I'm 37 I'm finally done with folks too. I've tried so much man and damn everyone is the same . Too self centered . Only concerned with their own little bubble .
I don’t know what happened between you and your mom.. but Let her know you have forgiven her but haven’t forgotten.. this is for you .. not her.. we only get one mother and trust me being 50 + years old .. you will remember the good times.. and when she is gone. You are stuck with that guilt of unforgiving.. Remember Jesus died on the cross for our sins.. Forgive.. pray.. and put it in Gods hands 🙌🏼 🙏🏼
@@LettyABC I'm tired of this stupid forgiveness shit. If your own mother would control you, manipulate you, be narcissist towards you, play with your head and emotions and screw up your life and called the cops on me twice for me confronting her on the way she was would you forgive her for it? Like a wise man once said: if you love and respect your dysfunctional parents, somebody screwed up big time along the way.
When a narcissist realizes that you not coming back they will try everything in there power to try to get you to stay wether its empty lies promising they will change when they never will and threaten you with bs that you never did you must keep running as fast as you can from them and block them out for good
Never take the RU-vidrs you watch for granted. Thank you for making me understand this. It is the first thing I heard on this channel and it is the truth. These men and women put a lot of time and effort into making these videos to help us with our lives. Don’t narc on your friends.
Same here. Drove through ice and snow whenever needed for them. Just to get stabbed in the back. Left all of them and started over. Best decision of my life.
“You get what you deserve”. We really are stepping stones. I’m just waking up to this and I’m trying to do better to not let it happen anymore. You’re right, I’m most mad at myself for letting it happen and not realizing. Great points
Yep, there usually is a reason why you tolerate these toxic types and the reason usually is, you are used to it from childhood. So it’s normal to you, while other people are turned off by them.
From a higher power maybe you were destined to go through it because it needed to happen to make you stronger so you can set former boundaries like me not speaking for you but I'm speaking for my own accord it's not a weakness it's a blessing
I've been lined up with crazy after crazy. man, it's tiring and I wondered why I was attracting these pieces of shit. these empty vessels. Now I get it. All they can do is drain you. It makes a good person turn stoic. i wish i had learned all this much sooner, but better late than never
My narcissistic mother regrets having left my dad. She once told me, she should have met the men in her life in a different order and my dad last, because he was the one.
Yea people brothers sisters i was narced by my whole family for 47 years please do not tolerate this ...I assumed things were going to get better but it didn't.. People don't change and they won't change even if God steps in and tell them to change and even though he can change them they still choose to be evil ... PLEASE DO NOT PUT UP LEAVE THEM
I don't think I could be put through anything crazier than what I have already lived through which was horrible by the way! It's so important to move very cautious especially with someone you are considering having a serious relationship with!
Absolutely, every time i lower my guard for trust and love to come back, here come the cops ready to use me as my the scape goat for the narcissist. Never lower your vibration for the past. Those who want to bring us down are already below us. And man the ones below fight the hardest to watch us fall. The narcissist doesnt want me back she wants control and dominance over the soul. To use us thinking they can steal our abilities for their own agendas. Family members, x girlfriend, and long lost friends go no where like we do. We got to break generational curses that take years of non stop spiritual warfare against the devil who sits in their hearts. Never go back to a narcissist or it will just add more time to get out of the trap that they set up for failure.
If they don't have toys(or people that they can use as toys) they tend to react infantile dangerous, because toys distracts them from the care that they crave and genuine guidance.
The gap between good and evil is widening. Those who are evil are becoming more and more crafty in there deceptions, and minipulations, like the adulterous woman of Proverbs 30:20 KJV: "Such is the way of an adulterous woman; she eateth, and wipeth her mouth, and saith, I have done no wickedness." A the same time those who chose to remain good and true are becoming more and more aware off, mostly because they have been hurt by it before.
I hit like on every one of your videos, Joel, you definitely deserve support with all the wisdom and encouragement you deliver on the daily. Keep killing it, brother.
My brother is a clinical narcissist. It's been a struggle for the past 15 years with him. I am currently having to make some tough decisions and leave my parents (who take care of him) for a better way.
Keep them in darkness ! Darkness belong to darkness ! Men and women darkness darkness goes both handing hands ! Just rethink that big Boss make me laugh ! They deal with Polis all the time man !
