My Affair Killed My Marriage (What Do I Do?)

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My Affair Killed My Marriage (What Do I Do?)
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@citrustaco Год назад

She totally slept with that co-worker. You can tell it in her tone of voice. I understand not wanting to reveal juicy details on the internet, but if you feel that way, don't call in. I'm sure she lied the entire time during counseling.

@CRobinsonpk Год назад

Yep came here to say that. John may or may not be realizing he is dealing with an emotionally intelligent narcissist here.

@earthring Год назад

💯. She is lying through her teeth. She is a disgusting person

@Thesussysuscat Год назад

I kind of thought that too , by how her voice changed when she said noooo

@cabayern9416 Год назад

@@CRobinsonpk absolutely. John is so naive in some situations. She played him like a fiddle. She is a narcissist.

@texan903 Год назад

Not only did she sleep with him, but she has probably carried on for the entire marriage. Only this time, she got caught.

@mirabella2154 Год назад

"I'm a good person and I have morals." Yeah, nah. Get real and take responsibility for the mess you created.

@nataliek5134 Год назад

As soon as I hear someone claim "I'm a good person" i automatically assume the opposite. If you're really a "good person" that's something OTHER people say about you, not something you tell people about yourself lol

@cabayern9416 Год назад

She is NOT a good person. John was snowed.

@John-du2mq Год назад

"How do I live life again even though I don't want to take accountability?" There I fixed it

@pa5203 11 месяцев назад

Best answer ever!

@bradycoop Год назад

This lady is 1000% lying. And trying to blame it on her husband as he is “sexually” abusing her is crazy.

@Zumcho Год назад

I know! She sounds like she's BSing and trying to get sympathy.

@queenbutterfly4888 Год назад

she sounds like a psycho

@kimberlyharris2774 Год назад

Yeah she deffffffffffff slept with him. That no was the most yes no I've ever heard

@Zumcho Год назад

@@kimberlyharris2774 I know! That delay. Least convincing no I've ever heard

@jp.twitchbroadcast8805 Год назад

@@Zumcho😂😂bingo

@joamigg Год назад

Bro what am I listening to? He found a way to blame the man who got cheated on and called that man a manipulative person and an abuser while uplifting the actual person who cheated and withheld sex in the marriage which is alwo a form of abuse. I've been calling John out in the comments for the last couple weeks on how he attacks and name calls men but never does the same to women and uplifts them even when they are wrong. He holds men accountable and let women off the hook time and time again. I don't mind either tatic, but be consistent with both genders. This is becoming unwatchable. My guess is he doesn't actually believe what he says. He just needs to cater to the gender that gives him the most views.

@Dansyoung Год назад

My only conclusion with this - is she couldn’t handle hearing the truth. This is a quick online therapy session. It seems like she has NPD, but your spot on accountability is vital.

@Alexander44665 Год назад

Yes! Finally someone is saying what I am also thinking!

@SooHangry Год назад

He is super biased towards women. How many times has a woman called in saying that their husband's had an affair and he said they never had sex and John always says he bets 1000% that they're lying, and here she does the same thing and he just takes her word for it

@joamigg Год назад

Thank you guys! I was thinking man maybe I’m being a hater but honestly i want to like this guy. He’s smart and gives some great advice sometimes. But man the bias he has is getting worse the more I watch and it’s very frustrating because he loses credibility. But I’m glad I’m not the only one who noticed!

@JourneyDestination Год назад

This John guy does that a lot. He doesn’t get full stories goes off assumptions, which would be acceptable if he didn’t offer such confident and concrete advice, which is anything but that in reality.

@ignitionSoldier Год назад

I don't believe this woman at all. I think she is not saying everything that happened and/or framing it to make herself look better.

@Rainer125 4 месяца назад

Yeah and 99% of people in the comments can immediately feel and sense this. I don’t know if Dr. John is high up on the autism spectrum or is scared to lose his RU-vid revenue if his content isn’t 100% bluepilled and always agreeing with the woman. Maybe he has to behave like this or otherwise get flagged as a red pill channel and loose all his income.

@babyloobibovski2947 Год назад

This woman is fishing for someone to tell her she’s a victim and that she’s right. Hence the whiney voice. It’s a backhanded way to feel like shes right and the husband is wrong. Imagine being the husband who works his butt off to provide for his family, and who is loyal and whatnot, only to be constantly rejected and lied to. I might want to kill myself too, being in that trap.

@fmcargar9770 Год назад

She started with a long winded reason and story of why she cheated. Plus she kept stating her beloved husband issues were mainly from all the other stuff not the affair. Betrayal always has consequences and now she is shocked she has to live with the consequences of her very own active doing.

@anneshirley9560 Год назад

Yeah, when you're married you agree ( unless talked about before mariage) yo have consensual sex and show each other love. She purposely withheld love for years until her poor husband nearly lost his mind, but then somehow , was able to find someone else. I feel bad for him. Now she's accusing him of graping her.

@LSSYLondon 3 месяца назад

@@anneshirley9560 Sounds like he has been assaulting her for years and manipulating her for years. That's what drove her away.

@BP-xe7dw Год назад

She emotionally wrangled the approval and took no responsibility for the damage. As there are two sides to every story, her story does not check out. It all started with an argument, can't remember the argument. Missing something in her relationship, seeks connection with another outside of the marriage. Thinks she has a much better marriage than most, withdraws intimacy from her husband. Wants to be a good person to others, not so much to her husband. She obviously does not love this guy.

@MrJimmy3459 Год назад

She's all over the place, how on earth can you think you have a better marriage than others when you don't even have sex with your husband......

@CaToRi- Год назад

@@MrJimmy3459 because many people see “marriage” as a bunch of kids and a mortgage.

@JourneyDestination Год назад

She slept with the guy. She’s not being honest!

@texan903 Год назад

Her husband probably found out that she has carried on for the entirety of the relationship. That is the origin of the conversation she seemingly can't recount. She wants to keep him out of financial security.

@queenbutterfly4888 Год назад

exactly! I picked up on that...she paused when the doctor asked her..she definitely slept with the guy@@JourneyDestination

@gabrielamartiniuc6322 Год назад

She didn’t sleep with him? I don’t believe her. She herself referred to herself as a cheater!! And she didn’t have sex with her own husband? Or want to? It’s not a medical issue, she isn’t attracted to her own husband . But she will have sex with another guy? I don’t believe her that she didn’t have sex with that guy for a second.

