Shawanda's father has given her a budget of $3000 however, her sister thinks she should go over budget and convince him to pay the difference. Catch Say Yes to the Dress on TLC - Sky 133, Virgin 162, BT TV 323
Rere XO there is no price too high to make your child happy. She also did not purchase the dress, she said she would come back after speaking with her dad. If she bought the dress and said her dad would just have to deal with it, some may take it as rude. Just going off of my own family, I don’t think she did anything wrong by trying on and saying she would make a decision later.
Grace Perkins Agreed. If she can't and won't pay the difference then don't get the dress. My dad and mom put aside $1,000 dollars for my dress. My mom. Liked this Vera W at David's Bridal Extacly 1,000. Oh no. I couldn't it was to much. I bought two dresses online. The Veil, shoes etc game to a grand total of $350.00 for both. My dad has five kids. I cannot be selfish. My older brother got married the same year six months earlier. My parents let us hold our wedding at their back yard. That was more than enough. I used the money left over to pay for tables chairs tent, heaters. I know it is an important day. But don't start the first day together in debt.
Paola Valtierra price is ridiculous when you think about it.. you can find the same exact dress with a different designer for half the price! Online is probably the best choice lol
"My cousin ruined my appointment." Translation: I didnt get my own spoiled brat way. Why do so many of these women go over budget with someone's money. Buy your own dress. You're grown.
@Janine Sasser who told you that he has the money to do that? 900 can be much for somebody you don't know. If you can't respect a budget than go ahead and pay your own dress period.
@Janine Sasser No he doesn't. He set a budget of 3000. That's what he contributing. Not a penny more. To assume just because he offered to chip in that he also has to pay the rest is entitled af. I hope the father decided to not help the bride out with money after seeing this kind of entitlement. Time to teach her a lesson.
There was nothing wrong with her asking her father for more money. The cousin saying she'd make sure he said no was out of line. That's his decision to make.
900$ is "nothing" compared to the 3k + for the blue dress 😅 I don't understand her logic, she seems to be willing to go 3k over the budget but says that 900$ is to much, that she needs to ask her dad? 😅🤷♀️
@@user-pq2nr8bo4n Not too much if dad's footing the bill - it's only too much if she is. In all fairness, maybe her dad really is the type to cover the difference? Otherwise, she has to either stay in budget or pay the difference.
Krissa J brides a spoiled brat who needs to be kept in line or she’ll become bridezilla, she almost is at this point, have some consideration for you father for god sake! If your not willing to shell out $900 dollars why should he be!?
Did you notice that she liked the first dress, until she was told that it was less than 3000$, then she completely changed? Starting from 2:01 when she says "oh"
Oh, for that friend, what decides whether something looks good is the price tag.... she's god no actual taste.... I would not say she is toxic, just that she has never learned the value of money, or that good things don't have to be branded, or expensive....
I was genuinely offended that anyone "designed" that blue monstrosity in the first place. It was beyond hideous. WHO saw that dress and said, "Oh yes, brides will LOVE looking like a broke ass, fat smurf in this dress!" 🙄
She’s not overstepping ANYTHING! The person who has the money specifically asked her to advocate for him! Shawanda is the one who’s not respecting a boundary, and this is apparently so frequent a problem that the Dad is recruiting reinforcements for his boundaries!
Where are you getting that information from ? they didn’t say it was a frequent problem he said that he knows that she likes high end things so to keep an eye out…. And at the end of the day if the dad was willing to pay just the $900 over let him because statement from the cousin about making sure he doesn’t was a bit weird at that point just back off why would you purposely try to influence your uncle to not do something that he’s willing to do and that would make his daughter happy😂
@@AyshaaDuvv It's more like this bride has been spoiled all her life. It would be one thing if she just ended up falling in love with a dress over budget but she came in wanting to find a dress more than the budget her father gave her. Her cousin was right that she was being totally ungrateful and disrespectful. Even if her father does agree to pay for the difference, it doesn't change her personality and how she has no respect for other people's money.
Anyone else noticed that she liked the first dress but acted as if she didn’t after she heard that it’s her cousins „cheap three thousand“ dollar dress
Yeah i did and realised she is that person who thinks expensive is better and also she don't like her cousin that much. Maybe coz her cousin is more mature and responsible.
@@kanikagaral7637 Agreed. It's probably some kind of jealousy problem. It's crazy how much her cousin cares about her father's money and well-being while the bride should be the one who should care and think about her parents.
I love how when it’s daddy’s money, it’s no big deal, but when the suggestion comes up that she pay the difference, she throws a fit. Someone needs a serious reality check.
