Autism, Humour & Sarcasm - What You Need to Know

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@melanieoliver302 13 дней назад

I'm in agreement with you, I don't find frightening or distressing children, animals or other people funny either. I just don't find that sort of thing at all humorous.

@sujammaz 13 дней назад

same. i find it SO disgusting, even though i've learned to mask it relatively well. but i think i get why allistics do: it's about their social games. they tend to look more at how "stupid" an accident looks, because it triggers their need to be cool, to be part of their in-group. that's also why they have such a hard time seeing their own bigotry in this same context. in the most objective terms: laughing about the accidents of people who are more marginalised than themselves, gives them a hightened sense of security in their own (fragile) privilege. that's why it's so often children and animals, and other infantilised groups like white women and queer people, that are the subjects of such "harmless" fun. i genuinely believe this is highly problematic, because it does have real, emotional and lasting effects both on the bullies and everyone else - but on the other hand i know that allistics are just human too, and most often they just don't realise what they are doing. and - like orion said - when i am in a really good mood and feeling secure and bonded to the people around me, i will sometimes surprise myself and laugh at something problematic - because my hyper-empathy for the allistic takes over. which doesn't feel good at all. i always feel way more ashamed for it immediately, than i would ever be angry with them. it's just weird and complicated, like all this human stuff.

@sharonaumani8827 13 дней назад

Yeah, and the thought of somehow benefitting, by making a profit, off of other's pain really disturbs me [as it should disturb any of us!].

@theageofgoddess 13 дней назад

💯

@roddo1955 13 дней назад

It's vile. I recently saw this reactor reacting to the video:" tell your kids you got into a fight and you need their help". This reactor was laughing so hard at small children getting scared, crying and saying stupid things 'they ain't about that life' when the kids refuse to fight. As of its a bad thing to have a non violent child. All the kids who were recorded saying they were willing to fight, got praise. All the kids that got scared, were soft. I got so angry. My parents used to play pranks on me and they would bring it to the point where I got angry or scared and then was told to 'Shut up! Dont be insolent! We were all joking! Why are you crying?!" Yes but why did you have to push me to the point of distress? And now at 43, they wonder why I'm so resentful.i fcuking hate it when adults make children cry for fun. And take pictures of it. My parents did that. There are a few pictures of my sister and me in tears. Polaroids my parents took so they could show us what 'babies' we could be and how 'ugly'. It worked on my sister. Shame based punishments were motivation for her. It just made me feel bad and I'd regress.

@sujammaz 13 дней назад

@@roddo1955 i'm so sorry about that 💜

@MissPlaced84 12 дней назад

I find it interesting that while many autistic people struggle to recognize sarcasm/puns/wordplay and situational dry humour, anecdotally, I've also noticed they are often our favorite types of humour. Similarly, we're often excellent at "deadpan" humour and simultaneously struggle to recognize it at times. One of my favorite jokes kind of sums up all of those things: "You're autistic? That means you take everything literally, right?" "No. That's kleptomaniacs."

@resourcedragon 12 дней назад

That's brilliant! I love it!

@leftalone9881 12 дней назад

That’s a really clever joke LOL. I love jokes that make me think “that’s clever”

@evelynspaghetti4978 12 дней назад

😂😂😂. That was brilliant 😄👏👏👏

@Maas_Atonwa 11 дней назад

😂

@andrewswanson4819 10 дней назад

Yup, describes me perfectly. This is why _Airplane!_ is one of my favorite comedies (but also maybe one of my favorite movies ever) "This woman needs to be taken to a hospital" "A hospital?? What is it?" "It's a big building with patients, but that's not important right now"

@resourcedragon 13 дней назад

Oh, I'm _so_ glad to hear someone say that cruelty is *NOT* funny. There were some RU-vid channels that were almost entirely based on the idea of the parents "pranking" the children. Or there was the shit Ruby Franke did to her kids, like letting them think they might get a present and then denying it. I hate seeing that sort of thing - children should not be subjected to cruelty - and that includes psychological cruelty.

@sharonaumani8827 13 дней назад

That is emotionally abusive!

@fraktaalimuoto 13 дней назад

Yeah it is hard to me to understand why people find cruelty funny. As a hyperempathetic person, seeing pain is just pain. Always.

@tijgeke87 13 дней назад

well she is facing jailtime for abuse heavy abuse just saying (the gift-thing was a very minor thing compared to having police having to free the sibling of those that where ducktaped/imprissoned etc)

@nalijapetek6271 12 дней назад

My "rule of thumb" is: if the "target" of a joke finds it funny - then it was a good joke. If they didn't find it funny - it was a bad joke and you should apologise or it.

