My Mother-In-Law Crossed a MAJOR Boundary! 

Her husband needs to be handling this. This should not be on her. Ridiculous.

Lady needs to tell the MIL straight up: "My mom's not dead yet, you aren't getting her stuff for free." Just call people out. Whatever happens will then happen.

Letting her stay at your moms place was wrong.

Mother in law isn’t even in the line of succession and has no right to inherit anything, the fact is, your mothers stuff is your mothers, not hers, and becomes YOURS upon your mothers passing. I would give this entitled, selfish, thoughtless woman NOTHING.

Don't call a public radio show and try to be vague, c'mon spill the details. You already have us here.

She shouldn’t have let MIL stay at her mother’s home. That was a violation of her mother’s privacy and the security of her possessions.

The mother in law is insensitive. Period. That would have gotten under my skin too but that husband should step up and put a stop to it.

Don’t be weak... vultures will circle

To sum up this call... Callers Mom isn't coming back to her stuff due to the stage of her illness that she's in... Caller hasn't come to terms with this yet... Callers Mother in Law is insensitive and moochy and triggered Caller Caller is using Mother in Law as a scapegoat for her grief... Caller needs to process her situation so she's not so easily triggered Mother in Law needs boundaries set for the situation by her son who isn't as easily triggered by this and some space if she doesn't respect the boundaries...

Didn’t y’all cross the line by using her condo as a hotel?

I would rather have given my mothers stuff away than give it to my MIL or burn it!

I literally thought the caller was going to say that her MIL stole something from the home. The MIL even offered to leave. Why would she offer if the caller had not been showing frustration towards her already? The caller needs help. Every little thing is going to trigger her unless she starts dealing with her pain.

She's ALIVE, Keep your Dirty Paws off her items.

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I wish she would of just told her mother in law then and there that she didn't think that was a very nice thing to say.

WHERE IS HER HUSBAND?! He’s supposed to protect her during such times. It’s HIS mother, handle this for goodness sake.

Good thing Dr. Delony took this call and not Dave. "My mom-in-law was asking if she could take my dying mom's stuff and it's really messed with me--" "What's your household income?" "Wait-what?" "Sell your mom's house."

Sooo understand this caller, and send her hugs. Losing a parent to Alzheimers is just as painful as losing them to anything else, and often moreso. She’s grieving, even though her mother is still alive, and her emotions are raw already. For a MIL to ask if she could ‘take’ any of her mother’s possessions is outrageous, and almost cruel, as she should know better. I’d have a problem, even, with her MIL staying at her mom’s home. I’ve seen plenty of passive-aggressive MIL’s, maybe she is one of these. Trying to talk to them is pointless - it’s their nature to be so.

when my sister died at 49, her mother in law took all her stuff (clothing, jewelry, and furniture). My sister has two grown up sons. So, the MIL helped herself to my sister's stuff without even asking her adult sons or the brother (me). The husband didn't care.

I've not had one messy holiday with Family. I always find it so strange that people consider that normal.

This is the reason i try to be nice to people, you never know want a stranger is going through

Her mother in law sounds vile and insensitive.

The husband has to MAN UP!! What a wuss!!

Mother-in-law is very greedy so greedy she didn't put your feelings in consideration she wanted to claim merchandises.

Personal finance and family money drama go together.

Everyone putting this on the husband, The WIFE ALLOWED THE MOTHER IN LAW TO STAY AT HER MOTHERS HOUSE! Common sense may not be all that common but cmon thats a no brainer!

Family issues come up too often on this show. Thank goodness for Dr. John!

I hope they are able to move beyond this.

So why did she let the MIL violate her mother's privacy in the first place by staying at her condo? How would the daughter like someone moving into her matrimonial home while she's at the hospital? Smh

Just talk about finance, please. This isn't Dr. Laura.

What kind of stuff are we talking about here? Unless it was personal jewelry or an obviously favorite outfit, there’s something more going on here.

