Treat Women Badly 

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My grandfather used to say: Don't be nice, be fair. Be fair to others but more importantly be fair to yourself.

The unbelievable amount of effort needed for this seems so unnatural. The only justifiable reason to go through all of this is to find an appropriate mate to have children with.

I am 70 now and still remember when after ten years of marriage my first wife divorced me my mother told me my problem was that I treated my women to well. R.I.P. mom.

Nah, i will keep my money and my sanity by staying single.

I really don’t care if women want someone who’s bad. I want a woman who wants someone who treats her nice. If he’s not out there, fine by me. I can still be myself. Be nice to people. I just hate unnecessary tension and negative energy. Women may make up the rules for relationships. But I make up the rules of my life. A woman is just a nice addition. Nothing more

She wants, she wants, she wants, she wants.... It's tiring just listening to it. Fk 'em.

If someone wants to be with someone that treats them badly, they're basically saying, that they don't respect themselves and that's probably not the kind of person you want to be with

If you give them everything they want you will lose them. My wife of 25 years admits that. Women seem to need to feel like they never quite have you 100% locked down. As soon as they do they don’t want you anymore.

If you treat her like a celebrity, she will treat you like a fan.

This sort of crap is why I (and many other men) have so little respect for females in general. Just imagine if the roles were reversed: imagine if a man wanted to be treated well by a woman, but not too well, or he would lose all respect and sexual attraction for her; everyone would call such a man a demented lunatic, and rightly so! And imagine that a woman was expected to constantly walk on eggshells around her man, trying to guess whether or not to treat him well in this or that moment, in this or that situation, fearing that if she guesses wrongly and treats him too well, he may lose all respect and desire for her; everyone would be calling that an abusive relationship! The bottom line is that women are far more trouble than they are worth; I have learned to keep them at arm's length. If men are "emotionally distant", this is why: women have made us this way.

At the beginning of a relationship she wants this, and she wants this, and she wants this, and she wants this, and there is this requirement, and there is this requirement, and you have to make sure she feels this emotion, and this emotion, and this emotion ... Whatever happened to, I'm a Man, you're a Woman, let's just get to know each other and enjoy each others company and see if we are compatible and things work out.

"Treat em mean, keep em keen" has been a saying for decades if not centuries

It seems like getting girls these days means literally loosing your mind.😢

This is actually great. Treating my gfs badly is my specialty. I got cheated on once at 16 and I became a monster. And ignoring/being quiet mean to them got me more results. My favorite words. I'm leaving

There also may be a psychological phenomenon going on. I noticed with one gf that whenever I did something truly kind- a big romantic gesture or a special dinner- she'd immediately (on that very date) begin treating me like trash. I've done a lot of personal psych work and have little baggage left I'd estimate. But, recently when my current gf truly stepped up and began going hard to be a better gf to me I began to feel "off." What was off? I was being treated with true respect and dedication, something I'd never experienced (and I mean never). So, the remnants of hurt, loneliness, frustration from my mom, past relationships etc began to bubble up. I didn't treat her poorly, but I felt the urge to. I took a drive and realized what was happening. I was honest with myself. Sometimes when a person gets love they aren't used to it makes them uncomfortable in this way. Real dedication is healing. Healing, by its very nature brings the hurt up by contrast in experiences. And, those who have not done their family of origin work will have a LOT of nasty feelings surface. Many live a life of active avoidance- so they associate You with that hurt instead of knowing it comes from their past. They aren't rejecting you, they are disowning the better part of themselves because they are unwilling to suffer.

Women confuse confidence with being mean in all their interactions.

Just don’t treat her any better than she treats you. You know, like normal. Stop with the covert contracts. Inform her of your expectations, invite her to follow your lead. She can then choose to follow or you just move on. No big deal.

A big waste of time. Work on yourself.

You understand its because they themselves feel worthless so they seek to be treated as such. If you treat someone well that feels worthless, to them you are now less then worthless. If anyone cant understand " hey I like you so I do nice things for you sometimes. " just move on from them,they're broken.

