I Had To Use The Women's Bathroom - FtM Trans Man 

Petition to make all bathrooms gender neutral

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@@l-_Val_-I frankly all single occupancy should be gender neutral.

I couldn't agree more with this!!! 🤘💯💯💯

A few high-profile attempts to make public bathrooms (the kinds with a shared common area with private stalls) have quickly ended in assaults involving cis people already (one in a mall next to a queer area of Shinjuku, Japan, where I've been). Before now, the few public area, private stall gender neutral bathrooms have also been known as red flags for women, seeing an increase in assaults and sexual harrassment compared to separated bathrooms, too. So I'm not sure about my stance on those specific types of public bathrooms, especially as a trans woman who has already been harrassed in the women's bathroom in a bookstore by a _women._ I can't imagine sharing _any_ public bathroom space with cis men... I am absolutely for gender-neutral individual bathrooms, though. That sounds more than just practical. It sounds like the only public bathroom I feel genuinely safe to go to the bathroom in! I know that's not practical for some places, though. I just don't know what another good solution is...

“wE cAn AlWaYs TeLl” no tf you can’t, Cheryl and Kyle, no tf you C A N N OT.

@notville_ Shucho hole

Yep The comment system now dDays is BASURA TRASH

​​@notville_0%. The percentage of your parents who don't wish they got an abortion is 0%. Planned Parenthood: providing HRT and solving the conservative infestation.

@notville_ cool pfp man i can tell youre definitely normal and not obsessed with people who dont know you

yeah they literally rely on the fact trans men will get arrested for using the women's. Because if these laws were enforced as they are written, it would become common for men with big beards, hairy arms and guy clothes to be using the womens, which would make it trivially easy for cis men to do the same. it's only that they know the real outcome will be trans people not using any public toilet that makes this make sense

Damn I didn’t even realise that they don’t have to even pretend now. Proves how stupid transphobes are

Hair grown out, laser hair removal, shaved legs, years of hrt for bajangin titties and ass, I want an orchiectomy... What? all so I can infiltrate the women's toilet? Like, I wanna basically be a eunuch by cishet standards. The "protecting the sanctity of single sex spaces" logic just isn't there as you've described, that's because it's not about protection. It's cruelty as the point to make life in public harder for us, to make us not come out in public. This is part of the heritage fund terrorist plot to mark us for easy identification and targeting. The age restrictions and drag bans provide that to some degree. This bathroom shit is the legislative terrorism to add fear of being ourselves in public or anywhere for fear of getting arrested or accosted.

Yeah, cis guys can just lie and say they're trans men to get into womens restrooms, these laws only make things worse and weren't given an iota of a thought other than "how can we hurt trans people more." They give "white's only" restroom/water fountain vibes

​@@nicdegrave3313definitely not logic.

Yep!

It's called projection

@@no0n34ta1l 😂

💯

It's almost as if they wish we'd all disappear or something...

The future they want is none us LGBT+ peeps in it at all sadly ☹️

the future I want has no Conservatives in it but total equality.

Because they’re idiots

​​​@@rhymerlegend2717why are you on every transgender conversation And post I come upon on? Are you okay mentally that you always need to prove that you are right about others gender? It concerns me on how much you care to come on any transgender topic you can just to get that attention and Sastify that need to be "right". I don't think anyone with a "I'm right you're wrong" mentality isn't that okay. Why waste your time over 100 hundred people who won't see your message anyway?

​@rhymerlegend2717 why are you staring at people?

This is so true! Your comment also made me realize something else I didn't notice until I saw an article about it-- it's really rare to have changing tables in men's rooms (maybe has gotten better in the past few years?) because, idk, constructors forgot about dads? "Single-sex" bathrooms just seem like more of a hassle on so many fronts

As a side note, if you are not disabled, do not use the handicap stall. I almost peed myself waiting with my large service dog and knocked twice as this person fixed their hair and finished up. Its not your private VIP bathroom and it’s literally the only one we both fit in.

@@veronicamunn7720 Conservatives just never bring that up because they neither care about single-dads nor disabled people nor just making life better for anybody, but they do care about making transpeople miserable.

