Her twin sister is about to get married and the only thing that this maid of honour is thinking about is having a dress completely different from the bridesmaids'. Catch Say Yes to the Dress on TLC - Sky 133, Virgin 162, BT TV 323
There's literally no point in a bridesmaid having a train! No one is going to be there fluffing out their train perfectly and a bunched up mess isn't cute. Like you want to deal with a bustle when the reception comes around too? Hell no.
@@yonder07 well except for the formal definition of the train, the train dress is the long material which is dragged on the floor, the part that make a normal dress a long dress of 118 inch
The sister’s whole attitude is gross. I get that they’re close and I’m sure the marriage is going to be an adjustment for her, but that “let me have my moment”? Girl, it’s not your wedding. This is a celebration of your sister and her new husband. It’s HER day, THEIR day. Ugh, I hate how everyone catered to her in the end.
Do you have a twin? When my twin got into a serious relationship, I struggled hard for quite a long time - because it was like a breakup between us after 28 years. We were a "pair" for all of our life, I was her number 1 and suddenly I wasn't anymore. I can understand the sister. It feels like she wants to rescue a little bit of their bond into the wedding because its a very happy day for a twin but can also be a sad day (when it becomes official that the two of you are not one any more) and it will never be like before any more. Not all twins are like that, but a lot are.
Jhalmuriম্যাটার I’m going to assume you don’t have a twin but it is both of their moments but mainly the brides, it is a celebration of 2 things, one getting married, and them leaving each other, like them not being half and half anymore which is a big deal. I have a twin and if you had one you would understand, twins to everything together, like I mean EVERYTHING. Therefore it is just common behavior from the other twin because she will never be the other half of her ever again.
I don't think she's being gross exactly, just wants to feel more part of her sisters big day after all they are two halves of one whole genetically and have lived their entire lives side by side. But as an outside spectator in my opinion, and I'm obviously not them but I can imagine how it would be for a twin, (I had close friends growing up who were twins, but a boy and girl, so only fraternal but they were still close) I would say the sister getting married picks the best possible dress for her sister, something that she could see herself in as a maid of honour to her sister, and they agree that when the roles are reversed, the other will do the same for her... & she should stand out a little bit, it's not unusual for a maid of honour anyway, so I hear And... It's not like she is asking for a replica of the wedding dress !! Now that would be going nuts - imagine that and then compare... mind boggles, right?? Still don't like that dress she chose though I think the bridesmaids and maid of honour should still have similar dresses, something tieing them together, maybe the same fabric (a black like the bride's pick for bridesmaids) and her style is different to the rest; like a one shoulder with a tiny extra bit of skirt at the back, not quite a train... Or, say same colour but different dress... Or is that the same thing... ? Well I'm thinking say, purple, for example, and a totally different dress (to the rest) ((with chiffon, or tulle?? Tulip?? I dunno...)) while they, the others have on a simpler form fitting style, different fabrics altogether, just the colour matched...
Being a twin myself, I would put my sister right in her place if she tried to do this. We also do everything together and she is my best friend, but this is just selfish. Twins are always grouped together so let the one getting married stand out and away from you just this once. I would never do this to my twin if she got married before me.
I mean she is not taking over her sisters spotlight, she just wants to feel special too, it’s going to be their last time together, before separating from each other. I don’t have a twin but I totally understand their emotions.
As a twin too, i tend to wear different color /style when going out with twin ..she does the same too ...on a wedding day!!? If i could not attend her wedding , i would do it ..bcuz it is her day and i want her to have it all for once
I think it's that it'snot like a normal brother and sister relationship. There are twins that can speak in unison or finish each other's sentences. For the twin it's basically if your lifelong spouse dumped you for someone else
The sister didnt even care. She was obsessed with her moment than her sister getting married and separated from her. The bride was a sweetie though!!Kind and thoughtful.
Too sweet and thoughtful, she should have taken more control over HER wedding. She just cared about “having her moment” she said nothing about celebrating separating until her sister said it then she took it and ran with it.
i feel like maybe the twin sister is just scared of like giving her best friend up like they have done everything together and when her sister gets married she’s leaving her twin to go with her husband idk
3:49 - "I look like a disco" "Honey, you look like the ball" THAT GIRL'S EXPRESSION WAS DEVASTATED. She was feeling so self conscious and I guess she thought the woman meant that she's shaped like a ball. Poor girl
I have an identical twin myself but my sister wouldn't need a "moment" on my day. You literally share everything since being in the womb. Your wedding day isn't something you share with your twin sister, its something you share with your husband!
