How to SAVE YOUR MIND: learn what no one teaches you

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Because of the way human beings develop, people only truly gain the capacity for critical, independent thought when they're 25 years-old. Unfortunately, by the time people reach this age, their minds are so full of nonsense that they could literally spend the rest of their lives sifting through the concepts, beliefs, and ideas that were functionally put there without their consent. And -- if you want to be an actual individual -- this is precisely what you have to do. In this episode, I'll discuss what this process looks like and why it is indispensable to becoming yourself.
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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.
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@mgu1N1n1 4 месяца назад

One of the better aspects of getting older.... experience. Men, protect your mind and body. Gotta eliminate the booze and chemicals... trust me. The clarity is important... and believe it or not you'll find some peace and health. Men, be safe!

@fps6612 4 месяца назад

True!!

@akeilaoc 4 месяца назад

True story. Also eliminate promiscuous women, porn, hours of video games, and junk food. The clarity and focus you get after that is life changing 💯

@xanthippus9079 4 месяца назад

Moderation is key. I don't drink, but some people I know do it responsibly. This goes for many unhealthy habits. Ideally we should optimize our lives to the best of our abilities. As long as you don't fall into addiction, you may occasionally have fun.

@LoneWolf-bz2id 4 месяца назад

I believe! That’s obvious… alcohol kill the gut… a poor gut kill the mind. Etc

@forgottenfuryan 4 месяца назад

There are 125 self deletions each day in the US, 8/10 being divorced men and I'm chronically unemployed and had truly evil parents. I just go to RU-vid to remember how easy you all have it and it still blows my mind every time.

@brianbachmeier34 4 месяца назад

“Treat the body rigorously so it is not disobedient to the mind” - Seneca

@trw4war322 4 месяца назад

Great Quote!!!

@shanonkiyoshi4784 4 месяца назад

@@trw4war322 Seneca thought so 😉

@someguyik 4 месяца назад

I recently discovered stoicism and his name pops up all the time. Excellent quote.

@Malachi_Padilla Месяц назад

I understand the quote but not on a “deeper level”. What does he mean by exactly?

@andromedagroup-kd4rl 3 дня назад

@@Malachi_Padilla Regular practice to discipline your body, so that you can command it at will when you need to (instead of slacking off telling yourself "you don't feel like it"), is what I understand. Like daily meditation, Regular excerice and training, deliberate practice and constant improvement of your skill at a profession or a such.

@mrbill2600 4 месяца назад

In order to control my mind I first needed to control my body ... Practicing the discipline of fasting was of great help to me in controlling my mind. I'm 84, in good health, exercise, and meditate daily. Among other activities, I interact socially, travel, ski, golf, and fish ... I love life, but I do not fear death.

@buckleymordecai9605 4 месяца назад

Yeeeeesssss.

@larrywhittemore9362 2 месяца назад

Great job ! I'm 75, and still doing weights, snowboarding,golf, etc.. Just finished my second reverse shoulder replacement, and cataract surgery. Still going strong thanks to only Jesus Christ and the mercy n grace HE has shown me. I ran into one other guy at Mammoth who was 84, Still skiing 5 runs per day! GOD has blessed him also. Each day, I enjoy the world as it exists, it is beautiful on its own as made! Everything else is man made, has a price to live or use or see it. GOD gives freely no restrictions, continue on your journey! Enjoy!

@johnegan4762 2 месяца назад

It was your mind that decided to fast. I agree with your mind.

@tommybinson Месяц назад

Great inspiring comment, thanks. Best wishes!

@mrbill2600 Месяц назад

@@johnegan4762 The thing is, once you decide to fast your mind needs to control your body. That takes discipline and discipline is what controls both the mind and body.

@BruceLeon83 4 месяца назад

"Empty your mind, be formless shapeless. Like Water; Absorb what is useful, discard what is useless and add what is essentially your own"- Bruce Lee This message of waking up, fulling embracing oneself as an individual, realizing not everything you were taught or own is beneficial is a powerful motivation for Self development.

@YouilAushana 4 месяца назад

Yeah!! Good time for Bruce Lee quotes

@watchingbrain 4 месяца назад

yep, now you only need a reason to self develop in the first place...^^

@denisemcdougal6445 4 месяца назад

Agreed

@georgeelder8415 3 месяца назад

He did.

@patrickhackett3878 3 месяца назад

As a 69 y/o Vietnam vet, my entire adult life has been questioning dogma and planted beliefs. Ultimately, I have examined my workings to the point of separating myself from many folks and groups that I would have been naturally akin to. A bit lonely at times, but far more calm and grateful.

@peripheralparadox4218 4 месяца назад

Orion has what many psychologists don’t have. Wisdom, which is what every psychologist should have.

@upup209 4 месяца назад

He has a spiritual understanding of life which informs his practice

@peripheralparadox4218 4 месяца назад

@@upup209 I’ve never heard him speak of his spiritual beliefs??

@peripheralparadox4218 4 месяца назад

@@upup209 you don’t need to be spiritual to be wise. Wisdom and intelligence are more than enough. Most people who claim to be spiritual are egotistical.

@marguskiis7711 4 месяца назад

Orion are looking for too much the cheap popularity talking total bullshit too.

@peripheralparadox4218 4 месяца назад

@@marguskiis7711 what’s the bullshit?