@DjBReady7 Год назад

100%

@rosedewittbukater5763 6 месяцев назад

the way she said "no" was also not believable

@gabrielamartiniuc6322 6 месяцев назад

@@rosedewittbukater5763 right

@imdannymartins 2 месяца назад

exactly 💯

@gregorycarlson6632 15 дней назад

Absolutely spot on!👍

@DrewsThoughts Год назад

As soon as she started off the conversation making excuses of why she cheated I knew that she was 100% in the wrong.

@andrew8168 Год назад

Then she cries about giving her HUSBAND physical intimacy. This woman is a living nightmare.

@ctb3343 Год назад

Yep! The way she denied sleeping with the guy was real sketch too. Blocking emotional/physical connection with your significant other for an extended period of time is also abusive

@kungfujoe2136 Год назад

i didnt hear about her going to therapy or seeing a doctor for her lack of libido

@levythao19 11 месяцев назад

100% agree.

@verb0ze 9 месяцев назад

Did you guys listen to the whole thing? Sure, she could be lying, as could be any caller on this show, but dang, I'm worried about her. I've known people like this in real life, who blamed themselves for what was clearly abuse, so I don't think it's a stretch

@Girlgonewise Год назад

There’s a lot this woman not saying. I believe she slept with her coworker or she’s sleeping with that co-worker now that they are separated.

@Melissa.712 Год назад

She belongs to the...

@Girlgonewise Год назад

@@Melissa.712 Earth lol.

@xsgtxbigboy1655 4 месяца назад

@@Girlgonewisehell

@David-wo9un Год назад

It honestly sounds like she is describing it where he is the villain and abusing her; she is the one who had the affair and wants no accountability for her choices/actions.

@johnsmith-kt7ef Год назад

What’s that saying about cheaters and accountability… lol

@alluringbliss4165 Год назад

@@dabd8175you again

@citrustaco Год назад

All affairs get blamed on men at some point.

@juliusmoore2176 7 месяцев назад

Accountability is kryptonite to women like this.🙄

@alistairhunter5724 27 дней назад

He was the villain . Blackmail onto sex is not ok .they should have separated them

@azure8696 Год назад

She literally couldn't answer a single straight question and I find it hard to believe that she didn't have some sort of a sexual encounter with this person. She specifically defined herself as a "cheater", but yet nothing happened? There's more to this than just a crush or a little flirting, a definitive line was clearly crossed somewhere (that's why it's weighing on her so hard) and I also suspect her husband doesn't know the full truth either and is actually the one who's being emotionally abused.

@gabrielamartiniuc6322 Год назад

Exactly!!! She referred to herself as a cheater !!! That’s why she is struggling with getting her identity back. You don’t feel that way over an emotional affair. This woman is shady! She is shifting blame on him . I’m disgusted with her. She has no affection for her own husband? She has issues . I’m annoyed with John for the fact that he’s coddling her instead of calling her out. This woman is a horrible wife.

@boxesbinslidsllc Год назад

Emotional relationships with people other than your spouse is cheating. Affairs began emotionally and graduate to sexual. I don't believe they didn't sleep together.

@matthewalexander1943 Год назад

@@gabrielamartiniuc6322 I am glad there are women like you in the world, Gabriela.

@josiehensley5705 Год назад

I’m so glad I’m not alone. I think she’s leaving a lot out to make herself look better. I don’t blame him for wanting to leave after she has no affection for him

@willylumpnj 11 месяцев назад

@@gabrielamartiniuc6322 100 % agree with you on all issues. Horrible wife.

@sw6155 Год назад

Sounds like she’s been emotionally abusive to him for years… Sounds like a self-centered woman who’s oblivious to this fact coming to realization that she’s messed up things bad but can’t handle the thought of it. So she’s desperately looking for outside validation to a perceived/concocted victim story she needs to feel good about herself and move on wrecking this marriage and the child’s life…

@IMBIue Год назад

She MOST DEFINITELY didn't tell the whole story. I'm sorry, John can be all trusting and caring as he wants, but my BS alarm keeps ringing with this woman. She is either telling half truths or half lies.

@Mai-lh3xc Год назад

Right? It’s seems manipulative…

@toprekoms4442 Год назад

Ya she wants to okay victim Crocodile tears

@PepeCoinMania Год назад

she's very good pretending to be a victim

@djpuplex Год назад

Lying through omission. It's a woman's way.

@Dansyoung Год назад

After living this exact experience (as a man), she has NPD. She can justify anything, takes no accountability and the husband will suffer to no end if he doesn’t just move on. She should let him go. The best thing I ever did was walk away, turned my energy towards myself and my kids.

@disturbomentale3089 Год назад

"I have morals, I have values...." Sure these morals and values disappeared when she cheated on him ☹️

@zachwallace8274 Год назад

John missed it on this one. He got manipulated in real time. She basically tortured the guy with a sexless marriage, cheated on him, and now she's claiming he forced himself on her. Insane. He should head for the door and never look back.

@Zumcho Год назад

I think he knew it. But he's not gonna be harsh on her, especially after she dropped the other storyline.

@nyteowl8069 Год назад

@@Zumcho This!

@nt3833 Год назад

@@Zumchoyeah but John went to far as to call her husband abusive.

@MaleahsDiary Год назад

We don't know the whole story.

@cassietheboss9211 Год назад

Yessss this lady is a wack job!

@Ghidorah00 Год назад

Men get tough love, and women get validated on this show. I love some of his takes, but I cannot listen to him give counseling to women. It quickly turns into the John Baloney show.

@matthewalexander1943 Год назад

I think this will be the last time I listen.

@Ghidorah00 Год назад

@@matthewalexander1943 I don’t blame ya man. I am not pro man or woman, individuals are individuals. It’s just John’s bias that gets tough to listen to

@DjBReady7 Год назад

Always, 100%

@DjBReady7 Год назад

Thinking the same honestly@@matthewalexander1943

@gregorycarlson6632 15 дней назад

Clever show title!😆🤣😂😆

@mattbackus Год назад

Way to hold her accountable….horrible call.

@FrankS111 Год назад

Husband: “I feel unwanted and unloved” Wife: *proceeds to have affair with coworker* “he coerced me to have sex with him” John: “he abused you” Really…..REALLY?! Men….if your wives call into his show your marriage is done.

@PepeCoinMania Год назад

coerced on have sex these days are incredibly unlikely women will ask for a lawyers help no time and make big money in a lawsuits lol

@flashthecorgi2053 Год назад

One thing I want to mention and this isn’t excusing her cheating- that’s wrong period. The timeline isn’t matching up she said the affair happened about a year and a half ago and she stated her husband has been doing this sexual coercion manipulative tactics for 2 years now- that’s a 6 month gap! (3:00 and 13:07)

@Monalisa0622 Год назад

That was my thoughts. The poor man is being transparent with his wife of feeling unloved and unworthy and she has an emotional affair. I bet that solidified his emotions l.

