Thank you guys for looking out for and checking on me, I hope you know how much this means to me. As someone who has a hard time taking bull, I know I won't be liked by a lot of people but knowing yall have my back I can dust off my crown and keep going. I love you all so much and I mean that genuinely!🌸🌺
No wonder some people like me feel discouraged from listening to K-Pop. Try to right wrongs not push them off if you want good positivity. If you don't want to be dismissed more, listen to her.
@@notwerkinginthishouse8634 Yup, there people are able to hide behind their glass shields. Honestly I feel like a good 70% of the people that comment rude stuff online would not be able to say a single word if they were confronted in person 🙄
@@everglowup If someone talks to me all week, I will say shut up pls. But If you are talking I would say.. : I want more more more more more aaand more 😂
This is the type of video A LOT of youtubers, not just kpop youtubers need to make. We all need to be told when we're in the wrong and hurting others, no matter how much it hurts. We'll live. Thank you ❤️
Basically, toxic positivity is people not wanting to acknowledge their errors by diverting the specific situation into different situations that have nothing to do with the topic at hand. People need to learn to accept that their mistakes warrant attention and needs to be talked about and not ignored. What happened to the times when people could have adult conversations without being canceled, just for the sole reason that some people won’t agree with what you say? The point about bringing up specific topics is to educate people and hear opinions. Why are some people so quick to turn the topic away from them and start putting blame on others, or even changing the topic? Just accept that you and I, and everybody on this planet, make mistakes, and we’re mature enough to accept it and talk about it, AND hear the opinions of others. I know that many times, words are taken out of context, but like I said before, that is why we have communication; so we can voice our opinions and let others know what they did or said that was wrong without it turning into an unnecessary fight.
Personally I liked how bts talked about the issue of self-love, they took their time (and albums) to go little by little, and that the message is not "Love yourself right now" but "Find the way, accept your mistakes, learn from them and try to improve, in your own way and in your own time " idk
To that Stay who found my post, thank you for telling me I did it respectfully. It really matters to me to hear feedback about it. Those Toxic Stays can just leave. I know that nobody had malicious intentions ( for Idols, not even the original singers) I'm glad Stray Kids apologized but it doesn't mean Indian fans can't feel upset or betrayed. They have every right to.
I don't have twitter or that stuff and I'm from northern Europe. Many of these topics, like the curry song thing for example, are completely new things for me. I've never heard of that song. I'm grateful to be informed of about these things.
Honestly, this video is so important and I don’t understand why people will criticise others for having an opinion. And death threats and personal attacks are NEVER OKAY. I don’t always agree with your opinions but I always watch all your videos because they’re always well researched and informative and you justify and explain your opinions really well.
THIS! I was on a random video about this wonyoung girl, since I searched 'fake socialite'(a Chinese projects). I clicked on that video and was scrolling through comments, there was one that said she's a genius because she gets good grades at school and I responded that good grades don't necessarily equal smartness with absolutely no intention of attacking wonyoung, I've said multiple times that I don't know her why would I hate her? I just made a general statement. And I got 100+(literally)comments telling me I'm jobless and jealous of wonyoung, making other worse personal attacks. Thank you very much for bearing my rant:)
honestly kpop fans are so incredibly toxic i sometimes just want to leave all together. im sorry, you had to go thorugh so much for just voicing your opinions. every kpop stan is like 'girls support girls #/feminism' until their oppar/unnie is criticised.
I actually had this conversation with a friend of mine, we are both stay, and we were literally saying the same thing you are saying here! I'm happy to see other people agreeing 💞
Firstly I feel sorry for all the negativity that you might have had to put up with for voicing your opinions. 'Feeling obligated to love everything that your faves do/put out, otherwise you're a fake stan '- is an extremely irrational outlook and forms the foundation for most if not all fanwars. The way idols are put on a pedestal is dangerous, for them and their fans. Because it leaves no room for making mistakes, admitting and correcting them, leading to a vicious cycle of justifying them thus fuelling more criticism. Only if being rational was as easy as being biased.
