''What Am I Not Seeing?'' 

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A man of value needs a single mom like a fish needs a bicycle.

Remember to use your female lexicon here. "I can't get a date" means "I can't get a date with the chads that I want." And also probably went on two dates that week.

A woman's preference doesn't change because she becomes "mature". It changes because her market value drops. There's an infinite number of women still holding out for a guy that doesn't exist, and society tells women they deserve said man.

I'm a billionaire! Now all I need to satisfy me is a single mom and her kids! What a fitting reward for my hardwork! -no man ever

Woman: "I can not get a date...What am I not getting?" Millions of regular men: "I'll date you. Pick me!!!" Woman: "Sorry, I'm far too wonderful to even acknowledge your existence unless it is to make fun of your height, weight, social skills, job, finances, hobbies or how you give me the willies when you dare to look at me. Now somebody please tell me why I can't get a date?"

There is a huge difference between "wifeable" and "fuc@ble". Never forget this gentleman...

Single mother: Swipes away 95% of guys. Also Single Mother: Why can't I find a date?

*Great video and great advice (telling women to leave the sexual marketplace and to enter the marriage marketplace). The only thing I'll add is, if a woman spends too much time "enjoying" the sexual marketplace, good men are less likely to take her seriously when she transitions to the marriage marketplace.*

The audacity of a woman to think she can have "fun" in her 20th and a man will wait for her after she is done with "fun".

It's just too risky for men nowadays to consider marriage, like volunteering to walk through a minefield. Only the an idiot would do it.

If a woman sees sex as something casual, men will see HER as something casual.

Aging Women: "Men are not interested in dating me! What am I not seeing?" Men: "Welcome to the daily life of the average man."

Women: i dont need no man" Men: i dont need no single moms

If things get serious, and y'all move in together, men don't want to become responsible for years for someone else's child. -Where is the father? -Why didn't you marry him? -If you did, why did it end?

She is a single mom. Its over for you honey men will definitely sleep with you but not take a single mom seriously 😅😂

I refused to have sex with anyone until after marriage. Sure I did not "date" as much as other woman around me...but unlike them I have been happily married for 24 years with 4 kids and a husband that still spoils me rotten. I do not regret my decision.

This is an absolutely a fantastic video. Accountability certainly goes both ways.

Dear god Alexander don't encourage them to go to the marriage marketplace where they can do even more damage. They need to be consigned to the cats and boxed wine marketplace.

Now amount of explaining will make women accept and/or understand reality.

"single mom" is all she needs to realize. That's never a favorable choice over someone who isn't

I was with you until just after the 8th minute mark. Women like this should stay a million miles away from the marriage market place.

Hey ladies, the other 99% of us guys get it now, thanks to you all telling us on tik-Tok. You will only consider that top 1% of men, so why would the rest of us even bother? Have fun fighting amongst yourselves for & therefore lowering your own self-esteem in chasing that 1%! Well done, you’ve played yourself & we don’t care anymore.

3:40 The public toilet graffiti thinks is a 1%. Dude.

It really is tragic that so few women understand that just because he's willing to go to bed with you does not in any way mean that he likes or respects you. That's is why you are supposed to court someone and figure out how they see you before you even think about having sex with them. Soo many young women giving the best of themselves away to men who think nothing of them... it's insane.

Many women: Any man interested in me I don’t want

What is she NOT telling us?

Unfortunately without security there is no way I'm going to commit or even look. I want financial security, no getting court raped for me. As long as the laws are the way they are I and many others are not even giving the time of day.

they bring the crocodile tears for themselves when a lot of thirty year old man had 0 to 3 woman in their life ... oh the poor waman, such tragic tribulation they face.

You’ve become the man you didn’t want anything to do with in your 20s. Well done👏🏽

Seriously brother, I have NEVER heard anyone say this so perfectly. You my friend deserve a noble prize. Women need this information now more than ever.

I'm sure she gets offers, but she "feels" the men that are at her level or actually above her level are all below here level because she "feels she is above them like she has her entire life

It is the old adage, there are girls you have fun with and girls you take home to your mother. I do not know why "modern women" do not understand this. Thank you for he great post.

I think women understand pretty well the difference between attracting sexual attention and attracting marriage/comittment. The women who act as if they don't, really do, but don't want to acknowledge their own limitations. They would rather ride the sugar high as long as it lasts, then pretend to be confused about why they don't have a long term relationship. Great channel Alexander! You speak so much truth.