@JrnMnd08 4 месяца назад

I was lucky to start this process when I was 23. Now 33. It takes a while to get things ironed out once you see the light. Remember an epiphany doesn't mean lasting change, it takes a daily practice and a resolve to not forget what you learned or let yourself slip back into old ways of thinking and being. Get to work, start today. Thank you Professa

@shanonkiyoshi4784 4 месяца назад

So damn TRUE. The BIGGEST clue you're ACTUALLY changing is the ppl AROUND you. If you STILL have the SAME friends you did 10 years ago, chances are you haven't changed as much as you think you have. When we're changing MOST of our friends either fall away OR change with us (it happens), but USUALLY most move on or simply don't understand. If you have a NEW batch of like-minded ppl SURROUNDING you then your change is REAL. Jus' Sayin' ⚡️😎⚡️

@user-hr3lw3oq5m 4 месяца назад

I’m currently 23. Just started working myself out of all this. Honestly, thank you. You gave me more hope and inspiration to push on.

@omartrachen6794 2 месяца назад

Lucky, im starting at 32

@sandroschneider2123 4 месяца назад

What I find interesting is this: When you work on yourself and grow, you become happier, more balanced and more successful, because you stop self-sabotaging yourself. At the same time, it get’s more difficult to find a partner, as most people don’t develop and you can’t be anymore with someone who hasn’t integrated and healed his/her shadows and traumas. Anyone else who experiences this?

@hasteeli79 4 месяца назад

Me !

@Slow.Smooth 3 месяца назад

Yo this

@rodriguesaplacino6612 2 месяца назад

Exactly how I feel. I get to know someone and immediately go like heeell no, I am gotta get out of here 😂 Dating 20-25 yo girls is so exhausting. They have so much unresolved baggage on them, that I always feel like I dodged a bullet

@HH-bc2nz 2 месяца назад

I feel this too, as you become more healthy in body and mind you will filter people better. The pool of healthy people is very small, 5% tops. While you become whole you eliminate 95% of the people to be your friends or life partner.

@soultra1189 2 месяца назад

Yup

@boyitelluwhat 4 месяца назад

Love it. Started this process in my mid 40s without knowing it and regret not doing it earlier. Stopped watching news 10 years ago. Stopped reading eclectic alternative news a few years ago. Almost all of it is a distraction and BS, not because of some conspiracy, but because of people write it, or know better than you, or are mediocre at their jobs and under a deadline, or increasingly, because it’s just software writing the words. Spend your time on your family and friends, on your career, your hobbies, staying fit and healthy, learning new skills and improving old ones, building a nest egg, learning from folks like this and others to better understand yourself. Your decisions will almost entirely determine the life you lead.

@thisisnotoleg 4 месяца назад

Thank you ❤

@hamilton7181 4 месяца назад

"declutter the mind of bullshit", gonna be my one of my top 3 goals for the rest of 2024, thanks again Orion for another gem!

@janeentumbao8690 4 месяца назад

Keep that on your to do list for life. It's not a one and done thing. Every year, sometimes monthly, I do mental cleaning, like deep house cleaning.

@dragatus 4 месяца назад

If you think any of us will be done with it by 2025, you're very optimistic.

@seven7upndown241 4 месяца назад

What is the crap in your life ot what you consider as crap? To me anything outside of the bible is considered as crap.

@TheYeyeMan5000 4 месяца назад

I totally went through this process, I thought I was supposed to be who I was, and boy did my bad marriage thought had taught me so much different. As soon as I realized my worth, sought metal health I started to change to what I knew what I was supposed be, Then started reading Meditations of Marcus Aurelius, and this was the catalyst, if felt like I lifted Mjolnir, and that I knew everything needed it to do as man. I had to let go of that marriage, but now I feel powerful within.

@rickyfitness252 Месяц назад

I started with Marcus Aurelius, a good follow-up is the red book Carl Jung

@learncadadia7832 4 месяца назад

7:43: “overtime, little by little, you may arrive at a point in which the majority of your mind’s content is there at your permission, and at your conscious pleasure.”

@marknolan2799 4 месяца назад

So true. That's why channels like this are so important. You can be your own unique person and not just blindly follow what you've been taught.

@richardw3347 4 месяца назад

True, anyone who encourages independent thought is a plus.This can take awhile to do though and even when you think your still not brain washed you still may be on some level b/c certain programming can run deep no matter who or what you are. You may have unconscious negative ancestral imprints or past life issues and themes that still play out as well. You may become conscious of these patterns so you can change or heal them if you don't believe in those things on a conscious level at least but to heal and be aware on deeper levels you may need the help of someone else. Good healers, Shamans, etc., can help you track certain things and why it happened. Alberto from the four winds website has some good info my mentor learned from him/the program. I'm sure there are other people or avenues you can learn from too. Interesting stuff.

@forgottenfuryan 4 месяца назад

Imagine having the luxury of caring if you're unique and special

@richardw3347 4 месяца назад

@@forgottenfuryan it's more about evolving and being self actualized so you can live your best life away from the hive consciousness most people are under.

@thomaslyons441 4 месяца назад

Developing a good BS detector is an important life skill that is far to uncommon.

@alexwelts2553 4 месяца назад

@@richardw3347 dude, that's my hive mind 🤣. But seriously I'm fighting for my life and freewill. These haters are trying so hard to remove me from myself so they can enslave whoever's in the hive. And harvest whatever I've become from experience and hardship at the school of hard knocks. If they get the hive mind away from me, you will have a reason to hate it then. I'm protecting the collective currently.

@patriot5550 4 месяца назад

One of the best videos on YT and this could help a lot of people around the world. I really appreciate more self improvement content like this.

@JocobsComments 4 месяца назад

Yea

@chrism6764 4 месяца назад

Cometh the hour, cometh the video! I'm at the "where am I going, how did I get here?" time in my life. Maybe a bit late at 39 but I'm here. This was REALLY useful.

