Trauma Healing Requires ACTION

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If you’ve ever tried to get help for struggles in your life related to childhood trauma - you may have been told, pressured even, to spend time and money talking about the past - even if you’ve talked about the past or years -- even when you don’t feel that’s the problem right now. and even if you’re desperate to work on present problems, so you can be happier. There's a time to talk about what happened and a time to work on present day problems. In this video I respond to a letter from a woman who feels ready to stop talking and get to work on changing her life.
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@Planet_Shel 4 месяца назад

I'm literally sitting here so happy to learn at the end of this video about your free daily practice method. I look forward to trying this. You are the first channel that I've ever come across that has really been spot on with my issues. Thank you!

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 4 месяца назад

Hope you enjoy it!

@patrickpierce1635 4 месяца назад

I keep making the same mistake, I NEVER let people know what I want, I just assume they know, or SHOULD know, then I get disappointed and hurt and spend the next 10 years talking and bitching about it. It's all in the avoidance of rejection (which is BECAUSE of trauma) which leads to further trauma and rejection.

@ShintogaDeathAngel 4 месяца назад

I either feel scared of letting them know, or don't even know what I want myself. But a lot of it is fear of rejection.

@madeline7969 4 месяца назад

It was me but now I am healing

@madeline7969 4 месяца назад

And you know I used to never share my problems but listened and tried to help others. In the end i thought that everyone just used me but it was me who never asked for help.

@CyberGirl1234 4 месяца назад

@@madeline7969❤ i did the same thing for many many years for people IRL. i made myself feel abandoned and unimportant by never asking directly for help.

@natalieschenker3655 4 месяца назад

that's so me too!

@Nagutama 4 месяца назад

That's why I stopped seeing my therapist. I was so done talking about my trauma. I told her, I was so done, I didn't wanna talk anymore. I wanted solutions, was bored. She couldn't give me that so byeeee. This video came just in time.

@dacajovanovic4334 4 месяца назад

Interesting. I found every therapist to be extremely boring, because they would always ask further questions and try to explain to me why something happens. I know why, and I don't care. I've had enough conversations with myself about everything. I need concrete practical steps and actions to resolve the issue. So yeah, it's always a byeee from me too.

@Nagutama 4 месяца назад

@@dacajovanovic4334 to be honest, I don't think I will seek therapy again, any time soon. Every time I expressed my need to practical solutions, she would tell me that I need to feel my feeeeeels. I was so done.

@BebeZaharasBeignets 3 месяца назад

CBT Therapists are not motivational coaches. Their goal is to identify underlying issues and help you learn potential coping mechanisms. Ongoing use of coping mechanisms will not instill drive. For solutions beyond therapy, consider finding someone who specializes in Motivational Interviewing.

@user-tr5bz6mn5o 3 месяца назад

I gave up seeing a therapist years ago because talking didn't work. It was a waste of time and money.

@amysinger2201 4 месяца назад

YOU READ MY MIND!!! I woke up this morning with the strong thought,word for word, 'the time for crying is done, it's time to soar'

@sharonb519 4 месяца назад

I’ve been talking for 4 years now and it’s not any better.

@Foxy_ladyYTSL 4 месяца назад

Get a new therapist! The assessment by a qualified psychotherapist is about context. Once that context is understood, then it’s about exploring how you coped. As children we learn from zero experience of life. We do what we need to in order to survive. We grow up unwittingly with coping skills which aren’t useful to us anymore as adults. Understanding this and forgiving ourselves when we fully grasp this is part of healing. Growing out of the clutches of PTSD is about learning new ways of thinking and living. Talking is a big part of therapy, but only if it’s helping your client raise awareness about their problems not just about the genesis of them. If a client is able to work on new ways of enjoying life, coupled with leaving their old childhood methods of coping, they stand a chance of growth emotionally. Occasionally revisiting childhood trauma is useful if it eliminates those painful memories. (using EMDR) However the aim is to facilitate psychological growth in clients and it saddens me to hear people being given bad therapy.

@sharonb519 4 месяца назад

I guess the point I was trying to make is at some point you just have to accept it is what it is and move on. No amount of words will ever change what happened so just rehashing it over and over keeps a dark cloud overhead and a lot of negative energy in your head space.

@ecouter3897 4 месяца назад

Sharon, the Daily Practice and Meditation changed my life. I also engaged in “Movement Medicine” (moving emotions, past, and trauma through my body). I have found the most healing by being in relationship with someone who deeply loves me, the daily practice, and movement medicine … I have a rich background in DBT therapy and 12-step rooms but Anna’s approach and moving my body has done more for me than talking. I am proud and believe in you! Your body wants to heal!