I truly believe a lot of stans these days have always seen so much negativity that they convince themselves that if they stay `positive that the negative will go away witch actually does the complete opposite witch those more harm than good that way of thinking can really fuck with your mind and lead to more negative behaviors in a fandom .that's how I look at things I hope I make sense btw love your content keep up the good work
Awh I'm glad you also had your sister beside you and that she helped you get through this. Seriously you didnt deserve any of that and I hope you're feeling better now.
people throw away their dark side because they are scared of it. I think most people don't want to quote on quote talk about bad stuff, because it makes them sad, depressed or they are living with a bad life, etc. But I also agree that talking only about positive things and denying the negative part isn't good as well. I've seen a quote saying "we need darkness in order to find the light. Without darkness the light can't exist" It's like the ying and yang. I personally believe that instead of denying our own bad side we can learn to understand it and try to get help if needed. Once we can accept our own darkness, we would see the why in both the good and the bad side btw I don't think your a bad person or a toxic one. Continue with your channel, I really like your topics ^^
I agree, some of my mistakes trigger me, so i am not remembering them But again, not addressing for what you did, especially to another person is not okay in any way It more feels like how u feel about being a bad person rather than how u made that person feel that's why no one is buying fake ass apologizes, where they all "apologize" when they get caught and want to blame it on you by saying " oh, i am sorry of how you pursued me" oh really ... whenever they use me,me,me,me,me, they ain't sorry hunny... or mentioning their past, like " i was a kid, i was abused, we all make mistakes etc" its such a messed up thing to say
Omg I literally love this video I never realized how much info this video gave me a lot people always used toxicly positive around me and unintentionally gaslighting me now that I realized it
Stay strong friendship these people aren't worth the emotional energy they are trying to take from you and never let them silence you their words are just paper knives that can only hurt you if you let them
This channel has helped me change my POV on a couple topics and I really appreciate that. For example, I became a stay AFTER Woojin had left, so I had no clue what happened. Of course when I noticed that in certain videos there's 9 and in others there's 8, I naturally started doing some investigation on stan twitter, which has nothing nice to say about woojin, and I was too quick to believe everything that was being said. Luckily I randomly stumbled on this video which helped me see the situation from a logical standpoint and now I really sympathize with Woojin and his fans. There have been several other topics that you have talked about that I needed to hear. Anyway, thank you!
as a stay i am so sorry for peoples rude comments. I even scrolled through that video and saw so many hate comments. i am absolutely disgusted about what people had written. Even though the facts were there people still couldn't handle the truth . I hope you are feeling better! ♥️
Thank you so much for this video❤️ I’ve definitely been on the receiving end of that last point. I stan all of the big groups who are considered to have the most toxic fandoms and whenever I call out someone from one of my fandoms for dragging another group, I always get “you’re a __ you have no opinion” or “you’re obviously biased towards __”, like, no...I’m just calling you out because you said a shitty thing
This is exactly what I signed up for. And about the Jessi situation in one of your previous videos, idk how you feel because I'm not black but I'd like to hold her accountable. She is a strong female with a powerful message but if she's doing something wrong then I want her to take accountability.
If you ever get any negative comments then just remember this. Most of these people have the advantage to hide behind anonymity and say bullshit, while you are out here brave enough to tell your opinions without any fear. Don't doubt yourself because your opinion is your perception and it's not like you said something absurd or extreme. It's a pity that there a few people out these who can't use their brain and be rational. Don't worry you have people to support you and I agree with you!! Loads of hugs and Love!! ❤ KEEP FIGHTING!! More power to you!! 🙌
Honestly I completely agreed with your video on the hyunjin situation and I was gonna post about on my fan account but I held back because I can't handle comments like the ones you got
@@priyanshasharma3599 yeah and it's absolutely ridiculous. OT9 was happened and you can't change that. It's really mainly international STAYS and not the Korean STAYS tho not that it makes anything better but it i think we all know by now (especially if you are a mulistan) that nowadays Korean fans are WAY better then international fans.
ruoqi fang Well, he doesn’t exist until they feel like it’s time to hate on him. Bunch of bullies. Someone tried saying that their day was ruined just because there was a 1 second clip of Woojin in a K-Pop vine video. I can’t stand those people.