@thebesttheworst2277 4 месяца назад

... You're early by many people's standard.

@MiteshDamania 4 месяца назад

It's continuous improvement. It never ends

@zanderschoeman3898 4 месяца назад

Better late then never.. Cliché but true

@Ace.0.0.0. 4 месяца назад

"Where am I going? How did I get here?" I'm in my 60s, and I'm STILL asking. (Only half joking)

@_Solaris 4 месяца назад

Relative to many, 39 is definitely _not_ late in the game 👍

@alexwelts2553 4 месяца назад

At 37 everything I knew was useless and I let it go. Universal Truth and experience since.

@Mel-cc9vr 4 месяца назад

Same age. Same understanding. New innerstanding & overstanding

@jasonolinger7585 4 месяца назад

What exactly did you let go?

@andreasharlin5495 4 месяца назад

Hahaha! 🤣

@alexwelts2553 4 месяца назад

@@jasonolinger7585 everything that I thought I knew, everything that I was sure of, my stance on everything because the foundation was yanked and I been free falling ever since. Opinions on most things. Something happened where energy shot up my back and out my head from my ass I think 🤔. And it was everything that all my ancestors had been through, I felt it all at once, A LOT of suffering, and unconditional love, and a completely different perception and ever since it's like I don't know how to human at all . Haven't been able to human around humans ever since. Started communication with spirits and my mind quantified. Seeing much bigger spans of seemingly non connecting things that appear with whatever I'm seeing as. I let Go of everything and everyone. Spiritual warfare started destroying everything I loved, so I quickly distanced from my daughter and grandma and brother because they were all I had, and didn't want them hurt. Something even picked off my dogs. I saw our civilization extinct and in 1 grief crunch, had no more attachments. Will to live to something to die for. So yeah, everything.

@Strafeyy 4 месяца назад

@@jasonolinger7585Hoe life probably 😂😂😂

@eSKAone- 2 месяца назад

Exactly. I'm 40 years old and live in the center of beautiful Heidelberg Germany. I inhabit a flat with 2 students, to save money. I can walk to work (ICU nurse), but I have an old used bike for less then 200 bucks. I don't need to travel. Heidelberg is paradise. No car, no kids. I only work part time so I have enough money for my hobbies: Bouldering, Running, Gaming on Sony PlayStation and Nintendo Switch (if our house burns down, I can't lose those games, I own them in the cloud). Life is beautiful nowadays, why would I waste it at work. I only buy cloths when I really need them, mostly cheap. You can eat healthy for 5 bucks a day (coffee included). It's easy: stick to things that have only 1 ingredient, but no isolates like sugars and oils (you can throw them together obviously for a meal) I consider whole grain pasta to be healthy, but you should have them split up in to maximum 2 meals a day. Other than that I eat oats, nuts and vegetables. Only drink water, coffee, and tea without additives. If you're vegan have your vit.B12 and a good source of omega-3 fatty acids (chia seeds, walnuts), maybe vit.D if you're a nightshift worker or not out in the sun much, and you're good. Once in a while if you have an easier day try to eat nothing for that day. I'm 40 years old, athletic, everyone thinks I'm much younger. Take good care of your bodies folks 💟🌌☮️

@alanwhite-zv5ii 4 месяца назад

I am 47. I so relate to the hoarder concept. The past 2 years I have been trying to figure out WHY about everything in my life. This idea made something click in my brain and I'm getting closer to figuring it out. THANK YOU

@cosmictreason2242 4 месяца назад

This is how people become Christian

@eladbari 4 месяца назад

WHY do people get married? WHY do people buy houses? WHY do people make babies? WHY do people do anything their g0v claims is for their own safety? Great questions to begin with, I guess..

@cosmictreason2242 4 месяца назад

@@eladbari this is why you need a relationship with Jesus because without a transcendent view of your purpose beyond your life, everything eventually is realized to be pointless. Read Ecclesiastes, it's very raw

@eladbari 4 месяца назад

@@cosmictreason2242 I'm jewish. You're talking about "Kohelet" Book. What should I find there that relates to life and purpose?

@cosmictreason2242 4 месяца назад

@@eladbari 🤷‍♂️ read it

@jefffelton8016 4 месяца назад

100% agree with this video. I also stopped watching the news over a decade ago and carefully filter where I get information from. It has helped my life immensely.

@Hclann1 4 месяца назад

At 65 I could not agree more. And so many mistakes made on false ideas. And I see it still happening.

@SeanMcGown 4 месяца назад

The greatest difficulty most people will face will be staying awake. It's really, really hard. I'm constantly trying to figure out ways to do it better because I suck at it. Divesting yourself of these moutains of rolled up newspaper and tumbleweeds is a true life change. What you've described is the result but how you get there is a lot of pulling yourself back consistently into awareness. And with all of the competing noise for your attention, falling off the wagon almost daily can be frustrating. Lots of people have lots of different plans. And you have to try them out to see if they work. Oh well. Getting better is a long process but giving up won't make it happen any faster.

@VaibhavTripathi-nj9km 4 месяца назад

I am so fortunate to see your videos at the age of 16. I hope you make video on how should teens focus on life and what is really important to people in teenage.

@cosmictreason2242 4 месяца назад

Don't stop there. Look up Doug Wilson or Eric Conn

@VaibhavTripathi-nj9km 4 месяца назад

@@cosmictreason2242 thanks a lot, i will watch them

@inconnu4961 4 месяца назад

@@cosmictreason2242Why? Why should he? How do we know this isnt more unnecessary BS that should be avoided, as the video has suggested us to do? Everyone here is foll of BS,including me & you! LOL This is why we need to explain ourselves.