The problem is all groups mentioned are minority groups let alone anything that messes with the status quo of social division makes conservatives feel personally attacked as stupid and ironic as it is. They hate society/government and the system that keeps them down but God forbid you try to change anything for the better since in their minds everyone else is morally/socially selfish and only go out of their way for their benefit mixed with their zero sum mentality means the only way to lift the people below them up is to force their status and privilege down taking away their rights. The same logic that had southern dixi traitors screaming their rights were taken away during the Civil War when told they could no longer take other peoples rights away and murder them for being a higher classes property.

Yes! Gosh, that must be a hassle for yall, sorry you have to go through that.

​@notville_And here we see Conservative Compassion in action everyone, making a self-deletion joke about a disabled child. "Think of the children" the conservatives say. We humans really wish you things would think about our children as little as possible.

@@tjenadonn6158I’m sure they’re a bot, or something. It’s fucked.

It’s even more terrifying when it’s a father and daughter

Nobody batted an eye before when a mom had to escort her boy into the ladies bathroom. People love to make life more complicated now.

@notville_ I better not catch you abusing animals, so help me God.

I feel so bad for ur mum All the love goes out to u and ur family

bathroom bills hurt everyone :(

I'm 6ft and have been since I was 12. I dare anyone to question my femaleness. Go ahead, put your hands down my pants to check and get peed on.

i was 5’11 by 12 (and still am too, i was an early grower lol) and i equally got looks using the women’s as a kid. i am a trans man, so it worked well for me in the end, but i didn’t know that at the time, and it hurt.

Who caused it? This whole gender thing is effecting biowomen. Sad

Yeah... i never got how forcing trans men, who are men and therefor look like men, into womens bathroom, would help women to be safer? If anything it would be a lot easier for cis male predators to enter, simply claiming that they are trans men and therefor legally have to enter....

@notville_ What's 42%?

​@@clancyalexander6192dogwhistle

@@clancyalexander6192 you're better off not knowing. Just don't sweat it and live your best life

@@hiddenmongoose7314 actually I think I do know and I always thought it was 41%. If that's the response, that person is a disgusting hateful piece of 💩

They really do, it's awful. I had to travel recently and I decided to present masculine (because last time I presented feminine going through TSA was a little traumatic; the body-scanners REALLY don't like pre-op trans bodies and it forces a pat down and the whole explanation). I typically avoid bathrooms but I really had to pee so I went into the men's restroom for the first time in over a year and it was a complete disaster. Two of the stalls were flooded with toilet paper and un-usable, and everything was disgusting. I saw a guy go into a stall, piss in a toilet clogged with toilet paper, and leave because it wouldn't flush. . . ????? I felt incredibly out of place and a little un-safe.

As a genderfluid person I won't even dare to go into the men's room at work. Not only do I not pass as masc enough, but more people use it more often and there are times when the smell of ass just wafts out if it and I hate it I can let the women's room sit all day and the worst I'll have to deal with is taking out the trash and sweeping I should talk to my coworkers about cleaning it more often because most of them are men so there's pretty much always a guy on shift. If one guy each shift cleaned the restroom at least once it shouldn't be that bad

@notville_ saying last warning like you're about to fucking explode or something lmfao

​@NotVille_Not the last warning 💀🤚

@NotVille_ genuine hot behavior right here

The fact that they think we're the ones assaulting and being creepy in the bathrooms, when its them. A cisgirl literally decided it was ok to be extremely gross and actually actively terrify you and start crawling under the door. There should be a fine for this kind of behaviour.

@@neon17.08 yeah people really suck some people just see themselves as the victim never the villain.

*couldn't care less 😊 Sorry your bathroom experience was that awful. Some crazy scared people out there with all the ridiculous fear-mongering for other's gain. 😤

@@socksdosestuff I don't agree with Non Binary, as it actively gets Trans people hate crimed. Nothing wrong with androgyny pal. You cannot exist outside of the binary you claim is a spectrum.

@@socksdosestuff Remember? Sex and Gender are different. That being said, what you encountered is a shame, a sin, and a disgusting display from a sick woman. You're just, not trans. Don't hide behind us. We're losing our rights because of you.

Women deserve single sex spaces. No really cares about women using the men's room because females aren't a threat to males. This female person can go right ahead and use the men's room as she believes everyone thinks she's male so she shouldn't have a problem. But females have a right to keep males out of our spaces as males are bigger and stronger on average, possess organs that can be used to impregnate us, and an overwhelmingly large number of males objectify and fetishize female bodies. "Gender identity" is an irrelevant concept when it comes to predicting risk. "Transmen" pose the same risk as other females, as evidenced by the fact that only about 9% of "trans" prisoners are "transmen" and the rest are "transwomen." Bathrooms are places where women are vulnerable and partially naked. Violent assaults are not the only crimes committed that involve violation. Privacy is important.