@MarciaB12 12 дней назад

Agreed I refuse to watch those shows. Its sick. People getting hurt is NOT funny

@asellus.aquaticus6238 13 дней назад

I'm autistic, and I suspect that my niece is too, though she is so far not diagnosed. I love jokes and irony and sarcasm. So does she, and we have been making some complex jokes since she was very little. Now she is 14 and she is hilarious. We both like making far too long jokes and pretend like we are having a very deep and serious discussion. We joke a lot about making literal interpretations. The other day there was a sign, that in our language said something like ""We bring the best things for your pet on the internet". So, I pretended to be offended and started ranting about how I take a firm stance against keeping pets on the internet, how the internet is a very lonely place for a pet, and so on. That evolved into a joke discussion about mistreatment of tamagotchis, about how buying uncomfortable sleeves for tamagotchis should be a criminal and that the schools need to intervene. We make it a game to make silly arguments based on misunderstandings and my sister, her mother, can't keep up at all most of the time, and that just makes it more fun. I think it's a very valuable skill and 'm glad I've shared it with her since she was a small child. To laugh at things that don't make sense, and to make jokes about things by having dumb conversations. It's a very fun game.

@Taoscape 13 дней назад

-"Leaning empathy from autistic people, they have none of that..." -"YOU'RE WRONG!" Now that was funny! I got a good chuckle from it :) On a serious note, yeah I agree with the issue of putting people in distress. One of the things I notice about ASD, which also isn't really recognized and given as much credit as it should get, is that autistic people are an amazing moral compass for society. They are much more in tune with the human experience, and what society should be than neurotypicals. And that is quite ironic, considering their struggles trying to fit in with society.

@worryworm 13 дней назад

I am autistic, and I love linguistics, multiple entendre. I love wordplay, irony, and sarcasm, and have learned to use intonation to convey what I mean. Because I was too straight faced, and sounded too serious whilst being utterly sarcastic.

@resourcedragon 12 дней назад

I do get into trouble from time to time with my really straight faced, deadpan sarcasm. People have said that they don't know when I'm joking and when I'm being serious.

@condor727me 5 дней назад

@@resourcedragon same here...i think 90% of times i can make the joke work [in the.."are you joking or not?" response] but...when people miss the joke and start to get upset, i don't really recognize the error until way too late....

@s1nningjezus207 13 дней назад

When Autistic people DO understand the context they LOVE making and getting PUNS though. My son and I have bonded heavily in our language learning journey over making and sharing simple puns. ❤

@johnbillings5260 13 дней назад

I'm literal and analytical, but I love double or hidden meanings especially when paradoxical.

@Vanity0666 13 дней назад

I'm big on wordplay

@knrdvmmlbkkn 11 дней назад

@@Vanity0666 Hello, big on wordplay.

@WHISTLEPEG 13 дней назад

The Three Stooges, Laurel and Hardy, Home Alone, and the worst is Americas Funniest Videos etc etc etc are very distressing for me and I avoid them. I agree with you Orion. People hurting each other, physically or emotionally, or hurting and embarrasing themselves is not only unfunny it makes me want to cry. I don't get it. I'm a 70 yr old self-diagnosed woman. Thank you for your videos. They help me feel validated as do the comments from your Orionites 😊 ❤

@christinechapman9764 7 дней назад

I had a terror of the three stooges as a child.

@harrisondorn7091 5 дней назад

OMG I thought I was totally alone in seeing Home Alone as a horror movie haha.

@MartinMCade 13 дней назад

A life lesson for me was learning not to copy other people's humor, especially if it's the snarky or sarcastic type. I've known a few people who just have the personality and body language that everyone understands they're joking, and they can be the life of the party. But whenever I tried copying them it fell flat - I think I even offended a few people years ago. I learned to just let it go and be myself rather than trying to copy anyone else.

@Kiersin 13 дней назад

I used to read a book series called Xanth where everything was rather literal. You would have to catch your fruit before it flew away. It helped me with puns since it had so many of them.

@stephenieolson8535 13 дней назад

My masked self learned how to identify a punchline (whether I understood it or not) and laugh 😂 Later, I realized punchlines aren’t always ACTUALLY funny. They can be mean or based on discrimination. It took a lot of effort to train myself not to laugh until I evaluated the quality of a joke.

@anniewho4655 13 дней назад

“Stars of Orion.” Love that!

@victoriadolbeare3147 13 дней назад

I think you are spot on when you say it is like processing a different language. One evening, I was at a dinner with mostly French people, and someone asked if they could take my plate. Trying to fit in, and with my limited French ability, I said, "Oui. Je suis fini." They all laughed heartily. I had no idea why until one kind person explained that they were laughing because I had just said that I was done for and that the correct expression is, "J'ai fini." This is what it feels like to me.

@tracyasposito488 11 дней назад

That is why we understand each other and click when we meet. Some people are cool enough to understand both nt and non-nt. But that is pretty special.

@gerardlewis-fitzgerald7757 9 дней назад

As someone who also learned French, I love that. The closest thing in my experience to that was listening to a fellow student of French back in 1972 when we were both 17, in a practice oral exam, say: "Je suis chaud" ("I'm horny") when he ought to have said "J'ai chaud".😅😅

@heathergrahame9647 13 дней назад

I'm not autistic but I completely agree with you in terms of disliking "funny" videos where someone is upset or hurt. I have never found those funny, and if someone else does find them funny, I think they have a psychological problem. That is, I think they're a sadist - they get pleasure from seeing other people hurting or upset. If lots of other people think those videos are funny, then, to me, there's a lot of screwed-up sadists in society.