@cosmictreason2242 4 месяца назад

@@inconnu4961 bru what

@joeblack3878 4 месяца назад

I’m amazed how different I am as a man in my 40s than I was in my 20s. I’m successful, established, reliable, dependable, honest (mostly), and a role model and mentor to my children. I got here by learning a lot of hard lessons… Credit at one point in the 400s, my first wife leaving, overcoming addictions, cutting out the nonsense, stoping drinking, stopping porn… A ton of bad decisions hid in the back of my closet. But I’m a man, I’m here, and I’m proud.

@valdius85 4 месяца назад

Important message. I wasted too many years, as no one in my life explained values approrprietly. Looking at the examples of people around me, I did not understand the importance of traditional values. Now that I am a father and a husband, I begin to understand things. It is late and there is a lot of work to do to even begin living according to my values. It is so sad.

@MyMy-tv7fd 4 месяца назад

this is exactly why I was always a freak as a child - when I was six I saw my first film, 'Mary Poppins', at the cinema, and as I sat there I critiqued it. In primary school I never understood the reason for any of it - I was permanenly dumbfounded by the screeching animals surrounding me, I could not see why I was there. In secondary school I would happily point out my teachers' errors and was hated for it. Doing psychology at uni I instinctively disbelieved most of it.

@aspenward390 2 месяца назад

I began painting in oils when I was in my 30's. Previously, I had learned to write my dream content, every night, and decipher the symbolic content of the dream's language. So, I then used the conscious act of painting as a means of examining the visual symbolism of the images that I painted, in much the same way as you suggest; listening to each thought that might come into my awareness. The intent of the exercise, unlike the Surrealists, isn't to capture the nonconscious image of dreams, but to examine the contents of my mind. Now, to anchor my mind I needed something to hold within it, and that was often "Love", or "Peace". This was a counter to compare/contrast any thought that came that was NOT that anchor. SO, any thought/emotion that came, I could decide if I wanted to keep it, as you say. And often, what I was left holding, were thoughts of peace and love...and a painting. 🙂

@ce8539 10 дней назад

Started this process last year at 32, long way to go but came a long way so far. Havent used social media besides youtube since 2008. Never liked it, immediately could tell it was cancerous. Now its about being my authentic self and unfurling into the person id like to be.

@JaySmith-pv2mw 4 месяца назад

I stopped watching the news eight years ago. I recently deleted all of my social media accounts. I rarely watch TV anymore except for sports. I'm 57 and I am just NOW realizing how many of my deeply held beliefs about the world and myself are total crap. My personal resources such as my energy, focus, money, time, etc. are becoming increasingly valuable to me and I am reluctant to spend those on any endeavor OR person which is not providing a positive return to me. I have no problem being alone for the rest of my life if necessary.

@spaceengineer1452 4 месяца назад

Sports is the most useless thing to watch. I hate sports. Macho rubbish.

@MikeC1 4 месяца назад

7:00 I appreciate the clarification that you need to carefully decide what to keep and what to discard. In contrast to pathologically holding onto tradition because of how they feel, there are those who pathologically rebell against tradition for the same reasons. Mindlessly rejecting averything you've been taught won't free you, it will simply leave you rudderless, desperately searching for the first thing to replace your past belief system. You will jump from one dogma to another and be no better off.

@inconnu4961 4 месяца назад

Bingo! This is the Left! They will accept anything & everything BUT tradition!, and they are absolutely aimless, and rootless, and when their masters tell them something new, they have to change their minds again! LOL No wonder they are miserable all the time and loathe those who are content!

@sandys2672 4 месяца назад

Reminds me of a saying (in quotation marks 🤣) “You’ve got to stand for something or you’ll fall for anything”.

@freemindkev 4 месяца назад

GREAT VIDEO. This is why your upbringing is so important. You adopt the beliefs of your parents, relatives, etc. before you’re old enough to develop your own belief system (in a beneficial way at least).

@Hclann1 4 месяца назад

Or you adopt the polar opposite of them

@inconnu4961 4 месяца назад

@@Hclann1Really? the polar opposite? Please explain. Chances are what you 'think' is adopting, is simply your attempt at petty juvenile revenge! An attempt to hurt those people. Its INCREDIBLY immature, and those people stay in that place of immaturity for years! Its so sad!

@Hclann1 4 месяца назад

@inconnu4961 many children adopt the.polar opposite of their parents habits and beliefs as a sort of rebellion and independence. The.preachers kids are promiscuous, the democrats kids become republican, smokers kid don't or vice versa. Just some examples off the top of my head. If you want more indepth view, read psychology.

@davincij15 4 месяца назад

I agree I examined why I felt the need to get married again and concluded it was put in my mind by movies and culture. So I asked does it make sense today? No because we men get Zero value!!!! We actually lose power in our relationship because we are scared she will leave with everything I as man has built.

@Jun-zq3bn 4 месяца назад

please do a video on the dangers of social media

@soniarodriguez6651 4 месяца назад

im 43 and i believe i understood a lot of things and completed a lot of processes at 40. i feel so much more calm and rooted.

@inconnu4961 4 месяца назад

Congrats! keep the process going, in never stops! Wait until you are 50 and your eyes are opened even wider!

@rughty Месяц назад

Decluttered my home and mind at the same time, and it's been positively transformative. I feel like a different person, but not in a strange or unfamiliar way. Now I'm just the useful core.