@notville_ I don't know what you're trying to say, but I'm German and I've never seen a bathroom like that here.

@@LeylaKaratas their RU-vid account exists expressly to harass trans people in comments sections and encourage self unaliving, I doubt the child has ever said anything that makes sense in their entire life.

Also, the comments under this video have really opened my eyes to the fact that bathroom nightmares are super common and I feel less weird about having them 😅

@notville_ what are you going to do kiddo? Furiously repeat the same inane comment and further prove your inferiority to a bacterium?

With enough drinks men will do anything. Remember. This is the group that has been to loose goldfish up their bladders from time to time 😂

Cruelty is the point. They want us to suffer until they can just kill all of us. 1940's on repeat.

I had a similar incident at this sushi restaurant/club I was getting to like. It was great when I went a few weeks earlier at about 7pm. Very clean, professional, great sushi. Then I decided to try it after midnight. I had just finished my 4-12 shift and really wanted sushi and this place is in my neighborhood. So I made sure the kitchen was still open and headed over. The sushi was great as usual. The vibe was awesome. I had a nice bottle of saki, which I was enjoying responsibly with a glass of water. Had to pee. Danced my way past the dance area and headed to the bathroom. Only two options. Due to the club atmosphere, decided to head into the women's. Completely empty. No one in there. No one near there. Just sat down to pee when some guy comes to the door of the bathroom and starts yelling at me. Goes away. Comes back to yell at me again while I'm washing my hands. Still nobody else in this whole bathroom. My waiter noticed how down I was at my table and when hearing my experience, insisted that it couldn't be staff and tried cheering me up with a free dessert. I saw the main security guy as I was leaving and he admitted he sent his male staff in the women's room to harass me because he said some lady complained. What lady? I was the only fucking person in there. I put this on my review and the owner kinda brushed it off in a gaslighty kind of way. I can't go back there. I refuse to give these kind of people my business. So sad tho. 😿 It really was great sushi.

Well... at least in a really fucked up way that's can be seen as validation. You pass as a man enough to freak out women in the women's restroom; as it should be. I had a similar situation happen to be, although it wasn't as traumatic. This was when I was still boy-modeing; but I got stopped from going into a men's restroom by a janitor as she told me I was going into the wrong restroom. I had to explain to her a few times that "I was in the correct restroom" and she responded "no, hun, that's the men's restroom" until I explained it again and it clicked in her head and she apologized. Overall though, it made me really happy and gave me some confidence to start presenting feminine. I'm sorry you had to go through that. These laws can't stand; most cis people aren't even cis normative because our society's views on gender are extremely distorted; all the videos of cis people harassing other cis people in bathrooms for mistaking them as trans is proof of that. Once enough cis on cis in-fighting happens; they'll start crying to get these laws revoked.

​@@MekoseWe can only hope so in the meantime.

@@Mekose I had this exact same experience, I was still wearing boys clothes but I had a C-cup and I had already done lots of laser around that time. I got a weird look from a guy and said I was in the wrong bathroom, I said in a light feminine voice "sorry" and smiled at him, he smiled back and I then I immediately left and held in my pee for about an hour because I didn't want to use any restroom, it genuinely incredibly affirming for me at the time.

Backrooms Arkansas edition

@@rootfish2671😂😂😂😂

It’s fucked up

@notville_ This sure was 42% of a bathroom alright…

@notville_ The pronouns of the psychopaths that made this bathroom after I’m done with them.

right? like some people who are trans will but like not all of them just a bad person in a community of some sorts its never brought up unless its a lgbtq+ thing to

​@notville_you've commented 98 times on this channel. Go touch some grass goddamn

@notville_ what does 42% mean?

@@Chirrie He's trying to reference the suicide rate of transgenders in regards to upset some people. It's not even the right number nor is the number an accurate. Such brave people conservatives are aren't they?