This video is a reminder of why I am not on twitter , literally all this toxic and hateful comments are concentrated there. I just engage on instagram and people just report and block people without like d**th threats and shit. I rarely ever come across fanwars and stuff , people just enjoy kpop as a form of ENTERAINMENT
girl...i cannot express how glad i am you made this video. ill try to not make a long comment, but honestly that's my thing and I'm just so excited toxic positivity is a subjet that i am personally very interested in because it's a problem that i think is present in basically everyone's personal and professional life. we are told all the time either unconciously or even verbally that the goal in everything is to be happy. that this is what you should strive for because it just feels good. but just like you said, it is so important to let yourself be sad and angry and frustrated. otherwhise this will all be bottled up inside you and eventually you will lash out hurting others and your relationships with them. because by surpressing those feelings, by invalidating them you are taking away your chance of reflecting and growing. because growing sometimes just means feeling bad because you messed up. and growing is just so important to being human. about the thing about self love, which a lot of artist include in their songs. first of all i think there is a terrible misunderstanding of what self love actually is. self love to me isn't pampering yourself and victimizing yourself because you are the best thing ever and don't deserve to feel bad nor could ever do anything wrong or some shit like that it means that even though i feel bad i tell myself that it's okay to feel the way i do now. that yes, i am upset and it may be irrational but it is how i feel. it means that i recognize that, let myself feel it and then am able to let it go. and probably even look at the situation more clearly. something i always tell myself is that i should not answer when im mad or make a decision when i'm sad. i will do it after i cried, or screamed or whatever. because even tho it's okay to feel bad it's not okay to hurt others because of it. this way im taking care of my relationship to others and by extent myself of course all of this is way easier said than done. i hope i'm not taking away any arguments you will present in your next video (which i'm really looking forward to) but i feel especially idols suffer from toxic positivity and also preach it to their fans. which is why it is such a problem among fans. there i especially see the aspect of that they do not want to focus on any bad things, even for a second, because you should always "look at the bright side". and that acknowledging the problem will make it harder to ignore and to stay silent. they are afraid of change and growth because that would mean a lot of work and they probably don't even know how to do it. therefore they will do anything to shift the focus away. i wish i saw the sentences "i see where you're comming from but..." "i get that this makes you feel that way but i think you are overlooking that..." more in comment sections/discussions. making sure the other person does not feel like their feelings are unvalid will make for a less hate-driven conversation i think. allow me to give some thoughts/advice so that a situation like the one from your last video doesn't happen again? as much as i love the energetic way you talk because it just speaks of strong character, i feel like it would be better/smarter if you used a softer/more neutral voice when addressing very controversial problems. it could be the case that people mistaken your emotions for hatred or feel attacked simply by the way you speak and overlook what you actually say. and now i really hope your are taking care of yourself, stay healthy and keep going. you can do it girl! honestly i love commenting underneath your videos because i feel like i can express what i think without getting hate because you do it no matter how uncommon it is. you could say you inspire me thanks for what you do and putting this out. a bunch of people need to hear this.
I like stray kids and I agree with everything u said. The people who are responding to ur comments are not ACTUAL STAYS they are just emotional idiots who get offended over someone's opinion and thoughts. But also telling someone to end themselves over their opinion is downright pathetic. I am sorry u had to go through this, we should not feel as if we are walking on eggshells and be free to give our thoughts. Once again the toxic stays are just emotional idiots, not actual stays. Because actual NON-TOXIC STAYS would never react this way over someone's opinions about StrayKids.
Those "fans" are really scary though.. when i said "i am a woojin stan" KPOP fans said really bad things to me.. it got worse and i deleted my account.. (btw that happened on twitter…)
Honestly I'm in a lot of fandoms and I'm mature enough to see what's wrong with each one. And maybe I'm too ambitious but I want each one of them to improve their behaviour in many fields because I care for them and the artists. I don't want them to be perfect on every point but just... you know, having great reputation and doing great things for each other and make our artists proud is pleasing. I feel concerned because I love every fandom I'm in even the Stay fandom. I'll never be ashamed to stan an artist but I can only be ashamed of my fellow members. However, I feel like nobody is listening to me, nobody wants to hear me out and I really feel like crying. I can't change things alone. We need to support each other and grow up. How can I make them listen to me? I swear to God I only have good intensions... Sometimes I feel like I'm the only grown up person lost in the middle of childish 12 year-old "fans." 😔
I totally agree with you, i feel like there’s a need for a change asap (or at least try) cuz things have been getting out of hand lately, even though is been a year since i became an army i’ve seen a lot of their behaviors being extremely damaging for a lot of people just because others don’t agree with them.
Haven't finished the video but the first part about Hyunjin and stays is exactly what I was saying on twt when the issue was happening. Like from the perspective of someone who is a predebut stay too, this is not the first time stays have acted like this and it's so fraustrating....