They know they're awful tyrants.

When youre alone it sucks, feels impossible but when you have a girlfriend or wife its meh.

Same old cack. These women are not looking for men they respect or to look up to. They want Chad but her version of him. Basically, it’s always asking men to be who they are not to get a woman. The whole relationship, whether short or long, is just the man acting. Once the act stops or she gets comfortable, she will move on. The data supports that women nowadays move on because of their many options. Men are being asked to continually jump through hoops and bend over backwards all for her ‘happiness’ and women are never happy for long.

The world needs to get back to the understanding that has been known for centuries, that woman are basically unstable and require such complicated management. The downfall of modern relationships is the idea we need to treat woman equally when the reality is woman need to be managed like emotional children.

Changing core aspects of yourself to acquire fleeting validation form others is placing others on a pedestal. Live in the truth and be yourself. No one can give nor take away your value as human being.

Guys way overcomplicate how to act so they end up worrying about that stuff. They miss really the only 4 important things for a woman to become and remain attracted: 1 - High self-esteem and boundaries 2 - Pursuit of excellence in life ie purpose 3 - Be amazing in bed 4 - Put her 2nd behind your purpose You can be as sweet and nice to her as you want as long as she knows she is NOT the most important thing in your life - your purpose is - whatever you’re building (kids count as purpose) Most men lack at least 1 if not all 4 of the above so they end up worrying about crap like “am I too sweet?” PS. If you really think about the 4 above, you will understand why women love a$$holes. But you don’t have to be one.

Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it

Selfish, Asshole, dick, Emotionless… I have been called this my whole life by women and some how I always attracted more women into my life, I am married now and still hear this. I always wondered if I am such an asshole why do these women still coming back. I guess this video clarifies it. It came naturally to me though. I think it all came from my watching my dad. I dont think my dad was a good role model of masculinity but he definitely was unapologetic af.

We all forgetting the phrase, "Treat 'em mean to keep 'em keen."

Be nice. They will move on to find their drama fix somewhere else. I use this method. It works well.

Women need to stop trying to be funny on TikTok.

I used to flounder w women cuz i thought they would want to be treated w respect and kindness. When i discovered what they actually respond to, i wanted nothing to do w them.

Women say one thing but actually respond to something completely different. They say they want to be treated like a queen but go for men that treat them dirt. If they don't know what they want, you can't be it.

If a dude gets into panic because he is called "sweet" he needs to stop putting his self-confidence in what other people think or say.

I don’t agree that men are nice because they’re thirsty or afraid to state their intentions…most men are just genuinely nice and learned that being nice shows how much they care.

Hello, Alexander 😁 Going to put this playing on the background while I work. Cheers.

I don't want to treat anyone nasty. I know I can damage others physically and emotionally, so that doesn't interest me. I do me, whether people like me or not is their own choice. I choose to like those that want to get along with me, man or woman. If a woman wants to go down the road of intimacy, I will think on it and explore that idea. But I am also happy to walk away from what isn't working, friendship more than friends a job etc. I want to enjoy my life , not have endless arguments

I’ve never seen a fireman that jacked with such low body-fat 😂😂 Definitely enhanced bodybuilders.