Yeah, they forget that there's trans people who are minors. Unless they think that trans adults (who used to be children/minors themselves, so there's really no logic here) brainwashed the younger generation. I mean, people already think it's a fucking "trend" and don't apply actual sociological patterns of queerness onto any of it (as in, sometimes, a generation will have larger coming out numbers than the previous one. Why? Because that new era has encountered more acceptance than the last). Hell, people/the government literally let gay people (and so inadvertently women and straight people) die from AIDs in the Gen-X era, that's why there aren't so many queers in the generation. And these same people I bet, are now trying to cull and "cure" trans-ness amongst the younger and older generations. Trans activism is important, vitally important, but these politicians don't care if some trans kids kill themselves, or if trans adults get raped and murdered because they're forced to use the "correct bathroom." I feel like we need a different approach at this point.

I wrote the same kinda thing up above before reading your comment. Lol. Kudos.

I thought I was the only one who had bathroom nightmares. There's always something fundamentally wrong and off about the bathroom. There's never any privacy in either bathroom. And somehow you always get wet?! I've been having these dreams for all my life. I'm 41 now and came out as Trans a couple years ago.

@@maskedmallard537 same, but i think that's just my brain's way of telling me not to pee myself in my sleep

@@Desimere There was actually one time when I was fourteen where I was having the bathroom nightmare, woke having to pee, went into what looked like a perfectly reasonable not nightmare bathroom, and peed my bed. Fake wake up dream so real, I thought I was actually on the toilet. It sucked. Especially since I didn't want my mum to know, but I haaaaaate laundry. Can't remember if I told her or not.

I've had nightmares almost identical to this too! I blame it on my high school...often only one stall would have a door and then the toilet would be blocked.

The kind of sad advice is to just use the women's restroom and act like you're supposed to be there (because you are), do your business and leave. At least that's what I do and I haven't had any problems yet. It's one of the benefits of passing because 99% of people don't pay attention to other people in the bathroom unless they stand out a lot, they're all just there to pee and leave. Good luck out there

no u@notville_

@@Mekose This, you said it much nicer than I have. It's called harmony. Maintaining peace.

@notville_*better

Males can't turn into females. You are a biological male, that makes you a man.

I remember seeing a statistic that Trans people are many times more likely to be assaulted in a public restroom than others. And somehow we’re still being pinned as the bad ones

@notville_ - Based

@RachelRichards they’re quoting an incorrect suicide rate of trans individuals to try and upset ppl, not based at all :/

@@neff6185 - That is the point. Don't give them what they want, which is to upset you. Just mock them.

​@@RachelRichardsnotville once claimed to not have pronouns. I'd like to think that notville is in a gender discovery phase, and we should be welcoming towards people like that 😊

​​@notville_you're probably the guy clogging all the toilets with your rancid dumps the same way you're clogging the comments with them

There are a lot of nightclubs/bars that (even if they have "stalls") have no doors. Usually 🏳️‍🌈 ones. This was around way before the massive anti-trans stuff we're dealing with now. *Supposedly* it's to prevent drug use and/or hookups in there. The latter of which is also asinine because *MORE* folks go in a "buddy system" to take turns being a door for the other. Seriously, I've been seeing this in different variations all over the country for over 20 years. *It doesn't make your establishment safer.*

Nightmare bathroom

@@-Heidiiiiii- But it doesn't prevent any of that though. Once again, you're encouraging *more* people to go into the bathroom in pairs (and there were certainly folks getting way more than "privacy" covered when I was in there) as for drugs, if people want to do drugs they're going to do drugs. I've seen tons of people dose misc stuff in the open (under tables, behind their drinks, sleight-of-hand, ect) or they can still do it in the bathroom with the door buddy (probably for trade). I remember seeing a tp dispenser with residue and a stripped pen more than once. So, it's just... if you're running the place, (and *actually* care) then take classes to identify problematic individuals/behavior instead of "Well if no one has privacy they'll behave." Because... that's a bit the opposite. If it's to *party* - folks are going to push the envelope to see how much they can "beat" you. And once again, it's innocent people who just want to pee that end up emotionally and physically uncomfortable.

@@-Heidiiiiii- And into the club? I've seen people do pretty much everything just out in the open in the club. (I'm not going to list for risk of causing triggers for anyone or making it seem like I'm "promoting" illegal behavior). But let me make that anti-terf point -that they refuse to acknowledge- (but with a slight substitution) if someone has their mind set on committing an act, entry in a bathroom is *not* going to change their mind. They're still going to do it. I want to clarify: Consentual acts between adults and people who have substance issues *are not* the same as what the anti-trans propaganda is pushing to fear monger these bills and laws. Taking away privacy makes people less safe. How can you prove/report someone exposing themselves to you was intentional if they had no way to really prevent it?

