It's not about aesthetics. It's about losing our village. People are going to the internet to find the communities they should be reaching out to in the real world, but it's 1) expensive to do a so in most cases 2) Hard to find the right circles when their are so few and 3) not having time or energy to do so. So "I'm a silky mom" "I'm an almond mom" "I'm a crunchy mom" is really just "I identify as part of this community" There's loads of examples of this even outside of parenthood.
Parents of that generation really seem to be having children to serve as dolls to show off or an achievement to announce instead of actually being parents
@@heath6802 I think it's not just that generation, older parent-child relationships were also based on showing off your kids/ representing how good your parents are at parenting.
@heath6802, that has been a thing since I don't know how long. Some parents either show you off or not take care of you, but usually it's a middle ground
it feels strange considering i struggled with weight as a kid. yea, we had to switch when i was a kid and i was still chubby! we should teach varieties of eating food and how to establish a good relationship with food. have some treats here and here, but also let's make eating healthy fun and enjoyable!
“i’m a silky mom. of course everyday they get a happy meal and Mac and cheese and I don’t care if they get diabetes and heart disease or even terminal illness because at least foods like that make them happy let kids live fast and die young 😍”
@@Octowoman2419 my friend's mom was leting her eat only meat and snack bc she didn't like It. She only forcing her to eat corn. She's having problems now
"don't take them to the doctor unless they are REALLY sick." That reminds me of something my father (boomer) did to me years ago. I was having diarrhea every few hours, and told him i needed to go to a doctor. he told me i had a "nervous stomach" like my grandma. a few months later it was diarrhea every few minutes. again he told me it was just my nervous stomach. i told him i had nothing to be nervous about, but he insisted that a nervous stomach could cause trouble even when not nervous. Eventually it was about a year since my problem started, and i was in the bathroom for 24 hours straight. just chugging water hand having diarrhea for 24 straight hours. He FINALLY says "fine, maybe something is wrong" and got me a test kit from my doctor.... turns out i had Cdiff for a year. i was sick for a year and nearly died, because my father decided he knew better.
Dammit so much! I'm a boomer, but the last thing I'd do was ignore my daughter if she came to me with something bothering her! Kids or not, they know their bodies better than anyone! What kind of parent invalidates their child's concerns about their own health? I don't know what my daughter was born in, as I don't follow the boomer gen x millennial thingy, but she was born in 1992. Thankfully she is the kind of mother I was; attentive to her child's needs and responds to her kid when he goes to her with something HE knows is wrong. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I'm surprised your little self survived! That's a lot of fluid you kept losing for an entire year, or more! I hope he felt horrible after he found out he was way wrong. Love to you and that kid in you who had to suffer so long.
I’m so sorry for you. And still I would say kids get sick a lot, and while their immune system is down from sickness it’s not always the first thing to go to the doctor where they can (and probably will) get exposed to worse illnesses, so I do think that, BUT (!!!) if a child is having diarrhea for over 24 hours that’s DEFINITELY a valid reason to get to the doctor (as diarrhea is a very serious symptom) there’s a place of in between that parents today are neglecting because everyone and everything has to be “all out” and to the extreme otherwise it doesn’t count 🤷🏻♀️ but it goes all ways.
Diarrhea is the most common cause of death for children under 5 worldwide. Children have a different physiological ability to cope with water and electrolyte loss. They will dehydrate much quicker than an adult. It’s likely that you initially had “run of mill” diarrhea initially and that weakened your immune system to be able to fight off the bacteria which later caused the infection. It’s insane you went so long with that infection, I’m sure not exactly how long someone can have C. diff, but in my experience with patients so far in my 5 years of working in a hospital, I’ve only seen it active for ~ 1 month or it would come and go for a couple weeks at a time. I don’t have kids of my own (yet), but I worked on a Children’s’ ED unit for a couple months and initially, I would sort of get irritated at parents who brought their kids in for things that could’ve been a normal doctor’s visit. But then we had a kid brought in who should’ve been brought in much much sooner… I realized I’d rather deal with a day full of negative flu and strep tests from overly cautious parents than a single case of negligent parenting
@@Im_nothim34 Because of course it’s a highly agreed comment and I agree to it of course. But I’m not saying they’re not allowed to say it though for if they want to say it, they can
Back in my day my siblings and I drank water from the hose, badly scraped our knees from falling off our bicycles, yet still had to wash our hands before eating and were taken to the hospital for illnesses. Oh I’m 23 btw, not 70.
My mom was a combination of strict and lenient. She didn’t care where we went as long as we stayed in the neighborhood and came home before the streetlights, and if we DID want to leave to go to the park or something we had to ask her or our older cousin to take us (they playground was literally two blocks over and right up the street). We had snacks and tv and stuff but that was limited. Had a healthy amount of technology AND going outside. Going too hard in one direction messes your kid up.
@@therealopaartist Thank you!! Something my mom always was "too much is never good, and too little can be just as bad." She's amazing. Unfortunetely for other kids, most parents can never find the middle ground between being strict and lenient.
The clip of the mom crying and telling the baby to stop hitting her didn't sit right with me. My mom did things like that when I was growing up; it was usually when I would just say I wanted to hang out with my friends, get my license, and more recently, move out. I still did all of those things, but it made the process unnecessarily stressful and scary because I knew that me making independent decisions would make her cry and slam doors in my face.
Thanks, guys. I'm alright, what helped me was that my partner always reassured me that I was just doing the best thing for me and I wouldn't have achieved independence if I just listened to mom. I wish she had been more supportive in the past, but these days (now that I'm in my mid 20s) she's slowly opening up more to my ideas. Sometimes our parents won't be there to encourage us when we need it, which is why it's good to have a support system outside of home. I'm very grateful for my partner.