@sharonb519 4 месяца назад

@@ecouter3897Thank you.

@betsyc6055 4 месяца назад

I was in talk therapy for TWELVE years and it did almost nothing. Now I’m a trauma recovery coach so others don’t have to waste all that time being dysregulated

@dianeatpeace337 4 месяца назад

Cecilia -- I find the best way to meet new people is to volunteer for something that I care about. It may be an animal rescue, a charity art event, a river cleanup, or a political campaign. You can even volunteer with your son at a food bank or a community festival if you like. I know it's hard to add activities into a single parent's already busy life, but it sounds like you want friends & connection and these are tried-and-true ways to meet and befriend like-minded people.

@purplefireweed 4 месяца назад

I love this letter too, so eloquent and self aware. 💖 Making art, like being in nature is a healing path unto itself. For some, a life devoted to art may mean fewer intimate relationships, but ones that ARE meaningful. Your work and contribution to the larger world may or may not be appreciated during your lifetime. But the healthy regulation that creating art creates in body and spirit is a gift and makes us better able to show up in our lives even if we live better a bit removed from the hustle and bustle. A solitary-ish life can be healthy and sane.

@3506Dodge 4 месяца назад

It helped to talk for the first few months, but then it didn't anymore.

@tonyabraggs4721 4 месяца назад

This was my experience as well.

@rebeccadubarry8523 4 месяца назад

Then you hit a slump, but keep going don't stop! Get it get it! Get yourself free❤

@laurie3113 4 месяца назад

Yup! I've done more healing by dancing, meditating and learning about my mind, using mindfulness. I've had terrible trauma therapists...and working as a group counselor now...I know when to tell a Client to speak to their Therapist.

@karenmajors6714 4 месяца назад

These videos and daily practice have been so helpful! Thank you for your content, Anna!

@pdelaprimm 4 месяца назад

Amen, and sometimes one doesn’t know what, exactly, to do. I have done a lot of work, and have healed, integrated some - but often, I don’t really know what “to do”, except keep seeking, review most current “notes” and keep going. Depending upon what one is working on, it can be puzzle-like; a piece here, one there, that piece for the border and so on.

@CL-tk7nl 4 месяца назад

What a lovely woman Cecilia is! Keep strong. Your letter touched my heart.

@edithgarcelon5142 4 месяца назад

You are so right! I am proving this today: using my 'skill' to serve others. It is a miraculous process.🎶🦅

@hopeandcoffee97 4 месяца назад

"Speaking to paper", that is a beautiful,encouraged method of expressing self called 'sublimation'. Surprised the degree holder in psychology calls it escape, therapy culture needs not just a rethink but therapists need to be held accountable for what is their domain.

@katherinek2709 3 месяца назад

Interestingly there is some research to suggest for some people free journaling is not good because they get stuck in loops that just repeat and intensify rather than breed new insights. Those people tend to do better with prompts.... There's no way of knowing if that's happening here but I read about the study and it made me think

@hopeandcoffee97 3 месяца назад

@@katherinek2709 Not 'keeping' a journal per se but creative output on paper, that happens to dissipate inbuilt tension about something can help a lot when done mindfully. for eg a comedian may sublimate his frustrations with the world. with wit and humour about its foibles. Anna herself recommends the daily practice, which is neither journalling nor creative but simply venting on paper all the mess-fears and resentments-inside, throwing it, then meidtating on something bland, neutral(a sound or word) for fifteen minutes, twice a day. Boy that helps.:)

@YourgrandparentsfavRNMSN 4 месяца назад

Thank you 🙏🏽 meeting a new friend & reminiscing over our childhood memories about made me want to end it all in 2020 (post partum) I have C ptsd, ADHD, OCD & am a NP…now I really know moving fwd that I cannot endure these kinds of friendships.

@leonardcasteel6617 4 месяца назад

After therapy and meditation, opening to people a little bit at a time works. It is slow, only do what you. can do. In my healing during therapy I had an image of me in a dark cave. Eventually In my daily meditation I saw open trench. Eventually I was out of the trench and on a desert land scape. Last vision I was on a rocky outcrop over looking a green valley. I am not in the valley yet but I know it is there. I am finding creative visions are very important.