@@-Heidiiiiii- Sorry for the confusion, when you said "that" I thought you meant drugs. People were having sex openly in those bathrooms though. They weren't fully naked, but it was really obvious. What's your first language? I know bits of several different ones. Maybe I can explain finer points in your native language so it's a little more clear?

You should probably just go to the men's bathroom. Cis Women are just looking for trans people.

Things will get better. Tbh I've always found that just acting like you belong helps. If someone gives you weird looks, give them weird looks back, look confused, look behind you-- gaslighty but it's what they're doing to you. You belong so don't be afraid to act like it. Fake it til you make it

Yikes that sounds like a nightmare to be kind mid enough to not look like you belong in either 🥶 The anxiety I feel second hand form that

Here in Colorado, unisex bathrooms (mostly single-use) are popping up all over the place. Thankfully, we're a blue state, surrounded by red (and people here wonder why so many queer folks are moving here? LOL).

The best design I've seen is open concept, with stalls floor to ceiling. It makes it so that people with disabilities, or that use wheelchairs can get to the bathroom more easily, without having to go into and navigate a cramped space, they also won't have the problem of having to wait for a stall if it is in use, they can just use any stall, instead of only having the one disability stall. Not wanting unisex bathrooms is unironically disabilityphobic. Then it is open concept, on the busiest floor, so people are constantly monitoring when they walk by the bathroom. You can do this pretty easily with almost all current bathrooms, minus plumbing, you just take out the barrier wall between the Men's and women's bathroom, stick a circle sink in the middle, rearrange the stalls, and bam unisex.

@@user-th1pv6ks5o That's a great idea for places that need more toilets, but for smaller spaces, the single-use bathrooms also work (and are required by law to accommodate wheelchairs, so they can't be cramped). Even newly built private homes and apartments require toilets to accommodate wheelchairs now. Neither of the vanity toilets in my home are small or cramped (even the upstairs one, which someone with a wheelchair couldn't easily access).

I've always said stalls should be fully enclosed, like an outhouse or an airplane bathroom. You can fit a toilet, and even a sink into a small space if needed.

@@vivil2533 Not too small. Wheelchair accommodations need to be considered.

There's no way in hell those complains have any merit. That's insane! You are following the law and the fucking _police_ is asking you not to??? How do they excuse that? I'd iussue a complaint in return, both to the workplace that is asking you to break the law thus making it impossible for you to do your bathroom business during work, which cannot be allowed, and the police for misconduct. How is the police going to answer to notedly having asked you to go against the current law?

If you consider that DeSantis & Co. get a little hate boner every time a trans person is humiliated, suddenly these laws make a lot more sense

Little being the operative word there

They 👏 do 👏 not 👏 care. The whole point of laws like this is to make us unable to exist in public.

This has to be a violation of your employee rights

Yeah what's up w that? Me and my father have talked about this before too; just have a BUNCH of stalls! It's not more expensive and you can pee AND shit in them. Smh silly bathrooms

@@hiddenmongoose7314 I'm also confused by this. Like...do some men actually *like* being completely exposed to everyone else while they're peeing? Why not have all stalls?

@@PixieoftheWood part of me thinks it's ease of access or maybe that smidgen of plastic saves construction cost? Idfk.... some urinals like at my old school had dividers, so at least there was that. Still feels like partially wasted space though

@MrBlle9 ive read up on that; apparently the gap between the door and the floor is for ease of cleaning? I feel like opening the door achives the same effect without being able to play musical stalls by army crawling on the floor (popular amongst primary/elementary schoolers) but what do I know lol.

God. I feel this on a spiritual level. I'm a cisgendered male with IBS and I just can't! I have poop on me everywhere I go! Not enough stalls!!!! You sound like an imbeciIe

I agree. More people need to see this channel. So commenting, liking and subscribing.

Cis-women are most likely to be affected…

​@@franjkavalready are and these stupid Republicans are far far too dumb to understand that. Oh wait they probably do understand but they don't actually care. Why in the world would they care if a cis woman it gets attacked for using the correct bathroom. Women are already second-class citizens to them so why would they care at all

“How will they know?” Unhinged cis people can, will and DO barge in on people and forcibly demand/assault people to take down their pants and look at their genitals.