Same! Story is that when we moved 3 days after my second birthday, all my parents had to do was stick me in my new bedroom with my little rocking chair, a stack of books, and my favourite stuffed bunny. They were good for at least an hour…obviously I wasn’t reading many words at that stage, but just looking at the pictures and remembering the stories was good. Now, forcing younger and younger children to LEARN to read when it is not developmentally appropriate yet is different, and every child is ready at a different point. I was reading some words and things at 3, but really took off around age 5.5 when it was fully introduced to those of us who were ready in kindergarten. Funny thing that readiness…we only had 2.5-3 hours of school a day, yet we still managed plenty of academic skills along with playtime outside, phys Ed class, music, and indoor playtime (I remember the play kitchen setup in the classroom and the doll house very well). It’s possible to do both.
I don’t understand why children being able to read from a young age is seen as a bad thing. I picked up reading extremely fastly & I loved to read! It’s better for kids to be spending hours reading every week instead of watching mindless tv (of course I don’t think parents should FORCE kids to read for hours but if they chose to, then why is that ever a bad thing?) for hours that doesn’t help them improve their cognitive abilities at all.
I learned to read at home before I started school, and I've loved reading all my life. My sons (who are 14 months apart) were both interested in learning to read before they had started Grade 1, because they saw how much I read and they liked it when I'd read to them. I made it fun, and, because I wasn't obligated to teach them to read, I'd make the lessons flexible and stop when they'd had enough, because I assumed that if I forced them to do more than they wanted they might lose interest in reading. Like me, they've been lifelong readers.
I learned to read at home before I started school, and I've loved reading all my life. My sons (who are 14 months apart) were both interested in learning to read before they had started Grade 1, because they saw how much I read and they liked it when I'd read to them. I made it fun, and, because I wasn't obligated to teach them to read, I'd make the lessons flexible and stop when they'd had enough, because I assumed that if I forced them to do more than they wanted they might lose interest in reading. Like me, they've been lifelong readers.
@@VictoriouslyRandomagreed. It’s the accessory baby trend and because many of them were teenagers when they had them the kid suffers. This is what’s causing gen alpha to be such terrible people. Because many of these kids were(and are) the accessory babies born in the 2010s that were born to a large minority of(a lot of) teenagers who wanted to showcase their cute baby as if they were a furby accessory trying to copy the celebrity (spesficially the kardashians and Kyle Jenner) accessory baby trend which resulted in the aesthetic of parenting and having a cute baby without any of the actual work needed to raise a baby to a functioning human being with good literacy skills, a reasonable education and basically becoming a functioning person. Oh and teen mom the tv show(which despite showing some of the darker sides and contributing to a decline in teen pregnancy’s some dumb kids still took inspiration) . It’s made even worse because now TikTok and instagram reels glorifying pregnancy at young(like teenage) ages for aesthetics even if said person was not ready or willing to handle responsibly raising a future adult and showing none of the true consequences and sorrow that comes with ruining your and a future humans life, instead being filled with instagram photos of cute mommy and baby in matching outfits on highly staged photos with no hint on how difficult it is to raise a human being. anyway The baby was never supposed to grow up as a person and become a functioning human being but to be a silent being with no thoughts of it’s own to dress up and show off to instagram and Pinterest. Essentially a doll. However when that baby started to grow up into their own person and becoming a human being because as it turns out baby’s grow up to be a functioning adult. The parents has no desire to be a parent and does not know how to raise a functioning human so they dumped them in front of iPads in order to get them out of the way and basically negelect them. The consequence is that now we have an entire generation of kids who have not been taught basic lessons and how to be a functioning person. This is scary because they are our next doctors, artists, writers, musicians, librarians, mechanic, firefighters, plumbers, etc. and they end up with social media addicitions and have shockingly short attention spans thanks to overstimulating RU-vid shorts and they were never taught how to be a successful person who thrives in society all because they were treated as disposable photo props to get more IG likes. To be clear not every parent is like this and there are many parents trying to raise their kids good and teaching them to be a good person but it is concearning how the accessory babies are now being turned into monsters at shockingly young ages. I really hope people wake up and realize that this is a problem and how we need to educate kids and prevent toxic Tate influences on boys And toxic trends on girls. We need to let kids learn positive values and teach the, about diversity and how to be a good person and helping other people and doing good things and working hard to achieve whatever goals they want. We need to fix this and help prepare kids to be a functioning good adults so that they can succeed and it even affects the kids who weren’t accessory babies because the peer pressure to act more mature than before has ramped up significantly as the moms of the accessory babies shunned kid appropriate outfits and acting their age and stuff because they wanted the babies to be dressed up in adult fashions for instagram photo ops and have engrained that acting like a kid is stupid and that they go from accessory Baby to hot young adult with no inbetween in their minds which warps them to act like an “adult” when way too young and if a kid simply acts like their age group they are often picked on by accessory babies which means that a lot of kids are now under peer pressure to grow up way to fast because the accessories kids that dominate the school and act like monsters towards everyone else. It’s because they were never taught how to be a good. Person. And it’s because of the parents who wanted accessory babies for instagram rather than raising a human. Like it’s the 30 year mellenials who take their kids only to instagramamble play areas, dressing them up for photo shoots every week in new clothes, going on instagramamble vacations and even having another baby only for clicks. This is the reality of the situation we are seeing the consequences of this in real time. The kids were never taught how to be a person and because of that they have almost no manners and learned all their lessons from toxic influencers and or consumerist influencers. It’s because the parents neglect them instead of providing moral lessons on how to be a good person, teaching them right from wrong, or even providing them good tv shows like BCG, and bluey instead dumping them in front of iPad content farms that rot their attention spans without any moderation causing them to have no imagination and tech addictions and then for the boys watching toxic influencers like Andrew quagmire tate and his merry band of Herbert the perverts(it’s a family guy reference). And for the girls being brainwashed into acting like adults and buying skincare that burns their skin instead of age appropate skin care. It’s a whole mess that we need to do better with our next generation of people because we need to stop treating kids like they are just instagram photos and they aren’t babies with on and off switches but babies that grow to toddler then kid tween teen until they become an adult who should be able to do basic functions in society. I am legit concerned about the next generation and them being addicted to content farms rather than quality shows with educational and entertainment value and not being taught basic morals like don’t steal the cookie, everyone is equal, clean up after yourself, don’t rudely interrupt other people. or even helping them get to grade level reading and stuff(and I’m not counting kids with disabilities, like autistic and adhd kids) to function in society. like I literally heard that sped kids with disabilities and autism etc are literally doing higher reading levels than regular kids because a lot of the regular kids were never taught. It’s legit concerning.
