This bride wants a fitted dress but her mum is completely against it. Now, she has to make a really hard decision in order to stand up to her mum. Catch Say Yes to the Dress on TLC - Sky 133, Virgin 162, BT TV 323
It's true, my mother was horribly jealous of me when I hit puberty and started getting all kinds of unwanted attention. She accused me of flaunting myself at 12 years old, to make me feel ashamed and hide myself. It scarred me for life. It's so damaging to a young girl's psyche and self-esteem to have a mother who is jealous. It's the most disgusting feeling.
@@noriginal2546 Thank you so much, you are so kind. Yes, her mother was and is a sadistic psychopath, I just did not know this as a kid, and would not have had the ability to process all of her pain as well as mine. When I got older and heard all the stories, met my grandmother, I understood and felt great sadness and compassion for my mom, but the damage was done. I try to find ways of healing and forgiveness, it's just very hard when the abuse is ongoing.
I am so sorry that you had to go through that with your mom. My mom is doing something similar and it really hurts me when she says how I'm going to be a fat and ugly girl when I move out because she can't regulate what I eat once I leave. I understand what you went through
@@sarahtaylor6081 That is horrible and it's a complete lie.. her always trying to control what you eat is a sign of narcissistic personality disorder.. my mom did the same thing. This is an insidious and extremely toxic form of abuse. What she is really doing is trying to make you feel you can;t survive without her, because she is the one who is terrified of losing you. It's a type of brainwashing that they do so that you don't believe in yourself.. if she can make you feel small and worthless, then she can keep you all to herself so that she doesn't feel small and worthless. The result is called learned helplessness.. they control everything you do, don't allow you to have boundaries and make your own decisions, so you don't actually believe you can do anything on your own.. but you know you can.. Once you move out, and you MUST MOVE OUT to save your life, you will learn to regulate your eating and everything else that she has been controlling for your whole life. I would recommend looking up Melanie Tonia Evans, Michele Lee Nieves, Lisa A. Romano, Also Daughters of Narcissist Mothers. These are people who really helped me understand my mother's disorder and how I could finally learn to heal myself from the abuse. It's an ongoing battle, it has taken me a really long time. I wish you all the love and independence you deserve!
I love that Monty is building up the bride in front of Mom. Telling her how gorgeous she is and how perfect her figure is. ❤ I hope that bride got far, far away from her toxic mother.
i have to agree, it goes beyond a mom just wanting what she wants, this is a toxic situation, no doubt! This is hurtful and damaging, period and it pisses me off.
@@dvml45 I also have to agree and have always loved Monty for this. He's always on the bride side. Okay the mom hated mermaid dresses - but I was thinking mom this isn't your dress. She looked amazing in all the dresses!
I hope her toxic mother is banned from the wedding ceremony and the wedding reception. She may make remarks on the bodies of the bridesmaids. I agree Monty is the best.
Literally heartbreaking to watch the controlling, emotionally abusive mother. What a beautiful daughter with a lovely feminine form. I hope she learns how to make boundaries for herself. I loved her in the first dress. She was glowing!
I mean I kinda agree with her.I think that on your wedding day you shouldn't go out of you'r comfort zone becuase you could love it at the fitting and horrible at the wedding.So I believe that you should stick to what you like
Just the fact that she's so young and getting married tells me they're probably really traditional and religouse, I come from a similar back ground, and am very happy I didn't have arguments with my mom about the dress I chose- but I think she looked wonderful in both dresses!
This reminds me how my mother totally controlled every aspect of my wedding because "it was her money". If I had my own money I would have paid for it myself. I can never go back and change it and it's because of her that I will never have positive memories of my wedding. These mother's need to realize the damage they are causing.
Mom thinks her hips are too big. She's just not coming out and saying it. Instead it's all about not "showing" them instead of saying "people are going to agree with me and say you're fat." Which daughter clearly is not, and why Monty is pointing out her figure is actually model-perfect. But mom is old-school 80's mom raised on heroin-chic models and low-fat diets and thinks any bit of hips is "fat".
99% of the time people that bodyshame others have their own insecurities that they’re struggling with and project it onto the people they bodyshame. Its clear that the mother is doing so..
my mom is the same with my hips. my 3 sisters and mom have small hips but bigger busts. I have no boobs and giant hips and my whole life have been told to feel insecure about them. I ain't. 😂 I love my hips and always have 😂 I feel like this bride is the same way. she adores her own hips. it's the mom that is insecure about them. which I never understood.
@@LifeOfLily2018 i have very much a rectangle body build(shoulders, waist, hips are similar measurements). I wish I had larger hips! They're beautiful!!