@lilonebates840 4 месяца назад

. My therapist. Left. Me . Abandon. Abandonment. Lb m So. That's why. I don't. Leave. Anyone. Parnetikbg. Enough Enough

@user-xr5sf1zo8h 4 месяца назад

ACA: "We progress from hurting to healing to helping." Initially in ACA, I think you go through a lot of "hurting" early in ACA. But taking on old family scripts takes courage and action. It's like whacking a sledgehammer at a concrete wall to break through. And sometimes, you succeed in that part of the "remodeling," but some parts of the wall are stubborn and won't ever crack. And then you realize that banging on that wall will never result in a complete "remodeling," And that's where grief comes in and you get to choose to pick up the sledgehammer and start whacking on the walls that have been built inside over the years to contain all that crap that was experienced and witnessed growing up in a para-alcoholic (ie, codependent) home. The heaviness hits home; friends can help by listening but the breakthroughs can only come by surrendering to the fact that the calvary ain't coming to the rescue. And that's hard to accept. But, "Acceptance is the answer."

@byttercandy 3 месяца назад

This letter is phrased beautifully!

@justdawndb 4 месяца назад

Maybe its because I've lived in acknowledgment of all the trauma along with unintentional new trauma for so long, i really think trauma talk can be detrimental to one's health. I fully agree that secrets are bad and can even be deadly, people need to share the grief that trauma leaves behind...but talking about traumatic events really feels like reoffending, after a time.. I see people get all worked up time and again. I personally have had to stop doing that to myself. The hard thing is moving forward. The CCF membership sounds really ideal, its so nice to feel seen and accepted by others. I fluctuate between wanting to join and wanting to ignore the presence of maladjusted lifelong behaviors... I am grateful for Anna & this "channel" as i can see how much its helping so many of us. Thank you Crappy childhood Fairy 💞

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 4 месяца назад

Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts. I think you would benefit from the CCF membership. It includes access to all of Anna's courses for the duration of membership; access to twice-monthly group coaching calls with Anna; recordings of previous coaching calls; four weeks of free access to a monthly webinar; a secret Facebook group; and a calendar of peer led Daily Practice meetings which take place most days at various times. If you'd like to know more details, feel free to contact our customer service team at hello@crappychildhoodfairy.com Nika@TeamFairy

@belogical3961 4 месяца назад

Exposure Therapy is key. We have to face the things that bother us. Avoiding the problem and wrapping our hearts and minds with bubble wrap is not how we grow. The people that are willing to walk along with you while you get help are essential!

@nataliecunningham1482 4 месяца назад

I love your videos. They’re full of great insights and advice. And grace.

@laurakhaydon 4 месяца назад

That woman's letter resonates with me SOOOO much! I think creative work helps to access parts of me that can only be expressed by projection onto a creative project. It's certainly my situation. She sounds so insightful and I also relate to her need to progress in the present. Wish I could have a coffee with her!

@catythatzall4now 2 месяца назад

Cecilia I am so with you - you’re on the right track - the therapist will backtrack you - I am so glad you wrote.

@kathydoe9287 4 месяца назад

What about praying 🙏 and music 🎶 that lifts my spirits tremendously ❤

@FromTheHood2TheWoods 4 месяца назад

Good luck, trying to convince anybody of anything, no matter what you have been through they just laugh and tell you to get over it or think you are walloping in self-pity. For some of us, the only peace we will ever have is when we die.

@megdelaney3677 4 месяца назад

Question: Has a therapist or coach who has not been through childhood trauma really understand it?

@kaycee625 4 месяца назад

Great question. I don’t see how they can really deeply understand. It will be head knowledge, not heart knowledge.

@hopeandcoffee97 4 месяца назад

Lots of love and strength to you Cecilia❤ You sound so aware and intelligent I'm certain you'll come out with flying colours, I hope I learn to be this articulate and strong too।🌸

@catythatzall4now 2 месяца назад

I train in karate and there I interact with people of all ages in a really positive environment that helps me face my fears in a safe place with good people.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 2 месяца назад

Wonderful! Keep up the great work! Nika@TeamFairy

@cierrajanem 4 месяца назад

Thank you.

@3ForestAnimals 4 месяца назад

this is always so helpful. thank you

@kokikodevereaux4932 4 месяца назад

I value your channel because I've always known that some part of who I am is related to my childhood, but I have never had any validation and honestly did not want to villainize my parents. Seeing myself in your content and understanding the correlation made me feel a little less "crazy," and while it has been a short time, I've definitely started to make some significant changes in my life. It is the validation and understanding for me. Thank you.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 4 месяца назад

That's great news!

