She Reveals the BIGGEST Issue With Older Women 

Email from a Patreon Supporter: Hi Alexander. Been a long time fan of your work since you were doing a lot more interviews. After you transitioned to a different type of content I was a bit wary but eventually liked it even more, as I found it much more relatable. Any how, saw your most recent video about demonetization and wanted to help out in any way that I can. Don't have much to spare but I truly believe that the work you are doing is invaluable. I'd also like to take the opportunity to ask for a bit of your advice with a personal situation of mine. I'll try to be brief. I am a 32yo average joe that has a good, stable job. I am polite, moderately shy, smart individual who can at times transmit a certain degree of confidence (maybe not as much as I'd like). Dated an amazing girl (26) for about 3 months (really only went out on 6 dates maybe). Our relationship progressed to the level of being comfortable to make out and cuddle together (flag?) for hours. Unfortunately, she never actually accepted us being boyfriends as she "needed to keep going out to try and find the chemistry". This was something that I really didn't understand, as she mentioned several times that she liked me on paper, but was having trouble finding that spark she always found in her past relationships. If I had to make a guess, it would be that I was/am really bad at opening up and making women feel a wider range of emotions, including a bit more of physical "passion". I don't consider myself the bad boy type and, from what I gather from her past relationships, that's something that she is def looking for (as it matches her warm, touchy feely personality). My question is... is there any way that I can get a second chance with her and perhaps prove to her and myself that I can be more than I currently am? It's hard for me since we don't have many friends in common and I don't have any way to contact her besides messenger. Any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks. -------------------------------------------------------------------- My video response: www.patreon.com/posts/patreon-woman-28005810

Most women want to be the bride but not the wife.

Leonardo DiCaprio definitely watches these vids. He only dates women in their 20’s. Smart man

She can be 20 and still have a body count higher than her age.

My narcissist ex wife said "I didn't even like you when I married you", and she literally could not see the utter insanity in such a statement. Effectively it means, "I'm a consciousless moron". I literally laughed and asked her if she genuinely u derstands what she just said. Clueless.

This actually happened to me. After two kids, I would tell her that all I felt like was the maintenance guy around the house. She never cared. Even the day after we broke up she told me she loved me as a friend. Ten years of my life just to be thrown back to the world to be alone. Be cautious gentlemen of these types.

This is one of my biggest fears. That someone will convince me that she is in love with me and that we should start a family. But after babymaking is over she will stop giving me any attention. Then it will become obvious that she only wanted me for my resources. I suspect most marriages are "dead" like this, after family is made woman stops giving husband any attention or love.

More men need to be aware of this. Men can typically fall in love (or have lust) for a woman of any age. Usually it's to their own detriment leaving some guys emotionally or financially burned.

Women don't love men. Women love that men love them. Very different if you ask me.

I date a wide age range. The thing that separates the early 20s girls from early 30s girls absolutely is their ability to love. A young girl will believe in the relationship and invest herself in it, the 30 something knows the game and is using you to satisfy a specific set of needs. You hit the nail on the head

If you want a loving relationship, buy a dog. lol.

I see it a lot with career women, they'll get married for 2-4 years in the 30-35 zone.

A guy at my work is in his 40s and is married with two children . His youngest is about 10 years old and he told me he had not slept or had sex with his wife for those 10 years since the second child was born . Apparently she blames him for not earning more money ( even though they own 5 properties ) . I’ve given all my advice but he simply won’t leave because he says he will financially lose everything and also be cut off from his children . It’s sad because he says once the children are asleep he goes out and sits in the garage alone or just wonders the streets.

I'm turning 28 this summer and this concept is a huge part of why I find it very difficult to date women my age. They're right on the border of still thinking they have youth on their side and realizing the clock is ticking. It's an interesting transition to witness, to say the least

In college and after graduation I dated a girl for 5 years. At age 27 she said “she wasn’t getting any younger” and if I didn’t marry her then our relationship was over. I declined and within 6 months she was married to another guy. The clock is that powerful.

When I was 62, I was invited to a wine tasting mixer. The room was filled with 30 to 40 year old women. I swear I heard uterus's vibrate when I walked in the door.

I know plenty of "older women" in their mid/late 30's that act as if they're dating in their 20's. The entitlement force is strong in the older women too. This goes for non-attractive girls too

7:46. 59 year old Australian lawyer here. My experience is that the older woman does not abandon the strategy. They still act like they are the prize. The only difference is that the mature woman is concerned about her impending retirement, and wants a man as her financial plan. Amusingly, notwithstanding the generally low savings/superannuation levels of mature women and their cratering SMV they still won't settle for less than they believe they deserve. They still think what they are bringing to the table is of the same value as what they had when they were in their twenties. I recommend a binding financial agreement to all men who are thinking about partnering up.

