They think this way because too many women give them a reason to. Some women keep sexual abuse, I mean incest, committed on their children secret to stay married and keep living a lavish lifestyle. So yes, they have some sad reasons to think so. But you know it.
Ladies, what Coach Rod is saying is true. I testify to this TRUTH!!...DON'T GIVE AWAY YOUR BODY SO EASILY TO MEN. They will not respect and honour you if you do. I courted my husband for two years before I laid down with him in commitment ....and til this day he still loves me just like the first day we met...!!! Ladies, set the standard, and teach your daughters to do the same...!!!
Always keep my legs closed.. and I’m now a 32 year old virgin. Thing is men leave me for that reason..I thought I met the one but he left me cause I wasn’t giving in. It’s tough waiting. Thanks for this
Don't feel bad, you dodged a bullet! And, FYI, they will all seem like, "The One" at first. I had to wait about six months for a guy to show me who he really is. Stay strong lady. And go out and have fun every chance you get!
The issue probably is you are telling them your a virgin up front. Don’t tell your business so quick. Date, keep them waiting, and the right one will grow to love you so you won’t have to ask him to wait. He will just DO IT.
@@Denailacole that’s not even it .. no hints no nothing. Infact I don’t even like it to be known that I’ve never had sex, it just so happens that my relationships reach a level where the guy would come up with the intimacy part and he’ll eventually tell. From there begins the shock of his life, to him attempting each time to him saying when I’m I ready to me saying I don’t believe in premarital sex..from there, I’m selfish bla bla bla..👎🏾
@@Lerr777 Men like that would not make good husbands because they have no moral standards you dodged a bullet. Let them go fool some other unfortunate woman.
My husband waited 2 years for me. I won’t say it was easy to stay pure, but we became best friends and years later when we went through really difficult times that friendship was what saved our marriage. We’ve been married 27 years now! ❤️
I wish this was taught to men ALSO! Both the men and women are temples and should NOT be merging their souls with people they are not married to. It's sad that men are not taught to preserve, protect, and pass along their seed in MARRIAGE only.
Wowww that’s so true. Imagine if every women did that. Most men won’t have no choice to wait because they’re not gonna get it anywhere else. It would be good, but in today’s society it’s not very common.I’ve refrained from having sex simply because I’m tired of feeling guilty afterwards then ask God for forgiveness. After awhile it gets annoying, and why keep praying God for forgiveness and keep repeating it over and over smh. I just want to be at peace before God. Thank you very much for your videos❤️
It would be nice for sure. I see way too much of men casually stating "I'll just find it somewhere else." Sometimes they don't even say it, but they are sure thinking it. Like it's easy. Puts it in perspective that women need to take it back and it's going to take a whole lot of us.
Not only did he wait 14 years for her, but another important thing is that he WORKED those 14 years for her. He earned her. There are many stories in the Bible and even in history that show the lengths a man is willing to go for a woman he values. Women, we have to stop giving so much of ourselves to men who don’t value us and are undeserving, not just of the cookie, but of the benefits that come with our love.
So true! Tony Gaskins has a video entitled “Let Him Earn Your Love”. It highlights the same thing that you are saying. He has to work for a woman’s love for it to be valuable. And to your point about history...even the Taj Mahal was built as an ode of a man’s love for a woman.
So true. The unfortunate epidemic of women lowering their standards definitely had some consequences for women who want a good man who will loyally wait. Thanks Coach Rod.
@@sonofhibbs4425 I don’t disagree with you there. Now that this is 3 years later I to am tired of women being blamed for men not controlling their penis. The idea that women don’t have strong sex drives is wrong. More men need to start stepping up and mentoring men the right way. I now realize that every man I come across has a penis problem. Even the so called Christian ones. If they are suppose to be leaders why am I policing his urges. Men and women both like sex. At the end of the day, if God asks a man “Why were you promiscuous?” And he answers because “I am a man and exempt and women are suppose to say no,” God will not accept that.
Never forgot I was working on a bulletin board at church and a visiting Minister was walking with my Pastor down the hallway. The Pastor introduced me to this well known Minister who was speaking on Sunday at our church. He made small talk and thanked me for being a great volunteer at my church. He asked Sister are you single?....I said yes...he said remember this always when it comes to men especially in the church. "Be a Peach out of Reach..."