@@camb1821 my friend just introduced me to corsets. I just had a baby so I haven't started yet but I already bought one. If you want a smaller waist and more hourglass figure you should try it! I got my corset from Mystic City Corsets
"You wouldn't hide the mona lisa smile would you?" Awwww .... monte comparing her hips in that dress to fine art after her mom tore her down was the absolute sweetest. 😍
I could just weep for these brides. My daughters were told right from the start, I had my wedding exactly the way I wanted it, and now you do your wedding they way you want, and then we just cheered them on. I hope each of these brides breaks the toxic mother daughter relationship with their daughters.
Me too. I don't often gasp at these dresses but her figure is the perfect hourglass, a rare thing. The first dresses showed that. If her mother puts her nonexistent "flaws" down like this in public, what does she do in private?!
When the bride walked out in the third dress I could tell she didn't love it. Her expression was much brighter and happier in the first 2 dresses. She was definitely confident in how she looks but the mother kept gaslighting her.
For me here's the problem: the dress really doesn't fit because it's pulling and showing a pot belly. You can see they don't quite get the zipper up in the back on the first dress. So that's problematic because you really don't know what the dress is going to look like with a correct fit and/or alterations. As far as the dress goes, I don't think it's excessively revealing. I think it doesn't fit well enough to know what it is actually going to look like. The second problem is who is paying for the dress? The owner and staff is always putting the emphasis on what the bride wants. If the bride wants it that badly, then she needs to foot the bill.
@@susantescione8007 Well, if someone offers to pay for your dress it should be given as a gift. It should not be the grounds for controlling your options.
@@imamirrorballxo My relatives would like to know what color is the sky in your world? You mean there are actually financial gifts without a myriad of conditions attached?
I paid for my daughter's dress, NO STRINGS ATTACHED, and it was just the 2 of us at the appointment. When she chose her dress, I cried happy tears. I wanted what SHE wanted! I was just so happy to be there with her as she tried dresses on. She could have decided on a burlap bag - if she loved it, I loved it for her❤ I am very proud to be her mom.
Oh yeah - I know the song... (totally LOVE that movie too! Finally the Disney princess that resonates with me...!!) Sort of had ocassion to have that very tune buzz around in my head a number of times since hearing it
@@pamscruggs2660 God bless you, dear. Any proper decent mother would. Do not quite get what the deal is with this mother toward her daughter, unless maybe just to be controlling...??
My Mom had bought my wedding dress that she had not seen since we live in different states. All that she wanted to know was if I loved the wedding dress. I had said yes and she said that is all she had ever wanted to hear because if I love the dress then she would as well. When she had saw my wedding dress, she was smiling with tears of joy and love. I had gotten beautiful expensive wedding dress that had huge lowered price off sale rack. It was very first wedding dress that I had tried on and love instantly. I was untraditional with wedding dress shopping by doing it with my hubby of over 28 years now. We had fallen in love with same wedding dress that we had saw separately.
"I know how you feel about your body". How she feels about it or how you've made her feel? There's a difference. She looked stunning in all of the dresses.
Yeah I got gas lighting vibes when she said that. Clearly her daughter wanted to show off her body and wasn't ashamed of it but the way her mom said that she knows how she feels about her body almost made it seem like mom was trying to bring back up old insecurities to make the daughter not like the dress
Women like her mom are the reason daughters have body confidence issues! It’s so sad. Her daughter has literally a beautiful curvy figure and what a lot of women want and she’s trying to make her feel like she should dislike her own body. So crazy how some people can’t look at their issues. Her daughter is gorgeous!
That mom is JEALOUS of her daughter. She is projecting HER insecurities onto her. She KNOWS her daughter has a great figure and she doesn't like that. I absolute hate mother's like this. Should have just left her at home.
You are spot on there. I couldn't work as a consultant and do what they do I wouldn't be able to stay quiet when narcissistic mom's steam roll their daughters.
True, she is really gorgeous, her figure is amazing and while the mom called herself conservative, the bride's boobs were pretty out there too in every dress and the mom didnt say a word about it. In the end it was all about the mom's insecurities and never about not showing the body.
This mother is gaslighting her own daughter; she's abusive. How sad is this. This bride is beautiful, and she looks wonderful. Mom needs to back off. I'm proud this bride stood up for herself. If she doesn't continue, her mom is going to dictate the rest of her life. She'll undermine all her decisions.