The traits that make me a good husband and father’s are almost entirely lacking in the traits that make men Chad’s in Tyrone’s that women become aroused by and want to meet with. I suspect this what gives rise to the paternity fraud level today, which is currently a hard statistic of 32% of all live births in the United States, all of which have been discovered, either by accident, predominantly, or, and a minority of cases by putative father’s, becoming suspicious for some reason and discreetly having paternity test performed. the estimated level of paternity fraud is much higher. The notion that women are going to find a good husband, father, and provider, and a Chad or Tyrone, who will commit to her all in the same man is simply delusional. The overwhelming majority of women do not have a high enough sexual marketplace value to qualify for these higher value men they want to meet with. They may become pregnant by them, but they will not be married to them. they will either expect men of value as husbands, fathers and providers to marry them as single mothers, or had a pretty dismayingly high rate, they will cuckold the man and commit paternity fraud. This is why it is essential that men work politically, actively, to get mandatory paternity, testing for all live births, universally, and not merely for live births out of wedlock, and also to criminalize paternity fraud to the same degree as all other forms of fraud at the same level of damage to the victim. And in this case, that damage is severe, consistent as it does of the men’s resources and income, parental investment, and denial of the man’s own right to his own genetic legacy, effectively deleting that man from the gene pool. Women should spend time in prison for that. They should also have all the benefits and all of the “rewards“ they get for paternity fraud removed, impart through revocation of parental rights. It should be noted that the men who are in the group of 80% of all men that women reject and disrespect as “unattractive“ and “below average“, both of which are statistically impossible, that those men still contain among them a large number for each, and every woman who does not qualify for one of these so-called Chad‘s, and Tyrone‘s, a large number of husband prospects, who are still a perfect answer to the hypergamous question: “Is this the highest value, most powerful, most secure man, that I can attain.?“ There are many men in that group who are objectively superior to women and sexual market place value, who are objectively superior to women in income, wealth and assets, Power, status, and ability. All of the things that women instinctively look for. It is only because of modern western societies complete removal of almost all social and natural restraints upon female hypergamy, that it has been permitted to express in the current, hyper, exaggerated, pathological level that it is. Unfortunately, until unless there are major reforms in the family law and divorce court system, reforms that make it incumbent upon women to take seriously the sacred vows they currently take and shred at a moments notice, and make the marital contract, fully enforceable against women, and not only unilaterally against men, until that happens, it is still not in the best interest of any man, to marry, or make commitment to any woman, or to engage in any relationship, the circumstances of which could put that man at legal risk of being held liable for marriage, N type financial benefits, and a break up. I’m sorry, sir. You have a great many good points, and I think that your channel is high-quality. I also sync, however, that you are far too soft on women, and I’m uncertain as to exactly what your motivation in being so is. I have a question for you, sir, and I am not being combative here. I am, in fact, sincerely, seeking data. Do you keep statistics and data on the success rate of men who take your course? I would be interested in knowing how many men take your course, and actually get the kind of relationships that they are seeking, and following your advice and teachings. It is my sincere hope that you do have such data, and that it is high. Unfortunately, it’s going to run up against the data from the dating sites, which is quite damning of modern western women . I will watch for your reply, sir. With respect, Dr. John, L. Trench III

You really have to max out your feminine *and* masculine sides, basically to just fully develop your whole personality. This is something that's pretty well described in new age spirituality, the idea that every one of us has some proportion of divine masculine and divine feminine within us that we have to express to be whole.

At this point women are only temporarily present in your life so be how you want to be and get comfortable with being alone.

Nah. There is a difference between kindness and weakness. Between strength and cruelty. The problem is that many women can’t tell the difference. So when treated with kindness they mistake it for weakness. When treated cruelly they perceive it as strength. Sad. Men just need to stop being afraid of her anger…or afraid of her leaving. …and if she can’t tell the difference between kindness and weakness? Life will teach her the hard way. 🤷🏾‍♂️

You’re confusing women with the modern adult female child again

I'm going to treat women badly 😈

Just be chad theory

Treat em mean keep em keen. No good deed goes unpunished. The difference that makes the difference is indifference. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Familiarity breeds contempt. The honey doesn't chase the bee.

Anything that isn't accepting of love, is evil by nature.

I think the point is not to be aggressive towards her, but also don't show weak emotions. Hold your masculine frame, be tall, be lean, have a great face and it will be good relationship.

LOL, damn, all you have to do, is to change who you are, how you behave, and what you say. Oh, and you do also have to train every day to be amazingly fit, work enough hours and jobs to be a millionaire, oh and of course remember to be at home, have time to take her out, maintain the home and the other not contradicting things... ok got it. :-) Or you could just do as I do, if a woman likes me as I am then great or else is she not for me, I do not expect her to change, I knew what I was saying yes to, and she knew the same.