You know what, idk if you notice this but when Mingyu from seventeen had an issue (which have already been clarified, good job this time pledis) you can see the toxicity of some carats. There were a few who were like the stays you described, they were gaslighting. You can't really feel the toxicity from the outside but you'll feel it once you're in the fandom. There are lots of things too, they ship way too hard. Everything woozi and hoshi does is them doing it bc they are dating. I do not like the fandom but i am still a carat, I just don't socialize with some carats lol
As a MOA, that third one really hit. As a brown fan I can also relate. But more so, from recent events, with the way that TXT was treated by MAMA this year, the fans got angry. AND the amount of people who just decided to come over and say, stop being annoyed MAMA always does this to everyone. Like okay? I'm still gonna be pissed off wtf? When y'all were complaining we didn't invalidate your frustrations, so do everyone a favour and mind your own business.
wow this information really made me realized i’ve been gaslighted in certain situations... i think i even gaslighted myself... thanks so much. y’all stay safe out there and hope u have a good day☺️
Thank you for telling me I did it respectfully. It really matters to me to hear feedback about it. Those Toxic Stays can just leave. I know that nobody had malicious intentions ( for Idols, not even the original singers) I'm glad Stray Kids apologized but it doesn't mean Indian fans can't feel upset or betrayed. They have every right to.
@@priyanshasharma3599 exactly. Since the situation was not that well known I was worried that they might not be aware of their mistake. I am ok as long as they know they did something wrong. I am sure they would not had done it if they knew. But I guess according to them we were haters.
@@skzinthebuilding315 To be honest, I initially didn;t really care about the curry song. I just knew it because of Seventeen and they apologized so to me this was old news. Not to mention that everyone had sung it BEFORE knowing it was " racist" ( saying because I don't find it racist, I only find it stereotypical and harmless, I hope I'm not invalidating any one's feelings) I also saw Weki Meki holding an instant curry packet while singing it in a radio show. So it was really just about curry to them. However, I recently got more affected because of other people's opinions ( which are real as CA is really subjective, like someone finds the curry song offensive and not mocking mudras, while in my case it's the other way round) and also I found this in a Kpop Moments that made me uncomfortable video and then I decided to look up the lyrics and I found a Reddit post about Stray Kids doing so. So, in this post, Indians were very angry and talking about how Han and Chan were from Australia ( Countries with high Indian populations ) so they should have known. And how Bang Chan was singing it loudly, as a Chan bias that stings my heart. I don't know if it's him doing that or others saying it so emotionally that got to me. They were also coming at them for their apology and said " It was so vague. Do they even know who they were apologizing to?" I mean. Here me out: I'm not invalidating anyone. BUT NOBODY except the original artists had apologized DIRECTLY for this. Even in A.C.E's case, their COMPANY put out an apology. NOT THE MEMBERS. Also I've heard it could be as Norazo are very well respected seniors in the industry so apologzing could have gotten them in trouble ( I've heard this only for Wonwoo but I think it can also be applied to others as well) Also I was recently shocked to learn that Chan and IN were actually Norazo fans and had listened to ' Cider' another one of their songs , on a V Live. However, this could mean they genuinely had no idea that it was racist. Otherwise, Chan, who respects everyone as seen in P.A.C.E, why would he hurt someone INTENTIONALLY? Because I can't imagine him going " Oh I am woke. Let me just pick a racist song and get cancelled" Some people still think they haven;t apologized for it. I kind of had the same fear as you with them not knowing their mistake. But according to what a Stay told me recently, it was brought up within the fandom ( as a majority of Stays are Desis) and it was accepted that they had apologized. I don;t think that Stay is a toxic person so I agreed with them. Initially it was very hurt and betrayed. I would listen to ' On Track' and just feel really sad but then I also thought ' How can these people who write such beautiful lyrics be racist?" Like they're not racist. Nor is every idol who sung this song. I know as Indians we fee very angry about CA, I am with you on that. But this case was genuine ignorance. It was also mentioned in the original singer's apology that they were ignorant on the issue and had false information. They said they only wrote ' India' as they thought it was the country that made curry. I also think Bang Chan didn't understand how the song using " India' was derogatory. Based on what he said. he only went to an Indian family's house to eat traditional curry ( My inner Indian is so proud, ngl. Because I've been to Australia and their restaraunts don't really make authentic Indian Food. But that's just the difference in taste buds) So he could have seen this song to be more about curry then about offensive stereotyping of my country. Also I don' t think Shanti Shanti can be explained to someone who's not Hindu ( in other countries) but I also didn't understand that why didn't he understand Namaste ( as he was doing it in his V Live this year ) or he just recently learned it,
@@priyanshasharma3599 the majority of our fandom is international. So there's no way Chan or anyone from skz is racist. I believe it was carelessness and they should educate themselves more about other cultures so they can stop unintentionally hurting ppl. There is a youtuber who has made tons of vids about idols disrespecting indian culture. The song felt really insensitive and they were yelling "shanti" "yoga fire"(wtf) and stuff they aren't educated about. I didn't know that Chan was a fan of narazo cause then he must have seen the apology. I think he knows the situation by now. I just hope they educate themselves and be more careful. It really made me sad when I first saw it.