@jordanott5464 Год назад

Wow. This woman thought it was torture to have sex with her husband and she was abused because she agreed to stay and live with the terms he set out for him to stay. How embarrassing for dr John on this one. This was not 'give me anal or I'm offing myself' it was 'Im not living in a sexless marriage' and you played right into her hands.

@jeromehenry4484 Год назад

@@flashthecorgi2053 Excellent catch!

@boxesbinslidsllc Год назад

Not for abuse, but she's manipulative as well. She wants the marriage but won't meet her husband's physical needs. They should've stayed single. Her call is all over the place.

@johniii8147 Год назад

Don't bother with Omaha Steaks. Mediocre at best.

@David-wo9un Год назад

Overpriced for sure.

@SaystheTruth3 Год назад

Overrated for sure!

@karr1990 Год назад

so you starved your husband of physical affection for years, and are wondering why your marriage is over? I bet you expected him to be loyal though huh. I understand what it is to struggle in that dept. as I struggle with hormonal imbalance. I also am aware how important physical intimacy is for my husband to connect with me and to function at full capacity in life. Your problems started way before the affair. Let him go please.

@AG-rc2np Год назад

She isn’t sleeping with the co-worker OR her husband? Yeah, I don’t buy that.

@johnsmith-kt7ef Год назад

Did you sleep with this guy “nooo”. Lol we all know that’s not true. Also how many times do we have to hear “I’m a good person I have morals” from a cheater. Look we are all fallible. I remember this vividly from when I was a senior in high school (I am now 36), when i did something dumb and got in trouble with my parents. I used to always say “I don’t know” when my parents asked why I did something that was wrong. This time I said “I did it bc I wanted to…” My dad was proud I finally took accountability but I still got punished lol. Now I have made other mistakes in my life since, but tried to own up to accountability each time I made those choices in life. She doesn’t sound like she wants to take accountability.

@hellaSwankkyToo Год назад

WTF is we? the person said no + i have no reason to believe that's not true. speak for yourself. "we all know why you believe she's lying."

@xsgtxbigboy1655 4 месяца назад

@@hellaSwankkyTooyour just dumb if you believe the hoe

@kdawson8981 Год назад

This woman is crying bc she had to have sex with her husband and she’s having an emotional affair…. I would run from her so fast and I would encourage her husband to do the same. She needs help.

@nt3833 Год назад

Yes, I was caught off guard that John basically said the husband raped her. I didn’t interpret it that way.

@labmitch Месяц назад

@@nt3833 That is why when a woman told him my husband is in jail for Sexually assaulted her based on her wording and how do I tell my kids. Tell them that mom wanted DAD to respect me when he found out all kinds of guys disrespect her and she treats them like HUMANS. JOHN is a typical WORLDLY PSYCHOLOGIEST who is looking at men as being all wrong and women being all correct.

@debbiebasche5337 Год назад

🐂💩... she totally got it on with the co-worker...I know 10 yr olds that are more convincing liars...

@CRobinsonpk Год назад

She says “I’m a cheater” to overshoot the perception; so that when she claims she did not have sex , people assume she’s being too hard on herself. I’ve interviewed people during police investigations and it’s my opinion that she sounded deceptive Anna manipulative. Dude needs to run.

@Thesussysuscat Год назад

Good point, I actually had a thought in amy head like oh that's all she did

@babyloobibovski2947 Год назад

Well said

@nt3833 Год назад

Wow that’s deep. Makes sense 👏🏼

@lebumjames1373 Год назад

Yeah (relatively) emotionally intelligent manipulators use these this a lot. I’m disappointed John failed to recognize or confront her with her very clear deceptive tendencies.

@mozerm Год назад

Sounds like she successfully manipulated Dr. John into making her the victim. She's a good manipulator.

@triplecheesemac Год назад

BINGO! I love the comment section because it seems like everyone clearly saw through her bullshit. I think she is planning to use this call to get sympathy from all her friends and family for her cheating and her actions to end the marriage. She is using call for manipulation tactic. Also she rewarded her husband for the bad behavior. She gave him intimacy only when he said he was going to zero himself. Of course he is going to keep doing that. I don't THINK that is abuse at all, it is her rewarding his bad behavior. She doesn't want to take accountability at all.

@mozerm Год назад

@@triplecheesemac I think the suicide threat for intimacy is also a manipulation tactic but what was ignored in the call is that it was apparent she withheld affection from her husband for years and his breaking point was an aha moment where he learned that a threat of self harm at least got him some crumbs of attention.

@triplecheesemac Год назад

@@mozerm Agreed but IF you have to get to that breaking point your partner sucks. She no longer cared for HIS needs at all. It seems like she didn't care he needed physical intimacy. As a failthful married man, his only option for physical intimacy was her, and she didn't care. She didn't do anything to make that situation better. She said that was going on for 2 years? That is nuts. I hope the husband find someone that makes him happy because he isn't losing anything he wasn't hardly getting anything anyways. She sucks.

@elfascisto6549 3 месяца назад

@@mozerm that comment makes it sound like the husband is a victim. He isn't if he threatened self harm to get laid

@Chalk89 Год назад

A woman openly admits to not being faithful, not being intimate with her husband and causing the man a breakdown because he felt like he was in a loveless marriage and Dr. John's response was pure asinine. Dr. John - "You're going to do this sex act with me or I'm going to kill myself." ^ She didn't say that's what he said though but John being John, he had to find a way to make the man out to be Public Enemy #1.

@snOags Год назад

Big time!

@snOags Год назад

There's has to be more context to that that she omitted. Besides it's been probably years she has emotionally and physically bailed from the marriage And of course John coddles her

@jessm2560 Год назад

Have you forced yourself to have sex?

@JustBree716 11 месяцев назад

He usually sides with the caller. Drives me nuts. What a way to be objective Dr John. No care or consideration for the other person at all

@SaystheTruth3 11 месяцев назад

@@JustBree716agree! He just doesn't want the caller mad or hanging up on him....makes him look like the "good helping guy"....

@norse_cat Год назад

This poor husband. It sounds like he reached a breaking point to threaten that. He didn’t know he was getting into a sexless relationship.

@kwadwog8168 7 месяцев назад

Sexless only would have been okay as many men are in sexless marriages. The issue is that this woman is blaming him and still accusing him while being a serial cheater.