The unlimited snack thing got me. Sometimes you have to tell your kids "No" or "eat a piece of fruit" because eating candy and chips all the time is terrible for health.
Yeah, my parents have technically an infinite snack rule but they limit how many of a certain snack I can eat daily, like, only one peanut butter cracker thing (because the crackers are very salty), infinite apples, I can have apples whenever I want, I can have one banana a day just because that's a lot of fiber, I can have as many strawberries as I want as long as I save some for my siblings, etc.
As someone who eats fruit, Having fruit in the house actually makes a pretty damn good alternative to snacks. I got sick and tired of sweets a long time ago, but I have yet to get tired of fruit, even though I consume a hell of a lot more fruit than I ever have with chocolates.
@@Lyzwyzrd That’s similar to what my parents did. Most junk food was only once a day except for holidays like Halloween, Christmas, Valentine’s Day, and Easter. Birthdays would sometimes be an exception. Even on the holidays we still had decent moderation for the most part. I know there were two times with the expectations when I had too much candy and faced the consequences myself. They were a bit more lenient with vacations as well but the main rule was eat your meal before getting a snack or dessert. Depended a bit on the specific vacation. If we were at a theme park they would have more healthy snacks and those were mostly free for us to have as needed
I hate those “crunchy” and “almond” moms, because let me tell you there is a BIG difference between being healthy and being practically neglectful. If your kid is dying from an illness, you are practically abusing them by just using an essential oil and not taking them to the doctor.
I was born in 96, grown up as a TV kid, unlimited screen time really does screw up a kids learning ability. Throughout K-12, was a struggle, as a little kid, I couldn't read, math, spell, count money, tell time, had multiple tutors, low GPA, I barely graduated high school. The long term effects really do impact my adulthood, I'm years behind my age group.
@@ritzritzer7836I think it’s meant to be the opposite of crunchy. I don’t really know how to explain it, but ReallyVeryCrunchy does a really good exaggeration of it
@@CarbonatedCondensation no the creator put the def in the video, they are someone who practices more lenient style parenting and is doing so with tech and easy access or something similar to that because i'm to lazy to look back at it
That poor kid who got their candy taken away is going to have food security issues as a teenager and adult. Sure it seems like a small thing, but it's shit like that that makes you have hidden snacks in your room at all times in case your mother decides something you like isn't allowed in the house anymore
Yeah, I don’t think unlimited candy whenever you want is good just like I don’t think how this mother swaps out all the candy for the healthy alternatives is good. And listen, I’ve had those bear fruit rolls she included in that video and it SLAPS but I also still love Mike n Ike’s and pez. I think restricting the “unhealthy” candy isn’t going to benefit this child in the long run. My biggest parenting concern for my future kids is how I am going to instill a healthy relationship with food, out of all the things I could worry about it’s that. My own mother was raised pretty old school-traditional “we are eating this for dinner, if you don’t want it, too bad; you aren’t leaving the table until you eat it” thing is, she has the worst ARFID I’ve ever seen in any person before. Her mother had to eventually give in and fix her one of the few foods she eats because my mom would sleep at the dining room table and starve herself for over 24 hours rather than eat a single piece of corn. My mom in turn, never learned how to cook anything other than the handful of foods she eats and let me decide whatever I wanted for every meal- which was a McDonald’s happy meal or a frozen kid’s cuisine every. single. day. Now, I have perfectly good food in my fridge but I would rather not eat at all unless it’s something I specifically want to eat. If I get a craving for chips and salsa, I will literally deny all other food and try to acquire chips and salsa. It’s really exhausting, and I’m not rich, I really don’t have the luxury of always fulfilling what it is I want to eat. I also end up feeling really guilty because I do have perfectly good food I just won’t eat, it’s such a privileged issue to have that I am working on trying to fix. I’ve always been underweight my whole life and people think that just because I’m thin, I’m healthy but that’s not the case because I never grew up with my nutritional needs being met and I know I still don’t meet them now either. It probably doesn’t help that I prefer eating nothing at all to eating something that I’m not in the mood for. I have a lot of anxiety about how to provide my own future kids a happy medium. I’m thinking that offering a handful of options or predetermining meals ahead of time would be a good solution but I just can’t imagine myself enforcing it since I know I change my own mind on what I had planned vs what I really want to eat in the moment :/ Sheesh sorry for rant on a random internet comment
I was so shocked when I babysat these American kids who had ipads, TV in every room, ate candy and chips instead of food when they were hungry and occasionally got fast food. Their mother excuse for this was because she had a traumatic childhood where her parents tried to force her to eat nasty healthy food. And for all the electronics, the excuse was that she didn't want them to be bored, but also she didn't want them to go outside and play because it's "too hot" outside. It made me furious. Some people should not be parents.
The Addams family actually support their kids, like when pugsly joined boy scouts, they were concerned at the change, talked to a professional, the professional said "he's good" and they tried to learn his interest, and they did
Yeah the dark and macabre humour aside (which clearly isn't meant to be taken seriously anyway), Morticia and Gomez are actually way better parents than most have ever been in most generations, for the sheer fact alone that they were actually present and emotionally available for their children, are actively involved and interested in their children's lives, are supportive of their kid's interests and activities, and actually did positive reinforcement instead of the typical punishment style of parenting.
“I’m a silky mom, of course my kids have unsupervised access to the internet and will probably be groomed by multiple creeps, which will therefore cause them tons of issues!🤪🤪”
12:02 it’s also possible that her child might have diet restrictions due to allergies? And maybe she did it for fun? I am a child with a very strict diet due too allergies and I personally still go trick-or-treating just for the fun of it. And my mom gives me treats that I can have. Though if this is not the case, yeah the mother is a bit of an asshole
I was thinking that. Trick-or-treating is still fun for kids who can’t eat any of the treats. This is a great way to do it for kids with severe allergies!
