That bit at the beginning with that girl complaining of how college students dress. I cannot tell you how many lecturers have joked about how they envy students because they can dress in sweatpants and hoodies while they are forced to adhere to a dress code.
Well those professer are being paid and student are paying to be there. Also how college professors dress has is a lot more relaxed than it used to be even when I was in college it wasn't that strict as far as what people wore. A lot of men just wore like khaki pants and a button-down shirt and a lot of women basically wore a simple dress or against something like dress pants and a button-down dress shirt. Meanwhile college kids mostly wore jean and sweats etc.
if she's talking about actual networking with classmates, you need to look your best, but this LITERALLY only mostly applies to business majors and IN SOCIAL EVENTS. NOT IN COLLEGE. NO ONE CARES IF YOU DRESS LIKE THAT TO LECTURE. I legit tell you the professors will not even remember what you wore yesterday.
Very rarely a professor would care about the way a student looks like!! And the ones they do are not... normally... people you'd want to network with anyways XD
The girl who responded ‘did u burn the steak?’ to the lady who was like ‘he still punched me, what do u do then?’ is legitimately disgusting. Like that’s… despicable.
omg when I was 20 year old me and my college girlies would literally go to the petting zoo and feed the animals then go home and make some homemade pizza while we just sat at the table and talked with each other. this was a birthday party. what 20 year olds is she talking to
Spoiler Alert: NONE of them get Picked. Not even for a one night stand. Tearing someone down to build yourself up isn't just Cringe, it's pathetic and immature behavior. It's behavior that should've been left behind in middle school, freshman to sophomore year of high school at the latest but we've got grown, tax paying adults acting like this. "I'm not like other guys/girls..."- what's wrong with other guys/girls? All these people are doing is embarrassing themselves for the whole Internet to see. It's sad!
One pick me said that having a husband you have someone to talk to. While the other pick me is saying be quiet and a hand maid. No matter what you do as a woman. Just live your life and center yourself before getting in a relationship
The funny thing is, neither of them has a man yet they're trying to give advice. On another topic, did you know it's really easy to become an astronaut? I mean, I've never been one but I know everything about it, apparently.
I went to college in 2005 and sweats and pj's was how people showed up to class--ESPECIALLY early morning ones. And noooobody gave a single fuck. No one. And I am willing to bet, college students have been dressing this way for decades before me. This isn't some new trend by "kids these days".
I was in graduate school with the reigning Miss Louisiana at-the-time a billion years ago. Guess what she came to school in? Sweatpants and a hoodie. This was also early 2000s.
It was the same in the 90s. There was one dorm where residents were expected to dress up for meals and classes held there. Ole Miss might still have a dress code
Getting to dress up in comfortable casual clothes is one of the best parts of going to college! It was like that in the early 2000s when I went. Claiming that it doesn't show "pride" to dress that way is braindead nonsense.
As someone who went to college in the late 90s, no. College students did not use to get dressed up to go to class. This is more dressed up than the usual, if anything. It was much more likely to be shorts and flip flops and the same t-shirt we slept in. How is some 13-year-old going to act like she knows how it was? Is this just a thing, people far too young to know s*** telling people who have the life experience how it is?
I went to college in 89 and early 90's and toured colleges in the late 80's. Sorry to disappoint her, but we looked the same back then. Nobody was dressing up! Lol! You have to run it back to the 50's, sweetie. Thats cringy.
Seeing the casual wear honestly makes me a little embarrassed that I overdressed XD I am someone who got dressed up to go to class cause I get dressed up when I go out. It's been a habit to just not wear clothes I'd wear at home, out. But everyone wears what they want and honestly, when finals takes place at 10pm at night or 6am in the morning, no one cares what someone wears.
@@sapphireshineauthor There's nothing wrong with dressing up, just like there's nothing wrong with dressing down. It's not hurting anyone. Do your thing.
She lists all the things she's missing by being single yet the number of women who have shared stories about asking husbands and boyfriends to help plan vacations or have a conversation only to be ignored could fill the library of congress. Too many men have shown they don't bring anything to a relationship.
That's so weird to me, okay so someone dresses nicer, okay? But why does it matter to them if others dress down(in their opinion). They're the ones that want to get picked anyway, so it's a good thing other people wear hoodies and not them. It's just repackaged bullying and concern trolling.
@@dialuann878 That's very layered, in the 90s for me that was called being a tomboy girl and now that's more gender identity coded for others these days. Although, the hyper-feminine types laser focus in on that sort of thing and target people for their differences.(a thing in any era) It's just people went from calling girls 'weird and 'a loser', to 'pick me', even though usually she isn't even considering that type of thing yet or ever.