I get the twin thing, they SHOULD have a 'moment' at the reception, symbolic to the separation of twin, to establish end of the childhood and beginning of wifehood. Or is she going on the honeymoon too?
Wilma Knickersfit My cousin had all the bridesmaids wear the same thing, but they all had bouquets with wedding colors for the ribbons. The maid of honor had a separate color ribbon to set her apart, but she still looked amazing and it all blended together well. This bride could have done something like that
I was MOH for a friend in college and to be clear, if I was a generic BM I would have suffered in silence, but since I was going to be beside her in EVERY photo... We all got those Infiniti dresses where you wrap them differently? Super easy and affordable on etsy. Wedding colors were silver and navy, BM dresses were silver. When my dress came in I of course tried it on, and well... I'm really fair skinned. I legitimately looked like I had jaundice, it was horrible. My mother and I tried for about an hour to see if we could wrap it in a way that made my skin look LESS yellow, but there was nothing for it... I looked like a seasick lemon wrapped in tin foil. I sent my bride friend a picture of me in the dress, asking how she felt about me returning it for a navy, since it wouldn't be odd for the MOH to wear the complementary wedding color. She was an art major. Within about 30 seconds of receiving the photo she sent an urgent text to exchange it asap. HUGE relief! Everyone looked great, the other BMs looked like Greek goddesses in the silver, friend looked divine, and the photos focus on her and her husband, not a MOH who looked like she had good poisoning!
I get it. I am a twin and while I didn’t think it was my wedding too, the moment my sister walked out the door into wedded bliss I fell apart. Hardest day of my life. She is happy, I am happy but that is a hard shift for twins to make. This maid of honor is showing up rude but it is about so much more. Inside she is falling apart, thinking she is losing her sister.
@@eileenmcdonald1599 that wasn’t my experience. Our parents encouraged us to pursue our very different giftings . Even today, she is rocking it as a stay at home mom in America and I am working with refugees in Africa. We are very far apart, but there is no denying the twin bond. It is real and fierce.
The bride showed her love for her sister, but the sister just showed how selfish she is because if she loved her she would have understood it was her day.
No. This isn't about attention. It's about becoming the number two for someone when you have been number one for your whole life. Since before birth. For some twins it is no problem, but for others, it's hard. And the wedding is the moment when it gets official.
Her sister has such a cheap, kitschy taste. The classic off the shoulder dress looked the best on her, the one with the embellishments looked so ugly, did not make her any justice.
the whole point of the dress with diamonds is to show everyone how special she is to the bride and vise versa and also represents how they are always going to reconnected through anything and everything so as long as they are both happy id doesn't matter if she looks trashy or not in my opinion take no offense in what i say please
I'm okay with it looking a little different from the bridesmaids', but I didn't like this particular one - at all. Also, unlike the bride's gown, the train on this one doesn't appear to have any way to bustle, so it will be a problem for dancing, etc.
That is the sweetest relationship I've seen sisters have. I can see now why she wanted to stand out and feel special because it's essentially making the occasion that they are growing apart. Truly bittersweet but very heartwarming at the same time.
Actually it is, too. It's a really beautiful, exciting, magical day for the bride and groom, but a incomprehensibly bittersweet day for this twin who is essentially losing her other half. I say the bride's reaction to her says how close they really are. If the bride sneered at her and rolled her eyes at the thought of her twin trying to feel special then I would agree with you but she didn't. She saw what was really going on underneath and saw what was really important and ultimately showed an extreme amount of love for her. That is why I disagree with you and most of the negative reactions towards the bridesmaid on this thread.
@@dawniebug784 I felt it too, made me teary eye. Her sister is starting a new chapter and they will also start a new chapter together except one will be married and possibly start a family , dynamics will def change.
@@dawniebug784 this is true I’m a twin but with a boy and I now have a son but I still feel like I’m not closer to anyone else but him literally the other half and my son is half of our hearts 😂😂😂
I know the sister was completely out of line with how she was acting; but when she said, "Calvin will be your other half now," I honestly cried. She wasn't trying to make the wedding about herself, she was trying to cling onto her relationship with her sister and wanted to feel like she was still just as loved and special. She's broken hearted, and my heart hurts for her.
If your best friend puts you in a sack for her wedding day you need a new friend. Best friends want you to look good on the wedding day, since you'll be representing them. If she puts you in something that makes you purposely look bad means she's insecure.