To me the worst part was when she had that last dress on her mom went "I love the way it accents her hips" honey no that dress hides those hips, the other ones showed and accented her hips
100% she just lost heart after the mother's controlling behaviour knocked the self esteem right out of her. So sad i hope she finds the dress of dreams and mum doesn't see it until the big day
I literally hate how no one seems to ever stick up for these brides. She is not there to try on dresses for anybody but herself. If my mom was body shaming me in front of not only strangers, but my whole family I would uninvite her to my wedding. I would rather get married in a pair of jeans and a tank top then let my mother control my wedding day. Awful terrible mother. Kudos to the grandma for not body shaming her.
Exactly, not to mention the fact that her daughter is an independent adult fully capable of making the best decision for herself, because SHE is getting married!!!
I'm sure the mom wouldn't have let her own mum decide what she was going to wear for her wedding. Yet forgets now that she is a mum that it's her daughter's dress and she should wear what she likes🤦♀️
I mean, if the fact that the mom wore an all white outfit to her daughter's bridal appointment wasn't a huge indicator that she's jealous, I don't know what is.
The amount of body shaming from mothers to daughters is disgusting. My mother started calling me fat when I was 12. Mind you... I was 5'2" and 115 lbs. This mother was jealous and so was mine. Gross. Disgusting. This bride deserved more
I'm sorry that you had to experience that - especially from your own mother. I hope that you've been able to heal from her hurtful words, cut out the toxicity, and build yourself a happy life 💕 Your beauty comes through in the empathy and compassion of your comment. Don't let anyone put you down again - & certainly don't give jealous bullies the power over you that they crave. Wishing you good health and happiness x
@@brookemcb You sound young (no offence 💕), so please let me give you a big piece of advice that I wish someone had given me when I was younger... Only take advice on what is big or small from health professionals. That's because we're all built differently, with different fat and muscle ratios, so height and weight is an awful way to tell if someone is healthy - it's more complicated than that. For example, muscle is heavier than fat, so if you just judged on height and weight, most Olympic athletes would be technically obese, or even morbidly obese, when they're some of the healthiest and fittest people on the planet. You said you're not 5' yet, which is why I'm guessing you're young. When you're growing you need lots of extra energy, vitamins and minerals in order to grow healthily. So please don't even consider a diet without the advice of a doctor or dietician. If you want to be careful, just eat healthily - a bit of everything, lots of fruit and veg, and limited fast food/sugary snacks. Don't compare yourself to others. You are you - your body is unique and so long as you are healthy, numbers like height and weight are not important. Comparing yourself to others, on and off line, from such an early age can lead to eating disorders and really knock your confidence completely unnecessarily. It really isn't healthy. Keep fit and active, eat well, speak to your doctor if you're worried, and you will be the healthiest, best shape possible 💖 Keep smiling x
@@brookemcb Im not much older than you so I don’t know if my advice will be right or help lol but if I were you I would just not worry about it until I’m older and it actually become a problem, you aren’t that heavy anyway, and if you are actually worried you can join a simple school sport, idk that helped me but I know that sports aren’t for everyone
Gorgeous bride and I love how much Monty was gushing over her. I hope she went back and got the attention and love that she deserved, without a certain someone….
If you're offering to buy your daughter's wedding dress, let her pick what she wants. I bought my daughter's gown, and I let her pick what she wanted. We did have a price point, but that was it.
I totally agree! The price point is understandable if the mothers paying but every else should be the daughters choice! Also you sound like a very nice mother!
I would KILL to have this girl's figure! That second dress she tried on was absolutely stunning on her body. Her mother should feel ashamed of herself for not supporting her daughter!!
@BlouBear77 "I know how you feel about your body" saying she wants her daughter to hide her hips, when possibly for once the bride loves her hips and wants to show off her (PERFECT) figure? THAT'S odd. It's worse than odd. I see nothing wrong with Jenn's comment. EDIT to clarify: it's hard to know in what way the mother meant her statement, but one of the ways it could be taken was "I know you're insecure about your body so you should hide it", as if to remind her daughter that she was insecure during her moment of self-love. I'm sure it could've been meant in the "I know how much you love your body, but-" as well. We'll never know, but the point is this mom is not being supportive. If she knows how much her daughter loves her body (unlike hundreds of daughters who get ED's because of their moms), then she should be supportive!
That young lady has a beautiful shape and looked amazing in the mermaid gown! What kind of mother crushes her daughter’s wedding dreams like that ?!?!?!
I don’t think mom was jealous. If she was jealous, she would have been talking about her wedding and make it about herself. I think mom really just wanted it to go her way so she was manipulating her daughter to feel insecure of her body and get her to not want to show it off in a mermaid and instead go for a ball gown or something. But she failed. Her daughter knows what she wants. Mom needs to respect her daughter’s choices.
Of course you're going to have hips when you have a small waist! She's a perfect hourglass. When did that become a bad thing? Love Monty for hyping her up.