But why does nurturing always get called feminine? I think there is respective nurturing in both femininity and masculinity. Wanting to provide for a wife and family, keep them safe, keep them comfortable and happy is nurturing. I think that the rhetoric that reinforces that any nurturing is feminine is creating a lot of problems in how both men and women perceive that trait. Me caring for my nieces or playing with a puppy is not feminine at all, but it is nurturing. Just sharing a different perspective on it

Dealing with women is exhausting.

I think it has to do a lot with the "agreeableness" factor. Woman tend to be highly agreeable whereas men are less agreeable. This is what Jordan Peterson talked about in regards to the disparity between woman's wages and mens wages. Woman just don't fight for more money like men do. I think there is a biological drive in woman to choose men that are less agreeable. They lose respect for men that are highly agreeable, such as kissing the woman's ass all the time, doing what she wants all the time, expecting her to lead, constantly telling her what she wants to hear, etc... Woman pick up on this behavior in "nice guys" and lose interest really quick, but men who are less agreeable and lead, make woman more interested in you because its better in the long run for them. You will be the one fighting for more money at work, not getting taken advantage of by auto mechanics, properly disciplining the kids, etc... If the woman is highly feminine, then she will want a man like that and the relationship will tend to work out, but if the woman is highly masculine her innate biology will want a man like that, but will constantly be at odds with him because of the masculine traits in her, so at the end of the day she will settle with a "nice guy" and resent him for their entire marriage. I think feminism teaches western woman to be more masculine, which puts them at odds with most men.

I look at it this way... Sweet is something that's enjoyable in small amounts. A teaspoon or 2 of sugar in your coffee is nice. 10 teaspoons is revolting. Dessert comes after dinner, not instead of. If you're a steak & veges man, you can finish that off with an ice cream. But if your dinner is a half a tub of ice cream, you're just a loser.

Nice guy is not people who treats someone right, it's someone who can't stand up for themselves

This is probably the epiphany that took me the longest to reconcile. Its so the opposite of how you make friends with other men.

Hello Alexander, I don't know where to put this so just putting this here even if you don't read it. I have been watching a lot of self improvement content creators for a long time and I must say whatever knowledge or wisdom I gained from you had a much deeper impact than from any of them. After trying for a long time I have finally found the woman perfect for me, someone who looks up to me and will be soon my loving wife and whose main goal is to make me happy. Thank you for the valuable content which you are putting out here for folks who struggle to understand these things. Thanks a lot mate.

This is pretty good advice. However, I never really understood it until sometime last year when I read something in someone's biography (sort of). **He had just had yet another stand-off at work about something, and it resulted in a bit of a scene. A while later, his good friend explained to him why such things kept happening to him:** "Do you know why you're always getting into these hassles? When you first meet people, you come on like Mr. Nice Guy, so they try to take advantage of you. But you're NOT Mr. Nice Guy, you're hard as nails - let them know that FROM THE BEGINNING." I am not exaggerating when I say this is some of the best advice I have ever gotten. It felt like his friend was speaking directly to me. Men are civil when dealing with one another because we KNOW that violence (or at least a "less pleasant approach") is pretty much always on offer. We're not civil because we're saints, we're civil because we know the alternative. To encourage a woman's sexual attraction (and even positive behavior), she needs to KNOW that you are not someone to be trifled with; that you are potentially dangerous; that you are MASCULINE. If she doesn't, she'll naturally cast you aside or start "misbehaving" She likely won't even be self-aware of what's driving her, but it drives her all the same. Unless your masculine frame/strength/competence is presented FIRST, your kindness will be interpreted as weakness.

Contradictory : Girl in the initial video clearly describes a yerk treating her like trash, not a loving protector or an strong gentleman.