@@skzinthebuilding315 I know that too. It was very tone deaf and insensitive of those singers. But to come at those groups and call them racist considering it was known as a very famous song in Korea about curry is just really unfair to me cause I think it was an ignorant mistake. I can relate to feeling sad.
The funny thing about the third one is that sometimes about CA the people who are not part of the culture call sometimes somethings CA even thou the people in that culture dont think its CA and then when its CA they ignore their feelings. Thats why i say that if you are not part of that culture or you have not seen people from that culture say its CA then dont call it CA. For the fifth one of the best examples is the but namjoon argument... Like everytime some idol does CA there are always somebody from that fandom saying but namjoon did this, and then some army tells them that yes this happened years ago and he apologised and say why are you bringing namjoon into this. After this they say that army are attacking them and they are not acknowledging namjoons past. But they just bring this up to hide their idols mistakes.
@@notwerkinginthishouse8634 I tried to explain that for the fifth way of gaslighting the best example would be the but Namjoon argument that comes up every time some idol is accused of CA. It basically means that everytime some idol is accused of CA some of their fans say that but namjoon did some problematic things too (years ago and he apologised), in order to shift the focus from their idols problematic behaviour to other things (namjoon and bts). When people say to them that we are talking about their faves and not Namjoon, they say that we are not acknowledging what namjoon has done ( which we are) and then we need to tell them that we acknowledge it, but we are now talking about their faves not namjoon. Then there comes these people who dont know what namjoon had done and then we have to explain to them that namjoon had done x,y and z years ago and had already apologised for it. And badabim badabum the focus of conversation had already shifted from the original problem of idol doing CA/ problematic things to namjoon, bts and army. So i just tried to give an example to the fifth way of gaslighting told in this video.
@@katriheiskanen2374 i am new army so i didn't want to come to conclusions, when i saw what they did in past, i was beyond hurt and it took me some time to get over it I hate how people erase something like that and bringing it up just to minimize someone elses bad doing, like, tf... People do need to understand what they did was wrong And i saw how they grew from it, i discovered them in 2016 but i am now an army for 3 months , i feel like if i dug in then i wouldn't stan them bc i don't stan bad people
@@notwerkinginthishouse8634 What things have you heard about BTS past actions? And i agree people need to understand that they did wrong, but at the same time people need to understand that we live in different cultures, and something that is normal to you may be foreign to them.
For me the most upsetting these people did were not trying to understand the purpose of that video and just took some of your words to make it look bad and use it againsts you.
You’re so mature and well spoken in these topics. I’ve had videos recommended by you for a while now that I’ve enjoyed lol. I guess this is a sign that I should subscribe now 🤣
I truly want to thank you bc this video genuinely educated and informed me, and I'm sure other ppl feel the same way you really tackle the diff sides of kpop, and just human interaction overall, it helps me and other ppl understand and grow
Damn, honey. I hate that you endured that trail of bullshit. I really hope everything is okay with you. Props to you for the "Gas Light" reference. I haven't watched that film in a long time. I remember when the internet, when it was in its nascent stage. I remember when socia media popped off. People thought social media was going to attribute to people's reading comprehension levels. I feel like it has got worse. People can hear something, but they comprehend something else. People will read something and comprehend something else.
It is just either one or a combination of difference in perception, denial, rejection, fight or flight or ego. Most of them knows they are wrong they just wants to argue with people or does not want to accept they are wrong.
Girl idk how I came upon your channel, but but being new to Kpop and being a fan who is very open minded, I just wanna say I’m glad I found you, you have an amazingly soothing voice and I’m here for all you have to say. I’m a new fan of yours and thank you for being you and for keeping it real 🗣🌻✨✨✨🔥
19:30 I got that comment so many times and It irritates me so much, like just because I have a username/pfp/tweets/posts about bts doesn't mean I don't have my own identity!! It happened so many times in RU-vid too, if I comment something under anything which is not kpop related and it's not 'positive' it's gonna have a shit load of comments. There were days when I completely stopped commenting and even though of changing my pfp n username but thankfully I grew out of it.
