I think his friends are the problem, they are probably trying to set him off because they probably also know the past of his wife. Insecure or jealous friends are the worst for both men and women. If his friends keep bringing this stuff up, he's goingbto notice it in movies and when he looks at his wife. Also I don't understand men who talk about women and it's kind of rude of him to hang out with people like that. I'm sure that if he confronts his friends about this, they will showcase their true colors/intentions. They also should make more muslim friends.
+F Dah Amen! Wtf is his problem... Does he wanna convince me that he did not do ANYTHING before marriage? I can't stand such men. But if it were the man who did this shit, and he told the girl, I'm pretty sure it's going to be totally different. Aaaah, this pisses me off!
Awww Sid explaining that seeing Hana makes him remember that Dina gave birth to their child and makes him not be so angry at her is the cutest thing (could also kind of imagine Dina thinking YAY GET OUT OF JAIL FREE CARD when he said that) :')
A man came to Umar (RA) and told him that his daughter, with a bad past, was getting married to a man. He asked Umar if he should tell his future son-in-law about daughter's past. Umar asked him "How dare you tell him what Allah has kept hidden". The Man left, saying,"Thank you." (Omar Series, and probably a Hadith)
Oh my god ive rewatched that series 3 times. So good and informative alhamdulillah, if youre reading this comment and want to know more about islamic history i advise you to watch this series, 30 episodes . Around 40 minutes each. 😊 p.s they obviously dont show the propher saw and his wife out of respect.
+comb528491 you can't say 'probably a Hadith', there is no 'probably'; implying uncertainty whilst potentially quoting a hadith is dangerous to the preservation of truth
+tahir630247365 besides, what happens between a person is between them and Allah as long as they are not harming others. If a lady was a 'whore' in the past and has changed her ways and has been forgiven, NO ONE should bring it up or be 'offended'.
This sounds like an ego issue. Some people forget that the companions of our Prophet (SAW), before Islam (may Allah forgive them and us all), did terrible things, but Allah forgave them. The point is that they changed and they were forgiven so your husband shouldn't hold your past against you. Pray with him. Grow closer to Allah with him. The closer we grow to Allah, the more our pride diminishes and In Shaa Allah he will then really see and believe you're a different person.
Dina often does not let Sid talk or finish his thought, but it's cute because he always goes ahead and forfeits the floor until he can get a quick word in and he doesn't get upset.
If Allah forgives your past and you truly repent that's all that matters! Don't let the past ruin your future, everyone makes mistakes it's in our nature but we learn right? Your husband should be your backbone, bringing up your past is creating friction in your marriage which is not healthy at all. The past needs to be packed away and left behind When I get married I wouldn't even question my husbands past because I couldn't less about what he did back then, I will focus on his character now! In'Sha'Allah sis I hope everything goes well! Excellent advice Sid & Dina love you guys ❤️❤️❤️
+Rumena Begum that's a really good point thank u u should do this on ur channel like once a month I would love to see ur point of view plz plz plz ur soo great thank u
There's a running joke in the movie "Best in Show" where a married woman keeps running into her old boyfriends, who get very sentimental about their-- encounters. At one point one guy takes it a bit far, and when he leaves her husband starts complaining, and she says something like," Honey, that's my past. Who's my future? "
Knowing too much can be damaging in a relationship/marriage. It always starts out with wanting to be honest and open but often times too much irrelevant info is given that stays stuck in the partner's mind. The girl should not mention it again. If he does, she should always remind him that it is the shaytaan that is trying to come between them and they should be smarter then him together.
+PlainJay Not so much insecurity, but rather that we hold our spouses in such esteem, immaculate if I may, marriage can really be a dream for a lot of couples, and when some ugly past comes to light, that dream turns into a nightmare. We only confess our sins to Allah swt, there is a reason for that. But due to our good intentions and noble hearts, we want someone to know everything about us and that is does not always bring you closer together. It works against you. You were born alone and you will die alone. Some things only you will know and that is for the best :) On the day of Judgement, it will only be you and Allah swt once again. Islamically, you can be quite selfish huh, me me me me :D My sins, My birthday, My deathday, my my my my lol. Im rambling, sorry. But there is widsom behind Allah swts guidance for keeping things hidden.
+AhmedIbne it's not necessarily hiding anything. my fiance has asked me on many occasions about my past and I like to keep it between me and Allah. there is no benefit for him to know. the past is the past. it's not hiding anything unless you're still doing those same bad things.