@imdannymartins 2 месяца назад

exactly 💯 💯 💯

@chasecousins8278 Год назад

Idk if John looks at these comments but dang did he get played by this woman. It has nothing to do with a particular sex act that made her uncomfortable. It was sex in general. Him threatening to delete himself is def not good and inexcusable, but why didn’t John have any sympathy on what maybe have gotten him to that point. I obviously don’t know the entire situation but that was ONE case of emotional abuse. So that’s something to look into if it’s not a normal characteristic of him to have.

@imnewhere9 Год назад

She definitely slept with the coworker, but she ruined the marriage way before that by not loving him. Also, she basically said he raped her again and again. Wtf.

@benjaminhough8804 Год назад

“Unalive yourself?” Come on, say what you mean, not these silly made up words. Stop trying to complicate language.

@David-wo9un Год назад

@@benjaminhough8804”unalive” isn’t complicated language; anyone beyond the fifth grade easily understands the word.

@johnmininger7472 Год назад

Could not help but notice the hesitation when asked if they had sex ... followed by the unconvincing one word answer. I think most people who had an emotional affair but did not take it to that level would want to be VERY clear on that point.

@queenbutterfly4888 Год назад

I noticed the same thing and John let her get away with it

@augustusplays7896 Год назад

Because she spent 20 mins saying she dosent like sex lol it make her look like a thirsty if she jumped on another cock

@nt3833 Год назад

Yes, and if they hadn’t taken it that far they probably wouldn’t refer to themself as a “cheater” to start off the call. I agree with someone else in the comments that she is manipulative.

@rudolphferdinand3634 Год назад

A hesitation to answer a question that is under 3 seconds, a typical way that she talks; her mannerisms. I once asked a question to church Pastor, a biblical question; it took him longer than five seconds to answer the question. The answer should be under three seconds. I would do the same for prison inmates, I would ask them a question but depending on how long it takes to answer the question; quite revealing the answer. 12 years dealing with inmates, felon prison…the facility treatment for sexual offenders. It can not determine whether she lying or not.

@gregorycarlson6632 9 месяцев назад

Absolutely right!👍

@stephaniegonzales761 Год назад

As a woman sex is extremely important for me. I feel connected, happy, loved. I cant go without it for more than 2 weeks! This poor man didnt have that for 2 years! Nope! Its time to go. Hopefully she doesnt find another man to torture

@ivywildwss Год назад

Exactly he should've just divorced her if the sex was important for him. Forcing yourself on someone is never the answer.

@anthonydelgiudice3245 8 месяцев назад

we would be the perfect match lol

@xsgtxbigboy1655 4 месяца назад

@@ivywildwssdon’t be dumb she made that up to where she switched the blame on him for her cheating don’t be dumb like Jon

@PinkHydrangea 4 месяца назад

The physical part of a relationship is extremely important to me. That’s part of why I divorced my husband. Sad that so many of us go through this.

@ggrace1133 3 месяца назад

We all have different libidos. My husband would be very upset if I said I I can’t go more than two weeks(!!) without sex. He can’t go past 2 days without becoming irritable and sulky. My libido died completely after the third baby. So for years…decades…I’ve done it, having zero desire, to try to meet his needs. My need for emotional intimacy, though is considered “a bunch of crap.” Bet this woman wasn’t getting her needs met and found them in the guy at work. She’s so starved for emotional intimacy. Yet we all come on here and crucify her. So many men think sex IS the only connection that matters in marriage. God help those who have low, or no, libido. They are incredibly lonely. And sex without arousal and desire is pretty awful, by the way. There’s no Viagra for us-no treatment that works very well, if at all. Believe me, I’ve been to every specialist and even quacks trying to get help. God help us all to be less judgmental and more willing to learn, and to try giving more grace and compassion to all.

@pseudovictim Год назад

John, unfortunately, you have given into your bias of traditionalism. The woman doesn't have scruples. Be fair, be equal! This is the problem with the Ramsey crowd, women are not the same as they were in the older generations. There are dual standards for men and women.

@norse_cat Год назад

Wow, she’s low… what a heartless person. She sounds like my old female boss who cheated on her husband with a coworker.

@AryaZult Год назад

sum up this call: john is a simp

@WillIam79-c7f Год назад

She did the crush. No doubt.

@probablyworking3905 Год назад

Without a doubt. I totally caught the weird tone and inflection when she said “no” after a looong pause. She’s probably justified it somehow to be able to say that.

@DrErnieGibson 6 месяцев назад

@@probablyworking3905 Her intermittent pauses signals that she is very carefully choosing her words because she is hiding something. Did she get physical ? 🧐

@Mr_New_Vegas_685 Год назад

John is simping hard on this one.

@JonyBetancourt Год назад

One of the few calls where I had to stop listening a few minutes in. This lady sounds like a liar and I can't deal with how she is deflecting responsibility.

@xsgtxbigboy1655 4 месяца назад

Tbh it’s John’s job to know what’s going on and he just blames the dude no matter what had to stop watching this show for that reason

@caterinalopez5297 3 месяца назад

That's it. Spot on. This girl is making up lala land stories. She is manipulating just about anyone she's in contact with. Totally fake. Totally a liar.

@c.m.8860 Год назад

Whoa…. I mean basically she didn’t love him at all if he says I need this for survival and connection and she says you are forcing me to do this. Her husband said I feel unloved. That means for years her behavior was neglectful for a long time

@anthonyalbertini4097 5 месяцев назад

He's a horrible Dr, The man is always in the wrong. Dr John please stop representing men your an embarrassment

@bohmc9844 Год назад

It would be nice if we held women to the same standard as men when discussing similar topics

@nicholasrobinson1877 10 месяцев назад

Thank you!!!!!!!!!! Exactly what I was thinking throughout this entire episode. I literally just watched an episode where a woman was complaining about feeling unwanted in a sexless relationship and he was 100 percent sympathetic towards her. But the husband… very disappointed in John for the way he handled this episode. I’m not saying the husband was right for threatening suicide… but o guarantee she’s not telling the whole story. You don’t go from we have the perfect relationship to I’m shocked he felt that way overnight.

@kalimbaayinde25 5 месяцев назад

Ummm. The world holds women to a HIGHER STANDARD than we hold men. Let’s not play stupid. Even in the Bible, they brought the woman to be stoned but not the man for adultery.

@arimdu1408 4 месяца назад

@@kalimbaayinde25correct but that's a different story. We are talking about this show

@Girlgonewise Год назад

SMH, that poor guy has to be on the brink of killing himself before his own wife will sleep with him. That’s sad.

