This Video Proves Women Are DESPERATE FOR ATTENTION 

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Came across a post by a guy. He's in relationship with a girl for over a year. She proposed the idea to open the relationship. The guy shot down the idea that he's not sharing her with another guy. Then she proposed the idea of MFF. He shot that idea down too. She started pouting. He found that in the past she was sexually promiscuous while he was pretty vanilla. They were thinking of moving in together but now he's reconsidering the entire relationship. As usual the comments were her past is her past. Everybody has one. Be good to her and nothing would happen. I differed & said our past determines our present actions. She had multiple partners and it'd be difficult for her to stay faithful to one partner. My comment was immediately heavily down voted.

Main problem is society does not shame promiscuities anymore.

If you want to understand how women really are, make friends with an extremely handsome, outgoing athletic guy. The real eye opener is when a woman you already know meets him for the first time. If you want to know the quality of a woman, watch her meet and interact with an extremely handsome man, and then a short ugly guy. The closer those two interactions are, the better the woman.

My Grandmother before she died told me about women: "Look at what they do, not what they say". When women complain about "all that unwanted attention" its because they are doing 2 things: Trying to stablish themselves above the women hierarchy above other women as more attractive and sending a message to her suiters that she perceives her value as extremely high, so "watch out and please me accordingly".

Reminder that giving attention to them takes time and energy from you.

My grandfather who was insanely healthy his whole life and hard working, around age of 85 fell down from staris and damaged his spine so much that he couldn't work anymore. He believed that men who is not capable of working and providing is useless and shouldn't exist, so he took his own life by hanging himself. That's how much he derived his worth from his responsibilities, that is why what you told in this video is 100% true.

“Social media is to women what porn is to men.” - Rollo Tomassi Each medium provides psychological and emotional stimulation which fulfill the needs of each genders sexual mating strategies.

15:39 he is spitting facts. A UC Berkeley sociologist did a case study on teen pregnancy in the late 90’s. All the teen mothers knew unprotected sex could get them pregnant. She concluded there is no such thing as an “accidental” pregnancy. Women know the man they are laying with. Teen pregnancies are half planned by the woman by consciously putting herself alone in that situation with a man. All the teens mothers in the case study did it intentionally because they came from poor backgrounds and saw their parents working dead end jobs and didn’t see any future for themselves. They all had low-self esteem and thought having a baby depend on them would raise their self-esteem by having another human being love them and depend on them.

Nora Vincent lived as a guy and was shocked how we were treated, when she spoke up her "side" turned on her so much in the end........ she "sent herself to Heaven".

I think the reason these women complain about getting attention is more so due to the fact that they feel the need to point out to other men/women that they are in fact getting a lot of it.

“Women are not the perfect angels that you think” Well … clearly

Women want attention even from guys that they wouldn't date or have sex with. It's just that it's annoying to them when those guys try to hit on her and it gets in the way of her trying to hook up with a guy she wants. In other words: women want validation from everybody, just not intimacy.

We should show compassion to people that show it to us, not to those that act like we are beneath them.

You just know her dad isn't around.

The point about why women have kids to continue having attention is mind blowing... It's kinda true, post wall women post so much about kids, be it their own kids or their friend's kids. Cos they know kids get attention and can help in their own virtue signaling

I had a high school girlfriend like this I'd never have guessed she told me she'd had "fun" with 5 guys AT ONCE and did things like this many times.

Yesterday, a female security guard in the bank harassed me for some free attention. I am angry because I entertained it. I also have a female coworker who loves interrupting whenever I am occupied. I know now how to handle both types of situations.

You hit the nail on the head with this one. For most onlyfans models who retire it's not the money they miss it's the attention

There's a reason all major successful societies severely restricted relationship freedom of women and men in the past. They didn't have the statistics back then, but it made sure pair bonding remained intact.

