THIS IS WHY YOU HATE YOUR BODY... and they want you to. 

Exactly!

Well, the services of the beauty industry are used not only by insecure people, but also on the contrary by those who love themselves

Opticians aswell because eyesight CAN be reversed. Videos on youtube

@@Manifesting_Secret_Sketchbook Please send me the link x

Yup

PS: I am turning 30 this year and everyone has been reminding me about it since last year. It's making me dread my birthday.

I’m going to do a video on ageing! X

@@stephanielange Yay! ❤️

@@dane2145 I'll be 30 next year and I'm already obsessing over it. It's sad to admit how much I've been dreading it.

Love this idea!

that's awesome. I'm proud of you 😊😊😊😊

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Im so happy for you! I ask you to continue to prioritize yourself and keep going, were all just strangers and were proud of you 💖

That's awesome! I've never had an eating disorder or anything related to it (I do have some issues with eating but nowhere near bad enough to be an eating disorder) but I was addicted to pornography, and the first few months felt horrible, but today I feel SO much happier. If you're feeling guilty, just keep going and I promise you WILL feel so much better and healthier.

Congratulations 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

it was my mum who did it to me, who now denies it.

Oh my!! Another woman’s beauty isn’t the absence of my own. I needed to hear this. I always, always compare myself to others and end up tearing my body apart. Thank you for the reminder ❤️

I somewhat feel you. When people see me they say I am in good shape but my mother always negates everything. To her even having slightly muscular tights is fat. She would even go out of her way to argue with those who compliment me in front of her which is so odd.

@@mxm7647 omg my mom too! one time one of her friends said that i had a nice figure and my mom went out of her way to tell said friend “no, she actually weighs this much”

Don't blame her society affect her for long years it's harder to order generation to understand that

My mother denied ever having supplied the negative voice I had in my head about my body (leading to a severe eating disorder). It took me many years to make peace what I now think of as my gifts. You are perfect as you are!!

@@nesrineg6496 I disagree. A mother should know better than shaming her child. It's disgusting to do so and no amount of "that's how they grew up" is ever going to excuse that.

Acne is dietary and hormonal, one you can control, the other, not so much. Maybe look into the top allergens (dairy, grains, nuts, eggs, soy, etc.) and consider an elimination period to identify any allergies that could be causing skin inflammation in the form of acne. Topical treatments only treat the symptoms and some don't even do that. Try not compare yourself to men, their skin is different than ours. Remember, there is always, ALWAYS someone worse off than you are. I once had a retired dermatologist man interrupt my breakfast at a diner on a busy Sunday morning because he just had to cross the restaurant to tell me I was "too pretty to have such bad acne", so I understand. I'm horribly allergic to wheat and I didn't know it for the longest.

@@ianimal36 pretty sure mine is hormonal, as it started when I was 13 and I still have it at 21. My breakouts used to be mostly on my forehead and chin, but now it's mostly on my jawline, chin and cheeks. My dad also had bad acne and so do my brothers so it's genes I guess haha. I've tried many topical treatments but they don't do much, it still comes back. I don't wanna take medication for it so I'm left looking like this lol.

@@maddydohnt3736 I have cystic acne and oily skin, but birth control pills have been the only thing that kind of helps me. I still get them, but maybe 1-2 at a time, instead of 5-15 at a time. I just have to deal with hormonal issues and finding the right one, but I greatly recommend it. Mine started when I was 10 and now I'm 25, and still dealing with it. I hate when people say "just change your diet".

@@maddydohnt3736 it goes away as you get older. Don’t pick your skin though because it might scar your face. Those don’t go away as easily. My husband struggled with acne. Witch hazel, topical acne cream and rose water helped him.

