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You recently went through a breakup and while you didn’t have the time of your life, nobody died. You’re still on okay terms with your ex but you miss them, a lot.
Now you’re trying to get back in contact and you’re being left on read.
Why won’t your ex text you back?
Hi RU-vid, I’m Jessica Boss, a relationship counsellor and dating expert. I’ve made breakups my specialty because I love helping people get back together. Maybe I’m just a romantic but I think that people these days are too quick to call it quits. It’s hard to build a connection with someone and if you’re really in love, it’s a shame to let it get away. If you agree, hit that subscribe button and I’ll keep giving you tips to build a stronger, longer lasting relationship.
I’ve helped hundreds of lovestruck guys and girls go from exes to happily ever after and texting always plays a key role in getting that contact going again. But to make that connection, first you need to get them to text you back.
Here are some reasons your ex isn’t answering your texts and what to do about it.
One, They’re mad at you
We’ve all said something we regret when we’re angry. I once called my great aunt a “piece of garbage” after a couple of sangrias and all she did was beat me at frolf (that’s frisbee golf).
Try to think if they have any reason to be mad at you. Maybe they found out something that you were keeping secret. Maybe you’ve hurt them somehow and they finally had a chance to process it. Whatever it is, you need to apologize.
If you think they’re mad and you don’t know why then do some sleuthing. Think about talking to a mutual friend BUT BE CAREFUL. If it’s anyone you think will report back to your ex, don’t do it. You don’t want them to think you’re stalking them.
If you can’t figure you why they’re mad, either leave them alone for awhile or make a blanket apology. Later on in this video I’ll get into more specifics about what this apology text should look like.
Number Two: They know you want something
Even though they dumped you, exes aren’t as dumb as you may think. If things ended with you begging, pleading, and crying for them to take you back, they’re going to know that you texting them is you trying to suck them back in.
Or if you often relied on them for rides, money, or some kind of support, when you were together, they may think you’re just trying to get something out of them. And they’re probably in no mood to be helping you out.
Number Three: They’re trying to move on
If they’re not answering your texts it could be that they’re trying to move on.
Does this mean your hopes of getting them back are doomed? Not at all! In fact, this is a good sign. The key word here is “trying”.
If they have to cut off all contact to try to move on with their life then that means they are definitely still hooked on you.
If they were already over you then they wouldn’t need to avoid you so hard.
Number Four: You text too much
Look at the length of their messages and then look at the length of yours. Are you sending essays and getting back one word answers? Does their inbox look more like an interrogation than a conversation?
How often do you text them? Every day? More?
Maybe they wouldn’t mind texting you, but just don’t want it to take up half their life. You’re not in a relationship anymore (for now at least) so the amount of time you spend together will naturally be much lower. Texting is a reflection of that.
Take a few days off from texting them.
When you resume texting, drop the frequency way down. I’m talking once a week, if that. Have a short conversation and then get out. Don’t text them too late at night or early in the morning. I’d aim for 10 am to 8 pm as your texting window.
It’s important to also look at WHY you’re texting them. If it’s your goal to win them back then every text you send should be a step towards that goal. I’m not talking begging and pleading, you’ve done enough of that already.
You need to use texts to make them miss you, to make them jealous, and to make them associate you with fun and happiness. It has to be subtle but if you can remind them of a specific good time you had together, pretty soon they’ll be wondering why they broke up with you in the first place. Hit that like button if you want me to make more videos about what to text your ex to win them back.
25 июн 2018