Non passing trans man here! I live in a southern state and unfortunately, the majority will only care if youre mtf or a masculine cis woman. If youre ftm, they won't care if you go in the mens bathrooms or not, because "there's a 'woman' in here hahaha" (of course not everyone is like that, but I haven't seen one person that isn't yet :( )

I'd also add that I'm a trans guy who usually passes, but I dont have an M on my ID because I havent been able to afford the fees. Its a problem for a lot of trans people because so many of us are poor. And like. Now we have to consider the safety of being on the record for changing our markers, lest someone like the AG of texas is actually able to gain access to said list like he wanted to.

​@@stephenholland4441seeking proper medical help would mean transitioning honey

No it wouldn't. Transitioning doesn't actually turn a man into a woman. You can believe you are a woman but why do I have to pretend you are a woman. Men are males, they have a pen-is. Women are female, they have a vag.

Go to the toilet rooms that matches your biological sex then, instead of acting like spoilt brats who don't even know what gender they are, Or GO HOME! This wouldn't be an issue is claptrap like transgenderism didn't exist!

​@@stephenholland4441You have 10 comments on this channel being a dick, 10 COMMENTS. Wouldn't you rather find something to do with your life? Like go to school and learn about social constructs or biology, since you know so much about it?

​@@stephenholland4441it would be much easier if you stayed home swampy 😁

I’ll be honest, men generally tend not to pay attention to others in the bathroom. I know it’s scary, but you’re probably less likely to get someone being an asshole to you for your gender presentation in the men’s toilets.

I naturally have boobs and I naturally have a beard (no hormones, intersex condition). If there's no individual or family bathroom, I put on a mask like I'm still afraid of Covid and head for the women's. I guess I could just wear a very baggie hoodie. I've done before. But women's bathrooms tend to be a bit cleaner.

Honestly as a trans girl who was always fairly androgynous before I began my transition (long hair, low muscle tone, always clean shaven, big set of moobs (or as I now call them a head start)) I think you'll be safe in the men's room. Especially if you have a more masc haircut, keep your head down, and don't talk (who really talks to anyone in the restroom anyways?) most guys will probably just assume that you're short.

@notville_ your life must be incredibly fulfilling.

​@notville_dude you're everywhere in this comment section, please get a life

#Dixiklo

Here in Australia sometimes women desperate to pee will skip the line and use the men's. Never seen a man in the women's but if they explained I'm sure most women would be fine about it.

​@@evan_jThat's the thing, there's a double standard. While it's fine for a women to go into the men's room women will automatically freak out and assume the worst if it's a man doing the same 🙄

@@jujublue4426 Considering that men also pee standing with their genitals "out in the open" I'd generally see women in mens restrooms as actually more intrusive to ones intimacy

a lot of the queer/gay bars & clubs I've been to here in the US don't even bother gender segregating the bathrooms at all. Either it's just one restroom that has multiple fully enclosed stalls (no urinals), or they have 2 separate bathrooms but no posted signs and just let people use whichever one they want. It's really refreshing, honestly.

Ooh what part of Oregon if you don't mind my asking? I ask because I lived in Medford for 25 years. Southern Oregon can be a fucking trip but people are generally hella friendly.

That's what I'm thinking

These bills attack anyone who doesn't perfectly confirm to gender norms. One of my friends is just really androgynous. She's AFAB and cisgender. Poor woman gets harassed now when she tries to go pee. Its so frustrating.

Checking IDs wouldn't even work because you need to go to the bathroom of your assigned gender at birth. Most trans people have their preferred gender on their ID

@@Cruznick06 I was wondering how it would be policed but your comment made me realize it really doesn't need to be, just by being there it incites violence and could get people in jail. Its so fucked up... Its just like before Stonewall.

It will be enforced arbitrarily and most likely against any one who doesn’t fit into strict gender binary/expression. Any cisgender man/woman can easily have their man/womanhood stripped alongside their humanity. Then people can quickly validated reactionary violence against them cause of how general society is towards trans people.

That is your fantasy

As a fellow trans wheelchair user I do get annoyed when I see a presumably abled person using the disabled stall if other stalls are available. Yes invisible disabilities are a thing. I am autistic. But if I see someone that looks like they could use a regular stalk, I get annoyed because there is only one stall I can use. Sometimes the disabled stall isn't big enough to properly fit my power chair. So I end up having to pee with the stall door open.

We shouldn’t have to though.