Im pretty sure its not because of allergies. She said stuff like "healthier foods." she never really put any implication it was only because her daughter COULDNT have the foods.
7:52 my mom did this when I was little and it made me feel like a disgusting *thing* and led to suicidal thoughts and hating myself, I’m still afraid to talk to my mom about it because I don’t want to burden her
as a person who was given unsupervised internet acess since an extremly young age. giving kids that sort of acess from a young age is a TERRIBLE idea. the internet is not a safe space for children. its never going to be. i got lucky, and just ended up a weird theatre kid (with a bit of a fanfiction phase thrown in). some people had it WAY worse and got HORRID ptsd. dont give your kids their own devices until theyre AT LEAST tweens. and supervise them while theyre on the internet until theyre at least teens.
As someone who started on the same path as you (theatre kid stuff, fanfic and other phases) but didn't end up so lucky (got groomed and did end up with PTSD). Yeah, the internet is just not a safe place for children, whatsoever honestly. No matter how careful and safe you are online when you're that young, it's just such a slippery slope. And I worry with the declining rates of general education levels in this new generation, it'll make these children even more vulnerable to people out to prey on them
also, your kids WILL, and i mean it, are bound to find inapropriate things on the internet. i found out what a rimjob was at eleven because of this kind of "chuck a device at them and we'll be fine" parenting. kids are curious by nature and will find this stuff if you let them on the internet without active supervision. and its hard to even tell that they know about this stuff if you're not being attentive with your parenting. its hard to imagine that, but you cant just think youre special and your kid will turn a blind eye, because kids are naturally rebellious and if something is labelled as "innapropriate" they'll be curious about it. im not saying dont let your kids on the internet, just dont give it to them unsupervised until they're teens. and "supervised" means youre activley watching and interacting with your child while they're on the internet.
These mothers claim they don't want to rob their children of their childhoods, yet they are actively allowing them to enter a world where they will be forced to mature at a very young age. 💀
I've been on the Internet since the mid/late 2000s as a little kid and saw some SERIOUSLY messed up shit. The scary misinformation that I believed, the unsupervised conversations with adult strangers... I now believe that the whole Internet should be for 13+. I am terrified for children today who have TABLETS- at least I had to physically sit at a comouter where my parents could see me!
I hate that millennial parents are being targeted for being “crappy” parents. 😅 Most people seem to forget that these are also gen-z parents, not just millennials.
Gen alpha here! My parents were the “gentle” parents. But they did it right. They still punished me, gave me healthy food (even though it was harder because I’m autistic), and they don’t shove an iPad in my face. I do use on but I watch a lot of tv too. What gentle parenting is, is parenting without abuse. A lotta millennial parents need to know that. Just to say it again, I’m autistic so I need the gentleness a bit.
I want you to know I hear you. I really think the only criticism is for people who are disguising neglect and they say they’re gentle parenting, but they truly never learned how to do it. I think the thoughtful applied gentle parenting is terrific, no criticism here.
It is important to show your children emotional regulation through modeling, but absolutely not in the way that mom did sobbing at her son. I would always say ‘mamas very upset right now, I’m going to go take a break to calm down, take breaths, and then I will come back and we can talk about this’
"why do i need to stare at them while they practice? That doesn't do anyone any good..." ....why do you need people to watch while you work out? That doesnt do anyone any good...
And they were outside on the football feild! Could she not just take a few laps around the field while watching him if she “had to” squeeze in a workoutout?
Hearing “why do i need to stare at them? that doesn’t do anyone any good…” breaks my fucking heart. What have we come to as a society that you can’t see the value in watching your own child be happy and express themselves? shouldn’t you WANT to watch your kid doing what matters to them?
7:40 That kid might grow up to walk on eggshells all the time, or be incredibly reluctant to recieve help from anyone out of fear of being a burden. There's nothing wrong with sharing your emotions to your kid, but straight-up having a mental breakdown in front of them while telling them "I'm exhausted because of you," is going to plummet their self-worth.
My mother used very similar tactics when she was raising me and it really messed me up. I am still working through these issues in therapy. I cannot believe that that mother can claim that she is teaching her kid "emotional regulation"
(Read the Whole thing guys don’t defend these “Parents”) Please! Do not give your children an iPad until there At least in there double digits, there was a study showing if you neglect your baby, they’ll get upset and uncomfortable, if you play with them they will have a really good time don’t just shove a device in front of kids it literally RUINS Life’s, I’m not kidding, We just had a baby nearly 2 months ago and it’s the best playing with her and seeing her beautiful smile. (Edit 3) Ok you guys are idiots, In school, THAT’S FINE! For something medical, ALL GOOD, you guys *DO NOT* Understand what I mean by not letting them have an iPad till they’re 10 i mean don’t get one for them to scroll till the Universe explodes For Needed Reasons GET ONE but don’t just get it if it isn’t important!
My cousin died years ago and his kids went to my aunt. The youngest one can't read and he's 10! He became an iPad kid. Open mouth runny nose, can't read. While my sister had a baby 4 years ago and the little girl can read and speak better than him, I can tell ipads are very bad for kids :(
@FinnJayMakes what if they need it for school which many schools require tablets/laptops from middle of elementary say 3rd grade age 8 or 9. I was in my mid 20s when the I pad was released in April 2010 I myself own a 6th gen I Pad classic for about 6 years
@@courtneypuzzo2502 I said, Don’t *YOU* Give them an iPad till there at least 10, I don’t care if it’s for work I really don’t, it’s just when you shove the newest tech in front of a Kid’s face and let them scroll for hours till they can’t think properly, it seems like you’ve read my comment wrong and are trying to justify this bull crap.
Parent of a kindergartener here. They don't take naps in school, my daughter reads at 2nd grade level and has homework every day. Sometimes I wonder if humanity has always been this ridiculous and we just didn't know because social media wasn't used or it's just getting progressively worse. I'm scared for our future every time I scroll.