The way I hollered at 0:56 😂 😂 😂 people are a trip lol

2:53 the moment the call screener got fired

I told my mother in law it’s going to be ok if I never talk to her again.I am a grown man and will NOT take any BS from her for a minute I told her the best thing to do is leave me be or we will go to war

Yes, MIL is in the wrong but it's weird talking about boundaries if you didn't pre-define them in advance. You can't just say XYZ is off limits after the fact... and expect the infringing party completely understand you. As John says, MIL likely didn't try to hurt her. Got to give people the benefit of the doubt.

Something about this daughter -in-law bugs me. She acting vague and she's leaving out things and maybe overly emotional. You should have just let MIL stayed at your house not your mom's condo.

Bless her heart.

I get that she's upset about her mothers poor health but she handled the situation very poorly and made it into a major family fracture that didn't need to happen. She should tell her MIL why it was inappropriate and that it upset her. If she keeps doing insensitive things like this then it's time to distance them but this punishment is way too much for a single mistake. That's her husbands mother and her kids grandmother. I get shes upset but that doesn't give her an excuse to cut someone completely out over one incidence.

I don't know who needs to hear this, you've got to stop saving money. Invest some part of it, if you really want financial freedom.

I don't think the mil meant it that way and I think alot of her hurt is coming from the stress of the situation. It's got to be one of the hardest jobs in the world to be a caregiver to your parents.

Get a grip; geez.

I don't get this call at all. This is a radio show that deals with money. she should have called Dr Phil for some help

Anyone else notice they capitalized Mother-in-Law live. lol 1:57

STOP LETTING FAMILY ISSUES GET THROUGH THE FILTER!!! WE DO. NOT CARE. THIS IS A MONEY PAGE!

“Can I have….?” “No.” The end.

I think she should have called Dr. Laura.

The story is confusing

Where is her muppet of a husband in all of this? It's his mother and it's his job to put her in check when she steps out of line like this. Sorry, what kind of nut bag demands that they are entitled to the stuff of other people?

💔💝🙏 I wanna hug that lady

Why do people call in a show like this lol. She needs regular therapy. I thought this show was about financial matters. Why has it turned into a talk show about personal problems 😒

Its really clear this woman did not tell the mother in law what you said as a option. I hope she takes your option and does not reject the mother in law. My guess is mother in law did not mean it as she heard it and was just insensative. First time without your mother for holidays should it be the also a time without the mother in law too? Excellent advice you gave...

What did she want - her fur coat, wristwatch, crystal? Did she break crystal for spite? She's still grieving, her MIL has lived thru this and is past grieving. But, her mother is probably dead as she knew her if she's in the advanced stage. She's hanging on to some little things that her mother particularly liked but eventually she'll let go of them if they're not to her taste, not needed or don't have strong sentimental value.. That condo, she'll never live in that again; rent it, sell it or have a good reason with a plan to keep it. She needs to get a grip.

Sounds to me like this caller doesn't have good communication skills. Why harbor so much resentment and pain towards a MIL who simply asked if she can have some of the bio moms things that she wouldn't be needing or using anymore? You let her stay in your bio moms apartment, it's not a stretch for her to get comfortable and start using the things in it. I would want my MIL to have comfort with items my mom couldn't use anymore, better them ending up being used by a loved one than not being used at all. Caller seems to be taking her the frustration of her mothers condition out on MIL. I feel for the MIL having to walk on eggshells around her DIL. She was even kind enough to realize the grief and said she would leave. Sounds like a kind MIL who has a DIL that is sliding her behind her back, and now on a National Talk Show, for such a petty reason. I think DIL isn't looking for a solution, but rather keeping MIL as a scapegoat as someone to punish for her pain. MIL will do no right under these conditions. I hope she is able to move on to a more healthy and tranquil situation.

Caller takes too long to get to the point.

unfortunately some people can't take HINTS! USE YOUR WORDS!!!!! MANY times people don't know that their words or actions hurt other people and that is why USING YOUR WORDS is important. I feel the caller is sensitive or hyper sensitive because of the situation with her mother and I get that but again using your words matters!!!