No one is stopping any of these people from dressing like they want. The first girl can dress up in heels and make up every day if she wants. The problem is she hates that other women can make choices different from her.
As someone who is Asexual, the thought of being in a relationship, personally gives me the ick. I don't like being touched, I don't like anyone in my personal space. I have plenty of friends and family I can go on trips with, have dinner with, etc... I don't need a man in my life to complete me as a person. But, then again, I don't hate myself or my own company. Pickmeisha's are beyond sad and have no personality outside of being desperate.
@@user-hb3mh2pk7yso they have a good family and good friends they don't need someone to compliment them. Why are you asking what's their reason for being asexual?? Especially if you know it's commonly because of trauma.
That third women just seems so sad to me. Imagine coupling your self-worth to whom you can impress on the internet with your appearance. I get my hair bleached and dyed in blues and purples, because I *lovelovelove* looking like that. I enjoy it. It gives *me* confidence. I couldn't give two flying F's whether someone online or irl likes it, because it's not on their head.
Bro??? I had a phase like this but genuinely what the hell? Even during that phase I couldn’t imagine posting shit like this online. Especially as a grown ass adult?? This is a phase I went through when I was ELEVEN
1:43 some people have roommates, some people don’t. Some people have a partner they live with, some don’t. WHOS GONNA TELL THIS PERSON THAT NOT EVERYONE NEEDS TO LIVE WITH SOMEONE/SOMETHING ?
2:13 damn, so we can’t be happily single now either? She’s only paying bills for ONE PERSON. If she can financially support herself, that’s fantastic! And it’s not like she can’t invite people over for dinner, or go to her friend/family’s houses for dinner!
College in the 80s, dress for success era. We dressed pretty grubby for class, but business teachers expected us to dress a bit more professionally for teacher meetings. Not required, but a step into the real world of business at the time.
People who say “I’m so ashamed to be a part of this generation” and “UGH I hate my generation” are generally just as bad. I’m not saying you are, you’re hella real for not wanting to dress up for collage, but it’s just as bad behaviour lolol
0:43 i love dressing up for random things (including school) but if people want to dress casually, why cant they??? Nobodys telling her that SHE cant dress up and look pretty if she wants to. The whole point is that you can wear what you want nowadays🤷♀️
Idk id be kinda pressed if my best friend said they cant play games with me anymore because of a significant other, especially if ive known them for a long time. Like yes listen to your significant others boundaries but i also get to be upset about it
I have read some reddit stories when a controlling patner isolated their lover from their close friends and family.however in the case of girl bestie and boyfriend and girlfriend.There should be clear boundaries.I mean who would want to be in a relationship and constantly be third wheeling .I wouldn't stop a guy from obviously having close reliable friends as girls but if they were constantly going out together alone ,being in each other presence all the time and having a special bond ehhh I don't know about u but I would just leave that relationship and leave the guy and his girl bestie togetherness.
Majority of girls I met who dressed perfectly everyday at university are those who don’t study and don’t work, party all the time and have multiple boyfriends in a year. I achieved my master degree with hoodies and jeans. When you don’t even have enough time to sleep because of busy working and assignments, there’s no way you can dress like going to a fashion show.
The only time i reall dressed to the nines during college was for my thesis defense. I wore flips flops to class. You can even show up wearing pajamas and no one will care.
wearing sweatpants and jeans to school sounds like a blessing, uniforms and 'dressing up/smartly' can be uncomfortable and expensive, among many other things. im jealous of those who get to go to work/college like that
Me realizing i DO speak about makeup, boys and clothes with my girlies, AND i could survive a COD lobby. Why pick a side when you can have both lmaoo makeup is lovely, so are videogames
I got a scholarship for college, so I went to a private college and let me tell you something: MOST of the people that dress up for college ended up failing the first semester or dropping out before finishing. We went from a 40-something students to a 20, and mind you, it was 20 AFTER merging 2 classes because there wasn't enough students to keep separate classes.
8:31 ngl it is a red flag when a partner doesnt let you have friends of the opposite gender. like… toxic behavior. and a significant portion of my friends have been online friends. if one day a person who i’d known for years ditched me because their partner said they couldnt have friends that are girls or whatever, i’d be pretty upset.
the best part is, these people are getting mad at what SOME people do. The generalization and being offended by other people existing is getting extreme man... jeez it sounds like a miserable life to be so judgmental
Especially if you're on a school team and you JUST had morning practice... WHO'S taking a full shower and putting on a dressy outfit just to go to class?!