Just noting (as someone with a mostly “invisible” disability and a trans person): not all places have separate disabled (or disabled/family) single bathrooms. I’d say *most* public places don’t provide that, so… much as I prefer it when possible, it’s not something I ever count on. ☹️

I ONLY feel comfortable using family rooms, I refuse to risk being accosted in the women's room and the mens room is nearly equally uncomfortable to use. And yes it is extremely annoying when I see my able-bodied cis coworkers hogging the only room I feel comfortable using.

I always use the disabled toilets at school, which is great on my campus (there are plenty), but there is a total of ONE disabled toilet on the entire campus of my other school, in the back of the fitness center.

Their solution they aren't saying out loud is "stop being trans, we're going to make it so difficult to be trans in public that you either stop doing it or hopefully never go out in public at all, which is win-win since either way you'll be away from us normals".

@notville_ hello again. Get a life, dude. You have too much time on your hands

​@@finnilyenoughPretty sure they're a bot. Either way, they only want attention, so it's better to just report and ignore.

@NotVille_ what are you doing 😆 you are being so embarrassing and you don't even know it lol

OH, is that why I woke up soaked in sweat this morning?? TIL. Thank you for telling me what my endocrinologist didn't about HRT.

@@WinningSidekick Oh yeah, my best friend & I bonded over it. We both (despite starting as adults) went on blockers for a while before starting E (or T in his case), so we had SERIOUS hot flushes & night sweats for months on end while we we hormoneless. Even if you're taking the (frankly more sensible) route of starting directly on E/T without a prior period on blockers, you're still probably gonna experience some degree of menopausal BS as your body adjusts to having a new dominant sex hormone.

​@@Ash___________ I'm not on blockers, but I did just increase my t doseage, so that's probably why 😅 Seriously, thank you for the comment, I was worried I'd gotten sick or something.

It's almost like you should just live with the cards life dealt you. Can't change nature

@@MC-ep8cu Yes, my natural hormones which gave me bodily pains and monthly bouts of suicidal ideation are surely better than the odd hot flash.

Make sure to report it to RU-vid

@@SarastistheSerpent so.. report it to the organization who put the ad there? i commented because creators have the ability to block certain advertisers from appearing on their channel.

hahahah that visual is so fuckin' funny, made my year. Sorry you had to see that, I'm baffled but impressed.

Wait you were 12 at a bar?

@@fart63 I've only used the women's bathroom once SINCE I was 12, I was an adult that one time. I see how it can sound confusing tho

YES!

@notville_ 1) thank you for supporting this channel by commenting. 2) being nice costs nothing.

​@notville_Yeah, at least 42% of bathrooms being gender neutral would be a good target.

We need guys not to destroy their fucking bathrooms first

In canada, the wheelchair accessible bathrooms are treated as gender neutral. 😂

Men being scared about losing their Urinals or something lol

@@RealQuarlie or dumb women afraid of other men as if all men are born inheritably sexual LMAO

congrats on starting T bro! I also suffer from baby face and huge chest even bound (past tense for that one, thankfully) and i know exactly what you mean by being in that nebulous area of anxiety no matter which restroom you decide to use. i know it's hard to eliminate that anxiety entirely, but i can tell you that, in my experience, most guys aren't paying much attention to the other guys in the restroom. they just want to get in, do their business, and get out. restrooms aren't, like, a social space for men the way they tend to be for women, so you're less likely to be noticed than it feels like you are. but with any luck you won't have to worry about it too much longer. here's hoping you have good genes for facial hair, it did wonders for my baby face problem!

Bro I know your options are limited but pls don’t hold it for that long! It can do real damage to your bladder and intestines!

Females can't turn into males. You can transition, but you will always be a biological female. Men are biological males. Women are biological female. How you feel doesn't dictate who you actually are. You are loved ✝️ I understand it sounds harsh, but it's the truth. Females can not turn into males.

also this story sounds like my everyday bathroom missions lol

(little tw) exactly, its so stupid, trans people are at a higher risk of assault if they use the bathroom assigned with their sex at birth, but conservatives don't seem to care. They care about things that aren't actually happening, to spread their propaganda, and its so horrible.

You need gender neutral bathrooms because you, a cis woman got mistaken for a man a few times? woopti fkn doo?? Get over it

I immediately thought the same thing! I've had sooooo many dreams like that and the bathroom layout was a perfect example! 😹

Thing is, they think they're already doing this as, in their eyes, being Trans IS sexual and exposing children to that is somehow involving them in our """ *kink """ *not a kink. Ffs.