@linogeghizmo 2 месяца назад

Stumbled on your channel. I love the name you gave yourself, I find it really suited because you're really doing some good. Thanks for your hands on approach, it helps me understand better what is important for me :).

@cicada12345 2 месяца назад

i did your daily practice for a day and today ... i feel much calmer and not overwhelmed

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 2 месяца назад

Wonderful! Keep up the great work! Nika@TeamFairy

@tomtbi 3 месяца назад

Good to be in touch with yourself... It sounds like her hobby helps her a lot like my model car building hobby helps me...

@MultiDonna26 4 месяца назад

Excellent advice CCF! I found that going over and over about the past is not good for me and now I know that it's also disregulating. I am still shy of getting your help. :)

@lightningbug276 4 месяца назад

I told my therapist I wanted to learn coping strategies, but she just wanted me to talk. Not helpful.

@kaycee625 4 месяца назад

She possibly doesn’t know any coping techniques. She possibly is a one trick pony and wants to keep you coming back without any solutions for you. Maybe try another therapist?

@truthowl3265 4 месяца назад

I really relate to Cecilia and I just want to add that the comment the guy made about art as escape is wrong. It took decades for me to return to my art because of deeply ignorant comments I heard around art. People who don't practise or look at art have absolutely no understanding of its true meaning or function. Therefore they have no say in it. Cecilia please know that you are not alone in the fruitful joy you find in art, and not only that, it is very healthy that you do. Art is fundamentally important not just for the individual but for society. Arggghhhh it drives me mad how people make such ignorant comments about it.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 4 месяца назад

Thank you for sharing your empathy towards the letter writer! Nika@TeamFairy

@Nancy-dz1vo 4 месяца назад

Great video ! Hits home

@Autumn-jz8bw 4 месяца назад

I'm starting to take healing more seriously and I feel like your videos will be an amazing help for me. I've been in therapy for some time, but I didn't make it my priority. It can be easier to run from the emotions and hope that you can just ignore that part and still do everything the way you want. Lately it's become worse so I decided to prioritize it. Thank you so much for the amazing content!

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 4 месяца назад

You got this! We're all rooting for you :) -Calista@TeamFairy

@Autumn-jz8bw 4 месяца назад

@@CrappyChildhoodFairy thank you so much ❤

@fabiolabongiorno9315 15 дней назад

oh my gosh I love Cecilia I'm not sure if I'm spelling your name correctly I really was amazed at the artistic way you expressed what you're going through and your insight into yourself was amazing and inspiring

@lanefaurot 4 месяца назад

I can relate to your situation

@sasha-meikadinnal1718 4 месяца назад

I'm Cecelia twins minus the art I'm raising two children with no community...and everytime I try to make friends it just never works ....

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 4 месяца назад

Thank you for watching. If you’re interested, Anna has a whole course on connecting with people, Connection Bootcamp. bit.ly/CCF_Connection Nika@TeamFairy

@pamelamolina5623 4 месяца назад

I was sooooo lucky to have my AA and NA tribe.

@grumpyschnauzer 4 месяца назад

So what is this lady actually wanting when she goes to see these therapists and coaches? Breaking thru denial is a big part of moving forward and taking action and if you always want to swat away what people are saying than it's equivalent to painting without speaking. People don't just come in your life in various forms for you to dismiss their significance being there. Be open to hearing others and allow yourself to be heard in return. Putting down others offerings and what they have to offer one human to another is "not enough". I'd then ask her if she ever feels what she has to offer the world is "not enough". She has a lot of questions and ponderings but is unwilling to give others the benefit of the doubt of sharing their outside perspective and help with her. OPEN is a good middle name and start there... leave the glass cage and lead with OPEN... starting in the safe space with a trained therapist. TRUST is the next middle name and then ACTION. Going to therapy and feeling like it's not working because you are not remaining open to the process is limiting and must be emotionally exhausting. I can only imagine if this is being carried over into your life.

@dsum6377 4 месяца назад

This is certainly my opinion but much of what you write isn't helpful for someone with ADHD. In fact, it could be harmful. From what I can tell in this read letter, people aren't sharing their offerings with her, they are dictating what should be done and that there is one right way to do it. The letter writer is seeking autonomy, support, community and validation. Repeated failure experiences are devastating for someone with ADHD and new experiences should be managed. It's far beyond just emotionally exhausting.

