCH I’m not a makeup person But when I’m tryin to impress I’ll use a normal amount To accentuate my eyes & smile 😊
my opinion theres a crew of 5 members behind the footage a makeup artist that has put on her braces so she looked crooked the big glasses makeup for a pale skin so wethink she barely walks out shes not ugly in fact she looks like a young laetitia casta i really think legitimately she thinks shes ugly but shes not but sometime slack ofconfidence and trauma can really rip your selfsteem apart which i think is the case important is as so many ugly people she keeeps fighting so stay strong and remmeber girl u not alone we are alarge comunnity of worthless uggly people who hide ourselves inside our houses so we dont keep collecting ba dmemoryes of this one humiliated me this one beated me up... keep fighting until the end they want us dead dont ever give them that satisfaction
you're beautiful , i wish i was the guy you were talking to. your smile is so f beautiful and your eyes are very unique. I don't think I've seen eyes this color. i wish you the best girl, stay strong.
I started doing the online dating thing in dec 2020. Since then im doing the rebound thing with a foul mouthed Christian who i had stopped texting/talking to for 2.5 years yet she was still communicate to me. Why? Because my now ex-gf from the same dating site turned out to be a narc/raging alkie who discarded me.
Everybody wants someone above 5-6, if you are a sub5 you basically have to accept someone uglier than you. Like, i'm a 4 or 5, if i wanted to date i would have to go for the 2s or 3s. So, no thanks.
Funny story, I made a Tinder once for shits and giggles with my friends a while back. I set gender preference to both just for the heck of it and I matched with more dudes than women. I'm straight but that was a bit of a "Wut" moment and Iike to think back and laugh
No virtue signalling here! Not at all trying to boost your self-esteem. I am not giving you false hope, I am not lying to you. YOU ARE NOT UGLY! IN FACT, ARE ABOVE AVERAGE!
@@misanthropy6690 no? 😭 it stands for body dysmorphic disorder 😮 its a mental condition where you spend *alot* of time worrying about flaws in ur appearence 😮 it kinda reminds of ocd in the way that you compulsivly spend hours facechecking and bodychecking
@@muffinboll6125 Probably because she's an incredibly privileged person whining about how disadvantaged she is. While the men in the comment section are genuinely disadvantaged. This stupid girl can go on Tinder and get 1000 matches in a day and have 50 dates lined up in a week. With zero effort. If she has BDD then whine about that.
how can people think this girl is ugly im 42 so you might think im a little old but if i was 20 years younger i would date this young hot lady boys there are no ugly girls in this world just insecure ones
I can relate I've been very overweight and have had relationship troubles all my life , I learned it was my confidence not my weight that was an issue. I understand you have trouble. Pretend you are an actor playing the most beautiful woman in the world, own it , be an actor the confidence will come. Who cares what people think just do it. Sometimes people just don't click not because if your looks, it's you confidence. Im telling you your looks are not an issue . Throw the mirrors away. Please your young, if you need to see a therapist do it. I wish I could help I've been there before. You can overcome it. 💪
I can relate this so much girl I send a dude a picture and the only response he said was like “Ohh” I used to use filters like Snapchat Now I hate my face I’m ugly And no one wants me fr :)
Hey What is your MBTI personality test? Take it please and learn more about your specific type. Please care to share? Let’s get One thing straight - YOURE NOT UGLY!! I’m not crying anymore!! The one video I commented on I was bitterly crying my head hurts. Had to find an aspirin at 01:50 am, I’m in South Africa, it’s a school night for my kids and I have work 😅. Ok listen.. You could be trying to fit in? Let me rephrase baby.. you’re trying to fit in. You’re amongst a few personality types that generally find interacting with people daunting and feel pressured to impress when it’s not in your nature? You’re super intelligent which most people finds uncomfortable because your mind is intricate, works totally different, you’re a deep thinker? You end up trying to find random mundane stuff to discuss which you clearly have no interest in that it’s hard to hide that it bores the life out of you, and when you over compensate in attempt to be engaging, people are not all entirely stupid (you know they are though.. 