@@hiddenmongoose7314 oh 100% agree with you there. The text does define what an indecent act is, which the burden of proof is on the state for. I'm really just saying, good luck proving is suckers, I'm just here to pee and leave - SECTION 4. Arkansas Code § 5-14-110(a), concerning the conduct that 5 constitutes the offense of sexual indecency with a child, is amended to add 6 an additional subdivision to read as follows: 7 (6)(A) Being eighteen (18) years of age or older, the person, 8 for the purpose of arousing or gratifying a sexual desire of himself or 9 herself or any other person, enters into or remains in a public changing 10 facility that is assigned to persons of the opposite sex while knowing a 11 minor of the opposite sex is present in the public changing facility.

@@skyripper ffs. Yeah because bathrooms are the SEXIEST place to pick up women.

@@hiddenmongoose7314 I guess that's how white republican men do it all the time lmao, so they are basing it on that??

@@skyripper "8 for the purpose of arousing or gratifying a sexual desire of himself or 9 herself " The messed up thing is that they will try to define ^existing as a trans person^ as "gratifying sexual desire" because conservatives don't think trans people exist and it's just a kink.

I'm cisgender and I get anxiety from going into restrooms, I can't imagine how a trans person must feel..

@MrBlle9 creating a video about the bathroom problem trans people face

Human rights are reserved for humans.

@@frishter Go back to elementary school and eat paste

@@frishter Mouth breathing troglodyte

No such thing as trans gender, hormones and surgery doesn't actually turn a man into a woman. A man is a biological male. A woman is a biological female.

I've seen a lot of public events (especially sports) where the women's room has such a line that the women use the men's room. I suppose you could say that was a very female thing to do. But I'd prefer to say that doing whatever you need to to pee is just human.

Baudet and Van Meijeren enter the room: (Obviously, these are harmful people tho, people shouldn't support them, ever)

I hope things get better. Sometimes it seems like the best option is the "least worse" option. Consider your safety always. We're all here backing you up, mate

Even with cis men, the stall without a door thing is horrifying-- who on earth wants to shit in plain view of everybody walking by? Making noise is harrowing enough.

Yeah but the issue the loud minority that will scream r*pist immediately and make another case of a trans women going into the bathroom to do assaults. Which can then be cherrypicked for misinformation

@@group555_ I hate that so mcuh aas a asexualk man with asexual men friends. NOT ALL MEN ARE SEXUAL, BEING SEXUAL ISNT MANLY

In my country, public pools offer shower loincloths to men who are uncomfortable being all naked (but they are still required to wash their privates before entering the pool). It is a front flap and a back flap tied around the waist. You could use one of those and if anyone asks chalk it up to religious beliefs or weird anxiety. Of course it works best if your top surgery scars aren't visible.

@@SIC647 the top is more worrying to me. Luckily every public shower I've been in has shower stalls, and I wouldn't mind scars showing... But I'm pre top surgery and I can change in a stall, but there would be times either my bare breasts or an obvious attempt to cover or hide them would be extremely noticable. But I really like the loincloth idea. I'll have to prepare something like that in case I'm ever in a shared shower room situation. At least until I can achieve bottom surgery. I've never been a modest person, Im just always worried about making other people feel uncomfortable.

​@@stephenholland4441no, we didnt have "no gender at birth" at some point in the womb you have both hence why they assign one at birth. Medical school is hard but worth it my guy

Also, saying you cant call a girl "dude" just shows how fragile your idea of gender is. You can call everone dude, a girl, a guy, an animal, etc...

@@oly_or_smthGender begins at conception. There is no "assigning at birth". 🙄

@@stephenholland4441 interesting. What do you consider "conception"?

@notville_lmfao this is a serious issue you edgy 13yo

@notville_ wow bro you're so edgy for saying who cares omg so cool

Then don't have a "boycut" if it cause you so much stress 🙄

@@saoirse2963 I'm trans. It helps my gender dysphoria.

@@saoirse2963 it only causes them stress because of OTHER people being needlessly stressed. "just change yourself to fit into society! conform and you'll be happy!"

But America has "freedom", unlike here in Europe where we all live in third world communist dictatorships with evil ideas like free healthcare. 😁