@lw6138 4 месяца назад

I have been driven out of a close relationship by this person's inability to stop talking about, and reliving, the trauma. We are both affected by CPTSD, but my desire is to heal and create a new life with healthy habits. I sense that talking about it keeps the feels fresh, and the anxiety spiked. My loved one was enraged that I wanted to stop listening to the same stories ad nauseam. Because of the pain involved, I can't even share that opinion without being attacked as a bad friend, weak, and unlearned in recovery. I was shocked to be sacrificed at the altar of pain. I accepted the distance and hope to reconcile some day when more growth has happened. Talking about it constantly is emotional incontinence, and it keeps us inflamed and our thoughts preoccupied. There is so much more to do in this life.

@user-ln7lw6qj6m 4 месяца назад

Just discovered EMDR & it's really helping me w/ CPTSD without having to rehash talking abt all the traumaric events. Check it out here on RU-vid. Its amazing & I'm doing it on my own. Feel the heavy burden of trauma is so much lighter & I'm testing it by stopping my herbal supplements for depression, anxiety, & racing thoughts. Been 5 days now & I'm feeling happy & relaxed...& free! Hope it helps others

@dsum6377 4 месяца назад

Therapy if often useless when dealing with ableism and disability. I wish as a society we could understand and accept that ADHD is a difference in brain development and activity. And to also accept ourselves (those with ADHD), stop feeling shame, and truly accept that we can create a life that looks different from others but works for us.

@melitapavlinic7302 4 месяца назад

Hey, I do not think this coach is that bad, probably very direct and authoritative in the way he speaks. To me it sounds like someone from psychoanalysis school of thought who thinks one should stop distracting himself and get down to the root of the problem

@amberstuart1209 4 месяца назад

Oh my god she is beautiful! I totally can relate with many experiences. I’m wondering if she’s stuck with a covert narc husband and having trouble facing it I wonder? I got back into trauma therapy EMDR and sand play therapy. But something important she said , that her husband said “ are you away with the faireys?” Sounds funny ha ha on the surface but out of everything she shared…. Ugh painting , holding our pugs/ doggies to get affection we need , self help etc etc , the hardest part for me is trying to heal in yet another environment that makes me sick . But when we become financially dependent on Covert Narcissist, a survival thing, it’s not funny, if I have to go away with the fairies that means I feel safer with Mother Earth and elementals than I do with my supposed to be supportive safe mate. The tough part, the cocoon, smooshy squishy, painful realization but she should give herself credit of all those beautiful parts and after that’s faced and reach out to support groups for domestic abuse there’s an end in sight and a beautiful free life, even if with doggies for a short time until we connect to supportive loving human beings. Yes. They do exist. Or. I’m just a nutter?

@eliottrodriguez7425 4 месяца назад

I hope I get good decent feedback from you Fairy. Ive done therapy , I am 57 female, but this is the first time that my insurance affords me a childhood trauma specialist. It's only been 8 sessions, and I don't know if it is the built in self sabotage or gut feeling or intuition, that's leading me to think this therapist expert is more out of whack than me. But it took me so long to find a specialist, and I live such an alone Life, is any therapist better than no therapist. Say yes please. Cause this overwhelming existential anxiety has exhausted of looking for help . You are a self claimed non therapist, and I get more from your videos than the sessions with this respected expert. Or is this just self sabotage tearing its ugly head. Please help with a practical response. Thank you

@LunazulBaraka 4 месяца назад

Hola! ❤👋

@babylove3885 4 месяца назад

❤❤

@ajnishanth 4 месяца назад

I was in a long distance relationship with her. For a year we have met twice and gone on vacation. She loves going out on parties with her friends. I had questioned her two or three when she had gone out with her guy friends couple of times. She had an office party last Christmas she was standing next to a guy in a group picture i got trigged and confronted her. She said i am toxic and dont respect women. She told me doesn't want to be a relationship she wants to be friends. Is there anyway to get her back? I have been on no contact for 30 days now

@americasariesson1862 4 месяца назад

Because of this channel I was able to have the for thought that once again I was heading that way romantically with one of my healthcare workers and nip it! I also can see because I am still dealing with a lot of unhealed parts any female that enters my life in a potentially “ intimate “ situation is in fact a spiritual teacher- NOT a healthy potential mate.Thanks Anna!🙂✌🏻

@vivianworden2706 4 месяца назад

Its not therapy thats bad. I remember when i was a personal trainer and if i had a nickel for every client that told me... Diet and exercise doesn't work for me, i would be a millionaire. Everyone is different and your road back to your authentic self will be different. I won't do crossfit at my age. It would do more harm than good But others thrive. Just because someone has letters at the end of their title doesn't mean they have what you need. Even medical doctors. You have to find one that aligns with your needs.

