Men (Over 40) Choose Women Based on THESE 4 FEELINGS (My Best Advice) 

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Men like who they like! Period. All of the do this and do that does not mean a hill of beans to most men. A man will jump through hoops for the woman that he wants.

1. Needed 2. Appreciated 3. Accepted 4. Boundaries Thank you for that!!

When my husband left us homeless I truly NEEDED a man and didn't have one so I had to man up for myself. I worked 2 jobs, started my own business, raised my daughter and rescued myself. Now, the only men that show up are moochers. I will never NEED a man again!

So... make him "feel needed" but don't ever be "needy." Simple. 🙄

I am independent. I don't need a knight in shining armor to come an save me...but it would be nice to have one who wants to.

Mine are the same with the addition of don’t lie to me and don’t try to f*ck everything that moves behind my back. I don’t date often anymore because I am tired of setting a boundary of “don’t lie to me” which should fall under basic human decency.

Instead of me making him feel needed how about his parents instilling confidence in him to begin with so when he meets a woman who can do for herself he understands that he's there because he's wanted. It's so much better to be wanted than needed.

Women also want to needed and appreciated accepted and share boundaries. And to know that both of you do not cross boundaries with other people like cheating.

Be yourself ,love yourself , respect yourself, appreciate him.

Even when the man gets all these 4 traits they can still leave you...happened to me...!

Friendship + caring+teamwork= A Good relationship...

This only works if they are Mentally healthy And WANT a relationship... I haven't found any!!!! 🤷😩

I love this clear, concise and sound advice! Being independent is a superpower, but so is knowing how to balance that with honesty, vulnerability and positive reinforcement. This advice couldn’t be more solid. You’ve gained a new subbie!

What actually attracts a man on a deep subconscious level and what they want on a conscious level are two very different things. They may say they "want" this or that, but that is not always what they need to actually stay invested.

Appreciation is by far a better feeling to convey than needed.

A man wants to feel needed. A woman wants to feel wanted..

I see women in a complete masculine role with some of my friends that have raised children by themselves for many years. I have at least 4 solid examples of beautiful, kind,educated and fully self sufficient women that have been single for years and either have a very hard time keeping a man or have given up all together. It boggles my mind. I think part of the reason is simply because they keep that constant mindset of I can do this all by myself, I don't need you. So while being independent is great, giving the man a chance to be helpful and needed is probably a great tip.

I loved this information and I really appreciate your approach. I think I can speak for at least a few of us when I say we want to learn how to relate to men better and have successful partnerships. Thank you for educating in a way that is both realistic and respectful.

Thanks for that “EZ” advice. I definitely relate to #1. I am very independent and take pride in it; however, I can tell it can be a block or barrier when in a relationship with a man.

Is it not enough for men?? That we enjoy hanging out with them, cuddle, have fun with, meals etc etc??

Mike, I love Your NAAB acronyms. YOU are an awesome coach. Thank you for sharing your insights!

Full transparency, I thought not being needy, not being an extra burden on a man would cause him to want to stay...never thought it was driving him away.😔

This does always work not everyone fits in this box sometimes they want to leave you but don't have the balls to do it good luck everyone !

I like your calm, quiet, gentle way of explaining things. I can listen easier and better with this approach. And the visuals are great too.

The reason I was successful and respected in my male dominated field is because I didn’t dip my pen in company ink, but more so because I loved and respected my husband so much. Told him every day I wouldn’t be successful at work with out him he got my everyday started right, made sure I looked good, looked professional (He took care of all of my business clothes because I am terrible at ironing and ruined a ton of tops over starching them).

Women have perfected the art of men since the beginning of time so don’t overthink this. No Acronyms are required. 🤷🏽‍♀️

There's a quote from a movie that really resonates with me. She was asked why she hadn't married yet and she said she was waiting.... "I'm looking for a man I can rely on. A man I can truly depend on". And I think of that often. I wait for men to open doors. And then they do. I walk in and let them walk first. They lead into the bar and I walk behind watching over the entire room. If I don't know what I want I let him choose the kind of beer I like. He asks where we should sit and I point to an area to where friends are or we can sit in quiet. It works every time. Every man I've done this with just melts for me. He tells me his hopes and dreams and I encourage the best of him. I draw examples from my own experiences and make relevant to him. I control the conversation through listening and when things get boring I make a comment on external factors. A joke or observation. It always works. I am a counselor so I enjoy the psychoanalysis!

That’s so true about feeling needed. I’ve always been independent and didn’t understand that. But after I hurt my back pretty seriously, my man dove right in to help me and we got closer. 👍🏻

A good man once told me, "You've got to let people do things for you!" I hadn't realized I was taking the reins, cuz I've just always felt like nobody wanted to take care of my needs. I hope More men these days realize that women DO want a provider and to be treated like a lady. Thanks for your reply EZ Dating Coach. For some reason I couldn't reply to your reply.