I absolutely love Sid & Dina, but I don't agree with their advice for this woman to just ignore her husband when he is clearly feeling insecure and driving himself crazy with 'mind movies' of her past. The best thing for insecurity is reassurance. So maybe when the husband goes silent and is obviously upset, she should simply put her arms around him and remind him that she loves him, and why she chose to spend her life with him, how she changed her ways so that she could be a good wife for him. If she just let's him sit there, with his imagination driving him crazy, things could get worse, because what he is imagining is more than likely 100 times worse than what actually happened! So I would advise this woman to simply take these silences of her husband as a chance to reassure him of her love and her changed ways. It will help to keep her husband's focus on the present instead of the past. And also, spend time with people who are 'friends of the marriage': this means people who are supportive of your relationship, people who love you both as a couple and want to see your marriage succeed. God bless 😊❤
I'm an atheist, but if I found out my partner was speaking about other women as "sluts", there would be a huge, huge argument. Morality doesn't JUST come from religious people!!! You all need to learn about that.
Linda DU ROY Isn't it just? Religious people think they have better morals because they either cover up, or don't have sex before marriage. Let me tell you, if you choose to do such things, it DOES NOT make you better or more moral than people who choose not to to that choose not to. I usually like Sid and Dina's videos, but this one bugged me.
Suggestion: could you do like an after story update , where you tell us how each advice video turned out and whether it was a happily ever after or not?
It's so cute the way when Sid interrupts Dina she immediately lets him know and he quietens down but when Dina interrupts him he says absolutely nothing. I respects the respect they have for one another 😊👫
That's exactly why one of my relationships ended - I was honest about my past and I was totally into this guy and it could/would be a great relationship if he didn't go out and ruin the relationship with his insecurity & blaming me for something I didn't even do, just because he knew about my past. Some people just don't get it - *ex-es are exes for a reason - they belong to the past, not current life or future* :)
+MsKatzyy Oh, thank you :) I hope your opinion doesn't change because of the fact I'm not a muslim - I do follow a lot of teachings of Islam and I've learned why most muslims call it religion of peace :)
Thank you for brightening up my day!!! Your advice is spot on!!! Next to God your spouse and family is the most important thing to keep close to your heart. You two are so wonderful together. Life is short, so treasure every moment.
I really enjoy how you guys are as a couple, like your love and communication and compromising comes through in these videos. God bless you and your family!
her husband need to go over it.. if Allah forgive mistakes.. even the big one's if we regret and do esteghfar.. why people can't do it? it's not hard it's all about open their hearts finding peace and forget about the past.. let him talk to imam or any wise Muslim old man
Are you placing humans above god? Cos it seems like you are, the reason why most humans are incapable of this is because we are not the most merciful like God is, we are less than that.
Sid and Dina are so amazing! these advice videos really help. Also you grow knowledge on marriage and the solutions to the problems. which will come handy in the future.
Wow mashaAllah you two are such a great couple mashaAllah MashaAllah omg! I honestly worry for you guys cause Im afraid you'll get the evil eye! Sid is a great husband and Dina is such a supportive wife mashaAllahhhhhh if only the muslim community had more couples like you guys, we'd be able to raise amazing kids for the future!
I love you two, SO much! Such a healthy, respectful and amazing relationship. It's refreshing to watch you to speak on so many topics, and the positive views you two have on things. God blessed you both. (& Hana she's a lucky daughter).
I recently started watching your vids and im so glad you post regularly i just love you guys 🙌🏻 keep going. I think its great that sid joins you its nice to see the perspective of men on certain topics that women dont understand. Its very helpful. God bless you guys and your family ❤️
Never understood why sex is such a shamefull thing if you're not married in the religious world. That's why I am not really religious, I have my own way of seeing things. I love Sid and Dina's videos even if I don't always agree but I find them really modern and refreshing. On my opinion, having relationships and sex before mariage is perfectly ok (but you have to be serious, inform yourself about sex and protect yourself if you don't want children or/and if you or your partners didn't do medical tests). Now, it's been 3 years with my man. He was a virgin and I already had relationships in the past. He finds this perfectly normal and he's never been jealous about my past. He loves me, I love him. It's been 3 years, it's not much but we're happy. If we have problems, we talk and solve them. Still, I don't want to marry. My parents were married and religious, still they hated each others and were miserable. My man is confident, gentle and kind. Her man needs to have confidence. His wife is married to him, not to her exes. No need to be dramatic about her past sex life, it's not like she killed someone, lol. Poor woman, her husband seems to be living in an other age. He said they'll have a new life together, he's the one to blame because he can't get over it.