Sadly, been there done all this and then you find she's a manipulative liar... Time to take a break from dating for a while 🙂

0:36 too bad my personality is that of gratitude and gratefulness. I can't help but be really thankful whenever someone does something good for me or if there's some quality in someone which I respect/admire, I can't help but compliment them about it. Being a "bad guy" is something not for me. The best I could be is someone honest. At times I think the only way I can get a girl to like me back is by knocking some girl out of her consciousness, taking her back to my villa, and keeping her tied in my basement until Stockholm Syndrome kicks in. Till then I will keep treating her according to how she acts. I also plan to do this on some girl that is plain-looking, loner, introverted type of girl, preferably someone who is possibly love starved. I heard these type fall for Stockholm Syndrome even more easily and fast

So I do use Patreon for a couple of creators on here, but the code it sends to log in I think is going to my old Cell number, and I cant log into it to change/ update my contact information. Anyone have this issue?

A man with no femininity at all is an incomplete man, but the masculinity has to come first. The reason is that the woman believes she can bring out the feminine side or even teach it to him from stratch (a woman believes she can change a man because of course she believes that), but she cannnot help a man acquire masculinity that he does not already have. I think there's an analogy with one aspect of the appeal of the "bad boy". A woman seeks both strength and discipline. A strong man can learn discipline, but the discipline of a weak man is meaningless because it has never been tested.

I learned this during my bachelor days: I am the head of my home and asking a woman for marriage is an invitation for her to enter MY life, MY home, MY provision and benefits, and I AM 100% in authority over it all. If she wouldn't accept those terms, then the boss babe could do it all alone. It is my way or the highway ...

I would rather stay single and sad than to sacrifice my sanity and time 😒

Hey mate, if I had a male friend who I had to think, double-think & triple-think about how they viewed me as a man, I wouldn’t bother having them as a friend, we just know whether a guy is a good bloke or not, so why would I bother jumping through an endless amount of hoops just to “prove” to a woman that I’m “maintaining my masculinity”? I agree with many of your clips, but this one is just not right, in my opinion.

Masculinity that serves her..?? Well what do they bring to the table

My spouse commented about a good male friend that he was “sweet”. Instinctively, I told her that men do not want to hear that about themselves. I finally realize why that is true.

In regards to the strong guy holding the puppy/child. The original definition of Meek: strength with restraint. These were the the words the Bible had in mind when it said the meek shall inherit the earth.

Great advice, best video, wish I saw this as a kid

I have told my wife multiple times that men do not want to be known as sweet. I recall at poolside in. Marriott property, a woman overhearing me telling my wife, make up your mind regarding dinner selection. The woman said “happy wife, happy life”. She was shocked when I replied “not in my house”. I

Ah, lightbulb. Women who say "I will be feminine for the right man". Of course that makes perfect sense. Unfortunately it just dawned on me that that is the point of keeping women as "low social status". I think I've just come to the realisation that women can pick one of two options. 1) Feel sexual attraction to men 2) have equal social status.

Right on the money. There's a time and place for everything. I've personally made the mistake of estranging a high quality good looking woman by being too tough for too long. At some time it's time to soften up, and open up. Typically when she runs away after a couple of weeks (or months) of rampant sex.

All of this works if you pass the looks threshold.

Every girl I have dated has said she thought I was an "asshole" before they really got to know me. Listen to Alexander's advice here, fellas. Women DO NOT want pushovers.

bro face at the beginning always has me weak

Thats fairly reasonable and wayyyy healthier than what I've been doing all this time.

In the end of the day its just a game and even if you win the prize isnt even that good.

Back when I was in the cesspit of internet dating I discovered that, to a reasonable extent, the more belligerent my profiles were, the more responses I got.

Has workee for me my entire life. Im 38.