Raising grandchildren here, no, they do NOT take naps, they go full days now, not half days. My grandson was reading Dr. Suess books at age 4, he enjoys reading. I encourage it. But kindergarten is totally different than it was when my children went. It's focused more on education than socialization. Kindergarten used to be to get your child ready for school and to learn to socialize with other kids, but many go to preschool these days.
@@GrandmaJoJo-gd6yh my daughter has been reading since 2. All children should be encouraged to read. It’s insane that there are parents who discourage it. Yay for your grandson!
@@GrandmaJoJo-gd6yhsad that my own younger brother had to skip preschool entirely because of dumb covid then. i can agree, he used to have tons of homework. and barely any social skills at all.. he cant even solve arguments with our neighbor’s kid around his age. hes in second grade now, but i can clearly remember his times in kindergarten a few years ago right after covid was beginning to lift up.
@@decoystars definitely! I remember years ago, my oldest was talking during class, he was in 2nd grade and his teacher gave him a reading assignment as Punishment!!! I called her up and said, absolutely not!! I do not want my child to view reading as a punishment! I want him to enjoy reading. I said he will not be doing this punishment and I'd rather if he had to sit in at recess as punishment, but no way us reading going to be used like that. She understood where I was coming from and he was given a different Punishment
@@GrandmaJoJo-gd6yh good job! Too many parents also let others shape how their own children see their own education. All learning should be seen as fun and enriching, not as boring or worse a punishment.
I'm going to homeschool my children because public school failed me. I knew how to read by preschool and was sent to kindergarten where the other children didn't even know how to count to ten. I was constantly waiting for everyone to catch up and they never did. I don't want to subject my kids to the same thing. It's unfair. And yes, they'll be socialized. Just because you met one homeschooled weirdo doesn't mean they all are strange.
These kids are being set up for failure. We can sugarcoat it all we like, but these kids are going to grow up with a shitton of issues and now way to handle them. However, if there's a bright side to all of this, it's that in 30 - 50 years, the Therapy and Nursing Home Industries are going to be booming.
I am so afraid for these kids. Already there are kids of Gen X'rs who are in their 20's who are at the level of middle schoolers that I have met, and I was in shock. Like, society is going to fall apart if we can't give these kids the upbringing they need.
At this rate of education with parents who think teaching their kids proper manners and how to read is "robbing them of their childhood", there won't be enough new workers in such industries to support that boom
I’m only 2 minutes in, all I can think about is…I was already reading novels when I was in first grade. Reading WAS my childhood, to the point where before I was even 9 years old, my mom removed the light bulbs from the ceiling fan in my bedroom in an attempt to get me to go to sleep on school nights instead of staying up all night reading books. But I solved that problem by just going out in the hall, turning on the lights, and sitting on the floor to read.
Haha! Definitely, I was into the Beverley Cleary novels early in grade one (Canadian here) and plenty more. My mom went so far as to check my bookmark in the morning to see if I had read past the ‘allowed’ point. Problem is I had insomnia, and reading helped instead of tossing and turning forever…she didn’t understand.
the mom that said she was teaching her son emotional regulation wrote that he "acknowledged her feelings and said it's okay for her to feel overwhelmed" ...ma'am, that child was sucking his thumb and babbling because he had no idea why his mom was being loud in his face.
7:49 How is having a breakdown in front of your baby teaching him “emotional regulation” ??? Your kid isn’t responsible for your emotional well-being. This reminds me of those narcissistic moms that are always saying how patient they are and how much they care but are A-ok with dumping all their emotions and baggage on you.
The awkward thing is that children mimick their parents. Not only is she stressing the kid out, but she's also teaching the baby the *exact opposite* of what she wanted to teach him in the first place.
That mother mentally breaking down in front of her kid really makes me mad! My mom has done the same thing with me for years because she has a bunch of mental issues, but that has caused me to have a bunch of mental problems as well!
Oh for goodness sake, why on earth are these mom's even having children if they're not going to parent them? If home aesthetics, games, and working out are more important than the well-being of their children then these moms need to stop popping out kids. Being child free is fine too if you're not going to parent.
I hear Selkie parents instead of silky. Honestly a seal woman being held captive who will abandon her kids as soon as she gets her hands on her seal pelt again sounds like a step up from Millennial parenting.
whenever i see parents like this, it just reinforces my belief that there should be a test people need to past before becoming parents. like these people are not equipped to be raising entire humans
7:35 As a mother, this is the only one that I can semi-relate to and am ok with, sue me. Key word is SEMI. Growing up, my mother showed absolutely no sad emotion. She never cried in front of me and insisted that I keep my emotions inside as well (aka suck it up, people have it worse than you, I’ll give you something to cry about, etc) which led to a LOT of issues. I think in this video, she was going a bit too far and is almost treating her child as her therapist, but I think it is healthy to let your child see that what they are doing is having a negative impact on you. I think it’s OK to cry in front of your child and to tell them that what they’ve done is hurting you. But I do think there’s a fine line between that and dumping all of your issues on your child which was what my father did. Treated me as his shoulder to cry on and someone to tell him he isn’t a bad person, dad, etc. Having your dad sobbing to your chest almost every other week at 9 was so odd. My twin sons are 4 now, and when it’s been a particularly hard day I will cry a little in front of them. I do not have full on meltdowns as I feel that could traumatize them, I save those for when I’m alone. But, they will ask “why you crying mama?” And I will explain kindly and calmly what they have done to hurt my feelings and I redirect them to show them how to make things better. They ALWAYS apologize on their own, and come with me to make things better without feeling scared or guilty. I plan to keep being a healthy amount of vulnerable with my children.