@cotopaximusic Год назад

John missed here. This lady is 100% lying. If this was a dude telling him all this i guarantee he'd be pointing that all out

@colleenmccann1190 Год назад

I think you missed big time on this one John. Her behavior is just as much a language as his! She wants a lifestyle/illusion where everything and everyone in it is a prop that needs no attention and can be used on her terms. She was very good at glossing over and minimizing the feelings and impacts of her husband & daughter before circling back to her issues. "I didn't want my daughter to lose her dad" but yet no other mention of the instability her daughter is likely experiencing? I think she said it all with that comment about the bullet proof relationship, that vision got shattered when her husband left. Those tears had nothing to do with his trauma of feeling unloved and unwanted, it was the loss of her happy little picture. Her husband is better off on his own.

@lav7161 Год назад

John knows what the real spill is here. He was just playing along to get her to lie as much as she could. If he had called her out, then she wouldn't have opened up as much. He makes sure they're comfortable when speaking to them. I'm pretty sure he knows the husband is leaving and there's not much John can do to help at this point.

@aelh123 Год назад

Yeah this was sad! The way she kept adding 💩 to make her self seemed the victim

@MaryamAhmed-on9hu Год назад

Exactly, you want your daughter to have her father yet YOU cheated on him. Worse of all you dont even try to meet his basic sexual need. 😩

@kevinmclaughlin3088 Год назад

I'm like a lot of people here and am totally calling BS. I do not believe this lady. I understand John's position though, he can only work with the information he has and he can't just outright call people liars if they are claiming sexual abuse. I hope HE hears this though so he can know what is being said about him.

@matthewalexander1943 Год назад

I don't know, dude. After hearing just her side of the story, I am totally on the hubby's side. John pissed his pants on this one. I can only imagine what her husband might have to say.

@Girlgonewise Год назад

She slept with her co-worker 😒

@BG-mh6pc Год назад

Right? It’s so obvious. Her hesitation when he asked gave it away.

@triplecheesemac Год назад

She is so disgusting. She didn't want to be physical with her husband but she goes out of way to give it to her coworker. I hope he found someone that speaks his love language. I like how she makes her husband out to be the villian. I hope karma gets to this cheater.

@johnsmith-kt7ef Год назад

@@BG-mh6pcher voice inflection gave it away… completely different change in tone.

@allydea Год назад

Hmmm...so, how long have they gone without sex? Maybe the storming out the door and threatening was the guy only way to get some sex? I agree with all the others that there is a lot missing from this conversation.

@andreakeller9778 Год назад

When she was asked if she sleeps with that guy, (her crush), it took her way too long to answer "no" in my opinion. Also, the tone how she said "no" doesn't make me believe her.

@mariahwilliams5333 5 месяцев назад

Sounds like she was offended lol

@joannawert3095 5 месяцев назад

@@mariahwilliams5333 She probably was. Cheaters always make themselves the victims.

@lav7161 Год назад

Victim mentality to the MAX!!! Hi John, I cheated (definitely slept with the guy but I'm trying to convince you I didn't). My husband wants to kill himself but how about those Omaha steaks? Everything is about ME, ME, ME... Can I still be a good person? Also, we haven't even separated our bank accounts yet...

@snOags Год назад

Dude I cracked up..... "my husband wants to kill himself but how about those Omaha steaks" Omg haven't laughed that hard in a while

@carolsakaguchi3739 6 месяцев назад

It sounds like she is withholding intimacy/ not a healthy marriage

@elfascisto6549 3 месяца назад

Her husband victimized her by threatening to off himself to coerce to have sex with him

@roque-au-parcus 11 месяцев назад

Nothing about that sounded like abuse. Nothing she said indicated she was showing love or affection in any way. Sounds like she was gaslighting this poor dude while cheating.

@elfascisto6549 3 месяца назад

"My husband threatens to kill himself in order for me to give him sex" You: doesn't sound like abuse to me

@bluecollardiesel Год назад

BS she didnt sleep with him.

@Teagon000 5 месяцев назад

That’s exactly what I immediately thought she is Lying

@wrathfang Год назад

Damn i cheated and this dude says its your husbands fault. Wow how do people listen to this guys advice

@benjaminhough8804 Год назад

It seems like she is playing herself as a victim. To a small extent she may be, the behavior of the husband threatening is not ok. That is wrong. But it sounds like he reached the end of his rope and didn’t know what to do. It sounds like she was withholding ALL and ANY forms of physical affection, and, as a man who needs physical connection, that can be really tough. It seems like he mentioned it several times and she just refused to move at all. She didn’t seek ways to love her husband by his love languages and he didn’t seek to love her via her love languages. There’s a lot of turmoil, but she is the one who cheated and she is responsible for that behavior.

@Monalisa0622 Год назад

Very well said. I can imagine it wasn't just the sex but the lack of physical touch and attention towards her husband. I bet a single touch, kiss or a rub on his leg would make him feel loved. He was vulnerable and she turns around and cheats.

@elfascisto6549 3 месяца назад

Threatening suicide to get laid is way worse than cheating

@davidcharnes9161 Год назад

She cheated on him and she feels like the victim.

@joannawert3095 5 месяцев назад

This is actually typical cheater behavior.

@nutt1674 2 месяца назад

@@joannawert3095 more like typical FEMALE behavior

@Dansyoung Год назад

I wish this call would have been taken by Dr Ramani instead (if you know you know….)

@kurtjames9487 Год назад

She had sex with the other guy, multiple times, and is now manipulating her story to make herself the victim. She's probably a narcissist.

@patriciasadlertrainor6771 Год назад

I'm really confused by her call. What i hear is that she doesn't want to have sex with her husband and he's upset by this. How is this abusive? It doesn't sound like he wanted something kinky, only to be wanted by her. She says she's not attracted to him, just wants her child to have a dad. Also, she hesitated when asked about sleeping with the coworker. I don't really believe her.

@hithere1528 9 дней назад

“He’s upset” is severely underplaying him threatening ending his life if she doesn’t comply. That is textbook manipulation and abuse. I’m not saying she has no fault in this situation, but that does not absolve him of fault.

@alluringbliss4165 Год назад

If that was a man on the phone, I don’t think John would have said the same. She has to take accountability.

@cabayern9416 Год назад

He definitely would not have. He seems to always backs the woman. Hope the guy dumps her hard and fast and establishes no contact. He should royally sue her.

@bennyhayes4283 Год назад

"has to take accountability"...or just cry.

@drkarim-kq9md Год назад

By sleeping with her husband she didn't want to cheat on her affair partner.