@bitesizeart6054 4 месяца назад

Community question because I need help-- just got broken up with by my ideal partner (I was not settling etc etc) How do I deal with the grief? How to I stop being addicted to love? I'm having panic attacks over losing him every day. It happened because he wasn't getting enough emotional support from me being dysregulated and burnt out. He said I haven't improved enough in three years and wasn't giving him the basics of emotional support that he needs.

@clonejones7955 4 месяца назад

Step one: realize your problems are your problems and noone else can tell you how to deal with them.Figure it out for yourself.

@spacegirl226 4 месяца назад

Was he giving YOU emotional support? I ask that because the affection and emotional support was something my ex husband threw in my face when we split up. I was the only one doing any affectionate things, yet it got turned around on me that I was the problem. Was he helping you, or is this some gaslighting? Also as much as you don't want to hear this, time and distance are going to be your best friends for healing from this. You've gotta feel the pain and grieve the loss. There are no shortcuts to healing. It hurts and it sucks. You've got fantastic communities here on RU-vid, so don't hesitate to share and ask for guidance. We've all been there.

@bitesizeart6054 4 месяца назад

@@spacegirl226 he was! I believe the breakup was mostly my fault because we fell into a child-parent dynamic (which he said he liked in the beginning, but eventually burnt out on). He gave me emotional support, I gave him little these past few months. I've been stressed with uni work and when we had talks about our problems I would break down a lot and nothing would get resolved. This happened 3-4 times so he said enough. It's still very hard because he convinced me he was going to marry me, and he had all the qualities of my ideal partner, but I guess I wasn't his ideal partner. I'm so happy for the community this channel provides, CCF has helped me a lot through grieving and setting some mental health goals for myself.

@bitesizeart6054 4 месяца назад

@@spacegirl226 yes and I believe the breakup was due to me stagnating and being dysregulated all the time without the ability to identify the problems and work on them effectively. We broke up on the 3 year mark, we sort of put ourselves in a parent-child which he explicitly said he enjoyed in the beginning of the relationship. Then he (as expected) burned out on always having to be the "parent", all of the "you've improved so much in this relationship" quickly transformed to "you're not improving at all". I kinda struggle with relationships because I feel like I'm getting too old and I have problems identifying partners needs and/or figuring out ways to meet them, I haven't seen any good relationships growing up so I was kinda scrambling to do everything right for the first time ever in this relationship. Trial/error. I'm very grateful for the CCF community ^_^ happy to learn about CPTSD every day her videos have helped me a lot with setting attainable mental health goals, still figuring it out while trying not to grieve the loss of this.

@ShintogaDeathAngel 4 месяца назад

@@clonejones7955 so supportive... not. Sometimes we need guidance for dealing with these problems by people with more experience and insight. It was the WHOLE POINT of OP's post - to get that guidance and advice from people who might have been able to help!

@jennifernaylor7535 3 месяца назад

Skills based therapy could help not bringing up trauma topics

@ramonaharwick1040 4 месяца назад

Why cant I stop over eating and binging in sugar till I'm sick. I need to stop. The more I try I fail. Where can I find help for this

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 4 месяца назад

Try Bright Line Eating. That's what I do.

@fionamorritt5962 4 месяца назад

I would love to be the artist x

@claudettes9697 4 месяца назад

15:44 this.

@nileaugustine5882 4 месяца назад

Book Called to Forgive by Reverend Anthony B. Thompson.

@otismeotisme7987 4 месяца назад

Thanks for your lovely input.

@purplebubbles 4 месяца назад

Hmm. I think the mistakes many make in therapy (including myself) is 1. thinking talk therapy is a passive process (it isn't) and 2. not being honest with your therapist if something isn't working. Therapy requires you to be an active participant - once I learned this, everything changed for me. Also, meditation is not for everyone, either - for some, it actually makes PTSD symptoms worse (again, myself included). I recommend this video from a Harvard-trained psychiatrist (who is also a big fan of coaching): ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-Z0cImkA_eV4.html

@steelearmstrong9616 4 месяца назад

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@caralaatsch1478 4 месяца назад

I like the shorter Videos

@Ap50524 4 месяца назад

Speaking of talking, can you address how to handle and cope with not being heard. Especially professionally. ❤ 😢🥵🤬🤬🤬

@heidichan7129 4 месяца назад

how can I write to you

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 4 месяца назад

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