0:36 stop using oils on scalp (except when doing hot oil treatment or when scalp needs a little oil.) 1:46 No Heat 2:32 Stopped stretching hair 2:59 Never detangle on dry hair 3:39 stop doing too much to your hair (overmanipulation) 5:14 stopped wearing wigs (if you like it do it sis, it depends on you.) 6:17 don care what others think about your hair 7:39 No more length checks 8:49 Stop comparing hair to others
@@briannafraser6084 hear me out, since i stopped oiling my scalp everyday and just made sure I used a really good cleaning shampoo moisture shampoo the dandruff hardly happens anymore.
@@dimples7162 I feel you boo, but I've tried that for just a few days after I washed my hair and thoroughly cleansed my scalp and it doesn't work for me. My scalp was COATED in dandruff and it was really itchy, so I have to make sure I oil my scalp. I don't do it everyday, I do it every other day so the oils have some time to soak into my scalp and I use a fenugreek and rose spray on my scalp and hair everyday and that handles it as well.
@@briannafraser6084 I do agree. I use oils for my scalp and not for my hair. It makes my hair feel greasy and wade down. Only time I’ll use the oils on my hair if I pre poo and I rarely do that. So do what your hair loves. 👍🏾
Yes please 10 things you do now. I stopped relaxing my hair one year natural yeah. I'm sad it took me to 51 to start appreciating my natural hair. Having so much fun with her now though never going back.
Patricia Crossman, I big chopped to a TWA March 2019 after many years spent relaxing my hair. My hair is the healthiest it has been for years. In life, it is never too late to make a change. I am loving my natural hair!
Here for this! Thanks. 🥰 My hair has been in twists since January 😀 After wash day, it goes in twists till I want to wash again. That's it for me, sis.
There are a few things I stopped doing to my natural hair: 1) NO HEAT 2) LESS MANIPULATION 3) NO LENGTH CHECKS. I embrace my natural hair the way she is. Some days she wants to behave while other days, she don’t. I just let her rock out.
I don't exist to make others comfortable. I came to that realization recently and it feels so incredibly freeing. So what I'm trying to say is that I completely relate to you not caring what others think of your hair because I'm right there with you. Edit: the only thing I'm not great at yet is not comparing myself to others or sometimes being envious of people who can wash their hair and not have it be a whole production. That makes me feel sad or frustrated sometimes but I am working on it.
When you said you don't comb/detangle your hair dry, I felt my eyebrows automatically raise 😳. It was funny because a comb wouldn't be able to comb through my hair dry, even if 5 strong men tried... lol.
@@DANNYTHEFROG123 I’d rather detangle wet, my hair snaps more dry. You can always do a pre poo and detangle, it depends on your hair and how fine or coarse it is :)
I just wash my hair every two weeks and deep condition! And I use hair grease and hot oil treatments every month my hair does love heat but only to derange and it growing!!
I totally agree with your points! I also stopped plastering my hair with so many products as much as I did in the beginning of my natural hair journey. Now I use 3 products max after my wash day 😌☺️
One thing I stopped doing is diys of any kind.They promise"massive hair growth" which obviously are lies.I trust products more than natural diys.Natural is not always the best.Chebe,rice water,onion juice and any other fast hair growth products are out of my list.To the trash they go.I have learned to embrace my 1/4 inch a month and learnt to retain my length and I'm proud of me and happy bout that.I shampoo,deep condition,moisturize with lco and its on periodtttt.
I am with you on that. Accepting your hair the way it is makes you feel better about self. I’ll be ok with my hair if it doesn’t grow the way I want. I have to be happy where it is. Shoot, it’s probably not meant for me to have long hair. I’ll become more lazy. 😆
“If normalizing 4C hair was a person, it would be me”, if that ain’t the truth lol. Changing the perspective of 4C hair one video at a time #4CGOODNESS
The bottom line is... ladies take care of your hair, the way you meticulously take care of your face. You don't need length checks, comparisons, etc to tell you if your hair is healthy and thriving, just the way you know your face is doing well or not, based on the amount of care you give it!