@@maddydohnt3736 feel you, same here. i still get breakouts when im approaching my period bc some things rly are out of control but these are the things that almost eradicated my hormonal acne, maybe it will be helpful for you too: i did an intolerance test, here in australia the company is called ImuPro, not sure about the rest of the world. They test type 3 alergies, basically food alergies with delayed onset of symptoms (bloating, constipation, diarrhea, acne, fatigue) and give you the list of foods you react to. then there's a 5 week elimination phase to see how your body reacts without those allergens. my acne got 60% better during that phase (also, during those five weeks i lost 4 kg, i was stunned. it was mostly thanks to cutting out gluten). I still had some acne bc yeah, mine is hormonal, and i came across evening primrose oil, which is supposed to balance hormones. thought I'd give it a shot. it took about 2 months of religious pill taking but omg such a difference! there were 200 pills in the package and i didn't buy another and my acne came back a few weeks later. I've been taking the oil diligently ever since. Hope this helps.

True. Back then most women had to depend on their dad and then their husband for money and protection.

Don't do things to please men, it's not worth it in the end, please yourself

Ads today are the same! Not much has changed, unfortunately.

You are amazing! You can do this! 🤍

@@chrisraare thank you ❤️❤️❤️

You are beautiful the way you are!

You are Beautiful, Smart, Awsome in every way- 💪❤ you're perfect the way you are! You got this🙌 Much love from Finland 🤗

I feel you, same. I ditched the scale some months ago- it helped me alot!

omg i relate to the clothes part, but my mom actually made me buy a size smaller because "it will fit eventually"

You are not alone 🥺💖

Oh pls don't pressure yourself, those "perfect" & "normal" are just edited.

Even if it takes time I promise u once u love ur body there's literally no limits. Ull be confident and happy 😊 slowly slowly go thru ur journey to the destination. But don't forget to enjoy the journey too

"There's NOTHING wrong with you!"❤️

Once you start taking care of your appearance- hair - skin nails- diet. Your life will change- that's YOUR POWER- don't give it to anyone please nor allow labels to define YOU

Same here.

me too, it’s a hard journey to face but you just have to keep reminding yourself it’s in your best interest for your physical and mental health x

I’m in the same boat! You’ve got this xx

All the best in your recovery! I've been there. It's worth it and it gets better, trust me. Sending lots of love

same here...

I'm really glad you've recovered. I totally resonate with idolizing actresses bodies, when in reality, they had their own body image issues, such as Jennette McCurdy from iCarly. In her autobiography, she goes in depth about her own journey. It's wild how much we don't know beneath the surface and then normalize everything we do see as reality

How is someone “near death” at a size 2 or 4? Those are average sizes.

@@tdob6067 , I am normally above 16/18. I was anorexic, and exercise Binger, (4 hours a day,) and I was taking laxatives. It is not good for my bony, muscular figure to be that thin. I was very sick.

@@tdob6067 near death because of her eating disorders pls dont interrogate such things which can be traumatizing

I’m so sorry 😞

@@tdob6067 eating disorders affect your body in more ways than just weight… If you lack nutrients your body will search elsewhere for it - proteins it will source from muscles and that includes your heart! That can definitely lead to heart failure even if the person is not extremely underweight. That is just an example. Your gut health will usually get wrecked too, etc.

its not naturally anymore... you cant get these things without operations or toxic substances

@@jukaye2179 agreed it’s very sad:(

they've made it more and more unobtainable, probably on purpose... like large companies.

Same here, 17:51 and i suddenly got tears in my eyes

That is so true ugh

But it does. Ugly people don’t get ahead in life.

@@TrumpyBooden They can, and do. You see the pretty people on the media, but plenty of ugly people are doing great jobs that aren't there for you to watch all the time.

@@gianna526 eh I disagree. Of course there are instances. Overall being good looking gets you ahead. I’ve experienced first hand in large corporations. Maybe the CEO has more depth and requires a higher level of intelligence but for the most part being good looking opens doors most ugly people don’t ever get. There’s been studies done.

There is not enough conversation around men's mental health or abuse.

@tq231442 I totally get what you are saying, I hate that too, but his comment didn't come off as "what about the men!?". Rather that, as a man, he could relate, even though the examples are mostly all women and girls. In my opinion that shows some empathy, as he doesn't view women as completely other, but that we share the same humanity and have similar experiences as human beings.