@thevipez8740 Год назад

I really get confused by some women like this. Like this is your husband, the love of your life, the one you love more than anything in the world and the one that you are more attracted to than anyone in the world, yet, you find it literally impossible to show him physical affection? How? And lets say you maybe don't like it but its like something neutral, well why not do it then when its something that means a lot to the person you love the most in the world? Or do you actively not want to for some reason? Will something bad come from doing it? why? Its bizarre

@thevipez8740 Год назад

And btw this is NOT me arguing that she should just go along with whatever he asks. I'm just stating that something is seriously wrong if you find it repulsive to do physical intimacy with the person you supposedly "love". And that maybe you shouldn't be with that person in the first place then, or find out if there's some childhood trauma or something that is causing it

@MMK-vq7tq Год назад

It’s called asexuality. Maybe we should be more open about its existence so people will be honest with themselves and not wind up in unequal relationships

@thevipez8740 Год назад

@@SarahConnor562 Exactly, its very evident too the oddity of her situation when you consider that she fell for another man too while not giving that same love to her husband And we dont know the extent of it, but since John said maybe you guys sent some inappropriate pics here and there and she DIDNT deny that, that's not an admission of guilt per say but it could be very telling if that's the case so

@grizzlybear2702 Год назад

If you a short, ugly or balding man that just has a lot of money then this is the type of woman you will get.

@grizzlybear2702 Год назад

@@thevipez8740my guess is ether the co worker is taller than her husband, has a better looking face or has a full head of hair while her husband has gone completely bald. Her husband obviously makes more money hence the reason she married him.

@2daFull Год назад

Of course its the husband's fault that she cheated lol

@flashthecorgi2053 Год назад

It’s not the husbands fault she cheated. That’s all on her! The part that’s his fault is coercing her to have sex by manipulating her with suicide threats. Don’t get things twisted. Not one time did Delony say he’s at fault for her cheating. They both need to take ownership and probably separate for good because they are toxic in their own ways!

@2daFull Год назад

@flashthecorgi2053 his words not mine "Often when someone has been in a relationship for so long, with chaos, full of ups and downs, and is dragged around underwater by someone manipulative, to the point of the abuse you've suffered, you get disconnected from yourself."

@2daFull Год назад

@@flashthecorgi2053not saying what the husband did is cool, but I hate when things become one sided like this. Life is full of nuance and by the end she has very little accountability on her part

@flashthecorgi2053 Год назад

@@2daFull so…. that doesn’t mean it’s the man’s fault! You are reading into it way too much! Delony said and I quote “did you do something that violated your core values?” that’s not putting any blame on the husband for her choosing to cheat. She even said “I can’t blame him for what I did” (16:04)

@Melissa.712 Год назад

😆

@sixthangel9716 Год назад

She was not being honest about their relationship. It would be interesting to hear the husbands perspective.

@adamriess5595 Год назад

This person is a scam artist. Things didn't work out with her affair and she tried the uno reverse card and it back fired. She cheated on him and drove her marriage off a cliff with no regard for her vows, child or the man she tore down in this marraige. She sounds so self centered and confident in herself that she was right, she was the good person, she kept trying. I'm no expert like John but I have been cheated on enough to hear it in her answers and phrasing.

@Cremesure12 Год назад

Oh please 🙄

@alluringbliss4165 Год назад

She knows she is wrong. She wants to convince herself that she is not responsible for her marital problems by having someone else tell her she did nothing wrong.

@littlehousepineywoods5352 Год назад

I'm becoming doubtful about that "John is the expert" part. Js.

@thevipez8740 Год назад

11:45 EXACTLY WHAT I THOUGHT! The fact that THAT is where her first thought went to is horrible. The love of your life has just in an emotional rant where he has let everything he has been bottling up out, and that he feels unloved and that life isn't worth living anymore, the fact that her first thought was not to worry for him and his well being and to feel sympathetic or sorry, the fact that her thoughts went to something completely separate is beyond disgusting. And also to think that she never showed that love to her husband, but did to some random co-worker is sickening

@sarahalderman3126 Год назад

Completely separate? I thought she said her first thought was for their DAUGHTER! Idk maybe I’m missing something.

@thevipez8740 Год назад

@@sarahalderman3126 I mean completely separate as she isn't thinking about the pain he is going through right now or how he feels or any sympathy for that, no, she is thinking about "oh no, now my daughter wont have a dad anymore, cant have that happen", her concern is for her daughter, not for him or what he is going through or how he feels But really i think this relationship was doomed from the start if she finds him so physically repulsive that she cant even give him any physical affection at all, so i don't think these 2 people should have ever got together in the first place. As i don't get how someone can feel such repulsion about simply just showing physical affection to the person you are supposed to love the most in the world. As i mean even if you don't enjoy it and find it neutral per say, the fact that its something so important to him should make her automatically want to do it, but no she actively feels negative towards it, that its repulsive. So imo, if you find the thought of physical intimacy with the person you "love" repulsive, then you probably shouldn't be with that person

@sarahalderman3126 Год назад

@@SarahConnor562 her concern for their daughter, a child, is appropriate given that it is her father. She is clearly close to crying while discussing this. I hardly think a mothers concern for her childs welfare given her father’s behavior is alarming or telling. This is a sad situation for everyone involved though. Unfortunately this wasn’t addressed appropriately by this man and instead left to fester for what sounds like a decade.

@Erick-zg6qr Год назад

It's not just that. Also the way she portrait herself as she was force in bed by her husband, because he threaten to "leave this world". He should've have done that. That's for sure. But I can't see her as 100% the victim. Maybe in his head that's the only way to get affection. It's Fd up. She wanted to be married and have kids, and it seems she used him to achieve that. He's just a title for her.

@sarahalderman3126 Год назад

@@thebeegood1731 no, when he told her this she “talked him back”. Now that the danger has passed she is concerned with their daughter. Personally I would PREFER my husband concern himself with the welfare of our children in a situation such as this.

@taycie1486 Год назад

It’s ok to not want to have sex, but it is not ok to withhold it from someone you are committed to who needs that to feel loved by you. Sometimes you gotta suck it up. Once you get started you can get into it. Desire doesn’t always come first. If my husband decided he would withhold “I love yous” and any words of affirmation simply because he didn’t feel everything he said, I would lose it. What a lonely way to live, not receiving love in the way you need it from someone who promised to love you the most.

@Dansyoung Год назад

Bingo. Or if one day he decided “meh, I don’t want to provide for the family anymore”. It’s part of the deal being in a relationship. She is just using him, and lusting after side guy.

@HaleyStark. Год назад

It is absolutely ok to not have sex if you dont want to. If men want sex on demand they should get a hooker on speed dial, not a wife. Grudging sex when they both know she dorsnt want it isnt "love". Its him getting off and not caring about her feelings at all.