I am trying something new. I’m going to stop using conditioner after I shampoo and go straight to deep conditioning after shampooing. I think using conditioners is unnecessary so I’m trying something new to see how my hair reacts. Right now my hair is in a protecting style. Now I use my oils on my scalp but not everyday just once or twice a week. 👍🏾
This is a great idea, I'm sure you'll see better results. Deep conditioners are meant to penetrate the hair and conditioners coat the hair so using a conditioner first stops the Deep conditioner from doing it's job. You should always use one or the other.
@@dollyrevenge98 Thank you so much. I just think I was doing too much to my hair for no reason with the conditioner after shampooing. Then deep condition too? Ugh!! Too much for a wash day. 😆
Heat IS the devil! 😆 I can relate to that one for sure. Never oiled my scalp but I definitely stopped doing the most to my hair and I’m a lot less stressed because of it.
This video made me cry a bit towards the end (in a great way). I love my hair (I named her "Celeste") and I've grown over the last few months into loving her even when she doesn't look "perfect". When she doesn't look the way I envisioned she would on a certain day, I'm growing into saying, "Hey. She's moisturized. She's strong. She's healthy. However she looks is great, no matter what." LOVED THIS VIDEO. :-) P.S. I had a barber cut/boy cut for 14 years. I've only had hair again for 15 months. So having it again has been a journey and a pleasure. This video makes me feel good. THANK YOU for that! Lol.
Lol my hair likes the opposite of most of your points. Gotta stretch it, needs heat, loves oils etc 😅 just goes to show how unique our tresses are to each individual.
I also stopped stretching my hair with braid outs and twist outs. I wear my hair in an afro most of the time now. My hair has been thriving without the extra manipulation.
Thanks for the informative video. I find that getting my hair flat ironed once every 2 months to get it trimmed is the best way to keep split ends away and this also significantly reduces shedding. Using heat infrequently to get your hair straight will reveal how bad the ends of the hair really is in its natural state. Sharing my experience. 😊
The tea on here 🔥🔥🔥 and yes a reverse of this video would be much appreciated, well I stopped detangling my hair dry, using heat and im learning not to do too much Issa work in progress though 🙃
Things I stopped doing to my hair..messing with it. It is now always protected somehow whether it is a protective style or wrapped in a turban..I mist her with water here and there but she is left alone until wash day.
@@sophiademure of course lol my protective styles aren't always locs, box braids and etc. I have a natural hairstylist that braid my natural hair into like braided updos and stuff. I should've said my hair isnt in fro, twist out form at all. It's braided, wrapped up, ya know.
I recently stopped using oils and butters in my moisturizing step because I was having a lot of problems with greasy hair and hair that didn't take in moisture well. I thought about reducing the amount of oils I used but there wasn't any progress and so I stopped. My hair has been flourishing, feeling better than ever. Love this video. Glad you made it💙💜❤
Hi, what products do you use a leave-in or a moisturizing cream that contain oils instead ? I have always used oil or a mix of shea and oil. A little bit but only at the end of a wash day then braid or twists and I don't need to add anything for a week. But I am interested to know about you routine without oil...
@@HereDiianas I mostly use creme of nature moisturizing hair lotion but using anyone that works with my a hot is fine. After shampooing and deep conditioning, I go in with my leave in and moisturizer on wet hair and twist or braid it up. I re-moisturize every 3 days. Moisture is retained for that long because of my low porosity hair. I do that until the next wash day
@@franchescaanthony5905Thanks for answering and I see what you mean although I do love oil/butter. There is no point of using moisturizer + butter +leave-in+ oils etc.... all of them at once. Creams already have oils in it and other conditioning agents, so if it is a good one there is no need to add additional layers on top. I have not used a moisturizer in a while but there was a time where I was using lotion but no oil butter and I was fine too. I find it useless to use plenty of products on our hair. Useless for us but useful for the brands I guess :-)
Honestly I can relate to not doing the most😂😂 But I had to learn how not to use too many unnecessary products and having too many routines at a time. Now my hair and I are in constant communication and I can say we are definitely both happy😁
Love this!!!! Also, If Becky can come into work with blue, purple, pink hair...surely I can come in with a shrunken afro ❤. I stopped picking my hair to make it look like I had a lot. Like you said, I don't need to prove my length to the world. In the morning I just fluff gently with my hands to get rid of the squash hair look, and call it a day. I also stop using my hooded dryer. It has cause damage to my crown area because the heat was directly there. Now I just use a diffuser.