@Jae-by3hf 13 дней назад

This is how I feel too!

@cyniful 13 дней назад

I cried watching this because I'm late diagnosed and always had trouble with jokes. You were able to articulate it so well. I always felt dumb for not getting jokes or sarcasm, etc. Great video!!

@PeterJoubert1972 13 дней назад

Am I even autistic although diagnosed eight months ago? Am I an imposter? That’s how I feel most of the time when it comes to this subject. I understand and find sarcasm, puns an even “naughty jokes” funny. It feels like I’m stuck between the NT and neurodivergent worlds. I suppose we are all different though.

@dubuyajay9964 13 дней назад

There are degrees of autism. You might be on the "lighter" end of the scale.

@joan.nao1246 13 дней назад

Same. Not so much until my 30s though 🤔

@WillowTree-ux5qy 13 дней назад

I also understand and enjoy these. I was brought up by people who had an interest in puns and the workings of the English language so these things are explained to me when I asked as a child. That's what I might put it down to anyway

@WillowTree-ux5qy 13 дней назад

I can however be caught out by less well-known sayings though. A few weeks ago I thought someone was actually covered in wotsit cheese powder. It wasn't until later in the conversation that I realised the person telling me about the "wotsit powder" covered person was actually saying they had badly done fake tan on! Oops haha N.B. Wotsits are a cheese flavoured maize snack in the UK

@katiemaier2782 13 дней назад

Yeah I get punny jokes. I realized recently that I only get sarcasm from people I know extremely well. There's been so many times at work where customers are being sarcastic and my boss has to explain it to me. Like this guy asked if I could turn the temperature down so I said sure... But he was making a joke about how insanely hot it is outside here 😅

@stephenieolson8535 13 дней назад

Some AFV videos are actually funny. Some are only funny if you don’t have empathy (can completely ignore the real distress the subject is in). And others are only funny if you’re a bully (mean pranks, making someone look like a fool, humiliating).

@MarciaB12 13 дней назад

I am so literal but I am also hilarious

@RoyBruce007 13 дней назад

Are you the only one laughing at your jokes?

@MarciaB12 13 дней назад

@@RoyBruce007 nope

@carolschiffler6271 13 дней назад

Just found you last night. I'm a late diagnosis person also. I binge-watched about half a dozen of your videos and subbed. This channel is the first one I've found that captures my reality and what goes on in my brain without trying to wrap the whole thing in psycho-babble bubble-wrap. Thank you - these videos are perfect.

@Lyandra01 13 дней назад

Lol! “Isn’t it Ironic?” is my favorite song to sing when I’m at karaoke, but it has always bothered me that I couldn’t find the irony in any of the situations. Thank you for giving it an alternative title: “Isn’t it Unlucky?”! 😂❤

@NoxDracoria 12 дней назад

the irony IMO is that nothing in her song is actually ironic just unlucky or bummer situations... so the fact that a song about irony has no examples of irony I think is actually ironic

@Lyandra01 12 дней назад

@@NoxDracoria Lol! I like this answer, too!

@BPLdenver 5 дней назад

@@NoxDracoria Before that album, in the 1990s, I liked Alanis Morrissette. When that track was released, I immediately dismissed her as an idiot for not knowing what the word ironic meant. A sign of the autistic hyper-empahy to apathy?

@zeratir7873 13 дней назад

Even butter flies. Honestly what even is up with butterflies what a strange name, and it gets weirder we call them Sommerfugl (Summer Birds) here in Denmark, and in Germany they call them Schmetterlinge which conjures images of something being smashed to pieces, and thus I've concluded that German butterflies are very metal. My humor is mostly related to my literal thinking, as I'll often pick up on things that others don't, that could be funny if worded the right way. Because while I managed to learn sarcasm and to not take everything literally (I mean, I can't exactly fit it all in my pockets), I notice that my brain still has some lag, it takes a moment to realise that it's not meant to be literal.

@melanieoliver302 12 дней назад

I call butterflies "flutter-by's" because it makes more sense to me.

@resourcedragon 12 дней назад

I believe the older (and more logical name as @melanieoliver302 point out) for butterflies is "flutter by-s". (I'm a little unsure of the exact spelling of the plural and spellcheck doesn't recognise "flutterby" as a word.)

@masteringfibromyalgia 4 дня назад

i thoroughly enjoy humor, every once in awhile i don't understand the joke, ask questions for clarification, and therefore ruin the joke...

@nalijapetek6271 12 дней назад

About Ikea reference. In 2013 people found horsemeat in the pork and beef meatballs sold by Ikea. People talked about it worldwide and it became a sort of a meme. It also increased the interest in horsemeat as people got curious about horsemeat taste.