Like I told the broad I used to deal with.."you will get the power and freedom you trying so desperately to attain, it's inevitable, it's supposed to happen but it will also come at a very high price, a price that deep down you wish you didn't buy into..you want power, you'll lose love, you want love you'll lose power"..women not built for handling of power, so her chasing it, she loses herself, and has a miserable love life..and we all know how important that is to women... Everything has it's consequences.. THE GOOD, THE BAD, THE UGLY...EVERYTHING

I got a shocker from my dad last week. My grandma is getting weaker each month and she became much more open, straight forward with stuff. Mym dad was informed - like it would be a statement about weather - that his father's father (my grandpa - died last year) wasn't actually his father. My grandpa's mom had an affair with someone. Over 60 years and secret like this is shared like it's nothing xD

I see, this explains exactly why most women get up earlier to put on makeup and why so many of them say it's for themselves. Even though it sounds like a lie it isn't entirely one, it's to feel validated. Also explains why their makeup is so over the top because they get more eyes on them, regardless of it it's shock or beauty that others see in them.

With online dating, women getting older isn't as big a deal anymore. I know women in their 50's and 60;s, and over weight women, etc who use online dating and still get hundreds of matches. They do complain that the guys only want sex once or twice and then move on, but it's not like they are completely cut off from attention.

Women need attention like Men need respect. Interesting stuff to know to meet others half way

That's really interesting what you said around the 15 minute mark. You described my mother. She had her first child at 17. Throughout her youth, she watched her brothers be encouraged to succeed and off they went to become pilots and police men. She was never encouraged to do anything, she was often put down by her mother who told her "you'll never be as pretty as your mother." You've blown my mind with this insight, thank you!

I think masculinity = competence. Even more than responsibility

Gents, your time, attention and money are valuable resources. Dont waste them with wrong people.

As a girl who is apparently an “angel“ for not letting a man touch me until I married my husband, and every female friend I choose to keep friends with is the same way… what we have reduced our society to completely disgusts and angers me. And the fact that so many men are left between choosing between trash “sloots,” as my husband calls them, girls who will only screw you over in the end as their complete lack of integrity already proves… Or being alone… (Or that rare off chance they meet one of the the unicorns.) Makes me simmer with anger. My husband and I are both Russian, so he found me in Russia. My husband says get the hell out of the west and meet women in other countries, including certain Asian countries. But he says do *not* bring them back to the west. It’s a rare woman, and only one with God-given integrity down to every drop of her blood, that will not be corrupted here. Don’t ever count on a woman being that. Angels exist, but they ain’t in the west. Not since your grandmother’s generation.

The funny thing is that every, EVERY woman will deny this about themselves vehemently, and may even fight you in denying it.

Having retired from work, I'm SO glad to have now escaped from having to suffer from incompetent management, especially as they often project it onto others! ( While they may have "higher" education [ which is usually a scam &, being deliberately "dumbed down" is of poor quality for most courses ] ). In result of which, many people with degrees have a poor grasp of reality ! Thus are appropriately referred to as "superior idiots"

The part about responsibility driving masculinity is so true. Life is always so busy that I’ve never stopped and analyzed that aspect of my life.

For men to understand this well, I think the best way is having genuine female friends. I've always had female friends growing up, mostly because I enjoy talking about feelings and that is not something that I could find on my male friends. But the point is, getting to know women that aren't romantic interests to a deep level helped me see them the way they truly are, without sugarcoating them with love and delusion.

I don't think responsibility is the direct male comparison to female attention, I think it is the RESPECT that comes as a by product of your responsibilities and successes being recognized. Being responsible for a myriad of things doesn't necessarily result in respect if those responsibilities are not recognized and acknowledged. But I suppose as men we inherently respect each other for the responsibilities we carry, so maybe it is responsibility at the core.

Thank you for this video! Female 5/10 AdHD engineer here, never had female friends. This explains my life, my mother is a narcissist who was once the prettiest girl in her village and married my dad for money, I got my dad's common sense but his ugly looks and I've never understood women though I'm biologically one. I always related to guys and pursued a degree that would provide me financial independence to make myself worthy of a good man that I could choose. So the even headed of us (not all but i did) still do things for a man's approval whether we admit it or not. This video also explains my mother who at 60 years old still goes online to find affirmation of her opinions and men to date at her age

This is why ignoring women destroys their psyche and their self-esteem.

Great video, thank you for that. It struck me how you mentioned girls excluding each other from their circle as a form of punishment. I can see the same with my daughter in kindergarten, so much exclusion mobbing going on, it’s really stressful for the little girls. My son also in kindergarten resolves conflict much more often in other manners, so it does strike me as being engrained in our biology.