@user-wd7jw2le4s 4 месяца назад

I was 27 when I started this sort of thing. I was addicted to tv growing up. The walk in the house, flick it on and fall asleep to it letting play all night type. It was one of the first things I had to give mostly because I didn't want unattended thoughts gaining access to my mind subconsciously. Gave up radio for a while, too... I still enjoy the sound of the world more. It used to be so loud inside my mind, its much more of a sanctuary and a tool. Have to graib the mental reigns and start driving or it drives you effing mad.

@learncadadia7832 4 месяца назад

5:52: “if you don’t do this, you will be a cipher, a pastiche of your culture, and the idiosyncracies of a particular historical moment.”

@MichaelNelder-wc5jh 4 месяца назад

Dr. Orion. Your content is really helping me bear the weight of consciousness. I haven't even watched this video yet but I'm excited to watch it. Thank you

@IAmTheEggMan111 4 месяца назад

Started watching when Orion had 30,000 subscribers. I could not believe that more people were not seeing his work. Now just a few months later he’s got over 400,000 subs. Nice work mate

@trevharpa9371 4 месяца назад

I knew he was gonna b big when he said men treat women how women treat money , and women treat men how men treat jobs

@christopherpreston4931 4 месяца назад

I've been following Orion for about a year now. On my own voyage of discovery at the age of 64. Three marriages down and countless relationships. This is the best video for me , absolutely spot on.

@rayrwyr 4 месяца назад

Three marriages and countless relationships? Wow. Rich with experiences.

@inconnu4961 4 месяца назад

@@rayrwyrIts the ONLY way to be! LOL

@ftlbaby 3 месяца назад

Disbelief is one of my current practices. Searching for all the unconscious beliefs (and assumptions) that have been controlling me, driving me, compelling me into my current life, which is not 100% what I want. The hoarder analogy is useful. This video earns a subscriber. No news for a decade here.

@JoshWalker1 4 месяца назад

This will surely become a frequent go-to clip. Far more efficient than explaining large bits of these concepts from scratch. Ask yourself, “what do I think I know; and, how do I think I know it…?” until it's second nature and a permanent background part of your inner monologue.

@johnrogstad1278 4 месяца назад

A very necessary insight as always. In my experience, the best approach to take in response to realizing one has been molded by one's culture is to pursue truth rather than adopt a counter-cultural stance for its own sake. You can end up just as confused by reactively fighting external influence as you can mindlessly conforming to it. Better to evaluate information and ideas on their own terms regardless of the source. So if you end up retaining views originally received from parents, media, church, friends, etc. that's completely fine, so long as you have individually evaluated each idea and weighed its truth/usefulness for yourself.

@spageddie3266 4 месяца назад

Well put 👏

@kernel8803 4 месяца назад

Easily one of your best videos. Thank you

@juliebjorn 4 месяца назад

Re. watching the news, one of the best things I ever did for my state of mind (back in the early 2000s) was to stop watching TV when I was home alone. Daytime talk shows were the big poison then, and they thrived off making their viewers miserable and anxious in the guise of offering helpful advice, "reality" entertainment, and lifestyle products you absolutely had to have. Today's social media is the same, only orders of magnitude moreso.

@edwardyoutube 3 месяца назад

Rarely you can find such enlightening content on RU-vid. Excellent episode Orion. Luckily I have spontaneously started this process without any external prompt at some point in my mid thirties but I bet most people will never get to even begin to understand this.

@eddypasatrino2039 3 месяца назад

You and me both! I am 32 and sometime several years ago i also began this process without an external prompt. Or maybe there was i just don't know/can't remember.

@glennhogan2258 2 месяца назад

I'm 61 ,I grew up in an Era when most people had common sense, that nowadays is very uncommon, scary times, especially for the younger people, especially 40 and younger and they have kids, some have grandchildren grandchildren

@tdtrecordsmusic 4 месяца назад

i figured this out ~15 years ago. it was a time when I decided to try and live off the land for a year. Def, one of the most liberating things I've ever done. Shut off all input to your brain, and OUTPUT to other people. The output to other people part is important caz we often verify these thought loops by speaking them outward. that was just my journey, there is probably other ways to accomplish this ... ur mileage may vary lol

@BeautiHacks 4 месяца назад

One of my favorite’s so far! 8:36 Bingo 🎯 … Hit the nail on the head with this episode. Critical thinking is a skill and to some a gift. Truth is the basis of “comparison” when analyzing anything. Comparison is the key to accuracy. If we don’t shine the light we roam in the dark. Being able to zoom in and out of any given situation will allow us to see the details and the bigger picture at the same time. If we can be the satellite and the microscope we gain truths perspective. The best way to gain truths perspective is with balanced ⚖️ thinking ⚖️ and an unbiased emotional detachment. Think until you’ve gotten through the maze… The only way to attain true immediate knowledge is to “perspective shift” and to protect and guard your subconscious mind from past and “present” influences. The only way to protect your subconscious mind is to have a firewall like antivirus program running in the background… almost like a fight or flight alarm system that detects and blocks threats. (I don’t have those apps downloaded either. Pretty Smart…I use to tho mainly for business. I’ll get on sometimes to let people know I’m still alive just in case they wondering.)

@CoramDeo1977 4 месяца назад

Yes.

@igormargulis6302 4 месяца назад

One of the best tools I’ve found is literally a sheet of paper and a pen. It really helps to zoom in and out, let all emotions on the paper, sort it out, see for what it is. Great!

@BeautiHacks 4 месяца назад

@@CoramDeo1977

@igormargulis6302 4 месяца назад

@@BeautiHacks honestly, I started to accumulate a toolbox of ways to recover from traumas, which all the time leads me to find balance in things. And sort of trust the process of recovering. It’s a bumpy road, but 1000% worthy.