She's gracious, humble, and thoughtful while her cousin doesn't seem to think about anyone but herself. I can't imagine taking advantage of my father like that. I looked for sales instead. I love my dad too much to use him for his money.
I have a feeling that bride has a habit of overspending for everything and the cousin grew up knowing she was a brat and was told by the father to make sure she stayed on budget. I feel sorry for her husband if he is not rich because he will be bankrupt in a year.
She should of took half of the budget and sorted out her eye brow monstrosity. She is a spoilt brat. Her dad gave her $3,000 and she should be grateful.
@Bubbles • you still missed the point. Good for her that she paid for expenses of her own wedding like any reasonable person should anyway. Fyi: people can't "fuck off" when she air her stuff to a massive audience. So expect to agree that many will still disagree with her attitude that she gave off as entitled.
@Glamorous Taee Obligation? Maybe around 1800! Following the "I'm probably not allowed to work/keep my wages and besides that my father gets to choose my husband anyway so at least he is obligated to pay for the fancy dress to impress my future in-laws" - rule
If her dad will pay it let him. All she has to do is ask, he can only say yes or no. What's the harm in a black woman being a little spoiled by her father?
@@glowlight69 the harm was that there was a serious budget and he said no. Besides it was nice enough he was willing to contribute She should pay the difference if she wants it plain and simple.
Yep she acted like a very spoilt child....3000....that could cover a dress cake an other things ....all that money on 1 dress for a few hours ridiculous.....my dress cost me £300 an look gd went Jamaica with the rest ....
I couldn't concentrate on anything except her horrible eye brows. They stand out in a very bad way too. Also her friend acts so fashion forward but horrible haircut😒
Notice that in the beginning the cousin says: "My uncle knows how she is, so he told me to make sure she stays in budget." So, no, father won't be happy to pay the difference, and the cousin is just very respectful towards her uncle and willing to be the bad guy if she has to, to make sure that she doesn't exploit her father's gift
The cousin had a tough job and kept her mouth closed. I would have blurted out the understanding that she and her uncle discussed!!! What loyalty! She should get the $900.00.
I don't know what kind of a father sends a cousin to check over her daughter. He could have just handed over the money to her daughter. No cousin should have the right to come in between them. That cousin is a real bitch.
@@neetha2447 He probably did it because he knows his daughter overspends on things. In fact, the bride and her other friend said that they "don't spare a penny when it comes to fashion," which means they like expensive things. Besides, the father said he would pay $3000, but the bride clearly wanted dresses that were over $3000. Even if he gave her the money, there wouldn't be enough to buy the $3900 dress she wanted.
@@neetha2447 well, if u don't like her cousin, then her sister is no better. Sabotaging the brides big day by putting her in a blue bedspread dress....😈
Respect her cousin. $3000 for a wedding dress is such a blessing. She needs to be thankful and make do with the budget or pay the extra. Can’t stand that spoilt attitude!
Yeah. 😩 I didn’t go to a boutique or had an appointment like this. I didn’t spend this much on my beautiful wedding dress. I had it made by an aunt of my friend for $160. You can say because I live in the PH (that’s why it’s cheaper) but still I didn’t have and wasn’t willing to spend so much when I can get a beautiful one at a lower price.
brides need to be more respectful of budget when someone else is paying for the dress. you can’t simply expect someone to be willing to go over the budget they gave you, in fact if you can help it, go under!
Really annoyed me how she wasn't willing to pay 900 more. Her dad was generous enough to pay for it, she's not even paying for decorations so it would cost less anyway.
SinliasBabi He was generous enough to pay for her dress because he’s her father and has the money to do it. He wants to help his daughter out on her wedding day, what’s wrong with that??? My dad helps me and....
@@icevencedora8700 Her dad helping her isn't the problem. That's a great thing that he's offering to pay that and $3,000 is a great amount. They're saying that the bride is wrong for being so determined to go over budget and expecting her dad to pay extra when he specifically said $3,000 was the limit. Instead of being so selfish her and her friend should pay the remaining balance rather than trying to make her dad go over the amount he said. If she doesn't want to pay the remaining, then she should stick to the budget that her dad agreed on.
The other thing these spoiled bimbos don't consider is sales tax (esp on luxury items). My guess is a $3900 dress would cost the bride $1000-$1250 w/ such a generous $3000 gift. All the dresses she looks at should be under $3500 if she's willing to pay anything; but it should be capped at $2500 pre-tax if she's paying nothing.
Honestly her cousin seems so sweet and down to earth, she did not deserve the bride saying she ruined her day. If your dad set the budget and you want to go over it, of course you should pay the difference.
I love the attitude of the cousin. When will kids realize that their parents are not made out of money. If your dad set the budget, don't just decide yourself what you want to spend.