The best video you have made. Fair but honest and informative. Explains the source of obstacles that men encounter when dealing with attractive women online. Addiction is a generalized phenomenon that can be manifested in process addiction,s such as attention addiction and narcissistic behavior, as well as or in the absence of substance addiction. It is important for men to be aware and conscious of addictive and narcissistic individuals and groups such workplaces and candidate romantic partners. Thumbs up.

There is a fundamental problem with society ascribing significant value to the results of simply not controlling your natural urges. Breeding is a default function, not an achievement, and keeping a child alive to adulthood is the absolute minimum.

Alex, you made a comment about how men's sense of purpose isn't tied to whether they have children or not. In my experience of life as a man, there did not seem to be any social pressure for me to have kids. But once I did have kids I noticed an extreme social pressure from anybody and everybody in my life. That was a social pressure to "live right" and to "do the right thing for your family". All of a sudden, standing up for myself seemed to become wrong. For instance, if a guy straight-up dissed me before I had kids, nobody would have cared that my reaction was to sock him in the face. But after becoming a father, that same reaction was met with scorn and shame. I don't know if anybody else has had that experience, but after a few years of this, I felt completely emasculated and really just fell into the habit of being a pussy to avoid being shamed by both men and women for "being a bad example to the children". Now that I am no longer married, I will say that conforming to the social pressure to be a pussy was the wrong choice. I should have pissed off all the people around me in defense of my ego whenever it was necessary, because not doing so led me to depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem, which in turn led to my wife taking the kids and leaving.

holy sh!t i've watched this 3 times and im so blown away how much this makes everything click

I do not want someone who is perfect, but I do not want someone this disgusting. This attention seeking is out of controll. Yesterday I found out that one of the girl I tutor is cutting herself. We talked about it, and one thougth crossed my mind is exactly this. She do it for attention. Women of today are lost.

Happy new year to you, Sir A. Grace! XD

Real world ended in 2012. This is hell. We all are in hell.

Dear Grace, This video was highly informative, thank you so much for making it! I'm curious what men is likewise desperate after, and how to stay above it and why we have that craving as women has craving for attention.

''You just want attention but you don't want my heart''

This is one of the most eye opening videos i've watched from you.

A man is judged by his future and a woman by her past.

I heard from a friend that a female acquaintant of ours really struggled through the pand*mic, just because she couldn't see people as frequent and easily as before, his description did sound pretty awful. Like me, he didn't bother about that condition, quite the contrary, we had an excuse for the sweet solitute that brought it and could secretly relish it. Not the reason for it, of course just the isolated situation it brought with it.

This was really beneficial and well-articulated. Thank you for putting this in a compassionate perspective. I was just reflecting with my husband about this. When I was 18, I was taking selfies galore, basking in the likes and attention. It’s hilarious even, because 5 children later, I’m exhausted with the attention I get from them. So you’re right!

The girl I'm talking to told me how she gets sad sometimes about the fact that her cousin usually gets so much more attention from guys than her. The thing is that they have more or less the same measurements (they share clothes often times) with the girl I'm talking to being 3 inches / 8 cm taller. Since she is 5 ft 10 / 1,78 people are maybe a bit intimidated by her height. Her cousin is also way more extroverted and maybe looks more approachable. But the girl that I'm talking to used to be an amateur model and has a way prettier face I would say. (I mean sure, you could say that this is just my personal taste or subjective impression I guess.) All in all I found her getting sad about this a little bit ridiculous because I don't depend on this validation through attention so much. But seeing this video made me more empathetic I think.

Recognition is the currency of masculinity. Just think of every male-centric movie you've seen. Regardless of whether the main guy won a volleyball tournament or a boxing match, or a war, the point of success is the moment he "wins". When the music kicks in and he's done the thing, and it's recognized. He's graduated to being a Hero. So recognition for men and attention for women isn't that different..which makes sense. As we're all human.

It's like dealing with a spoilt child.

I’m reminded of a situation with my last girlfriend and my laptop. I had this very old laptop that barely ran so, I decided to put Linux on it. I was having trouble loading Linux and spent about 2 hours trying to get it to work. She got so jealous of me spending time with that laptop and not giving her any attention. I was expecting her to be encouraging me along in an attempt to get it to work but, instead she created drama. I was confused at the time, but now I know why she did it.

This is why "Karens" exist.