@resourcedragon 12 дней назад

Meat substitution has been going on in Australia since forever. My favourite story comes, if I remember correctly, from New Zealand where a dogfood company was on trial over the use of horsemeat in food described as "rabbit meat". The defendant was asked what the ratio of horse to rabbit was and he said, "fifty - fifty". The judge asked for clarification and said, "Is that 1 pound of horse meat to one pound of rabbit meat?" "No, your honour. One horse to one rabbit."

@yolandazach 13 дней назад

I tend to go the other way, and usually tell jokes that go way over their heads. They don't get the reference 😅

@jaosandv 14 дней назад

Yet again you have made a Video I can understand. You help me explain my self to others. Thank you very much.! 🤩👏🤔😎

@MarciaB12 13 дней назад

OMG I didnt understand the fruit flies like bananas until u explained it hahahahahahahaha

@stlouisramseys 12 дней назад

I still don't get it!

@MarciaB12 12 дней назад

@@stlouisramseys OK I had to listen again lol twice hahahahahaha. So he says Fruit flies like bananas. What WE hear is fruit flies like bananas like to fly. We'll bananas do NOT fly. What the joke means is fruit flies enjoy being around bananas. NOT fruit flies like bananas like to fly in the sky. Does that explain it or did I make it worse?

@dankdreamz 3 часа назад

For me humor was incredibly helpful. I was able to understand humor because it follows clear steps. As I learned about what makes a joke funny I realized there are simple rules that govern comedy. It's quite formulaic. I also found so much freedom and acceptance when I started to be funny on purpose. I was able to gain acceptance by making jokes and being funny. It's wild for me I am at my funniest when I know people well enough to know that they will laugh. It also backfires where I am tailoring jokes to specific people 's sense of humor. So when other people hear it they're not laughing but my target audience is. Learning the fundamentals of humor and becoming funny really helped me pass in this allistic world. Almost too well because people go towards but you're funny and you understand jokes. Then I get to explain in depth how comedy is formulaic and most people can be funny if they apply themselves.

@cierraallen9288 13 дней назад

I am very fluent in sarcasm or what I think it is and dark humor, but there are some types of jokes that just don't make sense to me. My daughter does not understand many jokes and never sarcasm I have to break down every thing I say. I almost think my PDA aids in my sarcasm because the NO and the opposite of what others wanted to hear is what I say🤷

@sheila3348 11 дней назад

I use puns a lot because sometimes I lose track of the conversation because I’m focusing so hard on masking, but if I can hear one key word in what other’s are saying and respond with a pun, then I have the appearance of being invested in the conversation.

@howlroseXI 12 дней назад

Orion you are all of ours Autistic Daddy. 😆 Your videos are concise and even when you do the raw unedited versions there is always many things to take from it. One of my things I fixate on is tonality and out of everyone I’ve watched that does videos on Autism you’re the male voice I continue to watch religiously. For the women who speak on this I very much enjoy Mom on the Spectrum. You get it and your examples always bring to mind my own for myself and my father and younger brother who are undiagnosed. Thank you from Oklahoma 💚

@masteringfibromyalgia 4 дня назад

speaking of pranks, The Office character, Jim, had some of the best pranks for Schrute that i thought was hilarious.😂

@Shooshie130 11 дней назад

Totally agree about the videos of hurt/upset kids, injured adults and not the least bit autistic.

@inikainika1523 6 дней назад

That's why we work so good as a team BECAUSE we work TOGETHER Derrrr

@stephanieblahbiddyblah 10 дней назад

The kitchen sink rant will always be one of my Favorite Things

@christinechapman9764 7 дней назад

You're right about that song, "isn't it ironic?"It isn't.

@sandraoxford883 11 дней назад

100% agree with you on not finding it funny when kids and animals being frightened while the person with the phone isn’t comforting said kid or animal. It is sad and I think it’s a different type of human that finds that stuff funny..

@Clare_LDA 13 дней назад

I love being referred to as a Star of Orion ❤

@user-co6wc8di5l 5 дней назад

I do tend to get a lot of word play, but as a kid we watched an enormous amount of comedy. Monty Python and other British comedies, just for laughs, stand up specials, us sitcoms, political comedy. I think all that exposure allowed me to memorize cues.

@BPLdenver 5 дней назад

Python (Monty) was my first comedy as well. So many great references from them that I continue to use. I knew I landed in a great job (I work in health care) when my co-worker was filling me in on a patient and said, "He's not dead yet."and another chimed in with, "He'll be stone dead on a moment."

@happysauce. 13 дней назад

Well done! Great points. Yes, I get about 50% of tic toc vids. Some just don't come across funny. Sometimes I get a good laugh when talking with people though half the time I don't know why? 😂 4:39

@Grace.allovertheplace 2 дня назад

Hi, 7:00 It’s sounded to me as if you were saying: *”Horton Hears a Who!”* 😂 it’s the first time today I’m actually relaxed & are laughing, so many thanks Orion ✨ Respectfully, Grace 🩰!