"I would rather be alone". Your terms are acceptable.

Responsibility for men? No, no, no. I was resonsible until my mid 30's. Then I had the missing insight into female nature and went on my last date in 1998 - yes, 1998. They are not worth the time, effort, or money. Now women on the high side of 50 and 60 are asking me out and I always respond with, "Why in the hell would I want to date a woman my own age?" Always good to see their reactions. I never tell them I don't deal with the younger ones either. Few years ago a few men told me I was black pilled and a M-towel Monk. They also said I seem both happy and happy-go-lucky.

Add to the "marriage marketplace" list: - Loyalty (to just him, regardless of what happens. The "in sickness and in health" part.) - Chastity (having slept with 0 - 5 partners max EVER! This shows you aren't promiscuous and likely to cheat/leave.) - Submissivity (the ability to agree with what the man wants, not all the time but enough times, especially when/where it matters to him.) - Realistic (not have a raging ego but be "in touch with reality". Also called "sensible".) - Self Control (not "splashing the cash" on whatever takes your fancy but spending responsibly on what matters to BOTH of you. Putting the family/relationship needs above your own desires.) - Compatibility (similar goals, not putting your future first and never his.) - No Kids (he wants to build a family with you, not take on the burden of an absent father's offspring or have to deal with an "ex" being in your lives.) - Attention (to him. Not demanding attention FROM him all the time but willing to give him patient attention whenever you can.) - Understanding (not expecting from him what he cannot give. Not demanding he act a certain way or do a certain thing he wouldn't normally do. You CAN do the thing with him if he's agreeable to it but not making him do something out-of-character just because you want him to do it.)

You absolutely nailed this video. So well explained that I think even most women could see where you're coming from.

Alexander Grace is the deeply intellectual side of this transformation that we are starting in the west….. Well done sir, excellent work.

Modern woman is truly a mess and yet you ask them to self-analyze and the answer will always be the same "I'm perfect" princess mentality that we're all fed up of hearing.

If this is how you make a RU-vid video, I cannot imagine how great is your Patreon content

Woman: I don’t need a man Man: Thank you Cat: Great now I have to deal with them

"What am I not seeing?" The little _ year old child you should be taking care of WITH the child's father whom you should still be with, instead of going out on dates with a new man.

Thank you so much for also calling out men by stressing they should not have casual hook-ups if they consider it bad for women to have casual hook-ups. It's something I'm totally missing on other manosphere guru channels where they criticize women for having one-night-stands while they encourage man to have exactly that: to not date, not marry and just have casual flings instead.

She said she wouldn`t lower her standards to accept BARE minimum. So if you are not 1% of top men, you are bare minimum to her.

That distinction seems pretty unique to me - and highly perceptive. It explains a lot of things and opens the door to serious relationships.

The categorical differentiation in the vernacular between “Sexual Market Value” and “Marriage Market Value” is a tremendously constructive construct - I hope other relationship content-casters adopt it in their presentations.

Im seeing a mid life woman whos done very little physical activity in her life, those downward sloping shoulders are a huge red flag for me. I'm super active, I dont need a place holder at home keeping the couch warm.

She is ridiculously self-unaware. (As are many women). The reason she films herself from the chest up is: 1) She is overweight, and 2) She is not fit. This is why women use dating apps instead of meeting men, because, up close and personal, there are no filters (there is fake-up I grant you), and she has to answer questions and talk - IN.REAL.TIME. No fake profiles, no posed shots, none of that dating app nonsense.

#1; A tatoo is a huge turn off!

The topic in this video is something that SO many women in that 30 to 50 age range don’t grasp. They confuse a man’s willingness to have sex with her with his willingness to see her as a relationship partner. The bar for a man to want a relationship is so much higher for him than it is for a night of casual sex. Women confuse sexual interest with relationship interest and it causes them to drastically overrate their market value with men because a Chad will sleep with a woman who is a 5 if he’s feeling like it…. And that’ll make her think she’s a 9 or 10. Way too many women have overly inflated views of their appeal to men. I truly wish more women understood the difference between the two scenarios because they’d be saving themselves a lot of wasted time and pain if they grasped this. Great video 👍🏻

For me. The worst is the condesending attitude. And demands after demands. No matter how beutiful, totally lose interest in that mentality. I know my worth i know how much i have to give, and i respect myself. Not gonne throw that away on some beauty with a totally weak and moldy personality

I know a single woman in her thirties that said she was willing to wait for high-quality men to be out of relationships than date single-men below her standard. It is sick. Women rather complain and be lonely than lower their high standard

"I am choosing guys that have no interest in committing to me, because they have all those options. Why they dont commit to me?!? After all i have decided that they should!"

