I consider myself to be far below average with completely flawed features. My entire life I've been called ugly . I've spent hours researching dozens of surgeries I want done in hopes to just be average, some I might do and some I might not. Respect for your message.
Sure, get those surgeries. Just be sure a good plastic surgery .. ask others and shop around. Don't let anyone tell you that it's in someway wrong. stop the suffering..
THAT IS so true D25Trvcto. This girl wouldn't date an ugly person or average person either, is my best guess, if her life depended on it. She would like to bleach bit my comment the same way the Radical Left has gotten search engines to bleach bit comments they don't like. I can tell who you where she gives "hearts" and doesn't and so I think I have a good idea of who she is. It's obvious that she is introspective but also so examining and critical and wouldn't be there for most people in need. OK, overboard with no proof there. She doesn't even think she's ugly.. just plain. She just wants to be more beautiful. The only way ugly people get dated is because they are mistaken as good looking by some other ugly people. More truth to that then you will ever know. I never see good looking girl and ugly guy together but 2 in 100 times. There is something called the Illusory Superiority Complex - most people have - they think they are better in others in most ways. This is why most people who are 3s on the 1 to 10, think they are 7s .. This is just a survival mechanism. But i can tell you looks matter. I had something wrong with my looks growing up, had it fixed and started getting lots of dates and more confidence and compliments .
Also, you might not care, but the girl is somewhat of an intellectual, speaks with some fluency. Would she date a below average in intelligence guy > no way. so why should a good looking guy date her? Everyone tries to get the best they can get, and most will lie to your face about it. It's who we are as people .. selfish, delusional about imaginary god, and think how to get ahead. Sometimes it's pretty, sometimes it's ugly.
@@michaelmiller7160 i agree especially where you say she doesn’t think she’s ugly, she is below average but not hideous obviously. I feel she believes herself to be just average tho and is indignant of her perceived persona non grata status due to others lack of attraction to her. Strangely however, she is also aware of some of the remedies that can aid her such as working out, skin care and makeup but remains non-committal to them, oh well 🤷🏾♂️
@@Da69expert1 Borderline Personality Personality.. She probably is now under the care of a psychiatrist and dermatologist. If she had longer hair, makeup and skin care, she would be average to me. I like slim women, I would never date a fat woman as I could never have sex. I am slender and would be crushed too by heavy women . Again, I am better than average looking but older but I would date her if she talked about some other things too.
Honestly, you're beautiful.Me, I'm ugly, unattractive and have no talents but my sister on the other hand is really beautiful.A lot of guys likes her and fell in love her.Whenever we went to a mall or anywhere men and women always turned their heads to look and stare at her.She is not only beautiful but has a very beautiful voice and has a handsome boyfriend.I just understand why my sister is beautiful and has white skin and talented while I am ugly and lack of everything good in life.I'm not beautiful and not even attractive.
Your so methodical in your videos. So sophisticated and I find that attractive attribute. There is more than one way to be beautiful. Your beautiful in your own way. Stay beautiful 😉👍
It's interesting how we often don't know what is going on in someone else's thoughts. You have such beautiful features I never would have thought you would have such thoughts about yourself. I have lost so much due to my ugliness. I just try to be kind to people. That's all I have left.