Yes...i love what you're saying here🧡men seem to dislike a masculine woman. They say some women are too bold in doing a mans role and not soft and feminine and not allowing a man to help them, feel wanted, needed and acknowledged or respected. This is what my guy notices about their friends girlfriends. My guy says he's thankful that I'm lovable and easy going and supportive to his help

This video is absolutely right, it made me remember a lot of situations from my past relationship when we had fights because she didn't let me lead, she didn't let me do things for her because she "didn't want to bother me" or she is very independent... most of those things destroyed our relationship. Thank you!

Ladies what do we care about what they want... What has happened to the world men should be caring about what women want they are to be caring about what it takes to keep us satisfied we have flipped the situation and turned it around and been consumed with what it is or how to get a man ... Do we really need a man that bad maybe it's just me but I'm just really getting sick and tired of what a woman has to do to get a man All we got to do women is be ourselves and the correct man God will send to you you will run into and you will meet and be the love of his life what we have to do is stop throwing ourselves at men who are not interested in us when you see those red flags walk away .. I feel too much power and authority is given to this and this is not the way it's meant to be.. women if we start taking our power back and we stop giving it to these men and what it is that they want from us start valueing ourselves and make them put a ring on it they're going to give us what we need and we're going to be able to connect ourselves with the correct man that's what the problem is so we got to wait we got to learn how to be happy and satisfied with ourselves & not getting a man ... If you're a believer with the Lord.. if you not a believer find something to put your attention to some type of hobby and wait until you find the right man keep your legs closed stop giving these men so much power and authority over our lives we are supposed to be their helpmates not sitting around trying to figure out what we can do to get ourselves to be attractive to them.. I don't find no problem in being pretty in and putting on makeup and stuff like that ..but I think it's going a little bit too far now we got to sit down and figure out what it takes to get a man thing over 40 to be attracted to us no he (the man)ought to be coming after us they ought to be sitting around trying to figure out how to get a woman ... It's just me... This world is losing it people wake up.. self control is what's missing.. the internet is helping this thing that's separating men and women from each other and breaking down the family... That's what's really wrong... Ladies get back to basics keep them legs closed and make a man value you and if not you wait till you meet the right one and if you don't live your life enjoy and peace ✌️

Naab Needed Appreciated Acceptance Boundaries

Me " honey would you please grab me a glass of water?" Him " something wrong with your legs?" 🤣

I just love how u explain it so simple and understanding thank u for a so well needed advice

I find this to be very accurate in my experiences.

Great stuff, Mike. I love the words you use to explain this being different words than a woman-life-coach might use. So you helping me to understand relationships from and man's perspective has been spectacular.

This is so true, makes so much sense keep up the great work 🙏..hello from Australia 🇦🇺

When we do everything alone and really want a man. How do we get a man to feel needed? I have been binge watching Adrienne Helena and others... I really get lost in the “do not do it for control” uggg”men can sense your intentions? This is sooo hard! AND now I know why I have scared every man away for the last 40 years. Or have attracted nightmares.

Very well said! Thank you 💚

A hard habit to break is independence. No wonder I’m single.

All four of these tips apply to women too. It’s just basic human considerations. My guideline is: What you guessed out, you get back. Basically, the Golden Rule. When I live this way, relationships become fluid. However, if a relationship doesn’t work out or wasn’t meant to be, I wish them well and move on.

Good info for sure! Challenging for me to give up personal strength. I’ll work on it... TY!

I enjoy your videos so much.The way you talk and explain.And then the sweetest question- does that make sense?

Communication is a key in relationship

noted. good thoughts to ponder.

Thank you for your advice ❤

Thanks for great content, I'll be back for more!

I love to see us women standing up for ourselves in this comment section 👏🏾

Thanks a lot.I have learned from your advice.God bless u

I needed this video!!

Im glad i found this video because for some reason past couple years more and more men over 40 been approching me IN A TONS & and im still in my 30s

Pleaseeeeeeeee, it would be nice if this would be actually true! They do it when they have hots for you and then they shut you out like we are nothing.

We need Love...and this... being two, gives us security..but, Th journey is all about succeeding as 1...then, meet someone who also wants to share their best days

You have a super way of congenially helping us girls!

Alright now👍🏽👍🏽 I'm new to your Channel and liking your videos from beginning to end, Great!

Compatibility that's all you need in a relationship

Honey, can you get me a glass of water? ? Honey? CAN’T YOU SEE I’M WATCHING THE GAME??? lol 😆

Some men I have met had given me the impression and have spoken, "If you need help with anythng let me know, " and when I have let them know...crickets. I dated a guy who automatically knew he was needed, I never had to ask him for anything, he saw a need and provided. I appreciated everything he did for me, mindful that he too had needs, and I reciprocated. We were both givers/providers for each other. The point is that men are the providers if he is saying "I will provide for you," the words have to become action.

Thanks for the nice, informative video!

My father told me it's better to be with a man because I want to be with him, not because I need to be with him. If a man's that insecure, then Idk...

He didn't want to be appreciated he wanted just nothing but control not all men are that good

Thanks, nice video 😍❣

True about climbing the ladder of success!