@@laylanazzal8639 um no it's called it's her day. She should be able to choose what she wants her bridesmaids in. If she finds a dress she wants for her bridesmaids dress ima wear it whether I think it's pretty or not🤷♀️
@@laylanazzal8639 you added *purposefully* and sinister-ish motivation to make your argument projecting something 🤔 you might not like it, or think it's making you look good but if anything this show can teach us (whoever didn't know already) it's that we can have very different ideas what _looks good_ on a person means. Brides choosing anything related to her wedding to look bad /and you do realize it's representing them! / just doesn't make sense. Of course, a sack is likely a hyperbole, OP used to make a point. But if you had a person who'd do some funny theme wedding where sack wearing would fit for a best friend - well, you knew who you were friend with, lol. That said, I don't think nobody should voice any complains, ever - for example I have sensory issues and sometimes wear clothes close to skin inside out, itchy turns to unbearably painful very fast. If that wasn't taken into consideration - then you'd be right about reevaluating friendship. So materials ichy, not breathable, or something like that... Bride might not realize such things as she's not trying those dresses, just being respectful and not forgetting who's day it is, is way to go.
“I’m the boss today” no your not, your sister is the boss today. let her have a day with her future husband. your day will come, but it’s not your day today. so let the bride have a day to herself.
am i the only one who really doesn’t like satin?? it’s so unflattering and clings to the body awkwardly, the shine only accentuates those parts edit: spelling lmao
I'm okay with it looking a little different from the bridesmaids', but I didn't like this particular one - at all. Also, unlike the bride's gown, the train on this one doesn't appear to have any way to bustle, so it will be a problem for dancing, etc.
I'm still a while away from getting married, but I've already decided I don't like satin lmao. I find it too shiny (which looks a bit cheap imo), and the material kind of looks stiff and heavy on dresses like this that have a fairly straight cut skirt.
Welp they finally listened to all the comments wondering why everything in the bridesmaids salon looks like at belongs at a hideous 8th grade formal. This is slightly better!
“So let me live, give me my moment” Are you kidding me?!?! Your moment would be when you find someone to walk down the aisle to who can put up with your starve for attention. Not your sister’s wedding. Like give her, her big special moment with her family and loved ones watching her get married to her loved one.
omg, she just picked up the mannequin and carried it around the store, lol. The bride was sweet in letting her sister have her way a bit. She also understands her behavior and feels she should be included as much as possible even in decision making. The black dress with the shiny v design looked good on her. The other black dress on the bridesmaids is perfect.
I LOVED the twin story! My mom had an identical twin who died young and from everything I know, identical twins do share a very unique bond. Was I the only one that saw the pain on the twin's face when the bride explained how close they'd always been and that her marriage - as much as she wanted it and was thrilled about it - would be bittersweet for both of them because both the shared their lives like they were one person up until then? Her sister was hurting and she knew it and she wanted her to feel included, more-so than the other women in the party. Was that really such a hard ask, or give? I thought it was lovely and I cried. And yes, the twin did exhibit selfishness and immaturity but there were probably more self-aware, supportive and loving moments too that were edited out to make the story more dramatic. Just how I saw it.
The last few minutes when the bride let her twin know, "Yes, I get it. I want you to have the dress." Then she said off camera that she hoped her twin would be okay. It was very honoring. Her twin seemed okay then. She just needed to be acknowledged and honored. Its the same with the Father of the bride, and the Mother of the bride. She may be was so broken inside that she needed to not be humiliated in front of everyone. She needed her twin to publically acknowledge her. Is this true with every twin relationship? No, not at all. Here, the bride said repeatedly that they had the same life. She realized her twin needed something from her to let her know she was special. I felt the bride genuinely understood. And when she spoke up and said yes. It settled something and was very healing. I think the wedding photos will be beautiful.
I like the bride...but the problem is with her twin sister....she should be happy for her sis but I think that she wants to be the sensation of the day ( WEDDING DAY).......... BUT AFTER I SAW LORI WITH THAT BEAUTIFUL HAIR , MY ATTENTION TURNED TOWARDS HER......WHO ELSE AGREE WITH ME?
Sabina Mihutoiu and I think you’re insensitive to their connection and maybe she wish she had someone to marry so that would fill the void of not being her sisters other half anymore. They’ve been each other’s favorite person their whole life. It’s an adjustment. Jealousy is normal feeling and it has levels. If she said I should be the one getting married then that’s envy. There is a difference.
It’s so nice to see a bride who’s thinking of others and not just herself. I think it’s sweet that she wants her twin sister to feel special on a day that will change both their lives forever, after being so close their entire lives. Excellent! Inspiring!
Honestly, in my culture the maid of honor never dresses like the bridesmaids on the first place. I never even understood why people do that. She is not a bridesmaid, she is the maid of honor, that's a totally different role to play on a wedding. I don't agree with how she comes across, but I do agree with her point.