Man our society is so fucked up to make people feel and think this way. I genuinely think you're beautiful and I know that doesnt mean anything to you but it's the truth I dated a girl in highschool with body dysmorphia and I told her every day how beautiful she was and I meant it. I was young and dumb and couldnt understand why this girl didnt see her own beauty... It got to the point where I felt like there was something wrong with me because she obviously thought I was constantly lying to her and it ended up really affecting my own self worth. Looking back on it I can admit that she definitely didnt fit the stereotypes of classic beauty but I have still never been more physically attracted to a person in my life. I guess what I'm trying to say is even if you dont think you're physically attractive (which you fucking are), a persons appearance is literally the least important aspect of who they are as an individual and the only people worth having in your life are the ones who understand that. Also not to toot my own horn because I literally just said physical appearance is the least important aspect of a person but this is coming from someone who has been told my whole that Im above average and had really "beautiful" people throw themselves at me within minutes of meeting me only to find out after a few more minutes of interaction that we actually dont get on at all. These days I've really stopped taking care of my physical appearance because I'm sick of fake people who only want to get to know me because they're attracted to my appearance. My scruffy "beard" and long hair is my bullshit filter. Sorry for the rambling mess, I didnt really know where I was going with this when I started typing... You're not ugly inside or out and I hope one day you'll believe that as much as I do
Thank you for this huge message. You helped me find a little bit of a clarity. I have friends who are VERY judgemental of people's beauty...including me. But they don't judge me as much as they judge other people. But I am not gonna let it slide JUST BECAUSE it doesn't affect me. It hurts me everytime they call someone ugly or something along the lines of - "what? A guy has a crush on her? She is not even good looking! How come she has a guy following her around?" And it absolutely breaks my heart that people are so superficial! I have decided to cut them off my life completely! If that's not.possible, I'll try my best to stay away from them :) I hope you have a good day!
when you said that you liked large noses on women :') no but you're right about proportionate faces being seen as more attractive because personally I don't think that my nose is too bad, it's just the fact that the rest of my face is pretty small
hey I want to tell you honestly. You are beautiful. I am telling this honestly. And If you feel like people try to ignore you or what just keep your head up and go on your journey girl. You'll win at the end.
@@xXJesuslovesyouXx I am physically undesirable to many women. But I just wanted to know if OP was being truthful or misleading her with a beautiful lie to give her confidence and lift. It wasn't an insult against the channel owner.
The entire "point" of body dysmorphia is that it is your own distorted view of your appearance. What you might find ugly, others might find okay looking or even pretty and I'm not talking about societal beauty standards because they surely exist but attraction is so much more subjective than those. In my opinion (and I also struggle with the way I look, esp my face) it is meaningless to talk about your own or others' appearance as if it is something factual when it's simply not. It would be easier to recognize that it is only you who thinks that you're ugly or it is only you who thinks that someone else is ugly because, at that given moment, you are the only one thinking that, you can't speak on everyone's behalf. On another note: you look like Piper Perabo's and Hilary Swank's lovechild and in one of your videos you said that oftentimes it's very pretty people who talk about having body dysmorphia and that you wanted to talk about it from an ugly person's perspective and I was thinking "what is she talking about?she is that exact pretty person talking about having body dysmorphia, she literally looks like the main character in an indie lesbian drama.... " so that's that, guess it really is your own body dysmorphia talking.
People in middle school are so rude I just want to hang out with them but I'm bullied all the time I have no friends and it hurts so much I just wanted to be a normal person then they wouldn't judge me for my look
Thank you so much for sharing.❤🙏 I love this video. I feel what you feel and seeing someone talking about that is very important, your videos are an inspiracion for me.
I have an ear deformity, a deformity that cannot be searched up on google. It's that unique. I also have a lazy eye, a big fat crooked nose with a bump, and tiny little eyes. I had never focused on how I looked until my later years of high school when people started making fun of me; I never blamed my ears until years later. Now I'm in college, a virgin, and never had a real relationship. I just assume I'm in the friendzone at this point because I don't want to be hurt. People don't know how hard I have worked, I've used nose filters, worked out for 3 years, tried growing a beard, got my eyebrows done, tried to make myself taller (I"m 5'10''), and just a bunch of other things but nothing has made me feel any better. I had never felt hot ever in my life unless you took a shirtless pic of me when I had giant abs and arm veins. I think being below-average ugly shouldn't be ashamed of; there should be other things to look out for. I'm not sure how some beautiful women were interested in me; I think my insecurity and personality got the best of me because It's unbelievable how someone beautiful gave me a chance. So I don't think being ugly is a problem; it's just personality that matters. Obviously, work on yourself. I still workout, I'm a good height, work on my skin, take care of my hair. But work on your personality, act like you're attractive, so you aren't needy. Sometimes being ugly will come to your advantage because people will think, "how can someone that ugly have any self-respect? that's pretty badass" it's not always the case, but sometimes it does happen.