This is why it is *extremely important* to be perceptive of your surroundings. Ex. Having the ability to be aware of what people want from you, like what women want from you within a relationship, can allow you to navigate a minefield of potential relationship danger. Read true and read deep into people's portrayals for the clues of what their wants and needs are; it'll save you a ton of grief and strife in the long run~

This is why I'm thankful for my wife. I was 19 and she was 18 when we started dating; 22 and 20 when we married. That was 10 years ago. She's my best friend and we've had 3 absurdly cute kids together. EDIT: 13 years now.

A 40-yr-old female client invited me over for apple pie and ice cream and coffee a few years ago when I was 46. We are both doctors of one sort or another, and we had a fun 5-hour conversation in her kitchen, then she completely ghosted me, despite telling me at the end of our talk that she hadn't had that long of a conversation in years. I had briefly mentioned my lifelong desire to not have children during those 5 hrs. About 6 months later she was visibly pregnant. I think she was looking for a sperm donor and had a fall-back man waiting in the wings.

When I was 61, I dated a 34 year old woman. After three months she said we should have a baby. I said we can't...I told you I had a vasectomy. She then said well, we can adopt one. Then the aha moment. It clicked in my head...hmm... We adopt a baby. She quits her job, stays home with the baby and I support both of them. Nope. Not going to happen. I broke up with her two days later. Ohhh...women are so cunning!

What he's saying has happened exactly to me. I met her when we were both 29. At first it was amazing. Then she got pregnant at 31. Now my son is a year old and she won't even allow me to see him and I have to go to court for the custody. Her and her parents' behaviour has been absolutely disgusting. Please be careful!

Truth: Love combined with sex is far better than the two separately.

Incredibly accurate. Women in their 20s are out to have a good time. As soon as I started dating women in their 30s, I had to meet pre-determined criteria because they had a calendar in their minds. Dodged all the bullets. In my early 50s happy as a clam. NOT so much for my married friends.

When Alex says "She might even like you" - Boy that hurts. It reminds me of the When Harry Met Sally movie quote where the ex-wife stated " I don't think I ever was in love with you" - that after a decade of being married.

My friends give me crap for wanting to date women younger than me. Most of it is in good fun but a bit of it is mean-spirited. Maybe this is a short-sided view, but my career is coming together and I have a lot to offer now and why would I spend that on someone who never would have looked twice at me when I was younger? Suddenly I'm "OMG such a good catch!"?

This happened to my father-believe me, this stuff is true. He married a woman with 3 kids, and got VERY LITTLE in return. And yes, for the most part, the older a woman is, the less she gives a damn about you.

*Survival instinct* You have the assets needed to attract male specimens for survival but having those in abundance, because contemporary societies, there is no rush to settle down and the wish for exploration kicks in. Later in life, when the diminished results become a fact, you just rush into something, and thrust your claws in the first “best” opportunity. Out of scarcity, that choice befalls onto lesser favourable speciMENs.

I'm thankful for my girl and I being on the same page here. We're both in our 30s and neither of us have ever wanted kids.

I don't need much attention I just want my sandwich

This is all 100 pct accurate. You always go for the younger woman..I'm over 38 and a woman over 30 is too old for me. A younger woman is looking for love and romance. The younger woman is generally more fun to date, take trips with, etc. Isn't as bitter either. Also a single mom is the biggest mistake you will ever make. Avoid like the plague.

Jokes on them. I have no resources to provide.

She is being completely consistent with her strategy, you are a role, not a person. Your best line ever: "She might even like you." Nicely done.

Damn I'm gonna be single for ever lol

I met some 36 yo on tinder, she thought I was baby material until we met up and she realised I live in my campervan. She got angry and left straight away. Hahaha ill stick to early 20s thanks

I used to think that these videos were an exaggeration. Until it happened to me. I was THIS close to being sold on the deal. At the last moment, her consistency “slipped up” and I was brave enough not walk away. Looking back with a clearer eye, I see all the patterns you described where present in the relationship. To think there’s that level or “practicality” in approaching a relationship that borders on pure manipulation makes me sick to my stomach

You thought yourself as a player when you started hooking up with the older woman, and wound up just playing yourself.

young women want fun and romance from you, old women want your money

"...She'll laugh at all your jokes, she might even like you!" - ouch. Felt that one.

there are also female late bloomers, or women who are just plain lost I think. I'd hope to find someone who's at least older than 25. I'm not into young women. Most of them are childish, and the emotional maturity is different

The biggest problem with dating a 'younger' woman is the likelihood that her head will be turned by others and you will end up just being another notch on her bedpost...

