Everything Wrong with the Tradwives of Tiiktok...And What We Can Do About It 

I am going to make a comment, but I don't want people to think that I am being a troublemaker. I had a classmate from México who was talking to me about guys she likes who are really controlling. I thought she was in an unhealthy situation, so I tried to encourage her. Perhaps my understanding was a bit naïve? She kept assuring me that she wants a guy who tells her what to do! A part of me gets that, because I think it's important for a man to demonstrate he can be a decision-maker, while he takes alllll of the details into consideration. It's hard to type all my thoughts that relate to your video!

Hello. I am proud to call myself a Trad Wife. I watched your whole video and it was interesting and if it’s ok I have an equally long reply. I am a Trad Wife and have been one for 17 years. I just learned about the whole debate while I had Dr. Phil in the background while I was doing some kind of chore. I just have to disagree with how you, and others, paint me. I was raised on traditional lines which included traditional gender roles and church. It was not outwardly spoken but there was a mantra in the house of “when you’re 18 you’re out the door” not “sure, sleep in the basement until you are 30” like the common practice is today After HS I stayed home for 4 months while I looked for a job (got one, receptionist and I can hear the feminists cringe) and my two brothers went into the military. I worked for two years in the business world and hated it. The women seemed miserable, nasty, or just unhappy in general and a lot of them were giving the vast majority of their pay not to their own improvement, but to a daycare center. I met my husband and we dated and had some long discussions before we got married. He wanted a traditional feminine woman, like me, and I wanted a traditional masculine man, they type that feminism has destroyed, so we fit. Before we had children we had a long discussion about how many to have. We decided on two but wound of with three-twins the second time around. I am a Trad Wife and take no shame in it but you will not see me making videos. I don’t have the time or any inclination to buy the necessary equipment to make them. If you see me in public, say at the market, I will be wearing a dress. I like to be feminine and frankly do not understand the whole ripped jeans thing that everyone seems to love these days. I sometimes wonder if I could start a business by simply destroying perfectly good jeans and selling them. Nice dress, nice looking, nice hair but you do not see my other side where I am in nothing but an old sweatshirt or just my bra and panties with my hair pulled up cleaning the house and not being able to shower until after 10 because I have a whole routine mapped out. My husband goes out of the house to a corporate job while I stay home and manage the home front but not in couture. If I want to know about our money I either ask, or look it up on line since I know the passwords, there’s no secret. Yes, I drive a soccer mom minivan but my husband drives a Honda, not a Porsche and both cars are in both are names, as is the house and bank accounts and credit card (only one to accumulate miles). Both of us carry our own life insurance too. As a Trad Wife I do defer to my husbands judgement, but about the little things in his sphere and he does the same for me-but only the little things. When he got headhunted for a differnt job that would require a move believe me it was a long series of conversations between us about what would be best and not a unilaterall decision made by him and him alone. I can bake from scratch and I make cakes from scratch, but only twice a year on my kids’ birthdays not every day and certainly not in a good dress with full makeup. That’s just ridiculous. I see this whole thing about not going out at night without my husbands’ presence or permission. I will not go out without him at night, but only because of something before we married that still has left me with a little PTSD to this day and I will not talk about it. With regard to the religious aspect, we go to church on Sunday-I insist upon it-and I have a crucifix on my fridge but next to it is the chore wheel for the kids and they do their chores and keep their rooms clean or lose privileges since I am not a slave. I’ve lost one battle in all of our marriage. My husband loves to watch UFC fights. I don’t know why, I find it appalling and just glorified cockfighting and some women do it (fighting), which I understand even less, and he lets my son watch it with him when he buys it on PPV. It’s the only thing that I don’t approve of out of everything else over the course of our marriage that happens, but no marriage is perfect. This is how I live my Trad Wife life and I have been looked down by other women many times and actually been called a traitor to my face on more than one occasion but even though we each work in traditional gender norms our house is still a democracy. Shame on all of you who would lump me in with those You Tube phonies! Ms. Sandor, I did enjoy your video but right now I’m over your 1,800th viewer so I doubt anyone will ever see it or read it but you. I would like to know your opinions though. Thank you.

Hello, Meghan, I am so glad you did this Vlog about Tradwives because most of my female characters in my stories are very much leaders. This is fresh and original.

You are absolutely amazing. Sharp in your analysis and very clear in your ideas. You are providing an approach that I have never heard before. THANK YOU for the great work!!! I saw you had a script. Is it published somewhere? I would like to read it at my own pace. Thank you again.

Thank the algorithm indeed! We shall be watching your channel with great interest😄

Not quite related to the topic of tradwives, but many women (sometimes a dad does though) is kind of given no choice but to stay at home because their child has disabilites that can't be accomodated to the level of them getting a job.

I'm with the tradwives. My wife and I have lived this way for 16 years now (13 with a son) and we're both very glad we did. There's also nothing wrong with a traditional wife earning supplemental income so long as she's taking care of her primary duties as homemaker. The point is to have specific roles for both husband and wife that not only fit in with men and women's natural differences in skill and inclination, but also quite frankly just to make sure every important thing actually gets done!