Like what are the things that your inlaw asks??

Y’all did a POLL a couple weeks ago asking what kind of content we want on this page. OVERWHELMINGLY we said FINANCIAL content. 76% of us. Dr. John can keep this content on his show.

who was he calling an idiot at 1:30?

I preferred this channel as a FINANCIAL program. The relationship advice line would be better in its own channel. I've pretty much stopped listening to the radio show because its more "Oprah" than Dave Ramsey now.

Another example of how stupid and outrageous mother-in-laws can be. The couple should not have allowed the MIL to stay in the wife's mother's condo,though.

Jeez...

Average lifespan is 70some years, not even 85, and that’s because Americans born post 1945 and especially post 1965 have obesity and drug problems. Average age getting shorter, not longer. This type of story getting more common as the end nears

Well, at least she asked and didn't start just taking stuff. Still not right.

This is all too vague to have any clue of what should be done

WHERES DAVE???!!!

Keep it to financials. No one wants to hear about family drama

This became a drama show

Overly sensitive caller. She's blaming the pain that she's experiencing from her moms problems on her MIL. She already allowed the MIL to live in the moms house. At the end of the day, other than pictures and sentimental things, her moms items are nothing more than items.Just tell the MIL no. If the MIL doesnt get them another family member will or they will go to goodwill,craigslist,the callers closet or the trash can at some point

If the MIL was not welcome to stay with the family, and was going to be at a hotel, then why did they offer the woman's Mom condo instead. There is a lot that is not being said here. What stuff? Was she wearing her Mom's clothes? Makeup? Eating food from the frig? Or was she wanting personal jewelry and sentimental family items? I heard (not sure because the woman was not clear) there was something of personal items in a box that was of the main concern. But then the woman did not want to repeat what it was because she already told the call taker -- what she consider a private matter. Duh! If you are calling Dr. John's show (not Dave Ramsey's Financial show) to discuss a problem then you better know it is going to be heard by everyone that is listening. I am glad Dr. John saw the woman's act and told her to take responsibility for the situation, and talk to the MIL. Side note, I lost my Mom to Dementia. The Hospice nurse started asking for stuff to take to her car, minutes after my Mom passed. Asking for her TV, coffee maker and other items. I told her that my Mom lived with me and those items were mine and that nothing was leaving my home. Some people take advantage of people when a tragic situation happens because they know the the person is not thinking clearly. Sounds to me the woman really needs therapy for the fact she is loosing her Mom to a horrible disease - Dementia. She and her sister (and any other siblings) should all go. Just my opinion.

No. This advice is terrible. It opens a door for an already incredibly insensitive woman to nag the caller about giving her her mom's stuff after she passes. The MIL needs to be shut down, period. Seriously, she's either going to constantly remind the caller that her mother is dead, or pull some "oh let me help you pack up her things" and then, several months later, after the intensity of the caller's grief diminishes some, she's going to wonder what happened to mom's (whatever) and eventually realize certain things are missing.

Women find the dumbest stuff to fight about. Guys would just tell each other the F off and be done with it

Did he call her an idiot at 1:30???

Your mother in law or father in law should be FULLY considered before you take the step and get married. You marry him/her and his/her FAMILY! Be careful there.

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I can say alot of older people have a warped sense of life and death. They've had so many people die around them they are just waiting for there turn.

Sell the car

Why is this on Financial Peace? This woman needs to see a counselor and help work through creating healthy boundaries and being able to stand up for herself appropriately. This show has turned from a financial to a pseudo psychology show.

Oh so a Karen called in today get over it lady.

When did Dave Ramsey become a counseling show? I don't watch a lot, but it used to be financial advice not interpersonal drama.

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Boomers are selfish.

She’s understandably hurting for reasons beyond the request.

This Dave stand-in was incredibly inappropriate. You aren’t a psychotherapist, stick to finance.

The only way to avoid drama in your life is to avoid females completely.

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