I also have body dysmorphia and I totally understand what you're going through. I also seem to be the only person in my clique of friends or family who is able to tell if someone is attractive purely based on criteria like symmetry and proportions. I can tell if someone has a good body or face structure even if they're wearing a large hoodie or look like they havent showered in weeks. Unfortunately a lot of people perceive as beautiful something which looks "kept and well put together", so I guess a lot of individuals think you're ugly just because you don't groom yourself like an insta influencer. Like I can tell you're obejctively good-looking even if your hair is greasy and unkept or even if you have redness on your face or visible braces, which i find cute to be honest. You do look awkward but that could also be a charm factor. Also social media and dating apps have ruined people perceptions of bodies and faces. An average brainwashed person would rather date a person with blatantly retouched pictures instead of someone with average looking pictures, even though they know damn well that "retouched persona" doesn't actually exist. A lot of people who turned you down probably ended up picking people who look "cooler" than you in pictures or with a bunch of make up tricks but that actually look worse than you in real life. As a straight girl I know boys are like that. My friend is overweight but she edits herself to look slim with a tiny waist and full super perky breasts. A trained eye would see through the retouching gimmicks (wall bending behind her, fabric lines looking wonky etc) yet boys ask her out THEN COMPLAIN SHE DOESN'T LOOK AS SNATCHED AS SHE DOES IN HER PICTURES so they end up wither fucking her once out of sexual frustration and ghosting her or just ghosting her altogether after the first date. While me, with an objectively better body than my friend's that i present in non-filtered pictures, gets zero attention on those apps. I also find it sad when people tell me "oh but you're not ugly" because it makes me think what if I actually was? Wouls I be not worthy of love and caring? I bet people have told you multiple times you're not actually ugly YET THE PEOPLE YOU FIND ATTRACTIVE NEVER SEEM TO FIND YOU ATTRACTIVE. This comment was so long but i felt like getting these things off my chest.
Im part of the Roman Nose club myself.. Instagram models don't even look that way in real life. Very few people look like Brad Pitt or Marilyn Monroe. Most people are average or slightly below that. I've honestly stopped paying too much attention to it myself being someone whose probably average or below average. It is what it is at this point.
Something can be objectively ugly or beautiful. People talk of ugly interfaces, designed products etc and majority ppl agree. So why can't a person be called ugly? It is painful to be so called but the truth doesnt care about feelings. I think ppl should refrain from telling ppl to their face that they're ugly (or not fine; plain) bcos it could hurt the hearer. Just keep your thoughts to yourself
Something I wonder, do you ever get the feeling that people are calling you beautiful either to get something or to make you or themselves feel better? And how does that make you feel?
Eu realmente acho essa garota muito bonita, sem mentira nenhuma. Esse elogio é muito sincero, achei esse canal recentemente e fiquei meio intrigado com ela se achar feia.
You make really good videos, you speak well and seem comfortable, I like the way you put things and lots of what you say is concise enough and easy to relate to, you've really got a knack for this tbh
Partly true..., it's mostly media and culture. People in other countries and cultures don't find the same things beautiful that white americans do. High cheek bones, round vs thin face, and amount of fat are good examples that differ across cultures. Attractiveness is therefore mostly a social construct based on exposure to typical faces in your community and the media. Not just facial features, also fit for gender roles, like high earning male or child bearing female, also social constructs that vary across cultures. There are some preferences that are common across cultures like looking more sexually mature.
This is a very modern issue we are going through. I'm not saying BDD didn't exist or people felt less attractive in the past but years ago it was ok to be average or not exceptionally beautiful. I think you are very cute and in the 90's nobody would have batted an eyelash about you at all. I think peoples minds are being warped by what we see in the media. Even men are effected. Trust me...its not just women. Men feel worthless too and its equally as hard because men are suppose to be the ones to take initiative but when you are treated as invisible its almost impossible. Anyway...I like your videos. You seem to understand what's going on in the world. I'm sorry you have such a hard time. Even though I and other people think you are cute looking that doesn't negate your experiences.
