UNPOPULAR OPINION: Low Maintenance Friendships Are Not Actually Friends 

Thank you the term is manipulation at it’s finest. “Low maintenance friends” are associates, not friends. The same way you would put effort into maintaining your relationship with your mama, father, siblings, & man is the same way with a friend. For anyone that has “low maintenance friends” and you want deep-rooted friendships allow them to go find other surface level associates, while you connect with your true soul tribe.

Im 42 years old now and low maintenance friends are awesome. Throughout the years, i've learned to enjoy my own company and these days I only keep a handful of friends around me. Everyone is so chill. But we're always there for each other when it's needed and when it matters. There is no pressure to talk and see each other all the time!

They are low maintenance with you but high maintenance with some other friend or their man They hit you up once every three months while they have other girlfriends they see twice a week

I'm a fan of people should only prioritise friendships that reflect themselves. If the person isn't similar to you in the ways that matter they're acquintances. You don't need to call everyone your friend.

Low maintanece "friendship" is just acquaintanceship. Call it what it is.

recently blocked a 10+yr old "who I thought was a friend" was taking digs at me about being "high maintenance friend". Yes, I am a high maintenance friend and I like high maintenance friends only. I have standards. I give a lot to my friendships! I want the best for you. But when I need support not a soul knows about ti yet I am the high maintenance friend! Bye. Never again will I let any insecure people just tag along to be my friend when they aren't friend material to me.

She's a high maintenance friend. No thanks. By the way I found my low maintenance squad over 20 years ago and I can call them up after no communication for weeks and they will be there no questions asked.

Low maintenance friendships sound like a hook up..... Lol just absolutely no substance lol

The last girl is the only one that had it right. She expressed she has low-maintenance friends but showed the difference between that and someone who just doesn’t give af. You can be low-maintenance and still show up for your friends and be there for them when need be but their are people who claim to be low-maintenance and when in reality they just couldn’t care less about anything you have going on. Not everyone has the time or energy to be high maintenance, meaning texting 24/7 and hanging out. We have jobs, spouses, kids, college, traveling, death, and other life experiences to worry about but that doesn’t mean we aren’t there for our friends. In some aspect, I feel this topic is childish because if you truly felt this way about someone you’re friends with,be an adult, address the situation, and try to figure it out. That goes for high maintenance and low maintenance people. If you can’t manage your own friendships without social media telling you how, there’s a bigger problem. SPEAK UP 🗣️ and if you can’t, it wasn’t really a friendship to begin with.

I've always said that, but was called "needy". If I haven't heard from you for 5 years, then show up and expect to: lend you money, watch over your kids... Who de f am I? smh

Me and My best friend of 20+ years have a low maintenance friendship. We see each other a few times per month but we don’t talk everyday. It works for us because we have an understanding that we are working adults. No matter how long its been since we have seen one another, its like no time has passed

I' 28 now and I have a low maintenace friendship with my bff, and that is the best friendship I've ever had. Given we know each other for like 15 years now, we grew up together and are going to age together hopefully. We are both getting close to our 30s getting tired of people's bs and just want to work on ourselves and relax at the end of the day. If there is something serious going on with each other we show up and reach out to help each other, but usually is very low maintenance, but when we get together we talk for like 6 ours and time goes by like it was just minutes. Love this kind of friendship

I feel like I have no idea what any of these people are talking about XD I just know that people thinking of you as "high maintenance" is generally considered a bad thing. Also, it seems like a lot of these people are defining friendship as based on quantity or quality and that's a bit strange to me. Like just because you see someone regularly and text them constantly doesn't necessarily mean you're the closest one to them...

Idgaf I have my own life 😂 I work go to school, work full time. & started my own business. Leave me tf alone! Hmu when there’s an emergency. I’ll see you once a every few months. I’ve realized women like this don’t have much going on in their lives. Or they’re not focused on their lives enough. How do they even have enough time to even be friends all day. It’s not about not knowing how to communicate we just don’t want to. But when we want to communicate the communication is great!