So many of them are causing havoc in my life. Im shocked that they keep going regardless of huge reputation loss, financial losses and support etc. Plus...it's no secret to anyone anymore smh
I'm forever causing narcisstic injury upon them I'm also forever applying pressure unto their lives you can sense their energy shift toward you after showing all of this it's like I've got you! #YouHaveBeenTrolled
I recommend Trace Face It on RU-vid...she is a narc abuse recovery coach. Just saw a video of hers from last year on the topic of narcs stealing from you to build up their own lives...stealing energy, ideas, time, etc...
I feel you, I also feel that I'm about to go through this.. I've let myself down and I've let God down.. I hope God will forgive me and continue having my back 🙏
It gets to a point where They want to pick off where we left off, But unfortunately, even if I wanted to get back with them I cannot, The Boulder has been chipped down to a small pebble.
I appreciate these types of videos man. Keep it up. I realized in my own situation that these people are the worst type of people. You can’t eat around people that are starving. It’s unhealthy to even be around these type of people. I learned that the hard way but I woke up in time to learn. Thank god I did.
I litterally hit like and try to comment on all my youtube channel.we chosen we dont hate .we appreciate🎉.god bless my youtube subscribers.they really changing my life.
Understanding psychology and mental illness some people are mentally I’ll and alot of people have personality disorders a lot of people cannot understand body language, or understand signs look up schizotypal personality disorder it’ll give you a lot bigger, broader view of understanding people that are misunderstood.
Yes its great to see the great talk online like this. It's fun, its educational, it's amazing. Social media is amazing. And the haters don't like, Social media lol. Terry do a talk on what social media is. An amazing technology to connect with amazing living people ! Share ideas, share life ! Share yourself ! Its --> Amazing.
4.56 well you need to tell the backstory. They blocked you etc ? Tell all that part of the story. You were angry with them. But why couldn't you make friends with them again , forgive and . Well, you knew ? They were a toxic person ?
@rainpain I can relate I think that I thought differently of her and really didn't view her as the problem but the solution when I needed her but that's only because my dad was always catering to others even when him and mom were together he'd always help and a lending hand and family came second? That's pretty ass backwards but I figured he was pretty worthless after the divorce and became a competition between him and mom after the divorce and they forgot about me and my sis, we were the victims and they literally tore the family apart and started over without us, how do you think that made us feel? I've felt like I've been betrayed by the people who brought me into this world, I feel stupid for loving someone that didn't share the same love I felt even more stupid around the new family because they're probably even thinking why are you guys around? They made us feel degraded and the butt end of jokes and not welcomed, this is my parents I'm talking about not friends or relatives, how do you forgive someone for that kind of hurt? How do you allow it to happen to you? Because I was always taught it's your mom, you gotta love her regardless and now that I'm sober and woke up to this cold reality, I don't have to and or have to forgive her or my dad. Truth is it's a parent and that's all she did her best to help but out of guilt not because she shares the same loves or love me like I did, the fact is we were kids and she put a man in front of us will never be forgotten or forgiven, ever. The fact my dad moved in his family only to give me and my sis the boot I was only 16 will never be forgotten or forgiven either, I love them but not how I used to and never will get over it, it's a loyalty thing and respect thing not to mention a blood thing, you'd think because she came from a toxic upbringing she'd want something different for us, she just did the exact same thing to us and she always cried about her past how brothers kicked her ass, I'd say they did us a solid before we were born because I should said no bitch you're not sending us to live with dad so you can be with that new piece of shit which he gave her an ultimatum either us or "him" and my dad which he only wanted us so he didn't have to pay child support because not 3 years later he pretty much moved in this new family his bitch and her kids and gave us the boot, that's my family for you. They'd caused so much long term damage from my childhood PTSD I couldn't hold down any type of real relationships, bosses, friends, lovers etc So, never will forgive I'll die with guilt and pride rather than the pain and shame they'd caused. Thee end
If you want to help someone worth while I'd be the one to help. I just hate asking. Most people don't want to help and I don't want to make them help. I would rather that they do it out of generosity and the kindness of their heart. Otherwise I don't want anything from people. When I give something I seek reward from God and not the person that I gave to. This is the real way to help people. But you do have to be careful of those that already have and still take. Feed the poorest of the flock first and the rest shall be in peace.