@Darvatron 4 месяца назад

I just wanted to say thank you, this is the most useful information I've come across Orion. I've been figuring out a lot of things the hard way, my whole life, but you're helping me connect ideas and reach new understanding much more rapidly. Thank you, friend!

@budgreen100 4 месяца назад

Great explanation brother Orion! Thank you for your work… great lighting as well!

@AceKite00 4 месяца назад

9:38 EXACTLY! This is what I've been saying since i was 14, and I'm 28 now! I don't have any of those apps either because it's all a bunch of senseless BS. I also rarely watch any sort of news because it's mostly negative AND theyre telling only what they want people to hear. People need to learn to truly disconnect in order to be fully sane.

@janeentumbao8690 4 месяца назад

I wholeheartedly agree with what you said. About that bs shit... I was told that black people (I'm Afro-Cuban, btw...) are "supposed" to think and live and dress and act a certain way. Me? I saw the consequences of some of those thoughts and actions and beliefs. Like having kids without a husband and a stable lifestyle. Like going to jail. Like never having a good paying job. Like tolerating crime. I said a big no to all of that bs and left it behind decades ago. Similar thing with going to church. It left me afraid to date, look too hard at men, be too attractive too men and not wanting to live an abundant life with a fair amount of material possessions. It took me until around age 45 to get my head straightened out enough to think freely enough to really start doing my own thing. Hard work! It's the hardest! Staying the same is comfy. Change is hard! Dealing with criticism (self and other's) is hard and sometimes came with negative consequences of their own. Worth it? Absolutely. Clean out that warehouse of bs thoughts people. Have armed guards to only let in the good stuff. Your mind will love your for it.

@teefrankenstein4340 13 дней назад

Words of wisdom thank you Orion for sharing. I’m currently on this journey, working on my health and losing weight. Working on expressing my emotions better and to try to find happiness.

@jackdeniston59 4 месяца назад

25y to install, 60 to upgrade

@michaelpilos 2 месяца назад

“Inward” Yung Pueblo 👌🏼

@Eclectic8 4 месяца назад

Another thought-provoking take! Two years spent in a third world village with no media diet never left me feeling at all deprived afterwards. A couple possible additions come to mind: 1) This is not compulsory. No need to complete the process perfectly to receive benefit. And while hardship should be expected, if taken to the point of trauma (e.g. via extreme self-isolation, abandoning all social connections suddenly) you're body will lash back and inflict you with a deeper attachment. Just start being willing to question everthing. And even eventually start (like Orion) helping others do the same. 2) Let go of, avoid and don't apply labels. (I'm surprised Orion never used the word "identity." The more "civilized" humans get, the more "stuff" we identify with as a kind of shield against our self-inflicted species isolation.) This car, that person, those systems of belief. An even better place to start than #1 above, is with (your) kids. (And I can't blame someone without kids for neglecting this point.) Yes, they have to work their own awakening once grown. But we can help them to, for example, embrace history study (incl family hx) without attaching themselves to any labels (whether labels associated with shame or pride). Model questioning more than answers. In short, you might not need to take full responsibility yourself for throwing out the bathwater (and whatever's in there...). As social and cultural beings, it might be more natural to not attempt this all alone nor even all in our own generation.

@cian3853 4 месяца назад

Hey Orion, thank you so much for this episode. I have appreciated your work so much of late.

@Spitzbube 4 месяца назад

I really hope this makes the book. This goes beyond what we normally take as simple mental health. Maybe call it mental maintenance. Thank you Dr Teraban. Useful and well said.

@StingrayMk1 4 месяца назад

I agree. 100%. Stopped watching news over a decade ago, mainstream TV also. BUT!!! I think many people (not all) have been curating what goes into their mind for some time now. But we each drink from different wells. My wife thinks I fill my head with crap, like your channel, Jordan Peterson, Rattlesnake Jake, Joe Rogan, Candace Owens, and others too numerous to mention. I think she fills her head with crap: feelings based therapy, inspirational women's adventure stories, married at first sight etc. Obviously my stuff is "good oil" and hers is utter rubbish. I think maybe here we have a significant reason why people are so divided about "truth" and "misinformation" nowadays.

@inconnu4961 4 месяца назад

Exactly! If we need anymore evidence that men and women are different, this is a great example!

@carloh2503 4 месяца назад

Even as a non-native speaker, you always manage to draw complex things such as pictures with your words. I would like to thank you for that

@rnavarro182 4 месяца назад

I love the hoarder analogy for this. Another aspect in which I've noticed this behavior is style. So many grown people have the same tastes and styles they developed when they were teens.

@MoLassessss 4 месяца назад

I agree bro. I’ve been doing this cleansing process for over 3 years straight and i’ve come to realize the fake persona i was projecting on top of the person i truly want to be.

@detroitvcw 4 месяца назад

Majority of people today, more or less. Especially with the advent of social media. I cant begin to tell you how many woman I've dated/people I've met that had absolutely no identity, or consistency in thier persona and character...people well into their 30s and 40s. Completely in the matrix in many aspects. Im no doctor, but this has to result in Personality disorder to the 10th degree, in which I am certain it does. I meet way too many people that fit the bill.

@marktapley7571 4 месяца назад

Obedient workers entering a digital world prepared for their control.

@OfficialDarkSoulMusic 4 месяца назад

As a victim of toxic and emotionally abusive parents, I have slowly started doing this in recent years. I'm currently 31 and he is right on the money. It's pretty hard to wake the fuck up until at least your late 20s. I pray I can create the life I want as best I can and break free from all the abusive bullshit I was served on a silver platter growing up and into adulthood.