Uhhhhh I learned how to read when I was 3 YEARS OLD and that is why I love reading so much! I am not a parent but I don’t think you should teach your kids to think that the MINUTE they learn how to read there childhood is completely OVER
The “silky” mom is straight up just a neglectful parent. Reminds me of mine, wouldn’t surprise me if she was abusive to her kids behind the screen. I think a lot of parents who feel the need to share everything online probably aren’t the most mentally sound of people, and also I see a lot of “gentle parenting” folks out there straight up just not disciplining or teaching their children. Like, they aren’t breaking cycles of trauma, they’re just creating new trauma. That isn’t to say that I don’t believe in gentle parenting, but as a parent it is literally your job to exercise authority. Children need that sense of security. Also screen time isn’t even recommended until children are two, and then that’s limited to one hour of screen time a day until they are past the age of five.
1:47 ...what does this mean? i spent most of my time as a kid reading books 😭😭 it did not ruin my childhood, in fact, i think it made my childhood better.
I found a good RU-vid hack for any parents who want to curb doomscrolling. When the little one and I watch RU-vid in the living room, I tell him he can pick a show, then I pick a show, and then him. We take turns. I would always pick shows around 10 minutes, random stuff like "how do volcanos form, or How its made" type stuff. And if he picked a 30 second Tik Tok-esq short, then it's not long before I get another turn. ;) It teaches a kid to be more picky on what they watch. More intentional. He doesn't pick the shorts anymore, and will sometimes choose a 45 minute documentary type show about Lego. Final note, kids are clever, make a rule against compilation videos. No one wants to endure 10 hours of "try not to laugh" shorts!
i had a good friend growing up whose parents remind me of that one girl. they only bought junk food, sodas, sugar cereals. not a single fresh fruit or vegetable - and they had the means to. when i'd stay with them, they'd only serve us soda not water and fixing us breakfast was taking cereal and spooning sugar on top of it before giving it to us. my friend was under 13 and had numerous health problems. a little indulgence is fine but there's a point where it becomes a form of abuse and neglect. not caring about your child's health equals not caring about them period.
10:00 I would say that you are jumping to conclusions. While I agree to your point, why can’t they get social experience from social events like libraries, churches, public spaces, I.e. public swimming pool, YMCA or local Rec center?
@@goosehubtheshipnerd Real😭 I mean if you tell me to look after your kids will I do it well? Yes. Will I be nice to kids? Most of the time🌝 Do I like them? No. Especially certain teen years
@@-brxken-7789 I may like kids but I'm scared of them screaming and getting physical. And my parents will shove my younger siblings on me but they do the least for their own children. Not to mention them not wanting kids but still have us. Like why do older siblings have to take their parents' role?
I have like 4 millennials in my family and they all parent like this, with iPads and not teaching them anything just letting them be independent toddlers basically. I wish I could tell them what they’re doing is soooo bad but I’m not close enough with any of them to give advice plus I’m not a mom yet (I am in my mid 20s so I’m not too young to not know any better or something). When I went to buy a toy for one of the baby’s birthdays recently, there were so many good learning toys for babies but they were almost all toys you need your parents to help you play with so I felt really disappointed and actually worried & upset for the baby
None of the millennials I know parent like this. There has always been dumb parents or there wouldn’t be these parents. Also the fact that Millennials are parents now? You realise that the oldest Gen Z is now 27 and some millennials now have adult children. That first lady was no way millennial.
Naw watch 90% gen alpha be absolutely rude and entitled. And when us gen Z people have kids we’re gonna have to deal with our kids being absolutely bullied
man that working out mum just stings on a personal level. as a kid, my parents never went to any performances or award ceremonies, etc. and not to mention theyd always be like 10-30mins late in picking me up. child me was sad to see other kids getting praise from their parents while i just stood there
6:00 is the only one i could kind of understand. Where I live, theres Tetanus in the soil, so making fake mud for their kitchen would be extra as hell but I could see why.
This is what’s causing gen alpha to be such terrible people. Because many of these kids were(and are) the accessory babies born in the 2010s that were born to a large minority of(a lot of) teenagers who wanted to showcase their cute baby as if they were a furby accessory trying to copy the celebrity (spesficially the kardashians and Kyle Jenner) accessory baby trend which resulted in the aesthetic of parenting and having a cute baby without any of the actual work needed to raise a baby to a functioning human being with good literacy skills, a reasonable education and basically becoming a functioning person. Oh and teen mom the tv show(which despite showing some of the darker sides and contributing to a decline in teen pregnancy’s some dumb kids still took inspiration) . It’s made even worse because now TikTok and instagram reels glorifying pregnancy at young(like teenage) ages for aesthetics even if said person was not ready or willing to handle responsibly raising a future adult and showing none of the true consequences and sorrow that comes with ruining your and a future humans life, instead being filled with instagram photos of cute mommy and baby in matching outfits on highly staged photos with no hint on how difficult it is to raise a human being. anyway The baby was never supposed to grow up as a person and become a functioning human being but to be a silent being with no thoughts of it’s own to dress up and show off to instagram and Pinterest. Essentially a doll. However when that baby started to grow up into their own person and becoming a human being because as it turns out baby’s grow up to be a functioning adult. The parents has no desire to be a parent and does not know how to raise a functioning human so they dumped them in front of iPads in order to get them out of the way and basically negelect them. The consequence is that now we have an entire generation of kids who have not been taught basic lessons and how to be a functioning person. This is scary because they are our next doctors, artists, writers, musicians, librarians, mechanic, firefighters, plumbers, etc. and they end up with social media addicitions and have shockingly short attention spans thanks to overstimulating RU-vid shorts and they were never taught how to be a successful person who thrives in society all because they were treated as disposable photo props to get more IG likes. To be clear not every parent is like this and there are many parents trying to raise their kids good and teaching them to be a good person but it is concearning how the accessory babies are now being turned into monsters at shockingly young ages. I really hope people wake up and realize that this is a problem and how we need to educate kids and prevent toxic Tate influences on boys And toxic trends on girls. We need to let kids learn positive values and teach the, about diversity and how to be a good person and helping other people and doing good things and working hard to achieve whatever goals they want. We need to