@Alexander44665 Год назад

@taycie1486 Your post gives me hope for women as a whole! Often women forget that men also do things they don't want to do. In marriage, both sides often do things they don't want because it's important to the other person.

@taycie1486 Год назад

@@Dansyoung absolutely. I think women think of sex as a chore. Of course sometimes people can get into a rut and it feels like you are going with the motions. But I would argue for most men, not all but most, it is an opportunity for connection. Recurring intimacy with your wife is something a hard working husband can be proud of. Keeping your man happy and satisfied should be something for women to be proud of as well.

@taycie1486 Год назад

@@Alexander44665 men should be appreciated for what they do! In my marriage we both have had to make a lot of changes so we can each recognize the efforts made on both sides! Super difficult but sometimes it’s necessary to have someone point out when my husband takes care of everything with my car maintenance/finances and budgeting, that’s a form of love I didn’t appreciate before. Men and women care for each other differently and there’s small wins everywhere😎

@wafflewafflegod Год назад

She created the situation that lead to the marriage dynamic that then justified her in her own mind to start an emotional (and more) affair. And we all know her “values and morals” are in name only. The fake tears and contrition are not convincing. She is clearly still playing the room.

@GUITARTIME2024 Год назад

That flat "no" after John asked if it got physical. Hmmm.

@toprekoms4442 Год назад

I think the great doc got it wrong. Husband isnt asking for particular sex act He wants sex, from his wife. If we can't get it ,we absolutely consider un alive ourselves. This whole convo needs refamed

@elfascisto6549 3 месяца назад

He coerced her under threat of suicide. She is 100% a victim here

@bogeyatbest2213 Год назад

I feel bad for the husband imagine your only love language you have your wife (best friend, ride or die, partner) doesn't do that language for 8 years of your life they should have never gotten married if she didnt find him attractive or loved him and then blame him for it. Rough stuff

@sw6155 Год назад

Quite yelling that most of the chatters agree she’s a manipulative liar and John just fell for it… 😳🤣🤣🤣

@travismccloskey9733 Год назад

He's a 🤡

@thereasajohnson5540 Год назад

She said she didn’t want sex. That’s different from “do this or I’m leaving”. She allowed you to think she was strong armed into some sex act that she didn’t want to do.

@jessm2560 Год назад

"Do this or I will Kill Myself " is much different the ...or "I m leaving "

@Zumcho Год назад

She kinda sounds like she's lying and trying to get sympathy from JD. The tears sound fake too.

@EnfinLibreNM Год назад

When John asked her if she'd slept with the guy...the way she said "no", I absolutely could tell she was lying. She's making stuff up on the fly just to manipulate John. Unfortunately, John fell for it.

@traceycurtis1005 Год назад

It was the 5 sec of no sound first before the questionable No for me.

@EnfinLibreNM Год назад

@@traceycurtis1005 Yep. All that and more. That husband is lucky to be getting out of that marriage. Hope he doesn't stay. The caller is a narcissistic wack-a-doo.

@thereasajohnson5540 Год назад

The bad part is people compartmentalize sex acts. So I’d there was no intercourse, there was no sex. She absolutely had physical intimate contact with the guy. And she allowed Dr. John to believe she was in an abusive situation. That is horrible to allow him to see her husband as this person that “stuck her up” for sex.

@EnfinLibreNM Год назад

@@thereasajohnson5540 Exactly. Typical toxic narcissistic behavior. Gaslighting the husband. I can't believe that Dr. John fell for it. He usually is right on, however, in this case, he completely missed the boat. Now we know when someone calls up and starts to cry, John folds.

@lashaonda Год назад

3:26 she's lying

@tshandy1 Год назад

I love when you do your thing, sir, but all the whadup "bro talk" at the beginning of every call is CRINGE. Whatever could be wrong with starting the call with "Let's go to X in [name of city]. Hi X, how can I help you today?" The empty fluff at the beginning of this call took over sixty seconds, but it felt like ten minutes. Just one viewer's opinion.

@bluecollardiesel Год назад

John why do you pander to woman. This is insane.

@chasecousins8278 Год назад

Was it a particular sex act? Or sex in general? The latter is what I thought it was.

@kathirodden6109 Год назад

I don’t believe her

@marthajackson1388 Год назад

So h called the husband abusive for wanting to have intimacy with his wife. But what they call a spouse that refuse to have intimacy? Are they abusive as well? Because here you are stuck with an option of becoming a weekend dad, alimony, and losing half your stuff that you worked so hard to get for years or be in a dead bedroom marriage. Is that not abusive as well?

@elfascisto6549 3 месяца назад

He was abusive for threatening to take his own life for her to have sex with him.

@marthajackson1388 3 месяца назад

@@elfascisto6549 Broken people tend to find each other. But I would assume being rejected over and over and over and over and over again might have just tipped him over the cuckoo's land.

@akhilmahajan9759 3 месяца назад

@@elfascisto6549 she is a liar and manipulative.. She herself withholding sex from him She had an affair with co-worker but lied she didn't had sex.. She try to gaslight and frame her husband as villian to feel good..

@joea9222 Год назад

her "no" when he asked if she slept with him... she definitely did.

@FatMenace Год назад

And John just sailed right by it

@javidallas4113 Год назад

I don’t think she’s saying the full truth ,I think she actually slept with that guy and that’s why she feels so guilty

@donnasherwood283 Год назад

i cannot believe what john is affirming in this woman. her husband could have gotten a catholic church annulment in any century for what she was pulling. He left she knew reasons why and should have manifested maturity and let him go. He returns and she continues to demean him by making her distaste for him obvious What was the reason for the "confession" about the other man. Her "values' she has none nor any common decency and has the lack of self awareness to call and cry ? what a monster. I hope she is reading these responses it does not seem she is getting much support.

@djpuplex Год назад

Take accountability (what women never do). Delony fishing for away to blame the husband or use magical thinking. Amazing she cheated she stepped out she shat all over those vows she said that day. DO NOT MARRY. This type of garbage is why you avoid marriage and avoid divorced people. No accountability.

@Thesussysuscat Год назад

Accountability is women's kryptonite

@matthewalexander1943 Год назад

Marriage is important for our civilization. It's broken now and we need to fix it.

@DominickSpano Год назад

I feel bad for the man, and that isn't just b/c I am a man. Basically, the wife didn't want to be with him on a physical level at all and had a serious emotional affair. To me the man deserves better in this case. He is better off going his own way. Sorry for this whole situation. It sounds very lousy. But the husband sounds like a child. I am going to kill myself if you don't whatever with me. Come on. Grow up.