🤫 they just lack rationality, will choose to soothe emotions over facts and truth) they can pick up on these cues? You’re pessimistic and wish to act as if life is perfect and wish to have more difficult topics explored like .. why are we here? What is life for? Are we meant to accomplish something? How do dogs think differently to us? people label you as an oddball. You’re. And it’s a beautiful thing because there are people as frustrated as you’re in hopes to find someone as intense as you’re. You love and value truth? You seek truth? Alone time recharges you somehow? You’re thwart this because society thinks it’s strange and seem depressing? Is it? If overdone it can be. You’ve only had a few friends at a time? You don’t do very well in crowds, or large supposedly friendly group when society says you should and be a life of a party? Your mind is a maze, that need simplifying, good luck trying to unjungle that with ever forming questions and still keeping up with a screening outside world that says nothing at the same time? Do you wear neons over cool earthly tones? Really? Internal monologues? Healthy and funny monologues. The bouts of knowing moments? Answers that torrents out of nowhere. You wake up and you just know, your brain can absorb and understand stuff people don’t even think about? Death stare? The ‘’you should smile more” or “why are you always so quiet?” crap. You answer “how is it so hard to ever shut up bit$$?” (God why is everyone so plain and empty?) Rank pullers disgusts you, authority don’t impress you unless they can independently think, are fundamentalists, question and reason? Otherwise they don’t have your respect and you can hands down do a better job than they can or currently doing? So you’re interpreting this whole saga as you’re being rejected, unlikable. I have to smile belief that’s just wierd because I do that when it’s warranted. People pick up on your failing efforts and avoid you completely, you interpret it as being UGLY, UNATTRACTIVE. You’re an alien here. I am too. And for years I thought ugly because of the shunning I received, I’ve always been awkward, you want to change it, you want carefreeness. Try it, force it, forget it. You’re miserable, this could be your whole life, pity and walking around with a lump on your throat, when you can just let it out and screem instead of trying to fake a smile. Study you, invest in you, know you. I could say and I’ve said study God, hunger to know Him but see He is Holy something you can never be with the 7 billion might of human life put together. Take a one read to understand you, take a glance at God. THE DIFFERENCE!! And you want to be like and look like everyone else? Who do you think is the prettiest female actor? It’s Anne Hathaway for me, she my girl crush. Her facial features are strikingly different, bold and not that of a typical white girl. She is stunning yet unique in my opinion. Despite me regarding her as beautiful, she still put on more effort in taking extra care of herself, what do you know? She wears makeup 🥵. She takes that time to make sure she looks pretty because she may not perceive herself pretty the way I do. Women wear makeup!!! They’ve worn it for centuries now and they will continue to until the end of time. Which singer has stepped out to perform without it? The Jenner and the Hadid’s sisters. Why are that always so breathtaking? I’m guessing it’s the effort they put in their everyday expensive grooming. I love makeup! Show me a woman that doesn’t. I’m no pep talker, I don’t know you, you don’t know me. You’re in the US I’m in the jungle in Africa about to go feed my lions and elephants, I’m not expecting anything from you. Wouldn’t gain anything from you, why should I lie and say you’re pretty when you’re not or anyone for that matter. But my child you’re. Let God strike me dead if there’s a part of me that wants appease your ego right now. I do not take my faith lightly. God found me and saved me when I was sinking in the deepest pits. And for that I’m eternally grateful. I learnt of Him first before I found myself. Will copy and paste this to most of you videos. Excuse any typos, haven’t slept a wink. Reach out at philakalo@gmail.com
It's not about being solely attractive. You have to have a profile doing activities doing things that make you desirable. It took me about a year of doing thing like skiing hiking swimming boats and after I had a profile full of fun stuff I started getting ten times more likes. It's at a point where I don't even swipe to look I just reject or accept and don't send the first message. I don't have to. If they meet my criteria I will message them back.
I think you look beautiful but i can relate to your situation, to have bad self confidence. I have always hated the way i look and feelt that people whould treat me better and notice me if i whould be less ugly. I think this is a struggle for many people no matter how they look.
Girl! You dadas look like a model. You have pretty yet also interesting features. Big lips, big eyes, good sized forehead, feminine chin. I’m not trying to miss your point, I’m just describing what I see when I look at you.