How true this is . I'm almost 60 and sadly my marriage is over to this exactly . I wish i would of had more knowledge of this when i was in my younger years in my 20's . So many of my family and, friends have run down this path . I think the study of psychology and biology should be a start before selection . Truly fascinating .. Great topic Alexander .

I had exactly the same thing with my ex and after 9 years I realised that she didn't love me and I'm not sure she ever did.

Damn it, that's spot on. Wish I had listened to that long time ago. I dated an older woman a few years back and the love bombing was all I could see. But the more I got to know her to more I could see the bigger picture. She was in her late 30's , so clearly thinking about having babies after having a lot of fun in her prime. After a few weeks dating my spidey senses tingled. We're still in touch but I can tell she was really looking for someone to secure a child with. The older they get , the more desperate they get unfortunately. I feel like I've dodged a bullet with that one. Great video Alexander.

I agree 100% with this. Perfect example is a gorgeous woman i dated at work around 10 years ago. She and I still talk and now that she is in her mid 30s she's really wanting to have a kid with me and even jokes about wondering if I can have a beautiful baby like my brother's 3 year old daughter. It's obvious I can but I can tell that it's the only thing she really wants.

For me, 25F, It is most important to be with a man that I can have a fulfilling partnership with. I don't want to have children with the wrong person. When I have children, I want to raise them as a family unit. Being a single mom is my worst nightmare. It bad for kids to grow up without the influence of both parents in their daily lives. So to hastily settle down & have kids with someone whom I am not compatible with would be like setting myself up for failure, & future divorce. Of course I am going to gauge his ability to provide a stable home & financial means, because if at all possible I would like to be a stay at home mom until my child is old enough to go to school. I want to spend time raising my own child instead of having a stranger at a daycare do it. I figure that my biological clock has not yet set off the alarm for running out of time. But if kids are in the picture, it is their needs before my own. & if I could not provide them the life they deserve then I suppose I have no business making babies.

2020: When you have to apologize for being corny because u used the words "fall in love with".

In all honesty I don't understand what the actual definition of marriage is in the West. It appears it's not about fidelity to one person, since the wife or guy cheats. It's not about sex, since it's not obligated in a 'modern' marriage. It's appears, it's just about resources for a woman. The guy has no real benefits. So what's the purpose of it? And then they wonder why guys don't get married. Even if people accept that sex or intimacy can be withheld from the guy, fine, then he should be allowed to seek time with other women, if for nothing more than 'meaningless, unemotional' sex. Everyone is happy 😊? No?

That "fall in love with thing", the 'passion era' ends a LOT sooner than their 30s. Most gals only have that in their teens. Even at their 20s the whole thing already starts to be about all kinds of shallow and usually very faulty calculations and scheming. Even classical authors wrote about this, read how Gogol describes in "Dead souls" that the worst thing that can happen to a girl is becoming a (scheming) woman, and that monologue isn't about a woman approaching her 30s... and he is 100% spot on as always. I also don"t think they "desire to have a baby", that's BS. They fear poverty, and they think a baby is one of the surest safeguards. That's not how human reproductive instincts work at all, it doesn't wave around a 'cute baby' on front of your mind's eye. Nature is far more practical and looks for the simplest solutions. Men simply want to fuk women, women want security so they have to come to the man, and the baby happens. Nature never even trusted you with knowledge how babies happen, just like it gives you zero information about how your digestion or your heart works. You have drives, and it all just happens.