They rather have someone with status and value. It’s not that they want to be treated poorly. It’s mainly the deep natural desire to be wanted/used by someone better. And treating them “right” early on does not convey your high value. That’s the default setting at least. If she’s grown, wether she’s young or old because it’s is NOT dependent on her age AT ALL, then it’s different but BUT for most “women” (quotation because not all females are women and I’m not talking about lgbtq) ..for most women default settings are all they have to operate on.

You're missing a big part of this equation. The mean guy also has to be relatively young (like 20s-30s max) and very fit and attractive. If he's not hot (like top 5% or less) being mean doesn't work at all. The average man is better off being nice but not groveling.

If a damaged woman has a guy who is chasing her, she'll lose all respect for him. Her spidey senses know that a good man will never go after a damaged woman.

Hero dropping facts again

She wasn't joking though, she was explaining.

Unfortunately i am learning that being nice isn't masculine. I don't want to be a douche bag so I guess i will stay single, unfortunately.

I think this also really plays into the validation a woman gets from changing a man into something that he originally wasn't. Bad boy that she tames etc.

Say, there's a woman in a room with 10 men, and all 10 men are telling her how beautiful she is, and how amazing she is, and they are lighting her cigarette and buying her drinks, and just treating her like gold. Then, all of a sudden, in walks the 11th man, he takes one look at her and says, "Hey, how ya doin'," turns his back on her, and starts talking to his boys. That's the guy she wants to be with - the 11th man - not any of the 10 men who were treating her well all night. But the one guy that couldn't care less, why? Because, for some reason, women don't want nice, they don't want real, they don't want to be treated well. I mean, not at first and sometimes not ever, and I think that's crazy, and I refuse to play that game, get a girl by pretending I don't like her. I wanna be with a woman who's real, who digs it when I'm nice to her, who doesn't see that as weakness or take me for granted when I tell her that I think she is more amazing than anything else in the entire world. But, unfortunately, most women aren't like that. They say they are, deep down inside they want to be, but... they're not.

I mean, I may be speaking for myself but my girl calls me sweet and still sees me as a very sexual partner. I think girls like masculine but effeminate guys if they’re looking for a long term, obviously you have to be somewhat good looking.

Treat her like a queen and she’ll treat you like a peasant

Alex, do a video on women who like femme boys like Harry Styles and Kpop stars.

Thanks a lot for your videos! You should write a Book to expose the whole female psychology to the guys (or at least a summary with this Knowledge on a PDF for Download etc.). A lot german Content creators refer to your videos. So shout-out to you around the globe.

So true and so sad, so little time only a few who can understand...

You can only do that if you're good looking. Normal guys won't be able to pull this off

A.G. does not miss 🎯✅

If a woman won't bring me peace to my life, I don't care about that woman's presuppositions - I'm content alone if I can't find a woman who wants and would bring us both peace. Flippant women with this uncertainty in attraction based on such subjective characteristics are neurotic imo. There is value to understanding when masculinity is mandatory and when emotional intelligence is mandatory with a 'high value woman' though, of course.

We have to be multidimensional and entertaining, but they feel they don't have to be anything except good looking...and some don't think they even have to be that. It's become a running gag. I played that game for nearly 30 years and I don't have time to waste on that crap; unassailable psychological fact or not, I don't have to deal with it if I just go about my life. I'm finally free. If you want to enjoy the benefits I have, YOU are going to have to earn them, because I already have

I think this is something to do with human evolution. For millions of years human females were under the sheer dominance of human males and only during last 40, 50 years they starting to become independent their own. They may not show it you openly, but in their DNA they have the tendency of attraction towards a dominant males. This could be a reason why for many women rough sex, abasement, bad treatments, disrespect, disregard from men are secret attraction triggers.

Finally! Balance!

This game is sick. I need to be an asshole, because thats what defines masculinity to these broads. I guess theres no difference between being nice and having manners. Being in control of yourself and being a pushover. Choosing when to strike and when to evaluate accordingly. And people wonder why the relationship between males and females is a mess. 😒

"So, I know I'm messed up and pretty low value. If you can't see that, how can I trust you?"