This is a trend.

A couple of points I'll add with the single moms thing: I just don't want kids. Period. A lot of people who like to shame those who won't date single parents just don't get the many simultaneous decisions you're making when considering a single parent as dateworthy where these decisions otherwise wouldn't exist. One of them is, "If I take them on an LTR, I'm also deciding to 'have' children." Not only that, but having "her" children. Next, as a parent, the most important relationship will be with your partner, not the children. Because healthy children stand on the shoulders of healthy parents. Therefore, the relationship with your partner will take precedence. If I'm dating a single mom, she will likely primarily be oriented to the children, not to me. And her expectation of me will be to do the same. There's no room to make each other the priority and now you've opened the door for a lot to go wrong... the children suffer for it because they don't have strong parents because the parents don't prioritize each other.

The very women who are clueless about this, also claim to be Emotionally Intelligent. They are also the ones who will lie about their body count and sexual history.

Men all remember that period from 16 - 24 or so, testosterone through the roof. SMV was the only thing that mattered, commitment was not a factor. If she's got a smoke show body, it doesn't matter that she's bat-sh!t crazy, she's going to be out of your life in a few hours, a few weeks at max. So young girls get introduced to dating around that same age range, and think that is normal male behavior. And they adapt to it. Then at 30 they hit the wall as men hit their stride, and women are left wondering what happened.

Sir, thank you for this particular post. I subscribed to your channel because you are one of the very few people on RU-vid who say anything of substances on this particular topic. That being said, how many men is going to practice the advice given to them to the end of your presentation...how I wish

I cant say I don't appreciate and respect a very well thought out middle of the road conversation. Much appreciated sir.

This is one of your best messages. And very true.

"What am I not Seeing?" translation "Why won't Chad and Tyrone who is also rich and Tall won't commit to me and pay my bills!!!???!!!"

Exact reason we need strong fathers in the family. They insulated young women against this: having youth and beauty at an immature age they cannot handle it.

Amazing.... He says all the things I have been thinking for years. It's good to hear some one say it out loud.

Great point, many women don’t understand sexual value and marriage value are completely different for men.

Anyone that has a ring light, is to me a narcissist. When you have to buy a specialised lighting equipment while filming yourself it says it all. It means they spend too much time recording themselves and shows us how vain they are.

Girl probably went on more dates that week than I've went on in my entire life.

George said everyone would start repeating his assertion that men are the cause for women being like they are. This is the second video today I’ve heard it.

I feel like single moms and single dads need to exclusively date each other

Omg, the video is so good it hurts.

It baffles me a lot as to how self-unaware these single mothers are. Is it that hard to understand why men don't want you? Come on, who wants to take care of the genetic leftover of other men for goodness sake?

@Alexandergrace5350 I have to say....I love your videos because they are consistently thought-provoking. Well done! You often times mirror my own thoughts and other times cause me to consider other perspectives. Thank you.

Thanks for the video. I love the message. I wish this was talked about more.

After finally understanding that I am a part of that group of men who are "not desirable" to women, I have accepted that and I now concentrate on achieving my own goals towards financial independence and pursuit of my own interests. Much like when a man decides to sail solo around the world. I gather my supplies and outfit my craft and trim my sails to tack into the winds of life. And while I am certain that women such as these will mock me, their words are meaningless to me since I know that their time will come for them without me having to do anything. I would recommend to all men to invest in companies making box wine and cat food.

100% on point in this video. I've hammered many women, the majority were not partner material and I never considered them as viable prospects despite being attractive. Eg One girl had a full tattoo sleeve on her left arm, and her back was completely covered. She was decent looking and game. To me, it was an exercise in ticking the, 'I've slept with a pornstar' box due to her being plastered in ink. Once I'd had what I wanted, she got dropped like a live handgrenade. I learnt 25 years ago to be as ruthless with women, as they are with women!