Ok, I am a woman, but please hear me out here. :) I don't think that having a mercantile "what can he do for me?" view of men is something age-related as much as it is mindset-related. The kind of woman who views a man as only a wallet and some sperm in her thirties has most likely viewed men as just wallets in her twenties, too (except that at the time, she didn't need the sperm). Sure, having babies becomes more important with age for, well, all normal women. But if a woman is the type who understands that a genuine connection in a long-term relationship is far more valuable and desirable than pure mercantile interest, she is not likely to suddenly change her stance ten years down the road. And if she quotes bad experiences with men as a reason for becoming a mercantile b... witch, she is probably not being entirely honest, either with you or with herself. Again.. it's a mindset and an upbringing thing. As for why women stop going for "bad boys" as they age is that they learn to distinguish between arrogance and confidence. The crack-smokin', class-skippin', motorcycle-ridin' rough-around-the-edges "bad boy" they thought was cool in high school is simply not long-term relationship material. But at this time, most girls are not mature enough to look past their own fantasies. They don't really fall in love with such a guy for who he really is, as with the picture of him that they paint in their heads. "He is a jerk to everyone around him, and to all the other girls he's dated, but he will be different with _me"_ is a bubble that bursts very quickly. :) But the realities of 30-year olds are different. The desirable man is not some beta doormat. But he is not the typical masking-insecurities-with-arrogance college "bad boy", either. Instead, he is confident, intelligent, mature, collected and stoic. Someone who had time to work on himself. He can go through with achieving his goals, and commands respect from those around him. Aggressive when necessary, but also reliable, rational and, when necessary, gentle. Someone with a lot of control over his own life. Someone whom a woman can trust with leadership and decision-making. 20-year-old girls are also subconsciously looking for these traits, too, but they are usually not experienced enough to discern a young man with potential from a future meth head 😜 Yet older women, if they have a brain, learn to see what's really in front of them, rather than looking at the world through rosy-tinted glasses. That doesn't mean that they view all men as trash or something. "Men are trash" is NOT a mindset of a mature and intelligent woman.

You might want to pick a girl based on personality traits. The things that drive women are not the same across the board. And they aren't limitless either. Enough women want the caring loving man. Who will form a foundation with her for having children. Its always AND not either or. There is no choosing between love or being a provider. They should be part of the same driving force.

Mate, younger women also are quite cold and practical. They don't want romance... Also a 20 year old is inexperienced sexually and in life, has most of the time ulsoved physiological issues and just wants a complimentary man by her side to show off.

I sometimes joke that woman are temperamental when they hit puberty, before the period, during the period, after the period, in between periods, pre-menopausal, during menopause, but then back to being normal again after that.

This is so sad to hear :( for both genders. I’m a 30 year old woman. Happily married though with babies. My friends my age either don’t want kids or have them already so I never get to hear things like this in person. But I do believe women like this exist. And it makes sense. I met my man at 27 and he was 35. I had baby fever at the time, but luckily so did he. My question is, is it a bad thing for women in their late 20’s/early 30’s to want children right away? What if they are looking for love too?

I generally agree with you. But 20 years old women are also not so good, for a guy who 32 years old. Why? Because it's not all about the love she gives you. It's not just about her sex appeal. It's also about her "ability" to see the real you. Yes, a 20 year old girl might really want to see you for who you are, but can they? When you are so much more complicated, and experienced as a guy? What I love about older women is that, they are much more clever, experienced and grounded. Generally. Also, when your ages are closer, you'll have same kind of issues regarding age (more or less). A 20 year old girl is not necessarily committed either. They are usually really spoiled and want to "get everyone", want to try out every man they can get. So their emotions are also not very reliable. My ideal partner would be around my age, preferable one or two years younger than me, and DOESN'T WANT CHILDREN. :)

My intuition is that it's more difficult to keep a younger woman because she will want to explore and not settle down too early and that she will demand more kicks from you compared too an older woman who would be more content with a reasonably good relationship.

Sad to say it but this crap is exactly what happened to me. Claimed she had polycystic ovarian syndrome and couldn't get pregnant without a doctor's assistance so the condom wasn't necessary.... WRONG!!

Yeah you hit the nail on the head on this one. The people who are exceptions to this, are fringe and knowingly ignore most men.

Damn, that did shine some light on my and my friends lives... thanks for sharing!

Great video! Thanks for all you do!

The hormone of pair-bonding, oxytocin modulates this action. Oxytocin is a powerful hormone that diminishes over time

Interesting. I think men do this too. How much do men really care about a woman's deepest desires and thoughts? Not that much I think. These videos are really good, and seem to describe basic biology of men and women, and strangely we've all been lied to about this forever.

Good, true explanation. Thanks Alexander!

Inspirational. Thank you Alex.

I agree once a woman reaches an age where children are not a priority there is a chance for genuine love. The trick is to find one.

Men definitely have more time. When my grandfather was born, his father was 62, and grandpa was not the last child.

Great Video Gracey! Have a great week brother!