@yoshi314 4 месяца назад

that is something i realized in my 30s, but just could not put into words. some people just act out everything they heard/read somewhere, without thinking about it. some just repeat patterns they got form their parents.

@John-ou4rm 4 месяца назад

Went through that when I was 19 or 20. I thought at the time it was like putting a bulldozer through my mind clearing all the logical frameworks I had and rebuilding.

@elinope4745 2 месяца назад

I have become adept at taking something that isn't functional in one situation and applying it in an unexpected way in a different circumstance so that what at first didn't appear useful was actually useful all along. 300 level coursework in one field is often applicable in understanding another "completely different" field. At very high levels, the stem fields begin to overlap. If you don't understand geometry, you can never fully understand algebra. At first geometry was leading me in circles, but eventually it squared me up. That same analogy is true with chemistry, but the puns wouldn't work and most people wouldn't understand the vocabulary.

@Kelsodpjr 2 месяца назад

This one right here is so thought out. I’ve never had a realization like this from watching a video.

@gooeyisawesome 4 месяца назад

Orion this is one of your best videos yet, and somewhat unprecedented. This video resonates very deeply with me, I’ve always had a skepticism towards pretty much everything, including my own thoughts. In my humble opinion, the only freedom we really have is to decide how we interact with our own thoughts. Everything else, even our ongoing thoughts themselves, are in large part outside of our control as they are a consequence of the continuous stream of events and inputs we recognise as existence. True consciousness, perhaps even transcendence is arguably impossible, but one can achieve a very deep and broad understanding of the universe by understanding that everything can and must be questioned, and we must decide for everything for ourselves. Nothing is true beyond our own decision to accept an idea as reality. We live in a realm of ideas, and nothing more.

@WaltWhite71100 2 месяца назад

In many cases, the ideas that are planted in your head as a child that come from your parents and the culture around you are extremely beneficial. They provide the guidance that’s needed by an immature mind. It’s also why it’s so important to be around people who are constructive as a child, because shedding bad childhood programming can be a lifelong challenge

@techsir8866 4 месяца назад

Doctor, please take a deeper dive into this subject. This video is likely to be one of your most important.

@Shouko-sama 4 месяца назад

I'm happy this type of content is getting more attention this is important to becoming an adult it's a practice that should've been taught to us at 16

@Ataraxia102 4 месяца назад

This man’s content never ceases to amaze me. Just when I thought I was alone in thinking this way, this Sage eloquently verbalizes the difference between a Thinker and a Stinker. How else to explain the fact that for some adults (maybe most nowadays), if an original thought Ever crossed their cluttered and cowardly minds, it would surely die of loneliness. 🦉

@merlingeikie 4 месяца назад

Thank you🇦🇺👍🏻 PS Lowered by TV into the bin long long ago. The opinions of others about the opinion of others etc is a dud cause. News is really what's very very close, not out there. None of us have long. Quality is freedom to be pleased with yourself, humble simple and kind, methinks. Thanks brother Orion.

@henrysteadman963 3 месяца назад

Great episode :) Oscar Wilde is credited as saying: Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation. This often comes to mind as I listen to contributors on talk-radio repeating things they've heard. Ideas and opinions absorbed and assimilated and re-presented as 'their own thoughts’. It’s quite striking when you recognise the exact same idea, sometimes even the exact same wording of the same idea re-expressed as though an original notion. I don't say this in criticism as though people are simply ‘sheeple’, it's very easily done, …to be under the influence of other trusted voices, and maybe even impossible to avoid to some degree until you have time to step back a bit and ask yourself "Is this really something that I think myself and have evidence for... or am I simply accepting someone else's word for it?!”

@christopherachaegakwo9175 4 месяца назад

You couldn't have said it any better Dr. Thanks so much and keep up the good work in saving lifes and thoughts. Cheers.

@YoYo-gt5iq 4 месяца назад

At 18 I joined an MLM, and got really into reading. I had not been a reader before so this bad data was in very fertile soil, and 20+ years later I'm still dispelling the nonsense.

@nataliavellon1192 4 месяца назад

This with Love like the Sun is my top 2. Thank you Orion!

@karenoyama8950 4 месяца назад

This is exactly why it’s so important to raise your children with the best possible morals and environment! Then it’s automatic for them to choose the best path in their life. ❤❤❤

@inconnu4961 4 месяца назад

@@AndrewFunk1And how do they do this, einstein? Normally the rules parents TEACH are the rules parents themselves follow! the kids would NATURALLY pick this up, because they will emulate their parents anyway, instinctively!

@RY-rz5fg 4 месяца назад

That was excellent advice. I'm recently deconstructing a religious belief system that was forced (and enforced!) upon me. It takes a lot to unlearn all of the bs and become a sovereign being.

@inconnu4961 4 месяца назад

Who will you blame when you willingly accept BS? You will NEVER be sovereign because you will ALWAYS accept the UNTESTED word of another individual, instead of fully discovering it for yourself! None of us are sovereign for this very same reason. I dont mean to crap on your BS parade, sir, but we will NEVER arrive! We are all in the process of 'becoming', myself included.