@Vegcrafttt 2 дня назад

Diagnosed level 2 here. Nearly none of these are an issue for me. It just goes to show how differently we all present

@ebwarg 13 дней назад

I understand sarcasm a lot more than I did when I was younger, when my teacher didn’t understand why I wasn’t doing my schoolwork despite her frequently saying things like “You did such a GREAT job!” She also “punished” me by making me read (the quotes are on my end, because I neither felt it was a punishment nor knew that it was supposed to be). Nowadays I understand sarcasm, but only when it’s delivered in a sarcastically sarcastic voice that is sarcastic. Straight delivery is taken literally, and is therefore a lie.

@BPLdenver 5 дней назад

Most ppl do not understand my humor, much of which is word association. After decades of either getting into trouble or simply shrugged off as a weirdo, I now recognize that I need to code switch when in neurotypical spaces (like work.) Thanks to videos like this, I sucessfully stopped myself from adding my joke to the office supply whiteboard. Someone had written "Scotch tape" and it took all.I.had not to write "Irish Spring" next to it.

@withheldformyprotection5518 13 дней назад

I was very confused by the Hyper-Bowl section, until you defined the term and I realized that you meant hyperbole (pronounced Hi-Per-Bowl-EE in the U.S.). “Exaggeration for effect and not meant to be taken literally”, like Orion’s comparison to the Super Bowl.

@Kyaazoi 13 дней назад

THIS. i thought he was mispronouncing it because of the joke theme

@mirandaivanochko6377 13 дней назад

Thank God I wasn't the only one!

@roddo1955 13 дней назад

It's hyper bolleeee in British English too.

@BPLdenver 5 дней назад

lol - I was going to comment that, it was really distracting to me. Notice I said I was going to - then I got sidetracked reading other comments, and didn't remember until I read yours! :)

@actipton80 13 дней назад

There are lot of jokes I have managed to work out logically, but I will never think they are funny. I've been on the butt end of so much teasing that I don't care if they are doing it because they like me. I will never understand the thought process of people who want to show how much they like me by insulting, hurting, or humiliating me, when people who hate me do the exact same thing.

@jameegrace4918 12 дней назад

So true!! I remember as a child needing people to explain why something was funny or that something was a joke. After 50 years I get it most of the time but I still miss it at times.

@kristinludlowUX 6 дней назад

Oh my god, the bananas and fruit fly scenario!!! Yes!!!!!! I was at a funeral once and someone said " I love the blue carnations." And I just sat there, confused, wondering what nation has nothing but blue cars. My friend was truly amused by that. And I do it all the time. Everything is literal in my mind, but I've lived long enough to understand the nuances in language. But it still gets stuck on weird idioms. Thankfully I grew up in a family of comedians, some who've done actual standup, and I learned how to tell jokes fairly young, I enjoyed people laughing. Still do.

@BPLdenver 5 дней назад

So many pieces are fitting now that I see my autism. Once when I was in high school, I was on the phone with my aunt, who was telling me about this new fabric she bought. "It has two cans on it!" I was like, two cans?? She kept trying to explain, but was getting mad at me for not understanding. She was wearing the skirt she made at the next family gathering. It was a pretty color, with a colorful toucan birds design. OOOOOH.

@grimTales1 13 дней назад

I thought it was well known that nothing in the lyrics of Ironic actually describe irony.... which is in itself ironic

@pipwhitefeather5768 13 дней назад

Agreed about the people hurting themselves and upset children - awful stuff! I wince and squirm and I just can't do it. Cheers lovely :)

@ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy 13 дней назад

I love this topic! One thing that I seem to be sensitive to is picking up on negative tones of voice; or backhanded comments. Mind you, it is possible that I only pick up on condescending tones from people who I know, or have talked to regularly. If I get to know their personality, I can sense whether they are an insensitive person who enjoys belittling others, and if they really don't care about people. If I hear them talking one way to other people, but a different way to me, then I can hear the change in their tone of voice. And oftentimes I have a hard time figuring out if people are just saying something to be nice, or if they really mean it (until enough time goes by and they keep repeating that nice thing towards me). As for humor, sometimes I wonder why people think something's funny when it's a joke that's so common, that you have heard people use it over and over again during different types of situations. This repetitive nature makes me grow tired of a joke, or a "common phrase" if you will. There are often times when I wonder why an entire group is laughing, when I have heard that joke or phrase countless times. It will catch me by surprise, and then I feel rude for being the only one who isn't laughing.

@Jefff72 12 дней назад

I love humor and most of my favorite movies are comedies. But, I also have a problem with telling an inappropriate joke at the wrong moment. I remember watching people in the military who could just let go, be free and funny. I wished that I could do that too. Then when I did, I said the wrong things.