@jkneeland89 Год назад

Dr. John dropped the ball…again. He doesn’t hold her accountable at all. He completely failed to address the fact that she’s clearly not attracted to her husband and was showing him NO intimacy and that’s why he started manipulation tactics in desperation. And I’ll guarantee she slept with her coworker AND did all the nasty things she refused to do with her husband. You could hear it in the way she said “no” when he asked if she slept with him.

@DominickSpano Год назад

@@jkneeland89 She slept w co-worker.

@GUITARTIME2024 Год назад

Well said, and I suspect things got naughtiest than she's saying.

@matthewalexander1943 Год назад

@@wordsalad01 Bingo. I don't recall her saying he threatened to off himself if she didn't sleep with him. She merely mentioned it within a few seconds of saying she agreed to sleep with him. Sort of like how George Bush kept mentioning Saddam Hussein and 9/11 next to each other without ever quite claiming that Saddam was behind it.

@gregorycarlson6632 9 месяцев назад

I have been dealing with this kind of thing professionally for over 40 years as a Pastor and Police Chaplain. I have learned to read people and situations pretty well in that time. With all due respect for Dr. John, I think he had it all wrong on this one.I will give you 100 percent assurance that she had sex with this guy. I heard it in the tone of her voice when she answered “no” and the amount of time she took to answer the question. He should have explored how she got caught and exactly how far did their texting go? Was it romantic niceties, or photos being sent. Somethings I’ve seen a lot of is cyber sex and/or phone sex. It’s amazing how good these people are at congratulating themselves over not physically getting into a bed together. Dr. John let her off the hook to easily in my view. This guy will do well to be rid of her.

@Lanes8930 23 дня назад

Love this show a lot. John is great, but annoyed hearing the husband is an " abuser"? Wtf. She made the man feel unloved and then went and had " an emotional affair" 🙄 ( i bet it was more than that). This man needs to leave. The only abuser here is her. Feel sorry for her partner.

@jlcpirox88 23 дня назад

Bruh, i love the way he is pandering to her, u can clearly tell she is lying, most callers that call are looking for validation for their actions and he is pandering, doesnt do it to men though, calls men despicable, but a woman "ur a good person"

@bres9977 11 месяцев назад

So he got tired of being rejected and decided to physically and mentally bail out and she didn’t change her behavior? She’s not the victim.

@elfascisto6549 3 месяца назад

He threatened to off himself to coerce into having sex with him

@Lanes8930 23 дня назад

This call made me so angry. This poor man is being called an abuser? the poor guy is suicidal because he feels his wife doesnt love him or show affection. SHE'S the abuser. SHE'S the cheater. John i love your show so much, but you got this one so wrong . Love your show. Hello from dublin ireland

@FatMenace Год назад

You missed this one bad dr John. Bad.

@ManfromHell83 Год назад

John is way off here. Hes consistently too soft on cheating wives. Perhaps his media company requires that. But this is a lesson for men. Women love sex. If you aren't getting any she doesn't want it with you and is just not into you !

@joannawert3095 5 месяцев назад

While some women love sex, I think there are also many that don't.

@Evan_Floyd Год назад

Ole girl cheated on her husband and came back later thinking her husband was going to be a simp and just forgive her and be cool going forward. Not today Bertha.

@kalimbaayinde25 5 месяцев назад

But a man would do the same and expect his wife to accept him back. Double standards.

@nolabae 2 месяца назад

@@kalimbaayinde25 she didn't say he cheated so that didn't apply to this specific situation. She cheated, end of story.

@GreenBean3141 Год назад

Geezs lady, you cheated on you husband and made him feel that way. You were not treating him with respect , love and kindness when you were messing around him.

@EPPOTTER-k6i Год назад

She sounds like she's playing victim when she's the one that cheated and slept with the co worker that's why she didn't wanted to sleep with her husband. Just my thoughts.

@greenAbbot Год назад

There’s no way this couple should be together. There’s nothing wrong with you if you don’t want sex, but it’s beyond cruel to marry someone who needs it as part of feeling loved. And yet the way he handled it doesn’t have anything at all to do with feeling loved. If you don’t know (or care) that your partner is going through this during sex, then sex for you doesn’t have anything to do with love.

@johniii8147 Год назад

That's why the whole no sex before marriage is nonsense. Gotta figure out if that part of the relationship will work before you make that commitment.

@jeromehenry4484 Год назад

@@johniii8147 My impression was this couple did have a sex life for years, but it died off after the birth of their daughter. Caller should have gone to an Endocrinologist to have ALL hormones checked. If lack of libido was not due to hormonal issue, then caller needed to seek out a psychiatrist to get to the root of her sudden disinterest in her husband. She still values her husband as a father, so she probably still values him as a provider too. Caller's disconnect is not valuing her husband's need for physical intimacy specifically with her. It is interesting caller had an emotional yet sexless affair. Is caller only interested in attention or romance from a man, but doesn't want it to culminate in physical intimacy? It's like she has reverted back to a 13-year-old girl's fantasy of unrequited love. I really question if there really was an emotional affair, or was that all conflated in her mind? At this juncture it would be best for both parties if they just get on with divorce because this definitely appears to be irreconcilable differences.

@Thanian Год назад

John missed the mark here. She is very manipulative. She is looking for him to validate her self-pity, and he did. She is 💯 % at fault here.

@uscitizen3252 Год назад

Your comment wins. It was balanced on both parts. Most comments are just attacking her, but they both sound pretty awful and I definitely agree that they don't need to be together. If she can't be intimate with her husband then they need to end the marriage. There's nothing to resolve.

@joannawert3095 5 месяцев назад

@@Thanian I'd bet money they had sex before marriage. For some strange reason, many who are hot and bothered before marriage are suddenly uninterested once they are married. (I'm not talking about myself, it is just something that I have heard, repeatedly.)

@JT-OB 7 месяцев назад

I can't bear the thought that my child would lose their father...... Proceeds to have an affair. 🤦🤦🤦

@gregorycarlson6632 15 дней назад

I’ve been professionally working with these same situations for over 30 years. I disagree with John more so than not. Yes, he lets women off the hook far too easily and often. Some might even say he gets a bit flirty from time to time. Am I the only one who sees this?? This woman was lying through her teeth, and John either didn’t see it or chose to let her off the hook. I’ve been doing this for a long time and I’m pretty good at reading people. When he asked her if she had sex with this guy, her “no” was delayed and and obviously a lie. She didn’t have an “emotional affair”. She had a full blown affair and John let her off the hook,