@@jelatinosa i think her comment was directed more towards the first replier. His was kind of ok. I still dont understand though. Since the absolute majority of beauty standards are set towards WOMEN and women face wayyy more misogyny and so ofc we need more support.

@tq231442 i 100% agree sis :)

@@farahwork2552 doesn't mean men don't suffer too. Women don't necessarily need more support than men, it's important that everyone gets enough support regardless of gender. There are even other genders that suffer MORE than women like trans ppl

Same deleting tiktok helped my mental health

Exactly, and seeing other insecure people on TikTok only makes me feel worse. When I see some girl talking about something, I won't pay much attention to her features (at least I try not to) but when I read the comments they're all like "Her skin is so perfect, she's so gorgeous, she's literal perfection, why don't I have her body, her nose/lips/eyes are so pretty" I can't help but compare myself to her, who is usually edited and in great lighting.

@@gianna526 exactly omg why are the comments always about appearance I don't see the point it's damaging to everyone

I love this

such powerful words. I'm quoting this to my daughter. just like me she needs to hear this to. I've been body shaming myself for years and it's because at some point I was brainwashed too. I tell my daughter all the time she is beautiful and it's true and she looks just like me so why can't I learn to love myself all over again. thank you for your words they are very impactful and it hit home for me.

ahhh this made me cry 🤍 so sweet

I screenshot your comment. I loved this!!

@@jessicawagner6011 I'm so glad to hear that my wee comment meant something to you. ❤️

True

Yes that's the first step. After you delete instagram and so on, you can feel almost instantly how much better and lighter life is.

What if 80 percent girls who live near me are an hourglass? 😭

@@valeriafofa4636 girl trust me there’s not. But don’t worry you’re gonna have your glow up soon! You just have to have patience with yourself and treat yourself kindly. Idk how old you are but it’s never to late to start going to the gym! Because natural gym bods are the best✨

@@endiya. i dont think that my protruding mouth and arked nose can change

What the hell? Why would anyone say that, especially a grandmother to a young grandchild? The only way it could be even remotely acceptable is if your family is one of those joke-around/insult because we love you types. But even then, ouch. I certainly hope you're feeling better about it now, because I guarantee you're beautiful.

@@sluttymctits4496 I was upset and she could see that on my face so she justified it by saying she meant I looked ugly on the photo not in real life. Same thing really. Thank you for your kind words! 💛

that it so uncooool

@tq231442 Exactly. My acne was super red this morning, so I put on foundation, and it looked much better but then I felt fake. You just can't win.

I had acne when I was 17 and my cousin told me that I looked horrible but then she got acne to, and now I don't have acne anymore but I think we should respect each other, it doesn't matter the physical appearance

I'm sorry to hear that. When I was a young teenager suffering with acne I took a selfie with an actual camera and when my grandmother saw it she said that picture deserved to go to "the ugliest child alive" competition. She loves me I know that but people don't know how much words can hurt and how long we remember them for! Even though I don't have acne anymore I still won't leave my house without make up. I was also told I didn't look good with long hair so I've always cut it short. Ever since I became an adult and started growing my hair long I get so many compliments on it from strangers.

I'm sorry you went through that it honestly is a horrible feeling that makes you question yourself all the time. I had this happen to me at a party. I was walking outside with a girl I had just met. As we were walking to a group of people one of the guys says "you're so pretty!" The girl I was with said "who? Cause there's two of us" and he said "you of course, who else?!?". This guy was a total stranger but this interaction sticks with me cause it was so blatant and felt awfully mean spirited.

I'm so sorry you went through that. It's also sad that your auntie was also probably insecure about herself to. I remember as a child being compared all the time to one of my girl cousins. My family used to say she was so much more prettier just because she was skinny and I was not.

I'm so sorry. My mom did something similar. Not that I had a sister, but she would blatantly call me fat, ugly etc. It really messes you up.