@stephenieolson8535 13 дней назад

Everyone list any autistic comedians you know!: - Hannah Gadsby - Fern Brady

@simonmcglary 13 дней назад

Joe Wells Mark Grimshaw

@LunarWind99 13 дней назад

Michael McCreary

@katiemaier2782 13 дней назад

Thanks for making a video about this! I've been SO confused at work recently because people are trying to be sarcastic and I just don't get it

@probably_notbob5794 11 дней назад

This reminds me so much of my son. Might be looking into getting him assessed once I am through with my assessment

@Autistic_Goblin 11 дней назад

My parents cultivated a very risky sense of humor. If I ever said to my dad "oops, sorry" when I really didn't need to be sorry, he would respond "YOU OUGHTA BE, YOU SORRY SACK OF SHIT" in an over dramatic, mock furious tone. This was the sarcasm I grew up with, giving each other this kind of mock-shit because we loved each other. I can't do that with normies because my tone is dry and they think I'm being serious. And I've accidentally made enemies that way...😮

@TheRawChuck 4 дня назад

Although I'm Autistic I could laugh all day at humor poking fun at Autism.

@whitneymason406 12 дней назад

I can dish it, but I can't always take it. Great topic! 👍

@MarciaB12 13 дней назад

We are funny people

@markhuxstep7779 13 дней назад

It's still surprising when you describe my brain, but I'm grateful and happy to hear that others think like me. The NT world can be so exhausting sometimes. Thanks Orion, your channel has helped me immensely since my diagnosis. Cheers mate 👍

@fabiana-dep 13 дней назад

Hi Orion! Always following you from Argentina! GRACIAS

@janewarnock8855 12 дней назад

I have found that at work where there is a lot of 'banter', it feels mostly cruel to me and verges on an excuse for bullying. This rolls over into bullying if they realise that you don't get it /take it literally. I am so anxious whenever work colleagues start using that kind of humour... Constantly watching to gauge my response and afraid that they are laughing at me 😕

@looplop 13 дней назад

I'm 49 late diagnosed, enjoying your content since a couple of years and this again was top-notch on spot touching down a super bowl a hyper fly tool. * i say, hi *droolin fun*

@RickyMaveety 13 дней назад

I’m 71 and REALLY late diagnosed.

@looplop 12 дней назад

@@RickyMaveety that is late! I wish you have joy in assimilating this awareness.

@resourcedragon 13 дней назад

Orion, you mentioned just asking people to explain a joke. There is a variant both neurodivergent and neurotypical people might want to use: if someone makes a "joke" that is racist or discriminatory in some other way, get them to explain what is funny about it and stick at it. This can be an excellent learning experience for them - although I suppose it may make you less popular.

@TheCriminalViolin 12 дней назад

I'm definitely a complete mix with this. All over the place. Depends heavily on my day, how I'm feeling, where I'm at, how well I slept, etc. That said, the part I LOVE THE MOST is where you say Hyperbole as "Hyper-Bowl". I have always said it the EXACT same way, because THAT'S HOW IT IS SPELLED! Yet as you'd expect, I always get so much crap for it, as "it's hy-per-bul-lee!" they scream. Like what? In what universe does that even begin to make any sense? Language/words really can set me off for sure. And yes, for me, the more dysregulated I am, the far easier I am set off. I can get into a meltdown/blow up so so easily whenever I have dysregulation from the most simple things.

@kellyschroeder7437 13 дней назад

Never liked sarcasm and making fun of others w biting humor …

@siam1885 13 дней назад

In your end o! Love the scrubs reference :)

@EmilyFPC 3 дня назад

🙂 Tysm!

@TheShiningEnergy 13 дней назад

that "Hyperbole" word should REALLY should be spelled the way it's pronounced. "Hyperbolee". idk why it's not.

@RickyMaveety 13 дней назад

It’s because it is a Greek word. In the US we do pronounce it as hy-per-bo-le. Each syllable is pronounced separately. Same as a lot of South Pacific words.

@TheShiningEnergy 12 дней назад

@@RickyMaveety ooh! ok! it's Greek. i did not know that. thanks for telling me.

@resourcedragon 12 дней назад

Same goes for epitome, a lot of people get that one wrong. It's "eh-pit-oh-me". (Short e at the beginning, like in "epic") Also, with ancient Greek words, don't emphasise one syllable more than another, unlike the way we do in English (or quite a lot of other languages).

@RickyMaveety 11 дней назад

@@resourcedragon I had a friend who was reading Harry Potter books to his kids. He said Hermione’s name as “her my one”. Laughed my ass off, and then explained about Greek words and names.

@RickyMaveety 11 дней назад

@@TheShiningEnergy You’re welcome. English has a ton of Greek names and words. With those you pronounce each syllable giving the same emphasis to each. Some South Pacific languages are the same.

@Amazology 12 дней назад

Yes, everything does fly. In fact. Through space, all the time. ...Or maybe everything even hurtles and there is no resting state.