She could be in a different dress but match the bridal party like different dress same color and with a broach or something like that doesn’t have to out show the bride and make a fuss about it
They do it for pictures mostly, so that all the focus is on the bride and groom. My maid of honor got special jewelry and a bigger boquet than my bridesmaids, but she actually wanted her dress to be the same. I offered to let her choose a fancier one, but she said no, because she didn't want to take any attention away from me. We also got our hair and make-up done by the same person, in a similar style, my bridesmaids decided to do theirs themselves. It made her stand out just enough from the other girls, but the pictures still look very nice. And all the focus was on me and my new hubby.
I think that this episode ended with a good compromise. Ppl can say the twin was just trying to be the center of attention but I highly disagree. Seeing how close twins are she just wanted to stand out from the others brides maids and have something special with her sister. I know twins who’ve never left each other even after they married. I saw in the news Identical twins who married identical twins and moved into the same house. Twins giving birth the same day... That TWIN CONNECTION IS DEEP! I can’t relate to the feeling because I don’t have a twin but I’m not going to be insensitive and knock it.
Honestly can we talk about how beautiful their relationship is and stop bashing her twin sister as long as there both happy plus I just love their relationship
From where I am, there is no way the sister of the bride would wear what the bridesmaids or any other person in the wedding is wearing. So I do get it. And I do not think she would outshine the bride as she didn't ask for a ballgown/ white dress ... she just wanted something fancier than the rest.
It's definitely not unusual in the UK. It just has to be in keeping with the rest of the bridal party. I don't like her choice though, but that doesn't matter.
You gotta understand her twin's sentiment, she did not want to outdo the bride, she just wanted to be recognised as the sister and not only as the maid of honour. It is a bittersweet moment for her, it is both joyous and painful to see someone whose whole life is thoroughly entangled with yours to get married. She did not want to steal the attention, she just wanted to be recognised.
I can understand where her twin is coming from because ima twin myself. She just wants people to see the bond they have and the closeness that no one else can take from them through her dress. She doesn’t wanna overshine her sister but still stand out in a way that’s showing others where they stand togethher
Exactly! Me and my twin understand that we sometimes feel like the same person and will always be close, but we NEVER TRY TO BE THE OTHER PERSON OR OUTSHINE EACH OTHER. Just because we’re twins doesn’t mean everything is shared equally.
For a lot of twins it's not like we're the same person, it just happens that we have a lot of the same interests and aspirations. My twin and I are completely different hobbies wise but we are both going into nursing and we like the same clothing brands. If we end up marrying people she'll have a completely different dress than my bridal party and I will too because she's not on their level and the relationship is so much more than a sister or friend. I completely understand this sister and I highly doubt she was actually acting this way - I feel like they edited the interaction to make her seem way more pushy than she actually was.
Dawn Bloss I NEVER said that I could, but I understand how being a twin can sometimes be a little irritating to have to share or be expected to share things. Having a twin often comes with the problem of being compared to the other and can sometimes feel like a competition. I simply feel that if the bride wanted HER WEDDING to be a certain way, then the sister had no right to act as if she was the one getting married. Yes every one is allowed to speak their opinion, and feel they way they feel. However there is a certain time, a certain place, and a certain way a person should act. The bridesmaid should’ve spoke with her sister in private if she felt that strongly about it. doing it publicly, especially on the day of picking the dresses on TV with guests, is humiliating. I personally think that the bride was feeling like her sister was trying to outshine, or take part of more than what she was supposed to. There is only one bride, and a bridesmaid, no matter how close the bond whether it be a friend or family member should stay in their place.
My maid of honor was my sister, who is my best friend, and I put her in a different dress! I think that’s ok, but it just depends on the bride, and the bride did just that! Good for her!
Wait.. .can we talk about Lori's hair? I love it! See this is what happens when you cancel cable, you miss the important shit :) Edit... and Lori seems uncharastically subdued....
I understand she is the twin and one of the valuable person in bride's life I completely agree to her sis ... She needed a little different !!!! And the dress was beautiful ❤️
This is so sweet. I can’t imagine being a twin who goes through this. These bridesmaids were so gracious to apologize for not understanding what the maid of honor was feeling 🥰
This video is just going to ring loud in my memory if I ever have twins in the future... I will make sure both kids are treated equal, but in their own individuality! Matching outfits are cute, but if it's done too many times, it can cause the twins (especially identical twins) to see themselves as one unit instead of two individuals. I also think about those identical twins that are obsessed, and I mean OBSESSED, with being the exact same...they eat the same, they dress the same, they get the same plastic surgery, they even DATE the same man! Whew, talk about unhealthy...