I offered to pay for my daughter's wedding dress when she got married two years ago. We set a reasonable budget and that's where my involvement ended. I didn't offer her the money so I could pull her strings to get what I wanted. I offered her the money because I genuinely love her and wanted to help her realize her dreams. I watched her try on dozens of dresses and I gave my opinion (gently) when asked. In the end, she bought exactly the dress she wanted and she looked beautiful. Would I have picked a different one? Not sure...but it doesn't matter. It wasn't my wedding and my support didn't come with strings attached. Mommas need to back off. You had your day. Your daughter's day is not yours.
Hello wonderful mum! The world needs more mums like you in it! I told my mum that when my sister gets married, I'd be a supportive big sister in helping her pick out her dress. I know what I want, but it's not MY wedding. It's my sister's , and what she wants is what matters!
Well done!👏👏👏 You're a great mum for doing that for your daughter. I hope she realised how wonderful you are.❤️❤️ I'm a mum to four beautiful children❤️❤️❤️❤️, one of whom is my angel girl. I hope I'm as supportive of her and her wedding as you were of your daughter's. God's blessings to all xx
Honestly I would not be surprised if this poor bride eventually went NO CONTACT with this terrible mother. No one should destroy their child's self esteem. I hope this mother learns from her selfish mistakes.
Honestly, I want to hang out in these stores just to pass those poor brides information on how to go no contact with toxic people, along with the promise that it's OK to do it.
She’s so beautiful in all the dresses. It astounds me that mom is trying to control what her daughter looks like because just because she’s paying (I think?) and her daughter is already a grown woman. Like she’s literally getting married
it's as if the mom isn't proud of her daughter's beauty which is sooooo annoying :/ Edit: y'all are right, her mom is jealous as heckk. It's just so irritating bc she shouldn't be trying to take anything away from her own daughter
My mom acts the same. I have a pretty pear shape and my mom always tells me to not show my curves at all like its a bad thing. Like when I wear something tighter my mother tells me how bad I look and that I shouldnt show my curves.
She looked amazing in those first two gowns - her mom played the insecurity card - but you can tell she really felt amazing in those two dresses, but she couldn’t tell her mom !!! I hope brides get this message, if you can’t stand up to your mom, how do you think you will ever be happy, people will always be DOMINATING your thoughts and choices in life-/-stop worrying about who likes your dress ITS NOT THEIR WEDDING - stop people pleasing you can’t satisfy the worlds opinions - I’m glad I’m strong willed and minded because what I choose and love is what I’m buying period -
Mom is absolutely jealous of her daughter. The bride-to-be had a magnificent figure, and looked amazing in *all* the dresses. Shame on that awful mother.
It kills me that the person who is supposed to love her the most is front and center at bringing her down. This girl is gorgeous and her figure is amazing. Shame on her mom.
@@isobelmcarthur6761 : I agree. And, that comment about, " I know how you feel about your body..' suggested weight insecurities.. Mom should simply re-enforce her sense of beauty. You made this child!! She is gorgeous. Be proud.
honestly the a-line 'hiding her hips' did nothing for her, made her look blah. the other dresses showed off her amazing hourglass figure and she looked bangin
EDIT: This comment is over 2 years old and no longer fits my current views. Although I believe this mom behaves like a narcissist based on my life experiences, I do not believe it is acceptable or appropriate to diagnose people you don't know. But I'll be leaving this comment up as both a learning experience and place for conversation Thank you 💗 ~~~~~~~~~~~~ That mom is an absolute narcissist The way she's trying to break down her daughter's confidence and doesn't want her to love, show off or accept her body is disgusting The defeat on her face was heartbreaking
Oh, absolutely. It was disgusting to watch her tear her daughter down like that. Just awful. This girl looks gorgeous in those mermaid dresses, they are literally made for her body.
Wow. When the camera cut to the mom when they were complimenting her daughter... That was very telling; her expression, that is. She doesn't want her daughter to be independent, much less herself. Toxic.
What saddens me the most is that she's STILL looking for her mom's approval. When you got a toxic parent like this, you gotta learn how to ignore them and their degrading opinions. Easier said than done though...
Paying for the dress in just a means to manipulate. Better to get married in jeans as long as you're happy. Better still would be to elope because if she's involved in the rest of the wedding, it'll be the same struggle.
Oh is that what she was doing?? Dear God, I couldnt quite figure it out... Was a bit confused actually, but I see all the comments saying she the mother is projecting her insecurities, & now it makes sense - she is overly critical. I thought the daughter seemed confident with her shape so it didnt register why the mother would act like that, as though it was indecent or something, to show her figure