@A.Abercrombie-uo9ji 6 дней назад

I definitely can relate to the point that some autistic people get pretty heated at something that doesn't fit our moral compass, injustice etc. My boyfriend is always telling me that I can get too "riled up" when I see someone being victimized or just plainly treated poorly. I admit that I do get angry when I see bullying or anything else that is abusive. But I don't think I need to change the fact that I am affected by those things and feel like I should stand up for the person who is being mistreated, but I do agree that maybe I go too far sometimes and I probably put myself in the danger zone, so to speak 😅 and I recognize that I need to make sure that I have all the facts about a situation before I decide to get involved.

@pardalote 13 дней назад

I'm Betelgeuse ✨️

@georgespiese7388 13 дней назад

You are a great friend to me! I just wish you’d listen more! Bazinga

@nathaliewilborts9869 11 дней назад

I have something to add that I think is definitely part of it (this is how it is for me, so it may not be for others, but still): I struggle with sarcasm in a conversation. That is part of the autism (and very potentially ADHD). Why? Not necessarily because I don't understand it, but because I react too quickly. I learned that, in a conversation, we are kinda obliged to answer quickly (NT people don't like or want 'uncomfortable' silence). However, when I react to the sarcasm, my brain actually hasn't processed WHAT was said. By the time I have reacted, my brain caught up and I feel stupid, because I DO get it, but it seems like I didn't. When I come across sarcasm in a sitcom for example, I get it instantly! Why? I think it is because my brain is just focussing on the show and I am not worrying about masking, the conversation, eye contact, you name it. Nothing is expected from me so I instantly recognise the joke/sarcasm. Not to mention, I am a master in being sarcastic myself! Now, I am not saying the above is applicable to everyone, but since autism is a spectrum, I think/wonder if this might be applicable to others (maybe it happens more when ASD is combined with ADHD). Thought I'd share it.

@nancyziegler5724 12 дней назад

i despise hearing jokes, i never understand then, then i say " now that is funny' without laughing! i can relate, rarely do i enjoy a joke & re April Fools Day ~ again. despise it. whats the joke? ugh! I do enjoy Stand Up Comedy tho, i find it very entertaining. i LOVE to laugh! This video was especially interesting, Thank you. Ambiguous statements wreck me, now i will tell the person how i feel if a statement to me evokes that feeling in me. again, Thanks

@baileycaywood8719 10 дней назад

The song you mentioned uses situational irony, which is different from verbal irony. It is an event that mocks its circumstances such as a police station getting robbed.

@mhsjfriends2274 13 дней назад

Ahhh, so this is why my humor is broken. Like straightforward random videos of a piece of bread falling over that literally has no context that you need to even think about, and the explanation speaks for itself Another thing about afv and stuff like that. I have absolutely no idea why people find those funny. I always feel genuinely concerned that people break their necks or their entire bodies sometimes, and people just laugh their asses off, and I'm over here like, "How on earth is getting seriously hurt funny"

@DangerAngelous 12 дней назад

Oohh one time in English class my teacher was telling a story about someone on the news reading something that I thought was going to be funny so I amped it up in my head as “oh this is going to be hilarious”. What the teacher then said that the news anchor said was very not funny but I laughed for 0.3 of a second and caught myself

@melissamoore9709 12 дней назад

Hyperbole: high, per, bowl, e (e as in tea, or knee) I adore stand up comedy. Sometimes I don't get the joke (until a few minutes later) but what I have learned from watching standup is the usual rhythm of a joke. I think that's valuable as well for identifying jokes in the wild that you don't get right away! And it's valuable for telling jokes - they're less likely to be misunderstood as serious. I usually don't like the funny videos of distress, but not always. Sometimes they get a weird laugh from me with "aww you're so cute and you don't have to be scared and I want to just hug you and tell you it's okay" vibes - usually that's with the "standard" mild distress scenarios every kid goes through, like "first lemon" or "baby doesn't want to touch grass". Other than that, the only thing that can make it funny is karma. Even if I feel horrible for laughing, I can't help laughing at instant karma. I'm not sure why, now that I think about it.

@TimesRemorse 11 дней назад

11:25 Man, I didn't even realize you were joking about hyperbole being a sport i thought it was just some sport name I'd never heard of or something lol

@robbunch2225 13 дней назад

Puns.. let’s ban them. But I have my sense of humour but it’s hard for people to catch.

@AnthonyWade7 13 дней назад

12:05 I believe that word is pronounced: Hi-Per-Bully. Lol

@resourcedragon 12 дней назад

You are correct but if you pronounce it that way then you can't make puns about the hyper bowl.

@elizabethnekro3503 10 дней назад

I can seriously relate... I know how humour works because I always liked stand up comedy, in the speech I've learned some expressions, but if you ask me to explain their meaning I have no idea, I know only in which context you should use them but why? I take everything literally, for example last month a friend of mine said that "they tryied to cut the legs of a guy", it's a saying in italian when you want to hinder someone's career but in that moment I got upset and I pictured in my mind somebody with a saw. With sarcasm I have troubles too, but in the other way round: I always think people is sarcastic, even when they're giving me compliments. Often people don't understand my sense of humour too. Anyway no clue why people find funny pranks, injuries and whatever is unpleasant....