I can't be friends with someone who wants me and their face all the time. I a person doesn't see I care for them even at a distance. Stay away please 😂.

Gotta ask all the girlies that stand for “low maintenance” friendships … do you feel the same way about your romantic relationships? Are you okay with your partner going months without talking to you and then when they do, you just “pick up right where you left off”? Are you okay with your partner not putting in the effort to sustain the relationship you two have? Is it okay for your partner to nurture other relationships with other people while completely disregarding the one they have with you? No? That’s what I thought.

As a low maintenance friend to literally everyone…it’s just because I like to be by myself a lot. High maintenance friends are just people who are codependent.

Lots of trauma and chronic illness makes it incredibly difficult for me to connect with people especially regularly. I feel bad that people have taken this personally and I wish I could be more socially involved, but the reality of being disabled is something I have had to accept. Hopefully I will find people someday that are safe and understanding, but if I don’t, that’s ok too.

More like main character energy people complaining because they r not a main character in other people's life.....

“What’s understood ain’t gotta be explained”- Lil Wayne Me and my low maintenance friends live by that 😤

People just want to hold on to the label of friend and sis. That’s not a close friend by definition if you don’t communicate often that’s a casual friendship aka associates. If we don’t talk I don’t consider you a close friend because I know how words work. lol I’m not gone be bitter or too much about it and you can hmu anytime but you are not a friend in my mind.

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Lots of people on these comments look really insecure about there friendships lmao

I'm a low maintenance friend. I understand life happens regardless and if my friends want to talk, I'm here. That's probably why we're still friends 25 years later

I've found that a lot of single women start to treat their friends like a fill in boyfriend that they don't have yet. Expecting constant effort, constant checking in no matter what is going on in your own life that you need to tend to. It can be draining. So for our own sanity, I do believe you can still care for someone deeply, and have a "low maintenance" friendship.

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They aren’t friends

See, to me a low maintenance friend sounds like someone who doesn’t ask anything from or of u. Like if they need a ride, they call Uber or a friend they’re closer with than they are to you, not you. I’ve always had a hard time connecting with people cause I’m so afraid I’ll abruptly lose the friendship and miss it no matter what I do that I don’t allow myself to miss anyone. No matter what ya do to me, I will never share ur secrets or let anyone talk bad of u around me cause I’m loyal out of love to spite the former friend never knowing it. I want to be the friend u share pics of ur kids with and omg their outfits are so cute. I wanna read ur comments about my latest manicure and thank you for the compliment. I wanna text a few times a day, maybe talk on our time off. Hey, maybe we could get lunch or catch the latest venue together. I’m not the kind of friend to call to scream about divorce or infidelity. Please don’t. We can spill tea, but don’t diss yo man to me. It’s disrespectful. I’m not the one to ask money of cause I’d sooner starve than ask you. I’m not bumming at ur house and I don’t want u invading my sanctity either. I will text before to ask if I can call. Please don’t call me “anytime.” I turn into a pumpkin at midnight.

I thought I was a low maintenance friend but then i realized I act like a man in friendships

LMAO 😂😂😂 when you're a toxic constantly look at me constantly need attention so you try to spin and push your definition of friendship on other people. Go ahead out yourself

There’s low maintenance and pure lazy friends. Need to understand the difference.

I highly disagree with this. You can have a wonderful friendship with someone, and you don't have to see them or talk to them all the time. The idea that you have to be together 24/7 or else the friendship isn't real, or only one person is doing "the maintenance" is absolute hogwash. I'm sorry but this is HS shit. As an adult, there are so many things you have to do and are responsible for. Anyone who is married, has kids, works full time, has student loans or a mortgage, does NOT have the energy to be available all day everyday. I don't understand why this is such a difficult concept for people to understand and accept. Obviously, if you're the only doing the inviting and the only one showing interest then yes your friendship is one sided. But if you're both on the same page then what's the problem? These women need to say the quiet part out loud; that they all are desperate to be the center of attention and want their "friendships" to cater to that. Sorry but miss me with that bullshit. 👋🏻