Oh I am sorry this happened. Insane how beauty standards start at such a young age... every child is cute in their own way- Your aunt just had fixated with some sick idea and didn't see the harm in it. For me, it was granny. She commented on my body, what I ate, that I should exercise when I was just a kid. She would even discuss my body with other's in my presence.

47 too! So glad I don't need to look like Kim Kardashian 😅 I'm allowed to look 47!

@@DutchIsraeli Yes, thank goodness!

This celebrities make aging look bad on some people tho

truly proud of you🙌💚

@@DutchIsraeli K Kardashian looks artificial, weird and grotesque.

They're not your friends if they make fun of your body. First order of business: find better friends!

What is a hip dip and why is it a bad thing. I am 52 and only heard the term about 3 years ago.

@@pheart2381 it's when you silhouette from the front doesnt look like a hourglass at the hip level (like a small valley in between the hip bone and thigh). I have one and I never cared about it. It's actually what a natural shape is in most cases. People on social media just change their body shape with filters. None of them look like that naked in real life.

Sharing is caring.. We should share this to "everyone"♡.. Greetings from Finland 👋

The same sis🙄

it’s one thing to know in your head that these standards are impossible but it’s another thing entirely to subconsciously accept it.

That's true I have to learn this to, it's a hard pill to swallow

damn this guy.. in my environment, on the contrary, thin girls were loved, and they made fun of girls with a larger physique. different people react differently to the same thing, due to different upbringing in their native culture. 🫂☮️🌄

Wow me too, growing up I was constantly told by everyone I was "too skinny" and became aware of it as young as 5 years old and hated my body. As a child I would eat until I was painfully full to the point I felt I was about to burst trying to gain weight. I am overweight now but part of me even at age 39 is terrified to lose weight in case I become "too skinny" once again.

Me too. I grew up in the 60s and 70s and more curvaceous figures were still in style. I was made fun of for being skinny. Spent my whole life trying to gain weight. So many guys weren’t interested because of it. People are shallow.

I’m so sorry. I’ve had the opposite problem. I was told how I was too plump or big and needed to lost weight. My weight always fluctuated. I always remembered it was the skinny women and girls who got all the attention, the skinny girls with big chests… even big butts when I was young was considered being fat… I got teased for my butt being too big on multiple occasions!!! And now it’s the “in” thing?! But when I was young, it wasn’t!! I kinda wish my 18-30 year old self could have been in this time! Because my body in the 90s or 2000’s was considered fat and my big butt was not desired. I went through my life really hating my body and wearing clothes that weren’t flattering or baggy because I was hiding!! I was either subtly or blatantly put down so I never felt like I was pretty and I always felt overlooked and unwanted. But in Hindsight, I see these older photos of myself, and I’m realizing how beautiful I really was! Sure there were times I let myself go or gained more weight than I ideally wanted! But overall I wished I knew how pretty I really was and I wished I felt comfortable and confident to be that woman. So much of my life was wasted on me being self conscious for no reason!! And that’s so sad to go through life like this especially when in your prime years! But it’s jerks like the ones we encountered who put that crap in our heads! And I am upset that it wasn’t until my late thirties and forties realizing this!! Ladies realize your beautiful NOW!! As for a type? I’ve realized we won’t be everyone’s cup of tea! And that’s ok. There’s women who I thought were the most gorgeous women and I would point it out to others, some people didn’t agree? So beauty is in the eye of the beholder!

exactly me too, turning 39 this year aswell! can't win 😅

She can say that because she looks perfect and skinny lol 😂

@@prettyGurl94 *Healthy and happy

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Same here, to me dolls were inanimate objects to be fashionable. I loved the colors and fabrics they had for clothes. Honestly the problem is people especially a lot of times grown adults that have things to say about KIDS. That was for me at least.

my mom and granny used to tell me to quit desserts because I was "chubby"...at age 5. This went on my whole life to the point I BEGGED for an ed mi whole life, in addition my mom send me to see nutricionists beginning age 12 where if I didnt lose 500g a week, I was disappointing everyone and making her lose money. I'm so happy for everybody that didn't have to go thorough what I did.