13:00 This is absolutely true. The last relationship I was in was for 5 years. Most of the time it was okay but there were times when my ex would act a fool for one reason or another and be completely out of line. If I try to argue with her or set her straight it would only continue to fight and draw it out. But I learned really quickly that when I shut down and just didn't say anything other than are you hungry and only the absolute necessity in order to live with somebody. Not talk about this situation not talk about my feelings nothing.. it was business only or I went back to ignoring her and doing my own thing. Giving her the silent treatment had an impact on her that nothing I said ever could.

Being that stranger and that guy ending sealing the deal in the first date I can confirm.

I don't even know what self esteem feels like.

Alex no one is living in that myth that women just want to get married we know it's false and have learnt to live in this reality lol

Thanks for sharing 🙏

Now I understand why women who were demure throughout their teens and twenties suddenly start flaunting their bodies when they hit thirty.

I found an interesting post from internet comment somewhere. "Women are using 2 currencies: physical currency like us men, the other one is social currency called attention. The more attention they can get, the more social wealth they can feel."

lmfao! that guy on the end looking at her and thinking "wtaf?"

I urge everyone to watch this video, it's extremely insightful. Only one point I disagree with which is at the very end. I follow the war in Ukraine closely and women do NOT make up 20% of the fighting force. This is not to say women are not as brave as the men. They are. But personel are needed of the home front as well. Protecting the family or herself by escaping the war is necessary. Families, children, the elderly all must be provided for and taken care of and this is where women are most needed. Men are dying and injured in droves on the battle front. I travel around the countries which are receiving the refugees from Ukraine. The vast majority are women or women and their families; children and the elderly. Hardly any husbands or fathers. Capable men are all either fighting, dead, injured or trying to keep the infructure going.

I have no empathy for this. Women are manipulative and play with men like we'rre toys, as if we have no feelings of our own, and serve no purpose other than provide, status, money, and attention. Maybe if I got something in return, I'd have some empathy. However whereas responsibility is a status symbol that requires work and benefitting others, attention serves nobody but yhe person who recieves it. It's devastating to find out a person you find so charming, is only charming because they like the attention. Whether it's a friend, a family member, or a lover. It's narcissistic and honestly revolting.

I actually do think this video is staged due to her looking at the men at the end but the reason people stage these videos nowadays because their is truth behind it that there’s quite some women like this out there. They just know that people are getting more aware of it and that this kind of video format would go viral

i dont know about having empathy/sympathy for them (the modern day party girl). THey have the ability to choose how they behave. You can't just lay blame on "thats just their nature" 100%. of the time.

Feeling amazing after watching this an reading the comments

OK, I was, legit, playing along! 😂🤭

lol I remember a time where I woulda been shocked or at least surprised by any of this, a long long time ago that was

Put a finger down if you you believe society has reach the point of extreme moral decay

@Alexander, a fascinating topic and spot on, as usual! Is this a recently modern western construct? Do women in eastern cultures exhibit this behavior? What about indigenous tribal communities?

Once women stop getting attention from the hottest men, then they want to get married? And if they decide to leave, their husband loses everything.... Hmmmm.... bad deal?

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Instead of responsibility being the equivalent for, I think competence may be a bit more accurate. Just like attention, there are productive/good and unproductive/bad areas where men can be competent. Being competent at video games is like a woman who derives self esteem from random thirsty guys' likes or comments-it may fill a hole inside, but it's not helping either of them to develop into high quality people. I think this is a big reason why bossy women have a tough time: they have competence too and they're so often keen to demonstrate it, so they're more likely to criticize a man, even for something simple, because they believe they know better. I think a lot of women have had to develop that competence but then they don't know how or when to dial it back and let the man be the man.

Doesn't being a good caring father correlate with responsibility?

I've been saying this for a while now. Just because they're Asian doesn't make them traditional. I don't know why people have that notion. A good test is to close your eyes and see if they sound white/blackwashed.

9:50 How can taking responsibility lead to an increase in self-esteem? You simply take responsibility because you have to.

I was a DJ here in LATAM before pandemics, and noticed how women fight for to be with a good male dancer. Once I saw a small balding guy with a lot of cool moves, and women, young and mature, were waiting for his chance to dance with him. I think that was for the "fun" before, but now I know that was due that they become the center of atention at a party. A good dance partner put more spot light at a woman dancing.