You have helped me so much on my hair journey. My hair is the happiest it's ever been. I used to get so frustrated trying to figure out my hair, and all these channels on YT with ladies doing THE MOST in their wash day routine, etc. just added more confusion. You focus on the important steps that we need to help us care for our hair (whilst keeping it fun and cute) and I am so thankful I found your channel! Love all your content
Yaaaas loved this video sis, and please do a 9/10 things you do to your hair that keeps her flourishing. I use to do the most with my hair as well,, but learning that less is better,, while still being able to maintain healthy hair ❤Much love from South Africa 🇿🇦
I'm so happy all these points are coming from an OG. You have affirmed my thoughts. Heat kills the hair slowly and cause more split ends than necessary. Wigs aren't worth it. Our hair grows at different length and everyone is different. Check your hair's healthy and make your own comparisons for health especially. If we all focus on loving and accepting our hair, all the "too much" will cease. 😊➿👌🏾🖤
I stopped doing twist out ( they never turn out right) and using heat and I trying to complete cut out letting other people style my hair....Yes 9/10 things you do please
Thanks for the pointers I use to be obsessed with my hair doing everything I see on RU-vid I don't anymore I have my own routine and I love it I stop using alot of oils too 😉
I thought everyone else had shiny hair each and every day and I felt I just couldn't afford the products and daily routine to keep it shiny... 6:58 just told me I'm not crazy in 5 different languages because that's what my hair is like everytime
Thank you so much for this video. Very useful and interesting. I used to care too much about what people think but now girl I don't care. I am 4C, comfortable, happy and proud 💃🏾
I stopped using store-bought products - a way I can both help the environment and my hair.... I mix everything myself and therefore have full control of what gets into my hair. Getting there took time and effort, but paid out well.
Ooohhh point 9 really spoke to me. I really battled with this one in the beginning and every so often it tries to creep in but I have a tip to overcome it. Touch your hair, spend time caring for your care & experiment with it, this really helped me get comfortable 👏🏽👏🏽
I use hair mayonnaise with two different oils - hemp and olive oil,for my daughter. I do it once a month. I use the hair mayonnaise through the hair lenght and scalp too and it works very well for my daughter hair. Her hair is C4 type.
The oil point is me. I use oil when necessary. My routine incorporate very little oil. Also I stopped using butters completely because they were just sitting on my hair not doing anything. I started using light weight water based products for my low porosity 4c hair, they work better.
Thank you so much for this video, now I know what I have been doing wrong. As for wigs I am with you, I have been wearing my natural hair everyday for more than two years, and it started growing. To letting our hair breath! New subscriber from Lesotho, and happy to join your beautiful family!
I stopped doing things just because everyone did things that way. I have a scalp condition, so the way I take care of my scalp/hair has to be very intentional, like I wash every week. Cause that's what works for me.
I have not been here for long...i just chopped last year. Although, I have been subscribed to this channel since may, 2020. I have learned much from you...no heat, not too consistent with DIYs, no length check (it still short anyways) lol...but, what still can't get over is "protective hairstyles) african threading and stuff!
Well said! I stopped all these things too, except for occasional low heat with a hooded dryer. Two specific things that helped me: I had to stop overbuying hair products! And I had to stop trying to force my edges to be laid when they just want to be fuzzy😅 There is freedom in embracing natural texture and having a simple routine that works. Great video, thanks! And yes please to a video on the 9 things you are now doing.😊
I'm confused how to dry the hair without using a hair drier? I twist my hair after wash day but unless I dry my hair with a hair drier, my hair can stay wet for up to 3 days. How do you dry it?
I need to get there. I’ve now reduced manipulation, and i def don’t use heat with this high porosity hair. But i do oil my scalp every once in a while. I’m getting there slowly but surely. Def want to see the video with your updated routine
I think it's fine to not use oil as much if you don't have really dry scalp. I still do because I have dry scalp, but I have changed from using oils in the liquid form to hair grease like ORS Tea Tree Oil Hairdress, as it works for my natural hair. I have noticed that hair grease helps me retain moisture, as I apply it after spraying my hair with water and putting some hair lotion.