I'm 10 years old and i'm so freaking tired of the "iM nOt liKe oThEr GiRlS" trend. And the "TeEhEe iM sO qUiRkY I pLaY gAmEs". like shut tf up, and attacking PEOPLE, not just people.. HAPPY PEOPLE.. AUGGHHHH "a little makeup, style your hair.." what happened to "nautral" & "clean girl" and "botox". 😃 FUN FACT 😃 botox made 2 people paralyzed and 1 dead. and you still choose to do it? I would rather live in a world of robots then have a friend that wears jeans that went through a zombie Apocalypse. You are 1 in 7 billion, change.
Frfr but you shouldn’t really expose your age online. Some people are rlly weird and can do bad things to you. Other than that, you have a point and i completely agree with you
No one needs plastic surgery. People can get it if they want though because, their body is their choice . Everyone is beautiful on the outside, just the inside that can be ugly. I understand where your comment was going, but no one “needs” plastic surgery to look beautiful. 😅
okay, i find it kinda weird about the part at 7:41 like???? i’ve never had this exact type of a situation, but i can tell that it’s actually hard to leave your online friend especially if you’ve been friends for years as it’s been said. Personally I don’t try to get people to stay in cases they don’t want to be friends anymore, bc ig it would be better for both of us and i respect their wishes. Still… let’s put it the other way: your friend doesn’t want to talk to you anymore bc her boyfriend told her that she can’t have male friends. Is that still counted as normal? I just think that it’s a question of trust and if your partner gets that jealous over you PLAYING ONLINE GAMES with some person of the opposite sex… it’s not okay i even can kinda find it reasonable when you try to prove that that relationship you have is actually friendship (when nothing else is actually going on)… it’s so confusing to me…
@@nataliar6419Exactly. It irritates me that on the internet there’s a lot of controlling and toxic behaviour normalized. If someone replaces you with new friends or romantic partners they don’t love you and you don’t love them. Either way it’ll come back to punish them because in the adult world you’re mostly on your own and no one can keep having fun forever.
"It's an online game, just find a new friend" really annoyed me. It's especially hard for women to find good gaming buddies due to the classic Gamer Misogyny that permeates all these games.
@@jadecoolness101 YEAHYEAH JUST???? “just find a new friend (find another person who you’d get along with, get to know each other and spend a few years together)” like it’s easy💀
I almost never dressed up to go to class, only if I had a date or job interview right after. Otherwise it was sweatpants and a hoodie/tshirt. I did dress nice the first week but that’s just me ig I did see a gaggle of high school kids all in pjs and thought “damn those kids would’ve gotten ragged on when I was a kid but ig it’s different now”
About the last one, it is pretty hurtful when your friend who you've known for years suddenly stops talking to you when they get a girlfriend. That doesn't mean she "wants something more," she just wants her friend back. And yeah she could just "find another person to play with" but people aren't replaceable like that. She obviously felt a special connection towards him, and he took that away. But idk maybe I'm just a crazy TikTok pick me too.
8:29 just to say for anyone, seeing someone as a sibling even if they’re the opposite gender is okay, it’s when it’s someone you’ve never met or don’t know well that it’s weird
I'm single, live alone, and I LOVE it. I have lots of friends and family I can talk to when I want, eat with when I want, and plan vacations with. Just because you enjoy living alone, does not mean you are missing out.
Here is how to prove 7:08 "they're all the same": Because THEY say it. Everywhere you go is one of them saying "See, us guys do, say, think, believe, feel XYZ" and gets tons of likes and verbal agreement. When one does something embarassing or wrong? They say he isn't a REAL one, meaning they define themselves as very specific and same. If they disagree, they NEVER speak up and contradict the guys bc they're too scared to. So don't let them get mad at you for taking them at their OWN word. 🤔
Yeah i dodnt wear sweats to class because putting on jeans for me tells me its time to listen and get into the student mindset. But yeah be comfy if you wanna be comfy. Be dolled up if you wanna be dolled up because it makes you feel confident but dont tear people down.
Yeah, absolutely not the whole dressing up works for a couple of weeks but as soon as you make your group of friends that goes out the window for example, I used to dress up for college to look all cute as soon as I made my group of friends, which was like two girls we started dress like bums, sweatpants, and hoodies every single day. No one has time for that especially when you’re packed with assignments and sleep deprived who has the time to look for a decent outfit and also I’m trying to be comfortable while in class.