This is such a good paper idea..i had an essay last year and i remember The Feminine Mystique...you gave me really good ideas i wish i had seen it then hahah)

Quite an interesting analysis, even though many brought up points could be explained in other ways, other than only the worst charitable explanation or "black and white" reasoning, IMO. I really loved your argument about this "tradwife" trend being a female red pill and I wish many more would actually notice scary similarities to it. As someone on more conservative side of the argument, this is something what actually bothers me about the trend in itself. It has nothing to do with being a SAHM or actual homemaker. It's actually quite insulting to it.

This is one of the most well balanced and nuanced discussions on this topic and put so many things into perspective for both sides. Thank you for this!

Cool video Meghan

I learned many things and have a lot of new ideas swirling around in my head.Thank you, Meghan.

Thank you for giving a new perspective on this issue. You did a phenomenal job presenting this difficult topic in a non-judgmental and (I think) very impartial way.

ooo interesting topic

As a Lesbian and a lover of cottage core i am so pissed that the straights are culturally appropriating my people

My mother took care of me and my brother up to my age of 15. Stayed at home because my father wanted it. I got the best upbringing But not felt my mother felt trapper. Because when my father went home he was finishen Talking and my mother was finished being silent all day. i was 9 We moved to and old farmhouse without no shower, washing matchines and central heating to heat food and house. A LOT of chopping wood and etc. She had no freetime and he did nothing. I always thanked her for doing all this and loved her to bits even in front of others up to the day she died. And of course i had to make my own part so at an age of 9 i Washed all my clothes and did the garden. In Sweden it is hard to stay on only one salery and We where rather Poor in some easy. I had only new clothes when it came to underwear and pyjamas. Few toys. But my mother have us as much attention that other that had new clothes and toys envy us. If she had Been working outside the home she would not have given us this. I myself never wanted kids if i couldnt give the same to the kids as she did. She learned us kids so much and she always put us first. In return she had us 24-7 if she wanted it. I had the possibility to stay with her 4-5 Months every year , with my partners good Memory.. When she got ill We where there and when she died she was with me. She was so proud over us kids even if i jumpe off from a fantastic career that all says Why are you leaving. But i have of my time to my mother as a Thanks and choose a work that made me forced to stay in one place. I think there is no way one can have everything. One have to take a Plath of different circumstances But there is no meaning to stare at others and envy them or say they take wrong wars. Everyone has to decide themselves and take the consequenses of it. In my case less money and small flat But i was Richie love of my mother and my partner that is a superfantastic man. But one thing is cleari i was forced by my father to go to University and make A career even if i wanted to be a housewife or working or some more domestic work. No -you are Bright said father and on the track was i. No parents or partners should decide ones future. So if any wants to make a career or stay at home- Please support their choose. Sorry for the automatic spelling or bad English.

Yikes. I was around in the 1950s and 1960s when this sort of BS was more normal. Thank God this is no longer mainstream! Never again!!! Sheesh.

4:04 I'm binging your content now LOL. And oh my gosh I'm literally so gagged out right now. She did not just say "put his foot down". First of all, I don't need permission! If I want to buy something high ticket I'm gonna do it. Smh. I'm not running up to a man like he's my father, asking him for permission to buy something and then tuck my tail between my legs and run away happily if he says "no". Absolutely not! This is why it is so important for a woman to have her her own money so if she wants to buy something expensive for herself she can just do it and doesn't need a person with a penis to tell her what she can and cannot do in her own life as an AUTONOMOUS adult. I know I'm only 4 minutes in and I already have all the thoughts in the world. I actually just am now learning about this whole tradwife thing. And I'm already convinced it's rage bait! 😂 Edit: Love the point about how the content creators are making money and probably a good bit of it, yet they're promoting this 0 income lifestyle as if they solely rely on their man, it's very disingenuous. 52:10 apparently Saudi Arabia does this. Not entirely sure.

Lets also not firget that while Lucille Ball was portraying a trad wife in reality she was a power woman who was working outside the home and performing as a comedian and she was darn good at her job too. Tv isnt real as we know. Just adding to what you said.

Great video. I am a housewife but I work from the home. I enjoy it but I keep a job as a backup. My husband is fine with it because he isnt a sexist man. He never wants a divorce. I am a feminist who makes her own money and I take care of all of the finances but I love being a housewife as well. People are more complex than tradwives or someone who is maybe a hardcore feminist would think. Feminism is awesome but it can be hard. I watched my mother work 3 jobs or more a week to help make ends meet while being a housewife. She ended up marrying about 7 times trying to find a good man. I simply learned that you cannot solely depend on a man. It just doesnt work.

Great content. Especially as you pointed out that women were sold a bill of goods about marriage back in the day. I fortunately dodged the marriage bullet. It’s very liberating.

I'm with the tradwives, and not just in the weak "Whatever makes you happy more power to ya!" sense. I full-on think that traditional gender roles and norms are generally the way to go. And I can appreciate how unapologetic these women are about the decision they made.

Best trad wife video on the Internet ❤❤❤❤

The Bible says to be fruitful and multiply!! GOD AND JESUS!!

I personally have to hand it to the tradwives, strengthen that Madonna spirit!

Why do you hate women?

You keep blaming capitalism like there's another better system.

Tradeife movement its the best thing happened for women in past decades ❤❤❤

Greetings Just read a snippet about Bebe Paley on line --halfway through it --I wondered who she reminded me of! You could be the long lost great great granddaughter of Bebe🎉🎉🎉🎉🪡🧵💃