People do select their mates base on Beauty. In today's society People rather not be honest when it comes to appearance ; ugly or pretty because they don't want to be seem disrespectful or mean. In the sexual Marketplace People select >date or Maried based on each other appearance of Beauty.
Not everyone is beautiful aka if we talk of a symmetrical face for a magazine or insta..but it's very different than being attractive..its a Very two dimensional approach and people are 3 dimensional,but that the message of advertising anyway..being two dimensional beautiful with the right products will make you feel a certain way..its another deal when you meet people in person,being charming or not ..the model is gonna be treated better in a bar scene or the model industry I guess but that's not the real world,we dont live on insta or fashion tv.. ,but if you dont have any depth of character this shit s not gonna last long and people cant just take you seriously..it depends if you wanna date some duche named Chad or a guy that Is actually articulate...the opinion of beauty having such power on people is really high school opinion..what I mean once you re an adult with a job with responsibilities ,you can look like Tyra,nobody's gonna take you seriously or just because you re pretty they re gonna take a lot less seriously..being a model pretty which is a minority of people(its seems like a majority cause of insta)has perks but has disadvantages ,its has an expiration date so women that their identity is attached to beauty and youth are gonna be really depressed in the 30s if they dont have anything to offer..also people's relationships arent built on appearance in the long term..if it is the case then you're dating 15year old and not actual adult..you have a very pessimistic view of the world..calling someone ugly is rude,cause there s a value attached to beauty,but its the same as calling people fat instead of obese,mentally challenged or retarded,african american or the n word..its still accurate since you re describing the same thing but words,language have impact and nuances that come with the description, implying a hierarchy, implying being less than,that's why ugly wouldnt be a great choice of word to describe yourself or others....cause it's just perpetuating your body dysmorphia,lack of self worth,negative thoughts and crowded youtube pity parties
But a symmetrical face according to scientific studies is Very Important. And each part of your face from cheek bones to nose to jaw, is important . Build is import though a lot like slim or some like stocky .. "the opinion of beauty having such power on people is really high school opinion" you say BS .. it continues many many years past but you start to settle but it's only because people are getting ugly around your age as they and you age so you don't have a lot of choice. But you still like people with better looks, unless they are constantly rejecting you. And if Ugly , the word, wasn't perpetuating lack of self-worth, another word will come along to do the job. Unfortunately that's life.
"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well." Psalm 139:14 We are perfectly created by God and calling His work "ugly" is disrespectful to Him.
Absolutely not cuz in gods eyes were all beautiful but being told your ugly can ruin your self esteem has happened to me a bit but the weird thing is that some guys online find me attractive but nobody does irl
I genuinely feel that if you accept that you're ugly, life is much simpler... Ik in the future it would bite you like a bitch but who cares about future when you could live better by accepting the fact. None of these "oh you're beautiful" "I think that you're beautiful" would make you feel better until you yourself accept that maybe I'm ugly. I've experienced this all and at the end in your whole life you meet like millions of people some of them judge/ like you because of soul and some of em' will judge you by your looks.
There are ugly acting people. Flip Wiison saided:ugly people know who they are.I was called ugly and still ugly.Can you get over that?You should,and stop feeling bad on self.Go to school, make something of yourself.Stop feeling bad about yourself.That's an order.
Wow, someone who says truthful things. Even though you have great above average facial structure. I specifically clicked on the vid cus the attractive face attracted me, to click on it. So there's the proof.