fix this and help prepare kids to be a functioning good adults so that they can succeed and it even affects the kids who weren’t accessory babies because the peer pressure to act more mature than before has ramped up significantly as the moms of the accessory babies shunned kid appropriate outfits and acting their age and stuff because they wanted the babies to be dressed up in adult fashions for instagram photo ops and have engrained that acting like a kid is stupid and that they go from accessory Baby to hot young adult with no inbetween in their minds which warps them to act like an “adult” when way too young and if a kid simply acts like their age group they are often picked on by accessory babies which means that a lot of kids are now under peer pressure to grow up way to fast because the accessories kids that dominate the school and act like monsters towards everyone else. It’s because they were never taught how to be a good. Person. And it’s because of the parents who wanted accessory babies for instagram rather than raising a human. Like it’s the 30 year mellenials who take their kids only to instagramamble play areas, dressing them up for photo shoots every week in new clothes, going on instagramamble vacations and even having another baby only for clicks. This is the reality of the situation we are seeing the consequences of this in real time. The kids were never taught how to be a person and because of that they have almost no manners and learned all their lessons from toxic influencers and or consumerist influencers. It’s because the parents neglect them instead of providing moral lessons on how to be a good person, teaching them right from wrong, or even providing them good tv shows like BCG, and bluey instead dumping them in front of iPad content farms that rot their attention spans without any moderation causing them to have no imagination and tech addictions and then for the boys watching toxic influencers like Andrew quagmire tate and his merry band of Herbert the perverts(it’s a family guy reference). And for the girls being brainwashed into acting like adults and buying skincare that burns their skin instead of age appropate skin care. It’s a whole mess that we need to do better with our next generation of people because we need to stop treating kids like they are just instagram photos and they aren’t babies with on and off switches but babies that grow to toddler then kid tween teen until they become an adult who should be able to do basic functions in society. I am legit concerned about the next generation and them being addicted to content farms rather than quality shows with educational and entertainment value and not being taught basic morals like don’t steal the cookie, everyone is equal, clean up after yourself, don’t rudely interrupt other people. or even helping them get to grade level reading and stuff(and I’m not counting kids with disabilities, like autistic and adhd kids) to function in society. like I literally heard that sped kids with disabilities and autism etc are literally doing higher reading levels than regular kids because a lot of the regular kids were never taught. It’s legit concerning.
As a millennial I would have lived the neutral look but on earth/natural side I hated the bold colors etc on everything and our entire ancestry only recent times have we shoved bright colors into kids faces 365 days a year - but disconnected from nature
As a former teacher, seeing things like this breaks my heart. That mama who was exercising while her kids were playing a sport has no fucking excuse. I remember my mother coming to every single swim meet and practice I had. Seeing her approval and seeing her cheer for me always made me feel loved and cared for. It let me know that she was there. It let me know that she supported me. I probably would’ve cried if I didn’t see my mom smiling at me or waving. And when she didn’t want to watch me, she talked to the other parents like a normal person. She had her friends. She always made friends with the other moms. I never took it personally because I still knew that she was there for me. That Mom from today’s video needs an attitude change before she ends up in a nursing home
at the beginning silky mom just meant someone who is not crunchy (nature obsessed mom who thinks everything modern is toxic and lives like an Amish person) and who does give their kids the occasional junk food sometimes and lets them watch TV because she needs to get shit done, but as always people run with it and ru8in it that is why we can't have good things.
She didn’t “make a skit” about murdering her daughter it’s a story from r/ two sentence horror stories. She didn’t make it up and she doesn’t even have a daughter, she just likes scary stories.
And I can confirm that some parents use sports as a big babysitter. My daughter is 8 and does soccer. We have practice twice a week. Parents will drop their kids off and be gone. These are 8/9 year olds!! The coach is constantly sending out group text sayings, so an so needs mom, no mom insight. It just really errks me..
When one of my nieces was little she was staying with my sisters mom (my dad’s ex wife), ended up getting sick and she wanted to deal with it in a natural way. My niece suffered for days and now is paraplegic, had a feeding tube, now she can feed herself somewhat, can’t talk. She’s now 25. My sister blamed her mom for it because she was never informed on nothing until she was actually taken in. She had cocci-meningitis. Don’t ever wait, if she was brought in sooner things would’ve been different.
I‘m 18 now and I was raised like this. I had a TV, an Ipad, multiple gaming consoles, a Pc and generally tended to always get what I had asked for. Now, my family was actually pretty poor, that just didn’t stop them (mainly my father) from spending money they didn’t have. My Father would always get me gifts to both buy my affection and to satisfy his spending addiction. Looking back, i wish i didn’t have any of it. I would trade a loving, healthy family with what I actually got any day man. All the gifts and other privileges left me with nothing but a bad relationship with money, a completely broken mental health and a helpless living situation. Please, don’t do this to your kids. (On a side note, obviously all my issues weren’t just caused by this, but it definitely played into it and I do not wish to get deeper into it.)
I remember my grandmother made me sit down to do a Pratice reading/writing work book every summer, only for 30 minutes a day. I always hated it as a child because I always thought summer was meant to be fun, but looking back, I'm happy she did that. It helped improved my reading and writing skills. It was the same thing with math. So, seeing parents nowadays on how they raised their kids, it makes me grateful for having a good family, but makes me sad that these kids are not getting taught properly. I really hope things change soon.
lol my parents were exactly like that. Back then (the 2000s) they restricted my TV time, video games, and even playing outside until I finished all my work/chores heck even summer I had workbooks. Even in my early teen years My iPod and Internet usage was limited till I got my responsibilities done. I too thought I wasn’t having as much fun like the other kids but looking back now, man am I glad I was raised right.
I loved reading enough we didn’t have to do this with me Not to brag but by third grade I was the highest reading level And you know what I’m sad that there will be even fewer kids to achieve this now
This is absolutely disgusting. Let your kid be a kid before they grow up to be an adult and realize that they never had time to actually be a kid. Stop doing this before your kid sends you to the retirement home.