Well, she could still get married (that is her choice) but she could've looked at a few other dresses that would've been a compromise to her fashion taste as well as meet the standards of everyone else and still stay well within her dad's budget. But overall, I don't usually say this too often and I hate to agree with this; yes, she did seem rude, maybe a bit spoiled and definitely not respecting her dad's budget limit. After all, as Randy said before, why spend more when there are plenty of other dresses that are just as beautiful as the one she picked? Or something like that 😅
ThebestofJ&K but it’s HER DADS MONEY, not hers, she should be respectful of the budget he gave her, if he could afford for it to be 4K then he would have made it 4K
Fancy Schmancy nah she sounds whingey and jealous because her cousins were clearly spoilt (not saying that’s a good thing) and she wasn’t, so now she’s trying to up the bride on an important day to feel better about herself.
@@jadec3317 honestly people have to stop whining for other people to pay for their wedding expenses. She is a GROWN ASS woman. If her dad SAID he could only offer 3k, she shouldn't all of the sudden be a little girl and tantrum for more. The audacity with some people...shm. If you want to have a wedding, be ready to pay for it yourself. 🙄
The cousin was absolutely right about the bride paying the $900 difference. If the dad gave her a budget, no matter how “spoiled” she may be, she should show her appreciation and stay in that budget. Even if dad would do it for you. 👌🏾
I would never disrespect my Dad or his wallet like she did. That was reprehensible. My Daddy would definitely pay for my dress, but I would not let him. He could chip in, but if I'm above the age of 21, it's my responsibility.
on the Lancashire version they have plenty of STUNNING dresses for well under 3k USD, heck even under 2k USD!! and if the dress is over budget Gok and the manager try to make it more affordable for the bride.
My mother got her dress from a thrift store and my grandmother altered it to a beautiful gown. My sisters and I tried on the dress when we were younger and it's one of my favorite memories. The dress doesn't have to cost a lot to be beautiful in every way.
She has a spoiled attitude 🙄 if you’re gonna have the “it’s my wedding I’m going to get what I want” attitude put your money where your mouth is. Be grateful someone is giving you $3000 for a dress you’re gonna wear ONCE
Grateful? It’s her family. If her dad is willing to give it to her, then that’s between them. The cousin way overstepped her bounds. The least a father should do, if he decides to have a child and she happens to be female, is buy her a nice dress for her wedding day.
@@AkireMaru she did not overstep she literally says that she was told by the father to ensure the bride doesn't spend more than the budget. Yes, she deserves a beautiful wedding dress and I'm sure in 3000 dollars she'd get one. The ungratefulness was strong with her.
I live in Australia & when I was married, my dress was Aus $2900. I paid the $700 difference. My dad paid for the photographer & he paid for my engagement party so the least I could do was make sure I stayed in the budget he gave me for my dress....It was lovely by the way
Monty needs to chastise Lori and the other girls not to blow out peoples budgets on purpose just to jack up their commission. I'd say most don't deserve to go over budget if they're not paying for it. Getting great grandparents to go way over what they can afford. There are still 364 days left after that 1 day, what are you going to eat? Pay rent?
I paid exactly $2200 for my dress. Including interest *from payments* and taxes . I’m a Georgia pageant girl. Who no longer competes and paid for it myself while working retail and trying to get into real estate *im 20*. I am by all means a spoiled yet hardworking girl . But I haven’t eeeevvvvverrrrr seen such disrespect over $3000. God gawd girl 🙃🙃🙃. I’m the same as you I cringed at the $2200. But! I will be doing TONS of DIYs out of my dress in hopes of using my moneys full potential ;).
I paid $200 for mine after alterations. It was on final sale from original $1750. I wore it once and now it sits in my closet. There's no point in paying too much.
@Armie Benjamin not really all you do is get drunk dance fuck eat and that stuff and sign a paper to change your last name to his or hers most marriages don't last just to tell you that those were the most important day is really having kids not a wedding but you spent thousands of dollars on the most don't even stay together
I bet the producer ensured her 5 actual friends and father weren't selected to come on the show. Because they liked this "friend" for shovelling the Shit.
That woman looks old enough to pay for her own dress. I can't imagine paying so much for a dress that you are only wearing once for a couple of hours. I tell you this, I would rather use that money for a nice Honeymoon or for the house.
A lot of parents INSIST on paying for the wedding or something, my parents want to pay for my wedding but I’m going to see if they maybe wanna just help out with the dress. I guess it just depends on the future
Same If I was going to get ever married I'd want to spend more money on a honeymoon then on a dress.I've seen beautiful dresses online and on this show for under 1000 I don't need a dress over 5k and then regret it later.