these are your values and u can have them ,for us Muslims we have different Civilisation Religion and worldview from west, here mainly the focus around Islamic value system as mentioned in our Divine Tradition
It is wrong to advice people not to be honest about their past to their future spouse. That's entering a life-long relationship with a blatant lie and imagine somewhere along the way someone comes and tells her husband, then he would feel betrayed by his wife. The woman did the RIGHT thing to be upfront and it is her husband who is having a problem with her past now, and feeling sort of ashamed but ultimately that's not her problem because he still chose to marry her even when she revealed to him who she was, and quite frankly he has to get over it. Everybody has a skeleton in their closet, whether it is how many people they were involved with before marriage or whether they had an eating disorder or whether they were addicted to drugs or have a spending problem or whatever else. He made a commitment to love the woman in spite of her past, so he has to be a man and stand by this decision to love his wife and be a father to his child.
Angélique Gatsinzi Let your future husband or wife know abt ur past so that infuture if these things come up they will not be more difficult to handle and , sex with different partner is like addiction it affects the commitment btw husband and wife , thats why in Islam premarital sex is Forbidden and punishable under Islamic Government because it is a threat to the institution of Family , How virgin wife and husband see each other as a source of love it cannot be seen btw ppl with slutty past , also dont go for virgin men if u r not virgin , U dont deserve it ,every virgin women deserves virgin men and vice versa as Allah says in Quran Chaste women for chaste men
MashaAllah they are such a beautiful couple. May Allah bless them and protect them, Ameen! Anyways, I have the same problem. I don't exactly have such a pure past. Even though my family is religious, I wasn't exactly, even though I wore hijab during my impure past. But I started feeling really bad and guilty about my actions, so I just separated myself from the world I used to live in. I've asked for forgiveness and still do so from Allah All Mighty...Alhamdulillah now I'm in a much better place. It's been 3 years since I left that kind of lifestyle, but my past still eats away at me because I'm worried that what if it haunts my future. I've confessed about my previous lifestyle to my parents and brothers, and yes, it was the worst time of my life. but they protected me and supported me and helped me move on from that bad lifestyle. What I'm worried about now is that I'm getting marriage proposals and I'm afraid and confused on whether or not I should tell the "future husband" about my past. My brothers say I should but my parents say I shouldn't. Then I came to know about how Allah has said that He has hidden our past and we shouldn't talk about our mistakes with others. What I'm afraid of is if I don't tell my future husband about my past before we get married, and then if he finds out after we get married from people around us? If he finds out from someone else, he will not only be angry with me, he will also probably lose his trust in me and this can, indeed, make our marriage rocky or even (God forbid) breakable...Sometimes I convince myself by thinking that 'the past is the past and it's not a part of my lifestyle anymore and Allah forbids us to expose our mistakes' but then I think 'what if he finds out'...Does anyone have suggestions from the Islamic point of view of what I should do when comes the time of meeting some guy I might end up marrying? May Allah forgive us all and protect us from evil. Ameen! JazakAllah
Miss Effenaii Let your future husband know abt ur past so that infuture if these things come up they will not be more difficult to handle and also dont go for virgin men if u r not virgin , U dont deserve it ,every virgin women deserves virgin men and vice versa as Allah says in Quran Chaste women for chaste men
Oh my god I'm totally making my boyfriend watch all your videos together with me because you guys are honestly SLAYING on all these marriage advice!! Relationship goals af!! 😭💗
Also the part where Sid talks about you being Hanna's mom and how he can't be hard on you because you already did all the hard work giving birth and all was too fucking cute I couldn't. I love how much he loves you. ☺️
OK Sid has to stop doing these videos because all of our men out here are looking bad. lol 😂😂 Love you guys. ❤❤ And yes, she needs to leave his feelings between himself and God. She is not responsible for his childish anger.
Say, “O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah . Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful.” Qur’an [39:53]..... If that is Allah, why not us?