That lecture was Incredible! ❤

This is a great distinction to make: sexual market value vs marriage market value. Imagine a logic chart similar to those used by programmers when designing the way a program should work prior to coding it. The logical steps required to get from where she is now to a sexual encounter would be different in some ways than the steps required to end up in a good marriage. So, the key task would be to identify the differences and make sure her flow chart includes all the decisions that end in marriage and none of the decisions that end in single sexuality. (IF that's the outcome she truly desires, of course. Not everyone's end goal is the same. )

I know plenty of regular, down to earth, honest, hard working guys out there. And guess what? They haven't dated in years. Years! They've either given up or can't get a date. One date! Women are aiming way above their batting average. Social media, ego, and hypergamy have turned dating into a wasteland.

0:27 it was a savage intro, totally cracked me up :D

Thanks for emphasizing the difference between sexual value and relational/marriage value.

Excellent explanation of the difference between sexual and marriage marketplace. Fathers used to be the gate keepers of their daughters marketplace. An easy woman meant something 50 years ago, since it lowered a woman's value in a man's mind.

As a single father with all round average stats (appearance, income, height, etc etc) Sexual market doesn't exist for me. Let alone marriage. I'm still not able to just accept being single forever and that bugs me greatly. but the chances of finding a decent woman nowadays seems almost entirely impossible.

She can't see her poor decisions have lead to where see is now

What a fantastic video. I can't believe we get to watch this for free.

I like your points at the end, Alexander.

That tattooed chick wins the Self-Delusion Prize of the Year, in my view.

The other obvious point to consider here is she's a single mother, and she's decided she's ready to settle down now. (She needs someone to provide). So she's not looking for the "fun" she was previously. This is for keeps now, she wants commitment, she wants marriage. Quite aside from the fact that her potential as a wife has been enormously decreased by simply being a single mother - she's got to consider that as divorce rates continue to rise, and women bring 80% of those filings and family law remains punitive to men, less and less men are taking on the enormous risk (for potentially scant reward) of actually getting married anyway. So the actual macro of the target market she's looking at is shrinking itself, at the same time as what she's "offering" is putting her at a disadvantage. It's not *just* consider marrying me and become a father to someone elses child. Which is of itself a difficult proposition. It's *also* the combination of (1) the fact that men are now far more aware that marriage is an INCREDIBLE risk for them, it's the biggest decision we will ever make in our lives, and has the very real possibility of ruining you. (2) women like the one in the video have already left the father of their actual child. The guy that made the kid with you, has history with you, was probably building a future with you ...... That guy was incentivised (particularly if she was married to him) to make that relationship work in a way no other man that comes along subsequently ever will. And you left HIM. why would another man then commit knowing that ?, the risk factor to hanging your entire life (quite literally in some cases) on the line and marrying a girl who has previously left the father of her child...... Many people will see that as far too much risk to place with someone that will probably walk the second things get tough or when she loses "the feels". That sounds harsh - and I'm sure there are exceptions - unexpected pregnancy, or a widow etc. But by and large the above is the logic most guys will apply and they will screen her out. She's looking for a unicorn in a dwindling market.

The biggest problem with a single mother is the fact that she will always be a mother first. Her kid(s) will always come first and the guy somewhere down her list of priorities not necessarily even second. This happens to fathers but it is even worse for step-fathers who are rarely able to exercise any authority where the wife’s kid(s) are concerned. The odds are very much against it working out well for the guy. So naturally the vast majority of men are just not interested and rightly so.

Preach on, brother.. You tube is better with people like you. Quality content here.

Good one! Best explained

Its weird, because I have encountered a lot of outrage and defiance from guys when I told them, that I am not willing to have sex without any commitment

Thank you, Alexander. I am a 28F and I am really happy that you said that us women can have a chance in the marriage market. I’ve always wanted marriage since 19 but have not found that person to marry yet

Excellent message.

That chest tattoo says it all not even the kid does it the same way

It might be important to point out that both. sexual and marriage market values, are not mutually exclusive. A woman could fall into both categories. Additionally, some men can not sleep with a woman who does not meet both, sexual and relationship, standards. Meaning, she could potentially be a good sexual partner, but some man would still refuse sex with her since it's awkward banging a woman with whom they have no emotional connection.

Relationships are Give & Take. If she wants a dynamic of 'He Gives, She Takes' he won't be interested.

Keep up the good work Alexander haven seen a vid from you in ages. I should have sub to you long time ago done! 👏

She can get a date... just not with the men who give her the butterflies. The men in her friend zone are _not_ options.

Hi Alex. I think what we see in current times is that humans are lack of social skills. I see most of people's walking with phones and headphones.. We are getting away from us. It is not only about age. It is all that media made to us

excellent work on this video