Im a Millennial who's been celibate for 18 years, have a great relationship with God and REFUSE to settle or compromise! Thank you for your encouragement Man of God.
Good word. Not just physically in person but on social media. We are in a digital age which is dangerous. Sending sexual videos, pictures, live videos etc. Much more to be careful of in 2022
"Some men will marry you just for that reason (to get the cookie)". Ya'll this is MY testimony right here! In an unequally yoked marriage for almost a DECADE over this one truth right here! However I praise God He released me from it and the condemnation I felt over divorcing! Wow. This is painful to hear but it is such balm to my soul! God bless Coach Rod!
I sooooo agree. Ladies have the power! Take responsibility for your part. He can not stay or approach you with bull unless you allow it. And practicing the art of letting people go when they do u wrong to an art.
Yes there is Power in keeping our legs closed..it's hard but it's worth it..I'm waiting on God to send my husband..Thanks for your advice...I love your videos!❤
Preach!!! There is a guy that I know very very lightly. We both help a mutual friend of ours. Four days ago was the first time we actually talked for about 40mins. Now, he text me, wanting me to send nude photos, talking about taken me to a topless beach and wants me to drive 2 hours to his house to spend the weekend. He didn’t even ask me out for a 1st date or ask questions about me. But I am suppose to drive 2 hours to spend the weekend with him 🤣😂🤣. Sad part is there are probably a lot of women that would do it. My mother didn’t raise me right, I just didn’t want to be like her. The standard for my mother was buying her a drink and an hour later she’s yours. I never wanted to be like her. I love myself too much. Know your worth ladies!!!! Or you can be a THOT.
Wow that’s crazy! I’m almost 28 and I’m a virgin and I’m waiting on my Ruth. My parents waited and they r still married 28 years later. Im not knocking up some woman I don’t know, I’d like to get to know a woman and court her and make her my wife before all that sexual stuff. A woman that’s loyal and faithful to God and her husband, who will be a great mother to my future child(ren). A woman I can pray with and I can honor and cherish and protect.
He sho right good women can't get good men because of desperate women are going for anything. Some of those women will be with a man knowing that he is currently MARRIED
It takes two. People be so quick to down play the "weaker" if your man cheat on you with a desperate chick....you want doing something right or might be desperate yourself. Some men like loose shit...and some women don't mind doing loose shit. #black ppl love playing that...im better than you because i waited 2 years before we had sex. Yet he still played you behind your back.
You are right on with this issue! I never understood why some woman think by giving it up so easily will gain his love, respect. THIS ISN’T ALWAYS THE CASE WITH SOME MEN. Because he desire her body and not her. She now caught feelings for him and his heart is with another woman that isn’t so easy to poke. I understand you well….if a woman here don’t follow your message, or understand what your conveying is truly lost. Just saying…this message is simplistic for his audience……appreciate you sharing this video. ❤️
You better speak THAT Brotha! So much wisdom, such rich advice. I wish that other women realized how valuable they are and stopped cheapening our gifts for little and nothing. Never have I seen such a valuable asset reduced to such a cheap and common, easy to obtain thing.
yes. tony gaskins is phenomenal too! i 200% support them both. but coach rod speaks to my spirit laughing at these clowns more than at me for being stupid for them.
Thank you for this video! I have been celebate for 2 and a half yrs. It brings so much clarity. Nowadays when I speak with a man, I'm able to discern intentions quicker than before. Saves a lot of heartache.
Keeping your legs closed doesn't mean nothing in today's world especially if you're not being pursued by anyone. I keep my legs closed and I don't have any options. I've been praying for a man for 6 years and he still haven't came. It's like God hears everything else but once I start praying for a man. He don't hear me at all.
Now, the question I have is: While he's "waiting," will he be messing around with someone else, releasing himself with someone else while "waiting"? Does the "waiting" mean he himself is abstaining?
Yes, the immature, ungodly men will tell you they will wait for you but in truth, while they wait for you to be ready or neglect your own morals, they will be sleeping with other woman. “Pay attention: you will notice the change with them.”