Wow I'm actually on time!!! (I usually get back to all my youtube notifications when I do my hair but here we are) You're awesome as always!! Great video my mom keeps trying to oil her receding hairline and now it's turned into bald spots. She doesn't understand that if she wants to grow it back she needs to step up her game. But she is stuck in the past for the most part. I tried the oiling scalp thing and my head was on fire cause the oil blocked my pores. Usually everyone always says oil your scalp for hair growth and I'm over here with shampoo like....cleanse your scalp!!! Let him/her breathe!!!! (My hair is a male even tho I'm female😂)
I feel you on the wigs/weaves, never did wigs but I wore weaves. I think they're great for switching up the style and adding color however like you I also don't feel my best with them and I feel a bit self conscious. My hair has been relaxed for years, but I have 8 months of 4c hair now and debating whether or not to go natural, it's just too much work for me : )
Thank you for talking about oils to your scalp. I was watching another type 4 RU-vidr, just yesterday and she said that she stopped putting oil on her scalp as well. I thought this was interesting to hear, but because I have been following you for a while now, I wanted to know your opinion.
@@JennJackson I had been wondering about putting oil on my scalp. When my hair was relaxed, the only time that oil was added to my scalp was when my hair dresser was applying another relaxer. My hair grew rather quickly. When I went back to natural, I used oil for a while (because that was what my grandma would do when I was a kid). I started thinking, why? I need to stop this. I only watched 1 of that RU-vidr’s videos so far and it looks like she is going on an oil-free & butter-free journey. I don’t want to cut out butters, though. Anyway, her name is TruleyTalentedBeauty.
Hear me out, heat can be good for our hair. I have hair that tangles ridiculously easily and after moisturising on wash day I stretch it with a dryer on low heat and I'm good to go for the next two weeks. It has definitely helped my protective styles last longer and almost completely eliminated tangling.
@Divine 85 Erin it's always on the lowest heat setting, it's more of warm air so it's nothing too serious it just takes alot longer to get it stretched but it's much better than heat damage. As for heat damage, I've never had any.
I’m here for the reverse of this video! I’m kind of team do less but I dabble in Ayurveda so I do some DIY’s. I oil my scalp but not allot. I’ve bought like 3 wigs and some clip ins and ain’t used them but thinking I wanna by a headband wig too, lol
New Subscriber here! All good points but especially need a WHOLE SECTION on #7 and repping 4c hair UNAPOLOGETICALLY. Just some powerful stuff there. Sak pase sè mwen!
Number 7 is me. The Becky is so true. I was told to come to work with my hair “contain” so I too pointed out a girl who literally came to work with wet hair and brushed it at her desk as it dried. I at least tried. I absolutely hate number 8. I mean hate it. Thank you fir the video.
i have like ear lenth 4a hair low porosity high density hair. And half the time he behaves the other half he dosent. When he acts up he gets braided up for a week or 2 till hes ready to behave
Acceptance of ones 4c crown, is acceptance of self. Accepting our unique differences in the textures, curls, thickness and length is loving each other as the true Queens that we are,young and old. Thank you fellow Kween 🙂for using this medium to remind,educate and uplift us. Blessings and love🇯🇲👸
Nothing is more liberating than being comfortable in your 4c hair Jeeez I stopped hating receiving critics about my hair n I tell people clearly am happy with the way my hair is n especially when I get that question, why don’t u straighten your hair??😀
I agree with everything but oiling my scalp it’s mandatory I have eczema in my scalp and it’s an necessity to me since it’s beginning to get hot out I need to do it more than I usually would. Great video tho!
I also stopped oiling my scalp! It doesn’t do anything for my hair and just causes me to have to wash it more often. I used to religiously oil my scalp - like soak it in coconut oil and my scalp was always itchy. Now I don’t oil it and it feels fresher.
Loved every part of this video..I think one thing I stopped doing to my hair was just doing too much with it. And oh I wanted to ask..do you do protein treatments on your hair too?? Great video Jenn❤️ Can't wait to see the reverse version.
Great vid! Question regarding stopping stretching...was stretching problematic for your hair (i.e. causing breakage, loss of curl pattern or something), or is it just your personal preference not to stretch?
Hi. My daughter is natural and I get her hair braided. What can I do besides blow drying to make it easier for the lady to braid her hair? Like how do I ensure it’s detangled so the BRAIDER isn’t stressed with my crying daughter?
Omg I love your hair ❤❤❤ I went natural a year ago and this video was very informative. I do have a question. How often do u wash your hair? I wash once a week. Is that too often?