Look, I've watched a few of your videos now, and either you're living in a very unhealthy area, or you're projecting SO MUCH! Yes, "pretty privilege" is totally a thing, but you're seeing it as a norm that you are missing out on. And no, you don't have to hate yourself if you're not beautiful and perfect as a woman! Wow, that's terrible! I'm so sorry that this is what young women are thinking now! Your problems with disliking your face remind me of my cousin from Texas. She was visiting us (in Canada) and she was invited to go on a snowmobile ride. She was excited until we told her that she should take off her makeup before going, as it would be fairly windy, etc, it would get driven in to her pores, whatever. (I am not familiar with make-up protocol, as I don't wear it much, but my other cousin was very vocal that it's a bad idea) And so she passed on the opportunity! And we couldn't believe it, who was she trying to impress? We're not people to impress. We care exactly zero whether she's beautiful or not! She's all "my acne scars!" and "I look so dead without my makeup", and you know, that's fine, keep it on, but you've got to know that you're making all the other women feel insecure now. I mean, that one's in PJs, and that one has her hair in a weird ponytail, and here you are in full "ready for my photographer" clothes and makeup, talking about appearance! I thought we were here to spend time together, that's why we've rolled out of bed and come to see you! But in Texas, it's almost like survival to look perfect at all times. I felt bad for my Texas cousins, but also annoyed, as they couldn't help but compete and strive to be beautiful. They made it stressful to be around them. I wished they'd move back here and be frumpy and happy with us instead of glamourous and high-strung and superficial over there. Maybe it would be as simple as moving to a different area, if all this pressure is truly coming from outside yourself. I can't tell if you're feeling all this rejection at work due to the people truly being petty and mean due to your looks, or if they're being neutral and you're interpreting that as rejection because that's all you think about. Or even that they have a hard time chatting with you because when you are so intensely self conscious, it makes everyone else feel self-conscious. And that's not a good feeling. As you know!
I haven’t ever brought up looks at work on my own, but the topic does come up sometimes because young people are very “looks focused.” So I feel like part of my coworkers not liking me might be because I don’t conform to their standards. I think they believe I’m a certain way based on how I look. I’m pretty open/friendly/helpful otherwise but it’s just not easy to connect with people who don’t want to connect with you.
According to legend, Charlie Chaplin once entered a Charlie Chaplin Look-A-Like contest in Monte Carlo, and came in third. This may be myth, but the moral of the story is that looks are a small part of who we are. For Instance, a beautiful man with a blue collar job is going to have a hard time dating; and there are plenty of rich successful woman who are going to die childless and alone.
How can you really decide if you are really ugly or not if you have body dismorphic disorder ? All the people you talk about with BDD which you say I very beautiful also will think their are ugly.
i believe you overthink it too much, i watched all your videos. You pointed in the other video some flaws about yourself that i didn't noticed, that only you know them because yeah you live with yourself 24/7 and obviously you know every inch of your body, but i have to say it is not that bad. When i was in highschool i had severe acnee and people always judged me because of that and i had an really hard time dealing with it, the worst part for me as a boy was that girls judged me the most i remember one of my friends pushed me into an chick and she literally said "ew he touched me" at that time i felt like a train struck me. To deal with my anxiety and low self esteem i started going to gym and little by little my life improved i started to feel more confident even though my acnee was still there. In my last year of highschool i was super jacked, and my life was completely different my grades improved and i felt respected even by so called "cool guys" (i didnt liked them but i wanted peace so i went with it) and the best thing is that i took the exam that allowed me to go to college that was my dream at that time that's why i started going to gym, not to impress girls or so, i went to gym to start gaining confidance, and worked perfectly. I think that would help you too it's amazing what gym can do to you if have the time. If you are too anxious, do it at home and ignore people they will judge you anyway you can't change them. I want to point that even if i don't have acnee anymore i still feel like girls don't like me because of my past experiences, i can talk to girls no problem i don't feel anxious anymore but i can't go to the next level wich would be to date them and be emotionally attached, it sucks. I don't want to be some keyboard hero but personally i don't think you are ugly everything you experience right now is an mental problem beacause you gave power to wrong people as i did and i hate myself for that, i wasted so many years of my life overthinking my looks because of some assholes. We are at the age where we should be happy as ever and i think we will regret that when we will become old and wise that is my biggest fear.
you're not aware of your potential, seriously. I would advise you to do a photoshoot with a professional and hopefully, he will show you what you cannot see.