I really like the comments on this video😊 I also think that no human being has the right to judge you and make you feel bad about sins you did in the past and which you regret and obviously the girl from the email is a completely different person now so I don't get it... But another question.. If I'm not mistaking islamic wise you don't have to tell your future husband/wife stuff about your past because if your sins are hidden to others it's like a gift from Allah BUT since lying is a sin I don't feel like it's ok to lie about your past if he/she asks you? and when you are talking about something and you are like "I don't wanna talk about it" it's also obvious... Also I do think it's very harmful if your partner finds out later on I mean I would feel tricked.. I would love to hear some opinions about it and excuse my english and the long comment😊 salam ❤
+aziz am. if u r not asked about ur past u don't have to tell unless u willing to. but if asked u should tell the truth (specially if u think that ur future partner can find it through someone else and get hurt or feel like u don t trust her and also if that truth can lead to a divorce if found so u'd better tell so she can make her decision according to that and then she wont be able to use it as an excuse to divorce)
+aziz am wait but how is she a 'completely different' person? Her plan was to have sex with guys and then get married and stay committed in marriage. That's what her plan was from beginning.
"I also think that no human being has the right to judge you and make you feel bad about sins you did in the past" I mean they should be judged. If i killed your familiy i doubt you would forgive me. a bit of an extreme example but you get the point
Females do gossip a lot but so do guys. In my community it's the guys that ruin everyone else's reputation. Don't be sexist, Sid :( still loved the video
I love how you talk about the hard topics for muslims! great job guys! I agree with you guys that the couple should surround themselves with more like minded people, if they want to start having more of a positive outlook. Same old people, same ol results.
For both guys and girls its important to be open with your past. I know a lot of muslim guys who saved themselves for marriage and are looking for a muslim girl that did the same thing. If they found out after marriage that they were essentially lied to (and yes a lie by omission is still a lie) they would probably end it right there or there would be serious problems. Your past isnt just your past. Actions have consequences and they can creep up on you.
Right, what gives you the impression that she lied, it be by omission or not, she said he was aware of her past. So no, she didn't lie. He just keeps bringing it back. And it's really really sad that you have that kind of mentality. It may be perhaps that she wasn't practising, but we should be forever thankful once Allah SWT has guided us. Never should we be scared that our past creeping back on us. Everyone has a past but we should not bring it up. Once Allah SWT has guided us, alhamdulilah. Please read this before getting back to me. islamqa.info/en/2021
Samiya Mukhtar So you think its unfair for a muslim girl or guy who has saved themselves for marriage to want someone who has done the same? Concealing anything in a marriage isnt a good idea and it will eventually come out. The link you provided is just an opinion, and if you notice the scholar did not provide islamic backing to it. There are many others who say the opposite.
+PlainJay that is my point. Everyone has the right to ask that question, and if the person does have a history then it can be up to the person asking if they would like to move forward. Otherwise there are plenty of people out there for both parties. But if the person lies and says that they dont have a history knowing that their potential spouse cares about that stuff then that is just wrong.
Let your future husband know abt ur past so that infuture if these things come up they will not be more difficult to handle and , sex with different partner is like addiction it affects the commitment btw husband and wife , thats why in Islam premarital sex is Forbidden and punishable under Islamic Government because it is a threat to the institution of Family , How virgin wife and husband see each other as a source of love it cannot be seen btw ppl with slutty past , also dont go for virgin men if u r not virgin , U dont deserve it ,every virgin women deserves virgin men and vice versa as Allah says in Quran Chaste women for chaste men
@Elite Concealing past sins does not justify deception. Where did this idea even start from that concealing sins means you can deceive a holy marriage contract and deceive your future life partner? People with your mentality are disgusting. The verse of not exposing sins referred to for example, not going out and bragging to your friends how many girls you slept with, if your partner has saved himself/herself and desires a virgin you have no right to deceive her. You can cancel the marriage contract without saying how many people you have slept with
Marriage is a beautiful thing. Yes it can be hard at times but every relationship whether married or not is like that. Friendships, relationships, marriages, siblings etc. everyone fights and has their downs. But you can get through it if both people want to :)
U know im 13 and i would want someone i could spend time with and someone who will be with me every day in this life and definitely in the next life (inshallah may we all be blessed with jannah) but someone with beautiful eyes and the purest and best heart who would love me every day, would i only meet in heaven definitely (if god wills) inshallah
+cupcake jasmine If you regularly pray to get someone who you're happy with in every respect, you have a great chance of ending up with someone who will give you the very opposite of heart ache and drama.
I love watching you guys interact it's so funny in a cute way, because you both get so excited but you're also saying the same things in different ways talking over each other 😂 Mashallah you guys are so cute together.