@brianbard3410 2 месяца назад

I just turned 59 , and I started to figure this out 1 1/ 2, year ago I was extremely frustrated with my situation and figured my life was unique and singular to myself. Through stepping out of myself and understanding what is great about myself and what I can improve or change or alter for betterment . Some things are hard to face but I'm actually really happy and excited about things to come. I owe it all to these self improve and manosphere podcasts

@soultra1189 2 месяца назад

Good for you sir

@onceuponaeon Месяц назад

Thank you, needed this reminder. As a painter, the most creative original work comes after long periods of many Vipassana courses. No talking, no reading, no eye contact, no internet or phone, or computer, oo dinner, or shiznaut. : )

@annaholden2406 2 месяца назад

Thank you for this one. Appreciated. 😊

@PabloSteuer 4 месяца назад

I was looking down on therapy until I tried it out myself. I'm having problems with suicidal thoughts, but after learning how these thoughts and behaviors gave me what I wanted as a kid, I actually was kinda succesful with just saying no to negative automatic thoughts and swap them with either pushing/motivational or grateful thoughts.

@acem82 4 месяца назад

This is *so good!* I had to start going through this process when I joined the Marines. It was such a mistake that I had to question all the choices and beliefs I had that led me to that horrible decision. Sadly, it took great trauma for me to learn this, and I suspect that's common for all of us.

@monicamomney8756 4 месяца назад

27 I went back to school. I felt like I knew nothing and all of my friends were rushing to have babies. Good for them but I was horrified to move into that with how mentally messed up I felt… I really identify with what you’re saying.

@LevelUpLegion727 3 месяца назад

Your channel is a treasure trove of wisdom, offering valuable perspectives on dating and life overall. The concept of the "emotional gym" theory, in particular, has left a lasting impression on me and continuously resonates with my everyday experiences.

@Vitriol-Divergent 4 месяца назад

As you're talking about this it causes me to realize this cleansing was forced upon me by a TBI I suffered in 2019. It destroyed everything about me and then subsequently helped to destroy or alter all of my relationships, which forced me to look at how to rehabilitate/adapt through all of these problems. It's been maddening, frustrating, unfair and has made my existence feel soul-crushingly impossible to live through. BUT oh man did it cleanse me of my old biases and beliefs, then FORCED me to pick a path that I want to go down to makes sense of what I've had to become.

@dannyyorri2345 4 месяца назад

My friend you are the one of the greates honest and objective minds of our century !!

@AaronJMarch 4 месяца назад

Go boi, go! One of the best videos you’ve made - if this is the only video of yours anyone listens to, this is the one… love you channel, daily watcher.

@23DanielVincent 4 месяца назад

Been going through this process for the last nine years. Like Doc said, it is long, laborious work, but it's worth it. It gets easier the more you do it, and you build momentum.

@frizzlefry5904 25 дней назад

This is soo true, but there is a cost, everybody thinks you are mad.... its a price to pay and a cross to bear, thank you.

@shreyjoshi4891 4 месяца назад

I’m 19 years old coming out of a two year long deep anxious-depression and starting this process as I’m healing

@user-dt6ds5gi8w 4 месяца назад

My father and mother didn't talk to me growing up .How fortunate I was having to figure out things for myself. Of I've made mistakes, but my adventures continue at 73.

@regatron1 4 месяца назад

Grateful to be hearing this at 23 and not much later in life. I still feel behind at times but the time is now to take control of my body and mind.

@Profbaatz235 4 месяца назад

another great video. i'm 37 now and even though i am a fairly intelligent person, i think it took me at least until now to really free myself of treating others opinions as my own. its relieving if you reach a point where you let go of most of the bullshit in your head and around you so that you can more often than not say convictionally "i dont give a f"

@ruvaanmalkani6560 4 месяца назад

I think this is the first time I've been able to relate to something and resonate with it

@olivertaveras9896 4 месяца назад

This was the most eye opening thing I've done over the years. The automatic responses were so abundant I was completely shocked at how much of an automaton I was. And still am it's been 7 years of shadow work. And let me tell you. When you get to the other side of this, it's almost like you can bend reality to your will real time. It's so trippy because there's no lag between ur thoughts and ur actions. My movements are more fluid and effortless. The way I speak is more elegant and I can project further. Social skills quantum leaped into another class. I can even hear and see better. Crazy to think that I was poison for so long

@ElixeoFlores 4 месяца назад

I'm a sixty seven year old male. I've always considered myself extremely fortunate to have been born gay, for this precise reason. When my friends and I hit puberty and all of my friends continued on the socially acceptable path (for that time) of heterosexuality, I was left to figure things out on my own. Suddenly everything I had been told was suspect. I soon realized that if I acted a certain way, I could fit in. From my perspective at that young age, it seemed clear that everyone was acting in order to fit in. I could see that my family had an agreed upon collection of family mythology that shaped our beliefs and how we saw ourselves. Stories of heroism, betrayal and fortitude by past family members that were intended to shape us. All of them had a kernel of truth but were largely exaggerated. I could see that my friends had similar stories. All of which I had accepted without question up until the moment I discovered I was different and no such family or societal mythology existed for me. It was like a light had been switched on! From that point forward my perspective was very different. Not flawless, but definitely a lot more discerning than before. I'm not implying that this is the reality for all gay men. I was fortunate in that my family did not impose any homophobic beliefs on me when I was young. My parents didn't force any religious beliefs on us. My parents weren't atheists, they just wanted us to make our own decisions regarding religion. As I said, I consider myself fortunate. These days I do watch some news and participate in some social media and do my best to remain objective.

@mikecoyle7139 4 месяца назад

Funny, I’ve been going through just the kind of things you’re talking about and thinking in the back of my mind how long it’s taken to really start to understand who I am (I’m 74). Nice to hear it all put into someone else’s words and perspective. This is the second discussion of yours that I’ve liked a lot.