Attention is the coin of the realm in girl-world.

As a woman I agree with what you said

Is that York University? Looks like Vari Hall at YorkU. It's like 2nd or 3rd floor of Vari Hall.

They need to get use to it, 30's

I agree with the attention thing. I think I've only sseen shy girls who hide their need for attention. But I've never seen a stoic woman ever in my life.

She's cold and introverted. Unless Chad is around.

the small town (8,000) that I live in the high school juniors/seniors had a competition throughout the school year, how many juniors or seniors could get pregnant from guy at school? either the juniors or seniors would win or it would end up a tie? not sure which class won, but imagine how many guys they were with to finally accomplish the "win"?????

I think that balloon comb popped on his beard.

As I grew older, I recognized that it was attention and drama that women crave but as you pointed out in so many words that drama is the means to more attention for women. Even if she is getting all the attention she wants from the HVM, it will wane in her mind therefore she becomes "Not Happy." The man she will most likely settle for is a man who will always be 2nd best at best. Women can and do leave these men in the blink of an eye because she can honestly say, "I never really loved you" or any iteration of this.

Hi there Alex, can I ask you, have you lived in the UK? Possibly Brighton?

Good video Alexander but not sure I agree with your responsibility analogy. I like my job and all but I mainly go to earn a paycheck, not to intentionally take on more responsibility 😕

The guys who understand... are called pimps😂

Disclaimer: I am not necessary trying to be divisive or attack his argument. I believe he extremely correct but I don't think responsibility is the same measure of masculinity. Masculinity I've always seen as being determined by some level of accomplishment. As a matter of fact the nature of men is competing against each other. Think about it... when a women see's another women getting attention it's the same as when you see another guy being accomplished. There's a sense of unease especially if that guy is someone you grew up with or went to the same school with or were friends with. You start to feel like you need to be better because this other guy is better than you and came from the same place. Not necessarily jealousy but like how Vegeta feels towards Goku (sorry for the anime reference). We crave success as men, that is what I've always thought masculinity applied to. Achieving the goals you set out for yourself, this is only time responsibility links to masculinity. When that responsibility is something you as a man set out for yourself. That's what attention is to women, it's why so many have social media accounts where they pose and put on makeup/nails/hair/lingerie and reap the likes and follows. Which only encourages them to post more...and more... and more. Even the laziest men, when put into an environment with hard-working men will simply try their hardest to keep up or at least look like they are doing something. The reason is the fear of being perceived as weak, something rather emasculating. Responsibility is a side effect of trying to achieve something really, not it's main goal. Think about how in the past and maybe even now a man would impregnate a women then abscond to avoid the responsibility. While yes it's cowardly, it simply shows that the nature of responsibility itself matters. Even the most headstrong of men have been guilty of this, the reason is they don't see the prospect of raising a child as a worthwhile endeavour. It's only really something that men want when they feel that having a successful marriage or relationship is a priority. That goals can be personal or communal, usually a combination of both. LIke Messi would tell you he'd trade all his individual awards for the world cup, because it's not just for him but for all of his family and friends in Argentina. A lot, if not all professionals would choose an award granted to the team rather than an individual award because of what it represents. Other than that though I learned a lot about women in this video.

Knowing about the bad influence of social media on young people, we should, as a society, consider banning it. It has no positve impact as far as I can see.

I like Alex’s explanation of men needing responsibility but I don’t think it’s actually the responsibility that men are after but the respect that comes from having responsibility.

Great video thanks for making it

Excellent video Alex. thank you for reminding me to empathize with my partner more. I have to constantly remind myself im not perfect either.

Men and women are just too different to be together long term.

I would say masculinity is more defined by the drive to improve - Scientists, programmers etc etc

To quote SSM, "Women need attention and validation like a plant needs water and sun light."

I'm a 39 year old male that hates responsibility, I avoid it like the plague. Yes, I have a job, pay bills, take care of my family, and so on... but I don't enjoy it at all. I don't/can't understand how men can actually enjoy being made responsible. Maybe it's because I'm very likely on the autism spectrum, but to me the idea of finding joy from being given more and more responsibilities is just absurd. I take care of my responsibilities so i can then finally afford to do the things that I do enjoy.