I'm just gonna say it for all the ignorant stans in the back: *YOU CAN HOLD YOUR IDOLS ACCOUNTABLE WHILE STILL BEING A FAN- IT IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD TO CRITICIZE THEM*
Oh wow, I'd die to see that video about Idols selflove concepts having a bad influence. It's been frustrating me so much for years and heard no one talk about it, because everyone assumed it to be a good thing. It was at some point, but nope, no longer. We need songs about being there for others and loving others for a change.
Sorry for all the negativity you received for voicing your thought 🥺😔 Also sadly I think I’ve done last one too. Not many time or intentionally but I’ve done 😓😓
I strongly believe that kpop groups too would prefer the people their fans label "anti's" over the fans that act like this, at any time. They actually think they're supporting their idols, that's the sad part about it. They don't realise that they, more than actual haters, are making the idols feel miserable, because these are supposed to be the people that support them. Not hate others in the group's name ffs
omfg I've noticed this so many times. Finally, someone speaking out about the unintentional gaslighting in kpop, especially when someone wants to defend themselves they keep on unintentionally manipulating the other side to make themselves seem like the victims and villainize the others. This not only is harmful to the people being manipulated but it's bad for the people doing it too. We have normalized this thing of 'only feeling positive emotions' and that is the dumbest thing I've ever heard, bcz feeling negative emotions is just as important. Most people don't even know how to process complicated negative emotions and decide to put it at the back of their head bcz they're not supposed to feel that and that is extremely harmful to a person's mental health. Bottling up emotions only results in anger for no reason at all and in worse cases depression. And this is a cycle that when one person successfully manipulates another to think that only positive emotions are valid, this person then manipulates another and this toxic cycle has been there for ages.
Part 2 please! I hope you are not letting these comments get to your mental health. Keep being you and do not let anyone change you just because they're uncomfortable. Borahae!💜
honestly its so weird that they call desi culture “ curry “ i mean logically , all asian cultures are “ curry “ culture especially SEA , SA and EA so its very hypocritical for some immature east asians to call our culture “ curry “ ( idk abt NA or CA or WA but i think they are too ) also what i mean by “ curry “ culture is that they have curry in their culture too yet they mock and call us “ curry “ culture .
I like how you don’t want to be known for dragging but I legit come here just to see you drag my faves and us fans lmao Also, I ove you even more for including Sujeong’s fancam haha
I love your channel right talk about things I would have never thought about, or that I want someone to talk about but nobody would, bcuz you are actually concerned, not hate I don't understand why.
I think she meant that bullying is something that happens often/constantly therefore she said it's normal....not in the sense of saying it should be tolerated
Oh number 2! This happens to me ALL THE TIME by toxic ARMYs. I had over 10 ARMYs doing this to me a week or so ago on the same thread! I finally just stopped responding to them. It was scary.
I love BTS but some people are going too far, would they even do it for someone who is in their life, who loves them but also feel so depressed and is suffering ? That is what makes me so angry I am proud to be an Army , it helps me so damn much, i am way happier , bc i am an artist myself, but i am also damaged bc of some specific stuff, some people when they talk sh*t about them, or my inability to pursue my dreams and go to their concert, sometimes even the feeling i can't be with people , i can't have that or that and its so damaging Like its 50/50 I am thinking about learning a language , reading books and stuff like that
Just got here, and it's quite good that you keep it real, but I have one thing to say. Sure, you can feel whatever you want and talk about it and that's all valid, but the main problem to me is when people who are complaining about something want everyone to have the same problem. It's alright that something is a problem to YOU, but it might not be a problem to ME, and I have when some bloke turns around and demands that I take issue with something that is not an issue to me. Sure, in YOUR country and YOUR culture that might be a problem, but in MINE it isn't and I don't want to make it one. The same way that I take issue with things that most find great, but it's MY problem not everyone else's, and I don't expect that the world will follow me on MY own opinion on something. And before anyone comes for me, I come from the most mixed country with the longest and bloodiest history of slavery and I'm very mixed, also not filling any beauty pattern established.
Listen honey. You need to rmb that these pl who r sending death threats are anonymous ppl who can't touch you. As long as you're making sense and speaking cold hard facts, ignore these ppl. Keep doing you!