@inikainika1523 6 дней назад

Before even watching this - how can you speak for me? Laughter is everything. Jokes are quite often lame. Sarcasm is LIFE.

@blueviolets2022 13 дней назад

SAME feelings about these people getting hurt videos. WTH is wrong with these people who think it's funny?! Great video, you're awesome.

@angelagregoire6811 7 дней назад

I say oh what a beautiful day all the time when it's wicked crappy out

@Khalessi9876 13 дней назад

My boyfriend knows I have difficulty with sarcasm and certain types of humor and loves to watch me try to figure it out. We laugh about it together later.

@eiennonakama 12 дней назад

5:28 You could make a skit with two people (both Orion? 🧐) out of that. 😆

@adama7774 13 дней назад

Hi-per-bo-lee

@jaredsldixon 11 дней назад

love one another

@Kyaazoi 13 дней назад

the refrigerator joke always got me the other way as a kid. i thought of running literally as only something legs could do and was confused as to how an applicants could be running until i learned that meant something else.

@sharonaumani8827 13 дней назад

This is an interesting topic to me because I love puns, "dry humor", and pointing out ironies in life, to the extent that it is hard for me to learn to undue that, and speak more literally in the autistic community. At the same time, it helps me to understand why I have always been "slow" to understand things....points, plots, etc. partly because of my slow processing, I am sure. But, for me, I will know a poem or song is saying something profound, but i may need to have it explained the first time around [which is why I also understand the refrigerator running example, for your son]. And, even though I truly am on the autistic spectrum, with a multitude of sensory sensitivities that have distressed me my whole life, I totally understand the "language" of voice tone, expression, etc. and how to use it. And I am good at eye contact [though my eyeglasses help to act as a barrier] and it feels natural to me in "normal" circumstances, but not if I am really upset, or trying to focus intently, etc. A STRONG sense of justice, yes! Also, "constantly processing"....I may not struggle as much in this particular area, but I definitely struggle with this. I love the idea of "building that muscle", listening and learning through watching comedians deliver humor.

@lchauk9518 11 дней назад

It took me decades to connect Yogi Bear to Yogi Berra. I don’t think I’m autistic, just really ignorant of sports.

@leftalone9881 12 дней назад

For neurotypicals I usually use my expressions and tone to my advantage. When the other person is speaking sarcastically or hyperbolically about something I respond by going along with it as if they were serious. I get told my “delivery is so dry” Example: (I’m able to type fast and that’s my job) Neurotypical coworker: “wow only 94 WPM? you’re gonna have to take a class or something, I need to see some improvement” Me: “of course, I’ll get started right away.” And they laugh -? Like if they’re serious it works, if they’re not serious it works. I might not understand what they really meant but “laugh = good”. I have also learned a lot of common phrases people use, especially in the office setting, those are plenty and common. With other autistic people, (often other autistic women) I like to joke with “clever references” usually related to things we talk about.

@lauramunson3793 6 дней назад

I'm "NT" and a mom, grandma, and retired ER nurse. I also do not find humor in anything mean spirited or distressed children or physical injury. I also don't understand the appeal of shows with violence for entertainment sake. I get war movies but not the other stuff.

@Guinea_Barnes 4 дня назад

I am glad I am not the only person who finds April Fools Day distressing... the whole day is about deceiving everyone you love. How is that okay? How is it okay to be cruel?

@matiosmi137 9 дней назад

And there's the reverse problem: autistic jokes, or at least mine, are often so elaborate and niche that no one gets them and I'm left chuckling at my own jokes when everyone else stares awkwardly XD

@angelagregoire6811 7 дней назад

Boyfriend and best friend think I'm crazy saying im autistic and they won't even watch one of your videos! You and I are so much alike and I wish they would watch cause a lot of things that happen they think I'm overreacting or crazy

@Xarthis 12 дней назад

As a kid I didn't get sarcasm and irony, the literal meaning would always be stronger then the intended message. I had to learn it. Now, Dry, dark sarcasm and irony are my favourite. Terry Pratchett is great for that. I guess that I have accepted that this world is absurd, and now find humor in that. I also loathe the kind of "humor" that relies on people getting hurt, scared or distressed. As well as the kind of humor that relies on people being intentionally stupid, like the majority of sitcoms. What I find interesting is that I like Blackadder, which relies on wit and language, while I loathe Mr Bean (which relies on stupidity), both are roles of the same actor, Rowan Attkinson . (I am horrible at telling jokes by the way. I always get the timing or tone wrong)

@laurelanne5071 12 дней назад

The general consensus from literary people who know about such things is that the Alanis Morissette song contains no actual examples of irony, so, that's not an autistic thing, that's just a regular thing. I find for myself, I don't have trouble understanding most forms of humor, although it's worth considering that humor and comedy became something of a special interest of mine in my pre-teen years, and I pretty much adopted the persona/mask of "class clown" so when people would laugh at me it would be on my own terms. I was tired of being left out of the joke, so i decided to become the jokester