I went to college from 1990-1994. I wore that exact same outfit, as did everyone else. Nobody got dressed up to go to class, and this was over 30 years ago
I have a gf and she has this friend she calls her "bae" "bbg" and other things her "bestie" hates me I do spy on them bc i think she is cheating bc i asked her if she would ever do anything to hurt me, she instantly ranted about how she would never cheat (my gf only chats with her "bestie" online so i use a alt account) I wanna say I dont feel comfortable with her being friends with her "bestie" mainly bc she also said "I like someone else but i also love you". This has nothing to do with the video I just needed to talk about this and get it off my chest cause after she said that it broke my trust with her and im pretty sure made my depression even worse cause now i dont even wanna sleep or eat anymore.
I didn’t realize calling a guy friend your brother was bad, definitely gonna stop now 😭 We’ve known each other for over half our lives (we just made 13 years of friendship) and his personality is like a combination of both of my actual brothers so it made sense in my head😅 Plus calling him that grosses out my family members who insist that we’re secretly dating. Which won’t ever happened because I’m very very gay (and they don’t know that)
honestly. I have a guy best friend and I say he's like a brother. but that's because he IS like a brother. people in school would ship us everyday and guess what? I'm also gay as hell
regarding the first one, my mum would literally tell me that in her college, if you wore really fancy clothes or something that wasnt EXTREMELY simple the professors would tell you "this is a college not a catwalk!"...
Yeah so true, i don't really talk to girls often cause like i'm 11, they are already using branded skincare, anti aging cream, but if there was a girl like me i have no problem
Well in my 60's and hardly ever wear make-up. Just think the Average American women will spend $350k over there life time on make-up. Just think of all the money you will save.
10/11 year olds are actually kinda crazy (not specifically you though, just talking about the other "tik tok" kids) like you're 11 you don't need anti-aging skincare if you are a child 🤦
a woman who is close to me said 'a woman who is in her thirties and not married, means theres something wrong' i could go on for hours about how her lifestyle does not fit up that standard but yeah, glad we don't talk anymore 😂
8:44 I thought this was consider controlling behavior though? I get this particular lady is giving desperate vibes, but I've seen so many women say that dudes don't get to say who they're allowed or not allowed to talk to and that it's "controlling." Genuine question, I'm just trying to keep up 😓
I agree, that’s super controlling. Who comes into their new partner’s life and tells them who they are allowed to be friends with or not? Especially friends they’ve had for years before they even met you?? If you think your partner is gonna cheat, why are you even with them? Telling your partner that they can’t hang out with their friend anymore is controlling behavior, for any gender
THANK YOU! I thought I was going crazy because the only comments I found here are bashing on the girl and excusing the girlfriend. I agree, begging is wrong, but controlling your partner is so much worse that, to me, the begging becomes almost insignificant in comparison.
I love dressing up, even to the most unimportant of places, I had end of year tearing this week. I wore shorts and graphic tees. Sometimes you don’t have time or the energy to dress up, it’s not that big a deal.
Ngl, seeing the "hes like my brother/sister" being so common but then they end up doing something horrible feels like shit cos i have a guy friend who i think of as my little brother. Not just him but we were working together in a team with another girl and another guy and i always saw them as my little siblings and theh saw me as an older sibling. I dont talk that much with the other 2, but this guy and i are still close. When he got a girlfriend, i asked him outright if she is okay with this cos i know how sketchy "he's like my brother" sounds. She said she is, but i still try to keep my distance. I speak to him like how i normally do (like he's a younger sibling) and help him understand his girlfriend's POV and how to help her when shes down and show her that he cares. Like when i tell you he's like my sibling, i mean it. It sucks that phrase has been ruined and used as a cover for sinister shit. Its cos i have a younger sister, i automatically (for some stupid reason) look at everyone younger than me as a younger sibling and ill help them as such.
My friends (early 2000's) didn't have expensive sweats with a sports logo on them. I had several friends in college who wore stolen scrub bottoms from the hospital. They were labeled property of the hospital right on them. 😆
Pick me girls ,guys can see right through you. We know this is what you think we actually believe or want to hear stop your getting laughed at behind closed doors.
I take college courses and I dress up a little to attend my classes. But that's just because I enjoy looking good and putting in the effort to do so. Guess what? There are days where I don't have the time or energy to do that, and show up in a T-shirt and leggings, it doesn't really matter. Some people like putting effort into their appearance, others don't. Neither is inherently better than the other. It's fucking college, so long as you are learning something from your classes you're doing college right.