@@curlynfrancis9654 Same here! In our family, we have people who are seamstresses, florists, chefs, several pastors, etc. So when we have a wedding, each person's gift is something for your wedding. No one has anything too huge and any major money you would have spent goes toward a down payment for a house, college fund, babies or honeymoon (whatever your need is). It's a way to make sure you don't start your married life broke and it works. 🙌🏼🙌🏼
2:07 Shawanda goes from liking the gown okay to hating it after hearing the price isn't over $3000. They should have just swapped the price tags on all the dresses to prove a point to her. I thought it was rather short-sighted of them to turn up their noses at the cousin for looking at the sale rack, when really it was a very smart (and considerate) move because it's the only way to get the high-priced dresses Shawanda wanted while still adhering to the budget. They should have told Shawanda the original price of the dress - it probably was over $3000 before the sale. Anyways, looks like she ended up getting 2 dresses....
Her "friend" is just a no no. She looks well put together and the bride looks a HOT mess. Look at her eye brows Jesus! She even had the nerve to put her in that ugly blue dress. I think she hates her. Her cousin has integrity.
“My cousin ruined my appointment” Does she not realize she will wear this dress once in her life time? Plus her dad is paying for the dress so she shouldn’t just get an expensive dress just because her dad is paying.
I agree but I also think the way the cousin went about it really killing the vibe of the appointment and she picked a under budget dress that was the opposite of what she said she wanted and it not because there isn’t any either she didn’t listen, didn’t care or just love the power
Wit Beyond Measure the brides dad sent the cousin for a reason: to make sure she didn’t go over budget. sometimes you have to be a little harsh. She never said the dress was ugly, and she was right. it’s very inconsiderate
I agree but this is her “dress once in her life time” and some people really value that. I’m not saying she’s in the right because of that reason, she definitely shouldn’t be so expensive. But no bride wants to walk on their wedding day in a dress they hate, that’s just devastating on its own
Personally I agree with the cousin. It is selfish to ask your dad to raise his already high price tag. Your wedding day is one day. Don't need to push it to the tens of thousands. Unless YOU have that money
This is exactly why spoiled kids shouldn't be flexing their parents' money She's not paying for her dress. Her dad is. But cos she's a daddy's girl, she thinks she can go over the budget Like, isn't daddy also paying for the whole wedding? Budgets are there for a reason
Apparently according to a friend who attend (a reply to a similar comment) daddy didn't pay for it all, she paid for venue and catering, he allegedly thought spending a $1000 on a dress was ridiculous (yet he offered up $3000). And she ended up wearing a dress she didn't like, and got changed halfway through her wedding. The friend thought this commentary totally showed she wasn't spoilt or entitled. Do you think the friend helped her case?
@@zoomzoom7444 have you never had a budget before? Even if he's willing to go over the budget, she never checked with him before picking out the dress that went above budget. There's a disrespect to certain boundaries there. They had a verbal contract where he said the budget was set to 3k and she didn't respect that at all. If she had an unlimited budget, he wouldn't have sent the cousin to go and make sure the bride stayed within budget. Idk the behavior just goes in line with those kids who are careless with their belongings because they know their parents will just replace it. Like, just cos the parents can afford it, doesnt mean the kid should go smashing their iPhone when they want a new one.
Yeah right maybe the friend was jealous of her , and she wants her friend to get a ugly dress and to cause problems with her family🤔and she wants to be the center of attention ,and wants to be the bride
I feel bad that the dad put the cousin in that position anyways. It's like good cop bad cop. He gets to look like the good guy being okay with going over budget, while she tries to protect the budget.
Yup and her dad even asked her cousin to make sure the bride sticks to the budget, which shows that she acts like this often. She's just mad that she couldn't easily get her way.
I saw one where the bride refused to spend the full budget, even though she found a dress she loved, and it was a bit under ... This is so ungrateful. There are masses of brides who get gorgeous dresses for far less.
Bride: *tries on one dress* “A three thousand dollar dress just won’t look good” Me: *has seen hundreds of beautiful dress way less that three thousand* “Ok sis...”
@@varalyn9714 and there are still LOTS of beautiful, quality ballgowns for $3,000 or less. As someone who used to work in bridal retail, I can tell you that this bride was just being lazy and manipulative.
The last dress was gorgeous perfect for the bride , I wish this show would follow up on some of these videos , we'd like to know if she came back and bought this dress !
I always hate when brides disregard the budget someone else has set. $3000 is more than 10 times what I paid for a beautiful dress for my wedding. Your cousin didn't ruin your appointment for you, you did that.
