The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy of the Avoidant 

Really appreciate this conversation and how you flowed with it effectively. I really like the key points you made, Awareness of Attachment Style Instilling Change And If Not Willing to Change, It Will Continue. I think you explained attachment style well, I picked up on attachment style from my parent and now in my mid 20s I am currently working on breaking out of it. Examples that have been given for me are present in my workplace. Very difficult conversation to come up with however you delivered eloquently. Thank you for sharing this space.

This popping up on my timeline was so timely.

I always thought it was more in the direction of fear of rejection. But actually fear of disappointment makes a lot of sense

Great point on the being an adult part

This is the hardest battle of my life atm. Thank you so much for sharing your experience on this topic, it helps me a lot❤

People stomp on my wounds as hard as they can as soon as they figure out what they are which triggers my avoidant and i banish them from. My life because they refuse to stop picking my scabs and rubbing dirt in them.

It is not just attachment style it is more of relating style. Not just to people but to important things and situations too.

well explained, thank you for this insight

Thank you for your words. You did a great job and have given me lots to consider ❤️

I feel like i avoid people because they leave me no alternative. I will start out trying to logically argue a situation, then i try reasoning, i try bargaining, i try setting boundaries, i try explaining using gigantic paragraphs in detail what it is they are doing that is upsetting me, repeat myself 15 times, give warning after warning, increasingly stern warnings, last warnings, THEN it escalates to ok i have exhausted every alternative and you wont stop.....you are cut from my life. Get out of my sight and dont come back. This causes the person to throw a tantrum like a 5 year old. And then they declare war on me and smash every button i have, press on every wound, while i am trying frantically to get them out of my life, cutting every tie, burning the bridge, and setting the ground on fire aeound me to keep them out and they just wont leave. And i am like ok i gave you a million warnings, i set the boundaries, your not capable of respecting them, we talked about it 5 times, i laid out the consequences, you didnt listen, your gone. Get out of my house NOW. And then they wont leave and keep fighting with me.

I want Joni Mitchell's Both Sides Now playing throughout this entire episode. 😞😶‍🌫️☁️☁️

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