I went to Cortland. And guess what? I dressed up. I got looks, but I did it anyway. If you don’t want to wear sweatpants and a hoodie you don’t have to! I went there! I dressed up! It wasn’t hard! Cortland also gets wicked cold, but you can still do it, cuz I did it! Just do it! Don’t complain about it!
Nobody is dressing up unless they want to. Some people’s classes are way across campus and having to walk in professional clothes in the heat across campus isn’t comfortable.
the way people saying "he is like a siblingg!!" just to stay with them even tho they want something more obviously is so frustrating and disgusting, i met someone online (I've known him for like years) and he is quite literally my brother idc, i don't want anything more then him to be my brother, but people like that make me grossed out bc how are ppl supposed to believe it when we think of each other as JUST siblings with people who are using that as an excuse to stay with someone. ALSO WHY WOULD YOU CALL SOMEONE YOUR INTERESTED IN YOUR BROTHER?????
5:49 okay your friendly old person here…ummm hi 👋 So fun fact you really should not be making a steak for males over 30. There is 250-400mg of cholesterol in steak. For males over 30 the recommended dosage is 200-300mg otherwise it hurts the liver. It can be lethal for old men. Young ladies do with that information what you wish ❤
Im ace, aro and happily single. No partner can ever compare to the the peace of solitude and being able to do whatever i want when i want and decorate my place however i want 💅
5:15 I didn't smoke or drink and people actually wanted to get me to come to their parties. Not because they liked me, or thought I was cool, but because I could be the designated driver without any sort of argument at all.
7:42 Hard disagree on this one. A partner that makes you leave a friend behind is a red flag. Isolation is often the first step toward abuse (ever seen Pee Girl?). Make that choice for yourself. Framing it as "respecting your partner's boundaries" is frightening.
Agreed. That last one really irritated me. Being in a romantic relationship doesn’t make you above anyone else. People think that really controlling or possessive behaviour is romantic or funny.
@@vanillapinkfluff3477 nobody is saying she’s the “boss” if your girlfriend is uncomfortable then you try to make her comfortable, if someone is overstepping on her boundaries then that is a problem, if your friend was making your partner uncomfortable you’d just tell them to suck it up?
@@Scaryspider555 Then they should ask themselves if that lack of comfort comes from insecurity. Insecurity can be weaponized in a relationship. If I have to isolate myself to keep you from worrying that I'll cheat then we probably shouldn't be together at all. You clearly don't trust me which means we have no foundation in our relationship. Ain't nobody got time for that.
Eh I kind of disagree with the last one. I've made lots of close online friends while gaming and I would be upset if a friend I've known for years just dropped me for their significant other, especially if I've known them longer. I mean I wouldn't be begging or nothing but I think it's kind of messed up
5:30 As someone who was 20 in 2017, there are ABSOLUTELY people out there who get upset if you go out with them and don’t indulge in some kind of vice. They’ll have you believe that your sobriety can (and will) legit hurt other’s feelings; ESPECIALLY in college! Had a girl tell me that I think I’m “better than others bc I don’t drink” (but also remember, I’m 20 at the time; the club wouldn’t serve me anyway). So can we shy away from “that didn’t happen”, and shift to, “it’s highly unlikely that this happened”? Only bc of the dichotomy of, just as much as something doesn’t happen to you, something does happen to someone else. 🤷🏽♀️ Things aren’t always black and white, particularly with human nature 🤞🏽
Love your videos and energy Hayley. You hit on all the things that’s current that bug me. lol You also are so much more mature than many 30-40 y/o’s. Happy weekend!!!
I wish casual dressing at uni was the normal thing in my country too, jeans are uncomfortable but people judge you if you don't even try (it might be because I go to the design faculty of the University, but most of the people I've seen in the other buildings are not dressed casually either).
0:15 yeah decades ago because the standard of what was acceptable to walk out of the house wasn’t a full length dress like I get it. Victorian style dresses look cute and very pretty but like hell that I’m gonna walk into a class at 6 AM most likely with no breakfast and walk in class wearing a full ass dress fuck no you get sweatpants a T-shirt and maybe just maybe it’ll look slightly good together and matching colors and stuff
1:54 ok really quick tho... she said she comes home from working TWELVE HOURS????? how do you have time (and social battery????) to find a partner? plus she said shes happy being solo, this person just press record and said "I AM PROJECTING MY INSECURITIES ABOUT PARTNERSHIP AND BEING A WOMAN" man get over urself... say you don't know anything about women's issues without saying it.... there are many reasons being single for straight women can feel better