This may be true but this is sad to never hold a man accountable for his own actions but to always blame the woman. You can wait five 10 years and never have sex with a man then eventually he marries you and still f*** around on you. so what makes that woman a prize anymore than it would the woman who did not wait. This bugs me tell women that they're lowering their standard because they desire physical contact but oh no men aren't lowering their standards they're just being men. All the while that woman's waits for that man and don't have sex with him he's having sex with a whole bunch of other women. When are men held accountable especially black men who sex multiple women at once but expect for one woman to wait for him who sexes men as well anywhere they can get sex they'll get it but expect a woman to wait for them.
@@leannabbac yes I agree, we shouldn't entertain a man no longer than a 1 and 6 months with no sex. That man should be planning to marry you in that first year, if not put on your tracking shoes.
Women need to stop dating men who sleep around. Women don’t have any standards when it comes to mens sexual past I have no idea why. I don’t date men that sleep around they are gross to me.
This is why there is so much sexually transmitted diseases, it’s frightening. The music of today is all about what he’s wants to do and what he’s going to do to a women. I told my daughter it’s not good for children to hear. Sex is in every fiber of this world. I will take The Most Highs Counsel. TUFS 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
Preach Coach Rod! Just subscribed. Nice to hear good advice from a black man that respects women. So many of these so called coaches go on youtube and generalize and talk negative about black women. You are a breath of fresh air...truly.
Coach you are so right and on point , I’m not giving the cookie 🍪 to no one without that signature I want it all until then I am definitely going to continue working on me and trust me I got this , especially since I know the inside secret no more boys acting like grown men . Thank you again I’m glad I found your channel .i would love to message you .
It seems hard to find someone that will wait until you're ready to give it up. I've been celibate for 6 years and the guys that I've dated walked out on me because I didn't give in. It's really hard and for the past 2 years I haven't dated anyone. I'm single and alone and I get sexually frustrated all the time. It's unfair for a woman of God to wait for so long.
👸true! but it hurts 💔 more being used for s-ex & dumped. esp. by a man who didn't think u were worth marrying 1st. is much worse🤷. better to be celibate & alone forever than treated like a trash 🗑can.
Amen, Real Talk brother, keep saying it, it takes 21 times hearing and hearing, We absolutely 💯 have the POWER, only for those who want to raise their Standard! Time to reset...Power-Up!!! Love you ladies!
Brother today is the first time i ran across your videos. I can see that you're sincere and keeping it real100%. Your sense of humor keeps me laughing!! Thanks!😇
Coach you are so right my son god bless his. Soul pass away last mouth 37 years we you to talk all the time about him being with this women and women soul ties are real and can be deadly he couldn't take it and he wasn't a week man he was a man that got caught up you just cant serve to masters im preying for all of us waite watch and prey its so real i still cant believe it soul ties ant no joke the devi ls real .
Definitely Subscribing!!..I Admire How You Break It Down Spiritually/Biblically!!..You Would NEVER Go Wrong Doing It God's Way!!..Sir You're Speaking BIG FACTS!..May God Bless You!
👸beware🐺some men will sell u a dream of marriage💑. after s-ex. he gets amnesia. sayin, "he don't remember & r u sure 😏ur ready for that🤥!?" after he got u on ur back. he don't want u no mo. bc he's been to the mountain ⛰️top🤷. you'll be 😭left in tears. if ur ring 💍finger is naked ur body shouldn't be😌.
Men singularity prospective on this 2+ person “Consensual” Act never seems to amaze me! Let me know when women are included in the conversation as more than man’s props and playground...
Hey Dude my legs has been CLOSED FOR 10 YEARS I HAVE SELF RESPECT I CAN Spot A NONE COMIMTAL when I see on . THERE IS ALLTERA MOTIVE IF YOU RED DM FIRST MESSAGE YOU WOULD SEE why , MY LEGS ARE STILL CLOSE. TILL GOD SEND ME THE RIGHT ONE. I HAVE SET MY STANDARDS , yours topic KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED IS DISRESPECTFUL to FEMALE, ANOTHER TOPIC WOULD BE MORE APPROPRIATE 💯💯💯💯💚💚💚🙏🙏🙏🙏