I love how society grooms us to do it all and not groom men to step up and lead with love not with their EGO.... imagine where I didn’t have to ask for a cup of anything and he was so intuitive to my needs he just stepped up and did it! Then he made his presence NEEDED! 😳

I hate being forced in my masculine in a relationship. I didn't realize until I started exploring my femininity. I feel very content being a sexy woman who needs a man she can lien on. I want to know he's got my back. I'm super independent and like my freedom, but I also like feeling protected, honored and respected. I thinkbthis is great advice!

Thanks you got straight to the point I like that .

I have been watching high caliber women videos that insist men pay the tab. It’s affirming that you 2nd that. Your boundaries formula is fantastic. I haven’t heard it presented that way. Good stuff.

Hard to make a man feel needed who doesn’t want the responsibility of a relationship! Most single men I meet admit they are selfish.

Mike everyone needs to feel needed. I am successful but I love a guy To be there I think it is that we worked hard to do both roles because the man let us down. you loose sight and I really need to learn how to acknowledge the small things and proactively make the efforts to convey appreciation.

Thank you I’ll do this for sure!

I love how you said " warts and all " haha so true though!

This is why I prefer to go to a man's place instead of inviting him at mine.. He feels needed and, an big one, I can be spoiled... When I invite à man at my place I serve drinks, make food... Cause I am at my place. I prefer it the other way around. It also give me the chance to receive and thank him 😊 I love it when men do things for me, like planning a date, arrange a hike, cook dinner or just pour me a glas of wine. So I always suggest thinks, he processes and I praise him for executing my idea (this sounds bad writing it 🤣) One thing though I notice, some man did that in the past, were not really praised and so become little lazy... I really have to put much effort and praising to get them back on their active masculine... Yet I am getting there. Men round me are starting to step up how I like it. Thank you for your video's Mike, love them 💕

Well that makes sense why I can't keep a guy 🤣 I'm always showing my strong points

Thank YOU!

This advise is exactly 💯 correct, thank 🙏 so much

Hello from South Carolina ~luv listening to ur great advice...

I already raised a child. Back than it was a problem that I had a baggage, now that I'm too accomplished.

Very good explanations thanks a lot.

Thanks for this video tips.

I can be considered an alpha female with lots of masculine energy, but I've learned thru lots of self help relationship talks n vids how to lean into my feminine power..now I dont equate that as being a yes woman or a doormat completely submissive. You have to pick your battles and I was so independent I didn't know how to receive love, I saw a lot of red flags with a rebound fling, I look back n see I was doing too much, fell into a mother role and there began the resentment... I've found the man of my dreams this year, and I let him spoil me, he opens doors, helps me with my coat, buys me flowers because during our talking phase I made him aware of my expectations and funny thing now looking back,, he not only listened but asked follow up questions as to what color flowers n even plants I liked, he wrote them down on index cards, i gave him that road map/power because he craves the responsibility, he want to rise to the occasion, he wants to make me happy, seeing me smile n laugh gives him a sense of accomplishment that even the best sex can't replicate.. Mike is right on with NAAB. You don't need to cater to your man in an artificial manner. They will see thru it, trust me..put in the work to be able to turn that masculine switch on and off..sometimes u need it at work, or when your children are being mistreated. You won't lose yourself, you'll become a better woman n men 40+ find that to be attractive as all hell. Great job Mike. You helped me find my twin flame. Love from NYC/NJ metro area

I'd done those things and my partners were crazy about me, but the problem is they weren't the man that I expected to be. And now I've been single for a year and don't have interest to start a relationship with any guy, I feel it's so hard to get the type of man that I want in life

Nice program

Thankful for this

#1. Make him feel NEEDED #2. Make him feel APPRECIATED #3. Make him feel ACCEPTED for who he is #4. A man needs BOUNDARIES

Men over 40 normally pick based on honesty and integrity. No matter what any one thinks looks also have a large part in it but not what the ignorant ones think. Eyes smile are the most important. Games are a big turn off unless you are a male who never grew up.

Needed; Appreciated - "It would be do great if ... "; Acceptance; Boundries - softly presented road map

Awesome Message 👌

Telling people how you want things done in my experience gets me to be called bossy, selfish, unbending, principled (which I like), obsessive, weird, odd and old fashion.

I bolt when i discover a man is too needy,... huge turn off for me.

I do these things with my fiancé! He loves him some me & I love me some him!!!

Great tips and coaching

Thank you Mike,great advice. So good to hear from a man's perspective how to understand a man....as I've once heard....Men are actually Easy,we women complicate things....lol.

I am 39 and he is 49, I accepted him, I needed him, I wanted include him but he decided to be everything opposite of what he showed me he is the first year of our relationship. Than he started to show control, which made me physically sick to this day ( 4 years together of me being stupid and not leaving after I saw a glimpse of bad behavior)

I love your music! Great video!

I love this advice🙌

Why is it when you do need them they back off? Especially when they said oh you can call me something along that line, I do which I normally don't and he doesn't come though..

So basicly we just set a simple task like getting us a drink .. boost his ego with a false compliment then accept all his faults and he will stay ...jee thanks 🤣

Wonderful advice, thank you so much!