I think you hit the nail on the head with this one ! I find your videos very insightful

Something u may have overlooked is the effect of hormonal contraceptives on the woman's instincts. Women on birth control act and think different. Similar to post menopausal women but just without the life experience.

Where do you even find older women who don't already have children from their past marriage(s)?

I love your work, goes past mere commentary and opinion, and canvasses the underlying reality

Always a pleasure to watch and listen to u Alex Another great video 👌🤗

One of your best videos. One of the most critical topics. One thing that scares me bad.

Yeah my mom married at 38, had me at 39. My dad was two years younger. They live together and love each other. I dated older men, I had 0 connection to them, I just kinda did it as a joke and cause it made me feel superior to older women, since I’m the one getting their men. Never would I seriously consider choosing an older man over someone my age.

Right on time, thanks for this video

WOW. Alexander. I want to thank you for making these type of videos.

If you really want to be loved. Love yourself!

Question #1 for any woman: "Can I CONTROL him?" This video is true.

Bro!!! thanks for this information

Bang on the money Alex! Good insights.

20 yos are after money and security or drugs.

Maybe people should get married earlier? Is that old fashioned? Since this is true, it's practical. My wife was 25 and I was 31. She was in love with me. I wanted to commit. Almost 20 years later we,are happy. People might argue I got a raw deal by being a man who's value will go up while hers goes down... whats the benefit of remaining single for me? Just sex? waiting longer for embittered and manipulative or bitter older single women to form a relationship with isn't a good move. My advice, get your bearings in your late 20s and early 30s fall in love with someone who sees your potential before you start really succeeding but is still smitten with you. Marry her.

This is very true. Women are practical, and don't necessarily love you. They just see you as a person to fill a role for HER.

Hey man it's really good to see your videos are still making it. Algorthrithms kicking ass all over the tube. Hope your doing good financially and all the best. Keep up the good work and keep up the great vidz. Peace man!

This is what happened with Monica and Chandler in Friends series :-)

It is very very true that Romance belongs to the young, not the old, wisdom belongs to the old, but Romance belongs to the young

Brilliant video alex!!

great new insights, thank you

After she get her baby, she can file for divorce and she is set for life. It's brilliant strategy.

You are breaking new ground with your commentary and laser focused interviews of women, congratulations!

Very Very Useful video.

This changes a lot .. thanks !

I have one concern in all of this. This day and age the 20 year old isnt thinking long term at all. Sure she wants to connect with somebody but many women are quite superficial with regards to what they mean by "connection." The issue is the 20 year old doesnt realize that shes going to change her strategy when she turns 30 so she doesnt plan for it.

I had a discussion on another platform, about the best time for women to have babies. Due to complications and potential health issues, over 40 is out. Most women feel their biological clock ticking loudly at age 29, and if they have two or three children, they'll be stepping on lego blocks as they get up for their night-time pee, well into their 40s. Until you reach that age, you have no idea how tiring it is to do this. Not just that, but a woman's body gets squished out of shape by each pregnancy, and it just doesn't bounce back like it used to do in her early 20s. Now she has incontinence to deal with. And so do you (hers). So I concluded that the *best* time to have *all* your children was by the age of 29. i.e. start at 23-ish. When I told my dad (born in the 40s) he scoffed and said, "When I was at school, most of the girls left at age 16 and were pregnant and married within the year." Society isn't ready for that change, but it doesn't make it any less true.

This is the video i needed to see in my current situation. Thanks much appreciated.

a friend of mine's wife is pregnant at the tender age of 44. Thinking that at 30 they are running out of time is unrealistic.

Wow this video is spot on, it's the exact situation I find myself in. Thank you for helping me understand. I met a 40 year old childless woman when I was 21. I had never been as love showered as with her. I got struck by infatuation and three months later she was pregnant. Now we have a 18 month old son which I love but our relationship is so boring and I just want to leave her but it makes me look selfish. Great insights mate!

Very true! I have lived through this.. Also, most of my family are females, so I've seen all sorts of female levels, emotionalism, schemes, hiding stuff, etc, etc, but the biggest thing is my mom is a really down to earth, salt of the earth type of old days farm girl and I witnessed a lot of her life and she always liked men more than women! Today at 78 she still hasn't changed her opinions on females . She says they're too messy and full of bullcrap!!! She is different and I think only approx 5% of female's are somewhat more like men and 95%of them are follower's of societal social trends and of other petty, silly, selfish types of females... Anyway, good content! Peace, Power and Prosperity Brother!!!

Brutal Alex. Hard to hear but great info thanks.