9:49 School and a structured plan for the day on a regular basis is extremely important for children to have, i have a friend who was homeschooled until 4th grade and suddenly being in such a new environment and learning how to interact with people (especially because it was the same people on a regular basis) from scratch was very very hard for them. They pretended to be sick and even got themselves sick for real just to avoid going. Even on days they knew something they would have enjoyed was happening. Not growing up with that structure had a massive negative impact on them and still affects them sometimes now. Don't do this to your kids.
My mom read “The Adventures of Robin Hood” to me as a kid and I’ve been hooked on reading ever since. In fact, I’m so hooked that I’m going to be making it my job! (I’m hoping to become a Librarian.)
I have parents who treats my little sister (11 year age gap) EXACTLY like the first mom. She gets unlimited screen time at a VERY young age while I can't have any sort of social media/multi-player games and I used to have a screen time limit that went from 1 hour max to 3 hour max over the span of a few years. At some point (in my teen years) I had no devices at all. My sister is literally just past the toddler stage and she's had 3 phones and 2 tablets I believe. Crazy.
i love the minimalism clean girl aesthetic, but if i were a mother, id love my kid more. anything they love, i love and it would be a part of the aesthetic of the house, no matter the colour or vibrancy
Exactly!! Like it looks good and all, but it can still look wonderful while accommodating your child’s preferences. Colorful spaces can look great!! It really just requires having an open mind; you can be an artist and a loving parent.
Y'all ever notice that a lot of people who would make the best parents don't want to have kids (whether they don’t like children, can't afford it, afraid of actually being bad parents, etc), but people like THIS who don't actually care about kids will have multiple without thinking anything of it? Absolutely wild
Silky mom reminded me of that scene in wall-e where the babies in that ship were birthed and immediately given a seat with a tv on it. I’m so sick of the beige mom trend. It makes me want to throw cans of paint all over it. It’s so bad for the kids development.. That mom that gave those vegan snacks was so cruel to those kids.. having a smidgen of candy doesn’t hurt. I bet you those kids cried when she gave them that bucket the next morning. So unhinged. That mom that lets her baby eat dirt… disgusting. I’m surprised no one called CPS. Idk TikTok is rotting peoples brains I’m so glad it’s getting banned. These moms should be fired from motherhood.
I'm 15 years old and only got my own devices when I was 13, and a phone a few weeks ago. The fact little kids have devices and TV's proves it isn't the kids, it's the parents
I’m only thirteen, I grew up in an abusive household and had to raise myself. Although the education system here in Australia is different, I have to thank them. When I started prep (Grade 0, age 5-6) I could not read, write or do simple math. I was severely behind due to not having any parental support in my education. My teacher, worked tirelessly with me. She helped me so much. When I finished prep, I could read at a grade 4 level, and write at a grade 5 level. I graduated primary school last year. Thanks to my teachers prolonged assistance, I graduated top of my school, with my english and literacy levels at Year 10, and my mathematics at Year 9. I achieved this while going through foster care, I am forever grateful for my teachers. Not sure why I had to share this, but do as you will with this. If you persevere you can make it through anything. Believe me, I know.❤❤❤❤❤❤
9:18 the other day my sister in law,took my niece to an appointment,the doctor told her to take out her earrings,she said no,she wanted them on,and my sister in law,didn’t do anything,she didn’t say we are taking those out,my moms like when did It get to the point,to where your child runs your life,and that they join your life,not the other way around,she doesn’t discipline,she lets them do what they want
Giving your kid screens at that young of an age is how they discover Little Miss Rarity and Smile HD and not sleep for a week. I was lucky I was monitored that young and my parents made sure to play the same games I did to make sure I was safe when I got time on the computer.
Jeez Louise, if RU-vid Kids was really going to be the kid version of RU-vid. Post something actually kid friendly, not something claiming to be kid friendly but should be banned.
@@liamtheman2099 they don't claim to be kid friendly though. They add warnings in the title, but RU-vid messes up and labels them for kids because of colorful animation and pony characters. It's not on the makers of the content, but the people who should be monitoring it and actually checking before putting it on RU-vid Kids.
That mom who said she didn’t want to “stare at” her kid at practice is just so wrong. Even at 13 years old, I kinda hurts when I had a really good pass or serve and my dad doesn’t see it.
The unlimited screen time thing really depends on the parent. Me and my siblings had unlimited screen time, but our parents actually parented us. The unlimited screen time wasn't out of laziness in parenting. We were also taught internet safety and actual computer literacy and computer science, so we could put our unlimited screen time towards something useful and productive, and fun! My sister is now a digital artist and my brother is due to graduate with a degree in computer science this year. Me and my other brother are going non-computer related routes. My point is, a lot of people demonize the technology part when it's really all about the parents.
millenial parenting has taken on this weird turn of wanting their children to be better than they were, but at the same time expecting these children to parent themselves or even going as far as to put the responsibility to check the parents on the kid
I Learned to read at home before I started school, and I've loved reading all my life. My sons (who are 14 months apart) were both interested in learning to read before they had started Grade 1, because they saw how much I read and they liked it when I'd read to them. I made it fun, and, because I wasn't obligated to teach them to read, I'd make the lessons flexible and stop when they'd had enough, because I assumed that if I forced them to do more than they wanted they might lose interest in reading. Like me, they've been lifelong readers.
i was an ipad kid BUT i did go outside. when i was little, i used to LOVE playing in mud and getting myself dirty, and then have to be washed off with a hose. it was fun. parents, LET your kids get messy. THEYRE KIDS!!!
i have a baby sister. she uses screens quite a lot, but all she watches is disney songs as she plays on the carpet. she’s fed healthy, well balanced meals and is played with everyday.
As someone who has 3 kids (2 boys & 1 girl) im EXTREMELY thankful they are all grown. "aesthetic", "silky", "gentle" etc parenting (IMO) are just stupid, unrealistic & in some instances not great for the child. Its like they want attention,likes,clout, engagement etc for the Internet.... But they dont seem to have much interest in the childs happiness, well-being,mental health or how it actually effects the child. (IMO)
“knowing how to interact with people is a skill they need for the rest of their life” Crying bc this is so true, i graduated but still dont know how to interact & its soooo bad
