A couple of weeks ago, Chiefs kicker Harrison Butker delivered a commencement speech that rocked the internet-in the worst way. His sexist remarks about women and our “true calling” to be wives and mothers lit the hellfires underneath me to get this video out about marriage, motherhood and the mental load that I’ve been picking away at for months now.
For decades now, marriage has been marketed as a woman’s highest calling, but does it actually make women happier? Who REALLY benefits from heterosexual marriage (*cough* straight men *cough*)?
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27 май 2024